Transition And Fear

[honeygurlism]

Your really pretty wow!!! love you

[Marge6351]

Trans women are afraid of transition because it's part of our survival to keep our secret, in this day and age men and even women oppress us due to ignorance. Being TS in this world is a vulnerability, dangerous, in many of our minds and cisgendered women's minds, some secrets are much safer remaining secret. TS women, when they transition, have to fight and struggle against the current of prejudice, as did black people in the slave days, sometimes that current is too strong for us and we lose

[Holly02391]

show boobs plz

[bedjunky]

etc etc etc but your eyes have like a ring (panda) and you sound sad something is wrong, tell me!

[Jomama5144]

I watch this video over and over - you speak to me in so many ways. I wish I saw your message years ago.

[ashley98102]

well done

one of the best advises I ever heard

thank you thank you thank you

[urmwhynot]

@ashley98102 Im happy you found it useful! All the best :-D

[mastrubite]

you are sooo beautiful! WOW <3

[urmwhynot]

@mastrubite Thanks for your lovely comment :-)

[tomken8dy]

I'm the LAST one who can judge you.

I'm developing gynecomastia and I LIKE it.

I'm heterosexual but I LOVE my little breasts.

I'm seriously considering hormones to

"worsen" my "condition:" :))

btw

You're gorgeous. ^_^

[9033key]

@tomken8dy love ur work lol

[slovesk766]

i wish i could transition...but right now im too afraid and its just too expensive..

[urmwhynot]

@slovesk766 The expense part is justifiable, the fear however is something that takes time to get over, but first you have to want to.

[slovesk766]

@urmwhynot yes, that's true...well one day ill be brave enough to do it. your video is very inspirational, btw. thank you for uploading it

[dutico]

@urmwhynot I had alot of fear of transitioning, but I'm slowly getting over the fear, and I'm getting more and more excited.

[Ruisim81]

@slovesk766 : idem for me!.. :-(

[9033key]

You have absolutely no idea what life changing impact that speech has just had on me, that it!! I ant gonna be as stunning as you but I'm gonna try and show the female form in the best light I can for what amazing creatures they are and can be, guys can be pritty noble and decent to, I just hope one day people like us, woundnt have to post messages like this as it will be the norm. And move forward to talk about more serous maters that goes on this crazy little planet. Peace ( lots of love = le

[urmwhynot]

@9033key Thanks for your kind feedback and for sharing your thoughts :)

[Polojine1]

@9033key lol u hope u will be normal... sadly it will never be normal like a fucking bee among birds

[9033key]

@Polojine1  sssshhhhhhhhhhhh

[urmwhynot]

@Polojine1 Sadly - you have poor English skills(lol). Aside from that, you sound like you have arse for a brain - piss off idiot - go satisfy your superiority complex elsewhere, and FYI - as you consider your pathetic reply, remember this - you are as much of a match for me, as a pig is to a PC(like that? at least I do it right - u stupid cunt).

[Trubbishstar]

You are absolutely gorgeous :)

[badbart08]

thanks a lot. i am a college students in mississippi. i am so afraid to transition. i have thought about running away and drop out of college and cut all ties. i can't transition now. but thanks for the words of wisdom. i do want to finish school because i have worked so hard. my biggest fear is that the degree will be a waist because i am afraid i won't be able to find a job because of being a TG.

[theneedtoexpresss]

U look like Vanessa Hudgens somehow...

[SamtheDinosaur]

i would have never guessed that she once was a guy. thats pretty amazing

[BrisbaneGoFish]

you have a gorgeous face, an love the aussie accent

[urmwhynot]

@Sssarah23555 I read this comment, and I try to think about what kind of person would post it. I am immediately struck with a sense of loss, and hatred on a more personal side. Whatever it is that brings you here and prompts you to speak like this cannot be fixed through hatred, or through being overwhelmed by the destructive side of change. Walking forward into the challenges life gives us is the only way through. Spreading hatred will not cure the ache you have.

