to me i think the point of struggling, is to learn and be a stronger person, (plus it makes you appreciate the easier times) and that kinda makes you think whats the point of being stong and learning which i suppose is just to have better life.
whats the point to life? who knows, but we're all here so we may as well have a good time, right?
life is not butterflies and rainbows as much as we d like that.you can make it better. you can shape it so you don t only see the struggle. you make the good things that happen every day more important. if you keep living your life fighting.that s suffocation and a waste of time in which you could be doing something productive for yourself.if you remove the thing that makes you struggle or accept it and do something about it you can move on easier than fighting it.hope you re feeling better..
I know what you mean. The thought of it just scares me so much. But then there are day or even just moments where I don't think about how much of a struggle life will be and I'm just happy. I feel like those moments are worth it all. (:
I've never really thought about life as a struggle. Sure, it's hard at times, and sometimes things don't go as planned, but life is short. Why waste any minute of it with regret or useless anxiety about the future? I say just make the best lemonade you can and be proud of it. And smile a lot. Smiling helps. :]
I really feel the same way. I have and have been through a lot, I think a little more than most people my age have. I have lost my naievity and have become more neurotic and bitter. I have lost all faith in people. I also feel like I'm always struggling. And I don't get that that other people don't seem to have it. Like Laura Marling sings in ''The Man Sings'': ''I don't get happy people, why do they care? They can't be happy all the time, they're really just not there''.
Uhm.. i was a bit shocked watching this video.. I hope you're not unhappy. I hope you see how beautiful life is and I hope that there will be more moments of wonder, joy, love and happiness than you have moments of unhappiness and struggle.. Are you unhappy? I'm not trying to tell you how to feel. I just know that life isnt easy for anyone. But it doest have to be a constant struggle. and I wish you peace in your life. So I hope you'll find that
Uhm.. i was a bit shocked watching this video.. I hope you're not unhappy. I hope you see how beautiful life is and I hope that there will be more moments of wonder, joy, love and happiness than you have moments of unhappiness and struggle.. Are you unhappy? I'm not trying to tell you how to feel. I just know that life isnt easy for anyone. But it doest have to be a constant struggle. and I wish you peace in your life. So I hope you'll find that
This video is old i know.. but im just a recent subscriber.. soo anyway.. THANKYOU for putting up this video.. i feel the same way most of the times.. because i dont have any motivation or goal in life.. HOPEfully you found yours already.. if not.. hopefullly things are alot better now. I wish you the best.. and good luck to all ur future endeavors.
The one thing that consistently gives me hope is knowing that regardless of WHERE we are in the world, WHO we are in the world, and WHY we are in the world... we are all fighting the same battle, and we are all struggling together, even if we feel completely alone in it at times... to find that *something* that makes all of our bad days not hurt so bad anymore. I kind of think we're lucky to have these bad days... we never take our good ones for granted. :)
and sometimes...sometimes there are these moments when all is well and no struggle at all and life is wonderful. and that moments of joy and love and peace are why we all keep on struggling.
Some find comfort in struggle cause it shows that you are alive. Others relies that life is not struggle, but opportunity for experience and growth. Whatever your take know that everbody doesn't have those lows you seem to have. Please tell someone, a professional how you are feeling...please don't make us worry about you.
Yeah, it's a struggle and the true cliche is that the struggle provides the contrast that makes the high points...high points. For me one of those is a powerful story: books, tv, but mainly movies. Next week I'll spend 8 days seeing over 30 movies at a festival and that is worth every other day that I have to work. Also high points: my wife, my dog.
It really is the only choice we have. you're totally right. It can be horribly depressing if its all you think about, i went through a period of time where i couldn't think about anything that pertain to the future bc it jus made me more depressed. Then a mentor who i absolutely love, told me to write any little thing that made me happy and i had to find at least one thing per day. some days had only one but it was for that little bit of joy every day that I still keep going. kudos 4 this video!
great video, and I know the exact feeling even though you assume not many people think this way. I see things this way, but instead, every day I think more like everything goes in moments. Like a journal. One entry you wrote may be filled with extreme emotion, but that's only one day. Or should I say just ONE moment. Things keep changing... even when it seems that it is bad for just one moment.
Liane, going through the struggle is very, very hard, but I think it pays off in little bits along the way. Of course you may or may not have stopped your schooling because going to class is hard, getting poor grades is hard and tests are stressful. But I think you lightened up your struggle by deciding to go back to school. You are awesome, and I hope you feel better soon :)
and on top of balancing your own shit you gotta worry about your friends shit like whether or not she ate today or why he's in denial over his infected piercing or that she's started throwing up again or that one bitch is carrying high school drama into college and fucking with your life despite the fact you did shit to her or trying to push back your own thoughts of just jumping when your friend tells you they wish they were dead or why the past you try to forget keeps biting you in the ass
The degree to which we suffer over anything is the degree to which we don't want it and to which we yearn for something else.
Suicide could be looked at as there are parts of life or ourselves that we want to die. Not necessarily our whole life, just the things that are intolerable. Like the Struggle. We want it to stop, to get out of it.
And we can find ways to begin to make that happen, and bring in what we want, like w/ a mission! :D
That said, there have been periods in my life that have felt less struggle, but always there seems to be struggle! Sometimes I do feel overwhelmed and see no way out.
But then it changes, and often it has to do with missions: creative projects, travel, things I am looking forward to do, accomplishments, etc. I do notice that when I am feeling close to my loved ones the struggling seems less.
Thank you for making a great thought provoking video, Liane. Wishing you ease and happiness! xoKaren
Also, Imo, you are doing well to address and change this for yourself... asking the questions, making this video, going back to school. Most assuredly you are going to get answers that work for you and will make the changes to not feel the struggle as overwhelmingly.
As I took my life in my hands learning how to take on the responsibilities of an adult, one after another, I saw that I could do it, and that reduced my struggle feelings. And I felt a wonderful sense of independence and freedom!
hearing this and reading the comments is comforting to me. I struggle with the same issues. the only difference is school is my way of ignoring my issues yet i feel surrounded by people who somehow know the secret to happiness.
definitely agree with what you said in your 5AG video, the only you can actually lead a good life is to live FOR something...even if it's something simple like going back to school
just to have something that will motivate you to carry on will suffice
and soon enough, you'll see why you are even still living on this earth...you'll find your purpose.
Like there was an email that went out to the world telling them how to be happy and successful. How to know what to do and where to go.
But that my inbox was full so it bounced back + I'm still trying to work it all out without the guidelines!
I'm sure everyone struggles at some point but I can't help being jelous of the people who just seem to know their destiny from birth!! Life sucks 99% of the time, but you would risk it all for that little 1%.
I"m really thankful that your too scared to commit suicide Liane. I'm struggling with the same stuff and I know it's hard but you've got friends and family and strangers even who are there for you and are willing to help you pull through. Keep pressing on friend. Lifes not ALWAYS bad. Look on the bright side of things. it's what helps me keep a level head about things.
(PS this isn't a pitty comment so much as it's an encourager. You aren't alone)
As the wise prophet Ben Folds once sang "Everybody knows it sucks to grow up...The years go on and we're still fighting it". That's kind of how I feel.
I feel like that too, sometimes. I'm always trying to find the point in things. When I think about something too much, that's when it hits me and I get really depressed about life. Not that I want to die, just that I want it to be different. That I want there to be some sort of reason, point. Something I can hold in my hands.
Liane,i know how you feel, when you sometimes think whats the point of this, but then you also think although there is struggle in life there are achievements, there are good time and there are bad times. The times you remember the most are the bad times but the good times you should remember everyday are the fun, happy, lovefilled days as it will give you hope, hope in life, living is hard but beautiful.you have so many people who love u your subscribers your friends,family.Life is worth living
Yeah, life IS a struggle, but it's what we have, so I think we have to make the best of it. And I wouldn't want to give up the good times in my future to get away from the bad, even if the bad times were more frequent.
I think you'd be surprised by how many other people feel like you do - and everybody hides it, of course, bc talking about your feelings is kinda scary, but there must be so many people depressed or scared about life, completely unaware that so many people feel the same way.
And I guess that could be kind of a depressing thought too, but I think there's some comfort in knowing that you're not alone. And knowing that reminds you to be nice to each other, even to people who seem like they have everything completely sorted - bc it's entirely possible that they don't.
To everyone else: I like reading your comments :) I feel like we should make this comment thread into a book or something...
But remmeber all the wonderful things in life. Family, friends, love, beauty in nature, and so so so much more! Live for those things, not for the struggles.
