best way 2 find a spouse follow the sunnah and find someone who is pious.because if you go to one of these muslim dateing etc they dont follow the sharaih as most of the time as there is no maharam there and wali.plus its jus better to kno someone who knws the brother or sister and they got to be honest.bt if you have the right intention then inshallah ur nika wil b best.but shud always look for one with the deen and the right deen.because sum poeple think thy no difference between shai n sunni
How are you ever gonna be able to tell if someone is angry by nature from just a few meetings? Obviously they are always gonna put there best foot forward, and until you're actually married, I don't really see how you can tell...
I agree with you when you said about being a team and partnership.From my point of view the sad thing in most muslim marriages nowadays is that nearly all the descision making and responsiblity in the household is handled by the woman,while all the man does is work instead of both of them doing equall work and helping each other.
Asalaamu Alaykum, JazakAllahu Khayr sister for sharing this vid.. In ur vid u mentioned that its good to look for a man that speaks the same laungage i mean yes thats a BONUS bt its better if we look for his deen 1st in terms of if he prays 5 times a day and so on. @preciouspearl19 i agree with you sister.. when looking for a man we should look at his deen first.
You make very nice videos! Congratulations! I am Christian my self, but I totally respect Muslims and your decision wear hijab! I think we can all use a little modesty :)
I would like to ask, do you have Christian friends? I dont mean this to be offensive just plain curiosity!
I am impressed by your advises and videos. Just a newbie in watching your videos.I have a friend who is slightly above 30 years old and also has birth marks on her face who is having some problem in finding a partner. she is fair, tall and masha allah wears hijab..Any advice for her Amena so that I can pass it on... .I can ask her to send you a video response if she is willing to come on camera..
@fafemk wa alakom salam, I read ur comment had to respond.Best thing to do:1.Trust in God.2.Don't let her focus just on marriage make sure she lives a happy life.3.Don't look at the marks as a problem for getting married tell the sister to be confident and love her marks and look it's unique and beautiful.4. Network with GOOD FAITHFUL Muslim sisters and inshallah she will find a husband.There are many who are blind, deaf, disabled and they have found marriage because they were confident, happy:)
salam amena ! i have 20 years ago and i wanna marry with man have 40 years we love each other so much he is a american muslim !! the problem is i don't know how to say to my parents that i khnow him and i'm afraid if they cann't accept him !! pllz advice me !!!
i only disagree about the language, i think that isnt a strike, my girlfriend is Belgium, i am Argentine, we speak in english, and it is not our mother tongue, and anyway i think love goes further of language strike/difference. Besides that, i agree and enjoy so much the video :)
this girl is very pleasant person as i can see from her interview :) and she, being a muslim girl, and teaching Islam, doesn't cause hostility to this religion. if there were more such people among muslims it wouldn't have such an agressive image. keep going, dear! :)
I do not think that having the same first language as your potential husband is important at all. I think it's all about being open-minded and having kind attitude towards one another. I am married to a man who is from a totally different culture, speaks different 1st lang, but never experienced any big misunderstandings because of that, and I know many women who would say the same. Rather, if two people understand each other well, lang. and other differences seem to disappear.
It's never been a problem, honestly. I am only learning Turkish, and I will NEVA NEVA EVA be even on the level he in in German :))
He desperately tries to make me understand poetry in Turkish when actually I cannot even say where I'm hurting :) I will understand them one day, inshaAllah.
But really, I think from my experience it is NOT necessary to have the same first language. You should have a very very good knowledge of the language that is the first language of one of the spouses.
Amena, I disagree that you have to have the common first language! Me and my hubby definitely are not on the same first language wavelength. I was born in a German speaking country, and speak this language the best (meaning I understand every renaissance time poem or play which I don't in any other language). My hubby came here when already in primary school. When we met he had a pronounced accent (got rid of it through me, yay!), but he will never be on the same grammar and vocabulary level.
Defy go for someone who is similar to u, undertands ur job,ur background + mainly knows how to treat a woman I dont mean bouquets of roses! but kind caring which is achieved reading Quran and hadith for the ones who are'nt naturally.For all the sisters who truly want to have a family, forget the random ones u go thro b4 meeting the perfect match, they actually help make decisions better insha'Allah. Marriage is a long learning curve!Thanks Amina gr8 job
I like the compromising point! and forgetting the fairy tales, u didnt mention L.O.V.E? :) or at least attracted to-depending how u both met.. same first language, it helps but if they can communicate using "a language" whatever it is it works just sometimes when u wanna get somethin outa ur chest in ur mother tongue:P then yea..
as for the roles what is said and what actually happends are completely different, no one can plan their married life nowdays with jobs degrees settlin down, children..
