Actually watching this video i realized something, that i also do this, i say we, you etc, I thought why do i do this, possibly i think im like everyone else and share common experiences, thoughts, emotions and using we, and you, makes me feel like im part of something more than just myself. But i also think by doing this i take no responsibility i take no ownership of me, thankyou for this vid, it has made me aware of something i do, yes me, thankyou.
A very long time ago what we said was our bond, our honour was bound to the use of the word, it was recognised for its actual weight and power. Now we just talk, we barely have any awareness of the power, meaning or effect what we SAY has. We take no responsibility. We lie constantly to ourselves and each other.
Talking about our own experience in third party language is a cop out.
Using first party means we own it, we shine the light on ourselves.
Hey nice work Danny, I've always been interested in our use of assumption in language, and it has always bothered me when people try and talk on my behalf e.g. when they say "you wouldn't do that" instead of "I wouldn't do that"
For the last couple of years, I've become very attuned to the constant collectivizing and generalizations that are tied to the word "We". We is a very dangerous word. Some people say "we" are at war in the middle east. I most certainly am not at war and do not support any initiation of force, whether they call me a "we" or not. Over here in North America, "we" is ingrained into the psyche and put on a pedestal... and it goes back to "We the people..." BS! There is no such thing.
@lotekjunky I said "North America," but I mean the land occupied by the United States government and typically shown on maps to be "America" or "United States of America." Being a supporter of a stateless society, sometimes its hard for me to talk about geographic regions... when I use the names of countries, I feel it may make people think I support arbitrary lines in the sand and borders. But, when I use other ways to describe what I'm talking about, sometimes people pick it up and notice!
@lotekjunky Yes! I've noticed that a lot, for example people say "We won WW2". No, you were not alive then, and it was the United Kingdom that won it, not "you"
I did like this. But I think there were some points that were uncomfortable to watch because of Danny's interview methods. That said, no one wants to watch an interview where everything is just fine and nothing new is decided and two people leave each other having shared nothing.
such an interesting vid ive come to alot of the same conclusions as this dude although like the way hes exploring . interesting points made about communication ect , if you think just speaking is sending out a vibration , confident will be receptive to all but shy will struggle to connect with anyone , the way you see yourself bad or good will generally be the impresion you leave with another person just through your very atomic vibrational being .
@educution Thank you. That was my intention. Its somewhat inspired by ideas and the philosophies of the Love Police and many other inspirational people. I have learned from watching their opinions that failure to see the unique beauty and innate awesomeness of an individual or thing, the fault of our perception of them.
After realizing that, I realized Everyone actually IS awesome!
good stuff, my flatmate is at Vipassana at the moment, think he's back tomorrow. will be interesting to hear his experience of it as was his first time doing anything like it. I know i wouldd struggle to make 10 days though....
Ever thought that the clearing of the mind could give access for tampering by spirits, a spiritual war bringing in new age, new religion doctrine, first of all destroying the corrupt powers on the earth and the control program called religion.
Think a little before the wanting of a mind that is clear and the wanting to communicate on spiritual levels, this body you are in was not created so perfectly as for you to not experience this day in time.
It would interesting to see as to whether the guy would have reacted with the same patience, willingness to listen and character had you not primed him first. I suspect he would have.........
Very interesting Danny. My experience on my first 10 day course was that I did form all these opinions of the other people on the course. With some I remember at the time I was quite irritated by silly little things like the way they ate or walked. One guy attempted to ask me where I was from after hearing me speak to the assistant instructor (speaking to them about the technique or the male manager is fine if there are any issues). I did not answer the guy who asked where i was from. TBC
@Kyuslydian This occurred quite early on in the course, maybe day 3. For the next few hours I remember being really worried that I had offended the guy by not answering and it played on my mind until we were able to break noble silence. Upon being able to speak to the guy I found that his mind had also been very troubled by the interaction. I found that a lot of the preconceived notions and judgments I had made about the people on the course were inaccurate. My 2nd course was a lot different.
@CleverDjembe What I can tell you is that it has really helped me get to know myself. I found my 2nd course to be easier than my 1st but that is just me and my 3rd may be harder or easier than the 2 previous.There is not much point in intellectualizing about it. We all have different experiences on these courses. What I'd suggest if you are considering going on a retreat is that you study up first. Dhamma.org is your best resource. You can find video's of SN Goenka on YT. Oh and it's not a cult.
