How To Have Self Esteem in a Superficial World

[pksweetpcupcake]

I love your channel and I think your super sweet for even answering that question. I found that when I think about how God views indiviuals in the bible who are considered righteous..I feel so much better about myself knowing I always try to build christlike qualities..also setting goals and reaching them are a sure confidence booster

[etancia]

Very true-- from minute 6 onward... underlying reason why we don't feel beautiful/good about ouselves. I can really relate. Thanks for putting that into words.

[twinkitten1]

This is great !! Thankyou :)

[kitamian1]

shit i feel bad ury fuckin day, mostly cause im dark skinned short nappy hair. if looking good dont mean nothing then why you didnt just fresh wake up and do a video without of washing yo face combing your hair etc and look im black and miserable and thats that beauty means nothing but celebrities are paying top dollar for it

[ReformationOfBeauty]

@kitamian1 I understand how you feel because i have my days where I do not feel beautiful but when I do feel beautiful it is because I reflect on the deep non-superficial parts of me and that what makes me feel beautiful also I define my own beauty regaurdless of what the media or society say you have to look for the beauty within :)

You are beautiful :)

[223nutrition]

Great Video!

[tongresa77]

So true. So awesome. Thanks for sharing. You are very beautiful btw:

[RubyTee30]

VERY GOOD!!!

[Terezush]

You're so sweet and wise! Hugs from Russia!

[CHERISHEDCHIC]

Love your video! I have a video on self-image and many other topics in my I AM WOMAN Series. I hope you check it out and enjoy! Have a great day!

[Allanthatsmyname]

You are smart and I... well... I know it is out of topic but I like your natural hair

I hate when I see girls ruining their hair with a wig or sth.

this comes from a german guy.

[mickeysmiles1]

thats right.... u r so inspirational

[CBKhalifa]

lol random cat tail @3:44

[1Delu]

Yes, every body feels down at times...even the strongest and wisest men of our world. Very nice video

[doozyboody21]

WOW!! I really really like this one!! I love all of your videos from both channels but this one really hit home. I'm always hating on something about myself. It's usually my height (5'9) or my face because I have acne and acne scars. Anytime someone tells me I look nice I automatically think I don't. I really needed to hear this, specially now that I'm wearing my natural hair which is perceived as different but my attitude now is "I have so many other good qualities" THANKS SO MUCH NAPTURAL!! =D

[kiera181]

I feel what you said about natural hair. Such good advice!

[EricaFoppe]

Omgosh! This was so needed! i love you so much for this you are awesome!

[holidaysim]

I appreciate your videos for what you share and your desire to offer help and insight, so when you think you are looking at hot mess I am not even thinking about that I am grateful that you took time out of your day to make a video and upload it. By the way from your videos I can see you are beautiful inside and out :-)

[Nmakara91]

It's really hard for black women, especially natural black women, to feel beautiful in this superficial world where western ideas of beauty dominate. Although we may not be seen as beautiful (even though we are) in the mainstream media, some of the most powerful, most influential women are black (Michelle Obama and Oprah). And they are beautiful inside and out. Don't take the views of the media to heart. We are beautiful. Black girls rock!!! Thank you for bringing this to light Naptural85.

[tkstriker1]

your hair is gorgeous! Is that all your hair like out of your scalp, wow

[tkstriker1]

your hair is gorgeous!

[tkstriker1]

Your hair is gorgeous! My hair is permed at this time, I am scared to go natural.

[msshortysweets]

I LOVE your new channel! Thank you for sharing!

[DebbieDuRite]

Hi kitty :D

[yemelee]

I also wish you or other naturals could get together and create a magazine for natural hair. Online magazine or print. :-)

[yemelee]

You're a beautiful person! Love this channel. Thank you so so much. :-)

[Shewolf1020]

thank you for the confidence boost i will surely save this to my favorites to watch whenever my self esteem gets low.

[musiclovertothemax]

Wow...I love all of your videos but I never really comment because I think that everything I can possibly say has already been said but I just wanted to let you know that this was extremely touching...I will def. be forwarding this to a few friends. People need inspirational videos like this-videos that will tell them that its okay if they aren't exact replicas of the people on television because that's not something worth striving for:)You should strive to be yourself-nothing more nothing less.

[robertamdy7]

Love your video! Thank you and thanks to the woman who asked the question! HA! MOTHER TERESA WAS NO BEYONCE (Hope I spelled all of them right..lol)..Too true!

[robertamdy7]

Love your video! Thank you and thanks to the woman who asked the question!

[Jorge007dr]

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VID WOW!

[Jorge007dr]

i wish these kind of videos ould get 100million views.

