Hey, you remind me of friend of mine, Martin from Germany. Anyway, things you are talking about in your video have nothing to do with introverts. Extroverts are the ones who are under more social stress and full of insecurities, because they feel they wanna please social norms. On the other hand, introverts do not feel that need to be valuated by extrovert set of principles. I am an introvert and I can play your game of public speaking better than you, just I choose not to. Happy introvert.
Learning how to make surfacy chitchat with an extravert is ridiculous advice! Embrace your introversion....STOP apologizing for your wonderful uniqueness. We are the inventors, the thinkers, and major contributors to this planet. Perhaps the extravert should learn to slow down and listen and stop sucking our energy up with their nonsense chatter?
Being introverted doesnt mean you are shy, however most people who are shy are introverts. There is a huge difference. I am an introvert myself, but nowhere near being shy, I just dont feel the need to fill up my day with random babble about nothing, something that extroverts are great at.
Why would an introvert want to act extroverted? It's not their nature. I think you are confusing introverts with people with social anxiety disorder. I am an introvert, and I do not desire to be more social or outgoing.
hey man introverts don't need to act extroverting, that is like asking extroverts being alone all day with no cell phone. Get your facts straight! Being an introvert is awesome!
Introverts are far more intelligent than Extroverts. Why? Because Introverts know why Extroverts like to talk. Extroverts on the other hand cant understand why Introverts like to be alone. It takes something called "abstract reasoning" to understand someone else s behavior. To understand why another person acts the way they do. Introverts have it. Extroverts don't.
I think you have shy and introverted mixed up lol. Why should introverts like me have to act like extraverts? Some of us actually like the person we are. You should start acting like something you're not.
"unfortunately for introverts, the issue doesn't boil down to shyness or insecurity. it would be nice if it did." ... what's that supposed to mean? Please elaborate.
pinglauwa, I disagree with your comment. I see what you're saying and maybe agree PARTLY, but being introverted and shy often goes hand-in-hand. Even if you're really introverted and need LESS interaction and enjoy solitude more than others, as social animals it pays to have a certain minimum of interactions. Also, introverts more of a predisposition to be shy, and it's not just due to insecurity. The tips are relevant and hit the spot, if you ask me.
@fritosss93, there's nothing wrong with being an introvert per se, but we live in a world and so getting on well in life requires a MINIMUM of interactions. Take it from an introvert such as myself.
So I'm shy because I'm introverted? Not quite, but thanks for playing. Also, I doubt for some reason that rehearsing a social script is really going to help out with anxiety. What if the "plan" starts heading in a direction you hadn't anticipated (which they usually do)? Seems like it would add more anxiety to the mix. Not trying to cut you down, just offering my criticism :)
It'll feel like you've been sitting down for a long time; sooner or later you're going to have to stand up.
When it comes to comfort in social settings, anxiety can play a role. Amygdalae, the parts of the brain that signal the fight-flight response, create the feeling of anxiety. People who are shy have amygdalae that act up in social situations. This shyness (i.e., social anxiety) is it's very own thing separate from extroversion-introversion.
Extroversion and Introversion—which are just opposite ends of a continuous spectrum—are not only different psychologically, but they also describe a difference in brain function—physical brain function. Introverts have more activity around the frontal lobe area of the brain, while extroverts have more activity at the temporal lobe. Not to mention there's a difference in cortical arousal which can be linked to genetics (i.e., physical component).
@gurugoogly, I agree with you that most extroverts do act like that towards us, but a few extroverts out there understand us.
I've been called rude, stuck up, and a loser at work by many people, and I've done nothing to them at all, and I've even kind enough to help them move, and I still get no respect ...cruel world we live in huh? I'm an introvert, and I have moments were I do actually have good conversations with people, but some just like talking about babies, and football. -_-
In terms of imitating the outward appearance of an extrovert this advice may be useful, but in terms of bringing out one's extroverted side I think it's the wrong way to go about it. Planned, calculated, and especially thought-out social interactions are introverted in nature, not extroverted, and therefore only perpetuate your own introversion. To bring out one's extroverted side, I think having as much natural, spontaneous, and genuine interaction as possible is the best way to do it.
yeah, shy and insecure people are trying to pass it off or eufemism it as introversion, causing introverts to all of a sudden have to find an excuse on their terms for being introverted, because of what it has come to be compared to.
