I think option b. My motto is "Secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others;" how this applies in your case, the "others" are the children you might raise. Get yourself to a strong place first.
I also think you should wait until you become an adult to decide what you want to be. With maturity you are going to change. The negative feelings you have today may be positive when you are 30 something. In the mean time you could be honest with people who love you and friends and just be yourself.
When you get to be an adult you will be responsible for picking up after yourself and getting a job, paying utilities maybe supporting a family of your own. I am a Mom and don't get paid for it but it is the best job. My husband works hard, gets paid cash and pays our utilities. He also picks up his own mess at home. He does not get an allowence. Also if you are just a child you should call 411 to get help from the state. A child should not be responsible for any adult.
Go for it!!! You only live once and life is soo short. Do it for you. Your mom has lived her life and so has your grandfather its your life and you live it how you want to.
If it were me, I'd go back on T. Because hopefully my family will get over it, but I know they REALLY would be crushed if I hurt myself or worse because of the depression of untreated gender dysphoria and hormone imbalance. Maybe I would regret not being able to have kids later, but at least I'd be around (and healthy) to consider adoption. That's the advice of a strange guy on the internet, hope you can get some wiser opinions too!
so let me get this straight...you are taking care of your mom, but she has control over a lot of your decisions? Have you thought about getting a job? part time even will help with finances. And about the children...how long have you been planning on having children? That is a huge step and without a job and finances, I would def. put that off. You cant let your mom and grandpa run your life...There ya go, hope that wasn't taken the wrong way. good luck man.
I think your moms being kinda selfish you have a life to live as well but i do understand you need to help her but shes in no condition to give ultimatums and if you do have kids and shyou take care of them and provide for them she will not be able to take them. As far as your depression thats within your head with or without testosterone you need guidance from a specialist in social issues with transitioning. I think you should have your own children made from you and your partner not adopted.
I have PCO and I'm pregnant at the moment. PCOS and trying to get pregant is also expensive you will most likely need many cycles of fertility drugs to achieve a pregnancy. insuarance companies do not cover fertility meds.individuals with pco have over 50% chance to miscarry the first trimester. It's an emotional ride which I would not reccomend if you are depressed. go back on T. You seemed so happy and ready to take on the world. be you, and no one else.
My opinion is that this is the very kind of thing that idealy needs very wise and informed proffessional advice. It could be that this is not available to you, I can't know. But if you can get it, you should. As for the opinions of others, be wary. My personal opinion? Take a deep breath and ask yourself if you are impatient for a change of lifestyle. These first few years of adulthood idealy should be laid back unless you are studdying. Testosterone could wait a bit longer.
I think option b. My motto is "Secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others;" how this applies in your case, the "others" are the children you might raise. Get yourself to a strong place first.
aedn 3 years ago
I also think you should wait until you become an adult to decide what you want to be. With maturity you are going to change. The negative feelings you have today may be positive when you are 30 something. In the mean time you could be honest with people who love you and friends and just be yourself.
La33k5 3 years ago 2
When you get to be an adult you will be responsible for picking up after yourself and getting a job, paying utilities maybe supporting a family of your own. I am a Mom and don't get paid for it but it is the best job. My husband works hard, gets paid cash and pays our utilities. He also picks up his own mess at home. He does not get an allowence. Also if you are just a child you should call 411 to get help from the state. A child should not be responsible for any adult.
La33k5 3 years ago
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TheGirlToCall 3 years ago
you look and sound like a mildly depressed 15 year old boy...no offence. I think you are better off going back to being a woman...
kamalgilkesk 3 years ago
Hate to tell your mother but she cannot legally take your children just because you are trans!!!
tayllor2900 3 years ago
Go for it!!! You only live once and life is soo short. Do it for you. Your mom has lived her life and so has your grandfather its your life and you live it how you want to.
Take care Man Keep you Head up.
bibisanchez81 3 years ago
If it were me, I'd go back on T. Because hopefully my family will get over it, but I know they REALLY would be crushed if I hurt myself or worse because of the depression of untreated gender dysphoria and hormone imbalance. Maybe I would regret not being able to have kids later, but at least I'd be around (and healthy) to consider adoption. That's the advice of a strange guy on the internet, hope you can get some wiser opinions too!
CurriedFavor 3 years ago
so let me get this straight...you are taking care of your mom, but she has control over a lot of your decisions? Have you thought about getting a job? part time even will help with finances. And about the children...how long have you been planning on having children? That is a huge step and without a job and finances, I would def. put that off. You cant let your mom and grandpa run your life...There ya go, hope that wasn't taken the wrong way. good luck man.
freeride297 3 years ago
hey aiden i really miss u did you change ur im?
jsjadednight 3 years ago
I think your moms being kinda selfish you have a life to live as well but i do understand you need to help her but shes in no condition to give ultimatums and if you do have kids and shyou take care of them and provide for them she will not be able to take them. As far as your depression thats within your head with or without testosterone you need guidance from a specialist in social issues with transitioning. I think you should have your own children made from you and your partner not adopted.
tonyg41 3 years ago
I have PCO and I'm pregnant at the moment. PCOS and trying to get pregant is also expensive you will most likely need many cycles of fertility drugs to achieve a pregnancy. insuarance companies do not cover fertility meds.individuals with pco have over 50% chance to miscarry the first trimester. It's an emotional ride which I would not reccomend if you are depressed. go back on T. You seemed so happy and ready to take on the world. be you, and no one else.
poetgrl66 3 years ago
My opinion is that this is the very kind of thing that idealy needs very wise and informed proffessional advice. It could be that this is not available to you, I can't know. But if you can get it, you should. As for the opinions of others, be wary. My personal opinion? Take a deep breath and ask yourself if you are impatient for a change of lifestyle. These first few years of adulthood idealy should be laid back unless you are studdying. Testosterone could wait a bit longer.
davfritz 3 years ago
Aiden. You are clearly in no doubt as to what you need to do.
Good luck.
dfstoneftm 3 years ago