It's difficult enough to get ppl to except transgenderism and it seems to be even harder for some to understand when someone who is trans can also be gay.I've tried to explain that gender and sexuality are two different things.How would you explain it?These are sum of the random debates that I find myself in lol.
Oh, and most dont realize that you are male or female inside first where it determines what you SHOULD be on the outside.This all goes to show that sex is not determined necessarily by the outside.How frustrated I'd be if I were born in that position.
The whole thing is so easy for me as a non-trans female to comprehend. It's a birth defect. Your sex on the inside did'nt reflect what you really are on the inside.Most people dont know that they also have male and female brains that just happened to match their outsides.
@charlenemonique1 I truly appreciate your comments - thank you for the suport and obvious understanding of the issues. Allies like you are so valuable and unique and, well, cherished - at least by me.
You've thought about this a lot. I completely agree with you. I think this way of thinking is more than just 'progressive'.
I've found a few things in life where there is no downside. When I come across those things I get happy because I know my path without any doubt. This way of thinking about gender is one of those things. There are no downsides, consequences...only benefits and unity.
Jamie - I am SO glad to have found your comment here....thank you.
It's true, I have thought a lot about this....and over the years those thoughts have changed, have grown, emerging from a sense of being a victim to a much stronger sense of claiming and embracing my life in all its complexities and texture.
I have found, for myself, that there are no "easy paths" or "fixes" in life. We all are "who we are" (no one person any better than the next) and all have choices to take whatever path makes us happy. Our path, our choices, and our desires are as unique as a fingerprint...no one the same but equally beautiful in it's uniqueness. There is no right or wrong choice. We make our lives into whatever we choose. It's all good. ;)
I have just watched part one so far, and I am at work. People are wondering why I am crying with a smile, so I will tell them a friend made such a beautiful video. This has touched me in a strong way. I feel like I have just walked home in the beautiful rain. Thank you so much Sarah for doing so much.
O, how much that means to me - thank you dear friend for all that you give: the words, the love, the sense when walking in the rain, with no one in sight, that I am not alone.
Thank you Sarah, I think your view is closer to where I would like to define myself cause even though I don't know why I am like I am, I would still like to know that it is my choice that brought me down this road. Congratulations to the Newly Weds
I've watched all three of these videos twice. Your eloquence, as usual, is truly impressive.
While I do not agree with everything you said in these three videos, I do agree with some of it and have definitely not been rubbed the wrong way. (smiles)
You are an interesting person and I find even the words I disagree with well worth listening to and recommending to others.
Thank you for posting these, and giving us all something to think about.
And thank you SO much for the warm words - and for including so many of these vids on your favorites page. I'm honored. And no need to agree - its enough for me that you listened.
I look forward to hearing more from you in twitterland and through your journal.
This was a timely video Sarah. I was starting to feel sorry for myself. Thinking that it is a monumentally bad joke that life has played on me that I could only escape by not playing the game.
I only need to find out what I need to do to be me.
Nothing more and certainly nothing less.
Now, were did I put my mental machete? I have to clear some undergrowth as it obscures my path.
I love your sentiments in the second half of this comment - and the machete image, too funny LOL! Naomi, I have not a doubt in the world that you'll succeed - who you are is already right there, complete, whole, just below the surface.....ok, and the armor :D
It's difficult enough to get ppl to except transgenderism and it seems to be even harder for some to understand when someone who is trans can also be gay.I've tried to explain that gender and sexuality are two different things.How would you explain it?These are sum of the random debates that I find myself in lol.
charlenemonique1 1 year ago
Oh, and most dont realize that you are male or female inside first where it determines what you SHOULD be on the outside.This all goes to show that sex is not determined necessarily by the outside.How frustrated I'd be if I were born in that position.
charlenemonique1 1 year ago
The whole thing is so easy for me as a non-trans female to comprehend. It's a birth defect. Your sex on the inside did'nt reflect what you really are on the inside.Most people dont know that they also have male and female brains that just happened to match their outsides.
charlenemonique1 1 year ago
@charlenemonique1 I truly appreciate your comments - thank you for the suport and obvious understanding of the issues. Allies like you are so valuable and unique and, well, cherished - at least by me.
unmeasuredinstances 1 year ago
I wanna see out and proud transpeople one day :-) Love your post
spimpernel 1 year ago
@spimpernel So sorry I missed your post here a month ago - but, even though belated, a very sincere thanks!
unmeasuredinstances 1 year ago
You've thought about this a lot. I completely agree with you. I think this way of thinking is more than just 'progressive'.