@CleverDjembe I'd highly recommend it. If you do decide that you wish to try this please stay for the entire 10 days. There are 3 types of meditation you learn. I won't go into too much detail. For the first 3rd of the course you do Anapana which focuses the mind, makes it very sharp and increases your ability to concentrate. This is done to prepare you for doing Vipassana which is done do for almost the entire remainder. The last is Metta which soothes the mind after the intensive effort. Peace
A very interesting and entertaining conversation. It certainly got me thinking. I guess one of the reasons I say "you" but really mean "I" is because it's a way of validating what I am saying. If I say "you" then I am engaging the other individual and I get the validation that the other is listening or that what I am saying isn't complete nonsense in the form of a response either verbally or indeed non verbally. Also I'm Including them in the conversation, maybe even directing my words at them?
I have been talking to others about the "noise" of TV recently, and using an analogy of if I wear headphones and listening to loud music for a while, it takes time for my ears to adjust to "normal" sounds with out the head phones, and thus, when I switched off my TV for a good while - like for years - then I get accustomed to new vibrations and can feel feelings/vibes of others much more loudly..
I loved it when you kept correcting him like that. Why do many people insist on saying "you" when they mean to say "I"? Personally, I think it makes me feel less embarrassed to open up and be vulnerable of sharing my own experiences. What do you think?
I have done a vipassana. The reason for not talking or interacting with the others during the course is so that you dont have any influence on what they are feeling. It is supposedly the technique that buddha used to become enlightened. It is very hard not to talk or intereact with people that you see every day for 10 days. Its a great experience and just like psycodelic drugs, everyone should try it atleast once in their lives. Its only 10days and you get a lot out of it. thanks Danny!
I swear, I could not last for 10 days without masturbating.
Another thing: my perception is that in this video Danny has risen to a new level of being pedantic, condescending and rude to the person being interviewed. Maybe he purposely tried to get a rise out of this person or challenge their patience (which is a virtue).
Yes, I read the description, and still want to express this.
@CleverDjembe He is trying to get the interviewers story. He wants the truth, he was merely getting the interviewers story without the interviewer generalising to other people or making assumtions on behalf of other people. Therefore making it a truth or what he feels inside, not making random assumptions on how other people are pecieving the world because nobody can know
@CleverDjembe Actually I've been thinking about your point about being condescending
and rude and noticed that a feeling of defence came up so very quickly
and I immediately responded to your post. That immediate response caused me to tell an untruth - I didnt prime him before the interview but he made it clear form teh start that he was ok with my technique.
@CleverDjembe after further thought i realised that it could be that I was being condescending which to me means that somehow I thought that I was better than him which is a very
human way of being and I am not free from that way of being and I
think it's good for me to be exposed as just as faulty as anyone else
and if you think that I was bad there you should see me when I've lost
my cool at home with the kids. I would be very embarassed for that to be on Youtube.
Sure, I understand - after all, we're just perfectly imperfect humans :)
But yeah, I usually (not always) try to be harmonius and polite in my face-to-face conversations with people, and if I WANTED to break rapport with someone, I'd say something like: "I'm not interested in your theories." @2:30
Bottom line Danny, I think you wanted to go a little hard on him there, because if you didn't, you would've just said: "rather than hearing about your theories, I want to hear about your own experience", which is a perfectly diplomatic way of saying the same thing.
If I was making interesting, deep and spiritual videos like you, I would do my best to make my "subjects" feel comfortable in front of the camera, and not go hard on them. That's all, have a GREAT Sunday!
@CleverDjembe but this wasnt a normal conversation. it was a film with a specific intent: to hear about the subject's direct experience. like he says in the video, he wants a specific thing for the film, so he directs the interview towards it. perfectly fine filmmaking procedure and not rude at all. if it were normal everyday conversation, you would be right.
