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  • im a good looking SAD, its weird, women try to talk to me all the time but i just end up creeping them out.

  • i have SAD too.

  • Let me guess, your symptoms started few months up to a year after receiving vaccine or injection. Mercury and aluminum in vaccines overcharge amygdala in brain, which is for primal anxiety. Liver is for eliminating the poison, but our body needs to be alkaline. Lot of fresh vegetables, mix everything. No processed salt, just natural sea salt. It does work, but slow in my case as my liver seems to be damaged from poison and medications, I drank some crap for stomach and some sedatives too.

  • Yes I experience the feeling of wanting to disappear and it's horrible. I wish I knew a friend who had Social anxiety then together we could work together you know. But I have friends who don't have this problem :/ There all really sociable.

  • I totally get what you mean about the mouth quivering thing! It happens to me as well.. It happened the other day on the bus :/

  • you're hot.

  • omg, you're soooo incredibly good-looking. i wish i looked like you!

    i prolly have social anxiety. very insecure about my looks and height. never had a girlfriend. very bad social skills. my personanlity is terrible.

  • I think you should join a website lik Mapofmates. com. We are not alone :D

  • i have social phobia to some extent and i've found that analysing everything about a social situation and practising daily self talk that i dont care has helped. egs: situation i might get approval /i might get dissaproval - self talk i dont care what anyone says i couldnt care less; situation what ever comes out of my mouth is fine- self talk as above; situation i dont care if they talk or not or conversation goes quiet - self talk as above. Theme - i dont care who gives a rats fucken ass

  • i KNOW THE CURE FOR SOCIAL ANXIETY...IT WAS SOOOO EASY FOR ME TO GET OVER IT..THATS WHY IM TYPING IN CAPS..I HAD THIS UP UNTIL MY 19 BIRTHDAY 2 WEEKS AGO...IF YOU TRULY WANT TO GET OVER THIS..UNDERSTAND THIS..AND I MEAN UNDERSTAND THIS...YOU MUST TALK TO PEOPLE..I KNOW ITS AQWARD BUT GUESS WHAT...EVERYONE IS UNCOMFORTABLE IN PUBLIC TO AN EXTENT...THE ONLY WAY TO GET OVER THIS IS TO TALK..THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK..IT MAKES IT EASY..ANY QUESTIONS. MESSAGE ME..I CAN HELP YOU AND WANT TO..PEACE!!!!

  • Aren't you afraid that people you know will somehow see your video on youtube? I mean, not that you should be, but since I have social anxiety, I'm really afraid of that! So I have never made a video.

  • its kinda hard to grasp that someone as GOOD LOOKING AS YOU! can also suffer from social anxiety..i guess it goes to show SA is indiscriminate..i suffer from SA because of my low self esteem and poor body image :(

  • i have this and it prevented me from developing a personality and now im convinced that personalities dont exist and that everyone is being fake. I think everyone is like me but i guess there not. im a robotic analyzer in a body and i dont have a second in the day to express emotion or express myself because there isnt a me to express nor would i want to be fake. Im unreal, i feel like a god, but its crazy to think there are other hermits if i met them i would be scared

  • I have this weird habit where I rehearse what I am going to say to people in the mirror but it usually just makes me feel worse so I try not to focus on myself so much and that usually does the trick...

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  • Social phobia essentially is a good thing. Through evolution our freeze/fight/flight responses have been coupled with physical eg. more rapid heart beat, muscles tightened to fight etc. components to cope with a perceived threat. Social phobia involves overharnessing our bodily resources to cope with social ( potentially threatening ) situations. Analogy like using a sledge hammer to crack a walnut. So social phobia is too much of a good thing.

  • What about bus stops? In one of the bigger cities somewhere? Everyone might wait for the bus. Both genders, all ages. It has to be the right bus stop, in a way. One with a bench to sit on, for example. If you are there first and someone comes along to wait? You have a legitimation to TALK to such a person. And you can REPEAT that endlessly. You might even be able to do that at night, if buses drive. It does not work at an underground station, strangely.