[roseeleven]

I LUV this video!!! I am going thru this rite now bcuz my skin wont clear up. My hubby says Im beautiful and I wish my face would be as clear as the rest of my body neway-Im not gonna rant about it but TY so much for this vid! My hubby would be glad to see Im watching this!:))

[beauflower121]

Beautifully spoken....

[remmerz]

girl your teeth are beautiful! thankyou sooo much the videos i teared up watching this because I absolutely agree with you but you are right look up to tv and movies about beauty and you know what its BS we are beautiful! all of us! are we were created from an image much greater than our own much love nap be you girl! p.s im goin natural!

[shockadelica]

Thumbs up and I've subbed. You're remarkable!

[TheHumorousAquarian]

you are a beautiful person like your soul and aura i dont know its just lovely your also gorgeous this video really struck a cord with me thank you for sharing.

ps. loooooool @ your cat @3:45

[prettycarmencurls]

Great message and thanks for sharing..

[longandnatural]

Hi Nap, where did u get that black bow/head band you are wearing with an afro puff in one the first pictures of the intro song/clip of this video....I love it/////if u do not remember, no worries...it is super chick

[WaterFor3st]

This is how I helped myself. It's like, if they don't like my looks, or anything about me, they aren't worth thinking about. I'll just stay positive about myself, loving what I live for and if you don't like it, oh well. It's doesn't matter what you think, this is my life. I now have self esteem. Sometimes I still feel annoyed with myself, but I'm doing fine.

[XArtsyX]

Wow thank you so much for this video Naptural.

[stop08it]

I don't have to be pretty for any one!

[DinaBby0812]

you are amazing!!!! i love alllllllllllllllllllllll of ur videos u are just soo amazing!

[eribabygurl]

Naptural----Thank you so much for your informative videos--we need more inspirational videos like these in Youtube. Please, I would love to see more videos about self-esteem, sustainable relationships, success, education. We need to bring more topics like this to the light and discuss about these issues that are often marginalized by the mainstream-media & "dominate culture." In this fashion, we can perhaps maintain a healthy-lifestyle, notably within the natural-hair community..:)

[jacienz]

Dear Naptural 85 - I really like the style in this video, can you show us how you did it? keep up the good work on your videos

[Chrys19]

I loooooooooooove this video! Thank you Naptural85! You're truly an inspiration! :)

[TheGreenerItGets]

Lol is it weird that I started clapping in the middle of this video?

I totally agree. I have no room for people that judge me solely for how I look, because there are other people out there that won't. People go so much deeper than their exterior shells. I wish the media would stop lying, and saying that people aren't.

[oridniv]

Thank you so much..I almost cried watching this b/c I have been thinking about this very heavily and as of last month I began wearing my hair in it's natural state IN PUBLIC! Always did extensions but I know there's more to it...but yes, I focus on those who compliment my hair wishing it was theirs, it will build up with time...I could type all day about this lol

[WaterFor3st]

@oridniv All they have to do is stop wearing that harsh stuff in their hair too. Take care of it, and then people will want their hair ahah.

[afropleaser22]

that was epic! no joke. very inspiring, thank you

[jaynelldessert]

You are so sweet, you have no idea!

[liberate1alaluz]

YES! Thank you for doing this one. We live in a society where there is so much pressure put on women to look perfect. We are valued by our exteriors and it is painful. Its really all about the person we are though: how we treat others, how we value ourselves and how we interact with society. We really need to hear these kinds of messages more!

[knaayo]

I love when you get going because you can go lol...passion.

[Rochele18]

Thank you for this video. It makes me want to cry when I think about the amount of young girls, especially black girls, that have these feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. I get so sad because I know how they feel because I 've felt that way before. The thing that keeps me going, besides my confidence, is thinking realistically. If I am feeling badly about myself, I just sit back and think about others that think exact same things about themselves because they are just as human as I am.

[ImQueenVirtuous]

"You're not gonna walk out your house and world hunger is gonna end because you have a nice coat of mascara on your eyelashes!" LOL!!! That was too funny!

[DearNaptural85]

@Star3L I'm so happy it could help <3

[dreamsatsea]

Brilliant advice. I couldn't have put it better myself xx Especially the note that when we procrastinate we feel worse about our appearance. So true! You're a friend in my head :D :D

[islandgirl5635]

excellent vedio and i LUV UR HAIR! nice style!

[beautifulbrownchick]

Great advice. Everything you said struck a chord with me. Thanks for the words of encouragement. Be blessed.