There is a need for an introvert to act more extraverted.I am the perfect example.Let me explain.I am 30 years old now and my only friends I ever known live out of state.For the past 8 years I have been alone and somewhat content but alone.There have been offers of friendship and to go out but I rejected them.The years have caught up with me and now I am way to lonely and its starting to effect my livelyhood.I have no GF and no friends.For 8 years!Now I am trying to repair the damage I have done
@loyolaf your're not an introvert , your're a lonly extrovert... im an introvert that finds it hard to understand why you need to repair the damage...if you was truely an introvert there would be no damage
I need help here. Ok a guy is is possibly planning a graduation party and is inviting all of the IT students and im a Introvert! And im not the party type and this guy has helped me twice with passing the Cisco exams which is HARD! and I dont want to be rude and not show up after so much he's helped me with like im not thankful. Because I dont want the majority to be there and im not and there talking about me behind my back because I didnt show up lol. Not like they have much to talk about tho
I think Extroverts should learn to live a "balanced life", not us. Maybe try shutting up for once, oh wait, you can't because your brain has an IQ less than a rat.
Introverts are Introverted for a reason. Because their extraverted parents, or extraverted society pushed them the wrong way, and now they don't share their ideas in fear of ridicule. I mean seriously, why dont YOU reach out
this is great advice. Introverts will always be introverts and should embrace that. But in reality (yes we do have to go there sometimes) we need to make the effort to have a balanced life and these tips will really help. Introverts need time to themselves but also need to care about other people and reach out to others.
ik what to say and how to say it. i have no problem with stories. its the idea of being around a bunch of extroverts who r loud and ppl listen to. i sit at prties and listen. which i'd b ok doing if i didnt think i looked awkwrd and ppl telling me to join the convo. plus i probly have 20x bttr things to tlk about then the crap thr tlking bout. and im completely happy bn and introvert but society these days apprtly isnt
@ALLthingsTV242 You pretty much nailed it, I'm very much the same way, I'm an Introvert and my best friend and family member is an Extrovert, usually around new people he pretty much used to steal the show, But now when i meet new people I'm pretty much upfront about it with them and tell them I more like to talk about Ideas and concepts instead of pop cultural small talk banter, I like to give advice or ideas. Introverts also tend to be very wise and creative as well.
@CrazyKing570 it reallly bothers me how every one is putting down extroverts i mean they do tend to talk about some superficial things sometimes but thr not stupid. the have brains and bn an extrovert doesnt mean ur stupid like bn an introvert doesnt mean ur shy and antisocial
@ALLthingsTV242 Yeah I get it, Like i said my best friend is Extrovert and he's a pretty smart guy.. He just tends to have the ability to adapt to other peoples interest's, where as I usually tend to stick to what interests me. You would think in a social environment he would have the upper hand but I've learned to be assertive and am able to manipulate the conversation more towards things I like to talk about..(continued)
@ALLthingsTV242 We work with the tools were given.. And you can't master or hone those until you know what it is you have and are comfortable with.. trying to be something your not usually ends up in failure, Where as embracing what you are; empowers you to become greater.. Strengthen your weakness but embrace your strong points.. We'd all be way better off..
The title of this video bothers me. My first impression is that it's implying introverts are inferior to extroverts - therefore they need to learn how to be more extroverted. Introverts are perfectly capable of handling social situations adeptly. We just take more time to think, reflect and observe before we speak. Being introverted does not mean that we are socially awkward. That is a misconception. I know you mean well, but please don't think and act as though we are less fortunate.
@daffyskies Exactly, Couldn't have said it better.. Sometimes I find myself talking to somebody and they say something very nonsensical or off-topic and I tend to have to say "Think about what you just said...."
@daffyskies i disagree with your first impression. As an introvert myself i see this video as being made purely for help. I think extroverts would also benefit from a video titled how to be more introverted. Both sides of the spectrum are equally valued according to mbti theory and it is my personal beleif that both sides would benefit from learning from the other.
