Loneliness Help - Part 1: Are You Lonely? (And the Startling Facts on Who Is)

[battlefeild3airsoft]

I'm 14,I only have 3 friends that I can trust ,I only have 3 family members ,I haven't had a gf in a year ,not to mention my best friend is 1,300 miles away ,I hate my life ,I'm lonely :(

[MrJoeDaddyMac]

god this is so boring...

[CinnamonWithATwist]

I just finished watching all of these, and I have to say that they really helped :) up until now, I felt like I was lonely because I didn't appreciate the friendships that I have. I have a small handful of friends, and I trust that they'd be able to keep secrets and such, but I don't think I'd tell any of them my personal troubles. it's nice to hear a bit about what's actually going on in my head.

[claudelebel55]

Loneliness is thought based. It is a refusal to relate with what is in the moment.

[philbateman1989]

I think part of the problem is that no matter how lonely you feel, if you don't have something that other people want, or if you aren't attractive, or if you aren't the popular type, then no one will give a shit about you. That's life. As unjust and painful as it is, that is reality. You aren't alone though, I'm sat in the human scrap heap with you.

[claudelebel55]

@philbateman1989 check out "Adyashanti - Aloneness and fear" on yt for a different perspective. Even physically attractive people can be very lonely. Loneliness is superficial. Get to know your aloneness. In your aloneness you are already whole and complete. Intimacy is NOW, Enjoy what is in the moment or see what thoughts and beliefs get in the way of enjoying the moment. This moment is all that you have, all that you will ever have whatever the circumstances.

[ChooseMyFamily]

Loneliness is often misdiagnosed as depression! The distinction is critical in order to improve the situation, as are relationships in real life!

[vigilhammer]

@ChooseMyFamily But does`nt loneliness lead to depression?

[ChooseMyFamily]

@vigilhammer like a cut could lead to an infection, but it does not have to...loneliness can lead to depression, but it does not have to. It's a warning sign to take care of yourself emotionally/spiritually & it usually comes before full depression. Not distinguishing between loneliness & depression is like having a doctor prescribe antibiotices for a paper cut before infection. Loneliness gives you an opportunity to act, reach out & create meaningful connection before things get worse.

[vigilhammer]

@ChooseMyFamily I like that answer. You said loneliness gives an opportunity to act, so suppose i`m lonely, then i`m completely isolated. Having no social life can also lead to depression. So, ... umm... never mind i dont know what i`m askin actually.