Salaam sis.. You are truelly amazing. Could you give some advice on those who have tried every route there is and can't find anyone? I recently did meet someone and got to know eachother really well and he just literally "dumped" me and hasn't even got in touch since to say sorry or anything. I honestly thought Allah had rewarded me with my patience. I feel so lost sis and dunno what to do. Will I ever meet anyone? :(
what a wonderful thing you are doing. Allah yjzeeki kher.. we all know how hard it is to find someone in the mixed up world of UK.. hell know I took AGES to find my prince..plenty of frogs. Religion is important.. DO NOT FEAR HE WHO FEARS ALLAH. A man that is truly religious in the RIGHT way will treat you like his queen. Islam is the most beautiful religion. Alhamdulillah
Did you meet your husband at an event like this? I try my best to not gawk at good looking men & keep my mind clean of romantic thoughts but it's very sad to imagine myself never being married!
@lilshawtie1234 Wa 'alaikum as-salaam, sister.. I don't know of any at the moment (I find out through word of mouth mostly) but if I do i'A I'll let you know
@Amenakin Salaam sister, please do also let me know if there are of any events within manchester insha'allah keep up the good work i LOVE ur videos!!! xxx
me and my husband dont speak same first language, and we comunicate very well. We never had a problem with comunication and now I understand his language, i still dont speak, but I'm getting there ;) so soon inshalla I'll speak his language too.
Hi, I'm not Muslim...I'm actually a Christian but I enjoy learning about different cultures and I found your video really informative. I enjoyed it very very much! Also, I think the tips you gave are GREAT, everyone should follow theme, even non-Muslims :)
jazakaAllahu khairan sis...i just took a course from the Alkauthar institute calld "Home sweet home" this weekend n it was such a amazing course..i tink in london city they hve these alkauthar courses...but yea watching ur video just remind me of the things i learned...i dont think being too religious is a bad thing.. yes i do knw men who thinks theyre religious n all but they beat their wife n hve anger problem...
i think when luking for a husband we should luk for a man who luk up to the prophet, the caliphs and his companion n follow the sunnah...#1 thing in the list for looking for a husband is deen...if his deen is good then evryting falls into place...n Allah knows best...
@preciouspearl9 I love that, sister, I couldn't agree with you more. We couldn't have a more beautiful example than Rasul Allah, sallalaahu 'alaihi wa sallam... makes my heart melt! Yeh, a sound deen means he will respect her rights and treat her well, guiding the family and leading by example :o)
@preciouspearl9 Thats not in a way sister. There are many people who say and seem to be in the deen. But They are following their deen like sheep and their mantality is inside the box. They are not free minded. There are many people like that who are very arrogent in their deen and not free minded.
Thanks for the tips Amena! it was really informative I'm gonna bear your tips in mind when I start looking...and I'm lol-ing at your little side skit thing you did mentioning how he has to run like SRK haha! And I agree you looked very pretty mashaaAllah, you've got beautiful skin xx
@shimi08 you're welcome! lol SRK isn't really my cup of tea but I know of so many women who think he's amazing! Aw thanks for the compliments but my skin is only just recovering from post-partum ups and downs!
I had a list of 10 things my husband had to have and one of them was that he had to be taller than me when I wore heels....lolz!!!! Alhamdulillah I did find my perfect match and he scored 8 out of 10 at the time :)))) lol its funny looking back at it now
@MakeupAdikt haha when I was 18 I made a list of like 80-something things I wanted in my future husband. It was a note "From Present Amena to Future Amena", advising her on what her partner "better be like"...
wow! you practically answered questions what i've struggled with in these past 2 days! thanks a bunch! it's so nice of u to b sharing this with all of us!! =D
the reason i say i got preg around the time i saw him, i been wanting to have a baby for 4 years and my friends said omg your gonna get preg how excitd you are. lol obviously its not why i got preg. it was just funny how a few weeks later preg test came out positive.
no need to waist money to all these ppl who think they kno it all about islam and take your money to teach u. knowledge is imp in islam, the best way to learn ur rights and responsibilities in islam whether ur religious or not is open the quran and read the surah's pertaining to these thing an read the hadiths an such its the best n most direct way to educate yourself. i never knew i had so many rights as a women in islam until i did the reading in university
Salam sister great advice 5 stars =)...i got a quick question tho what if u have already found that person (future husband) and later on after a year discovered that he has a little bit of an angry temper?
