My interest is this is that I was looking into adopting 2 children from China but that appears to not going to happen due to major life changes in my world. However, my own daughter plans to look into international adoption and I have learned alot about it. For those looking into it, I hope it works out. Personally I didn't like being pregnant and giving birth and find it is highly overrated (and wasn't going to do that again!) I'd adopt! We are all adopted at a spiritual level anyway.
without degrees are also intelligent people capable of critical thinking. Common sense (as well as my own experience as a parent) indicated to me that the mother in this vid was hurting. I didn't like it. I offered some advice I thought would help all of them. I'm no expert by any means but I have seen the result of 'daddy's girls' really causing problems in a family's dynamic. If you have a psychology degree you know that! This vid was made months ago, hopefully their daughter has grown.
@Kathylouu I would agree that Xiao Bei should be gently encouraged and praised for steps in the right direction, but never scolded if she prefers dad, since this will only work against them. Xiao Bei is at a stage of venturing out into the world, and then coming back to her "base of comfort" as needed to "refuel" emotionally. As she gains confidence this will naturally abate. Never introduce the idea of either mom or dad being #1 to a child.
I don't know why I am continuing to respond but would like to clarify that I live in the land of 'tees, trees, Ph.D's' near Research Triangle Park. As a result I have worked around some of the best educated people in the world My father was a PhD. My spouse was also a graduate of Duke Univeristy. With all of that said, I like to add that degrees are important to an extent (in my less educated opinion) depends of the field. I didn't want to discredit those that have them, only to say many
She is cute but I'd been putting down some ground rules. Xiao is not going to like Dad spending time with Mom. Dad needs to show Xiao that Mom is his #1 or you are in for a big mess which is not going to be good for anybody. Dad, this is cute but I hope you are listening to this advice. I've seen what happens when Daddy's girls try to rule the nest and it is not good for Xiao to develop that attitude. Good luck! Make Mom your # 1 and everyone will be much happier and healthier.
@Kathylouu Actually, there is nothing wrong with this child spending some time with his dad. And as a child psychologist myself most psychologist would agree that spending more time with either dad or mom is not going to affect the child's relationship with either one. It is also counter-productive if you introduce the idea of either one being #1.
@GoldenShellback1 It appears you did not understand my comment. Of course there is nothing wrong with this child spending time with her father & mother. My point is that the father needed to include the mother at the EARLY stages of this relationship when it appears the child wants to exclude the mother. My point is the father needed to send a message to the child that the mother is to be respected. I'm not necessarily impressed by degrees (though I hold a degree myself-not in psychology)
@Kathylouu Playing favorites is actually a sign of emotional and cognitive growth. It helps the child explore relationships and intimacy, exercise her decision-making skills, and assert her independence. It's also a sign that the child feels close to you meaning that he or she is secure enough in your love to know that she can jilt you and still get a warm welcome back. These are all important steps in growing up.
My interest is this is that I was looking into adopting 2 children from China but that appears to not going to happen due to major life changes in my world. However, my own daughter plans to look into international adoption and I have learned alot about it. For those looking into it, I hope it works out. Personally I didn't like being pregnant and giving birth and find it is highly overrated (and wasn't going to do that again!) I'd adopt! We are all adopted at a spiritual level anyway.
Kathylouu 3 weeks ago
without degrees are also intelligent people capable of critical thinking. Common sense (as well as my own experience as a parent) indicated to me that the mother in this vid was hurting. I didn't like it. I offered some advice I thought would help all of them. I'm no expert by any means but I have seen the result of 'daddy's girls' really causing problems in a family's dynamic. If you have a psychology degree you know that! This vid was made months ago, hopefully their daughter has grown.
Kathylouu 3 weeks ago
@Kathylouu I would agree that Xiao Bei should be gently encouraged and praised for steps in the right direction, but never scolded if she prefers dad, since this will only work against them. Xiao Bei is at a stage of venturing out into the world, and then coming back to her "base of comfort" as needed to "refuel" emotionally. As she gains confidence this will naturally abate. Never introduce the idea of either mom or dad being #1 to a child.
GoldenShellback1 3 weeks ago
I don't know why I am continuing to respond but would like to clarify that I live in the land of 'tees, trees, Ph.D's' near Research Triangle Park. As a result I have worked around some of the best educated people in the world My father was a PhD. My spouse was also a graduate of Duke Univeristy. With all of that said, I like to add that degrees are important to an extent (in my less educated opinion) depends of the field. I didn't want to discredit those that have them, only to say many
Kathylouu 3 weeks ago
do they understannd english ?
Shrink18 1 year ago
She is cute but I'd been putting down some ground rules. Xiao is not going to like Dad spending time with Mom. Dad needs to show Xiao that Mom is his #1 or you are in for a big mess which is not going to be good for anybody. Dad, this is cute but I hope you are listening to this advice. I've seen what happens when Daddy's girls try to rule the nest and it is not good for Xiao to develop that attitude. Good luck! Make Mom your # 1 and everyone will be much happier and healthier.
Kathylouu 1 year ago
@Kathylouu Actually, there is nothing wrong with this child spending some time with his dad. And as a child psychologist myself most psychologist would agree that spending more time with either dad or mom is not going to affect the child's relationship with either one. It is also counter-productive if you introduce the idea of either one being #1.
GoldenShellback1 3 weeks ago
@GoldenShellback1 It appears you did not understand my comment. Of course there is nothing wrong with this child spending time with her father & mother. My point is that the father needed to include the mother at the EARLY stages of this relationship when it appears the child wants to exclude the mother. My point is the father needed to send a message to the child that the mother is to be respected. I'm not necessarily impressed by degrees (though I hold a degree myself-not in psychology)
Kathylouu 3 weeks ago
@Kathylouu Playing favorites is actually a sign of emotional and cognitive growth. It helps the child explore relationships and intimacy, exercise her decision-making skills, and assert her independence. It's also a sign that the child feels close to you meaning that he or she is secure enough in your love to know that she can jilt you and still get a warm welcome back. These are all important steps in growing up.
GoldenShellback1 3 weeks ago
Daddy seems to enjoy that his new daughter is all about him!!! TOO CUTE! PROUD PAPA!!!
Christyannky 1 year ago