  • This video has really helped me plz dont stop posting videos. It is great to see people that deal with this. :)

  • I experience the voice thinnnnnnnng

  • If you and I got together it would be just one big lip quivering mess hahaha... could not stop laughing when I realized there IS another person that has a quivering lip... although must say mine is less noticeable.. I hope :)

  • Hi,

    Im proud of having social anxiety disorder....i have decided that i have this disorder because if you think about it..we all have this disorder...there is literally infinite ways of explaining to anyone that they have this. Specially when talking in simple terms. (yes i know it gets a little bit deeper to all the extreme skeptics) BUT im trying to teach a valid point so please let it be and open up a bit. :)

  • *Here is one way we have this disorder in my metaphorical way of looking at it...just replace the idea of socail anxiety disorder with ideas that are contrary to your beliefs or ideas that emotionally bug u.

    *Basically it depends on who you are as a person. Like i said. I am diagnosing myself with this disorder!

  • *PUT THE VIDEO TO 40 SECONDS. replace the idea of social anxiety disorder with money...or anything else that is wrong with this world today... and see how well that sentence fits into place...**now this is definitely not a good way of finding info***...but then again...it is, in a sense that people sometimes just dont know how small of a box they are in!!

  • Great video, thanks for posting it, I will be back for another look when I have more time as I am late for work.

    Don't you love how work interupts your life? NOT!

  • your so adorable. It's weird that your like this, I have always thought that hotness is the key to confidence-guess not.

  • Why did you talk to the hairdresser? Just for the sake of talking? NEVER DO THIS!!!

    Before talking to anyone, you have to make a CONNECTION. Otherwise, people will see you as a NEEDY person seeking attention. CONNECT before you talk.

  • Search my channel for a documentary on "Afraid of People: A Social Anxiety Disorder Documentary"

  • I feel even worse watching videos like this because everyone that has it is really good looking and I feel like I'm the only bad looking social phobic.

  • @theamvgirlx

    Aww dont say that. I think pretty much everyone with social phobia feels like that about themselves and it's never true. When my SA was at it's worst, during my teens, I was convinced that I was utterly repulsive and some days I couldnt even look myself in the mirror. But - it - is - not - true - naughty - naughty - slap - your - wrists.

  • @BulletProofMonkeon subscribe to me. i have social anxiety videos as well.

  • @theamvgirlx Its a sad realization when you know that you are not attractive. But this usually is noticed at an early age growing up. Once you get into the real world everything seems to become a lot less shallow. When people are on their own, they are a lot more friendly towards others regardless of appearance. Ive learned to see through appearances. I find that a lot of the best people are unattractive because of they way they have always been treated.

  • I'm also glad so many people are coming forward with their SA on youtube. It's a great way to give a voice to the people who feel they don't have one!

  • "hallo youchoob"

  • thanks for doing this vid, i think im gona make one too except i'll prob jus sit there silent like i do anyways :(

    p.s. i love the solid snake analgy i can totally relate... pisses me off when people cant hear me :(

  • I find several beers helps.

  • u r amazing. Mt bro have SAD and he is also fighting back.

  • I have the same feelings except I'm not brave enough to appear on camera. I mask my feelings in my Mario LPs with my commentary pretty much (in my other youtube channel).

  • thank you for doing these videos mark. im 21 and i suffer from the same problem, and minus the accent we could be twins. I just admitted to myself today that i have a serious problem and im not going to allow it to run my life anymore. this is not part of our personality and it's not the way we were meant to live. hopefully with the right medication paired with cognitive behavioral therapy, i can get my life back. thank you for being so brave as to share such a personal disorder with everyone

  • If u came up to me, I'd give u all the time u need to say what u had to say. U could even take a seat across from me while u sort it all out & compose yourself. U r freakn gorgeous! ;-)

  • well done I think its fantastic what your doing :)

  • shaky voice,,, thats one of my symptoms....

  • nice vid keep it up,,,, stay strong!

  • i have a blushing phobia and it really sucks! i really enjoy your videos! :)

  • I really like all of your videos! :)

  • but you're hot!! n have a nice accent. don't have social phobia!!! ... You speak well too... I think you're motivated enough to find a solution.... I have legit bipolar 1... i get paranoid delusions... high school was fun for me too...