@quarty786 as long as the nikah ceremony hasn't been carried out, there is always a way out, if she wishes it :o) Thing is, though, some women, for some reason, are content not being treated well and if the anger were causing her hurt, are perfectly ok with sticking by that person. I suppose it's up to you then to decide on whether that's the way you want your married life to be paced, think about how it would impact on your family home atmosphere, your children, etc etc.
Also, don't get me wrong - I totally believe people can change for the better... so if he's willing to and being pro-active about dealing with his anger, there's no reason why he isn't suitable :o) That's just my advice - other people prioritise other things more
it's a good, informational video for people who are looking to get married.
and i so agree with you that anger is destructive...alhamdulilah i can't thank Allah (swt) enough for the kind of husband he gave me... a very gentle, calm man <3 Alhamdulillah
@paprichaat5 lol he's not really my cup of tea but I once remember reading an article in which a sister described how she had unreachable ideals based on Shahrukh Khan (seriously) and how that impacted negatively on her marriage and almost destroyed it. That kinda made me think about how we idealise people in a way that really seeps into our day to day thoughts
yeah, around the time i saw shahrukh khan last january when he was in la filming "My name is khan" i got pregnant, lol. i was super excited even after i saw him and thought he was no big stud. cuz he's not. he doesnt have a gleaming star shining in his presence, he doesnt have that emotional face he shows in movies. But I truly do still like him. lol so when you say he shouldnt run in the fields singing, maybe he does for some women. they idealize the emotional indian actor in movies
@MuslimahSecret I don't think you can define how long 2 people can get to know each other before they get married. First, I don't think it's at all possible to REALLY know a person before you get married - a lot of people, IMHO, think that the longer they carry on their friendship, the better they know the person they're about to marry. That's not necessarily true, as pre-marriage, there does tend to be extra formality and you're not 100% comfortable with that person so you can't be 100% "you"
In my opinion if somebody is not loyal to his Lord and can not hold up a great relationship with Him then there's a pretty great chance that the relationship with the lord's servant will be pretty nil too. Hmm... I dont know, that seems to be quite strong and harsh.
Then again, i know how hard the whole search for the Mr.Perfect .P. Charming can be but, the prophet (S.A.W) left us the best guidance so dont despair :) its not as high of a mountain.
@tomorrowsprincess yes it's difficult for many people to not despair, but feeling like it's a tough search is completely normal as companionship is a natural thing that most people desire :o)
i totally agree on the language thing , my husband and i had to learn to create our own language using both mine and his lol (but it was hard at the beginning)
I would suggest choosing someone that understands your culture and vise versa. Although we are muslims, depending from where you come from, your cultral backgrounds and morals are different (even within the arab community i.e. syrian culture, saudi culture- 2 complety different ways of life)
ill sing her any shahrukh khan !!
hktutty 6 days ago
have you got a hijab tutorial for this look i love this look and you look amazing, you should wear this hijab more :) x
SuperLoveyou4eva 1 month ago
great tips for all... your husband is very lucky man.. if you do not mind me asking.. how did you meet your husband?
HKH7N 2 months ago
best way 2 find a spouse follow the sunnah and find someone who is pious.because if you go to one of these muslim dateing etc they dont follow the sharaih as most of the time as there is no maharam there and wali.plus its jus better to kno someone who knws the brother or sister and they got to be honest.bt if you have the right intention then inshallah ur nika wil b best.but shud always look for one with the deen and the right deen.because sum poeple think thy no difference between shai n sunni
islam1430islam 3 months ago
How are you ever gonna be able to tell if someone is angry by nature from just a few meetings? Obviously they are always gonna put there best foot forward, and until you're actually married, I don't really see how you can tell...
arahman91 3 months ago
are you married?
Gigiliz123 4 months ago
I love how your videos are easy for even non-muslims like myself to follow and learn from!!! Great job!!!
