So what your saying is that a woman must at all times look her absolute best for her man just to keep him from looking else were?? So what about when a woman feels so comfortable with her man that she doesnt feel the need to look 'perfect' all the time for him because she believes he now loves her for who she is not that sexy dress she used to wear! You men cant have it both ways, you say you want a woman to be natural and stay away from always trying to look 'perfect'.....fuck men
That top comment is so true. These are not excuses, its a solution to a problem in relationships. Just try it and you will find out but do it the right way with an open heart, if not you need to get out of your relationship if its not good enough to fight for.
what if the idea the guy has is absolutely not realistic. like let's say he is 30+ and wants to put up an hiphop album in a country where there is no interest for such genre. mind you, he wears n goes by the baggy look. common 30+ ??
@bobbiejomariehorton and whats wrong with any of that, maybe if you did that he would go do shit with you and shut up when you watch kardashians, mess with an elite man like he says suck the dick and see what happens
WHY? cuz im a nigga....nigga nigga nigga why do you cheat nigga nigga nigga i cheat cuz my bitch is fat and does not take care of her raunchey ass self
No matter what, there's no excuse for cheating. Things aren't good, you work with her. Things don't get better, you make a decision, like a man is supposed to do, and you leave. But cheating to stay + betray someone you committed to and don't want to be with makes no sense. Men don't cheat, cowards do
@future62 yes and these men tend to be men from single moms. that women fucked up and couldnt raise a man, men children are a problem in this country as a reslut of women not needing a man and not being able to raise a boy into a man
@chiefnavarro1 A lot of dudes are abandoning their kids too, lets not blame everything on the women. The blame game is a big problem in the black community. If men stayed around to raise their kids and women didn't have kids by men who don't commit we wouldn't have these problems. Generally speakign everyone is at fault
@chiefnavarro1 A lot of dudes are abandoning their kids too, lets not blame everything on the women. The blame game is a big problem in the black community. If men stayed around to raise their kids and women didn't have kids by men who don't commit we wouldn't have these problems. Generally speaking everyone is at fault
why do women cheat? i think it's selfishness across the board--especially when there a lot of under-satisfied women out here just putting up with men. no excuse. if you don't want to be in a relationship and want other people -- then get someone else. doesn't matter the gender. not doing that is just selfishness.
HE SHOULKD BE WITH A WOMAN WHO DOES IT FOR HIM, A WOMAN DOES NOT ALWAYS LOOK LIKE HALLE BARRY STR8 OUTTA DA BED!!! 2 PPL SHOULD AGREE B4 DOING SOMETHING...DOES NOT MEAN SHE DID NOT LOVE HIM
if he loves her it does not matter what she looks like....my boo likes me no matter what!!! he will tell me i am gorgeous even without make-up, or str8 outta da bed look.....not all men and he is BLACK!!!!
This is why folks should avoid the internet. Men cheat for a variety of reasons, including the reasons women mentioned. It is laughable to assume you will get the truth from a brother in regards to why we cheat. The advice for women is complete bullshit!!!!!!!
Most women can't look like those celebrities, so using your first point, most women deserve to be cheated on. I agree that women should take care of themselves and try to look good for their men, but to imply that they only deserve a faithful man if she looks like Haley or Beyonce is pretty messed up.
most women would feel very uncomfortable wearing sexy clothing because of 2 reasons.
1. we are brought up to be pure and good. women are brinwashed into thinking that anything sexual is evil and slutty.
2. because it's seen as a slutty thing to do. society sees women who dress like that as low value. even though she's just around you, it doesn' change all the social expectations and brainashing.
I personally refuse to be brainwashd into thinking anything to do with sex is bad. it's nature.
I've learned to keep my options open. I never put all my eggs in one basket; because I see too many BM cheat. After reading Ralph Richards Banks book, 65 % of BM are in concurrent relationships, I simply look out for myself. BM stats are horrible compared to other men/races as well as they don't lead, provide, protect, love or do for their own women and children. So why would you be loyal to BM who are not loyal to you? Two can play that game............this guy is telling you BS!
Men Cheat because women use Sex as power n control. They know men have needs so she holds off to get the behavior or things she wants, she holds off till he does what she wants. So she wins!. Men counter this by satifing there needs in other ways, there by taking her power away to win the power game. So if women gave men all the sex they wanted, he is unlikly to stray, its wnen she starts holding off is when the problems start. If Men got it every day they would be way to tired to stray.
WOW!! It's is crazy, I literally read almost all the comments before mines. It's sad to see so many women saying that he is giving men an excuse to cheat. This is a perfect example of not listening and why so many are divorced. I am a married man and sometimes I have to submit to my wife (my queen) so why in return can't a women submit to her husband. We should uplift each other, no?
Man you are making us look stupid. You need to let your wife broadcast with you for a counter balance. You forgot to mention his role so she won't cheat. A real man would just leave the relationship and find a lady he relates to. You give women insecurities about us men. Men cheat becaues of men, not because of women. You are just making excess for men and placing blame on the women.
A real man knows right from wrong and that is the bottom line.
This is exactly what he's talking about. Women don't listen even when young intelligent MARRIED black man is voicing his concerns. He said three times in this video that cheating is wrong. The reason why women get cheated on is because they don't listen to their man and are to preoccupied with what they want and think that they can give a damn about pleasing him. Just saying
GET YOUR POINT, BUT PLEASE GIVE US A BREAK WITH THE HALLE AND BEYONCE REFERENCES. THEY ARE HUMAN BEINGS JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. I FIND IT ANNOYING THAT THE MEDIA HAS WOMEN SUCH AS THEM ON THIS PEDESTAL AS IF THEY ARE THE BEGINNING AND END OF CREATION. ENOUGH ALREADY.
This guy is seriously trying to justify cheating. Why not just plainly say men cheat for an ego boost? You seem to only be digging through the surface. Try digging deeper.
cont.. "chasing" unless u are "a sexual challenge/ more pleasant". that is why some old man be with a sugar babe.i.e giant freak relative to him this is also the reason why cougar-boy relation works at 1st until the cougar get older. advice to ladies upgrade yourselves in life and sexual, the higher power mate and the higher pleasure mate the diff. it is for a man to dispose u. eg jay z&beyonce. a man will always want more but when he got more pleasure to lose with u he will think 2ce.
I was about to go off on u, until I heard the ending part of the clip. u are right if the guy is ready to "settle down" then u are right. but for the "player" type of men and the "sexual animal" type of men is about how valuable u are to his ego and life respectively.2rdly to him sex wise u have to be a sexual giant for the s.animal, he will have to have a fetish for u. by the way I am a man from Africa study so many marries and polygamy. ones he is rich/famous he keeps .....cont above
Ok< I know most ignorant women might see this as worshiping or bowing your man only to keep them from straying....I agree with being submissive and showing appreciation, on the other hand how can I keep him satisfied if he dosent feel he needs to satisfy me...like he dosent care about how I feel and not to do those ignorant man thing that they do to keep me showing my appreciation and my emotional avalibility. What should If all he wants is this from me and gives nothing in return.???
Are there any men out there who can understand that your women can't be "beautiful" all the time? Personally, in order to keep my real hair healthy and long, I have to use a silk head wrap at night...will he cheap as a result? Is there some adjustment on the part of the male? This is what leaves us feeling...well, unfairly regarded. We are "just" trying to love our men....can men step "their" game up and show some refinement? Pls respond.
I like how you stated Lack of Visual Stimulus...whether clothing or your not hour glass shape like how i like my woman to be. and physically fit is a stimulus.