But American society does not equally value both sides of the spectrum; introversion is not valued by society and will often hurt those who are introverted. An extrovert would not benefit from trying to be more introverted.
@mistacramer American society does not equally value both sides of the spectrum - of course! thats why someone would watch this video! An extrovert would DEFINATELY benefit from learning to be more introverted idk what your talking about. Do you mean they wouldn't benefit in the eyes of "society"? Well maybe less so than being extroverted, but society does not necessarily place no value on introvert qualities.
I have been an extrovert all my life till an event occured in highschool and I started becoming an introvert and anti-social. I have been like this for pretty much my whole highschool year and I am now in University. Will I get back to my same routes or am I stuck as an introvert?
@Bangsta89 Do you know that being introverted has nothing to do with being anti-social? You may still be and probably still are by the sound of it an extrovert but your "mind altering" event may have caused you to develop depression and/or anxiety, A.S., Depression, and Anx, are all psychological disorders.. Introversion and Extroversion is in your character..
@ferrari4sale its not there fault. im a super introvert and i hate tht and how extroverts dont get it but its not thr fault just like its not ours tht we dont understand.
This may be the trump card I have been looking for in order to help me start progressing again, I seem to have plateued on my journey to come out of my shell, don't get me wrong I have come a long way since, but being a late bloomer I tend to feel like I'm still only come half way and now I need to find out how to make that leap to finish....thanks
Trying to change me man? isn't going to happen. Sorry :) I love being introverted because it makes me unique, and it helps me reflect on ideas...Yea I tried all those books you've mentioned...didn't work.
You don't need to desire to become an extrovert in order to desire to improve on how you socialize. The reason I say this is because in the video, it kind of sounds like you frown upon people who are introverted. That aside though, those are very helpful techniques for social situations and I think I might just try them.
Somebody has mixed Shyness and Introversion. They are NOT the same thing!
Introverts has no more problem socialising than extroverts. Being an introvert has something to with being drained for energy more quickly being around other people than extroverts are.
Introverts are peopl who prefers being alone e.g relaxing with a book after a hard days work.
Geesh, social-anxiety has nothing to do with that.
Someone here has gotten being introvert and shy mixed up.. Introverts have absolutely NO need to act extrovert. Obviously, there will be introverts that feel the need to be social. but essentially It's just you either being insecure or just shy. It's not being introvert. And what I'm saying are facts.
@pinglauwa so true...im an intp and if i have nothing to say, then thats the way it staye's...and if i have no friends, it means i have more time to contenplate and create...
the trouble with extoverts is they spend to mutch time in big groups of people to understand the indervidual... this man's friend is clearly a shy extovert
@lygophile No I did no.. I was replying to jygophile whom posted his type. I hadn't posted mine until he posted his - I thought it was a funny coincidence that he was INTP, so I told him I was one as well.. If you look the the highest rated comment I posted it 8 months ago, without mentioning my being INTP.
@defminerva13 Why wouldn't it be possible? It's like asking if it's possible to be sad *and* depressed. The only answer is "Yes, of course.. Why wouldn't it be?"
@pinglauwa Yeh, I get very irritated when someone can't distinguish between introversion and shyness. It makes me want to walk right up to them and stare without saying anything to see if it makes them nervous.
@pinglauwa, I disagree with your comment. I see what you're saying and maybe agree PARTLY, but being introverted and shy often goes hand-in-hand. Even if you're really introverted and need LESS interaction and enjoy solitude more than others, as social animals it pays to have a certain minimum of interactions. Also, introverts more of a predisposition to be shy, and it's not just due to insecurity. The tips are relevant and hit the spot, if you ask me.
@pinglauwa Shyness is a lack of confidence. Introversion is an internal focus that can make it difficult to "get into the flow" and engage with others. You are right that they are different, but unfortunately for introverts, the issue doesn't boil down to shyness or insecurity. it would be nice if it did.
Nice advice on how to be more likeable but I'm not sure it would make a person more comfortable. If anything I think it would encourage people to approach you even more than they already do. Which would make things even worse.