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crisisofconsciousnes 6 days ago
one of my favourite interviews
crisisofconsciousnes 6 days ago
Actually watching this video i realized something, that i also do this, i say we, you etc, I thought why do i do this, possibly i think im like everyone else and share common experiences, thoughts, emotions and using we, and you, makes me feel like im part of something more than just myself. But i also think by doing this i take no responsibility i take no ownership of me, thankyou for this vid, it has made me aware of something i do, yes me, thankyou.
symodiezel 8 months ago
utter BS
lukebolger101 11 months ago
@lukebolger101 what makes you say that? :)
MolotovMic 10 months ago
A very long time ago what we said was our bond, our honour was bound to the use of the word, it was recognised for its actual weight and power. Now we just talk, we barely have any awareness of the power, meaning or effect what we SAY has. We take no responsibility. We lie constantly to ourselves and each other.
Talking about our own experience in third party language is a cop out.
Using first party means we own it, we shine the light on ourselves.
I misuse the word mercilessly.
Pedantic on.
nephilangel 11 months ago
Hey nice work Danny, I've always been interested in our use of assumption in language, and it has always bothered me when people try and talk on my behalf e.g. when they say "you wouldn't do that" instead of "I wouldn't do that"
matthew376 11 months ago
Why would you conduct such a fascinating interview 10 minutes before needing to leave to pick up the kids? Loved it!
mothertory 11 months ago
For the last couple of years, I've become very attuned to the constant collectivizing and generalizations that are tied to the word "We". We is a very dangerous word. Some people say "we" are at war in the middle east. I most certainly am not at war and do not support any initiation of force, whether they call me a "we" or not. Over here in North America, "we" is ingrained into the psyche and put on a pedestal... and it goes back to "We the people..." BS! There is no such thing.
lotekjunky 11 months ago
@lotekjunky I said "North America," but I mean the land occupied by the United States government and typically shown on maps to be "America" or "United States of America." Being a supporter of a stateless society, sometimes its hard for me to talk about geographic regions... when I use the names of countries, I feel it may make people think I support arbitrary lines in the sand and borders. But, when I use other ways to describe what I'm talking about, sometimes people pick it up and notice!
lotekjunky 11 months ago
@lotekjunky Yes! I've noticed that a lot, for example people say "We won WW2". No, you were not alive then, and it was the United Kingdom that won it, not "you"
matthew376 11 months ago
That guy was interesting, hello to you sir! :)
DarrylC84 11 months ago
:) I would like to here this guy wihtout being disturbed. :)) Have anyone idea about wher it is?
kethadarosukargyerek 11 months ago
, great technique- both parties agreeable to get to the 'point' ie: good conversation.
-thoughtful and insightful, well done
VonLeachim 11 months ago
I did like this. But I think there were some points that were uncomfortable to watch because of Danny's interview methods. That said, no one wants to watch an interview where everything is just fine and nothing new is decided and two people leave each other having shared nothing.
smirkingkills 11 months ago
i dont think you need to be silent for 10 days to read people...
weird city people ^.^
HumanityWins 11 months ago
@HumanityWins try it sometime,
treemarble 11 months ago
such an interesting vid ive come to alot of the same conclusions as this dude although like the way hes exploring . interesting points made about communication ect , if you think just speaking is sending out a vibration , confident will be receptive to all but shy will struggle to connect with anyone , the way you see yourself bad or good will generally be the impresion you leave with another person just through your very atomic vibrational being .
goonerno14 11 months ago
cool vid. big smile.
jacksinyourbox 11 months ago
Thank you for the powerful interview Danny.
Everyone is awesome!
You prove this more than most!
Expect a video response soon.
CoronaMage 11 months ago
@CoronaMage everyone is awesome goes well with everything is ok.
educution 11 months ago
@educution Thank you. That was my intention. Its somewhat inspired by ideas and the philosophies of the Love Police and many other inspirational people. I have learned from watching their opinions that failure to see the unique beauty and innate awesomeness of an individual or thing, the fault of our perception of them.
After realizing that, I realized Everyone actually IS awesome!
CoronaMage 11 months ago
Great interview Danny: I like the pull back of "I" of SELF.. not indoctrinate "WE" SELF"ISH"...
Brilliant, insight to expression of true meaning without the mask of words.....
Thank you
reddiesel88 11 months ago
Very cool
matthackin 11 months ago
good stuff, my flatmate is at Vipassana at the moment, think he's back tomorrow. will be interesting to hear his experience of it as was his first time doing anything like it. I know i wouldd struggle to make 10 days though....
mysteryspace 11 months ago
Ever thought that the clearing of the mind could give access for tampering by spirits, a spiritual war bringing in new age, new religion doctrine, first of all destroying the corrupt powers on the earth and the control program called religion.