U know it's real funny to me how all of these men gurus are always talking about h how to keep a black man from cheating and how to keep your black man satisfied but YET- why don't they ever talk about how to keep a good black woman, how to keep ur black woman from cheating, how to be a real man that respects and honors the black women who truly hold him down???
@DJ23322332 Honey, I was JUST asking myself the EXACT same thing. They always talk about how women should PLEASE them and do for them, but they rarely talk about how they please their women and keep her happy and show his appreciation for her. I have no problem with keeping my man happy (obviously) BUT I would like to feel just as important to him.
Halle Berry go cheated on because she wasn't there emotionally for her man. Sure she is fine but just being fine is not going to prevent anything or but so much. 2Ryled
i tell yall what while we talkin about men cheatin i personally aint seen the man yet that can cheat better than a chick maybe men cheat sometimes cause in the back of their minds they know these bitches aint shit and hey keep it real bitches know bitches aint shit lol just sayin excuse da bitches lol they don't know any better
THIS CHEATIN' SH** BE PISSIN' ME OFF, BASICALLY IF U AINT GIVING THE MAN WHAT HE WANTS, HE GONNA LEAVE U AND IF IT'S PHYSICALLY, THEN HE A DOG, SO LEAVE HIM BEFORE U GET HURT AND IF IT'S, AND IF IT'S EMOTIONALLY, THEN HE GONNA END UP LEAVING U FOR SOMEBODY WHO'S GONNA GIVE HIM ATTENTION THAT HE RESPECTFULLY DESERVES, PEOPLE NEED TO STOP WITH ALL THESE D@MN THEORIES, SH** AIN'T ROCKET SCIENCE GOD D@MN....
Well sex is everything to a man and I heard that its hard for a woman to even get a man if she's not giving oral sex and pussy.................so I guess there's no hope for us respectable women huh lol
All men cheat because women with low self-esteem/self-worth allow them to cheat because they're too afraid to be on their own or find someone who will treat them withrespect (their are still men like this out there ladies).
@laurenoliver23 It's the double standard in society, it's not the woman's fault. Society allows men to cheat. If a man cheatS, he's a man, if a woman cheats she's a ho. That's not fair. If women can be disiplined, so can men. People say it's biological, that's a lie! Name the gene or genes that make men cheat. Our society allows men to come up with all kinds of excuses to cheat. For insatnce, some men can be greatly stimulated and have a great wife and still cheat because they lack disipline.
@ThePharaoho I don't know what you're talking about. What Society? What discipline? Men cheat on their wives/girlfriends because they know they won't break up with them if they get caught. If your boyfriend/husband cheats on you and you don't leave that is permission and despite your dillusions he is still cheating on you, now he's just smart enought to not get caught. 90% a woman is called a whore/slut/skank/ho it's by another woman not a man.
@laurenoliver23 I'm talking about this society...African American society, American society. You didn't think I was talking about China did you? There is a double standard. Don't you know that? Yes, I agree...men will only do what women allow them to do, but men cheat for different reasons and the main reason is lack of discipline which is training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior, and since we are talking about sex, it would be sexual disciple.
@ThePharaoho I don't think society has a double standard I think women place double standards on themselves. Life is about choices and we are responsible for the choices that we make in life. If your man cheats on you and you stay with him that's not society that's you. 9/10 If a man cheats on a woman the woman will forgive him but 9/10 the man won't forgive the woman. You have to make a choice; Stay with the cheater and be happy or break up with him and find a man who won't cheat.
@laurenoliver23 So you don't think there's a double standard huh? If a woman dresses provacatively, she is automatically called a slut by both men and women. If a man dresses in speedos or without a shirt he is called hot by women and men don't care. The US has never had a female President, but has had 44 male Presidents which is sexist. If a woman has had more sexual partners than one can count on both hands, she is assumed fast. An artist like Madonna is blasted whereas Wayne is celebrated.
@ThePharaoho Again 9 times out of 10 it is women who criticize other women's sexuality not men. Men may do it behind closed doors, but it is women who call other women sluts, whores, skanks in public. Women will openly call Angelina Jolie a slut, but say nothing about Brad Pitt. You can't call something sexism if it is women doing it against each other. If women don't like the double standard stop enforcing it.
@laurenoliver23 Excuse me, every other "western" nation. Yes, women outnumber men 2 to 1, so with all these women, can we at least get one woman President? So men don't call women sluts, ho's, bitches is what you're saying right? You are wrong! I don't know where you live but some women actually answered to the men calling them that where I'm from. And I can tell you that men will sleep with a woman and afterwards call her a ho, but what will that make him, for he slept with the ho?
@laurenoliver23 9 times out of 10? No, you are wrong! Men calling women sluts, bitches, and ho's in our society is more like 9/10, I can't speak for women, but I CAN speak for men. It's even promoted on the radio babe...most rappers like lil Wayne and Gucci Mane call women those names all the time and the videos are filled with men degrading women, women degrading themselves, and men callng them ho's, bitches, sluts...where are you from? It's inculcated in the culture.
@ThePharaoho I don't listen to rap music so what they say or how they feel is of zero importance to me. I am not a part of rap culture nor is anyone with whom I associate.
@laurenoliver23 So in other words...you live in a shell? How can you make statements about all men or most men or all women or most women if you don't know the different aspects and facets of our culture? I'm not trying to be impolite, but I'm just asking...
@ThePharaoho I don't know where you come from but if your world revolves around lil Wayne/ Gucci Mane then that is half of your problem. Most rational people do not listen to lil Wayne (Hates dark skinned women right?) or Gucci Mane ( Threw a woman out of a car for refusing sex?) As for the shell I played the violin for 8years, speak 3 languages fluently and literate in 5 languages College educated and have never been cheated on/ treated with anything less than respect because I demand it.
@laurenoliver23 I never tested your talent or intelligence, at least that's not what I was trying to do. I'm trying to debate these issues with you. The reason why I asked if you lived in a shell was because the majority of Americans and the world really, listens to Lil Wayne. He is one of the most popular rapper today, he and that silly young money click along with many other shameful rappers, not hip hop artists, there's a difference. What people ingest, they become. I dispise Wayne!
@ThePharaoho In order for a Woman to be elected President a Woman has to 1st run for President. There have only been 3 women to run for President where as there have been over 200 men who have run for President. If there are 44 Presidents then there are 44 men who lost, plus all the men who ran in the Primary elections and lost. Women outnumber men 2 to 1.
@laurenoliver23 And I wonder why? What? There has been more than 3 women to run for President and there was only one who had enough support to have been a serious candidate and that was only because of her husband. Babe...what world are you living in? We live in a patrilineal society that is patriarchal. What? I'm asking why there has never been a female President and you are referencing the male candidates that lost. Every other nation has had a woman head of state.
@ThePharaoho Only 3 women have run for President. Hillary Clinton, Shirley Chisham or however you spell her name and a black woman in 2004 in the Democratic primary but she dropped out, can't remember her name. Sarah Palin and Geraldine Ferraro were Vice Presidental candidates not Presidentail candidates. Your theory is wrong because Pakistan, India, United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, Liberia, etc. etc. have all had female Prime Ministers. Is the U.S. more Patrilinial than Pakistan?
@laurenoliver23 What about the other parties and their female candidates? I said "heads of state," and a Prime Minister is a head of state. The Prime Minister serves as head of the government. "Is the U.S. more patrilineal than Pakistan? What? This questions makes no sense. Patrilineal means tracing the familial line through the male or patriarch.