  • The worst part is, is explaining to someone, then getting the reaction "well i get shy etc" "you should just suck it up" I rly feel like telling these people to get fucked.

  • hey mark :) good vid dude

  • I actually enjoy hiberating - it gives me a chance to restore my batteries.

  • I bet you have a great sense of humor under all the sa. Hopefully you can release it and be free from this hell.

  • Hi Mark my recommendation may be Concerta its originally developet for add/adhd but works for anxiety too. If it helps live me a comment!

  • there is more people that suffer from this then u think including me.

  • heyyy ur vidz are soo cooooll and ur cool i got this 2 im 23 yrs old and i feel like my lifes just passin me by neways keep it up and have u tried the linden method???

  • I have a biiig social fobia too :(

  • you are very handsome and lovely

  • Mark, Social anxiety eventually leads to age related depression. And it begins with ADD (if you're sedentary and fearful by nature) and ADHD (if you're hyperactive and angry by nature), this stuff pre-dates social anxiety. It's a vicious cycle all about emotional control and social awareness and it leads to all of this other stuff including social anxiety disorder.

  • i wanted to dissapear too lol.i deleted everything on all my profiles and disapeared from everyone for a year.

  • I disappeared for a year from my blog and then went back on again as people missed me.

  • my profile is normally very thin and often with no pic. I am not brave enough to be on Youtube, although I wanted to. I keep thinking my employers or future employers will see it. Maybe when I retire.

  • hi im 16, i have the same problem i went to the doctor and had a few problems, now talking about this person to person affects me emotionaly i was at the doctors and i broke down i tryed to talk my lips kept shaking my face froze up my, also i havent started college because of this fear of people looking at me and judging my looks, i feel like i want to change who i am become somone else that sounds pretty weird and i dont know what to do

  • wow, I'm glad I started to search this topic b/c I was feeling all alone on this problems I have. I totally relate to your comment! You are not alone and I guess neither am I. :)

  • have you tried the CBT dvd series by Dr. Thomas Richards at the Social Anxitety institute in Phoenix, AZ? I just started it. A lot of people say it's very helpful.

  • nice job mark. your bravery is inspiring. i have all the same problems you do. i know it's particulary frustration when, as in your case, you don't look lie a "shy' person.

  • thanks for posting this video Mark. Sometimes its easy to forget that there are othere people out there who suffer from the same thing. Ive had social anxiety all my life and sometimes its more severe than other times. I find I can hardly ever be myself in front of people, so much so that im not even sure who I am...does that make sense? Anyway, im looking forward to watching the rest of your posts. Keep up the good work.

  • I know exactly what you mean about the face , my face always feels really stiff

  • We all need a break to hibernate

  • I've watched a couple these vids & all your old ones thus far. I can relate very much. You've expressed extremely well.

    I moved all growing up.Only child.Isolated myself as an adult.Basically alone my whole life & very depressed/frustrated. Rather than college I work at a factory away from the public my grandfather had worked at.

    The last several yrs I've just shaved my head.I'm so uncomfortable being that intimately close to a stranger for extended period.

    Your Snake clip was very funny.

  • Thanks for all your honesty, its inspiring to hear you speak about your symptoms, I can relate to your videos and almost all the other ones on here too. I admire all you all, you all are the bravest people.!!!

  • I'm pretty sure I have Social Phobia... I'm trying to get to a doctor but we have no money and it seems like my mom doesn't care or something. She keeps putting it off... like I'll grow out of it. It's so hard... =/

  • Social Phobia, aka 'Social Anxiety' effects people in vastly different ways. Some people with SAD may have no problem in certain social instances where others would be completely petrified.

    Simply put, not all cases of SAD are the same.

  • I've been making videos for nearly 2 years now. It wasnt easy at first, but I got more confident the more I did it. Get your facts straight first before you insult people.

  • if i saw you in public or school, judging by your looks, i would never have guessed you had social phobia. you seem like the cool and calm type of guy.

  • @Sonicku mate this guy has really helped me whether or not you believe he has social anxiety. Personally the guys about as genuine as they come you can see it in his body language and no matter we all have challenges in life and its healthy to share, and maybe one day we can all start accepting each other. Like now im accepting you and all your unaddressed anger :)

  • What can a guy in grad school with SAD which manifests through excessive sweating do?

