personally i feel like if you are 100% completely over that person u once dated or had feelings for...then your friend dating that person shouldn't even be an issue. but that's just me. i see what your saying xem. it seems like this happened to you a lot in the past, and maybe that's why you take it so seriously. different things hurt different ppl i guess :o
U are so right, because, in highschool there was or still is that guy from highschool that I still like. But, I had this acquantice of mine who liked the guy that I still had feelings and there it just ended with me and this aquantince somewhat. So I totally agree
xem you're def a bit territorial and controlling...as a fellow dominant personality i would never tell a friend what to do b/c certain things are unspoken...i take everything as a case by case situation but i see where you're coming from!
also those people are their own people not toys for you to play with if a friend develops feeling for an ex then i wish them happiness because im mature enough to know that my ex is moving on and who knows maybe they are soul mates will get married and have a wonderful family who am i to stand in the way
now keeping them separate while your dating that's just common sense but anything after is non of your business because they are their own people
@HWR924 What makes you any better with the negative remarks. It makes you stereotypical as well dude. If he shouldn't have internet connection ! You shouldn't either. Get a clue.
@ByMySide77 I'm far from stereotypical dude but I honestly can see where you're coming from. Am I stereotypical, no ! Was my comment sarcastic, yes ! For that I humbly apologies.
@ByMySide77 I'm far from stereotypical dude but I honestly can see where you're coming from. Am I stereotypical, no ! Was my comment sarcastic, yes ! For that I humbly apologize.
I so agree with this video but to take it a step further none of my friends have ever met my past boifriends or vice versa. I keep them seprate at all time.
i jus fell in love with you, lol i agreee 1000000000000000000% there is no good reason for ur "friends" to ever ever EVER get involved with ur exes especially if it ended bad. smh. some people have no morals. they violate you and get mad when you violate back. but i need not say much because you said jus about every thing that needed to be said. with all the men/women in the world you should be able to find som1 beyond ur friends exes.
I disagree to a degree. if the relationship ends badly, then my friend should have my back and not date this person taking into account my mistreatment. But if we mutually decide that we just aren't right for each other, I wouldn't mind my friend exploring the relationship. he may be wrong for me but right for one of my friends. why let the fact that I had him first stand in the way of someone else I care about finding true happiness? but you may only have him when I'm done.
i understand the concept of 'the velvet rope' to some degree, but in reality, if your 'friends' and exes want to hook up it's going to happen regardless of your expectations.
Xem... omg I agree with you 200% i was once in that very same situation. I had a gay friend whos man was attracted to me and omg Xem, dude was FINE but I had my best friend at the time and we were like ben and jerry tight. They break up and one day ol boy starts hitting on me and saying that he wanted me the moment he saw me I couldn't do that to my friend Xem.. i just couldn't. Made me feel horrible.. how could anyone do that and call themselves true friends. So I agree with you Xem. Love Ya
It is a touchy subject, but I think everyone has a right to be loved and to love. Just because that persone wasn't right for you doesn't give anyone the right to tell someone else that they are off limits simply because I've 'talked' to them before. Even if nothing else was pursued. Like they say, one man's trash is another man's goldmine. Don't stop someone else from being happy with your ex or slosh because frankly you don't have any say in who they hang with or talk to anyway. My Opinion
I agree with some things you said, but I just have to disagree with you on not seeing anyone who you've 'talked' to. In all honesty I think it's very selfish of someone to say that no one is allowed to date someone just because you dated, talked, gotten a number from, what have you. What if your boyfriend was someone's friend before you got together? Are they still not allowed to hang out together? Are they still not allowed to talk even though they were friends before he met you?
So In other words.. DON"T DATE XEMVANADAMS....lol.... Dating tho! That a lil different! Come On.. Dating.... Depends on how long you dated that person.... All the others I agree on!
All I could think of as you expressed your excellent view here is how much I wanted to be on my knees between your legs servicing your glorious honey brown turgid manhood while you talk about boundaries.
You see: no one would know that I'm down there like a dog under the camera angle gobblin' up that scooby snack...no one would know!
So I'll just dream about it: each time you vlog I'll imagine being down there loving you in ways that only a toothless human vacuum can...
well this entails that your friends know everyone that you sleep with, and can we say that our friends know this? saying well u can't date him cuz we slept together really is kind of weak because that person was merely a FVCK (hence categorizing dating, sleeping with and being in a relationship with).Basically are we saying that before your friends date sum1, they need to make sure u havent done them, had coffee with them or "cuddled" with them? If you are truly over them, what does it matter?