@ThePharaoho Let me go slow. You said the U.S. has never had a female President because it is sexist and Patrilineal. I then listed Countries that were Patrilineal that had female heads of state. Still follow? Pakistan-Benazir Bhutto, India-Indera Gandhi, U.K.-Lady Margaret Thatcher, Liberia-Miss Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf, Australia-Julia Gillard, German-Angela Merkel, Chile-Michelle Bachelet, Argentina-Cristina Fernandez de Kirchner, etc, etc. These are all Male dominated societies.
@laurenoliver23 That's not what I meant. I was just stating that families in the US are patrilineal, that's all. My point was that women in patrilineal societies tend to be unequal to men, however, I had already stated that every other western nation has had a female head of state, and I said the US hasn't because it is extremely sexist. Now if you asked if Pakistan was more sexist than the US then I would understand, but you asked if it was more patrilineal which made no sense.
Mental, Emontional, and Physically....when black men can't enough open their mouth to say what it is they need....LACK OF COMMUNICATION is the reason my BOTH men and women cheat! This is bull dude! However, some people cheat just because. You can be kissing the ground they walk on and somebody can offer them something just a little different and he's all in that! Boy you 'bout the....no comment!
so basically being a super woman is what keeps a man from cheating. It may b hard for some women to be this when they don't have a superman. Women go through a lot of stuff out there too & therfore need men r there for them & have their back. The overall solution is 50/50 of sacrifice, compromise, love, and . . . all else in between.
this is BS.. why is there always something wrong with women, y are women to blame when a man cheats (could be of any background not necessarily black). Women do not have to be responsible for doing all the work in the relationship and stimulating the men at all times.. Men should just walk away and let their significant other they do not want to be in the relationship and move on. NOT cheat.
well let say this even though you are a good woman. your man will still leave you.
for example. I do everything in the book for my man. I cook, iron, clean, support his career and everything he do not only that when I get money and I go shopping I think of him I buy card or t-shirt show him he is on my mine when I am out... wait one second you said support his career. well I did that I even help him in his career. when doors open up my man told me he do not want a relationship
@arthur84 True, but if you look at it steriotypically, black men are being nagged because a lot of black women tend to be over bearing and too strong depending on their reasons to be.. AND THIS IS COMING FROM A BLACK, 17 YEAR OLD FEMALE! SO PLEAS PEOPLE DON'T SAY I'M RACIST lol
Now you totally listed everything why a man cheats, and the reasons are "to dam picky." Then you mention Chilli in your other video, stating she is picky. Men need to stop being double standard. Bottom line, men are to picky and I can never understand the fact, but they can go around looking tacky and breath stinking and we don't cheat; most women. A lot of the times, women don't feel like looking good for a complainer, lustful rude man. That's why she walks around with baggy clothes.
@blessedlady7 I feel what you're saying to the fullest! But how is it picky to want to be stimulated in those 3 areas he listed? As a young lady coming up in this world, i think i would want to be stimulated in those areas as well. (well, that sexual part depends on the person, but the mind & the heart most definitely matters!) From watching different men in my life, i see the double standard. However, i believe that's not all men & those particular men have issues.
Phuck that even the good book says 4 man 2 leave his parents and cleave 2 wife! U can't be a man's mama,phuck if U dn't want 2 be in it just say sumtin'. stick ur chests out more than ur dicks,if she don't it get at least u didn't lie, keep it Guccii. signed, sumtin' ur mama shuda told u!!!
So if a women stimulate in all three areas but her man still cheats and say in the same breath you did not do anything wrong, what is a women suppose to make of that remark? I know their are some men out there that are straight up dogs and want their cake and eat it too but really what happens when I good man goes bad because they are influences by the "other" women?
This nigga is full of shit! Halle Berry been cheated on by ALL her men. Get the fuck out of here. It don't matter how you look, if a nigga gone cheat,he gone cheat. smdh!
If the man is not really "feeling" her...WHY IS IS WITH HER? Your talk is way swallow. Beautiful women get cheated on all the time. It's more about you as a guy..that yes, you are immature, still thinking with what's in your pants and not with your mind or your heart, and yes you are a dog and you don't love that woman bc if you did, it would never happen. I didn't even have to finish the video to see that.
@LEGSociety No, he is on some immature, "my woman" better look sexy 24/7 as if she is the most beautiful woman in the world, when in reality there are beautiful women everywhere, no matter how well she keeps herself, in eye of every person, she may be less or more beautiful than the next. he is swallow, just like you seem to be for agreeing. If your lady is beautiful to you, then she's beautiful to you regarudless of what other woman walks by...
@DeepMindzMinolta It really is the realist.. But as you can see, people are being ignorant on here and taking his "Halle Barry & Beyonce" example to the heart like he said they would..
& it's kind of typical for the women on here to deny what he's saying..
It's ignorant of them to not listen to an ACTUAL male speaking from the male prospective. smh!
I get the physical stimulation part and the requirement but do we as women get to expect the same to our requirements? I am willing to do what is needed but do men understand that we there are things that we really need as well. I almost feel like men expect perfection from us but we have to accept that a man must get stimulation or he will express his imperfection and cheat. Guide me through this....I am engaged and care for my man but I think his self esteem leads him to reach for female
U used Halle Berry as a example. She got cheated on and she is a model/actress. So it happens to beautiful women/models all the time. Just look at the celebs so you can be beautiful/have lots of money and get cheated on.
You can be everything to a guy and he can still cheat bc its all about his ego getting stroked and mostly he thinks he wont get caught.
@2Ryled Ok that's why he was referring to the ones who are in the "settling down stage".. Not the dogs or the players.. I guess that went over your head Lol
@2Ryled Well, he did say that looks were only one part of it. You can't assume that because Halle is beautiful that she is great at relationships. We don't know her personally. We don't know her hang-ups.
Either your dating a dog or there are problems in the relationship that aren't being talked about or realized before serious trangressions take place.
@2Ryled even halle has to be all 3 of those things - she has been cheated on by every man shes been with - that shows that there is a problem with her - she may not have done those things that it takes to keep her man just lookin good isn't enuff - men aren't as egotistical as u think we are - insecurities just like women and still need validation - women tend to always take the blame off of themselves in certain situations instead of sayin do I need improvement
@2Ryled Your not taking into account that he ALSO said nagging, and being a bitch (somewhat). Most women who are on halle berry's level of attractiveness, are dull when it comes to other things that can KEEP a man being interested in her.
Men just need to stop making excuses for their actions and let their concerns be known. If you can't have a conversation with your significant other about the lack of stimulation without starting a riot than perhaps that person isn't in your best interest. A man should be able to address his concerns with his partner as your doing in your video. Let's stop sugar coating reality! Men cheat because they want to have their cake and eat it too!
My question is why is this still a topic of discussion becuase everything you stated is common sense. The question you should ask these women is once they find out the 'why'....then what! Are you going to leave or stay. Does the 'why' really make a difference? If I find out my man is cheating on me, I don't need to ask him why because his action has already answered that for me. I'm not satisfying him, so it's time to move on.
There is no one size fits all solution to keep men from cheating because every man is different . This advice may work for one woman, and may not for another woman. People cheat for different reasons. True, bonafied , certified cheaters will cheat even if they're not missing anything at home.