  • get botox, that's what I do

  • Hey - if you can't afford botox or don't want injections - there is a pharmacy strength antiperspirant called Drychlor that works well. Or beta-blockers from your doctor for occasional use

  • illouie,

    ask your derma. for a prescription of Robinul(pill form). You may have side-effects you may not want, but do your research, and decide if you think its worth it.

  • Thanks, but I've chosen group cognitive-behavioral therapy. I'm not one for taking meds. It all starts with a thought!

  • Very nice video man.

    I've had SAD myself most of my life (i'm 33 now) but it really went out of control when I was about 24. Since then I've been working out my own solutions and I've gotten to a point where I think I'm starting to get back my life. I'm going to post videos on my own theories to cope with SAD. English is not my first language so it could take a bit though.

  • My voice gets courser aswell.

  • i have social anxiety too. people intimidate me. everytime they say something about me i take it really personal

  • Thank you for doing this video.

  • I'm a blusher and I cant stand it. Its like a snowball affect. I get nervous and blush and feel my face heat up, then I get even more nervous and blush even more and its a never ending cycle of embarrasment.

  • my tension is always on my eyes, either it got too big and scary, that makes me blink unnaturally or I will try to make it look nature but overdoing it, so it ended up looking sleepy, the worst thing is that i lost all my concentration when I talk to people or when I work, I am always worry people would look at me and notice my eyes.

  • one of the best things to do is learning deep relaxation before forth coming events, and the best relaxation technique to do so is Yoga Nidra, it helps with all sorts of nervousness, fear and stress related problems by way of balancing and harmonising both brain hemispheres as well as relaxing the body perfectly. Its always available on ebay, look for the title

    "Yoga Nidra total relaxation no more tension"

  • sweet! I think I'll give it a try. Thanks!

  • cool, I strongly believe that this will help you to, I had a violent childhood and suffered from several phobias at once. Practising Yoga Nidra helped me a lot and now I am a practising hypnotherapist helping others. I can speak in front of groups, be out and about and feel free and relaxed in almost all situations. Don't think that this is a permanent condition, it certainly can be treated. The platform to act from is deep inner peace and self acceptance

  • @devarsi i'm sorry devarsi, my therapist is the most respected in the UK on anxiety disorders and disagrees with you. relaxation does not help you overcome anxiety. attention training helps you overcome the anxiety. it's kinda like using a cream that makes your skin nice for 2 hours but after that two hours your skin is worse as a result. that's what the relaxation stuff is like.

  • My face goes bright red instead of the lip thing lol

  • I can somewhat relate with the hair dresser incident, except for me, it's like I have trouble talking in general. My words will feel like they drop the floor and it will take a great deal of effort to release and express my voice. It's bizzar, and it's really annoying when it happens! It's probably a conspiracy!

  • Greetings from Rhode Island, USA.

    Just a note to thank you for posting this and to remind you that you're not alone. I'm 31 years old and have suffered from SAD for most of my life. It's kept me out of work for a number of years and has really limited my life in other ways. I haven't tried medication and really don't want to, but I've been seeing a social worker for several months now and he seems to be helping. It takes time. Hang in there!

  • sound like me

    u're not alone man

  • I have SA pretty bad. I have a few close friends that I do pretty well around, but I find I can only be myself around my immediate family. It is very comforting seeing other people on youtube experiencing the same thing as myself.

    Anyone have any proven methods or treatment for this?  :/

  • ive had sad for 4 years its really not nice thanks for this video is helpful

  • Hey i'm 17 and have had social anxiety disorder since i was 11, wow all i can say is well done on speaking about this on youtube, that is a massive step and even though i dont know you i'm really proud of you! :)

  • have a look at my video its very interesting and helps! its about the link between social anxiety and body language.

  • I agree with you kristonics

  • We all need to stop caring about what others think to the extent that we do.

