I completely agree w/ UR advice. 2 me, the bottom line is don't give help that the helpee never asked U 4. People often"help" me in ways that exasperate problems I have cuz they know nothing about my health needs. If a person is obviously suffering from a problem ,& U don't know what it is, & U R very compassionate & feel a need 2 help, tell him his suffering is obvious & only offer 2 B a friend who will listen 2 his problem & consider giving any help that he specifically wishes 2 ask of U
I am out at work and I have no idea why straight people think we know every other gay person in the company or the world. People always come up to me and ask: Do you think so and so is gay?" My answer is always, "I will check the gay directory to see if there name is there." People tell me they are gay, I have however said, "Hey you all know so and so?" Yeah. "Well he's Straight. Just thought you should know." Makes me laugh...not so much everyone else.
Grumpy, confrontational at work and difficult to deal with....sounds a lot like me....but enough about me....Missdevinestalls, once again I agree with you...LEAVE THEM ALONE....you stir up a hornet's nest....all that usually happens is you get stung. One day I know I will disagree with you but when that day comes I just won't offer up a comment. (maybe)
I remember that stupid talk show disaster vividly (and, yep, it was Jenny Jones - not that it matters much since all those assholes were ridiculous clones of one another).
Totally agree with what you said. It's just simply nobody's business so the guy needs to leave his coworker alone. To take it any further would be an invasion of that person's privacy and, like you said, lead to his own ass getting kicked out the door.
You can't ever force anyone out of the closet. I agree with you about not getting involved, especially when it involves a co-worker. Many straight guys can come across as gay because they are comfortable enough with their own sexuality to not judge or be bothered by those who are gay. Often times, gay men confuse the straight mans acceptance of gays as being secretly gay himself. BIG MISTAKE! I hope this person you talking about doesn't go down that road. -Steve-
I remember that situation and it's an excellent example (It was Jenny Jones show). My gadar is terrible because I refuse to make assumptions about anyone.
I completely agree w/ UR advice. 2 me, the bottom line is don't give help that the helpee never asked U 4. People often"help" me in ways that exasperate problems I have cuz they know nothing about my health needs. If a person is obviously suffering from a problem ,& U don't know what it is, & U R very compassionate & feel a need 2 help, tell him his suffering is obvious & only offer 2 B a friend who will listen 2 his problem & consider giving any help that he specifically wishes 2 ask of U
tuberpie68 1 year ago
I'm highly offended that you don't consider our conversations in the bathroom a relationship. >:P
JustA11en 1 year ago
@JustA11en Oh Allen I you know I only have eyes for you. ;p
missdivinestalls 1 year ago
I am out at work and I have no idea why straight people think we know every other gay person in the company or the world. People always come up to me and ask: Do you think so and so is gay?" My answer is always, "I will check the gay directory to see if there name is there." People tell me they are gay, I have however said, "Hey you all know so and so?" Yeah. "Well he's Straight. Just thought you should know." Makes me laugh...not so much everyone else.
Cedarflame 1 year ago
@Cedarflame I am always treated like the LGBT answer girl. Lame. I tell them to mind their own business
missdivinestalls 1 year ago
Grumpy, confrontational at work and difficult to deal with....sounds a lot like me....but enough about me....Missdevinestalls, once again I agree with you...LEAVE THEM ALONE....you stir up a hornet's nest....all that usually happens is you get stung. One day I know I will disagree with you but when that day comes I just won't offer up a comment. (maybe)
Susan2daye 1 year ago
I remember that stupid talk show disaster vividly (and, yep, it was Jenny Jones - not that it matters much since all those assholes were ridiculous clones of one another).
Totally agree with what you said. It's just simply nobody's business so the guy needs to leave his coworker alone. To take it any further would be an invasion of that person's privacy and, like you said, lead to his own ass getting kicked out the door.
Not worth the trouble.
OhCurt 1 year ago
@OhCurt Those shows were all the same. Makeovers, diets, dating, and other such nonsense. Not a fan of daytime TV.
missdivinestalls 1 year ago
You can't ever force anyone out of the closet. I agree with you about not getting involved, especially when it involves a co-worker. Many straight guys can come across as gay because they are comfortable enough with their own sexuality to not judge or be bothered by those who are gay. Often times, gay men confuse the straight mans acceptance of gays as being secretly gay himself. BIG MISTAKE! I hope this person you talking about doesn't go down that road. -Steve-
OceanTownPictures 1 year ago
I remember that situation and it's an excellent example (It was Jenny Jones show). My gadar is terrible because I refuse to make assumptions about anyone.
Perroquet51 1 year ago
Wasn't that the Jenny Jones show?
Frick29 1 year ago
@Frick29 Was it? I always thought it was Sally Jesse?
missdivinestalls 1 year ago