I've found a few things in life where there is no downside. When I come across those things I get happy because I know my path without any doubt. This way of thinking about gender is one of those things. There are no downsides, consequences...only benefits and unity.
xo
Jamie
fiddlejamie 3 years ago
Jamie - I am SO glad to have found your comment here....thank you.
It's true, I have thought a lot about this....and over the years those thoughts have changed, have grown, emerging from a sense of being a victim to a much stronger sense of claiming and embracing my life in all its complexities and texture.
♡ Sarah
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
I have found, for myself, that there are no "easy paths" or "fixes" in life. We all are "who we are" (no one person any better than the next) and all have choices to take whatever path makes us happy. Our path, our choices, and our desires are as unique as a fingerprint...no one the same but equally beautiful in it's uniqueness. There is no right or wrong choice. We make our lives into whatever we choose. It's all good. ;)
artsyfart66 3 years ago
I couldn't summarize it any better.
And I'm so happy my choices in life intersected with yours.
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
me too ;)
artsyfart66 3 years ago
Oh goody I love mix and match!!
ClosetCaseLez 3 years ago
There is something about the abandon in that sentence that makes me wonder just how long that 'closet' will last :)
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
i agree.
if we as human beings weren't the ones who made the choices about who we are now, then what do we have to show for our humanity?
if we as members of the queer community weren't the ones who made the choices about who we are now, then what right do we have to say we are proud?
"You gave your life to become the person you are right now. Was it worth it?" Richard Bach
samusamu 3 years ago
What a beautiful quote - I had never seen it before. Thank you. And of course, always sweet to see you have stopped by.
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
I have just watched part one so far, and I am at work. People are wondering why I am crying with a smile, so I will tell them a friend made such a beautiful video. This has touched me in a strong way. I feel like I have just walked home in the beautiful rain. Thank you so much Sarah for doing so much.
Peace and Love,
Diana
hintgiver 3 years ago
O, how much that means to me - thank you dear friend for all that you give: the words, the love, the sense when walking in the rain, with no one in sight, that I am not alone.
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
Sarah,you inspire self-esteem among all people.
1948mmm 3 years ago 2
And you inspire smiles.
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
Thank you Sarah, I think your view is closer to where I would like to define myself cause even though I don't know why I am like I am, I would still like to know that it is my choice that brought me down this road. Congratulations to the Newly Weds
1ginger4u2 3 years ago 2
As you can tell, choice is a biggy in my book, so I completely understand :)
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
Bravo, Sarah, you continually amaze me. xoxo
riftgirlblog 3 years ago
♡
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
I've watched all three of these videos twice. Your eloquence, as usual, is truly impressive.
While I do not agree with everything you said in these three videos, I do agree with some of it and have definitely not been rubbed the wrong way. (smiles)
You are an interesting person and I find even the words I disagree with well worth listening to and recommending to others.
Thank you for posting these, and giving us all something to think about.
scribblemethis 3 years ago
And thank you SO much for the warm words - and for including so many of these vids on your favorites page. I'm honored. And no need to agree - its enough for me that you listened.
I look forward to hearing more from you in twitterland and through your journal.
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago
This was a timely video Sarah. I was starting to feel sorry for myself. Thinking that it is a monumentally bad joke that life has played on me that I could only escape by not playing the game.
I only need to find out what I need to do to be me.
Nothing more and certainly nothing less.
Now, were did I put my mental machete? I have to clear some undergrowth as it obscures my path.
NaomiClareNL 3 years ago
I love your sentiments in the second half of this comment - and the machete image, too funny LOL! Naomi, I have not a doubt in the world that you'll succeed - who you are is already right there, complete, whole, just below the surface.....ok, and the armor :D
unmeasuredinstances 3 years ago