That guy is a joke. I know you well enough to be able to say he totally fails. All I see is you trying to make things right and the guy keeps stabbing you in the back at every chance he gets. His videoresponse is both ludicrous and insulting and I wouldn't host that shit if I were you. He obviously is not interested in solving things and prefers to misrepresent your character and further the drama. Move on.
You've addressed everyone in a very tolerant and respectful manner from what I've seen, Dak. Your approach works well. It's more constructive than the guy you're talking about and infinitely more so than the guy whose video you posted this as a response too.
Your video is quite passive-aggressive, dak. You not being a native English speaker might explain a great deal of this trouble. However, if you accept that "fear of competition, lying and obstructionism" are passive-aggressive examples, then I don't see how you can think you've a leg to stand on here. You ran from the initial debate, lied about the origin of the "conflict," and have made every effort to avoid discussing it.
This is ridiculous, but a response is forthcoming.
I must say Sepero, we have been talking for sufficient time through Instant messaging, voice and video chat for you to know me a bit better than that. You telling me you don't know what my intentions are (in general of course, or in this case that I described), strikes me as odd and somewhat of a disappointment, and leads me to ask what have we been doing for all this time). I don't wish to start a personal conversation here. See me in IM if you want to deepen this topic, please.
See that's an example of being passive aggressive. I am presuming that you are uneducated, and additionally, I am assuming a position of authority by telling you what to do.
I do think many of your text comments on other users vids have appeared passive aggressive. Though, no one but you can know your true intent.
Hehe, Sepero, ma man, I really disagree that's an example of passive aggressiveness. That's not even cynicism, but it sure isn't PA technically speaking. The term comes from Psychology and contrasts with other baseline behaviors like aggressive, passive and assertive. It has the specific meaning given on the video description box. Example: If x says "sure I don't mind cooking you dinner" and then you listen to the person throwing the pots and pans, that's a valid example. :)
IMHO "You should educate yourself on this stuff." is rather assertive. It's not a personal attack, neither direct nor indirect, and passive aggressive behavior is not, as mentioned, an "an personal attack" but rather a form of resistant, undermining behavior. Telling someone that is showing ignorance that the person should read book X or simply, read more on the subject is totally pro-active and candid. You could make it not cool by tone of voice sure, but it's not mandatory that you do that :)
Dude! truth is not "pollable" Let's do a poll on whether there's Hydrogen in water :) I realize that there are probably tons of people that would conflate such a statement with PA :) But that's just being ignorant of what PA properly speaking, and by properly speaking, I'm referring to what psychologists refer to when they use the term, since that's the field where the term comes from hehe
The point I was making was that truth (not objectivity or subjectivity) is not "pollable". Also, your poll was not aimed at seeing if people found the sentence to be offensive, but passive aggressive. Of course I disagree that the sentence is offensive (I safeguarded the issue of tone of voice), but in that case the poll is irrelevant to the point at hand which is not if your example was offensive but rather if it illustrates/exemplifies the concept of PA. :)
:) I know, it is very frustrating sometimes. The video came out 11:45 long and I tried uploading it and nothing. I know I could break it into 2, but I personally hate to break a topic. Usually when I do video series I try to focus on different nuances on every video. Lol at the black thing :) I guess I do have some "jive". Promise I'll try my best to avoid speeding tickets in the future hehe
yeah, I do that in some of my videos. In this case, I couldn't find a good part to apply the effect 2, and I was in a hurry because i'd been trying to upload it for almost an hour then. :)
That sure is a nice way of phrasing a compliment :) And I can see where it comes from, because for what I've been noticing, you 2 are very polite and treat people, specifically those with whom you disagree, with a lot of decency. Respect.
I have no idea what you are saying but ...ANYWAYS...DAKSHINAMURTI IS COOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!
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deboraghghghgh123 3 years ago
I agree, civil is good.
charlesfloyb 3 years ago
It's just a shame that not everyone feels that way.
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
That guy is a joke. I know you well enough to be able to say he totally fails. All I see is you trying to make things right and the guy keeps stabbing you in the back at every chance he gets. His videoresponse is both ludicrous and insulting and I wouldn't host that shit if I were you. He obviously is not interested in solving things and prefers to misrepresent your character and further the drama. Move on.
wankilicious 3 years ago
I will follow all of your advices. You're a good friend. Thank you. BTW, your brother still sucks at chess haha :)
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
You've addressed everyone in a very tolerant and respectful manner from what I've seen, Dak. Your approach works well. It's more constructive than the guy you're talking about and infinitely more so than the guy whose video you posted this as a response too.
Orygyn 3 years ago
Thanks, coming from you in particular, it means a lot.
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
Your video is quite passive-aggressive, dak. You not being a native English speaker might explain a great deal of this trouble. However, if you accept that "fear of competition, lying and obstructionism" are passive-aggressive examples, then I don't see how you can think you've a leg to stand on here. You ran from the initial debate, lied about the origin of the "conflict," and have made every effort to avoid discussing it.