I agree that there is a "velvet rope" or "unwritten rule" that friends share when it comes to the ex. But here's where I play devils advocate: how long can you really keep that rope up. Say you dated a guy in high school. You mean to tell me your friends can't get on now that you're 30! There has to be a time limit otherwise it could go on forever and that will keep a person acting childish forever.
EXACTLY!!!.. it's no reason for yall to even meet.. it's no reason for yall to Converse!!!.. you got friends... why do you need to be friends with my significant other... and when my friends break up with their peoples... our friendship it other like madea said "you don't leave no girl with your man... or your gay best friend "LOL
THANK YOU!!!!! i think that is sooooo wrong. It disgust me lol when i've been in a realtionship with someone and we break up, that should not become your new best friend or "booskie". and if they do then that makes you a triflin friend
There should definitely be a velvet rope drawn but if my bestfriend tries to hook me up wit his EX then what am I supposed to do??? lol JK but I do agree on the Velvet rope though Xem.
I agree 100% also. You should never, ever date someone that was in a relationsdhip with your best friend or vice versa. That's an unwritten rule of true friendship no matter how attractive the person is I couldn't do it. I value my friendship more then a fling and most of the time it's only going to be a fling anyway and you end loosing in the end.
There is no reason for your friend to be in communication with your boyfriend/girlfriend/lover/ex/etc unless they were in communication before you and that person were involved.
I agree with you Xem, I was dating this guy and while I was in the hospital recovering from surgery he exchanged numbers with one of me female friends. They both said that it was so she could get the hospital info to visit me. next thing i know me and homegirl are in a van coming back from a trip at like 10pm and she's sitting right behind me talking to my man on he phone. I was pissed and i cut them both off for a while.
personally i feel like if you are 100% completely over that person u once dated or had feelings for...then your friend dating that person shouldn't even be an issue. but that's just me. i see what your saying xem. it seems like this happened to you a lot in the past, and maybe that's why you take it so seriously. different things hurt different ppl i guess :o
mcorey88 1 month ago
You are a shrill harpy.
GingerDemarque 4 months ago
U are so right, because, in highschool there was or still is that guy from highschool that I still like. But, I had this acquantice of mine who liked the guy that I still had feelings and there it just ended with me and this aquantince somewhat. So I totally agree
Sydwazi20 5 months ago
I'm actually disgusted with some of the comments made on here.
ByMySide77 1 year ago
well i do'nt know about this because my frinends never dating my ex
spokenwordable 1 year ago
xem you're def a bit territorial and controlling...as a fellow dominant personality i would never tell a friend what to do b/c certain things are unspoken...i take everything as a case by case situation but i see where you're coming from!
jaybee316 1 year ago
dude you make some good points but you take it to far
Leadman1989 1 year ago
@Leadman1989
also those people are their own people not toys for you to play with if a friend develops feeling for an ex then i wish them happiness because im mature enough to know that my ex is moving on and who knows maybe they are soul mates will get married and have a wonderful family who am i to stand in the way
now keeping them separate while your dating that's just common sense but anything after is non of your business because they are their own people
Leadman1989 1 year ago
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HWR924 1 year ago
@HWR924 What makes you any better with the negative remarks. It makes you stereotypical as well dude. If he shouldn't have internet connection ! You shouldn't either. Get a clue.
ByMySide77 1 year ago
@ByMySide77 I'm far from stereotypical dude but I honestly can see where you're coming from. Am I stereotypical, no ! Was my comment sarcastic, yes ! For that I humbly apologies.
ByMySide77 1 year ago
@ByMySide77 I'm far from stereotypical dude but I honestly can see where you're coming from. Am I stereotypical, no ! Was my comment sarcastic, yes ! For that I humbly apologize.