This video makes me want to console you and rant at you and give you advice, all at the same time. It's very thought provoking, even if I don't agree with everything you are feeling right now.
Fake it till you make it. You WILL make it one day; you are just that awesome.
p.s - an 18 year old girl that went to my school died a few days ago. she had leukemia and battled through it for 3 years before she died. She was also the happiest person and strongest i've ever known, you would never have known she was sick. imagine the struggles she must have had, and yet she still fought as hard as she could, till the very end. sometimes when i'm having a hard day i remember that tons of other people have it worse off than me, and i pull myself together.
Life is what you make it. i think that this video is kind of a negative outlook on life. i hope you can get to a point in your life when you can just be happy and content. i do understand where you are coming from though, we all have those days. :)
I used to have suicidal thoughts a lot... and that was the one time in my life I was really conceited when I thought about really doing it. I knew that everyone in my life would be SO sad... and actually it'd be really hard for them to live without me. And I had to remind myself I wasn't just saying that and that it was 100% true. ...If that makes any sense at all.
I've often had the same thoughts...the only way for it not to completely suck hardcore is to have something you're passionate about at let it consume you a little. By the way, I miss NYC so much, and I miss hanging out with you guys! Give me a call sometime if you ever just need someone to talk to, and let me know when you're ever in the DC area!! :-)
Not everyday is hard. For every day that is worth sleeping through, there is a day that you wouldn't trade for the world. For every year that feels like dying, there is a year that feels so so alive. For every person that you want to shoot there will be an awesome person that you want to hug. I have spent months on end feeling like barfing on everything because I hated every morning. I've been through the past year and a half feeling like everything deserves a song and dance. Its a formula.
It's scary to think about pushing yourself through the unknown AND struggling with the crap that's going to hold you back, but I think it's even scarier not having the chance to do it.
Wee! Sorry that was so long. :) I hope some of what I said made sense and I really hope you find "that thing worth fighting for", Liane.
Wow, it's really nice to see an honest to goodness HONEST video from someone on YouTube. As evidence from some of the comments above, it's obvious we've all at some point felt this way. First of all, I think it's crappy of anyone to say you need to look at the person who's 10x worse off than you are. We should all have a right to feel we're the center of our own universe because who else is going to? Sure, your problems might be miniscule compared to others, but I think it's crazy not to comfort
yourself by wallowing in your own self-pity every once in a while. That may seem selfish, but I believe a person needs to have a balance of love for themselves and compassion for others to be able to live life happily. And I also think it's that self-absorbed nature in us that helps you be true to yourself. You need to feel like you matter in this world! Second, I know it's completely Hallmark, but I have to say whenever I'm feeling this way, I will think of the good stuff in my life --
and that stuff that I see myself doing in the future. There are SO MANY things I still want to do with my life before it's over, and when I think about dying before I get to do them? I cling to life and don't let go! Like everyone else has said, find out what you want to do with your life and immerse yourself in it! You want to sing? You want to write a book? You want to become a famous music magazine editor? Bagpack through Italy? Find a way to do it! Tons of people already have.
It's not everyday, and you KNOW that! Some days you do what you want, and the rest of the time you do what you have to. No one likes pain, suffering and struggling all the time. But it really and truly is the only way you become accomplished -- by overcoming the obstacles. You could choose to be a lazy ass, but you're too intelligent to accept such mediocrity. So fight the good fight!
You are in complete control of your life. If it is that awful run away, sumberge yourself in something that takes it away but not something that makes you weaker (drinking or taking drugs) something that makes you stronger whatever that may be. You need to change your outlook, your life is what you make of it, and its a cliche but there is always someone worse off and things can always be worse and even if thats all you can be grateful for, you should be grateful for it.
Life is NOT a stuggle, hun. Life is truly what you make it to be, with every decision to make. You have that power to make your life as amazing as you want it to be.
I think you're right and wrong. I realized that too and i think maybe more people than you think have figured it out. It's just that i don't see it like you do... it's more like every struggle is paying up for getting to be alive. Every bad day is for all the good days. So if I can work through the bad days with my head up I can get to good days easier. And there are good days and beautiful things and new experiences and their worth every last bad day I've ever had.
I've felt a very similar way, and I just want you to know that it is possible to pull through. yes, its tough, but getting back into life again can really help.
yes, life is a struggle, but it is also something beautiful. There are so many great things and people to live for. So many people love you, Liane, just here on youtube. And it makes me sad that you say the only thing keeping you from killing yourself is fear of pain. In fact, it's kind of insulting. It's almost like saying that your friends mean nothing to you. I know you didn't mean it that way, but it seems true nevertheless...
I really understand how your feeling. No one wants to fight or wants to continue the struggle but something pulls us through, even if we've given up on life and are just waiting for death we are just about clinging on. Take each day as it comes, focus on the nearest future and if one thing that day makes you laugh or smile, it's worth sticking around another day.
It's hard to think of a life full of struggle, a year, a month or maybe even a day but the next 5 mins that you can do, there's nothing you can't survive for the next 5 mins.
I think I've pretty much said exactly the same thing as this video, I once said it to my mother, I told her that I didn't want to fight anymore and she told me that my greatest strength was that I was a fighter in life. I'm getting there now, I'm taking each day with the good and the bad and of course some are harder than others but the good bits are light tiny bits of light to hold on to. I know it's hard fighting on but what's the option, not exsisting and missing out on maybe some happiness?
And also, no matter what religion you are (I'm a rationalist myself) we can learn a lot about peace and happiness from buddhism. It's a religion founded on compassion and peace. and it's helped me tremendously.
Pain is pain. I hate when people try to cheer you up by telling you how horrible other people have to live. That's even more depressing. What kind of world do we live in? I think the key is to stay busy. Hang in there.
Life is a struggle a lot of times, but not every day has to be a struggle. Many days are happy days and I believe they make the struggle worth it.
I recognize the things you said, I've felt most of them only a few years ago. But somehow, life showed me that there are so many things worth sticking around for.
Don't make yourself do things you really don't want to do, focus on the things and the people in your life that bring you joy and take strenght from your friend.
This is exactly what I used to think when I was suffering from depression. Now, I feel a lot better and you know what, I hardly ever feel life is a struggle any more. For me, the meaning of life is to find your own meaning, and finding a purpose for yourself, and a way to make you feel good about yourself and people who do so really helps. It makes life totally worth living.
I think that when you realize that life is a struggle, you also have to realize that the struggle is what makes life worth living. Struggle and pain and boredom and hatred and love and kindness and sympathy, those things are what life is made up of. Struggling is there, yes, but the people in your life are what make the struggle worth it. Goals are good, but to finally come to terms with who you are and having people who will always be there for you is what makes life worth living.
Every day doesn't have to be a struggle. Everyday in an opportunity. Smile when you don't feel like it, it might make you feel better. Intend to be happy and eventually you will be.
That said, I seem to remember you saying that you were on medicine (Nov or Dec of last year maybe?), Are you still on meds? Maybe you should talk to your doctor.
I don't think every day has to be a struggle. There are days when I genuinely enjoy life to the fullest. For me, the good stuff outweighs the bad stuff most of the time, and that's really what it's about for me.
Killing yourself is the coward's way out. Not killing yourself isn't being a coward. And killing yourself isn't having guts. It's being selfish and giving up too easily.
I feel for you, I do.
But I don't agree with what you said about suicide.
I know people who have attempted suicide, and one that successfully committed suicide. They aren't/weren't cowards. They have/had depression which is an actual sickness. They're getting help now to get better.
And by the way, there were some ancient societies who thought people who committed suicide were brave. They thought it took courage to end your life.
I also know people who have attempting suicide and ones who have succeeded. That's why I feel so strongly about it.
I agree that depression is an actual sickness. I know people who fight it everyday, for themselves and for others. I really admire those people, and that's why I think those who give up are cowards. I didn't mean to offend you.
And by the way, it's not just ancient cultures that believe committing suicide is brave. Ever hear of the al qaeda?
