BUSTED! Our Kids Found Out We're Swingers. Now What?

[Bird1888]

DanAndJen you all rock my wife and I are swingers and love the Lifestyle!!!!

[PlatypuSPawn]

You guys are more understanding and normal than most "normal" people in America (whoever they are),

Im so happy to have found people like you that are open and endorse non-traditional sleeping arrangements, Im SO tired of the hypocrites who want to be like you but cannot do anything out of religious upbringing and what would people say!!?

[BlauwLove]

It's a shame sex has NO special meaning in today's world.

[PlatypuSPawn]

@BlauwLove It only takes being run over by the train of divorce once to never want to bind yourself to another person. I used to believe in marriage, but I can never go back to that institution again. Ive lost SO much, financially, psychologically, physically and spiritually (yes even that), that it is not worth it.

Good luck if it works for you, but I cant endorse it, at least not by law.

[ayurveda1008]

Personally I find if you are really in love with someone that desire to go outside of that for sex is not there, you are satisfied and the idea of being with someone else doesn't arise when you have built a relationship with someone where you love and the sex is an expression of that. When it is just about being together and you care each other but more desire for sex and less that depth of love with that one person and deepening in that through sex this arises. Which is not to say it is wrong.

[bradid24]

Do you have a child? Do you want your chld to be swinger like you?

Please do not treat or consider your children is strangers.

You will get the result.

I think you should stop if they concern reasonably.

Nothing is more important than harmony of family.

[SotujXoporet]

this women  looks like one I chatted to on tiny[.]cc/doherhole

[KeithAndSusanWI]

txmcxlx - WAYY TMI!  ROFL!

We're gonna have to explain to our kids very soon (now 12 and 14 yrs old). Maybe Dan & Jennifer can help us out. We'll be checking out the site!

As always, anyone may feel free to contact us here or on the Yahoo pager.

[MANGOMAN9999]

white ttttrassshhhh

[txmcxlx]

My parents are swingers and my mom boned my dad in the ass with a strap on.

[ncfwhitetigress]

This is weird. I couldn't care less if either of my parents were swinging. I have no interest in either of their sex lives.

[TargetGuy2245]

You'd feel funny (maybe even a little grossed out) if you found out as a growing teenager so it is an issue in some circumstances.

[ncfwhitetigress]

Depends on how you've been raised. I, for one, was not raised in a conservative household.

[TargetGuy2245]

Liberal or conservative, psychological issues will come into question. I would wait until my children experienced casual sex so they would truly understand from experience. If you meet a man or women at a bar or have sex with them without all the emotions than this is swinging without the label and decorations. Just my opinion. Protecting a child's mental stages should always come first. Your child is more important than you.

[ncfwhitetigress]

Psychological issues?!? You have GOT to be kidding me. Knowing my parents were swinging would NOT give me psychological issues. I might think it was yucky and not want to hear about it, but that would be the extent of my "psychological issues."

[TargetGuy2245]

Maybe I look at things in the worst possible way sometimes. I do come from a dysfuctional family (alcoholism) so my view might be skewed. I also was temporarily involved in "the lifestyle" and knew people who would never tell their teenagers. I definitely would not want to know if I were a child but these grown up kids who are unhappy with their swinging odler parents need to move on or get a life.

[ncfwhitetigress]

Yeah I grew up in a very different type of family so that's probably why it was hard for me to understand your POV.

[Makemyday0126]

I'm sorry But Dans Iniital Reaction sucks Ball's. Lets see how you'd Laugh if your Kids came to you with the same dilema in a few years time.

[toughbutfair32]

I'm against swinging, not for any religious reasons, but because most swingers seem to be ugly as sin.

[Makemyday0126]

God you need to get a grip of yerself mate, we all come in all shapes and Sizes.

[BoostedXR6T]

Yeah but why do all the PEAR shapes and XXL sizes end up at swing parties

Most arent SWING parties but SWILL parties (enter pig snort here)

[cheappassion]

This a good looking couple...I've meet some really attractive couples with my last girl friend....

[TEXASSURFDONKEY]

I am thinking Ol Dan likes it up the ass just like Jen there! LOL

[Rachailbabe]

Dear Dan and Jenn,

I just wanted to say I really like the garden setting. Not that there was anything wrong with the couch, it's just nice to see a new "set" for you guys and it looks just really lovely there. Not to mention it's nice to see you drinking something other than the martini's ( some people might think it's all you drink hehehe ). GREAT response to a challenging problem, and I AM with you, how did the kids find out unless they were exploring the lifestyle too?!

[brahud]

Many of these "issues" happen because from day one you are taught from a religious standpoint what sex is supposed to be. I'm sure it keeps many people on the "straight and narrow" and has its valid points. Even so, life sure would be boring as cookie cutter bible beaters. Many experiences would never happen from fear of evil. From my experience...people should fear fast food, excessive television and alcohol...not sex (an albeit natural function).

[tigerwoman]

Wow. What a temerariously dirty middle aged couple.

[rachluvzdoug]

All this hatred for swingers is because the people feeling that way have been programmed by their own life experiences, education, religious beliefs and social upbringing to feel that way. You will always hate and reject something you do not understand that is what causes racism, homophobia, ageism, and a whole lot more bigotry in the world.

[tigerwoman]

Obviously you are not insightful at all. It's not about hate it's about self worth. Why have children & still be together when they are too selfish to understand what a decent couple/family is? Their children are looking out for them because they don't know who has got what out there & what could happen to them. So I am with their children on this one.