ByMySide77 1 year ago
I so agree with this video but to take it a step further none of my friends have ever met my past boifriends or vice versa. I keep them seprate at all time.
edgycouture 1 year ago
i jus fell in love with you, lol i agreee 1000000000000000000% there is no good reason for ur "friends" to ever ever EVER get involved with ur exes especially if it ended bad. smh. some people have no morals. they violate you and get mad when you violate back. but i need not say much because you said jus about every thing that needed to be said. with all the men/women in the world you should be able to find som1 beyond ur friends exes.
miiszwayncecarter 2 years ago
I disagree to a degree. if the relationship ends badly, then my friend should have my back and not date this person taking into account my mistreatment. But if we mutually decide that we just aren't right for each other, I wouldn't mind my friend exploring the relationship. he may be wrong for me but right for one of my friends. why let the fact that I had him first stand in the way of someone else I care about finding true happiness? but you may only have him when I'm done.
desertflow3r 2 years ago
but what if you were having trouble getting over them and your friend dated them?
Fogellizicious 2 years ago
A G R E E D:.
fashionmeup 2 years ago
HELL YEA I AGREE!?!(^_^)
ajisbossy 2 years ago
i understand the concept of 'the velvet rope' to some degree, but in reality, if your 'friends' and exes want to hook up it's going to happen regardless of your expectations.
altrie22 2 years ago
Xem... omg I agree with you 200% i was once in that very same situation. I had a gay friend whos man was attracted to me and omg Xem, dude was FINE but I had my best friend at the time and we were like ben and jerry tight. They break up and one day ol boy starts hitting on me and saying that he wanted me the moment he saw me I couldn't do that to my friend Xem.. i just couldn't. Made me feel horrible.. how could anyone do that and call themselves true friends. So I agree with you Xem. Love Ya
vdjdtx 3 years ago 4
omg i agree i agree
kandykarmel2009 3 years ago
i agree hundred
ShortyFem314 3 years ago
PREACH ON BRORTHA......i agree with you 100% there should be a velvet rope betweens your luvers and friends point blank
chicbella84 3 years ago
within two minutes you already had an "absolute" statement...
"Only the sith deals in absolute...."
Nothing in life is absolute except death and taxes...
abercromboict 3 years ago
i agree 100% nuff said ... its a conflict of intrest
tim2469 3 years ago
i feel u xem!!!!!! i got a friend that doesnt understand the velvet rope!!
Dat29boi414 3 years ago
I feels you Xem!!
Lol and the part about talking to the young folk Lmfao.dats exactly how they do it.
pathetic!!
I always say you that damn desperate you cant find your own? Lol but
i agree 1000 percent with ya!
devybear14 3 years ago
It is a touchy subject, but I think everyone has a right to be loved and to love. Just because that persone wasn't right for you doesn't give anyone the right to tell someone else that they are off limits simply because I've 'talked' to them before. Even if nothing else was pursued. Like they say, one man's trash is another man's goldmine. Don't stop someone else from being happy with your ex or slosh because frankly you don't have any say in who they hang with or talk to anyway. My Opinion
smoothinak 3 years ago
I agree with some things you said, but I just have to disagree with you on not seeing anyone who you've 'talked' to. In all honesty I think it's very selfish of someone to say that no one is allowed to date someone just because you dated, talked, gotten a number from, what have you. What if your boyfriend was someone's friend before you got together? Are they still not allowed to hang out together? Are they still not allowed to talk even though they were friends before he met you?
smoothinak 3 years ago
i agree...
great vid
mct1516 3 years ago
i totally agree
ThaRock90 3 years ago
So In other words.. DON"T DATE XEMVANADAMS....lol.... Dating tho! That a lil different! Come On.. Dating.... Depends on how long you dated that person.... All the others I agree on!
Jazzmen63 3 years ago
I SO AGREE!!!!! I have lost a friend behind this very subject....
shawty747 3 years ago
I AGREE 150%!!!!
JAV0N 3 years ago
All I could think of as you expressed your excellent view here is how much I wanted to be on my knees between your legs servicing your glorious honey brown turgid manhood while you talk about boundaries.
You see: no one would know that I'm down there like a dog under the camera angle gobblin' up that scooby snack...no one would know!
So I'll just dream about it: each time you vlog I'll imagine being down there loving you in ways that only a toothless human vacuum can...
melancholyguy 3 years ago
well this entails that your friends know everyone that you sleep with, and can we say that our friends know this? saying well u can't date him cuz we slept together really is kind of weak because that person was merely a FVCK (hence categorizing dating, sleeping with and being in a relationship with).Basically are we saying that before your friends date sum1, they need to make sure u havent done them, had coffee with them or "cuddled" with them? If you are truly over them, what does it matter?
delugeofsanity 3 years ago
Find some integrity PEOPLE!