[thisissoexciting]

beautiful and artistic

[briannacollins44]

we all want to be beautiful, think about it that way, everyone just interprets beauty in a dif way, some want to be another gender, but if that makes them feel beautiful then thats fine.

[mayazareh]

The way you look just blows Me away :D:D

[peaceandparty]

hmmmmm

i like the way you talk in your vids

calm and good

though i think many people are missing the bigger picture

i am happy to treat you as yourself

we are all one but we are not the same

peace be with us all always and eventually

all for one and one for all

[MaibeTori]

^^ I'm trans but I'm ftm (:

Trans people rule. We are just as good as anyone if not better :P

I don't like to hate. But I dislike ignorant people.

You're videos are awesome <3 much love hun.

[DenasMomma]

Thank you!!!-one question: my great-grandmother wore this beautiful, wide brimmed straw hat when she took me to the park. She had this hatpin, that must have been about six inches long. Do you know of any places where I might find hatpins for my hat?-krw

[karlberg]

Hey, i just started transitioning 2 nights ago. I'm a little scared but I'm excited too. I'm looking forward to becoming a woman for the rest of my life!

[dannyxstardust]

You are so gorgeous!..I would date you in a heartbeat and treat you as the lady that you are!..We truly all are different in our own ways and seek our own paths..In reality..You simply put are GORGEOUS!! =] Do you have a facebook?

[JorEl7771]

nice video. I am a straight guy but I wanted say, I respect angrogynous and transgenders very much. Many of you are very artistic and just awesome people. Anyway, all the best to you and you look unbelieveably beautiful! Peace. 

[haz3leys18]

Ur unbeliavable hot. Just curious how old are you?

[idontknowit84]

Do you take voice lessons?

[couragefire]

This video was so inspiring while I watched it it literally gave me hope for transitioning I'm gunna use all the hope I have just to start so Plzz wish me luck :( I'm still rlly scared btw it's like there 2 parts of me I'm rlly scared of the risk

[ushershowcase]

@couragefire thats really brave of you. I hope all goes well with your transition and your loved ones except your choice. Good luck :)

[ersaamen]

Wow that was so beautiful!!



[TransBillie]

WOW, powerful!

[xputonahappyfacex]

i love the "ahh" in the begining soo cute >:3

[ActionFilmsNeo]

I have bean thinking about becomeing a girl for 3 years now.

I am still not sheir if I should or not. I do not fear to transition but their is still some thinks I need to answer.

[KellykaLynn]

beautifully worded. I cried.

[EmEtt93]

I would totally not believe you were a boy once... I think transgending is really cool how it works so well!  very fortunate for trans peeps these days!

your words are honest and true, keep it up pretty lady ;]

[travesti4life]

good video

[Whitenail3]

Then again fear is something of a driving force in the desire to transition, fear that if something's not done soon you'll lose hope and end up putting a gun to your head.

There's my philosophy for the day, but what you said is totally true.

[Sicvicious]

wow I love your voice... have any tips for me?

[utubefanbase]

Thought speeketh the truth.....but .....do not besiege me with the benevolence of your credence, nor solicit my gratification, or words, that fall not onto your favor. LOL your speech sounded so royal. But you are so right. and more power to ya for pointing this out. I'm a TG myself but just starting out and I gotta tell ya right now my biggest challenge is losing weight. someone e-mail me @ anni_da_jedi1@yahoo.com if you got ideas for dropping upper body weight.

[valeriatvpr]

Looking at your videos and I am very happy for you!

[sadye07]

Oh your so hot ;):) Well.. I'd be Pansexual for you (=

[PaulDiracFRS]

Any mtf girls here? Speaking for yourself, do you tend to crave bio boys, ftm boys or do you not really give a shit? Do you find yourself more 'affirmed in your femininity' if you're accepted by a hot bio guy you like, than by an ftm guy? Just curious. Never met a trans girl before; YouTube is a cool way to satisfy curiosity.