  • And you look like a super cool guy that has loads of friends and a hot chick girlfriend. It's so weird, i have SAD too but i look so fucking normal and i don't get it. I blush alot too and i think that's why i have a social phobia. I diagnosed myself with this by the way i didn't go too a doctor or anything,

  • @KnightQuickness72 same to me lol  im gorgeous

  • the other a rare thing happened, i smiled at a young attractive lady and not expecting even a smile back, (as usually is the case), she actually made eye contact and made a flirtatious comment..not expecting this & in the process of turning a corner I didn't hear her..i said 'sorry?' and she repeated the flirtatious comment, though i could see she was red in the face and nervous to say something to me..by the time i'd clicked what she'd said and that she Was flirting she walked past..no luck!!

  • I have social anxiety too, but in my case it's even worse than you, you look normal, me, I'm a robot or something, I'm not even human.

  • I feel your pain, I cannot even look people in the eye

  • Hiya i've had social phobia for 15 years half my life... whats the best way to get better..?? cbt?

    Thankyou

  • I sounded just like that when i was painfully trying to chat up a georgeouse girl i also have S.A.D

  • I no the feel of trying to hide. I have made websites and within 2 days of sharing about my life I deleted them so now I will stick with keeping them up :-) Good Video

  • Dude, i wanna hang out with you man. seriously.

  • This video is great (:

    i have social anxiety to,

    what a bummerr :(

    like 4 years, with counceling still hasent helped, i might start posting some videos, but i havent got a clue what to say lol

  • Yeah man, whenever i make videos i feel good about myself, keep makin them bro, good luck!

  • Great to have you back :)

  • It was a loss for the social anxiety-community on youtube when you decided to stop making videos, so thanks so much for deciding to make videos again. You are right, people who dare to talk openly about their problems are a huge inspiration, and a comfort. I've though about making videos many times myself, but I havent got the self-esteem to do that just yet. Btw, I think its healthy to take a step back from time to time and just "pause" things. But you came back and I think thats a wise choice.

  • I am glad to have found your videos. I have alot to watch. I used to suffer from SA and now it has morphed into a generalized anxiety with OCD. Lovely :) have a great day-

  • You should do a video on dating and women mate I would be interested to hear your input on that topic.

  • yo my bro i hear very high things about you from draperture or andy john pitcher...keen to hear more from you my man

  • Thanks mate, big fan of your vids. Keep em coming!

  • I know exactly what your saying. It's the first time i have looked this up and your vid was the only one i've watched. I have all of your symptoms. The lip and mouth movements too when speaking. It's involuntary and feels like i'm having tiny muscle spasms. That then sets off incredible anxiety and just wanting to walk away.However, it doesn't always happen. I even had very small periods when i've had no symptoms and my social confidence was brilliant. Your very brave and inspirational mate!!!

  • It's good to see that you're back.

  • Welcome back!

  • It seems we share a couple of the same symptoms. While talking to people my voice is tense. If I've been talking for a while (which is rare) my vocal cords gets sore from the tension. It affects the sound of my voice which I hate, I have to make a conscious effort to modulate my voice so it doesn't sound wierd. Also, my upper lip becomes stiff when I'm nervous and speaking to someone. I thought those things were unique to me, it's nice to know I'm not the only one. Keep the vids coming!

  • YES!! That is exactly it! It's so difficult for me to relax my vocal chords, because if I do, my voice goes into a high pitch...a bit like a boy who's just started puberty, lol! So I have to really force my voice through that voice box and it gets so tiring on my throat.

  • Hi! I used to watch your videos before, i'm glad you're posting new ones cause you really helped me understand that there are other people out there that look so perfect on the outside but still have the same disorder that I have.

    I wish that I could be as brave os you and post videos but I live in Sweden and it's such a small country that I'm afraid that people would recognize me. I know it's stupid but i'm afraid that people will find out my secret, that I have SA.

    Anywho, welcome back!

  • Hey thanks! I know what you mean. It's hard letting people know that you're shy. But even harder trying to keep it a secret I find.

  • Great video dude. I can so relate to everything u said

  • Thanks, knobslap. Lol, awesome name :D

  • good to have you back. i know exactly what youre talking about. my throat tenses up too.