Good advice.I liked your video alot because I believe the info you gave could be very practical in those "freeze up"situations.I also liked that there was no book sale at the end.But don't let that stop you from writing one.Oh by the way I'm an introvert so thanks 4 posting.
I am open to taking advice from you because you effectively communicate to me that you really understand what you are talking about. Your demeanor is calm and I can sense that you care about the people you are sharing these social skills with. I'm glad I came across your video. :)
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Hey, you remind me of friend of mine, Martin from Germany. Anyway, things you are talking about in your video have nothing to do with introverts. Extroverts are the ones who are under more social stress and full of insecurities, because they feel they wanna please social norms. On the other hand, introverts do not feel that need to be valuated by extrovert set of principles. I am an introvert and I can play your game of public speaking better than you, just I choose not to. Happy introvert.
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ivanaamidzic 2 weeks ago
Learning how to make surfacy chitchat with an extravert is ridiculous advice! Embrace your introversion....STOP apologizing for your wonderful uniqueness. We are the inventors, the thinkers, and major contributors to this planet. Perhaps the extravert should learn to slow down and listen and stop sucking our energy up with their nonsense chatter?
onerock7 2 months ago
Introverts are happiest people on earth when they make peace with their inner world
hadihadi222 3 months ago
@gurugoogly2 lol calm your tits
theohmightyniffum 3 months ago
Being introverted doesnt mean you are shy, however most people who are shy are introverts. There is a huge difference. I am an introvert myself, but nowhere near being shy, I just dont feel the need to fill up my day with random babble about nothing, something that extroverts are great at.
seanpaul031 4 months ago
I think extroverts are more introverted than introverts, their just more vocal about it.
Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that it doesn't matter - we're all people living on the same rock.
LeoGinoReveries 5 months ago
You're charming, but I have no need to act extroverted. No introvert should try not to be. In fact, I think just the opposite.
TheMarkSasuke64 5 months ago
I found the books you mentioned- you're an hero! Thanks!
Preparation is the key-right? :)
mzterrific 5 months ago
Good video, kinda, introverts need to put on this act to fit in. It's sort of intended to accommodate societies norms, not to change who you are.
MRINFO3 6 months ago
Why would an introvert want to act extroverted? It's not their nature. I think you are confusing introverts with people with social anxiety disorder. I am an introvert, and I do not desire to be more social or outgoing.
RetroJenny 7 months ago 3
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riverlioness 7 months ago
I don't mind anything about this video, but someone needs to make a video about extroverts key to acting introverted.
sergeantvictory 7 months ago 3
hey man introverts don't need to act extroverting, that is like asking extroverts being alone all day with no cell phone. Get your facts straight! Being an introvert is awesome!
SuperHorseman22 7 months ago 2
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Introverts are far more intelligent than Extroverts. Why? Because Introverts know why Extroverts like to talk. Extroverts on the other hand cant understand why Introverts like to be alone. It takes something called "abstract reasoning" to understand someone else s behavior. To understand why another person acts the way they do. Introverts have it. Extroverts don't.
Jsmooth7444 8 months ago
Felt like a secret mission briefing towards the end there. "Complete the mission, and may god speed you.". To be continued...
Captnmolywop 8 months ago
stop at 1:37
angelrend 9 months ago
fuck you i dont want to act like a extroverted asshole!!!
MegaHayhayhayhay 9 months ago
I think you have shy and introverted mixed up lol. Why should introverts like me have to act like extraverts? Some of us actually like the person we are. You should start acting like something you're not.
joelyjoelyjoelyJOELY 10 months ago
Great tip, this will help in a number of situations. -Eric
ELHIEGER1 10 months ago
im sorry sir, im not going to change my personality or act someone im not just to please other people, i find it very, very ridiculous to do so!
zombiekidcrazy 11 months ago 4
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"unfortunately for introverts, the issue doesn't boil down to shyness or insecurity. it would be nice if it did." ... what's that supposed to mean? Please elaborate.
daffyskies 11 months ago
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daffyskies 11 months ago
Introverts have absolutely NO need to act extrovert. +100500. Be yourself, always )
otakepepyake 1 year ago
A real introvert feels NO need to act extrovert.