We talked about this in philosophy the other day. How you finally get to that point in life where you realize that every day is just a struggle, and that your entire life, you will be struggling. But the thing is, as long as you think of it as struggling, it will be. It's not struggling, it's living. Struggle isn't always a bad thing. You learn and improve a lot from it. Yes, sometimes you have to work to get what you want. But trust me, the feeling passes. You'll learn to accept struggle.
thank you so much for making this. its exactly how i currently feel. im not in school right now and am just working in a dead end job for money and i hate it and i feel like i have nothing going for me and that its all pointless and i felt like i was alone until this. thank you for being brave enough to post this for everyone.
life has its struggles, but it's not one giant struggle... it's a journey. a journey of love and joy and peace and temptations and trials, always learning. i have the privilege of walking it with my Creator and Father with Christ in me and the hope of the great glory that will come when Christ returns... Romans 8:18 - For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
First thing to do would be to look in the mirror and ask 'Who is Liane *insert surname* (sorry. I don't know it nor need to) Just try things out, even if you make a modest living, as long as you find something to look forward to in the day, it doesn't have to be the job, then you are doing OK
Work for somthing you are good at, live for something (not someone) you love.
Life is always a struggle for the things we want. I'll agree with you on that point. But it's not always bad. My friends and family, my dreams, my hopes for the future, sometimes even something as silly as the fact that books will come out that I wouldn't be able to read keep me going. I hope you can find something to keep you going, Liane.
I get what you mean, Liane. I've been there, and I go back at least once a year. It feels awful, and then every now and then I need something- or someone- to show me the sunlight. And then, I realize that life is worth living, and that sometimes the struggle's worth it.
Yeah, life's a struggle, but there's SO FREAKING MUCH TO SEE and do and feel and experience and love-- and yes, there will always be a lot of things that just kind of suck, but I personally want to make the best of the time that I have.
you don't even know how much I relate. I'm actually in school against my will, not knowing what I want of my life. Every day, I am reminded that life is a struggle and I don't want to go through with it. Like you, I'm too scared to just kill myself off, but it's tempting to find the easiest way to stop the pain.
I'm really glad that you decided to talk about what you're feeling. Liane, I love you and I know a lot of other people care about you. <3 You should find someone to talk to, face to face, it may help.
Having recently lost a dear friend to suicide, I can tell you that her death is something that will negatively affect my life until the day *I* die. Doing that to your friends and family is cruel.
I hope you can find someone to talk to about how you're feeling. Life is never going to be easy, but it's all we have.
"i've been thinking about something dumbledore said to me. that even though we've got a fight ahead of us, we've got one thing that voldemort doesn't have. something worth fighting for."
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Attention seekers make me laugh. Look, I'm sorry that you're having these feelings, but reaching out to the internet in hopes of sympathy from strangers is not the way to go about feeling better.
awkward....I think you would benefit from talking to a psychologist. and I don't mean that in a snide way. but if you're leaving videos like this for the general public to hear, you're obviously reaching out.
Liane... the odds are that you will not be facing the struggly bits of life 24/7 for the rest of your life. You will find long interludes of rest, relaxation, joy, love, giggles, music, hugs, smiles, and back rubs. And even the struggly bits yield a kind of sick pleasure when you reflect on how you have come through them.
Watch the Big Lebowski. (Maybe that only works for guys, but try it.) We can all learn from the Dude. <333
lol, i totally get what you're saying about being too scared, the pain, not having the guts etc. but i think people who think that will never do it, because if you did do that you wouldnt be thinking about pain or any of that. if you get what i mean?
I cherish every minute I have on this wonderful earth, flawed as it may be. I know the meaning of life to live. Live life to the fullest and have fun doing it! It doesnt matter what happened when you died, why you died, or what happens after you died, the only thing that matters is what happened when you lived. The only way to really live on is to leave a legacy of joy and to have led a fulfilling life. To be remembered by the people you touched when you lived. Don't worry about the struggle.
Sometimes life is a struggle, sure, but every day? I think not. But even if that was the case, then don't you feel like winning at life is the best win you could ever have? And from where I'm sitting, you win at life Liane. Keep fighting and keep winning.
Liane, hun. You have tons of people here, around you, everywhere supporting you. In thoughts, prayers, wishes, actions, words. We're here for you.
But I totally know where you're coming from. A few months ago I had this same kind of idea, or it was just something that flicked in my thoughts for a moment. I know I hate struggle, I hate having to do it for everything. But I do. We all do. Because, you're right, there isn't really another way.
But we can help each other. We always have each other.
Personally, although I think I understand what you're saying, I don't completely agree with you. Life doesn't always have to be a struggle. And if it always is, it doesn't have to be such a big one. It's possible to learn to just go with it. Sometimes you'll have to make big decisions, but sometimes you just have to live. I guess that can be hard enough to some people. I say, just be happy for what you have, and try to find the good in the world, not the bad.
I don't really agree with you, but I think the video was a great idea. You really showed people who you are. I personally love living and being here, in this world. Why would I want to go toward the unknown of death, when I could be living? I believe life is a struggle, but I wouldn't want to be anywhere else.
I have issues with this too. Life is all about the struggling and the pain. You wonder why people don't kill themselves more often. Life is this massive mystery, because a lot of the time there seems to be no point. Maybe there is no point. I can't say I'm in a different place than you are.
I know the feeling. :\ I wrote something last fall about a similar idea. Sometimes I feel like I'm always waiting or just getting by- I'll be fine if I can just make it until tomorrow, until the weekend, until this semester is over, until summer, until I graduate. I feel that the best we can hope for is to just accept it when we get in this mood and make the most of happier times when we can forget about it for a little while.
I get what you mean! For example, I really hate going to school and having to study almost all the time just to keep up, and I hate the people who expect so much and the whole educational system...
but sometimes there things like awesome friends and what you've learnt from working hard/ struggling that makes it a little better and helps you get through. It helps me a little to think about what awaits after I get out from school and what I'm doing this for.
So I got this way about a year or two ago and I realized that even though every day is a struggle there are days that are just pure joy and to me those make up for it. Those days that everything goes right, or you get to be with someone you love after not seeing them for a while.
friends, family, people LOVING LOVING LOVING you, & you LOVING LOVING LOVING other people, so much that it hurts, so much that it erases all hurt... thats what life is about. Some days will be a struggle, but not every day. I dont know your beliefs, but I believe that our savior died and was resurrected for our sins & our struggle & our pain.. took it all upon his shoulders, so we can leave it there.. offering it all up to him, leaving only grace, thanksgiving, praise, & love in its place.
I'm not just saying this- I know how you feel. There are so many times when I have thought about life like this, and it is hard. But I suppose we have to face the bad if we ever want to see the good times, and the fun times.
i feel the exact same way about everything you said. I don't even have any advice to give because i am in the same place as you. just know that you aren't alone.
In Korean they say "Aja aja fighting!" It basically means 'never give up, never stop fighting.' It if my firm belief that we struggle at time - sometimes prolonged amounts of time - for the good that does eventually come. Keep your head held hight. We don't know each other, but that doesn't stop me from knowing that there is good in your future. Remember, there is always sufganiot :)
Liane, the struggling is the fun bit. If it all came easily to you, it would feel exactly the same because you wouldn't know what it was like to struggle.
My mum always says if life gives you lemons, shut up and eat your goddamn lemons, it's one of your 5 a day.
Of course life is difficult, and everyone has moments where they see the futility of the human endeavour, but just push them aside and carry on, day by day learning more about yourself and about the world around you.
Trust me, you're not alone in thinking that. And I've given serious thought to suicide on numerous occasions, obviously haven't done it yet(not for lack of trying), but the thing is, I keep telling myself it's going to be a struggle, but it's going to be worth it when it's all over, I just try to keep thinking there's still something to look forward to.
I agree 100% with everything you say, Liane. The way things are, the way things have to be... it sucks. It's harder than anything. And I agree, I don't wanna struggle either. I don't' want that at all.
Is life constantly a struggle with moments of ease or constantly flowing along easily with moments of struggle? You know, it's the eternal question--are zebras white horses with black stripes or black horses with white stripes? It's ok to let yourself get dragged in to the potential darkness, but you have to recognize that there is a different way to look at it. I think struggle is temporary, not constant and being positive every day makes the next day worth living.
I see life in pretty much the same way. Life is a struggle decorated with the odd moment of happiness, and it is these moments that make us strive to carry on no matter how hard things get. I can't understand how people do not see things the same way but I am glad they don't because the world would just stand still if they did.
I can understand exactly where you are coming from, I suffered from depression when I was 17 and was hospitalised because after thinking like that for a while, you start thinking that maybe you could handle the pain of suicide just to end it. I'm sorry you feel like this though, it doesn't always feel like that. I am 20 now and I honestly feel like life is worth living, everybody needs goals etc to have a sense of achievement but if you don't have any right now then just live for possiblility of
everything; because the one thing I learned was that life has the possiblity to have amazing things happen as well as bad, whereas death ends all that possiblity.
No one WANTS to struggle. I do it because I know that if I do there will be moments in life that are good. There are things worth struggling for. Life is one of those things.
