It is like someone who recognizes that there their are beautiful people besides their spouse. Yet, just because said people exist doesn't mean that one should or would even want to sleep with said people. By like token a person who allows or puts themselves in a bed with someone not their spouse doesn't have to act upon every little they desire they have. Thus, there are some people who either have no desire to cheat or will work to not act on a desire to cheat.
I think I understand "in theory" what soulnblack's statement is supposed to mean. My take is that there are certain types of "people" who don't cheat not because of perfection but because they manage that area of their lives in a way where cheating on their spouse is not a predicament that they will either allow or put themselves in. This does mean that they don't have desires or they don't notice what else is out there. This just means they choose not to act on it.
The nature excuse is a very weak argument because men will use nature only when it's convenient for them, but God forbid I use that shit in the courtroom after I butchered and ate a person. It's "natural" for me not to take these fucking psychological pills, not natural to go through stupid, retarded therapy every month & it's definitely natural for me to kill & eat others (my frontal lobes aren't connected). However, I'm not a primitive animal so therefore I should no better.
@LadyBludgeon On the topic of things that are natural... since when humans have ever done anything that is natural? We humans had always manipulated & raped the laws of nature since the day fire was created & agriculture. If going out natural...go all the fucking way... don't half ass it all because it benefited you at the moment. This is why men who use the nature excuse are fucktards that deserve to have their balls sledged hammered without any anesthesia. After all anesthesia isn't natural.
i know many men who WILL tell u to ur face that they got a girl or wife or whatever..but they sure wont tell their significant other at all, only the 2nd girl who didnt get meet them in time to be the wifey. yet they fully expect u to accept that..and unfortunately many women do. my question is: why not just date around? why are ina "monogamous" relationship at all if u cheat at the drop of a hat?
Girl, where you been? I've had the new chan up about 2 weeks not. There's a video from that channel featured on the front page of this channel. It's ELLEgantGirl.
To my understanding cheating is cheating weathers it one or 50. An affair is a wedding or prom… cheating is adultery, Punishable by death and grounds for divorce, by some. No I don’t think you can love someone and intentionally hurt them. To edifying your flesh while in the process, hurting the one who love you is not love but selfish. Love would be to deny or abstain from doing what would hurt them. Cussing someone out and in not breaking a commitment, or convent cheating is.
Can one separate their conduct from their character? Personally I see a beautiful woman with a bad attitude, although she may be a sight to see if her personality, character, or behavior weak she ugly to me. Beauty is vain and time sensitive, so the other qualities trump her visuals.
LOL...i just asked my bf why he has never cheated..he said because he is on point. lol! but he isn't black...but cheating can be done by any race and sex. he's also been cheated on, so he probably knows the hurt and pain and doesn't want to hurt someone else. my mother also said finding a guy who doesn't cheat is half the battle in a relationship. i think you just have to find someone with a heart and kind personality.
what makes cheating wrong is not the fact that one has two or more partners. Once again, if someone wants to have multiple partners then that's their right. However, cheating becomes cheating when deception is involved, no one likes to be deceived or lied to.
I understand why most men (or at least those who intend to have multiple partners) are not upfront. They know that most western women expect to be in a monogamous relationship and if confronted with the choice to choose a man who very clearly doesn't want to be monogamous and holding out for one who does, these men know that most women would not consider them. (cont.)
I think the argument that "people hear what they want to hear" is true. However, in the case of the video, there is a problem. It's one thing if a man tells a woman "Hey, I'm not a one woman man" and then she stills wants to pursue him then she gets what she paid for. However, what happens is that when some men choose to cheat they do so deceptively. The woman has excepted a monogamous relationship while the man has no intention of being monogamous (cont.)
The real reason why most Black Men cheat on Black Women is because of black women's tasty attitudes.White Women have better attitudes and better personalities that's why most successful Black Men like me are marring White Women.The Ethiopian Chick was completely right about these stupid black bitches like you.
@UncleRuckus11 "Stupid black bitch." I can see about 100 white people laughing now saying "Those niggers! haha" You are a typical idiot. You do realize (based on your comment) that you're black too, right? And go on, date white women. When she swindles you, takes your money, cheats on you and takes the kids back home, you'll be begging for whoever you can get. P.s., most of us don't want you guys anyway.