SerinkNight 5 months ago
great
newifrane 5 months ago
I agree with you when you said about being a team and partnership.From my point of view the sad thing in most muslim marriages nowadays is that nearly all the descision making and responsiblity in the household is handled by the woman,while all the man does is work instead of both of them doing equall work and helping each other.
Thenishabellajb 7 months ago
Asalaamu Alaykum, JazakAllahu Khayr sister for sharing this vid.. In ur vid u mentioned that its good to look for a man that speaks the same laungage i mean yes thats a BONUS bt its better if we look for his deen 1st in terms of if he prays 5 times a day and so on. @preciouspearl19 i agree with you sister.. when looking for a man we should look at his deen first.
Jamila182 11 months ago
can u plz make a hijab tutorial for the style ur wearing
islamsmydeen 1 year ago
Dear Amena
You make very nice videos! Congratulations! I am Christian my self, but I totally respect Muslims and your decision wear hijab! I think we can all use a little modesty :)
I would like to ask, do you have Christian friends? I dont mean this to be offensive just plain curiosity!
MAKARONIFYME 1 year ago
Asalaam aliakum sister,
I am impressed by your advises and videos. Just a newbie in watching your videos.I have a friend who is slightly above 30 years old and also has birth marks on her face who is having some problem in finding a partner. she is fair, tall and masha allah wears hijab..Any advice for her Amena so that I can pass it on... .I can ask her to send you a video response if she is willing to come on camera..
fafemk 1 year ago
@fafemk wa alakom salam, I read ur comment had to respond.Best thing to do:1.Trust in God.2.Don't let her focus just on marriage make sure she lives a happy life.3.Don't look at the marks as a problem for getting married tell the sister to be confident and love her marks and look it's unique and beautiful.4. Network with GOOD FAITHFUL Muslim sisters and inshallah she will find a husband.There are many who are blind, deaf, disabled and they have found marriage because they were confident, happy:)
blossomtree02 11 months ago
i really enjoyed your video! though im not looking to get married any time soon, i'll keep ur tips in mind, they were very helpful!
SweetAngel720 1 year ago
Yes I do agree to that ,May Allah guide us all towards The Right Path , and Bless us with His Noor ,Ameen
artdtex 1 year ago
salam amena ! i have 20 years ago and i wanna marry with man have 40 years we love each other so much he is a american muslim !! the problem is i don't know how to say to my parents that i khnow him and i'm afraid if they cann't accept him !! pllz advice me !!!
strawberry007able 1 year ago
They must be breathing ... I am pretty easy on everything else.
bustermk2 1 year ago
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GardenofTruth 1 year ago
i only disagree about the language, i think that isnt a strike, my girlfriend is Belgium, i am Argentine, we speak in english, and it is not our mother tongue, and anyway i think love goes further of language strike/difference. Besides that, i agree and enjoy so much the video :)
Carlos...
carlosmdp255 1 year ago
Thank you.
happy24ra 1 year ago
this girl is very pleasant person as i can see from her interview :) and she, being a muslim girl, and teaching Islam, doesn't cause hostility to this religion. if there were more such people among muslims it wouldn't have such an agressive image. keep going, dear! :)
roxyley03 1 year ago
@roxyley03 thats cuz shes a woman
omi3dov3 1 year ago
hello, nice tipes. Can I ask you, Are you marreid?
nqubti 1 year ago
I Love The Way U Explained This! So Cute And Funny! x
ChocoSugaax 1 year ago
Haha I Love the Way U Explained This! Sooo Sweet And Funny! X
ChocoSugaax 1 year ago
I do not think that having the same first language as your potential husband is important at all. I think it's all about being open-minded and having kind attitude towards one another. I am married to a man who is from a totally different culture, speaks different 1st lang, but never experienced any big misunderstandings because of that, and I know many women who would say the same. Rather, if two people understand each other well, lang. and other differences seem to disappear.
Sumayyah777 1 year ago
is it ok if it is a virtual relationship?
kusko90 1 year ago
@kusko90 what is a virtual relationship?
7thPlace 1 year ago
I would disagree with the language thing :/ yes a common language but not the same 1st language..