Maybe an extrovert with no friends might need better social skills. But, you're conception of an introvert is completely wrong.
Introverts are NOT socially awkward people. They are people who find NO NEED to crave attention from other humans.
XxBrandon98xX 1 year ago 5
@XxBrandon98xX You can't say it any better than this.
TSGS21 8 months ago
What makes this guy think that an introvert wants to act extroverted? It's not our nature.
RetroJenny 1 year ago
INTERNAL LOCUS OF CONTROL
good vid
MrXSpeaks 1 year ago
pinglauwa, I disagree with your comment. I see what you're saying and maybe agree PARTLY, but being introverted and shy often goes hand-in-hand. Even if you're really introverted and need LESS interaction and enjoy solitude more than others, as social animals it pays to have a certain minimum of interactions. Also, introverts more of a predisposition to be shy, and it's not just due to insecurity. The tips are relevant and hit the spot, if you ask me.
stubo65 1 year ago
there should be a video on how to make extroverts act introverted so you dont have to here them rant so much
fritosss93 1 year ago 3
@fritosss93, there's nothing wrong with being an introvert per se, but we live in a world and so getting on well in life requires a MINIMUM of interactions. Take it from an introvert such as myself.
stubo65 1 year ago
So I'm shy because I'm introverted? Not quite, but thanks for playing. Also, I doubt for some reason that rehearsing a social script is really going to help out with anxiety. What if the "plan" starts heading in a direction you hadn't anticipated (which they usually do)? Seems like it would add more anxiety to the mix. Not trying to cut you down, just offering my criticism :)
Sincerely,
Headstrong INTJ ;D
SilensVenator 1 year ago 3
@gurugoogly2 You're kind of an idiot.
pinglauwa 1 year ago
It'll feel like you've been sitting down for a long time; sooner or later you're going to have to stand up.
When it comes to comfort in social settings, anxiety can play a role. Amygdalae, the parts of the brain that signal the fight-flight response, create the feeling of anxiety. People who are shy have amygdalae that act up in social situations. This shyness (i.e., social anxiety) is it's very own thing separate from extroversion-introversion.
Maybe a video for *SHY* people?
defminerva13 1 year ago
@defminerva13 This video is definately for shy people. Not introverted.
I'm introverted myself, yet alot of the people I know tend to think I am very outgoing, witty and energetic (extroverted)
pinglauwa 1 year ago
Extroversion and Introversion—which are just opposite ends of a continuous spectrum—are not only different psychologically, but they also describe a difference in brain function—physical brain function. Introverts have more activity around the frontal lobe area of the brain, while extroverts have more activity at the temporal lobe. Not to mention there's a difference in cortical arousal which can be linked to genetics (i.e., physical component).
Try being an introvert for a bit.
defminerva13 1 year ago
@gurugoogly, I agree with you that most extroverts do act like that towards us, but a few extroverts out there understand us.
I've been called rude, stuck up, and a loser at work by many people, and I've done nothing to them at all, and I've even kind enough to help them move, and I still get no respect ...cruel world we live in huh? I'm an introvert, and I have moments were I do actually have good conversations with people, but some just like talking about babies, and football. -_-
EricSchwin22 1 year ago
he needs to learn to get his point across in less than 30 seconds ;)
GotsdeFlavor 1 year ago
In terms of imitating the outward appearance of an extrovert this advice may be useful, but in terms of bringing out one's extroverted side I think it's the wrong way to go about it. Planned, calculated, and especially thought-out social interactions are introverted in nature, not extroverted, and therefore only perpetuate your own introversion. To bring out one's extroverted side, I think having as much natural, spontaneous, and genuine interaction as possible is the best way to do it.
xXPinkGoddessXx 1 year ago
yeah, shy and insecure people are trying to pass it off or eufemism it as introversion, causing introverts to all of a sudden have to find an excuse on their terms for being introverted, because of what it has come to be compared to.
great.