If you are truly in a terrible citation change your surroundings... If you're epically out of money... get a fake ID and shack up with one of your friends... If you're being chased by a criminal organization skip town!
Everyone has a place in life it's just a matter of finding out where you fit in, join the army, hitch hike across the country, go to school, get a job, start a family, join the circus all valid and equal! Dwelling on depression helps no one and nothing, seek happiness in friends
The only circumstance anyone should kill them self is in trying to save someone else...
It's always darkest before the dawn.
Without hardship there are no triumphs?
If life gives you lemon, eat them because they are good for you?
Screw this, starving you are not, persecuted you are not... If you don't like banging your head against the wall... STOP DOING IT there are a million ways to be happy in life, keep trying until you find a way that suits you.
That's the point. I'm trying to find something to fight for, which is why I went back to school. Hopefully I'll find some sort of goal to strive for beyond making it to the next day.
Life isn't always hard, but it is when you put your mind into that way of thinking. Doing thinks that are hard makes you feel like you have accomplished something. Do do one video each week for fiveawesomegirls must of seemed to be a struggle when you started, but it became easier because of it. Plus the positives from the experience far outwayed the negatives. 4 new gf's, more life experience etc. In the end, just one foot in front of the other. No need to think about the 1000th step ahead
Just bendin over, undergoin the things life brings u is not a choice 2 make...I don't no u and I don't want 2 B patronizin, sayin nice meaningful things 4 evrybody around like life is beautiful.
All I no is that u're scarin me, u sound suicidal!
I kinda no how u feel cuz I feel the same and everyday I'm struggling not 2 do somethin harmful for myself, at least I'm thinkin of it, that's dangerous.
You have 2 persist and someday find out a sparkle 2 give u the need 2 struggle n 2 win the fight
These major life issues are hard to discuss in a comment box! Maybe talk it out with BF, friends, or family? Then try a few things and see if they help.
2 things to try you may not have thought of. 1st, B vitamins are helpful to destress and with mood, simple to get a bottle of Twinlabs B-50 or similar to support your brain chemistry. 2nd, read How The Mind Works, and Blank Slate by Steven Pinker to begin to understand how the human mind works, gives some insight into the human condition.
I've been going through really tough times recently in my life and agree with everything you said. But I think that suicide is too selfish of an act, because I care too much about my family and friends to hurt them like that. On a different note, this is so similar to Alaska's view on life in 'Looking For Alaska', the inescapable labyrinth of suffering.
although i agree 100% with this vid and do feel that way myself at times and feel like life is a pointless struggle, hearing some one else feel this sad is even worse than having myself feel this sad :(
it is true - every one struggles, some more than others, but i'm willing to bet that at some point in their lives, everyone will feel like you do now.
what gets me through each day is making the best of my situation, and doing what i can to make myself happier. yes the world IS a shit, depressing place. so what are you going to do about it? i choose to try and make things better - if not for everyone, than at least for myself. i hope things start to look up for you soon liane. keep trying :)
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diegonavas 5 months ago
to me i think the point of struggling, is to learn and be a stronger person, (plus it makes you appreciate the easier times) and that kinda makes you think whats the point of being stong and learning which i suppose is just to have better life.
whats the point to life? who knows, but we're all here so we may as well have a good time, right?
TalmaesWorld 6 months ago
life is not butterflies and rainbows as much as we d like that.you can make it better. you can shape it so you don t only see the struggle. you make the good things that happen every day more important. if you keep living your life fighting.that s suffocation and a waste of time in which you could be doing something productive for yourself.if you remove the thing that makes you struggle or accept it and do something about it you can move on easier than fighting it.hope you re feeling better..
raindropscallme 1 year ago
I just relate to you so much.
JosieNoPussycats 1 year ago
I know what you mean. The thought of it just scares me so much. But then there are day or even just moments where I don't think about how much of a struggle life will be and I'm just happy. I feel like those moments are worth it all. (:
billowycapeofdoom 1 year ago
I've never really thought about life as a struggle. Sure, it's hard at times, and sometimes things don't go as planned, but life is short. Why waste any minute of it with regret or useless anxiety about the future? I say just make the best lemonade you can and be proud of it. And smile a lot. Smiling helps. :]
teamood 1 year ago
I really feel the same way. I have and have been through a lot, I think a little more than most people my age have. I have lost my naievity and have become more neurotic and bitter. I have lost all faith in people. I also feel like I'm always struggling. And I don't get that that other people don't seem to have it. Like Laura Marling sings in ''The Man Sings'': ''I don't get happy people, why do they care? They can't be happy all the time, they're really just not there''.
Plottoberry 1 year ago
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Uhm.. i was a bit shocked watching this video.. I hope you're not unhappy. I hope you see how beautiful life is and I hope that there will be more moments of wonder, joy, love and happiness than you have moments of unhappiness and struggle.. Are you unhappy? I'm not trying to tell you how to feel. I just know that life isnt easy for anyone. But it doest have to be a constant struggle. and I wish you peace in your life. So I hope you'll find that
ataperjeangirl 1 year ago
Uhm.. i was a bit shocked watching this video.. I hope you're not unhappy. I hope you see how beautiful life is and I hope that there will be more moments of wonder, joy, love and happiness than you have moments of unhappiness and struggle.. Are you unhappy? I'm not trying to tell you how to feel. I just know that life isnt easy for anyone. But it doest have to be a constant struggle. and I wish you peace in your life. So I hope you'll find that
ataperjeangirl 1 year ago
Some reason your in the dark?
Bladieboe 1 year ago
This video is old i know.. but im just a recent subscriber.. soo anyway.. THANKYOU for putting up this video.. i feel the same way most of the times.. because i dont have any motivation or goal in life.. HOPEfully you found yours already.. if not.. hopefullly things are alot better now. I wish you the best.. and good luck to all ur future endeavors.
moonlitwave 1 year ago
"How will I ever get out of this labyrinth of suffering?"
I feel the exact same way.
deathtoawkward 2 years ago
I know how you feel, really.
You don't know me, but if you ever need to talk to someone uninvolved, then let me know.
Stay strong
Sarah
xxx
Tragoola08 2 years ago
The one thing that consistently gives me hope is knowing that regardless of WHERE we are in the world, WHO we are in the world, and WHY we are in the world... we are all fighting the same battle, and we are all struggling together, even if we feel completely alone in it at times... to find that *something* that makes all of our bad days not hurt so bad anymore. I kind of think we're lucky to have these bad days... we never take our good ones for granted. :)
ilikepebbles 2 years ago 3
its all about the journey not the destination..yeah its waaay cliche but its so true!
pboisei 2 years ago
it's the only chance that we all have.
and you'll get used to it, as we all.
and sometimes...sometimes there are these moments when all is well and no struggle at all and life is wonderful. and that moments of joy and love and peace are why we all keep on struggling.
xxYPAxx 2 years ago
The struggle is exhausting at times.
I long for a life that is worth the struggle. I still hold onto the hopes of finding that life.
This video made me think about life and what I want it to be. Thank you for making it.
I don't always agree with what you say, but I respect you.
Angieanything 2 years ago
Some find comfort in struggle cause it shows that you are alive. Others relies that life is not struggle, but opportunity for experience and growth. Whatever your take know that everbody doesn't have those lows you seem to have. Please tell someone, a professional how you are feeling...please don't make us worry about you.