Your saying how women cant' speak for men @0:52 Why are you giving women advice? Are you a woman? Do you want to be a woman? I know your going to tell me "well dont watch the video" well, I for one am sick of black men telling women/black women what to do. How about doing videos addressing drugs, violence, homosexuals, etc. thats going on in the black community. "Act like a lady, think like a man" DAMMIT! maybe I dont want to think like a man. I wasn't designed to think like a man!!!
@prettyLibra2010 There are a lot of nice guys who are willing to wait for when you are ready. :) Just stay away from us "bad guys" and you will be fine :) For me sex is just a natural part of life and I see nothing wrong in it, but I do understand that some other people don't think like me and your way is just as good and right as my way :)
@prettyLibra2010 If you make your rules clear from the beginning you will eventually find a man who will agree to your rules in the relationship, but I do have to say that the majority of females aren't as opposed to a lot of sex as you are so it will be somewhat harder to find a man and you might have to compromise on some other of his traits. Also when men get older their sex drive does go down so this problem won't be as big of a problem later on in your life. :)
Im glad that he says "CHEATING IS NOT JUSTIFIED" Yes men should always communnicate if they are Not being fulfilled. Most women would be willing to do whatever it is that the man wants but a lot of times they DONT communicate and let us know what it is that they want and they make us think they what we are doing is enough!!!! A lot of men use that shit as an excuse. Now I do agree with you because that is true inn some cases but definitely not all
Women better get their ish together...im married...i dont cheat...im not lazy...i work whatever kind of job i have to at any time of day or night to take care of mine and i have my ass in the house every night before its dark...and my wife still talks..plenty of shit to me...now when i decide i have had enough and pull out them divorce papers i will be wrong huh??then i aint shit huh?? ill get a divorce before i cheat..theres more women on earth than men ill be alright
@DarkHoodsProductions No you wouldn't be wrong to serve your wife with divorce papers. The fact that you make sure your on point and you treat your wife with dignity and respect makes you a very rare man. But the fact that she can't do the same speaks about her not you. By the way what type of women is your wife?
OK Been there done that and he still cheated i did the lingerie dinner candle light everything under the sun!!! looking good at the same time and he still cheated i was faithful and he still cheated so do you have an answer for that?
@BossyGirlEnt Ouch girl. SOme men are jusy plain dumb and led by the tingle in thier penis'. If you've been going out of your way to please a man, making him "feel like a man", handling your business and helping him out, but he still cheats, then you need to leave him and wait for the lord to send you a man who'll appreciate you. You don't deserve to go through that.
i am in a relationship for 8 years now and we have 2 beautiful daughters together. He is 39 yrs old black man and im a 29 year old thai and filipino female. He always compliment me and tell me how sexy i am and we are two different ppl but we work it thru our different interests. He wants to get married but i told him no. I love the man but I wanted to get married 3 yrs ago but he wasnt ready. Now hes ready but im not. Everything are good as long as we dont live under the same roof.
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because most of black women are selfish dumb bitches and whores that's why!
blckla999 1 week ago
So what your saying is that a woman must at all times look her absolute best for her man just to keep him from looking else were?? So what about when a woman feels so comfortable with her man that she doesnt feel the need to look 'perfect' all the time for him because she believes he now loves her for who she is not that sexy dress she used to wear! You men cant have it both ways, you say you want a woman to be natural and stay away from always trying to look 'perfect'.....fuck men
MistressMurda 1 week ago
That top comment is so true. These are not excuses, its a solution to a problem in relationships. Just try it and you will find out but do it the right way with an open heart, if not you need to get out of your relationship if its not good enough to fight for.
TripleSauce 4 weeks ago
The things that you do to get him is what you need to do in order to keep him or he will look elseswhere both mentally and physically.
MegaFELIPE48 1 month ago
what if the idea the guy has is absolutely not realistic. like let's say he is 30+ and wants to put up an hiphop album in a country where there is no interest for such genre. mind you, he wears n goes by the baggy look. common 30+ ??
ManiSimone 1 month ago
Halle Berry can't keep no man!
YoBootyStinks 1 month ago
go fuck yourself! men want us to suck their dick, make them dinner, and shut up while they watch basketball. such bullshit...!
bobbiejomariehorton 1 month ago
@bobbiejomariehorton and whats wrong with any of that, maybe if you did that he would go do shit with you and shut up when you watch kardashians, mess with an elite man like he says suck the dick and see what happens
chiefnavarro1 1 month ago
WHY? cuz im a nigga....nigga nigga nigga why do you cheat nigga nigga nigga i cheat cuz my bitch is fat and does not take care of her raunchey ass self
SuperZx6rr 1 month ago
i like everthing dedan say's so true so true
fatbaby53 1 month ago
I listen to this video 3 times!!!
27Commonsense 1 month ago
No matter what, there's no excuse for cheating. Things aren't good, you work with her. Things don't get better, you make a decision, like a man is supposed to do, and you leave. But cheating to stay + betray someone you committed to and don't want to be with makes no sense. Men don't cheat, cowards do
future62 1 month ago
@future62 yes and these men tend to be men from single moms. that women fucked up and couldnt raise a man, men children are a problem in this country as a reslut of women not needing a man and not being able to raise a boy into a man
chiefnavarro1 1 month ago
@chiefnavarro1 A lot of dudes are abandoning their kids too, lets not blame everything on the women. The blame game is a big problem in the black community. If men stayed around to raise their kids and women didn't have kids by men who don't commit we wouldn't have these problems. Generally speakign everyone is at fault
future62 6 days ago
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@chiefnavarro1 A lot of dudes are abandoning their kids too, lets not blame everything on the women. The blame game is a big problem in the black community. If men stayed around to raise their kids and women didn't have kids by men who don't commit we wouldn't have these problems. Generally speaking everyone is at fault
future62 6 days ago
why do women cheat? i think it's selfishness across the board--especially when there a lot of under-satisfied women out here just putting up with men. no excuse. if you don't want to be in a relationship and want other people -- then get someone else. doesn't matter the gender. not doing that is just selfishness.
yamamadangdang 1 month ago
MEN NEED TO FULFILL THEIR WOMEN TOO!! SEXUALLY CUZ THE WOMAN WILL LEAVE HIS BEHIND!! O I STIMULATE 24/7
judyjackson651 1 month ago
HE SHOULKD BE WITH A WOMAN WHO DOES IT FOR HIM, A WOMAN DOES NOT ALWAYS LOOK LIKE HALLE BARRY STR8 OUTTA DA BED!!! 2 PPL SHOULD AGREE B4 DOING SOMETHING...DOES NOT MEAN SHE DID NOT LOVE HIM
judyjackson651 1 month ago
if he loves her it does not matter what she looks like....my boo likes me no matter what!!! he will tell me i am gorgeous even without make-up, or str8 outta da bed look.....not all men and he is BLACK!!!!
judyjackson651 1 month ago
This is why folks should avoid the internet. Men cheat for a variety of reasons, including the reasons women mentioned. It is laughable to assume you will get the truth from a brother in regards to why we cheat. The advice for women is complete bullshit!!!!!!!
Shango67 1 month ago
Most women can't look like those celebrities, so using your first point, most women deserve to be cheated on. I agree that women should take care of themselves and try to look good for their men, but to imply that they only deserve a faithful man if she looks like Haley or Beyonce is pretty messed up.
KeySomniorum 1 month ago
most women would feel very uncomfortable wearing sexy clothing because of 2 reasons.
1. we are brought up to be pure and good. women are brinwashed into thinking that anything sexual is evil and slutty.
2. because it's seen as a slutty thing to do. society sees women who dress like that as low value. even though she's just around you, it doesn' change all the social expectations and brainashing.