[ShawnTMills]

why dont we all just fuck everything and have children by whomever all over creation and just basically let society go to fucking hell like a bunch of apes!

[Rachailbabe]

And sadly, you can say that over and over again and it won't change them, they won't see what you're talking about. They'll just continue to trudge along making the path deeper and more spitefilled as they go. I don't hate them but I do pity them, more so than the mentally and physically disabled who at least can and do strive everyday to overcome their shortcomings, these people actually LIKE their nasty little hate-filled lives. I can't even imagine it but I'm sure they must.

[halo2994]

wow, lots of holy-rollers must comment here. Do you people even have sex?

[sltrthesoul]

more than you probably and with one person so we don't spread diseases. now i know where they come from! and i'm against organized religion.

[halo2994]

you make me sad

[ShawnTMills]

you make me sad you stupid fucking ape.

[obijan42]

Right....

Diseases and unwanted pregnancy do not happen to the righteous, only to sinners, right?

Thats why "abstinence only" and "condoms are evil" program work so well, right?

Like it did for Palin's kids, right?

[northportman]

if people cant be with one woman or one man that they are married to i feel bad for them. they must be searching.

[sltrthesoul]

what's the point of being married if you're going to sleep with other people? it ruins the whole purpose of marriage. my fiance and i totally against it and disgusted by it! if you want to sleep with other people stay single!

[bakogoofball]

Just curious as to why you would watch a clip like this if you're so adamantly opposed to the lifestyle. What led you to look up something about swingers or swinging?

[sltrthesoul]

one of my friends at work was talking about this blog and asked me to watch it. i just don't get the point of it. i'd kill someone if they touched my fiance or tried to pursuade her into doing something like this and she is on the same level i am. her best friends parents were like this and it ruined their marriage. :p

[rachluvzdoug]

Don't tell others what to do you don't have the power to and never will!

[freakysideshow]

Monogamy is based on selfish ego. A husband or wife that wont let their partner have sex with outside persons that they are attracted to are soooo cruel - been swinging for 30 years, cant imagine making a woman be a slave to me for my life when there are so many attractive people in the world to enjoy, besides, I LIKE TO WATCH!

[honouredbitch]

Lmao man I should told my bf to fuck your mother.

[LoveVoodooFest]

we are the owners of lovevoodoo dot com - and our kids have no idea. They all are young, but we are going to keep what we do our business even when they get older.

[zackellard]

anybody who argues that swinging is a "safe" activity when it comes to diseases is dillusional...more partners=more chances to get a disease, is this not common sense? Now whether or not swinging is wrong simply depends on your values and belief system...In the end, one's sex life is their business, nobody elses unless they decide for it to be

[HeadSledge]

gross

[TSXboy26]

jealous?

[lllwindrunner]

Somehow all this reminds me of that movie "Eyes wide shut." It's a FUN idea but warning: STDs in swinger communities are actually NOT extremely rare. Condoms actually do break or slip every now and everyone who's had enough sex with them knows it.

[butcher47404]

well think about this

your single you go to a bar and pick guys or gals to have sex with what's the difference

[TSXboy26]

AMEN!

[bexihoonna]

why do swingers get married?

[deb1919]

because sex & love are two different things.

[arqplay]

mmmm.....because they are in love?

[f50rulz]

Actually, Valuehunter, STDs in swinger communities are extremely rare.

[Indianinthemachine]

As if.....multiple sex partners decreases immune system, therefore ALL diseases will become more prevalent.....just REALITY.

[DanAndJenn]

A recent comment by one of our readers seems appropriate here..."A couple who plays together - stays together!"

We're not talking about a couple cheating or going behind their partner's back. Quite the opposite...

They're sharing their fantasies - together!

A common misunderstanding about swingers is that they are trying to fill a void in their relationship. When in reality, Swingers normally have a very strong relationship and have more trust in each other than many traditional couples.

[bakogoofball]

Thanks! Obviously someone with a true understanding of this.

[bretak74]

The parents made a vow to forsake all others. Now they're doing just the opposite. Sure their kids are going to be upset. What they thought was a sacred union of their parents is just a lie. It's going to get even worse when one of the parents catches the clap or decides they've found a better partner.

[mildseven2006]

It was their decision to make that vow. If they decide together to retract it, who are you to tell them not to?

It's up to them.

[DanAndJenn]

By definition, cheating is a deception. If your partner knows and agrees with it, it's not cheating.

[bakogoofball]

You are right on. The origins of the word adultry has nothing to do with sex but rather a betrayal of trust. What consenting adults do is their business.

[nakedbutt08]

I'd be pretty pissed off if I knew my parents were fucking other people, too. They've been married for 27 years, and I think daddy's fuck-buddy would be a bit of a screwed-up concept. It just seems wrong to me. That's just cheating, even if your partner knows about it. Bleh.

[pittbulldawg]

Yeah I can see why the "kids" are so upset! Maybe after all this time, may dad isn't my dad. Swinging is wrong. And anything having to do with multi-sex partners. Cheating is.......guess what? Is CHEATING! I pray for you lost souls.

[deb1919]

pray all you want... no one's listening

[CyberChrist]

Hmm, I'd tell the kids they shouldn't talk about what they don't know and suggest they join the party :)

[bexihoonna]

suggest they join the party? you mean you would enjoy watching your children having sex with other people? and vice versa? wouldn't that fall into the category of incest ?