That means we all get married to people from our own countries :) Indian with Indian, chinese with chinese, Russian with Russian
parsprincess 1 year ago
@parsprincess ye exact;ly
JNoils 1 year ago
you are very beautiful
and thanks very much
amineforweb 1 year ago
hey sister ur so good mashallah keepit up may Allah bless u ur great..... helped me alot thanks....
1ash2kay 1 year ago
It's never been a problem, honestly. I am only learning Turkish, and I will NEVA NEVA EVA be even on the level he in in German :))
He desperately tries to make me understand poetry in Turkish when actually I cannot even say where I'm hurting :) I will understand them one day, inshaAllah.
But really, I think from my experience it is NOT necessary to have the same first language. You should have a very very good knowledge of the language that is the first language of one of the spouses.
dinavienna 1 year ago
Amena, I disagree that you have to have the common first language! Me and my hubby definitely are not on the same first language wavelength. I was born in a German speaking country, and speak this language the best (meaning I understand every renaissance time poem or play which I don't in any other language). My hubby came here when already in primary school. When we met he had a pronounced accent (got rid of it through me, yay!), but he will never be on the same grammar and vocabulary level.
dinavienna 1 year ago
anger is sumfing that really scares me when my time will come for finding a partner :s dnt like it at all
xxshahzadixx 1 year ago 2
Defy go for someone who is similar to u, undertands ur job,ur background + mainly knows how to treat a woman I dont mean bouquets of roses! but kind caring which is achieved reading Quran and hadith for the ones who are'nt naturally.For all the sisters who truly want to have a family, forget the random ones u go thro b4 meeting the perfect match, they actually help make decisions better insha'Allah. Marriage is a long learning curve!Thanks Amina gr8 job
but surely better noses than JD's exist!;)
82nesma 1 year ago
I like the compromising point! and forgetting the fairy tales, u didnt mention L.O.V.E? :) or at least attracted to-depending how u both met.. same first language, it helps but if they can communicate using "a language" whatever it is it works just sometimes when u wanna get somethin outa ur chest in ur mother tongue:P then yea..
as for the roles what is said and what actually happends are completely different, no one can plan their married life nowdays with jobs degrees settlin down, children..
82nesma 1 year ago
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Sima181990 1 year ago
Salaam sis.. You are truelly amazing. Could you give some advice on those who have tried every route there is and can't find anyone? I recently did meet someone and got to know eachother really well and he just literally "dumped" me and hasn't even got in touch since to say sorry or anything. I honestly thought Allah had rewarded me with my patience. I feel so lost sis and dunno what to do. Will I ever meet anyone? :(
pho3nixrukz 1 year ago
hi ameena,
your hijab looks wicked here how did u do that ??
Rehana :)
ultraviolet786 1 year ago
Saaalm!! Amena plaese will you be able to do a tutorial for the hoojab that your wearing in this video!!
xx
misbahL 1 year ago
Saaalm!! Amena plaese will you be able to do a tutorial for the hoojab that your wearing in this video!!
xx
misbahL 1 year ago
what a wonderful thing you are doing. Allah yjzeeki kher.. we all know how hard it is to find someone in the mixed up world of UK.. hell know I took AGES to find my prince..plenty of frogs. Religion is important.. DO NOT FEAR HE WHO FEARS ALLAH. A man that is truly religious in the RIGHT way will treat you like his queen. Islam is the most beautiful religion. Alhamdulillah
mrsjayousi 1 year ago
LOL mashaAllah good video!
babygal869 1 year ago
I absolutely LOVE your humour!
MashaAllah your videos are amazing! :]]x.
smartipants123 1 year ago
thanx for the tips!! you're too funny!!
foolishmistakez 1 year ago
LOL.....
johnny Depp's nose and shahrukh Khan's dialogues......You made my day, I'm laughing now.....
sonyaahasan 1 year ago 2
Did you meet your husband at an event like this? I try my best to not gawk at good looking men & keep my mind clean of romantic thoughts but it's very sad to imagine myself never being married!