I personally refuse to be brainwashd into thinking anything to do with sex is bad. it's nature.
ItsMoriashkiBitches 1 month ago
@ItsMoriashkiBitches
Cheating also is "nature." Is this acceptable for you as well?
GothamGAT 1 month ago
halle berry got cheated on u should have used beyonce 3 times they cheated on her
carmen3205 2 months ago
I've learned to keep my options open. I never put all my eggs in one basket; because I see too many BM cheat. After reading Ralph Richards Banks book, 65 % of BM are in concurrent relationships, I simply look out for myself. BM stats are horrible compared to other men/races as well as they don't lead, provide, protect, love or do for their own women and children. So why would you be loyal to BM who are not loyal to you? Two can play that game............this guy is telling you BS!
Klass761 2 months ago
Men Cheat because women use Sex as power n control. They know men have needs so she holds off to get the behavior or things she wants, she holds off till he does what she wants. So she wins!. Men counter this by satifing there needs in other ways, there by taking her power away to win the power game. So if women gave men all the sex they wanted, he is unlikly to stray, its wnen she starts holding off is when the problems start. If Men got it every day they would be way to tired to stray.
GZ1LH2 2 months ago
nice video. i agree with you
urScorpioLady 2 months ago
What if I do all he wants and then he starts talking about polygyny? What's the next thing that will happen to me? Will I be kicked out the door?
japaga75 3 months ago
WOW!! It's is crazy, I literally read almost all the comments before mines. It's sad to see so many women saying that he is giving men an excuse to cheat. This is a perfect example of not listening and why so many are divorced. I am a married man and sometimes I have to submit to my wife (my queen) so why in return can't a women submit to her husband. We should uplift each other, no?
dgoodloe 3 months ago 9
Man you are making us look stupid. You need to let your wife broadcast with you for a counter balance. You forgot to mention his role so she won't cheat. A real man would just leave the relationship and find a lady he relates to. You give women insecurities about us men. Men cheat becaues of men, not because of women. You are just making excess for men and placing blame on the women.
A real man knows right from wrong and that is the bottom line.
kamkea12 3 months ago
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This is exactly what he's talking about. Women don't listen even when young intelligent MARRIED black man is voicing his concerns. He said three times in this video that cheating is wrong. The reason why women get cheated on is because they don't listen to their man and are to preoccupied with what they want and think that they can give a damn about pleasing him. Just saying
jameans2 3 months ago
u missed 1 little tid bit of info too we (imma dude too) lie to our women so that they can feel comfortable ex: woman: does this dress look good on me
man:sure honey (damn that dress makes her look like a cow)
keishipsy 4 months ago
GET YOUR POINT, BUT PLEASE GIVE US A BREAK WITH THE HALLE AND BEYONCE REFERENCES. THEY ARE HUMAN BEINGS JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. I FIND IT ANNOYING THAT THE MEDIA HAS WOMEN SUCH AS THEM ON THIS PEDESTAL AS IF THEY ARE THE BEGINNING AND END OF CREATION. ENOUGH ALREADY.
aligned576 4 months ago
This guy is seriously trying to justify cheating. Why not just plainly say men cheat for an ego boost? You seem to only be digging through the surface. Try digging deeper.
ilovechocolate704 4 months ago
Is this a joke? Are you married sir?
Men cheat because other women allow them to cheat. In most cases a woman will know a man is invovled but will still sleep with him just because.
Many men have low self esteem. And have sex with women to fill that void of inadaquency.
You're entire take on this 'cheating' thing seems like it came from a WOMAN's perspective.
It kills me when unmarried or single people try to give relationship advice.
ilovechocolate704 4 months ago
cont.. "chasing" unless u are "a sexual challenge/ more pleasant". that is why some old man be with a sugar babe.i.e giant freak relative to him this is also the reason why cougar-boy relation works at 1st until the cougar get older. advice to ladies upgrade yourselves in life and sexual, the higher power mate and the higher pleasure mate the diff. it is for a man to dispose u. eg jay z&beyonce. a man will always want more but when he got more pleasure to lose with u he will think 2ce.
brainly 4 months ago
I was about to go off on u, until I heard the ending part of the clip. u are right if the guy is ready to "settle down" then u are right. but for the "player" type of men and the "sexual animal" type of men is about how valuable u are to his ego and life respectively.2rdly to him sex wise u have to be a sexual giant for the s.animal, he will have to have a fetish for u. by the way I am a man from Africa study so many marries and polygamy. ones he is rich/famous he keeps .....cont above
brainly 4 months ago
There will always be women who are by far more beautiful no matter how hard any single woman tries.
SanamLovesEssie60 5 months ago
a man can never be 100% satisfied lol
TheRoyaldiamond 5 months ago
Ok< I know most ignorant women might see this as worshiping or bowing your man only to keep them from straying....I agree with being submissive and showing appreciation, on the other hand how can I keep him satisfied if he dosent feel he needs to satisfy me...like he dosent care about how I feel and not to do those ignorant man thing that they do to keep me showing my appreciation and my emotional avalibility. What should If all he wants is this from me and gives nothing in return.???
Dennis41621 5 months ago
Are there any men out there who can understand that your women can't be "beautiful" all the time? Personally, in order to keep my real hair healthy and long, I have to use a silk head wrap at night...will he cheap as a result? Is there some adjustment on the part of the male? This is what leaves us feeling...well, unfairly regarded. We are "just" trying to love our men....can men step "their" game up and show some refinement? Pls respond.
melanin12345 6 months ago
he's cute
2011ch1ck 6 months ago
@2011ch1ck And how about you? ;)
midatlantic09 5 months ago
Well done, you hit on a lot of points... "you walk around in these baggy wrinkled t-shirts" lol
CreativeMindzs 6 months ago
HECK YEA!!! FINALLY SOMEBODY IS SPEAKING THE TRUTH!!
"YUNEED TO BE ABLE TO RELATE TO HIM" YU GIRLS R ALWAYS ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL. A RELATIONSHIP CONSISTS OF2 NOT ONLY 1.
hulkandsuperman 6 months ago
I like how you stated Lack of Visual Stimulus...whether clothing or your not hour glass shape like how i like my woman to be. and physically fit is a stimulus.
lokalyokal1 6 months ago
Men will never be totally satified with their women and vice versa.
1985journal 6 months ago 5
U know it's real funny to me how all of these men gurus are always talking about h how to keep a black man from cheating and how to keep your black man satisfied but YET- why don't they ever talk about how to keep a good black woman, how to keep ur black woman from cheating, how to be a real man that respects and honors the black women who truly hold him down???
DJ23322332 6 months ago
@DJ23322332 Honey, I was JUST asking myself the EXACT same thing. They always talk about how women should PLEASE them and do for them, but they rarely talk about how they please their women and keep her happy and show his appreciation for her. I have no problem with keeping my man happy (obviously) BUT I would like to feel just as important to him.
MachineGunKali 6 months ago
i agree with ur comment about men need women to be their supporter. i agree with that. Communication is the key to any relationship.
Jdfloyd7 6 months ago
Black men cheat bcuz ALL MEN CHEAT. People were never supposed to be married !