[Tanaa21]

Thanks for this vid!..=)

[Carameeyah]

Goodness! You were talking to me when you said get your stuff done and you will feel good about yourself. I just went two weeks... Yes, TWO weeks without washing my hair because I was behind in my school work and job. I got a lot of things done this weekend, and everything just fell in place. I got my hair washed, deep conditioned, and detangled today, and I just feel like now I deserve to relax because I worked very hard this weekend. Valuable advice naptural. You rock!

xoxo

[prettikitti]

Thanks for this encouraging word. As women, we all have days when we feel crappy about our looks and ourselves, but we have to rise above this. We can't wait on people to tell us good or bad. Rather we are here to be what we were created to be by the Lord. We were fearfully and wonderfully made indeed. We are all beautiful in different ways!

[VickyVue]

The bible says that 'we are fearfully and wonderfully made'..what that means is that the creator made us according to how He saw us, beautiful. He knew about all the mistakes we'd make, all the wrong choices we'd made, and most of all the things that we would say about ourselves, but what He sees when He looks at us is beautiful! See yourself as God sees you, He sees how beautiful you are!

[naturaleducator]

What sage words! The standout for me: "Mother Theresa was no Beyonce!" You'd better start working on your book of quotes now. Peace.

[AfroTee]

Thanks for posting this! It's a great message :-)

[potatetoe]

That was the one of the most inspirational messages I've ever heard. I am very touched. Thank you so much!

[tiashauntee]

Great advice!

[sterlingking]

Thanks for the wonderful video! This helped me and many other's out there. Our looks are emphasized EVERYWHERE and people become so engrossed in it that they forget to pick up a book or better yet The Bible. And I'm guilty of that at times, so thanks for the positive reminder!! U seem like such a BEAUTIFUL person! Your man has a good catch!! Much love! Take care!

[yoyo482]

Thank You for this video!

You made an excellent point on offering the world more then just my looks!

[starrsvm]

excellent video...i could not have said it better..

[unicqueky]

Awwwww!!! i'm going to watch this video the next time I'm feeling down!! :)

THanks! Beautifullly said!!!!

[NuByrth76]

This is a GREAT video!!!!

[RonCamChasenMe]

Thanks for the inspiration, I so needed this!

[sugakitty21]

awesome!! very inspirational. I try my best not to compare myself with others. I have to realize that no one will ever be the same. I've learned to love my fro and me! Thanks and cant wait to see more videos. :)

[pintofowl]

hello dearnaptural85 i want to ask you something i keep having a hard time with my father with my natural hair he keeps telling me that people in this contry can be prejudice towards natural hair.I'm Jamaican and it breaks my heart to hear this constantly. I keep my hair neat i present my self well my hair is healthier no breakage but im happy with it , buts its so ridiculous that my hair will be an obstacle getting or keeping a job .

[ButterflyKZA]

Very powerful vid! Thanks for being honest & real.

[machjz]

Nap, thank you so much for answering this person's question. In helping them you have helped so many. Thank you for being an encourager and sharing that gift with us. Be blessed.

[catmama9]

I am so proud of you. What u put out is what u get back. What u siad was beautiful and so very true. Peace & Love Always. We our all beautiful, we are LIFE

[TheDanzy876]

Very inspiring nap, this is just one of the many facets which make both your channels great!! Your an inspiration for many, and you are indeed caring!! Thanx for this!!

[misskalip]

I love this video so much :')

.. and how your cats tail is just everywhere lol

[mscheeks823]

very powerful and positive

[Muysana]

STANDING OVATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[emocupcake17]

Great message girl I really needed this today! You seem beautiful inside and outside!

[MsAlmondy]

Very positive and encouraging. Thanks for sharing.

[kawsydaisy]

Thanks for the reminder sis! Thanks for reminding me that me choosing to be a good person inside is always more important than what I cant control on the outside. p.s.You really are unbelievably beautiful.

[sweetdimpelzz]

I really think everyone should see this vid, its definitley a self esteem builder!!!!

[Islandjuicyfruit1]

Preach it Gurly... Thumbs up

[misstwists]

Great video!

[sadeaisha]

I'm so happy that you did this video.. i feel so blessed to see hear you wonderful message. it really helped me alot! u are brilliant!

[Shon0823]

Wonderful message! Thank you for sharing!

[tulipsun21]

Great video! If we only judged ourselves by the media most of us would never leave the house but most of what we see is an illusion. Without make-up, photo touch up and hair extensions those "beautiful celebs" look very normal and I know this first hand! Kindness and Intelligence matter!!!

I love that you suggested to question our thoughts. Our thoughts can become habits.

Our thoughts shape our personal reality so why not think positive up lifting thoughts about ourselves and life!!

[KinkyTresses]

Beautiful message!! Great advice! Thanks for sharing!