lygophile 1 year ago
There is a need for an introvert to act more extraverted.I am the perfect example.Let me explain.I am 30 years old now and my only friends I ever known live out of state.For the past 8 years I have been alone and somewhat content but alone.There have been offers of friendship and to go out but I rejected them.The years have caught up with me and now I am way to lonely and its starting to effect my livelyhood.I have no GF and no friends.For 8 years!Now I am trying to repair the damage I have done
loyolaf 1 year ago
@loyolaf your're not an introvert , your're a lonly extrovert... im an introvert that finds it hard to understand why you need to repair the damage...if you was truely an introvert there would be no damage
militaryminded85 1 year ago
I need help here. Ok a guy is is possibly planning a graduation party and is inviting all of the IT students and im a Introvert! And im not the party type and this guy has helped me twice with passing the Cisco exams which is HARD! and I dont want to be rude and not show up after so much he's helped me with like im not thankful. Because I dont want the majority to be there and im not and there talking about me behind my back because I didnt show up lol. Not like they have much to talk about tho
FatalDeity 1 year ago
every extrovert I have known is a brain dead moron.
Jsmooth7444 1 year ago
@Jsmooth7444 This is so true. Isn't it funny how they jump up and down, waving their arms to make up for it?
adamamida 1 year ago
@adamamida lol most definitely..kind of sad.
Jsmooth7444 1 year ago
I think Extroverts should learn to live a "balanced life", not us. Maybe try shutting up for once, oh wait, you can't because your brain has an IQ less than a rat.
Introverts are Introverted for a reason. Because their extraverted parents, or extraverted society pushed them the wrong way, and now they don't share their ideas in fear of ridicule. I mean seriously, why dont YOU reach out
CerberusSoul4ever 1 year ago 9
this is great advice. Introverts will always be introverts and should embrace that. But in reality (yes we do have to go there sometimes) we need to make the effort to have a balanced life and these tips will really help. Introverts need time to themselves but also need to care about other people and reach out to others.
nvsullivan 1 year ago
ik what to say and how to say it. i have no problem with stories. its the idea of being around a bunch of extroverts who r loud and ppl listen to. i sit at prties and listen. which i'd b ok doing if i didnt think i looked awkwrd and ppl telling me to join the convo. plus i probly have 20x bttr things to tlk about then the crap thr tlking bout. and im completely happy bn and introvert but society these days apprtly isnt
ALLthingsTV242 1 year ago 3
@ALLthingsTV242 You pretty much nailed it, I'm very much the same way, I'm an Introvert and my best friend and family member is an Extrovert, usually around new people he pretty much used to steal the show, But now when i meet new people I'm pretty much upfront about it with them and tell them I more like to talk about Ideas and concepts instead of pop cultural small talk banter, I like to give advice or ideas. Introverts also tend to be very wise and creative as well.
CrazyKing570 1 year ago
@CrazyKing570 it reallly bothers me how every one is putting down extroverts i mean they do tend to talk about some superficial things sometimes but thr not stupid. the have brains and bn an extrovert doesnt mean ur stupid like bn an introvert doesnt mean ur shy and antisocial
ALLthingsTV242 1 year ago
@ALLthingsTV242 Yeah I get it, Like i said my best friend is Extrovert and he's a pretty smart guy.. He just tends to have the ability to adapt to other peoples interest's, where as I usually tend to stick to what interests me. You would think in a social environment he would have the upper hand but I've learned to be assertive and am able to manipulate the conversation more towards things I like to talk about..(continued)
CrazyKing570 1 year ago
@ALLthingsTV242 We work with the tools were given.. And you can't master or hone those until you know what it is you have and are comfortable with.. trying to be something your not usually ends up in failure, Where as embracing what you are; empowers you to become greater.. Strengthen your weakness but embrace your strong points.. We'd all be way better off..
CrazyKing570 1 year ago
The title of this video bothers me. My first impression is that it's implying introverts are inferior to extroverts - therefore they need to learn how to be more extroverted. Introverts are perfectly capable of handling social situations adeptly. We just take more time to think, reflect and observe before we speak. Being introverted does not mean that we are socially awkward. That is a misconception. I know you mean well, but please don't think and act as though we are less fortunate.
daffyskies 1 year ago 37
@daffyskies Exactly, Couldn't have said it better.. Sometimes I find myself talking to somebody and they say something very nonsensical or off-topic and I tend to have to say "Think about what you just said...."