TheronOfRhodeIsland 7 months ago
thats real as it can get man madd props 2 ya :)
13triedge13 7 months ago
People are a faithful as their options
themrduragss 7 months ago
Halle Berry go cheated on because she wasn't there emotionally for her man. Sure she is fine but just being fine is not going to prevent anything or but so much. 2Ryled
jacadianpro 8 months ago
Many men cheat because the opportunity is there.
getlonghair 8 months ago
i tell yall what while we talkin about men cheatin i personally aint seen the man yet that can cheat better than a chick maybe men cheat sometimes cause in the back of their minds they know these bitches aint shit and hey keep it real bitches know bitches aint shit lol just sayin excuse da bitches lol they don't know any better
zenith2070 9 months ago
THIS CHEATIN' SH** BE PISSIN' ME OFF, BASICALLY IF U AINT GIVING THE MAN WHAT HE WANTS, HE GONNA LEAVE U AND IF IT'S PHYSICALLY, THEN HE A DOG, SO LEAVE HIM BEFORE U GET HURT AND IF IT'S, AND IF IT'S EMOTIONALLY, THEN HE GONNA END UP LEAVING U FOR SOMEBODY WHO'S GONNA GIVE HIM ATTENTION THAT HE RESPECTFULLY DESERVES, PEOPLE NEED TO STOP WITH ALL THESE D@MN THEORIES, SH** AIN'T ROCKET SCIENCE GOD D@MN....
buckda54 9 months ago
i have a girlfriend that i love but i sleep with prostitutes but i do not tell
my girlfriend that i cheat on her with hookers i love her to much to
do that but some of the hooker might have std but i will not tell my girlfriend
about that
blackhebrew85 9 months ago
Men love talking about sex and sports, but mostly sex lol....and they are in love with sex
thickjai18 9 months ago
Well sex is everything to a man and I heard that its hard for a woman to even get a man if she's not giving oral sex and pussy.................so I guess there's no hope for us respectable women huh lol
thickjai18 9 months ago
wow shallow much =S
Soma874 9 months ago
All men cheat because women with low self-esteem/self-worth allow them to cheat because they're too afraid to be on their own or find someone who will treat them withrespect (their are still men like this out there ladies).
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 It's the double standard in society, it's not the woman's fault. Society allows men to cheat. If a man cheatS, he's a man, if a woman cheats she's a ho. That's not fair. If women can be disiplined, so can men. People say it's biological, that's a lie! Name the gene or genes that make men cheat. Our society allows men to come up with all kinds of excuses to cheat. For insatnce, some men can be greatly stimulated and have a great wife and still cheat because they lack disipline.
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho I don't know what you're talking about. What Society? What discipline? Men cheat on their wives/girlfriends because they know they won't break up with them if they get caught. If your boyfriend/husband cheats on you and you don't leave that is permission and despite your dillusions he is still cheating on you, now he's just smart enought to not get caught. 90% a woman is called a whore/slut/skank/ho it's by another woman not a man.
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 I'm talking about this society...African American society, American society. You didn't think I was talking about China did you? There is a double standard. Don't you know that? Yes, I agree...men will only do what women allow them to do, but men cheat for different reasons and the main reason is lack of discipline which is training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior, and since we are talking about sex, it would be sexual disciple.
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho I don't think society has a double standard I think women place double standards on themselves. Life is about choices and we are responsible for the choices that we make in life. If your man cheats on you and you stay with him that's not society that's you. 9/10 If a man cheats on a woman the woman will forgive him but 9/10 the man won't forgive the woman. You have to make a choice; Stay with the cheater and be happy or break up with him and find a man who won't cheat.
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 So you don't think there's a double standard huh? If a woman dresses provacatively, she is automatically called a slut by both men and women. If a man dresses in speedos or without a shirt he is called hot by women and men don't care. The US has never had a female President, but has had 44 male Presidents which is sexist. If a woman has had more sexual partners than one can count on both hands, she is assumed fast. An artist like Madonna is blasted whereas Wayne is celebrated.
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho Again 9 times out of 10 it is women who criticize other women's sexuality not men. Men may do it behind closed doors, but it is women who call other women sluts, whores, skanks in public. Women will openly call Angelina Jolie a slut, but say nothing about Brad Pitt. You can't call something sexism if it is women doing it against each other. If women don't like the double standard stop enforcing it.
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 Excuse me, every other "western" nation. Yes, women outnumber men 2 to 1, so with all these women, can we at least get one woman President? So men don't call women sluts, ho's, bitches is what you're saying right? You are wrong! I don't know where you live but some women actually answered to the men calling them that where I'm from. And I can tell you that men will sleep with a woman and afterwards call her a ho, but what will that make him, for he slept with the ho?
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 9 times out of 10? No, you are wrong! Men calling women sluts, bitches, and ho's in our society is more like 9/10, I can't speak for women, but I CAN speak for men. It's even promoted on the radio babe...most rappers like lil Wayne and Gucci Mane call women those names all the time and the videos are filled with men degrading women, women degrading themselves, and men callng them ho's, bitches, sluts...where are you from? It's inculcated in the culture.
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho I don't listen to rap music so what they say or how they feel is of zero importance to me. I am not a part of rap culture nor is anyone with whom I associate.
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 So in other words...you live in a shell? How can you make statements about all men or most men or all women or most women if you don't know the different aspects and facets of our culture? I'm not trying to be impolite, but I'm just asking...
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho I don't know where you come from but if your world revolves around lil Wayne/ Gucci Mane then that is half of your problem. Most rational people do not listen to lil Wayne (Hates dark skinned women right?) or Gucci Mane ( Threw a woman out of a car for refusing sex?) As for the shell I played the violin for 8years, speak 3 languages fluently and literate in 5 languages College educated and have never been cheated on/ treated with anything less than respect because I demand it.
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 I never tested your talent or intelligence, at least that's not what I was trying to do. I'm trying to debate these issues with you. The reason why I asked if you lived in a shell was because the majority of Americans and the world really, listens to Lil Wayne. He is one of the most popular rapper today, he and that silly young money click along with many other shameful rappers, not hip hop artists, there's a difference. What people ingest, they become. I dispise Wayne!
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 Yet there supposedly exist no double standard. You do believe our society is sexist don't you?
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho In order for a Woman to be elected President a Woman has to 1st run for President. There have only been 3 women to run for President where as there have been over 200 men who have run for President. If there are 44 Presidents then there are 44 men who lost, plus all the men who ran in the Primary elections and lost. Women outnumber men 2 to 1.
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 And I wonder why? What? There has been more than 3 women to run for President and there was only one who had enough support to have been a serious candidate and that was only because of her husband. Babe...what world are you living in? We live in a patrilineal society that is patriarchal. What? I'm asking why there has never been a female President and you are referencing the male candidates that lost. Every other nation has had a woman head of state.
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho Only 3 women have run for President. Hillary Clinton, Shirley Chisham or however you spell her name and a black woman in 2004 in the Democratic primary but she dropped out, can't remember her name. Sarah Palin and Geraldine Ferraro were Vice Presidental candidates not Presidentail candidates. Your theory is wrong because Pakistan, India, United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, Liberia, etc. etc. have all had female Prime Ministers. Is the U.S. more Patrilinial than Pakistan?
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 What about the other parties and their female candidates? I said "heads of state," and a Prime Minister is a head of state. The Prime Minister serves as head of the government. "Is the U.S. more patrilineal than Pakistan? What? This questions makes no sense. Patrilineal means tracing the familial line through the male or patriarch.