Hayleydippity 2 years ago
Yeah, it's a struggle and the true cliche is that the struggle provides the contrast that makes the high points...high points. For me one of those is a powerful story: books, tv, but mainly movies. Next week I'll spend 8 days seeing over 30 movies at a festival and that is worth every other day that I have to work. Also high points: my wife, my dog.
jaireaux 2 years ago
It really is the only choice we have. you're totally right. It can be horribly depressing if its all you think about, i went through a period of time where i couldn't think about anything that pertain to the future bc it jus made me more depressed. Then a mentor who i absolutely love, told me to write any little thing that made me happy and i had to find at least one thing per day. some days had only one but it was for that little bit of joy every day that I still keep going. kudos 4 this video!
aprilbayb07 2 years ago
I know exactly what you mean. Its kinda freaky, you basically said everything in my head at the moment. Its nice to know i am not alone =)
BFace91 2 years ago 14
neither do I
InDubiousBattle 2 years ago
great video, and I know the exact feeling even though you assume not many people think this way. I see things this way, but instead, every day I think more like everything goes in moments. Like a journal. One entry you wrote may be filled with extreme emotion, but that's only one day. Or should I say just ONE moment. Things keep changing... even when it seems that it is bad for just one moment.
myalteredself 2 years ago 2
I know exactly what you mean. I think about that all the time.
randomnesssomething 2 years ago
Liane, going through the struggle is very, very hard, but I think it pays off in little bits along the way. Of course you may or may not have stopped your schooling because going to class is hard, getting poor grades is hard and tests are stressful. But I think you lightened up your struggle by deciding to go back to school. You are awesome, and I hope you feel better soon :)
emmfan09 2 years ago 3
and on top of balancing your own shit you gotta worry about your friends shit like whether or not she ate today or why he's in denial over his infected piercing or that she's started throwing up again or that one bitch is carrying high school drama into college and fucking with your life despite the fact you did shit to her or trying to push back your own thoughts of just jumping when your friend tells you they wish they were dead or why the past you try to forget keeps biting you in the ass
NotReallyHereSoYea 2 years ago
Let not be the struggles strangle you in thoughts of sadness, trouble your through the days of life
the sparkles of fun and joy makes life worthwhile
look at the little wonders a day will bring you.
rubyfall 2 years ago 2
that's how i felt after reading ecclesiastes for a religion assignment. Depressing stuff O.o
lauraism 2 years ago
imo:
Suicide is a sign that we want things different.
The degree to which we suffer over anything is the degree to which we don't want it and to which we yearn for something else.
Suicide could be looked at as there are parts of life or ourselves that we want to die. Not necessarily our whole life, just the things that are intolerable. Like the Struggle. We want it to stop, to get out of it.
And we can find ways to begin to make that happen, and bring in what we want, like w/ a mission! :D
karenergy 2 years ago
That said, there have been periods in my life that have felt less struggle, but always there seems to be struggle! Sometimes I do feel overwhelmed and see no way out.
But then it changes, and often it has to do with missions: creative projects, travel, things I am looking forward to do, accomplishments, etc. I do notice that when I am feeling close to my loved ones the struggling seems less.
Thank you for making a great thought provoking video, Liane. Wishing you ease and happiness! xoKaren
karenergy 2 years ago
Also, Imo, you are doing well to address and change this for yourself... asking the questions, making this video, going back to school. Most assuredly you are going to get answers that work for you and will make the changes to not feel the struggle as overwhelmingly.
As I took my life in my hands learning how to take on the responsibilities of an adult, one after another, I saw that I could do it, and that reduced my struggle feelings. And I felt a wonderful sense of independence and freedom!
karenergy 2 years ago
hearing this and reading the comments is comforting to me. I struggle with the same issues. the only difference is school is my way of ignoring my issues yet i feel surrounded by people who somehow know the secret to happiness.
greensunshine13 2 years ago
definitely agree with what you said in your 5AG video, the only you can actually lead a good life is to live FOR something...even if it's something simple like going back to school
just to have something that will motivate you to carry on will suffice
and soon enough, you'll see why you are even still living on this earth...you'll find your purpose.
<3
GeimywithaG 2 years ago
suicide is selfish. thanks for not killing yourself, it helps everyone else in the world have a little more hope.
canOhannah 2 years ago
Don't worry. Life doesn't have to be a struggle. You can see to that.
LoriAretz 2 years ago
I get the feeling like I missed something.
Like there was an email that went out to the world telling them how to be happy and successful. How to know what to do and where to go.
But that my inbox was full so it bounced back + I'm still trying to work it all out without the guidelines!
I'm sure everyone struggles at some point but I can't help being jelous of the people who just seem to know their destiny from birth!! Life sucks 99% of the time, but you would risk it all for that little 1%.
DINGONERD 2 years ago
I"m really thankful that your too scared to commit suicide Liane. I'm struggling with the same stuff and I know it's hard but you've got friends and family and strangers even who are there for you and are willing to help you pull through. Keep pressing on friend. Lifes not ALWAYS bad. Look on the bright side of things. it's what helps me keep a level head about things.
(PS this isn't a pitty comment so much as it's an encourager. You aren't alone)
jadeddryad 2 years ago
As the wise prophet Ben Folds once sang "Everybody knows it sucks to grow up...The years go on and we're still fighting it". That's kind of how I feel.
craisins95 2 years ago 4
Hahaha, we sang that song at my high school graduation.
lianeandthemusic 2 years ago
I feel like that too, sometimes. I'm always trying to find the point in things. When I think about something too much, that's when it hits me and I get really depressed about life. Not that I want to die, just that I want it to be different. That I want there to be some sort of reason, point. Something I can hold in my hands.
Thanks for this video. Your honesty is admirable.
theycallmeluz 2 years ago
Everyone will struggle but it's how you respond to that struggle that matters. You can't control the world just how you respond to it.
missdivinestalls 2 years ago
I know exactly how you feel!!!
CocoSnake14 2 years ago
Liane,i know how you feel, when you sometimes think whats the point of this, but then you also think although there is struggle in life there are achievements, there are good time and there are bad times. The times you remember the most are the bad times but the good times you should remember everyday are the fun, happy, lovefilled days as it will give you hope, hope in life, living is hard but beautiful.you have so many people who love u your subscribers your friends,family.Life is worth living
fizzyissie 2 years ago
Yeah, life IS a struggle, but it's what we have, so I think we have to make the best of it. And I wouldn't want to give up the good times in my future to get away from the bad, even if the bad times were more frequent.
I think you'd be surprised by how many other people feel like you do - and everybody hides it, of course, bc talking about your feelings is kinda scary, but there must be so many people depressed or scared about life, completely unaware that so many people feel the same way.
alilessthanthreesyou 2 years ago
And I guess that could be kind of a depressing thought too, but I think there's some comfort in knowing that you're not alone. And knowing that reminds you to be nice to each other, even to people who seem like they have everything completely sorted - bc it's entirely possible that they don't.
To everyone else: I like reading your comments :) I feel like we should make this comment thread into a book or something...
alilessthanthreesyou 2 years ago
But remmeber all the wonderful things in life. Family, friends, love, beauty in nature, and so so so much more! Live for those things, not for the struggles.
gabishmabi 2 years ago
Honey, I know exactly how you feel. I'm the same way.
crashunderride 2 years ago
This video makes me want to console you and rant at you and give you advice, all at the same time. It's very thought provoking, even if I don't agree with everything you are feeling right now.
Fake it till you make it. You WILL make it one day; you are just that awesome.
cameronfrye23 2 years ago
p.s - an 18 year old girl that went to my school died a few days ago. she had leukemia and battled through it for 3 years before she died. She was also the happiest person and strongest i've ever known, you would never have known she was sick. imagine the struggles she must have had, and yet she still fought as hard as she could, till the very end. sometimes when i'm having a hard day i remember that tons of other people have it worse off than me, and i pull myself together.
samanthak2205 2 years ago
Life is what you make it. i think that this video is kind of a negative outlook on life. i hope you can get to a point in your life when you can just be happy and content. i do understand where you are coming from though, we all have those days. :)
samanthak2205 2 years ago
I used to have suicidal thoughts a lot... and that was the one time in my life I was really conceited when I thought about really doing it. I knew that everyone in my life would be SO sad... and actually it'd be really hard for them to live without me. And I had to remind myself I wasn't just saying that and that it was 100% true. ...If that makes any sense at all.
EccentricPuzzle 2 years ago
One thing I have realized is that life is great. I only wish that you felt that way all the time too.
vanessathebutterfly 2 years ago
It's all worth it when you find what's beautiful in your life.
iamajedii 2 years ago
Liane what you need is a sugar daddy.
ReggieUnderbelly 2 years ago 2
I've often had the same thoughts...the only way for it not to completely suck hardcore is to have something you're passionate about at let it consume you a little. By the way, I miss NYC so much, and I miss hanging out with you guys! Give me a call sometime if you ever just need someone to talk to, and let me know when you're ever in the DC area!! :-)
scionofslytherin 2 years ago
Not everyday is hard. For every day that is worth sleeping through, there is a day that you wouldn't trade for the world. For every year that feels like dying, there is a year that feels so so alive. For every person that you want to shoot there will be an awesome person that you want to hug. I have spent months on end feeling like barfing on everything because I hated every morning. I've been through the past year and a half feeling like everything deserves a song and dance. Its a formula.
moreorgans 2 years ago 2
It's scary to think about pushing yourself through the unknown AND struggling with the crap that's going to hold you back, but I think it's even scarier not having the chance to do it.