[meadowarch]

Love this vid beauty is skin deep be proud of yourself and never compare yourself to others...that way i alway feel blessed :)

[DearNaptural85]

Aw, thank you meadowarch, that's beautiful <3

[estherni1]

This was so inspiring and from now on I will try to be positive with my babyface and not hate on it. I do appreciate what I have but sometimes there are just those bad days when I wake up on the wrong side of the bed:/

[DearNaptural85]

Aw, I know, we all have those times estherni1! Definitely keep reminding yourself of all of those things that make you who you are on the inside. If we tried to be better on the inside half as often as we tried to look better on the outside, we would no longer have the need to rely on our looks. Build up the inside, and the outside will follow <3

[DearNaptural85]

p.s. just subbed to your channel! Why you hatin on your face, it's beautiful girl!

[20feettall71]

Thank you so much. :)

[DearNaptural85]

omgoodness, of course 20feettall71! Glad to help <3

[luvlybrit]

nice video

[DearNaptural85]

Thank you luvlybrit <3

[mmorrellwilson]

Psalms 139: 5 -6 and 13-14 You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain. For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

[naturaleducator]

@mmorrellwilson One of my favorite Pslams too!

[Napstrong]

@mmorrellwilson This is the verse that keeps me feeling good about myself. Love it!!

[Mstraore1]

@mmorrellwilson HAllelouhiah!!!

[mmorrellwilson]

I agree.....and not only that, "YOU ARE WONDERFULLY MADE BY GOD"...no mistakes. Love yourself as he loves you. Psalm 139:1-4 You have searched me, LORD, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.

[DearNaptural85]

@mmorrellwilson <3

[MoniqueSoFly92]

I agree! I'm in freshman in college, I don't care if I look a mess sometimes. I'm just here to get my education, and not care about what others think.

[DearNaptural85]

@MoniqueSoFly92 Exactly! Thank you! Who has time to primp in the mirror.. things to do! Thaaangs to doo! <3 lol

[Dawnyele]

This was so awesome! Great advice and motivation for all women :-)

[DearNaptural85]

Aw, thank you Dawnyele! <3

[msbrownsugar75]

This is good i needed this.

[DearNaptural85]

So happy to help msbrownsugar75! <3 <3

[randomexpressions09]

I loved this! It is so true. I went through most of my life with low self esteem and no confidence. I can honestly say that once I became happy with myself and magnified the great things that I have to offer, I completely forgot about the things that the world wants us to look like and live up to physically. These have been the best years since I found my confidence and decided to let my light shine. Great video!

[DearNaptural85]

That's so beautiful randomexpressions09! It's so true! Once you figure out that you are more than your face and body...the world opens up and the birds start chirping! <3

[shurry27]

This was a great video. You gave the young lady sound advice.

[DearNaptural85]

Thank you shurry27 <3

[reshacharmz21]

Love it! Totally agree - I think a lot of people need to hear things like this more often. Total reality check.

and the thing about natural hair not being in black magazines is soooo on point. it's pretty ironic. lol.

[DearNaptural85]

@reshacharmz21 lol, I know right...I totally gave up about 3 weeks into my bc looking through those magazines for hair inspiration... and when I DID find a natural hairstyle...it was a weave!

[goldensexymama]

I'm 43 & some days I don't feel as pretty as I'd like. I use positive self-talk to get me on track & 2 combat these feelings. Take care and find that self-love within yourself so that on those days you're not feeling pretty or smart, or whatever you have the ability and the strength to squash those negative thoughts. Another thing, for everything you don't like think about 2-3 things you do like. That'll keep your mind off the other stuff you probably can't change. Thanks for sharing.

[goldensexymama]

Great response! It's so sad that what you're saying about beauty trumping intelligence is the way of the world 2day.So many girls & boys mask their intelligence bcuz of the negative connotation associated w/ being smart. Society has set a standard of what it thinks one should look like. This is unrealistic & unhealthy. The world would be so boring if we all looked alike. For the person who left the question, please know that inner beauty is far more valuable than outer beauty.

[DearNaptural85]

Hey goldensexymama, it is so sad. It was prevalent when I was growing up, but times have gotten SO much worst, I can only imagine what teen, pre-teen girls are going through today...

[pintofowl]

this was a great message i like your point.

[DearNaptural85]

@pintofowl <3

[krissiikisses]

this honestly made me cry. beautiful message ! thanks for inspiring me and opening a new way of thinking about myself. =) you're awesome !

[DearNaptural85]

Hey krissiikisses, Aw, I'm so happy to help! We def have to have a strong mentality these days we're going up against lots of forces trying to tell us that we are only as good as we look. Intelligence is no longer a societal value, but a strong, focused mind will keep us on the straight path <3 <3

[mutie70]

@DearNaptural85 I couldn't agree more!! and Thanks for the video, very true words spoken :-D BTW it does help!!