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho Let me go slow. You said the U.S. has never had a female President because it is sexist and Patrilineal. I then listed Countries that were Patrilineal that had female heads of state. Still follow? Pakistan-Benazir Bhutto, India-Indera Gandhi, U.K.-Lady Margaret Thatcher, Liberia-Miss Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf, Australia-Julia Gillard, German-Angela Merkel, Chile-Michelle Bachelet, Argentina-Cristina Fernandez de Kirchner, etc, etc. These are all Male dominated societies.
laurenoliver23 9 months ago
@laurenoliver23 That's not what I meant. I was just stating that families in the US are patrilineal, that's all. My point was that women in patrilineal societies tend to be unequal to men, however, I had already stated that every other western nation has had a female head of state, and I said the US hasn't because it is extremely sexist. Now if you asked if Pakistan was more sexist than the US then I would understand, but you asked if it was more patrilineal which made no sense.
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
@ThePharaoho You are obviously above Lil Wayne's music and are extremely intelligent, but a little naiive to the rest of society, I think?
ThePharaoho 9 months ago
Bitches are crazy.
Shadowsolid 9 months ago
he seems like a condescending pompous ass
queenb2princess 9 months ago 3
Mental, Emontional, and Physically....when black men can't enough open their mouth to say what it is they need....LACK OF COMMUNICATION is the reason my BOTH men and women cheat! This is bull dude! However, some people cheat just because. You can be kissing the ground they walk on and somebody can offer them something just a little different and he's all in that! Boy you 'bout the....no comment!
citygurl0883 9 months ago
so basically being a super woman is what keeps a man from cheating. It may b hard for some women to be this when they don't have a superman. Women go through a lot of stuff out there too & therfore need men r there for them & have their back. The overall solution is 50/50 of sacrifice, compromise, love, and . . . all else in between.
Note: MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE!
ama00010 10 months ago 2
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black man are full of shit...
aferg76 10 months ago
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Your ideal is outdated. Get with the times or be left behind.
aoishounen 10 months ago
this guy is obviously very narrow minded
zainabadam 10 months ago
the main thing i disagree with is her walking around in baggy clothes and what not.......
kimanish901 10 months ago
This guy is absolutely an ass hole.
supervirtuouswoman 11 months ago 2
this is BS.. why is there always something wrong with women, y are women to blame when a man cheats (could be of any background not necessarily black). Women do not have to be responsible for doing all the work in the relationship and stimulating the men at all times.. Men should just walk away and let their significant other they do not want to be in the relationship and move on. NOT cheat.
MsPerez35 11 months ago
well let say this even though you are a good woman. your man will still leave you.
for example. I do everything in the book for my man. I cook, iron, clean, support his career and everything he do not only that when I get money and I go shopping I think of him I buy card or t-shirt show him he is on my mine when I am out... wait one second you said support his career. well I did that I even help him in his career. when doors open up my man told me he do not want a relationship
melissaStarrr 11 months ago
Omg, he was right.. That Halle Berry example went RIGHT over you guys heads lol
What he says makes since..
*Women are not looking appealing
*Lack of interest
*Lack of support..
why not??
smh, some of you guys have issues.. lol
& this is coming from a 17 year old lol
JMoniqueLuvsMusiq93 11 months ago
Could someone explain to me why being black makes a difference? White men don't like to be nagged either!
arthur84 11 months ago 2
@arthur84 True, but if you look at it steriotypically, black men are being nagged because a lot of black women tend to be over bearing and too strong depending on their reasons to be.. AND THIS IS COMING FROM A BLACK, 17 YEAR OLD FEMALE! SO PLEAS PEOPLE DON'T SAY I'M RACIST lol
JMoniqueLuvsMusiq93 11 months ago
Now you totally listed everything why a man cheats, and the reasons are "to dam picky." Then you mention Chilli in your other video, stating she is picky. Men need to stop being double standard. Bottom line, men are to picky and I can never understand the fact, but they can go around looking tacky and breath stinking and we don't cheat; most women. A lot of the times, women don't feel like looking good for a complainer, lustful rude man. That's why she walks around with baggy clothes.
blessedlady7 11 months ago
@blessedlady7 I feel what you're saying to the fullest! But how is it picky to want to be stimulated in those 3 areas he listed? As a young lady coming up in this world, i think i would want to be stimulated in those areas as well. (well, that sexual part depends on the person, but the mind & the heart most definitely matters!) From watching different men in my life, i see the double standard. However, i believe that's not all men & those particular men have issues.
JMoniqueLuvsMusiq93 11 months ago
@blessedlady7 and.. ofcourse certain don't deserve a woman to look good for them.. But if wearing baggy clothes is not your style, why do it? LOL :)
I believe women should always look good even around the house. Just for the self-esteem!
JMoniqueLuvsMusiq93 11 months ago
Phuck that even the good book says 4 man 2 leave his parents and cleave 2 wife! U can't be a man's mama,phuck if U dn't want 2 be in it just say sumtin'. stick ur chests out more than ur dicks,if she don't it get at least u didn't lie, keep it Guccii. signed, sumtin' ur mama shuda told u!!!
rolo277 11 months ago
Speak on that...
Queen4God 11 months ago
So if a women stimulate in all three areas but her man still cheats and say in the same breath you did not do anything wrong, what is a women suppose to make of that remark? I know their are some men out there that are straight up dogs and want their cake and eat it too but really what happens when I good man goes bad because they are influences by the "other" women?
tastycoco22 11 months ago
This nigga is full of shit! Halle Berry been cheated on by ALL her men. Get the fuck out of here. It don't matter how you look, if a nigga gone cheat,he gone cheat. smdh!
Iverson834 1 year ago
If the man is not really "feeling" her...WHY IS IS WITH HER? Your talk is way swallow. Beautiful women get cheated on all the time. It's more about you as a guy..that yes, you are immature, still thinking with what's in your pants and not with your mind or your heart, and yes you are a dog and you don't love that woman bc if you did, it would never happen. I didn't even have to finish the video to see that.
TheDivineLife 1 year ago
My black educated bother, YOU ARE DEAD RIGHT ON TARGET !!!
LEGSociety 1 year ago
@LEGSociety No, he is on some immature, "my woman" better look sexy 24/7 as if she is the most beautiful woman in the world, when in reality there are beautiful women everywhere, no matter how well she keeps herself, in eye of every person, she may be less or more beautiful than the next. he is swallow, just like you seem to be for agreeing. If your lady is beautiful to you, then she's beautiful to you regarudless of what other woman walks by...
TheDivineLife 1 year ago
This iz-summa-da REALIST S%!* EVER SPOKEN on You-Tube about "Relationships!!!!!!
DeepMindzMinolta 1 year ago 7
@DeepMindzMinolta It really is the realist.. But as you can see, people are being ignorant on here and taking his "Halle Barry & Beyonce" example to the heart like he said they would..
& it's kind of typical for the women on here to deny what he's saying..
It's ignorant of them to not listen to an ACTUAL male speaking from the male prospective. smh!
JMoniqueLuvsMusiq93 11 months ago
We all cheat at some point in our lives. Some get caught and a few don't.
americasfirstking 1 year ago
BM cheat because their animals...Natural hoes!
MrsBooker100 1 year ago
CONTINUE - reinforcement.
melanin12345 1 year ago
I get the physical stimulation part and the requirement but do we as women get to expect the same to our requirements? I am willing to do what is needed but do men understand that we there are things that we really need as well. I almost feel like men expect perfection from us but we have to accept that a man must get stimulation or he will express his imperfection and cheat. Guide me through this....I am engaged and care for my man but I think his self esteem leads him to reach for female
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melanin12345 1 year ago
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Brother you have not even touched on testosterone, Variety, etc...