Saluff 1 year ago
running through the field like SRK with a Johnny depp nose haha ur great! x
lilshawtie1234 1 year ago
Slaam sis I was wondering if you know of any similiar events taking place in the Manchester area? Or where I can find out about them? Thanx x
lilshawtie1234 1 year ago
@lilshawtie1234 Wa 'alaikum as-salaam, sister.. I don't know of any at the moment (I find out through word of mouth mostly) but if I do i'A I'll let you know
Amenakin 1 year ago
Thanx! :) x
lilshawtie1234 1 year ago
@Amenakin Salaam sister, please do also let me know if there are of any events within manchester insha'allah keep up the good work i LOVE ur videos!!! xxx
AnonymousGirlish 1 year ago
@Amenakin
i like you , you are sweet and pretty .
ukgreaterlondon 3 months ago
me and my husband dont speak same first language, and we comunicate very well. We never had a problem with comunication and now I understand his language, i still dont speak, but I'm getting there ;) so soon inshalla I'll speak his language too.
NadiaF85 2 years ago 6
@NadiaF85 cool, that's great sister... may Allah - Great & Glorious is He! - keep your marriage happy and blessed
Amenakin 1 year ago
Hi, I'm not Muslim...I'm actually a Christian but I enjoy learning about different cultures and I found your video really informative. I enjoyed it very very much! Also, I think the tips you gave are GREAT, everyone should follow theme, even non-Muslims :)
puertoricanchica99 2 years ago 29
@puertoricanchica99 thank you! Glad u enjoyed it!
Amenakin 2 years ago 7
great video mashallah
LadyCuter 2 years ago
srry wrote so much...lol..
nwayz just wondering..wat kind of questions can u ask when meeting the guy lol..
preciouspearl9 2 years ago
jazakaAllahu khairan sis...i just took a course from the Alkauthar institute calld "Home sweet home" this weekend n it was such a amazing course..i tink in london city they hve these alkauthar courses...but yea watching ur video just remind me of the things i learned...i dont think being too religious is a bad thing.. yes i do knw men who thinks theyre religious n all but they beat their wife n hve anger problem...
preciouspearl9 2 years ago
these man like not religious..if they dont hve mercy upon his family wat kind of man is tht...
prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said "the best among us are those who r best to his family"...
n about the kitchen situation ...prophet Muhammad(saw) used to help around the house a lot....mashaAllah..
preciouspearl9 2 years ago
i think when luking for a husband we should luk for a man who luk up to the prophet, the caliphs and his companion n follow the sunnah...#1 thing in the list for looking for a husband is deen...if his deen is good then evryting falls into place...n Allah knows best...
preciouspearl9 2 years ago 23
@preciouspearl9 I love that, sister, I couldn't agree with you more. We couldn't have a more beautiful example than Rasul Allah, sallalaahu 'alaihi wa sallam... makes my heart melt! Yeh, a sound deen means he will respect her rights and treat her well, guiding the family and leading by example :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
@preciouspearl9 There's no dearth of religious loonies these days :@
tradecycles 1 year ago
@preciouspearl9 Thats not in a way sister. There are many people who say and seem to be in the deen. But They are following their deen like sheep and their mantality is inside the box. They are not free minded. There are many people like that who are very arrogent in their deen and not free minded.
Treckorz 3 months ago
@preciouspearl9 cool, sounds like an interesting course! Could you paraphrase bits of it? I'd love to know the kinds of things that were taught
Amenakin 2 years ago
Thanks for the tips Amena! it was really informative I'm gonna bear your tips in mind when I start looking...and I'm lol-ing at your little side skit thing you did mentioning how he has to run like SRK haha! And I agree you looked very pretty mashaaAllah, you've got beautiful skin xx
shimi08 2 years ago
@shimi08 you're welcome! lol SRK isn't really my cup of tea but I know of so many women who think he's amazing! Aw thanks for the compliments but my skin is only just recovering from post-partum ups and downs!
Amenakin 2 years ago
I agree anger ruins marriage.. I just love your videos :)
and you look super pretty <3
lololoveize 2 years ago
@lololoveize aw thank you :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
I had a list of 10 things my husband had to have and one of them was that he had to be taller than me when I wore heels....lolz!!!! Alhamdulillah I did find my perfect match and he scored 8 out of 10 at the time :)))) lol its funny looking back at it now
MakeupAdikt 2 years ago
@MakeupAdikt haha when I was 18 I made a list of like 80-something things I wanted in my future husband. It was a note "From Present Amena to Future Amena", advising her on what her partner "better be like"...
Amenakin 2 years ago
Your amazing....almost like an agony aunt for sisters. I love you. Keep up the great work and I love watching your tuts very informative.