As for me: I'm a typical bio guy: if you've got a pussy, I'd like to fuck it.

[jaywalk2009]

i so want to do u badly

[OneSephiroth]

wow, i am so jealous! who is your surgeon? I'd like to know x

[tsloverlarry]

WOW!  You are lovely!!

[TheJayward1113]

Yah what that person said they should cuz it's hard to get courage to do what we want to do

[boyspuros]

how anyone could be anything but in awe of the fearlessness and strength of transgender ppl is beyond me! let alone discriminate, hate and belittle!! societies should be handing out awards and pensions simply for your courage!

[TheJayward1113]

Thank you thank you thank you hehe:) :)

[TheJayward1113]

Do u have a myspace I may be able to look up and talk to you plea ??

[urmwhynot]

@TheJayward1113 myspace[dot]com/urmwhynot :)

[shumebute]

if i would be hot like you i would transition too :)

[Rhonda1637R]

Damned right, sister.

In my case, it was a matter literally of survival. In 2005, when I finally understood after 5 decades of unresolved TS-induced hell, it was to either put a 9mm hollow point round through my head or to Transition.

Not much of a solution set, it it - ?

I lost everything, including a 12 year wonderful marriage, except for my job. But what the hell choice did I have, sweetie?

But YOU understand, don't you?

{{{HUG}}}

[urmwhynot]

@Rhonda1637R Completely, and utterly! XD

[peaceandparty]

@Rhonda1637R hi there i think and know that when the world and us people understand the natural existence of intersex that many people wont feel pressured to kill themselves or to transition finally gender will play no part in society we will all just express ourselves as individuals as people! no sex,no gender just individuals i feel sorry for anyone who isnt ,like me , intersexed and knows nothing of intersex! transsexualism is a little out of hand because of the lack of knowledge of intersex

[LouSaydus]

@Rhonda1637R Wow you are incredibly brave. Some would rather take the bullet than loose everything they've built. Cred doing it anyways.

[MrBoots06]

Can we see a shot of your body just to go with that beautiful face.

[louis1x]

thank you....

your voice is very nice

[JamesMorlan]

You speak in absolutes, but everybody's journey is their own. And you can live a satisfying, fulfilling life with whatever choices you make - you simply have to decide. Whether a transgendered person is transsexual or not, only they know, but it doesn't really matter as long as you love yourself in the moment. We all want something in life, but what makes happy people happy is the ability to find happiness with what they've got.

I'm happy for you.

[viper007ish]

Lea u r just great hey and dynamite too ! xxx

[AnAscendingAngel]

"You can lie to everyone else, but you cannot lie to yourself" .. It is a line those in denial should take to heart.

[santiagobenites]

You're awesome!!!

[msjennaclarke]

THANK YOU !!!!!!

[TheJayward1113]

I mean love

[TheJayward1113]

Can you tell me what your myspace name is I would lobe to be your friend so very much pleas ?

[nicksevern]

you are quite striking...do you like foot massages?

[InnerConflictBR]

OMG! You have a cat mouth!!! That's so pretty ^^

I want to start my transition... for the time being I'm getting psicological help ... to see if that's what I really want....

If I do start transitioning I'll hope I'll end up like you...

Pretty and with a cute cat mouth

I mean... you don't smile like this =) ... your smile is more like =3

[alphanumeric1971]

Awwww, your just a big squishy bundle of cute!!!