Think a little before the wanting of a mind that is clear and the wanting to communicate on spiritual levels, this body you are in was not created so perfectly as for you to not experience this day in time.
Malfunktionify 11 months ago
It would interesting to see as to whether the guy would have reacted with the same patience, willingness to listen and character had you not primed him first. I suspect he would have.........
Veloce3 11 months ago
i liked that guy
markgates2 11 months ago
Important please watch again !
steadiworkz 11 months ago
Very interesting Danny. My experience on my first 10 day course was that I did form all these opinions of the other people on the course. With some I remember at the time I was quite irritated by silly little things like the way they ate or walked. One guy attempted to ask me where I was from after hearing me speak to the assistant instructor (speaking to them about the technique or the male manager is fine if there are any issues). I did not answer the guy who asked where i was from. TBC
Kyuslydian 11 months ago
@Kyuslydian This occurred quite early on in the course, maybe day 3. For the next few hours I remember being really worried that I had offended the guy by not answering and it played on my mind until we were able to break noble silence. Upon being able to speak to the guy I found that his mind had also been very troubled by the interaction. I found that a lot of the preconceived notions and judgments I had made about the people on the course were inaccurate. My 2nd course was a lot different.
Kyuslydian 11 months ago
@Kyuslydian
I read your comments and got interested in your story. Can you tell me more about your 2nd course, please?
CleverDjembe 11 months ago
@CleverDjembe What I can tell you is that it has really helped me get to know myself. I found my 2nd course to be easier than my 1st but that is just me and my 3rd may be harder or easier than the 2 previous.There is not much point in intellectualizing about it. We all have different experiences on these courses. What I'd suggest if you are considering going on a retreat is that you study up first. Dhamma.org is your best resource. You can find video's of SN Goenka on YT. Oh and it's not a cult.
Kyuslydian 11 months ago
@Kyuslydian
Ok, thanks. I've been meaning to go for the past 2 years, but I always change my mind.
CleverDjembe 11 months ago
@CleverDjembe I'd highly recommend it. If you do decide that you wish to try this please stay for the entire 10 days. There are 3 types of meditation you learn. I won't go into too much detail. For the first 3rd of the course you do Anapana which focuses the mind, makes it very sharp and increases your ability to concentrate. This is done to prepare you for doing Vipassana which is done do for almost the entire remainder. The last is Metta which soothes the mind after the intensive effort. Peace
Kyuslydian 11 months ago
A very interesting and entertaining conversation. It certainly got me thinking. I guess one of the reasons I say "you" but really mean "I" is because it's a way of validating what I am saying. If I say "you" then I am engaging the other individual and I get the validation that the other is listening or that what I am saying isn't complete nonsense in the form of a response either verbally or indeed non verbally. Also I'm Including them in the conversation, maybe even directing my words at them?
76HabeasCorpus 11 months ago
Good video.
shazizz 11 months ago
I think this is one of your best videos to date.
I have been talking to others about the "noise" of TV recently, and using an analogy of if I wear headphones and listening to loud music for a while, it takes time for my ears to adjust to "normal" sounds with out the head phones, and thus, when I switched off my TV for a good while - like for years - then I get accustomed to new vibrations and can feel feelings/vibes of others much more loudly..
So to speak.
Well done Danny.
DumpYourTelevision 11 months ago
wow, it really shows how we generalise our feelings to eveyone. and after reading my comment i realised it did it just there -_-
andydyer129 11 months ago
top video
mrkarlhey 11 months ago
Oops I posted before watching the whole video haha.
boollywugger 11 months ago
@boollywugger lol iv done that a few times
GeoOneloveHipHop 11 months ago
I loved it when you kept correcting him like that. Why do many people insist on saying "you" when they mean to say "I"? Personally, I think it makes me feel less embarrassed to open up and be vulnerable of sharing my own experiences. What do you think?
boollywugger 11 months ago
That was powerful. Thank you.
babatron0 11 months ago 2
I have done a vipassana. The reason for not talking or interacting with the others during the course is so that you dont have any influence on what they are feeling. It is supposedly the technique that buddha used to become enlightened. It is very hard not to talk or intereact with people that you see every day for 10 days. Its a great experience and just like psycodelic drugs, everyone should try it atleast once in their lives. Its only 10days and you get a lot out of it. thanks Danny!
lokidj01 11 months ago
Wow really interesting, I'm tempted to go on a silent retreat
ThomasBarnham 11 months ago
Great video. Made me smile.
gardentor 11 months ago
If you can read body language you can look into the person inside, your body cannot lie :)
DayTripperEqualsHomo 11 months ago
I swear, I could not last for 10 days without masturbating.