This is ridiculous, but a response is forthcoming.
LibertyIsNotGiven 3 years ago
I say it's passive aggressive, you say it's not. Perhaps LING is using the psychological definition of the word, perhaps he isn't. I don't know.
What I do know, is that I can probably point out exactly which comments he found offensive, and tell you why.
Again, I'm not saying you meant for them to be offensive. I have no idea what your specific intentions are.
Sepero1 3 years ago
I must say Sepero, we have been talking for sufficient time through Instant messaging, voice and video chat for you to know me a bit better than that. You telling me you don't know what my intentions are (in general of course, or in this case that I described), strikes me as odd and somewhat of a disappointment, and leads me to ask what have we been doing for all this time). I don't wish to start a personal conversation here. See me in IM if you want to deepen this topic, please.
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
"Direct personal attacks are aggressive.
Indirect personal attacks are passive aggressive.
You should educate yourself on this stuff."
So in this context, do you find the last sentence to be offensive?
I would venture to guess that most native english speakers would find it somewhat offensive.
Sepero1 3 years ago
It's too bad some people don't like the speeded up vids. I actually rather prefer them. :)
Sepero1 3 years ago
Dude! I wish I could please everyone. Not possible :(
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
Direct personal attacks are aggressive.
Indirect personal attacks are passive aggressive.
You should educate yourself on this stuff.
"You should educate yourself on this stuff."
See that's an example of being passive aggressive. I am presuming that you are uneducated, and additionally, I am assuming a position of authority by telling you what to do.
I do think many of your text comments on other users vids have appeared passive aggressive. Though, no one but you can know your true intent.
Sepero1 3 years ago
Hehe, Sepero, ma man, I really disagree that's an example of passive aggressiveness. That's not even cynicism, but it sure isn't PA technically speaking. The term comes from Psychology and contrasts with other baseline behaviors like aggressive, passive and assertive. It has the specific meaning given on the video description box. Example: If x says "sure I don't mind cooking you dinner" and then you listen to the person throwing the pots and pans, that's a valid example. :)
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
IMHO "You should educate yourself on this stuff." is rather assertive. It's not a personal attack, neither direct nor indirect, and passive aggressive behavior is not, as mentioned, an "an personal attack" but rather a form of resistant, undermining behavior. Telling someone that is showing ignorance that the person should read book X or simply, read more on the subject is totally pro-active and candid. You could make it not cool by tone of voice sure, but it's not mandatory that you do that :)
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
"I really disagree that's an example of passive aggressiveness."
Perhaps we could get a poll going. Let the people decide.
Thumbs up for agree. Thumbs down for disagree.
Sepero1 3 years ago
Dude! truth is not "pollable" Let's do a poll on whether there's Hydrogen in water :) I realize that there are probably tons of people that would conflate such a statement with PA :) But that's just being ignorant of what PA properly speaking, and by properly speaking, I'm referring to what psychologists refer to when they use the term, since that's the field where the term comes from hehe
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
"Let's do a poll on whether there's Hydrogen in water"
You're mixing the objective and subjective and calling them the same thing.
Whether hydrogen exists in water is objective.
Whether people find a given statement offensive is subjective.
Polling the subjective is perfectly valid. As valid as polling chocolate or vanilla icecream.
Sepero1 3 years ago
The point I was making was that truth (not objectivity or subjectivity) is not "pollable". Also, your poll was not aimed at seeing if people found the sentence to be offensive, but passive aggressive. Of course I disagree that the sentence is offensive (I safeguarded the issue of tone of voice), but in that case the poll is irrelevant to the point at hand which is not if your example was offensive but rather if it illustrates/exemplifies the concept of PA. :)
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
I can't comment on the person you speak of since i don't know him however i find you cool and intelligent person
theracemixer 3 years ago
:))) Thanks. That means a lot.
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
Can I say something as genuine and sincere constructive criticism?
I can't stand the double speed. That's usually why I don't watch your videos.
Also, you're not as black as you think you are. jk
Seriously though... the double speed is a deal breaker for me.
D4Shawn 3 years ago 2
:) I know, it is very frustrating sometimes. The video came out 11:45 long and I tried uploading it and nothing. I know I could break it into 2, but I personally hate to break a topic. Usually when I do video series I try to focus on different nuances on every video. Lol at the black thing :) I guess I do have some "jive". Promise I'll try my best to avoid speeding tickets in the future hehe
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
You can also speed up select parts maybe. Especially any segment of the video where you might pause to think or something.
DotPaulish 3 years ago
yeah, I do that in some of my videos. In this case, I couldn't find a good part to apply the effect 2, and I was in a hurry because i'd been trying to upload it for almost an hour then. :)
dakshinamurti 3 years ago
How did I not stumble upon you sooner?
WorBlux 3 years ago
That sure is a nice way of phrasing a compliment :) And I can see where it comes from, because for what I've been noticing, you 2 are very polite and treat people, specifically those with whom you disagree, with a lot of decency. Respect.
dakshinamurti 3 years ago