[vanessawester]

I really like your video and totally agree that living a life without transitioning is like living a life half lived; in denial. Transitions not easy either, so gotta be strong and find the light at the end of the tunnel :p

Bless!

and thanks for the self-esteem booster :)

[asdfaasdfaasdfa]

( . Y . ) you wish

[GenderIsOverrated]

You look very pretty, I'm happy for you that your in such a place you can do this. But I find it extremely offensive that you would basically say your better than other people for transitioning and saying that people who can't get past there fears are ignorant. Not accepting the fact people are going to hate you for what you are dousnt make you ignorant! I dont accept it, I tolerate it I use it to make me strong Not everybody has your life, I came out and it destroyed my life I'm now at square 1

[urmwhynot]

@GenderIsOverrated This isnt meant to be offensive.. but it might be worthy to note, that if you feel offended, that that has more to do with you, that it does me. I do not put myself on a pedestal next to other people who are challenged by the same condition.. Just because I use the word "ignorant", does not mean that I am saying Im better than anyone else. It is like when you see a car without a wheel, you can say why it won't roll, because it is obvious.

[GenderIsOverrated]

@urmwhynot So it's my fault i find offence in you generalizing without exception anyone who fears transition as ignorant ? I don't think you set out to be offensive in this video but I Wont ignore the "ignorant" comment as in itself its extremely ignorant and hypocritical... And comparing transgenderism to a car with no wheel is stupid. There are always exceptions and variables, you excluded them as if this was black and white, life isn't black and white...

[fireflygirl246]

@GenderIsOverrated I don't think she ment that she is better then non trans people as a whole. But we have an unque experinece in life that gives us something most people don't get. first and for most we experince what it is like to be both a boy and a girl, that gives us insight into the genders that most people don't have. so yes I think trans people have somethng unque to offer, but we are not "better people" then everyone else, but we are better people then we were for transitioning.

[GenderIsOverrated]

@fireflygirl246 I didn't make it clear enough with the few characters I had but my issue is with calling out anyone scared of transitioning as being in denial and therefore ignorant. We each have a different story to tell and issues to overcome and saying your ignorant for not wanting to destroy what you have like I did is very offensive to me.

[fireflygirl246]

@GenderIsOverrated I can understand why you would find that offensive, but I did not get that form what she said. I know in my case I was in denial form about 17-25, I was lieing to myself and wish I did change my life before I did, but only I can judge my own life. I might apeal to people not to let others pressure you into denial, but I would never judge someone that chooses to not to go through with transition, its a choice we all have to make for ourselfs.

[peaceandparty]

@GenderIsOverrated most people are uneducated most people are not aware of the middle sexed people like myself most people cant get to grips with how a mind cannot always match the steroetypical body that "ought" to align with their mind and behaviours! individualism is on the way in! life is about change and processes trust that you always do the right thing when you listen to heart there are more than males and females in the world if you want to show me as an example to help you,then do! :)

[dstoody]

I couldn't hear anything you said, but you're very cute.

If you're on Facebook, please look me up, Dave Stoudenmyre

[auquaboi]

i found a sense of uplifting courage from this thnk u :) <3

[usero88]

looking good hun x

[gdfjf1]

You are so so so so so sexy

[MrLukasDiSparrow]

loving this video!!

[cindytg87]

don't use the word human nature. people are not born biggots. They where made that way my the environment they grew up in. I much rather use the term "Human Behavior" and unfortunately in todays society much of the humans behavior is very ugly.

[MrVision1992]

Transcending means passing 3 phases. mind-cross dressing, body-transsexual and soul transgender. Judgment and acceptance from others addresses

the 4th plane. Spirit is how one sees themselves or others in the sense of God and eternity. 2 Bible verses deal with transgenders1) Spirit is spirit and flesh is flesh.

2) Shall the clay say to the potter i don't like how you made me? i ask is a spirit feminine or masculine. God is the final judge.. fear him.. Find peace in that God is in control.

[Chelscity]

i was wondering if you could redo this one? you said so many good tibits.

[jmvargasme]

ill stand up for you and keep those stupid people who want to hurt you away. and ill beat the shit out of them!

