Molar Memories

[hididdlyho82]

6) Even taking it to a new level, "Everyone knows drugs are bad! An idiot knows that! Your situations different though because your trying to get off it!" Your reasuring them and providing both a carrot and a stick, "I've a lot of respect for people who do get off it!"etc

[hididdlyho82]

5) as they are talking about someone elses situation not their own! I believe it's human nature to ignore criticisim or turn it into resentment or anger! Though the the person may pretend or believe you have not changed their opinion, you will have and it will not be long before they are telling you what they have told you as their if it were their own opinion, you then agree or say "I've been teeling you that!" to confrim to them your agreement even taking them through it again indirectly con

[hididdlyho82]

4) than their hero or peers negative behaviour, "I know he's a nice guy but he's a junkie and I feel sorry for him but noones got a gun at his back making him take the drugs! All I'm saying is we'll see how he turns out etc!" pointing out all the negative aspects of both their lifestyles, talking about the persons friend rather than the person allows them not to hide away from the topic in their head, and gives them a different view of the situation, and removes their fear about it con

[hididdlyho82]

3)Your letting them know I think your better than this and it does not fit with the person I know you to be! Through your discussions on other topics and common ground you have found! another good thing to do is use a example of someone in their peer group whom they respect but is doing the same addictive/negative behaviour and criticizing that person it can be a famous actor or whatever, it doesn't even have to be a person they know, and don't criticize anything else about that person other con

[hididdlyho82]

2)You have to lead the person addicted to that conclusion, or you have to be talking as a friend saying, "If I were you I'd sort that out because people must be thinking blah, blah, blah". In a nonchalant way, end it by letting them know "seriously I don't know why you do it," "If I were you I'd just stop, it's not worth it!" So making them aware of how they are percieved, by giving your opinion in a friendly way in a no big deal way you are diffusing the seriousness or toughness of the task!

[hididdlyho82]

1) I think you have to think of addiction as a set of old fashioned scales you have two sides, the positive and the negative, you have too make sure the person addicted understands, the negatives well out weigh the positives. A particular good thing is to get them to realise how they appear to the rest of the world, i.e people aren't really saying poor such and such is on drugs most people are saying that idiots addicted to drugs!

[vincelynch]

Thankyou so much, i am a massive human givens fan

[chillinburger]

Thanks!

[toriplum]

Groundbreaking! Thank you.