CrazyKing570 1 year ago
@daffyskies i disagree with your first impression. As an introvert myself i see this video as being made purely for help. I think extroverts would also benefit from a video titled how to be more introverted. Both sides of the spectrum are equally valued according to mbti theory and it is my personal beleif that both sides would benefit from learning from the other.
jaymoney522 7 months ago
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But American society does not equally value both sides of the spectrum; introversion is not valued by society and will often hurt those who are introverted. An extrovert would not benefit from trying to be more introverted.
mistacramer 6 months ago
@mistacramer American society does not equally value both sides of the spectrum - of course! thats why someone would watch this video! An extrovert would DEFINATELY benefit from learning to be more introverted idk what your talking about. Do you mean they wouldn't benefit in the eyes of "society"? Well maybe less so than being extroverted, but society does not necessarily place no value on introvert qualities.
jaymoney522 2 months ago
I have been an extrovert all my life till an event occured in highschool and I started becoming an introvert and anti-social. I have been like this for pretty much my whole highschool year and I am now in University. Will I get back to my same routes or am I stuck as an introvert?
Bangsta89 1 year ago
@Bangsta89 Do you know that being introverted has nothing to do with being anti-social? You may still be and probably still are by the sound of it an extrovert but your "mind altering" event may have caused you to develop depression and/or anxiety, A.S., Depression, and Anx, are all psychological disorders.. Introversion and Extroversion is in your character..
CrazyKing570 1 year ago
extroverts are so fake. They try too hard. Yes they are idiot sometime.
ferrari4sale 1 year ago
@ferrari4sale
Very intelligent comment.
Oh, wait...
Oxygene13 1 year ago
@ferrari4sale its not there fault. im a super introvert and i hate tht and how extroverts dont get it but its not thr fault just like its not ours tht we dont understand.
ALLthingsTV242 1 year ago
Why would an introvert want to act extro? Extros are idiots.
Poltergeist899 1 year ago
@Poltergeist899 So very true....A Postmodern class of them seem to actually glean a kind of purblind chutzpah from an incapacity to self-reflect.
djnross 1 year ago
This may be the trump card I have been looking for in order to help me start progressing again, I seem to have plateued on my journey to come out of my shell, don't get me wrong I have come a long way since, but being a late bloomer I tend to feel like I'm still only come half way and now I need to find out how to make that leap to finish....thanks
shortbusheros4 1 year ago
Trying to change me man? isn't going to happen. Sorry :) I love being introverted because it makes me unique, and it helps me reflect on ideas...Yea I tried all those books you've mentioned...didn't work.
EricSchwin22 1 year ago
You don't need to desire to become an extrovert in order to desire to improve on how you socialize. The reason I say this is because in the video, it kind of sounds like you frown upon people who are introverted. That aside though, those are very helpful techniques for social situations and I think I might just try them.
DuskyVDark 1 year ago
Haha...
Somebody has mixed Shyness and Introversion. They are NOT the same thing!
Introverts has no more problem socialising than extroverts. Being an introvert has something to with being drained for energy more quickly being around other people than extroverts are.
Introverts are peopl who prefers being alone e.g relaxing with a book after a hard days work.
Geesh, social-anxiety has nothing to do with that.
DarthMessias 1 year ago 2
@DarthMessias --correct; I feel that people are psychic vampires that must be avoided.
AtomicMonster454 1 year ago
Someone here has gotten being introvert and shy mixed up.. Introverts have absolutely NO need to act extrovert. Obviously, there will be introverts that feel the need to be social. but essentially It's just you either being insecure or just shy. It's not being introvert. And what I'm saying are facts.
pinglauwa 2 years ago 28
@pinglauwa so true...im an intp and if i have nothing to say, then thats the way it staye's...and if i have no friends, it means i have more time to contenplate and create...
the trouble with extoverts is they spend to mutch time in big groups of people to understand the indervidual... this man's friend is clearly a shy extovert
militaryminded85 1 year ago
@militaryminded85 I'm a INTP myself =)
pinglauwa 1 year ago
@pinglauwa. why do only INTP's ever refere to the Jung typology, ever.