[Unabomber2]

Luf you :)

[Sk8t3rfromh3ll]

I have to say, you're a great inspiration. I'm only 17 in the process of transitioning and I'm full of fear. Ugh, having conflicts with myself on what is and isn't appropiate. That and dealing with judgemental people. Oh really, you know how it is.

Still, you've helped me realize my main fault. I'm just plain in denial, sadly. I really hope I can overcome it all.

Thank you though :]

[tiburoncita99]

you loock like tv artist

[john95250]

hi trans poeple are cool and brave

[peaceandparty]

@john95250

i think so too

but so are the middle intersexed people

we still arent being recognised as anything but abnormalities

i think there is a huge need for better understanding of human beings on planet earth

[NicolaJane1978]

cutee hottee!! xx

[secretacct0125]

Is it wierd i wanted to be a women since age:11?It happend in the sixth month of puber** (for some reason i cant post a comment if i say that word)It was like when i woke up some-one flippped a switch.Can some one help my ecspecially urmwhynot.

[MsKateQuinn]

Wow, this really struck a chord with me and how my own fear is crippling me.

Thanks for helping me see the denial aspects of my "inevitable" life, and thanks for the confidence!

[AngelMarie1976]

This video is very, artistic; almost statuesque your character is on the screen. Poised, composed, shadowed, edits are nicely done. Perhaps it's not intentional that your camera has to adjust it's exposure / iris on the beginning of each sequence, or maybe it is, either way, it adds a nice effect. :-)

[NaturalGrace]

Whoo, girl, you're gorgeous, but you really shouldn't be a blonde. Or at least not a platinum blonde. With your skin tone, going brunette would be so much more flattering.

[spyware60]

Great video, this explains a lot to me

[1x93cm]

i let it begin...i even got ffs

and still the FEAR is everpresent with a side dish of IMPENDING DOOM

and i'm only 24

[Rhonda577]

No volume..

[urmwhynot]

speakers up hun:)..volume is low:(

[FanOfJanis]

I almost gave in to fear. You are SO right. Let transition begin. I begin HRT in December. Thanks so much for making this vid.

[Painface28]

Anything for a beautiful woman.. :)

[Painface28]

Lol.. It is a compliment. U should watch it sometime if you like christian bale. Its a good movie. But yes... It certainly reminded me of such. :)

[Painface28]

U r a very attractive woman. But I want to ask.. Seems like u made this video with a base of the movie equilibrium. I'm not saying you did.. Lol. Just that is reminds me of it. Keep staying beautiful there gorgeous.

[urmwhynot]

haha!! I can't say I know the movie... But ill take that as a compliment that you would compare my humble vlog to anything remotely professionally made..lol.. tnx for the comments:)

[Gustav403]

ur a cutiepie baby

[juggaloco86]

I know how u feel girl im just to confused how to start and i do worry about haters.go aussie xo

[ALshow1989]

Are you a mtf?

[punkguy121]

You're gorgeous :)

And what you say is so tru!

[Rachelxdresser]

I love you vid. No matter who or what you are there will be a segment of society that will hate or at least not like you so be who you want to be and love yourself.

Love!

[dressed2chill]

I wish I had your bravery to transition myself, I can't do it alone, I would be totally disowned by everyone

[princessadiamond]

live your life and be proud of whatever or who you are!!!!! People only judge what they see if you carry yourself like a lady thats what people will see you as!!! GOOD luck on your journey sweety!!!!! ((((((((hugs))))))))))

[mmontes15]

Well certainly monetary issues are a major concern, but I would venture to guess that most people's reasons for not transitioning are outside of monetary issues as well. In my case its my marriage. I'd prefer not to lose it and have made a choice against transition. Is it fear based? Maybe, to some degree, but its also love based, because I love my spouse dearly and do not want to lose what is the most significant relationship of my life. I'm sure there MANY that suffer with GID like me.