@UHeardMe1stTime Great factual points highted by you. I agree, folks should be honest and just state their case. If you not ready for marriage, don't get wed. You want an open relationship, don't get into a one-on-one relationship. Both men and women are guilty of breaking these rules. I rather my partner practise safe Sex & cheat on me, then tell me. Than say, cheat on me without practising SafeSex and infect me with some deadly disease. Real talk, just being honest!
UHeardMe1stTime , if you don't have a man, you should. Your non-biased approach to relationships is quite refreshing coming from a black women. You tell it like it is. Some brothers can't take it. You tell the women like it is as well. Some sisters can't handle it when other sisters don't put all the blame on black men. Wish all sisters were rational like you. Would make the slick brothers get their acts together and it would make brothers like me want to commit.
@passionateOne32 That is to assume one has all sexual fantasies pre-conceptually idealized. Had you considered that maybe the partner inspired the other to new and exciting passionate sexual spontaneity?
Would someone tell me what "on-point" means? People forget that MLK had a dozen mistresses. People are people. Some cheat. Some don't. Some actually have relatively meaningful relationships with their concubines (I didn't know a better word to use). Some make their mistakes, learn & move on with the marathon that is life. In the end, we all come to grips with our own humanity, vulnerabilities & flaws.
But my question is, "why are we paying any regard to a buffoon like SoulinBlack?"
@upabittoolate Soulnblack already responded to Uheardme's argument in this vid and he BLASTED it to pieces on gen-x, so the brother knows what he is talking about ;-)
@XDarkDestroyaX He's not really capable of "blasting" anything. He's too stupid & self-absorbed to frame a mature argument. That's why I was wondering why people think he's worth any consideration at all.
If you're not going to offer anything substantive, save your comments.
@upabittoolate - Have you actually LISTENED to his video rebuttal, he explained perfectly well by what HE meant "on point" means. And yes by his video rebuttal if we are typing about "do on point men cheat etc" he DID blast her argument out of the water! ;-)
@XDarkDestroyaX He's a moron. He can't generate anything meaningful idea. This whole notion of "on-point" is an exercise in bullshit. Damn, is THIS what the problem is? We're so busy pointing fingers & looking for someone else to follow that we can't address actual issues?
@UHeardMe1stTime You know in a few of my relationships I mentioned that I'd like to fulfill sexual fantasy of having multiple simultaneous partners. It wasn't received very well, my admission caused great problems and my sexual desires were used as bashing points by my partner, making me wish I had said nothing at all and just lied and did what I wanted to do like other men.
Well I have yet to mark it off my list of to-dos. But you live, you get older and it becomes a non issue.
@UHeardMe1stTime You are very inspirational and insightful. Young black women could learn so much from someone like you that's why I'm glad I found your channel because you are bright ,balanced and show logic.
Please watch this 3 videos from NoLaTvShow and one from Here's OnPointAndOnTheGrind. Please make a video about this I begging you!!!!!! Preference or self-hate.
I think ON POINT means achievement solely. It has nothing to do with whether you are a good father or husband material. I've met on point UPPER ECHELON men who are sex addicts, weed smokers, womanizers, and pathalogical liers. If you are "on point" that is one side of the coin but what happened to all the rest? Are you a fit husband, leader, father, friend, these are other VERY IMPORTANT characteristics that must accomodate your "on pointness" or else you are not the whole package.
I think people are confusing "on point" men with "good" men. Of course on-point men cheat, however if he does he is excluded from the good men category because "good" men don't cheat. The men are trying to equate one with the other, to make black women who don't choose on point black men look bad, while at the same time creating this mirage of "on point" v.s ray ray and pookie or good v.s. bad. They don't want you to define "ON POINT" because you would unveil the on point= not always good.
@morningafter86 "The men are trying to equate one with the other, to make black women who don't choose on point black men look bad" Which men are doing this? I know you women think that Sarge speaks for every man on here but that's not accurate. Please tell me who these men are. Soul n black, I don't even know who that is. So please tell us who these men are.