MakeupAdikt 2 years ago 2
@MakeupAdikt that's funny, a subbie of mine keeps calling me 'aunty' and it makes me feel so old lol! Thanks sis, I'm glad u like them :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
wow! you practically answered questions what i've struggled with in these past 2 days! thanks a bunch! it's so nice of u to b sharing this with all of us!! =D
leoanawitch 2 years ago
@leoanawitch you're very welcome! Aw yeh these things can be quite complicated and I'm glad it helped :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
i luv u sis..for the sake of Allah
u r very motivating and inspiring for me and i always look forward to your vidz.
Jazakallah khair sis
luvtodiefor 2 years ago 3
@luvtodiefor aw, thank you for watching the rambling :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
Hey sister thanks so much for this video it was very helpful.
PeligrosaPrincess 2 years ago
@PeligrosaPrincess Hiya.. you're welcome, glad you found it useful!
Amenakin 2 years ago
the reason i say i got preg around the time i saw him, i been wanting to have a baby for 4 years and my friends said omg your gonna get preg how excitd you are. lol obviously its not why i got preg. it was just funny how a few weeks later preg test came out positive.
paprichaat5 2 years ago
@paprichaat5 LOL sister, that made me laugh! *blush*
Amenakin 2 years ago
@snhws5p lol thanks
Amenakin 2 years ago
no need to waist money to all these ppl who think they kno it all about islam and take your money to teach u. knowledge is imp in islam, the best way to learn ur rights and responsibilities in islam whether ur religious or not is open the quran and read the surah's pertaining to these thing an read the hadiths an such its the best n most direct way to educate yourself. i never knew i had so many rights as a women in islam until i did the reading in university
rajkumarijaan2 2 years ago
i need to work on my anger
RaSaUsproductions 2 years ago
LOLSS sharuk khan but my hubby does tell me his lines. Jazakallah sister. You are so refreshing to watch. Salams
aannffii 2 years ago
@aannffii wa 'alaikum as-salaam... aw you're hubby sounds sweet!
Amenakin 2 years ago
Salam sister great advice 5 stars =)...i got a quick question tho what if u have already found that person (future husband) and later on after a year discovered that he has a little bit of an angry temper?
quarty786 2 years ago
@quarty786 as long as the nikah ceremony hasn't been carried out, there is always a way out, if she wishes it :o) Thing is, though, some women, for some reason, are content not being treated well and if the anger were causing her hurt, are perfectly ok with sticking by that person. I suppose it's up to you then to decide on whether that's the way you want your married life to be paced, think about how it would impact on your family home atmosphere, your children, etc etc.
Amenakin 2 years ago
Also, don't get me wrong - I totally believe people can change for the better... so if he's willing to and being pro-active about dealing with his anger, there's no reason why he isn't suitable :o) That's just my advice - other people prioritise other things more
Amenakin 2 years ago
lol! i loved this style of video!
zainekh4n 2 years ago
@zainekh4n thanks! :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
Very interesting!!!
TEAM WORK thats the KEYword and RESPECT!!!! You have to RESPECt each other very important.
XXx keep it up love th VideosXX
MsSully01 2 years ago
@MsSully01 oh yes, respect, definitely, that's another really important one. Thanks!
Amenakin 2 years ago
so pretty mashallah!! loving the hijab, is the pink one on pearl daisy?
even though im not planning to get married anytime soon i think those were very good tips :)
dipa786 2 years ago
oh just saw the video before, ignore the question :)
dipa786 2 years ago
@dipa786 thanks sweetie x
Amenakin 2 years ago
i loved your video <3
it's a good, informational video for people who are looking to get married.
and i so agree with you that anger is destructive...alhamdulilah i can't thank Allah (swt) enough for the kind of husband he gave me... a very gentle, calm man <3 Alhamdulillah
how did you get married?
caramelle47 2 years ago
@caramelle47 you're very blessed, m'A to have such a husband! May he always remain that way, i'A!
Amenakin 2 years ago
salaams sister
can you share with us on how u met ur hubby?
ArtisticDesigns1 2 years ago
Wa 'alaikum as-salaam, sister. We met through a mutual friend :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
can you make a video about marriage through love or through family
armyforever87 2 years ago
@armyforever87 sorry sister, what do you mean?