[julianasrainbow]

I love this video and I watch it everyday....Juliana, from the USA

[Melanie124a]

HI,

very succinct, you are brave, me too, it just took me a long time--im trying to become active in the community by reaching out and being public about who I am--and am writing a book, its half done and will be called Melanie124a---be well, stay pretty, melanie

[hypermmx]

great message, ur awsum =) keep it up ur vids are great =)

[JenniferMarie1969]

Great Message and I totally agree, we should not be afraid to Transition ...... :)

[6672rock]

For what it's worth, your inner strength and keen insight really resonates loudly and only serves to enhance both your outer and inner beauty. You are truly a diamond in the rough, and may you be blessed always.

[Hisrevenge]

You are incredibly beautiful, but more importantly you are wise and very inspiring. I aspire to be like you, and I hope that one day I will be able to speak from the other side... and inspire and educate others. To strengthen those who are in my place. Good luck in everything that you do! <3

[yafagael]

Lea, thank you so much. Your words are comforting and they give me strength to keep my head up as I transition on a military base in Germany. I must accept that this is not going to be easy, but also that the alternative is impossible, I must be who I am inside.

many bright blessings,

Inara, your sister in the craft.

[julianasrainbow]

You are very brave and very beautiful, and I am very jealous. I understand what yoou're saying when you live in denial and you're too afraid to walk out of the house in a women's shirt because you feel that they'll make fun of you or worse, they may even kill you. I've come to no longer be this way.

So I will transition and not be afraid.

[krazime92]

you fucking rock in this video!!!!!!!!!!!! =)

[Chlhlr0]

true words sister.

greetings, Alexandra

[karmatic1110]

You are so pretty! I might have a little crush :P

[brdncharles]

yeah lea's a cutie

[urmwhynot]

oooo... *blushes.. tnx charlotte:).x

[kotekotekitty]

i thaught that i wasnt in denial anymore cuz ive accepted im who i am but i suppose i am, cuz i hate the thaught of ppl not liking me ect, reminds me of school : /

[urmwhynot]

Accepting a fact as a fact doesn't mean that you have to like it... Accepting that hate is a force in the world is to find oneself resonating with the reasons why people hate, and understanding the true nature of fear as perpetuated by humans... Knowing that hate, and fear come hand in hand:)

[Erica2Lives]

Ignorance > Fear > Hate. What stops many transsexual people from transitioning isn't a lack of information, or a lack of courage, it's a lack of resources. Very few of us are capable of "going it alone" in this world. At the bare minimum you need food, clothing, shelter & safety to transition, & many trans people can suddenly find themselves without one or more of these simply by announcing their status. These are real-world concerns that any normal person fears, and a transperson even more so

[Erica2Lives]

A person also needs love, companionship, money/job to be happy, and these are also things that are easily lost when coming out as transsexual. These fears are not unfounded or unreasonable, and to just charge headlong into transition like the light brigade with nothing but an "I can do it" attitude as your shield is going to mean failure, and MANY transpeople have demonstrated the truth of this. Transition needs to be planned and undertaken in a logical, step-by-stem manner if one wants succeed.

[universalJok3r]

true, fear is usually a large part delaying transition, but your forgetting the other reasons.

money is an important one, theres no point diving into transition if you don't have the resources to continue it indefinitely.

lack of experience is another, most new transitioners don't have the basic skills they need to survive in their new gender, and that adds alot more strain to transition if they are starting at square one while going full time.

these kinds of things take time to learn...

[universalJok3r]

... job security is another huge factor too. You have to consider that you may not only lose your current job, but not be able to find employment. its important to hold on to your ideals, but ideals dont pay for hormones, hair removal or SRS.

your heart might lead you to transition, but its your head that gets you through it alive. There is no point going headlong into transtion if you don't have the knowledge or the stability to get through it, no matter how much it hurts.

[urmwhynot]

True.. Money is important.. survival must come first... But when the predicament of transition bickers, and makes shreds of the ideals of survival.. Like happiness, then there is much more than just the physical things at risk. Being transgendered today means you need to be able to adapt, and be self-resourceful.. and not rely wholly on traditional methods of income.