In total agreement.
That's why HIV wipes out circles of friends.
dafilla 3 years ago
I agree but it's also because people insist on sex without condoms (or "bare-backing).
melancholyguy 3 years ago
I agree that there is a "velvet rope" or "unwritten rule" that friends share when it comes to the ex. But here's where I play devils advocate: how long can you really keep that rope up. Say you dated a guy in high school. You mean to tell me your friends can't get on now that you're 30! There has to be a time limit otherwise it could go on forever and that will keep a person acting childish forever.
313AKA 3 years ago
i totally agree,lol i have friends just like that not cool at all
latoyaeyes 3 years ago
I CONCUR. 5 phuckin stars.
RootsRunDeeep 3 years ago
you are so right.
jonescan88 3 years ago
i agree with u
dbones1984 3 years ago
EXACTLY!!!.. it's no reason for yall to even meet.. it's no reason for yall to Converse!!!.. you got friends... why do you need to be friends with my significant other... and when my friends break up with their peoples... our friendship it other like madea said "you don't leave no girl with your man... or your gay best friend "LOL
bigboi0516 3 years ago
THANK YOU!!!!! i think that is sooooo wrong. It disgust me lol when i've been in a realtionship with someone and we break up, that should not become your new best friend or "booskie". and if they do then that makes you a triflin friend
dmr1018 3 years ago
I don't agree.
I like to know all of my boyfriend's friends and associates.
I do agree with you though on the point that I do not need to talk or hang out with his friends if he is not around.
mauriceD0514 3 years ago
lol typical male jealousy...
I DEFINITELY AGREE!!
THAT SHIT IS SICK!!!
Whats mine is mine...dont touch it!!!
LilMarty1721 3 years ago
very angry :)
hottesthotboi 3 years ago
Agreed. lol this is the second time u had to address this, and its so true. I love the emotion behind it.
cnorthrop11 3 years ago
Agreed...
i'd get paranoid if my boyfriend was bi. i have a lot of girl friends, so he could move onto them at anytime.
and about the ex thing, if i seriously liked someones ex i'd ask them how they felt about it before going any further.
terrible situation to be in though..
x
RossclartRETROGRADE 3 years ago
I totally agree! Lost two very good friends, with this same situation!!!!
sweetdybear46 3 years ago
I agree, BUT WHAT ABOUT SEX PARTNERS. IF IT WAS JUST SEX. LET YOUR FRIENDS HAVE THEM. BUT IT WOULD BE AWKWARD? ILL HAVE TO CONSIDER THAT
masterdoa 3 years ago
oh hell yea we could have broken up 100 years ago my ex and my friend is a no go.
BRESLINE 3 years ago
ouch!! sounds like something triggered this salvo!
jumperbumperr 3 years ago
But Xem, what if your friend's time parallel's cross with yours... .....
LovemsPatti 3 years ago
I can understand how you feel on that, XEM... I can Rrrreally understand it. I'm thinking of someone right now...
LovemsPatti 3 years ago
Great in a perfect world, but in general it ain't gonna happen........
jaelavee 3 years ago
There should definitely be a velvet rope drawn but if my bestfriend tries to hook me up wit his EX then what am I supposed to do??? lol JK but I do agree on the Velvet rope though Xem.
K7J7P2 3 years ago
true.
lilboybrownie 3 years ago
I agree 100% also. You should never, ever date someone that was in a relationsdhip with your best friend or vice versa. That's an unwritten rule of true friendship no matter how attractive the person is I couldn't do it. I value my friendship more then a fling and most of the time it's only going to be a fling anyway and you end loosing in the end.
parrishrturner 3 years ago
I know that's right Parrish!
sfcalvinaz 3 years ago
There is no reason for your friend to be in communication with your boyfriend/girlfriend/lover/ex/etc unless they were in communication before you and that person were involved.
KristenElese88 3 years ago
I agree with you Xem, I was dating this guy and while I was in the hospital recovering from surgery he exchanged numbers with one of me female friends. They both said that it was so she could get the hospital info to visit me. next thing i know me and homegirl are in a van coming back from a trip at like 10pm and she's sitting right behind me talking to my man on he phone. I was pissed and i cut them both off for a while.
KristenElese88 3 years ago
i agree with that 100%.never date anyone you are your friends dated in the pass period!
chinaberry06 3 years ago