Amenakin 2 years ago
I'm sorry, but this crazy thing won't let me rate above 5 tars!! keep it up sister!! salams to your hubby and son! :-)
StrainSop 2 years ago
@StrainSop wa 'alaikum as-salaam!
Amenakin 2 years ago
haha shahrukh khans lines. lol but he doesss!
paprichaat5 2 years ago
@paprichaat5 lol he's not really my cup of tea but I once remember reading an article in which a sister described how she had unreachable ideals based on Shahrukh Khan (seriously) and how that impacted negatively on her marriage and almost destroyed it. That kinda made me think about how we idealise people in a way that really seeps into our day to day thoughts
Amenakin 2 years ago
yeah, around the time i saw shahrukh khan last january when he was in la filming "My name is khan" i got pregnant, lol. i was super excited even after i saw him and thought he was no big stud. cuz he's not. he doesnt have a gleaming star shining in his presence, he doesnt have that emotional face he shows in movies. But I truly do still like him. lol so when you say he shouldnt run in the fields singing, maybe he does for some women. they idealize the emotional indian actor in movies
paprichaat5 2 years ago
wat foundation do u use? ur glowing! xx
maeekbaeesh 2 years ago 3
@maeekbaeesh aw thank you! My skin is ONLY just recovering from the ups and downs of post-partum skin woes! I use Bare Escentuals :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
Do you have any advice for muslim matrimonial websites?
Muslimah33 2 years ago
@Muslimah33 I say, give it a shot and see if they are useful! We all have different preferences in how we get to know people :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
<3 you amena.. you're so cool
MuslimahSecret 2 years ago
thanks for ur vid..and i agree with annie14411 lol!
1. you're so pretty, Mash'Allah
2. my questions:
how did u get married (dnt answer if u dont want lol)?
how long should you know the person/how many times meet before getting married?
Jazaka'Allah khayran
MuslimahSecret 2 years ago
@MuslimahSecret I don't think you can define how long 2 people can get to know each other before they get married. First, I don't think it's at all possible to REALLY know a person before you get married - a lot of people, IMHO, think that the longer they carry on their friendship, the better they know the person they're about to marry. That's not necessarily true, as pre-marriage, there does tend to be extra formality and you're not 100% comfortable with that person so you can't be 100% "you"
Amenakin 2 years ago
lolz, your the female version of baba Ali,
annie14411 2 years ago
@annie14411 haha nahhh, he's MUCH better than lil ol' me!
Amenakin 2 years ago
Really good tips Amena =)
tootie513 2 years ago 2
@tootie513 thanks sweetie!
Amenakin 2 years ago
In my opinion if somebody is not loyal to his Lord and can not hold up a great relationship with Him then there's a pretty great chance that the relationship with the lord's servant will be pretty nil too. Hmm... I dont know, that seems to be quite strong and harsh.
Then again, i know how hard the whole search for the Mr.Perfect .P. Charming can be but, the prophet (S.A.W) left us the best guidance so dont despair :) its not as high of a mountain.
tomorrowsprincess 2 years ago
@tomorrowsprincess yes it's difficult for many people to not despair, but feeling like it's a tough search is completely normal as companionship is a natural thing that most people desire :o)
Amenakin 2 years ago
haha the compromising part is sooo funny yet so true!
m'A ur so helpful thank youuu :) May Allah swt reward you for going that extra step and reaching out to those that needed this - like moi <3
scars1109 2 years ago 3
@scars1109 j'A for your du'a sister! I hope the search is made easy for you, i'A!
Amenakin 2 years ago
i totally agree on the language thing , my husband and i had to learn to create our own language using both mine and his lol (but it was hard at the beginning)
I would suggest choosing someone that understands your culture and vise versa. Although we are muslims, depending from where you come from, your cultral backgrounds and morals are different (even within the arab community i.e. syrian culture, saudi culture- 2 complety different ways of life)
umhasoomi 2 years ago
@umhasoomi oh yes, that's a good piece of advise also - understanding the other person's culture - nice one
Amenakin 2 years ago
masallahh
xBeautyFreakx 2 years ago
MashAllah... very nice and useful tips... Thaaaaaank you<3:D
JazakAllah khaiyr=)
MissKurrie 2 years ago
really informative and useful,, may Allah SWT reward you..
sabenaali 2 years ago