After listening to this, i ask myself are his friends so lame and disrespect you by mentioning things from the past? OR, are you ashamed of your change? If i went through what you did, i would tell ALL my close friends, and they would show their support by allowing me to be who i am, no judgements! Being in Sweden is awesome, and really no reason to tell everyone or anyone about your past, BUT when your home, look for the friends that treat you best. =) Just saying.... Jim =)
@gaelen38 no, my friends are neither lame nor disrespectful. they don't really go around advertising me as their FTM friend because to them i'm just jack, their friend, who is a guy. however, sometimes they think it's okay to make exceptions for certain people for certain reasons (e.g. for another transperson or their significant other or if they're worried how a specific person would react if they found out by chance), and since it's about me, it's really NEVER okay, unless i say it's okay.
@gaelen38 also, i want to be clear that this has nothing to do with shame. the decision to live stealth or not is NOT about that. it can be about a lot of different things, but shame is generally not one of them, and it's definitely not in my case. it's way too complicated to explain in the limited text that youtube provides, but for me, a lot of it has to do with the fact that i don't really feel like i have a trans identity despite the fact i have a medical history as a trans person.
I have been at university for the first year of three and I havent told any of the students and I have no plan to. It can be really hard with certain conversations and sometimes you feel like it would be easier to tell people. I have told a select number of lecturers just to have someone to confide in and be able to get time off for appointments and surgeries. It seems to be working pretty well so far so theres no reason it couldnt work for you too.
@CurtisFTM i basically lived stealth at college, but the difference is that there were people who had a connection to my past, so some people knew, even though i never talked about it. i also chose to tell a few friends after we got really close. i will never be one of those people who openly talks about it with most people, even friends, even if they know. but the issue i'm struggling with is whether or not i want to take that route again, because once you tell one person, more people find out.
just reread your profile.....upsala sweden so cool! I had a friend who is from Stockholm. the food and markets are amazing! I could eat tunnelbroad (spelling is wrong I know) all day long!!! haha! good luck to you!
@drummer25cjj tunnbröd? :) yeah, i'm in uppsala studying for the next 2 years but i'll also be down south in skåne a fair bit because i have family and friends down there.
what's your tumblr url?
spiceforce5 3 weeks ago
@spiceforce5 anopenprison.tumblr.com
i have been really bad about updating it, though. i am going to try to be better.
yak1987 3 weeks ago
After listening to this, i ask myself are his friends so lame and disrespect you by mentioning things from the past? OR, are you ashamed of your change? If i went through what you did, i would tell ALL my close friends, and they would show their support by allowing me to be who i am, no judgements! Being in Sweden is awesome, and really no reason to tell everyone or anyone about your past, BUT when your home, look for the friends that treat you best. =) Just saying.... Jim =)
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@gaelen38 no, my friends are neither lame nor disrespectful. they don't really go around advertising me as their FTM friend because to them i'm just jack, their friend, who is a guy. however, sometimes they think it's okay to make exceptions for certain people for certain reasons (e.g. for another transperson or their significant other or if they're worried how a specific person would react if they found out by chance), and since it's about me, it's really NEVER okay, unless i say it's okay.
yak1987 3 months ago
@gaelen38 also, i want to be clear that this has nothing to do with shame. the decision to live stealth or not is NOT about that. it can be about a lot of different things, but shame is generally not one of them, and it's definitely not in my case. it's way too complicated to explain in the limited text that youtube provides, but for me, a lot of it has to do with the fact that i don't really feel like i have a trans identity despite the fact i have a medical history as a trans person.
yak1987 3 months ago
yay ur back!!! good to see u again man!
roxdog01 6 months ago
I have been at university for the first year of three and I havent told any of the students and I have no plan to. It can be really hard with certain conversations and sometimes you feel like it would be easier to tell people. I have told a select number of lecturers just to have someone to confide in and be able to get time off for appointments and surgeries. It seems to be working pretty well so far so theres no reason it couldnt work for you too.
CurtisFTM 6 months ago
@CurtisFTM i basically lived stealth at college, but the difference is that there were people who had a connection to my past, so some people knew, even though i never talked about it. i also chose to tell a few friends after we got really close. i will never be one of those people who openly talks about it with most people, even friends, even if they know. but the issue i'm struggling with is whether or not i want to take that route again, because once you tell one person, more people find out.
yak1987 6 months ago
i just moved to sweden for school too! but i'm closer to borlänge than to uppsala. cool!
WHOAlydia 6 months ago
haha awesome that u are in sweden!! :D i love moving and starting over :)glad that u are happy:))
SELKILKT 6 months ago
I've just been hearing great things about Sweden... I'm glad your happy and getting settled in.
tfpunk1979 6 months ago
I'm glad that you are happy!
1malldoc1 6 months ago
just reread your profile.....upsala sweden so cool! I had a friend who is from Stockholm. the food and markets are amazing! I could eat tunnelbroad (spelling is wrong I know) all day long!!! haha! good luck to you!
drummer25cjj 6 months ago
@drummer25cjj tunnbröd? :) yeah, i'm in uppsala studying for the next 2 years but i'll also be down south in skåne a fair bit because i have family and friends down there.
yak1987 6 months ago
i was in sweden! are you in school there? what part of sweden?
drummer25cjj 6 months ago