  • But look on the bright side. You get to sound like Solid Snake :D

  • Well look at you...welcome back. You know, as soon as I started feeling uncomfortable when talking to someone...I put the emphasis back onto them....like "and what about you? how have you been?" people like to know you're interested in them and it gives you a minute to readjust with them. Here's to you Mark, look forward to seeing more vids if you feel like continuing.

  • Thats a good tip! For some reason I feel so uncomfortable asking people questions, but thats something I'll need to work on.

  • Glad you're back, looking forward to hearing how things have been going with you.

    I really should play the MGS games sometime...

  • Thanks!

    Yeah you gotta play MGS, you're missing out! :P

  • Anyone know if it's possible to get rid of shyness and Blushing constatly in stupid situations withing 9 month's before is start college?!?!?!?!

    Please let me know!

  • It took me a long time to reduce my blushing. I'm not even sure how I did it. I think maybe it was a result of an increase in confidence as I got older. I'm sure the same will happen for you, just dont put a time limit on it. Become comfortable with blushing in front of people and sure enough you wont blush so regularly.

  • Waaa! I see the comment system is still as screwy as ever :S

  • Hi. Social anxiety is a shitter! I use to have it really bad, so bad that i couldn't/wouldn't speak to anyone on the phone, have anyone in my house and even people knocking at my door would spiral me into a full blown panic attack.

    Look forward to the rest of your videos..

  • Welcome back, used to enjoy your videos.

    Did you ever get your cbt started? as I think you mentioned you had some problems with the place?

    If people have anxiety problems theres a uk website called livinglifetothefull if you google that you can do a free course online which talks about depression/anxiety.

    Also might be worth getting cbt for dummies book and the workbook for it on amazon.

  • No i still havent been able to get it. So I've just started doing the Dr. Richards CBT. It looks like a lot of people use it, so I'll give it a bash.

  • Welcome back. I really like your videos.

  • Nice to see you back - missed your videos :)

  • Great to see you're back. I'm looking forward to your new videos.

  • i lol'd when u got upclose and personal with ur lips spazzed out! i experience the same throat tension too!!! but the blushing bothers me the most! great video!

  • Oh yes, blushing has to be the worst thing ever. My cheeks have a natural redness anyway, but that makes it even worse when I blush!

  • I'm so glad I didnt have any bogeys/boogers up my nose when I did that. Heh heh heh.

  • A year and a half ago I used to watch your videos about social anxiety and could complete relate. I've recently discovered that 'social anxiety' has been more of a symptom of an underlying problem for me more than anything. I've found out I've had lymes disease which can have a significant psychological and physical impact on you. I've also discovered that I have some endocrine problems. Fixing these underlying problems got me to the root of my anxiety problems. I believe this is very important.

  • Yeah I think a lot of my underlying problems are to do with my appearance. I have low self esteem so I think I stand out when I'm out and about. I feel like I need to dress a certain way to fit in sometimes. But thats just one of many problems fueling the SA.

  • I don't know if I have social anxiety; but I do have problems with getting out of the house (including the car). I also just don't like most people.lol But I get what you're saying. It is very hard and can be difficult to explain to others.

  • Oh I hate getting out of the car. When I'm inside it's like a little portable safety zone.

  • great to see you back! hope you are doing well

  • Thank you! Yeah I'm doing ok :)

  • It's great to see you back, you seem so confident now, it's really amazing. I hope things are going well for you.

  • Things are better than before but I think I still have my work cut out. There's so many things that I need to work on.

  • That's so awesome to hear things are better for you, you are going to have let us in on your secret :P.

  • Well, things are slightly better. I think it was going to college that really gave me the boost in confidence that I needed. My self esteem has been pretty low since I quit my job years ago.

  • I was so disappointed when you left. Now I'm so glad you're back. I have SAD and loathe having to go get my haircut. At college I also avoided the cafeteria or "canteen" as you call it. I think the hardest part of having SAD is the isolation we feel and can't describe to other people.

  • Yeah it's hard trying to get 'normal' people to understand it. I think thats why I like coming here, because people here know exactly what it's like.

  • yaa your back

  • ...and this time it's personal

  • Welcome Back! YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

  • That's what I said!

  • lol thanks!

  • Welcome back to the land of the living!  You seem much more relaxed than before