@morningafter86 LOL, so when you said I quote "The MEN are trying to equate one with the other, to make black women who don't choose on point black men look bad" you were only talking about TWO people. lol.
@TheCruzan26 "The Men" is whom ever it pertains to. Most of the time when a comment offends someone or garners attention from sed person it usually pertains to them.
Yes! in this case you were only talking about two people. I was wondering who all these men were. But you said I answer my own question, so it was only two people you were talking about. I got it.
@TheCruzan26 If you go on Gen-x and watch Sarge's video talking about this particular topic, you will see that there is a comments section. This comment section overflows with men who co-sign his views. Therefore these MEN are the one's that believe that an on point man equates a good man. Yes you will get someone who disagrees here and there but overall you will see people in agreeance. Hence why I type" these men".
@morningafter86 They why did you say I answer my own question? I never been on Gen x, only yt. So when you said these men, I know you weren't talking about men on here. Because i can't recall anyone that agree with them. So you were talking about men on Gen x. Got it.
In the scriptures Adultery only occurs when a Man sleeps with another man's wife.
Men of the scriptures had more than one wife, but to fornicate without with another woman without a Lifetime commitment is Sin. Why?
There was no birth control back then. So birth control itself is Sin.
YahWah (YHWH) knew that men would be sampling every honey he could if he was not forced to commit with the women that he lay with (and that some men would love men who could).
Athiests often get their moral concepts from The Scriptures and Torah (Laws and Instructions) of YahWah (YHWH) like The Christians, Catholics, Muslims, and Scientologists...
Men and women have double standards. We live by them when its convenient. And complain about them when its not. As a man cheating is overrated. We want a companion but are attracted to other people. And mix that with a lack of self control is a bad recipe. People make mistakes but we as a society have a fixation with playing with fire. The attraction is natural but the choice is all on the person.
Once again most of this is due to American society upbringings. We tell our girls one day you prince will come save you. So some women have it in there head that they should be you one and only...Just because I love you does not mean i cannot be attracted to someone else.
I could care less about Tiger and 50 dumb ass hoe's he was dating. But America needs to get off it dumb ass moral high horse. Don't cheat but allow compounds of people to oppress women, molest kids.
If you cheat it's your problem. People who cheat have self-esteem issues in my opinion. If you cheat don't even think about saying you love the person you cheated on becuase truth it you don't if you did you wouldn't go to someone else. I really could care less what gender the person is...cheating is not right, and it kinda seems a little greedy.
@slingingcatnip Hahaha! Gosh, typed b/f thinking. Oh goodness, the horror, the horror! They're much classier & MUCH better moderated than these folks on YT.
lol oh noes its too late. some idiot made a comment today about how he only fucks with latin women *facepalm*. thank god that's a rarity on there. and i'm not gonna judge anyone as being classier. but when you say something as simple as hey if you're not a one woman man, be upfront about it (there's plenty people out there who practice open relationships) and even that's met with resistance, all i can say to that is "What the actual fuck?!"
@youcantakeapunch ...if it's cheating, it's wrong. If it's a man that's in an open sexual marriage/relationship, then it's not cheating, and it's not wrong. Cheating is when a person steps out on their marriage/relationship (one that is supposed to be exclusive).
Oh, well. I'm off to very smart brothas dot com to get my fix of intellectual AA men who discuss real issues in an adult fashion. This here is just too tiresome & immature for us AA women. These deflectors should be effectively moderated to maintain some semblance of civil discussions or risk it. Have fun!
@grannycapbandit Thanks for that clarification, though I wouldn't call them "men" per se. My father is one, and so are a few others, but I don't see these as such. How sad, ignorant and hurt these bitter individuals are! Guess we should be flattered that they just can't leave us alone, huh?
@BlackButterfly707 Lol, according to them, they have left us alone! And honestly, they're doing us a favor. We don't need bitter black men anymore than we need bitter black women!
yes... i agree with what you were saying about going 50 yeas without anyone stepping out. And that scares me >.<
I have an acquaintance from work who is 43 and has been married 23 years and has habitually cheated on his wife for all those years. I mean he tells me about his ex-girlfriends and women he's seen like it no big thang. You can clearly tell he is a man who just loves women, but I'm like WTF are you married. I know you did it when you're young but this is SO unfair to your wife!!