Wee! Sorry that was so long. :) I hope some of what I said made sense and I really hope you find "that thing worth fighting for", Liane.
electricmermaids 2 years ago
Wow, it's really nice to see an honest to goodness HONEST video from someone on YouTube. As evidence from some of the comments above, it's obvious we've all at some point felt this way. First of all, I think it's crappy of anyone to say you need to look at the person who's 10x worse off than you are. We should all have a right to feel we're the center of our own universe because who else is going to? Sure, your problems might be miniscule compared to others, but I think it's crazy not to comfort
electricmermaids 2 years ago
yourself by wallowing in your own self-pity every once in a while. That may seem selfish, but I believe a person needs to have a balance of love for themselves and compassion for others to be able to live life happily. And I also think it's that self-absorbed nature in us that helps you be true to yourself. You need to feel like you matter in this world! Second, I know it's completely Hallmark, but I have to say whenever I'm feeling this way, I will think of the good stuff in my life --
electricmermaids 2 years ago
and that stuff that I see myself doing in the future. There are SO MANY things I still want to do with my life before it's over, and when I think about dying before I get to do them? I cling to life and don't let go! Like everyone else has said, find out what you want to do with your life and immerse yourself in it! You want to sing? You want to write a book? You want to become a famous music magazine editor? Bagpack through Italy? Find a way to do it! Tons of people already have.
electricmermaids 2 years ago
wow. this is really a great video. good on you for putting yourself out there.
goingforthegold 2 years ago
It's not everyday, and you KNOW that! Some days you do what you want, and the rest of the time you do what you have to. No one likes pain, suffering and struggling all the time. But it really and truly is the only way you become accomplished -- by overcoming the obstacles. You could choose to be a lazy ass, but you're too intelligent to accept such mediocrity. So fight the good fight!
MrDage 2 years ago
You are in complete control of your life. If it is that awful run away, sumberge yourself in something that takes it away but not something that makes you weaker (drinking or taking drugs) something that makes you stronger whatever that may be. You need to change your outlook, your life is what you make of it, and its a cliche but there is always someone worse off and things can always be worse and even if thats all you can be grateful for, you should be grateful for it.
x
reckonermk1 2 years ago
Life is NOT a stuggle, hun. Life is truly what you make it to be, with every decision to make. You have that power to make your life as amazing as you want it to be.
eimmii 2 years ago
I think you're right and wrong. I realized that too and i think maybe more people than you think have figured it out. It's just that i don't see it like you do... it's more like every struggle is paying up for getting to be alive. Every bad day is for all the good days. So if I can work through the bad days with my head up I can get to good days easier. And there are good days and beautiful things and new experiences and their worth every last bad day I've ever had.
TheSpaghettiarms 2 years ago
I've felt a very similar way, and I just want you to know that it is possible to pull through. yes, its tough, but getting back into life again can really help.
oomboo2 2 years ago
but the feeling of accomplishment after you get through each struggle cancels it all out
christiney89 2 years ago
yes, life is a struggle, but it is also something beautiful. There are so many great things and people to live for. So many people love you, Liane, just here on youtube. And it makes me sad that you say the only thing keeping you from killing yourself is fear of pain. In fact, it's kind of insulting. It's almost like saying that your friends mean nothing to you. I know you didn't mean it that way, but it seems true nevertheless...
sideaccount72 2 years ago
I really understand how your feeling. No one wants to fight or wants to continue the struggle but something pulls us through, even if we've given up on life and are just waiting for death we are just about clinging on. Take each day as it comes, focus on the nearest future and if one thing that day makes you laugh or smile, it's worth sticking around another day.
xxstrawberrykissezxx 2 years ago
It's hard to think of a life full of struggle, a year, a month or maybe even a day but the next 5 mins that you can do, there's nothing you can't survive for the next 5 mins.
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xxstrawberrykissezxx 2 years ago
I think I've pretty much said exactly the same thing as this video, I once said it to my mother, I told her that I didn't want to fight anymore and she told me that my greatest strength was that I was a fighter in life. I'm getting there now, I'm taking each day with the good and the bad and of course some are harder than others but the good bits are light tiny bits of light to hold on to. I know it's hard fighting on but what's the option, not exsisting and missing out on maybe some happiness?
myprozacsmile 2 years ago
And also, no matter what religion you are (I'm a rationalist myself) we can learn a lot about peace and happiness from buddhism. It's a religion founded on compassion and peace. and it's helped me tremendously.
ARoomofOurOwn 2 years ago
I feel exactly the same way you do...
29bluelagoons 2 years ago
It's really comforting to know someone else feels the same way as me.
saraxhp 2 years ago
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...it's about learning to dance in the rain."
bouncyangel 2 years ago 16
Pain is pain. I hate when people try to cheer you up by telling you how horrible other people have to live. That's even more depressing. What kind of world do we live in? I think the key is to stay busy. Hang in there.
ARoomofOurOwn 2 years ago 2
I feel the same way. Wow. I didn't think anyone else saw it that way. Thanks for sharing.
ARoomofOurOwn 2 years ago
Life is a struggle a lot of times, but not every day has to be a struggle. Many days are happy days and I believe they make the struggle worth it.
I recognize the things you said, I've felt most of them only a few years ago. But somehow, life showed me that there are so many things worth sticking around for.
Don't make yourself do things you really don't want to do, focus on the things and the people in your life that bring you joy and take strenght from your friend.
LisaSlytherin 2 years ago
friends, plural.
LisaSlytherin 2 years ago
I've been feeling the exact same way ever since high school started. I'm a junior now.
The only thing keeping me going is college and my aspirations to be a Psychologist and writer.
Krista4Words 2 years ago
This is exactly what I used to think when I was suffering from depression. Now, I feel a lot better and you know what, I hardly ever feel life is a struggle any more. For me, the meaning of life is to find your own meaning, and finding a purpose for yourself, and a way to make you feel good about yourself and people who do so really helps. It makes life totally worth living.
zoehutton 2 years ago
I think that when you realize that life is a struggle, you also have to realize that the struggle is what makes life worth living. Struggle and pain and boredom and hatred and love and kindness and sympathy, those things are what life is made up of. Struggling is there, yes, but the people in your life are what make the struggle worth it. Goals are good, but to finally come to terms with who you are and having people who will always be there for you is what makes life worth living.
deadzonefan13 2 years ago
Every day doesn't have to be a struggle. Everyday in an opportunity. Smile when you don't feel like it, it might make you feel better. Intend to be happy and eventually you will be.
That said, I seem to remember you saying that you were on medicine (Nov or Dec of last year maybe?), Are you still on meds? Maybe you should talk to your doctor.
earme 2 years ago
I don't think every day has to be a struggle. There are days when I genuinely enjoy life to the fullest. For me, the good stuff outweighs the bad stuff most of the time, and that's really what it's about for me.
CodedLockFilms 2 years ago
Killing yourself is the coward's way out. Not killing yourself isn't being a coward. And killing yourself isn't having guts. It's being selfish and giving up too easily.
I feel for you, I do.
But I don't agree with what you said about suicide.
annatheHPtwerdfightr 2 years ago 5
I know people who have attempted suicide, and one that successfully committed suicide. They aren't/weren't cowards. They have/had depression which is an actual sickness. They're getting help now to get better.
And by the way, there were some ancient societies who thought people who committed suicide were brave. They thought it took courage to end your life.
hmksprouse 2 years ago
I also know people who have attempting suicide and ones who have succeeded. That's why I feel so strongly about it.
I agree that depression is an actual sickness. I know people who fight it everyday, for themselves and for others. I really admire those people, and that's why I think those who give up are cowards. I didn't mean to offend you.
And by the way, it's not just ancient cultures that believe committing suicide is brave. Ever hear of the al qaeda?
annatheHPtwerdfightr 2 years ago 2
We talked about this in philosophy the other day. How you finally get to that point in life where you realize that every day is just a struggle, and that your entire life, you will be struggling. But the thing is, as long as you think of it as struggling, it will be. It's not struggling, it's living. Struggle isn't always a bad thing. You learn and improve a lot from it. Yes, sometimes you have to work to get what you want. But trust me, the feeling passes. You'll learn to accept struggle.
RememberTheTrees 2 years ago 2
Great answer!
ForksisforLovers 2 years ago
Why thank you!
RememberTheTrees 2 years ago 2
thank you so much for making this. its exactly how i currently feel. im not in school right now and am just working in a dead end job for money and i hate it and i feel like i have nothing going for me and that its all pointless and i felt like i was alone until this. thank you for being brave enough to post this for everyone.
lisa0509 2 years ago
Chin up Liane.
Life will be, what it'll be and you've just got to let it take its course.
