Dan Savage at Manitoba - Is it normal for girls not to bleed after sex for the 1st time?

[lisambofoh]

TMI warning, but I didn't bleed at all. I broke my hymen purposefully in order to use tampons, and no blood...

[gamerunknown]

According to Deutoronomy 22 (if I recall correctly), the virginal bride's fathers must keep the bloody bedsheets in case the man gets bored of her (Coleridge effect) and slanders her. If, being the legal retailer of his daughter, he cannot provide evidence that the seal was not broken when first used, the town gets to have a public execution. Since the US is a theocracy under the law of Moses, make sure to get your husband to perform some lubeless anal.

[Snoep76239]

Yeah, usually by the time you get to the fucking stage you've probably uses your hands on each other plenty...

[CarissaXo99]

Bleeding during sex is caused by vaginal tearing because the woman wasn't ready for penetration and aroused enough. Hymen bleeding is a myth, hymen doesn't have veins, it can't bleed even though it breaks.

[YolandaGirl]

Sometimes they don't bleed until the second time. Yikes.

[amcol85]

Yep totally possible. I'm one of them. Didn't hurt either. Like Dan suggests, I did gymnastics and horseback riding for a number of years and put it down to this. Also by then I had used tampons (which I would imagine would pose the same bleed problem if one had a hymen but probably wouldnt be as obvious at the time)

[karahershey]

ok was a virgn and i still had my cerry it still hurt like hell and felt like i was bleeding but yet i did not bleed at all so how do u explain this

[transworId]

I can just imagine Dan googling all of these things before he goes on.

[HenhousetheRed]

Thank goodness I love the cock.

[CaraIain]

@HenhousetheRed I'm sorry, are you implying that vaginal secretions are icky? PLEASE explain to me how anal secretions are any more appealing. Sex is icky and messy no matter what Slot you are inserting Tab A into!

[HenhousetheRed]

@CaraIain I'm simply implying I have a deep, devoted, desperate love for cock. I'm not implying cock, ass or their various secretions are superior to vaginae. That'd be like saying apples are better than oranges, when in actuality it simply comes down to sexual orientation. Being the 100% totally gay man I am, vaginae simply don't lift my luggage, just as a penis wouldn't lift a 100% lesbian's luggage.

Also, I'm glad my cock doesn't bleed.

[bethiscool08]

@HenhousetheRed lol nice rekers reference :)

[CaraIain]

@HenhousetheRed...If men's cocks bled, They'd be bragging to each other how their flow can barely be restrained.

[nonnyarie]

I'm one of those women; it made my first time loads more enjoyable because of it. I didn't even realize my hymen had been done away with until that point, so to this day I'm not sure what exactly caused it. Yahtzee for me indeed!

[DeadButBreathing]

@nonnyarie Some women are born without a hymen, could be that.

[phoboskitty]

i had a GF who was a virgin and her Hymen was already busted... on a metal slide when she was 10

but i did not escape the blood, her best friend had sex for the first time in my bed when we were away... there was A LOT of blood, fortunately it was a water bed

[videlsd]

Poor girls that go into having their first time without ever doing anything!

Girls, if you don't want it to hurt INCREDIBLY bad, get to know yourself and play with yourself before you give your virginity to someone. It'll make your first time better for BOTH of you.

[dakoneko]

@videlsd

I couldn't agree with you more. This is the best advice for all girls. Especially since "sex-ed" in most places doesn't even tell girls anything about their body.

[amcol85]

@videlsd It can help and yet it not playing first doesnt mean it will hurt. In fact I hadn't first and didnt hurt my first time.

[videlsd]

@amcol85 That's good, I'm happy for you. But i would still never let a man OR woman touch me without knowing what it'd feel like, or what is supposed to happen when they do... You know what I mean? I think that's even more important than it hurting or not.

[amcol85]

@videlsd touching and inserting things are different and in the end masturbation and intercourse are pretty different sensations.

[videlsd]

@amcol85 Yes, I think i would know being a female. But it helps nonetheless.

[GretchenDawntreader]

That a woman bleeds the first time a man screws her should only matter in backward countries like Iran and the US, where the primary goal of sex is the man's pride and conquests.

[CreativeFilmMaker]

@GretchenDawntreader or it matters because we care about the woman?