Wow uhm1t Your comment section is being riddled to shreds by one AA hate monger. It's now a cesspool of hate, thanks to one "person." I need to think twice about viewing your channel as there is smthg that attracts these excuses for men to your channel. They need to be silenced. Jmho. Good luck to you.
@BlackButterfly707 These men are attracted to her channel because they don't like hearing someone that is actually balanced in the black men-black women debate. They don't like people who don't put all the blame onto the black woman. That's just my take on it though.
@bezzly I'm not finished, I'm just starting. :) I'm far from having a lower intellect. And more than once I have taken responsibility for MY part in the situation. However, I'm not responsible for him cheating. I didn't FORCE him to cheat. I didn't FORCE him to not try to communicate like he should have. I didn't FORCE him to not break up with me if he was so unhappy. He CHOSE to cheat willingly and that is NOT my fault. When you take blame that isn't yours, you are doomed to carrying a weight
@bezzly (2) to be a good girlfriend/wife to him. My mindset is one where I will take responsibility for my actions, but will not take responsibility for his wrongdoing's if it's obviously not my fault. Why does that bother you? Why does it bother you that I won't take the blame for his wrongdoing's when it's not my fault?
@bezzly Lol. I'm a threat because I won't take all the blame for a black man's actions? No, you're the threat because you seem to place all of the blame on the black woman for EVERYTHING, and that will not solve anything. Our people won't have unity until both black women AND men accept that they have both contributed to the bad state of the black community, take responsibility, and then take action. Why would a man not want to be true to me? I will be true to him, give my all and do my best
@grannycapbandit You are way too intelligent to be trying to converse with a fool who will never get what you are trying to explain. They very well understand, but choose to disregard your points altogether & spew their hatred of AA women instead. It hurts to see you casting your pearls to swine. It's no use. Pls put up that wall of silence on this & other excuses for AA men. Please!
@bezzly (2) he decides to leave or cheat, then it's not my fault. It's still his fault for cheating. If I chose to ignore signs, then it's my fault for staying. But it's still not my fault he cheated. No matter what, you cannot blame me for his actions. I can only take accountability for my own.
Mates cheat for all types of reasons, but one thing I do know is that it is definitely NOT a color issue; it is a delinquent behavior that all human beings exemplify across all race lines. It happens to whites, blacks, hispanics, asians and mixed ppl all the time by their mates of all backgrounds. It hurts all of us humans the same. Understand that.
@bezzly Lol, believe me, the media has no problem making any black person (not just black women) look bad. And you made the claim the black women are apparently the most violent and evil, so why don't you provide me with some proof? No, keeping a man does not help me find out how I have grown as a woman--the state of my entire life determines that. And if I cheat, it's not your fault I cheated. It's my fault because I chose to cheat. It's not my fault if, after giving my all in a relationship,
Hey @bezzly since you hate us AA women so much, why in the fuck do you all always have us in your goddamned mouths?! This world is bad enough without you. Why are you here?! Thank god not all AA men share your fucked up views & know how to treat & talk to us. Btw, the overwhelming majority of AA men choose & love AA women. Now go kill yourself!
@bezzly No, we're not on the same level of other women in society's eyes, I agree. But men do want AA women, and most black women I know have no problem getting a man. Either way, keep in mind that women of all races do the things you just listed. Also, have you ever watched a show called "Deadly Women"? It's a show about true stories of women who have stolen, killed, and hurt people. Guess what? Most of the women on the show are white.
@bezzly Not all black men are good, and not all black women are bad. Black men have abused black women as well, it's not just a one-way thing. I don't need to change, or start blaming myself everytime a man cheats on me when I know I've done my best. You don't have to want AA women, you're only one black man. Most black men do tend to stay with us, and sometimes, men of other races do as well.