Make the most of what you've got and have fun as much as possible. It'll all be alright, promise. <3
AnAbundanceOfKathryn 2 years ago
At times when people are down, we need to look at things that make us happy. It's not always easy, but it certainly helps. :)
I hope you'll feel better soon.
Becky2266 2 years ago
I think that life is about growing, learning, accomplishing, experiencing, and most importantly finding joys, no matter how seemingly insignificant.
bluemirage123 2 years ago
life has its struggles, but it's not one giant struggle... it's a journey. a journey of love and joy and peace and temptations and trials, always learning. i have the privilege of walking it with my Creator and Father with Christ in me and the hope of the great glory that will come when Christ returns... Romans 8:18 - For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
victoriaarene 2 years ago
First thing to do would be to look in the mirror and ask 'Who is Liane *insert surname* (sorry. I don't know it nor need to) Just try things out, even if you make a modest living, as long as you find something to look forward to in the day, it doesn't have to be the job, then you are doing OK
Work for somthing you are good at, live for something (not someone) you love.
flaziola 2 years ago
Life is always a struggle for the things we want. I'll agree with you on that point. But it's not always bad. My friends and family, my dreams, my hopes for the future, sometimes even something as silly as the fact that books will come out that I wouldn't be able to read keep me going. I hope you can find something to keep you going, Liane.
nerdhuggersftw 2 years ago
We love you, Liane <3 You're so right. Even small responsabilities are a struggle at first, and then they just get bigger and bigger and bigger.
YOU'LL MAKE IT <3
RhianonLives 2 years ago
Hang in there, Liane. We all love you.
caiteelinn 2 years ago 2
I get what you mean, Liane. I've been there, and I go back at least once a year. It feels awful, and then every now and then I need something- or someone- to show me the sunlight. And then, I realize that life is worth living, and that sometimes the struggle's worth it.
xoxWHOAxox 2 years ago
Yeah, life's a struggle, but there's SO FREAKING MUCH TO SEE and do and feel and experience and love-- and yes, there will always be a lot of things that just kind of suck, but I personally want to make the best of the time that I have.
Feel better, Liane. <3
rainyelle 2 years ago
Thank you so much for making this video.
You're great.
I don't want to struggle. It's the people, the religion, the places, the experiences that keep me going.
KatyisGoing 2 years ago
you don't even know how much I relate. I'm actually in school against my will, not knowing what I want of my life. Every day, I am reminded that life is a struggle and I don't want to go through with it. Like you, I'm too scared to just kill myself off, but it's tempting to find the easiest way to stop the pain.
We all struggle together I guess.
Fairied 2 years ago
the struggle is worth it though, no?
NelliumTheFisherman 2 years ago
I'm really glad that you decided to talk about what you're feeling. Liane, I love you and I know a lot of other people care about you. <3 You should find someone to talk to, face to face, it may help.
desertislanddream 2 years ago
Having recently lost a dear friend to suicide, I can tell you that her death is something that will negatively affect my life until the day *I* die. Doing that to your friends and family is cruel.
I hope you can find someone to talk to about how you're feeling. Life is never going to be easy, but it's all we have.
shessomickey 2 years ago
I completely agree with you. Don't kill yourself. Find some new directions.
anadventurouskid 2 years ago
i feel the same way. every morning i wake up thinking its going to be difficult, and i just dont want to go on with the day.
somegirl001 2 years ago
"i've been thinking about something dumbledore said to me. that even though we've got a fight ahead of us, we've got one thing that voldemort doesn't have. something worth fighting for."
tiicklemyfancy 2 years ago 4
This comment has received too many negative votes show
Attention seekers make me laugh. Look, I'm sorry that you're having these feelings, but reaching out to the internet in hopes of sympathy from strangers is not the way to go about feeling better.
onedayallwillknow 2 years ago
I didn't post this for sympathy. I posted it because I finally understand what's behind my feelings and I wanted to share that.
lianeandthemusic 2 years ago
awkward....I think you would benefit from talking to a psychologist. and I don't mean that in a snide way. but if you're leaving videos like this for the general public to hear, you're obviously reaching out.
TickyRoot 2 years ago
Liane... the odds are that you will not be facing the struggly bits of life 24/7 for the rest of your life. You will find long interludes of rest, relaxation, joy, love, giggles, music, hugs, smiles, and back rubs. And even the struggly bits yield a kind of sick pleasure when you reflect on how you have come through them.
Watch the Big Lebowski. (Maybe that only works for guys, but try it.) We can all learn from the Dude. <333
mickeleh 2 years ago 4
Hahaha, I love that movie.
lianeandthemusic 2 years ago
i've always thought i am the only one that thinks like this. thank you.
laurlaur924 2 years ago
lol, i totally get what you're saying about being too scared, the pain, not having the guts etc. but i think people who think that will never do it, because if you did do that you wouldnt be thinking about pain or any of that. if you get what i mean?
cycoG 2 years ago
You should perk up a bit. You'll find something eventually. just get through school. At least graduating can be a light at the end of the tunnel.
TheGreatAndMightyMe 2 years ago
I cherish every minute I have on this wonderful earth, flawed as it may be. I know the meaning of life to live. Live life to the fullest and have fun doing it! It doesnt matter what happened when you died, why you died, or what happens after you died, the only thing that matters is what happened when you lived. The only way to really live on is to leave a legacy of joy and to have led a fulfilling life. To be remembered by the people you touched when you lived. Don't worry about the struggle.
evilnapsterguy 2 years ago
Sometimes life is a struggle, sure, but every day? I think not. But even if that was the case, then don't you feel like winning at life is the best win you could ever have? And from where I'm sitting, you win at life Liane. Keep fighting and keep winning.
seurat2 2 years ago
Liane, hun. You have tons of people here, around you, everywhere supporting you. In thoughts, prayers, wishes, actions, words. We're here for you.
But I totally know where you're coming from. A few months ago I had this same kind of idea, or it was just something that flicked in my thoughts for a moment. I know I hate struggle, I hate having to do it for everything. But I do. We all do. Because, you're right, there isn't really another way.
But we can help each other. We always have each other.
weneedharrypotter 2 years ago
Life is only what you make it. No really you make your own life. Control it. Do not struggle against it, flow with it. Good video Liane. Smile
CAlex6977 2 years ago
i wanna kill myself watching this video.
LaurenLove08 2 years ago
Personally, although I think I understand what you're saying, I don't completely agree with you. Life doesn't always have to be a struggle. And if it always is, it doesn't have to be such a big one. It's possible to learn to just go with it. Sometimes you'll have to make big decisions, but sometimes you just have to live. I guess that can be hard enough to some people. I say, just be happy for what you have, and try to find the good in the world, not the bad.
-alex
kira902k 2 years ago 3
I don't really agree with you, but I think the video was a great idea. You really showed people who you are. I personally love living and being here, in this world. Why would I want to go toward the unknown of death, when I could be living? I believe life is a struggle, but I wouldn't want to be anywhere else.
Milllie91 2 years ago 2
Hey girl, keep your chin up. You are loved by oodles of people, whether you realize it or not. <3
mailparannstaff 2 years ago
I have issues with this too. Life is all about the struggling and the pain. You wonder why people don't kill themselves more often. Life is this massive mystery, because a lot of the time there seems to be no point. Maybe there is no point. I can't say I'm in a different place than you are.
Awesome video. Thought provoking. Thank you.
LibbaBrayLover 2 years ago
Never mind what you think you are going to be doing for "the rest of your life"... :)
theburt83 2 years ago
I know the feeling. :\ I wrote something last fall about a similar idea. Sometimes I feel like I'm always waiting or just getting by- I'll be fine if I can just make it until tomorrow, until the weekend, until this semester is over, until summer, until I graduate. I feel that the best we can hope for is to just accept it when we get in this mood and make the most of happier times when we can forget about it for a little while.
xGreenSea 2 years ago
When you find your niche everything will click and it won't feel this way anymore. Everything is going to be okay :).
HogwartsTimeLord 2 years ago
*hugs* I know. One step at a time.
Jessielou1848 2 years ago 2
I get what you mean! For example, I really hate going to school and having to study almost all the time just to keep up, and I hate the people who expect so much and the whole educational system...
but sometimes there things like awesome friends and what you've learnt from working hard/ struggling that makes it a little better and helps you get through. It helps me a little to think about what awaits after I get out from school and what I'm doing this for.
lilyenc 2 years ago
You said the words I could not come up with. It's nice to know someone else feels this as my family just doesn't understand it.