Another thing: my perception is that in this video Danny has risen to a new level of being pedantic, condescending and rude to the person being interviewed. Maybe he purposely tried to get a rise out of this person or challenge their patience (which is a virtue).
Yes, I read the description, and still want to express this.
CleverDjembe 11 months ago
@CleverDjembe pedantic yes. rude no. there was a purpose and i checked before I did it that he was ok with it.
spiritualentertainer 11 months ago 9
@CleverDjembe He is trying to get the interviewers story. He wants the truth, he was merely getting the interviewers story without the interviewer generalising to other people or making assumtions on behalf of other people. Therefore making it a truth or what he feels inside, not making random assumptions on how other people are pecieving the world because nobody can know
DayTripperEqualsHomo 11 months ago
@DayTripperEqualsHomo
Thank you for your view point.
CleverDjembe 11 months ago
@DayTripperEqualsHomo Actually I've been thinking about your point about being condescending
and rude and noticed that a feeling of defence came up so very quickly
and I immediately responded to your post but then-for further about it
and it could be either I was being condescending which to me means
that somehow I thought that I was better than him which is a very
human way of being and I am not free from that way of being
spiritualentertainer 11 months ago
@DayTripperEqualsHomo whoops =- that last one was meant for celeverdjembe
spiritualentertainer 11 months ago
@CleverDjembe Actually I've been thinking about your point about being condescending
and rude and noticed that a feeling of defence came up so very quickly
and I immediately responded to your post. That immediate response caused me to tell an untruth - I didnt prime him before the interview but he made it clear form teh start that he was ok with my technique.
spiritualentertainer 11 months ago
@CleverDjembe after further thought i realised that it could be that I was being condescending which to me means that somehow I thought that I was better than him which is a very
human way of being and I am not free from that way of being and I
think it's good for me to be exposed as just as faulty as anyone else
and if you think that I was bad there you should see me when I've lost
my cool at home with the kids. I would be very embarassed for that to be on Youtube.
spiritualentertainer 11 months ago 4
@spiritualentertainer reply 1/2
Sure, I understand - after all, we're just perfectly imperfect humans :)
But yeah, I usually (not always) try to be harmonius and polite in my face-to-face conversations with people, and if I WANTED to break rapport with someone, I'd say something like: "I'm not interested in your theories." @2:30
CleverDjembe 11 months ago
reply 2/2
Bottom line Danny, I think you wanted to go a little hard on him there, because if you didn't, you would've just said: "rather than hearing about your theories, I want to hear about your own experience", which is a perfectly diplomatic way of saying the same thing.
If I was making interesting, deep and spiritual videos like you, I would do my best to make my "subjects" feel comfortable in front of the camera, and not go hard on them. That's all, have a GREAT Sunday!
CleverDjembe 11 months ago
@CleverDjembe hairy muff
spiritualentertainer 11 months ago
@spiritualentertainer
Sorry, I don't get it?
CleverDjembe 11 months ago
@CleverDjembe but this wasnt a normal conversation. it was a film with a specific intent: to hear about the subject's direct experience. like he says in the video, he wants a specific thing for the film, so he directs the interview towards it. perfectly fine filmmaking procedure and not rude at all. if it were normal everyday conversation, you would be right.
Tallaias 11 months ago
@Tallaias
Thanks. I appreciate your politeness.
CleverDjembe 11 months ago
@CleverDjembe this man is not coming from a place of contempt therefore you should not judge his actions harshly.
MajestyOvTheNightSky 11 months ago
@MajestyOvTheNightSky
Thinking back now, I may have come across harshly even though I didn't intend to.
CleverDjembe 11 months ago