@bezzly I'm not lying to myself. And I am the type of person who puts my all into the people I love, so I'm not trying to avoid anything like that. Living by promises and trusts is for the weak? Trust is an important part of the relationship, it's for the healthy, lol. Living up to your promises is for the honest. I agree that it's your fault for not paying attention or acknowledging the signs, but it's still not your fault they cheat. The only thing you did wrong was not protect your heart.
@bezzly Cheating hurt because it's often accompanied by lies and deceit, and is a betrayal by someone you love and trust. Who likes being lied to? Deceieved? Betrayed? And it's not necessarily because of the other person. Some people cheat just because, and it's not always because the other person wasn't doing what they should. In a relationship, you must communicate your needs and wants to the other person. If there are problems, you should be willing to work them out. If a person's solution to
@bezzly I never said I wanted credit for basic shit. Nobody owes anybody unhappiness, but you're not gonna ba happy in a relationship all the time. That goes for all types of relationships, not just romantic ones. No one is a mindreader. If someone doesn't tell you what they need or express it in any kind of way, you can't expect someone to know that that's what they want. I believe women and men cheat for the same reasons: horiness, loneliness, feeling neglected, etc. It's all the same to me.
(2) stopped for you, because cheating is a very hurtful thing to experience, but at the end of the day the only person who can stop and prevent cheating is the other person. We can't control other people, no matter how good we are. The choice is always up to them.
@bezzly Well, if you leave the situation, you don't have to worry about improving it, lol. Me, personally, unless I'm married to him with children, will not even consider improving it. I will leave. If a person wasn't a good mate, then yes, maybe they should change. But not everyone who's cheated on is a bad mate, and despite what kind of mate you are, you can't always hold yourself responsible for someone else's actions. I lot of people know how to love and still get cheated on. I'm glad it
@bezzly I'm not trying to do what men do. Not all cheaters are men reacting to being in a non-reciprocal loveless relationship. Some men have good women and still cheat. No matter the reason, if you cheat, it's still your fault for cheating. Whether or not a black woman wears her natural hair in public has nothing to do with whether or not she loves herself, it's just hair. If this is true psychology, can you give me the source you got this from?
The more on point or successful a man or woman is , the more likely a person is to cheat. Monogamy is a unatural but necessary evil for stable families and children. I don't cheat but if my wife did I.would keep my family together. I do not think cheating is a good reason to break up a home. But you should try and be faithful.
@bezzly If we apply your definition to you, then YOU are arrogant as well because you disagreed with me rather than humbly checking yourself and accepting my opinion as just that. So we're just two arrogant people right here. Anyway, I don't know who said a man is bad because he cheats, because I didn't. When I said "bad men" I wasn't necessarily referring to the man who cheats, I meant generally. You need to accept that if a person is cheated on that it's not their fault, it's the cheater's
@bezzly I never said it was okay to be a lousy spouse. If I did, please show me where. And I don't care if you're a cheating man or a cheating woman, it's your fault for cheating because you chose to do it. If things are that bad, you can always just leave. If a man isn't getting what he needs or wants, he needs to speak up and let her know, and if she doesn't change, then he needs to break up with her. That's what you do. You cheat because you chose to, and while a woman may influence your
@bezzly Right. Okay then. I have no time for men-children like you; grow up please. I should have guessed from your other comments really. You sound like a very stupid person Mr. Have a good evening. Smh... utter foolishness.
@bezzly bad men, she is not responsible for his actions. His actions still belong to him, and if he does wrong, he's still wrong and he's still responsible for them. She's at fault for making bad decisions, he's at fault for choosing to hurt people. Just because a person allows you to do wrong to them doesn't mean you should, and if you do, it doesn't suddenly make it okay because they allowed you to, and it doesn't take it away the fact that it's your fault, not theirs, for choosing to do
@bezzly Everyone lies--men and women, so let's get off the lying thing, because everyone does it. No, it's the fault of the man for stepping out. He has the ability to make decisions, and no one put a gun to his head and made him cheat. He cheated because he chose to cheat, therefore, it's his fault for cheating. If you're gonna cheat, have the balls to own up to it. Some men or women are very obvious about being bad catches, most are not. While it is her responsibility to get herself away from
@bezzly Oh wow. Hold on a minute, what did I even say about myself to get this reaction from you? What attitude? Please, do tell me about MYSELF and MY attitude. You seem to know me well enough from a simple 30 word comment that did not say anything of much at all. Please, do explain... You sound like a deranged lunatic right about now.