CallidoraLBlack 2 years ago
*hug*
huffelpuffheir 2 years ago
hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!
mewpie85 2 years ago
So I got this way about a year or two ago and I realized that even though every day is a struggle there are days that are just pure joy and to me those make up for it. Those days that everything goes right, or you get to be with someone you love after not seeing them for a while.
AutisticLemon 2 years ago
Liane I want to take you up in my arms and give you a huge great cuddle, because I feel the exact same way.
God bless you, love. <3
minksy08 2 years ago 2
YES. YESYESYES. I agree with you all the way.
lizvallish 2 years ago
<3s for liane!
XBetteDavisStyleX 2 years ago
This reminds me of Margo Roth Spiegelman. She said stuff like this, and that's why she went to NY.
But anyway, I totally get what you're saying. Just try to be happy. The most you can do is try to be happy in life.
RaddishxEarrings 2 years ago
friends, family, people LOVING LOVING LOVING you, & you LOVING LOVING LOVING other people, so much that it hurts, so much that it erases all hurt... thats what life is about. Some days will be a struggle, but not every day. I dont know your beliefs, but I believe that our savior died and was resurrected for our sins & our struggle & our pain.. took it all upon his shoulders, so we can leave it there.. offering it all up to him, leaving only grace, thanksgiving, praise, & love in its place.
sharizzle09 2 years ago 2
I'm not just saying this- I know how you feel. There are so many times when I have thought about life like this, and it is hard. But I suppose we have to face the bad if we ever want to see the good times, and the fun times.
RebeccaInTheTARDIS 2 years ago
Like a hand.
barefootfiona 2 years ago
i feel the exact same way about everything you said. I don't even have any advice to give because i am in the same place as you. just know that you aren't alone.
justsomeperson1 2 years ago
i think everyone else pretty much covered the philosophical, supportive response so i'm just sending you some love.
<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
gsusfrk22 2 years ago 3
In Korean they say "Aja aja fighting!" It basically means 'never give up, never stop fighting.' It if my firm belief that we struggle at time - sometimes prolonged amounts of time - for the good that does eventually come. Keep your head held hight. We don't know each other, but that doesn't stop me from knowing that there is good in your future. Remember, there is always sufganiot :)
thomasclose 2 years ago 2
I made a video responce but, I am a bit shy....look at the light in you
RuiFranciscoVieira 2 years ago
Liane, the struggling is the fun bit. If it all came easily to you, it would feel exactly the same because you wouldn't know what it was like to struggle.
My mum always says if life gives you lemons, shut up and eat your goddamn lemons, it's one of your 5 a day.
Of course life is difficult, and everyone has moments where they see the futility of the human endeavour, but just push them aside and carry on, day by day learning more about yourself and about the world around you.
BibaRed 2 years ago 10
Your mum is a genius. And you can tell her I said that.
lianeandthemusic 2 years ago
Trust me, you're not alone in thinking that. And I've given serious thought to suicide on numerous occasions, obviously haven't done it yet(not for lack of trying), but the thing is, I keep telling myself it's going to be a struggle, but it's going to be worth it when it's all over, I just try to keep thinking there's still something to look forward to.
Director705 2 years ago
I agree 100% with everything you say, Liane. The way things are, the way things have to be... it sucks. It's harder than anything. And I agree, I don't wanna struggle either. I don't' want that at all.
SpindipRob 2 years ago
Is life constantly a struggle with moments of ease or constantly flowing along easily with moments of struggle? You know, it's the eternal question--are zebras white horses with black stripes or black horses with white stripes? It's ok to let yourself get dragged in to the potential darkness, but you have to recognize that there is a different way to look at it. I think struggle is temporary, not constant and being positive every day makes the next day worth living.
atuggs 2 years ago
I see life in pretty much the same way. Life is a struggle decorated with the odd moment of happiness, and it is these moments that make us strive to carry on no matter how hard things get. I can't understand how people do not see things the same way but I am glad they don't because the world would just stand still if they did.
hbubely 2 years ago
I can understand exactly where you are coming from, I suffered from depression when I was 17 and was hospitalised because after thinking like that for a while, you start thinking that maybe you could handle the pain of suicide just to end it. I'm sorry you feel like this though, it doesn't always feel like that. I am 20 now and I honestly feel like life is worth living, everybody needs goals etc to have a sense of achievement but if you don't have any right now then just live for possiblility of
thisismyspacebugoff 2 years ago
everything; because the one thing I learned was that life has the possiblity to have amazing things happen as well as bad, whereas death ends all that possiblity.
thisismyspacebugoff 2 years ago
No one WANTS to struggle. I do it because I know that if I do there will be moments in life that are good. There are things worth struggling for. Life is one of those things.
MegTao 2 years ago
If you are truly in a terrible citation change your surroundings... If you're epically out of money... get a fake ID and shack up with one of your friends... If you're being chased by a criminal organization skip town!
Everyone has a place in life it's just a matter of finding out where you fit in, join the army, hitch hike across the country, go to school, get a job, start a family, join the circus all valid and equal! Dwelling on depression helps no one and nothing, seek happiness in friends
coolstream1 2 years ago
Liane is a silhouette!
The only circumstance anyone should kill them self is in trying to save someone else...
It's always darkest before the dawn.
Without hardship there are no triumphs?
If life gives you lemon, eat them because they are good for you?
Screw this, starving you are not, persecuted you are not... If you don't like banging your head against the wall... STOP DOING IT there are a million ways to be happy in life, keep trying until you find a way that suits you.
Buck the fuck up
coolstream1 2 years ago 2
That's the point. I'm trying to find something to fight for, which is why I went back to school. Hopefully I'll find some sort of goal to strive for beyond making it to the next day.
lianeandthemusic 2 years ago
yes, life must be so tough for you
Vehs 2 years ago
aw liane. i know what you mean. it's really really scary.
iamaseagull 2 years ago
I read it pretty recently. It fucked me up a little.
lianeandthemusic 2 years ago
I can relate to you a lot.
L1U2C3Y 2 years ago
Think of life as a challenge not as a struggle and try and see the good in the everyday. Rise to the challenge, we all know you can.
eibbore 2 years ago
wow. honest video,liane!
definitely gonna make a video rsponds...
<3
thefriedmiss 2 years ago
Life isn't always hard, but it is when you put your mind into that way of thinking. Doing thinks that are hard makes you feel like you have accomplished something. Do do one video each week for fiveawesomegirls must of seemed to be a struggle when you started, but it became easier because of it. Plus the positives from the experience far outwayed the negatives. 4 new gf's, more life experience etc. In the end, just one foot in front of the other. No need to think about the 1000th step ahead
lockedinsidemybody1 2 years ago
Just bendin over, undergoin the things life brings u is not a choice 2 make...I don't no u and I don't want 2 B patronizin, sayin nice meaningful things 4 evrybody around like life is beautiful.
All I no is that u're scarin me, u sound suicidal!
I kinda no how u feel cuz I feel the same and everyday I'm struggling not 2 do somethin harmful for myself, at least I'm thinkin of it, that's dangerous.
You have 2 persist and someday find out a sparkle 2 give u the need 2 struggle n 2 win the fight
mat014foot 2 years ago
Thanks, I needed this.
matthewdryden 2 years ago
These major life issues are hard to discuss in a comment box! Maybe talk it out with BF, friends, or family? Then try a few things and see if they help.
2 things to try you may not have thought of. 1st, B vitamins are helpful to destress and with mood, simple to get a bottle of Twinlabs B-50 or similar to support your brain chemistry. 2nd, read How The Mind Works, and Blank Slate by Steven Pinker to begin to understand how the human mind works, gives some insight into the human condition.
KennyWrites 2 years ago
I've been going through really tough times recently in my life and agree with everything you said. But I think that suicide is too selfish of an act, because I care too much about my family and friends to hurt them like that. On a different note, this is so similar to Alaska's view on life in 'Looking For Alaska', the inescapable labyrinth of suffering.
outofthenightsky 2 years ago 2
although i agree 100% with this vid and do feel that way myself at times and feel like life is a pointless struggle, hearing some one else feel this sad is even worse than having myself feel this sad :(
xThatSarahGirlx 2 years ago
<3 we love you!
gdespain 2 years ago
it is true - every one struggles, some more than others, but i'm willing to bet that at some point in their lives, everyone will feel like you do now.
what gets me through each day is making the best of my situation, and doing what i can to make myself happier. yes the world IS a shit, depressing place. so what are you going to do about it? i choose to try and make things better - if not for everyone, than at least for myself. i hope things start to look up for you soon liane. keep trying :)
catters14 2 years ago