lygophile 1 year ago
@lygophile Did I ever say that?
pinglauwa 1 year ago
@pinglauwa. uhm, no. but you brought up Jung typology.
i only ever see INTP's posting their type. i never see someone post that they are ENTJ, or w/e.
i'm not criticising, it's just curious why that is.
i am in between INTP and INFP, btw.
lygophile 1 year ago
@lygophile No I did no.. I was replying to jygophile whom posted his type. I hadn't posted mine until he posted his - I thought it was a funny coincidence that he was INTP, so I told him I was one as well.. If you look the the highest rated comment I posted it 8 months ago, without mentioning my being INTP.
pinglauwa 1 year ago
@pinglauwa. oh yeah, i missed that. but then there are two INTP's stating their type. it only furthers my point really.
but i was just thinking out loud anyway.
lygophile 1 year ago
@lygophile No it doesn't really prove you point any further.
pinglauwa 1 year ago
@pinglauwa Is it possible to be introverted *and* shy? I've been told on more than one occasion, from people with psychology backgrounds, I''m both.
defminerva13 1 year ago
@defminerva13 Why wouldn't it be possible? It's like asking if it's possible to be sad *and* depressed. The only answer is "Yes, of course.. Why wouldn't it be?"
(Yes, it is possible)
pinglauwa 1 year ago
@pinglauwa That's the point I was trying to express. I'm glad we both share the same sentiment.
defminerva13 1 year ago
@pinglauwa Yeh, I get very irritated when someone can't distinguish between introversion and shyness. It makes me want to walk right up to them and stare without saying anything to see if it makes them nervous.
prschuster 1 year ago
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@pinglauwa, I disagree with your comment. I see what you're saying and maybe agree PARTLY, but being introverted and shy often goes hand-in-hand. Even if you're really introverted and need LESS interaction and enjoy solitude more than others, as social animals it pays to have a certain minimum of interactions. Also, introverts more of a predisposition to be shy, and it's not just due to insecurity. The tips are relevant and hit the spot, if you ask me.
stubo65 1 year ago
@pinglauwa Shyness is a lack of confidence. Introversion is an internal focus that can make it difficult to "get into the flow" and engage with others. You are right that they are different, but unfortunately for introverts, the issue doesn't boil down to shyness or insecurity. it would be nice if it did.
jpseiden 1 year ago
@jpseiden That is true. Introversion *can* lead to shyness.
pinglauwa 1 year ago
@jpseiden
How is being an introvert unfortunate?
riverlioness 7 months ago 2
@pinglauwa I'm a proud introvert. I deal with people on MY terms.
JAT763 9 months ago
Yes , I found it helpful . Thank you . Shared it with my facebook friends . For both the introverted and the extroverted .
WatchToddPattison 2 years ago
Good advise, thank you :)
Arejek 2 years ago
Thank youu
youaresmallindapants 2 years ago
Great advice.. Thanks
Bangsta89 2 years ago
Nice advice on how to be more likeable but I'm not sure it would make a person more comfortable. If anything I think it would encourage people to approach you even more than they already do. Which would make things even worse.
muppetspuppets 2 years ago 13
genius
Uglefaen 2 years ago
put your face even closer to the camera. just a little closer....jesus
ekateri28 2 years ago 2
Great video, thanx
Orazio1977 2 years ago
OMG take a little note book around! Why haven't I thought of that? Lmao Thank you sir :)
Cschive 2 years ago
Good advice.I liked your video alot because I believe the info you gave could be very practical in those "freeze up"situations.I also liked that there was no book sale at the end.But don't let that stop you from writing one.Oh by the way I'm an introvert so thanks 4 posting.
9revmoon 3 years ago
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9revmoon 3 years ago
HI!!! im a pathetic extrovert that needs constant attention or i'll just die!!! Will you please be my best friend??? PLEASE???
HypnoticEye454 3 years ago
I am open to taking advice from you because you effectively communicate to me that you really understand what you are talking about. Your demeanor is calm and I can sense that you care about the people you are sharing these social skills with. I'm glad I came across your video. :)
monkeyflowers 3 years ago
thank you.
Cryptykk 3 years ago