I consider an "on-point" man to be one with morals and stuff. I don't necessarily think an "on-point' man will be rolling in dough but would be able to live above average and a comfortable life. He would have planned he life around getting married and having kids and stuff. I would use the words "good" and "on-point' interchangeably. A man who makes a ton of money but sucks as a parent and husband (cheats) is not an "on-point' man in my eyes. I separate accomplishments from people.
@nobby481 "We have dig deep in every fiber of our morals and soul, not to stray. We can be faithful, we have to man-up." What bullshit. Utter bullshit. It is NOT that serious. You make it sound like every woman you come across has her legs wide open ready for you to pounce on the pussy. No! You men anger me with this. Making stupid excuses, blaming it on nature. Nah, fuck that. Bottom line is you are a selfish prick if you cheat on someone you "love" with the knowledge that it will hurt them!
@ryanr20091 Why Thank you. But I am getting better. The pain has not gone away, I just know how to distract myself from it better. It will never go away. Its whatever. If I even began to tell you my situation, you would not even imagine what you would do if you were in my shoes. I just try put it out of my mind. Whatever will happen, will happen. I am just done..
@bezzly Wow. I just.. Wow. This comment has really... wow. You made me want to take a nap. I feel like.. what is even the point... after reading your comments.
I envy you and at the same time feel sorry for you for being so laid back about cheating. I wish I just did not care at times, but then it kind of allows for the man I am with to cheat on me without thinking of the consequences. 5 months and I am still hurting. It is killing me. Literally. I feel dumb as fuck, smh. So that is why I kind of envy your view on it. I feel sorry for you because it kind of seems like you allow cheating if it is only a "slip-up" or whatever... cheating is cheating.
@ryanr20091 No. He is still in my life though. Been extremely close for 9 years, best friends or whatever. I am finding it hard to just let him go just like that. It does not seem real. What he did is the only time he has ever hurt me, so I am just.. stuck. But whatever. I try not to worry about it. Whatever will happen will happen, fuck it.
@bezzly , Thats what Feminism has done to the women of the western world. They have no reverance for men yet expect beneficial treatment from men without offering much themselves, and at the same time claim themselve's victims of male society.
Its a screwed up mess, yet they claim its purpose is equality. Such BS.
@bezzly , So true my man. These chics lack humility, and need to learn how to interact with & understand men. Instead of looking for shortcuts to allieviate the pressures of their ends of the decision making.
I've always held the belief that there is no excuse for cheating, and that it should not be tolerated. Apparently, according to some of my forum mates, I'm an immature little girl because I'm unwilling to accept his faults and forgive and forget--I told them to suck it.
@LadyRuin2012 we make me laugh at times, almost no black marriages work out and we act as if cheating is an even worthy topic of discussion. Cheating is so common among us that its almost no topic. I think most black women with babies have multiple baby daddies. This topic is unworthy of my typing, as a matter of fact let me stop
@bibadoe Whoa. I can name three black marriages (from my personal life) that have and are working out. Black marriages can and do work out. And to be honest, it's not just black marriages that aren't working out, it's marriages in general that aren't working out too well. Cheating, along with any other relationship issues are all worthy topics...if you want to try to fix things, that is.
@bezzly Some men do lie to women, even you know that. And there are plenty of women who have the time for men and respect men. But, okay, let's say more and more women start to become okay with men stepping out on them in relationships...I'm assuming men will be more than happy for their woman to have a couple men on the side too, right?
@GrannyCapBandit you just explained exactly why the appeal to nature only comes up after the fact. The man does not want to woman to opt in with the standard that it's ok that they both get a little something on the side. If they thought the woman would opt in with it being alright for only him to dip, he would say that mess from the jump.
@XtraKnowledge Some women still do opt in, knowing that it's only okay for him to dip. And yeah, I know that that's a reason why they lie too. It still doesn't make it right, nor does it mean that men who know they cannot or don't want to commit to one woman should lie about it.