AZLIVE87 1 year ago
Brother, you are dead on.
bilal3700 1 year ago
U used Halle Berry as a example. She got cheated on and she is a model/actress. So it happens to beautiful women/models all the time. Just look at the celebs so you can be beautiful/have lots of money and get cheated on.
You can be everything to a guy and he can still cheat bc its all about his ego getting stroked and mostly he thinks he wont get caught.
2Ryled 1 year ago 16
@2Ryled Ok that's why he was referring to the ones who are in the "settling down stage".. Not the dogs or the players.. I guess that went over your head Lol
JMoniqueLuvsMusiq93 11 months ago
@2Ryled I absolutely agree.
supervirtuouswoman 11 months ago
@2Ryled Well, he did say that looks were only one part of it. You can't assume that because Halle is beautiful that she is great at relationships. We don't know her personally. We don't know her hang-ups.
Either your dating a dog or there are problems in the relationship that aren't being talked about or realized before serious trangressions take place.
theRubyRunner 9 months ago
@2Ryled even halle has to be all 3 of those things - she has been cheated on by every man shes been with - that shows that there is a problem with her - she may not have done those things that it takes to keep her man just lookin good isn't enuff - men aren't as egotistical as u think we are - insecurities just like women and still need validation - women tend to always take the blame off of themselves in certain situations instead of sayin do I need improvement
NovaKane78 7 months ago
@2Ryled 100% agree with you
star18522 5 months ago in playlist More videos from askdedan
@2Ryled He was talking about Halle in a physical way not her personality or where she is mentaly.
Meg62685 4 months ago
@2Ryled Your not taking into account that he ALSO said nagging, and being a bitch (somewhat). Most women who are on halle berry's level of attractiveness, are dull when it comes to other things that can KEEP a man being interested in her.
twistoffate200 4 months ago
Men just need to stop making excuses for their actions and let their concerns be known. If you can't have a conversation with your significant other about the lack of stimulation without starting a riot than perhaps that person isn't in your best interest. A man should be able to address his concerns with his partner as your doing in your video. Let's stop sugar coating reality! Men cheat because they want to have their cake and eat it too!
jperez2010 1 year ago
the reason why sooooooooooo many black women are single is because black men cheat. hahaha
pOeROsesyadig 1 year ago
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because he is on the downlow and secretly hates women
pOeROsesyadig 1 year ago
some men are just plain greedy..... spreading that seed.....
lollypie75 1 year ago
My question is why is this still a topic of discussion becuase everything you stated is common sense. The question you should ask these women is once they find out the 'why'....then what! Are you going to leave or stay. Does the 'why' really make a difference? If I find out my man is cheating on me, I don't need to ask him why because his action has already answered that for me. I'm not satisfying him, so it's time to move on.
greenmean28 1 year ago
There is no one size fits all solution to keep men from cheating because every man is different . This advice may work for one woman, and may not for another woman. People cheat for different reasons. True, bonafied , certified cheaters will cheat even if they're not missing anything at home.
tincredible 1 year ago
People cheat because they want to. You can do everything right and if a person wants to cheat he/she will cheat because they wanted to.
Anjaayla 1 year ago
Your saying how women cant' speak for men @0:52 Why are you giving women advice? Are you a woman? Do you want to be a woman? I know your going to tell me "well dont watch the video" well, I for one am sick of black men telling women/black women what to do. How about doing videos addressing drugs, violence, homosexuals, etc. thats going on in the black community. "Act like a lady, think like a man" DAMMIT! maybe I dont want to think like a man. I wasn't designed to think like a man!!!
prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
@prettyLibra2010 As a intelligent man he knows what men need. Ignore his advice if you want, but as a man he is correct about men.
Finn001abd 1 year ago
@Finn001abd Men needs are not the same.
prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
@prettyLibra2010 I would say all men have these 3 needs.
Finn001abd 1 year ago
@Finn001abd Men are hunters by nature. Driven by SEX! I'm sick of them. Seriously
prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
@prettyLibra2010 ...What is so bad about sex ? If you don't like men, then be with women. Problem solved :)
Finn001abd 1 year ago
@Finn001abd NOPE. I wasn't born gay so why would began sleeping with women now? I do not want a woman. I want a man who isn't sex crazed...
prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
@prettyLibra2010 There are a lot of nice guys who are willing to wait for when you are ready. :) Just stay away from us "bad guys" and you will be fine :) For me sex is just a natural part of life and I see nothing wrong in it, but I do understand that some other people don't think like me and your way is just as good and right as my way :)
Finn001abd 1 year ago
@Finn001abd Its not about waiting. Its about wanting it over and over again. You don't understand. Your a man.
prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
@prettyLibra2010 If you make your rules clear from the beginning you will eventually find a man who will agree to your rules in the relationship, but I do have to say that the majority of females aren't as opposed to a lot of sex as you are so it will be somewhat harder to find a man and you might have to compromise on some other of his traits. Also when men get older their sex drive does go down so this problem won't be as big of a problem later on in your life. :)
Finn001abd 1 year ago
Im glad that he says "CHEATING IS NOT JUSTIFIED" Yes men should always communnicate if they are Not being fulfilled. Most women would be willing to do whatever it is that the man wants but a lot of times they DONT communicate and let us know what it is that they want and they make us think they what we are doing is enough!!!! A lot of men use that shit as an excuse. Now I do agree with you because that is true inn some cases but definitely not all
mzbsexy20 1 year ago
Women better get their ish together...im married...i dont cheat...im not lazy...i work whatever kind of job i have to at any time of day or night to take care of mine and i have my ass in the house every night before its dark...and my wife still talks..plenty of shit to me...now when i decide i have had enough and pull out them divorce papers i will be wrong huh??then i aint shit huh?? ill get a divorce before i cheat..theres more women on earth than men ill be alright
DarkHoodsProductions 1 year ago
@DarkHoodsProductions No you wouldn't be wrong to serve your wife with divorce papers. The fact that you make sure your on point and you treat your wife with dignity and respect makes you a very rare man. But the fact that she can't do the same speaks about her not you. By the way what type of women is your wife?
tweetybirddee 9 months ago
@tweetybirddee My wife is a african american woman who converted to orthodox Islam when she was 19. we got married at 28 and 27 im 30 now shes 28
DarkHoodsProductions 9 months ago
OK Been there done that and he still cheated i did the lingerie dinner candle light everything under the sun!!! looking good at the same time and he still cheated i was faithful and he still cheated so do you have an answer for that?
BossyGirlEnt 1 year ago
@BossyGirlEnt Ouch girl. SOme men are jusy plain dumb and led by the tingle in thier penis'. If you've been going out of your way to please a man, making him "feel like a man", handling your business and helping him out, but he still cheats, then you need to leave him and wait for the lord to send you a man who'll appreciate you. You don't deserve to go through that.
rss22 1 year ago
i am in a relationship for 8 years now and we have 2 beautiful daughters together. He is 39 yrs old black man and im a 29 year old thai and filipino female. He always compliment me and tell me how sexy i am and we are two different ppl but we work it thru our different interests. He wants to get married but i told him no. I love the man but I wanted to get married 3 yrs ago but he wasnt ready. Now hes ready but im not. Everything are good as long as we dont live under the same roof.
thaipinomix 1 year ago
I have a really Good Male that I talk to often and we had a conversation about y men cheat and he told me because Men Are Opportunists....
MzLadyLibra81 1 year ago
Man dont be giving tips...you're messing my game up!
Thrown2010 1 year ago