[universalJok3r]

yeah, but honestly as hurtful as GD is, without a long term plan people usually wind up back at square one having to halt transtion, which puts them in an even worse state than when they started. The sad fact is money can't come from nowhere, and before transtioning people need to weigh their options and at least have a back-up plan or a place lined up that they know will be accepting. its about knowing when to hold your cards and knowing when to play them.

[alferciaga]

Precisely! ;)

[urmwhynot]

I think what youre saying is very generalizing, and is a complete ode to what I am talking against in this vlog. You can sit there and make excuses til the cows come home... But most people who hav access to this video, are able to maintain an internet connection, which to me, is testiment to the fact, that I am not addressing 3rd world people, in 3rd world conditions. Money most certainl can come from nowhere.. This very website is testiment to the fact.

[urmwhynot]

Being trans means being resourceful... I know trans people from all different careers, and jobs, and to tell you the truth... It's very rare that I talk to people who do not transition for monetary reasons.. Maybe one person in the many hundreds who have messaged me have been unsure about how they will pay...This person happened to be from a poorer part of Europe, and lived on a farm.

[urmwhynot]

See, so this vlog is based on my interactions with my youtube subscribers, and friends. And the general consensus that halts transition is not money at all... It is the crippling fear. Thanks you for your passionate input.. I love a good debate:).. Peace

[FWtrapper]

Hi Lea. i think your attitude and help dealing with the mental side of transgender is very enlightening and very positive. it should help me out quite a bit over my coming years. you look gorgeous btw, i am sure everyone tells you ;) kisses, daniella x

[waitingtolive]

very very well said a light bulb moment for me!

[cassieplay]

I thought Denial was a river in Egypt?

I'm not transitioning, but I admire the courage of anyone who is. People are different regardless of whether they are Trans or not.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone could show more kindness to people they don't understand.

Just trying to lighten things up a bit...

Even though I understand that this is anything but a Trivial subject.

Cassie...

[TigerKerouac]

Lovely and poetic. Thanks for the strong words.

[Erica2Lives]

When you say "...I do not fear the same things they do", are you talking about things like losing a business you spent 20 years building, or getting divorced & not being able to see your children anymore, or being fired from your job and having no source of income? Idealism is fine, but to imply that being afraid of transition is purely a matter of ones mindset is pretty naive. There are legitimate, real world obstacles that have nothing to do with fearing the ignorant comments of strangers.

[urmwhynot]

That being said... do any of of those thing matter if the life you live is of a quality secondary to what you could be living. I am a business owner myself, and I transitioned as I studied.. I risked the loss of my family, and close friends..and lost both along the way... I was discriminated against in the workplace, and lost opportunities... But this never stopped me... And it shouldnt stop anyone... Its not an excuse... Its just another reason to not transition.

[Erica2Lives]

I agree, but there is irrational fear (like being afraid to fly) and rational fear (like being afraid of walking through a bad part of town at night.) Rational fear exists to warn you that what you are facing could harm you. Sometimes listening to your fear can save your life. Some people would willingly sacrifice their happiness, or their life, to make certain their child's life was better. Not every trans person is meant to transition, and if they choose to forgo transition because

[Erica2Lives]

their fears are warranted, we have to respect that.

[urmwhynot]

I appreciate what you say, but condoning the fear that eats away at many thousands of men and women around the world is not a business I am into. I have seen many people live tormented lives coz of it, once they have lost their wives, and children, and jobs to the dysphoria, that creates a depression that in some that is unbeatable, and destroys their being.

[urmwhynot]

I understand that many people will look at these "real world obstacles", and see them as something that comes with ridicule, and distain, but that is no different from the ignorant comments that might be spouted from the mouth of a stranger. It is ignorance/denial that professes its dominance over all trans-matters.