My mother use to say " If you lie, you cheat. And if you cheat you steal." I don't have time for the foolishness. If I can be faithful to you then yes I deserve for you to be faithful to me. If I don't want to be faithful to a person then you are with the wrong person. Move on instead of dragging them through BS.
WOMEN SHOULD KNOW THAT THERS A POSSIBLITY OF A MAN BEING UNFAITHFUL , AND ITS NO THAT SIMPLE FOR THEM JUST SAY IAM NOT FOR MANOGAMY . ITS JUST JUST NOT THAT EASY MEN HAVE TO FIGURE OUT IN TIME IF HE WANTS T REMAIN A LOYAL FAITHFUL SPOUSE .fIRST OFF, THEY HAVE TO SEE IF THE WOMAN IS MARRIAGE MATERIAL AND THAT TAKES YOU ACTUALLY BEING MARRIED FOR A LONG TIME LOL . NOTHING IS SIMPLE WITH GUYS JUST LIKE IT ISNT WITH WOMEN . GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND FINDING A MARRIAGE PARTNER IS NOT EASY
Great video. On the flip side I would love for you to do a video on women and cheating. I believe cheating among women happens much more than folks want to acknowledge. The thing is when women cheat it's more excusees involved because most men don't believe their lady would step out on them.
I've notice that SWP escapes any critiques of his arguments by using the "on-point cop-out" while he demolishes ALL black women, established or not...
Might be off topic considering this vid is directed towards Soulnblack, but these other guys seem to be using this same strategy.
@UHeardMe1stTime, I agree wholeheartedly with the first part of this video. Lets Not get accomplishment & achievement confused with character & morality. An accomplished man doesn't automatically equate to a good man like some guys & girls seem to think.
As far as the second point about lets put it all out on frontstreet from the get go. That sounds better on paper then in actual practice. U know better than that. U sound like ur trying to escape the difficulties of decision making for women.
@SLICENSLASH How in the world is telling a man to be upfront about who he is and how he works in a relationship trying to escape the difficulties of decision making for women? I'm sorry, but that's not what's going on at all. Men shouldn't lie or put on a show about who they are. When people lie about or hide information, they take away a person's ability to make a good decision because they don't have all the info, or all the real info. There are men who are real about being a manwhore, and
@SLICENSLASH (2) plenty of women who are willing to put up with it. However, there's also a lot of women who aren't willing to put up with it and that's something that man will have to deal with. But if telling a man to be honest is taking away the difficulties of decision making for women, then we should tell women it's okay to lie to men because it allows men to experience the difficulties of decision making. C'mon now.
@GrannyCapBandit , This idea that being upfront fixes everything is a fallacy. More time than not ppl hear what they wanna hear, and still wanna act suprised when things don't turn out the way they'd like.
I don't condone cheating, but I also don't believe in sabotaging myself before a relationship has even begun by telling someone I may or may not know I'm into yet that I'm gonna creep on them if this imaginary dime piece appears.
I believe its something you deal with as it arises.
@SLICENSLASH And...for women who don't like games, don't like being cheated, don't like the challenge of trying to make somone into someone they're not, being upfront DOES work. Not all women still go along with the mess. Men know if they're the type to be faithful, or the type to get around. They know whether they like have one girl, or a whole bunch and I think that it's only fair to the new woman if she gets to choose (before she's emotionally attached) whether or not she wants to be with a
@GrannyCapBandit , No offense , but you speak of Fair as if women actually believe in the meaning of the word, lol. Maybe they believe in it but choose to follow the definition when they see fit.
I don't condone cheating, and I'm all for taking accountability for one's indiscretions, but this idea that just be upfront and it'll solve it before it starts is an under-developed idea. I've never cheated on someone, but I cant tell for absolute sure that I'll never do it or will definitely do it.
@SLICENSLASH Some women do believe in the meaning of fair, and some don't just follow it when they see fit. Some men know that they are not a one-woman kind of man, those men who know this should tell women that they like to get around at the beginning. I'm not talking about all men saying this, I'm just talking about men who know they simply cannot be satisfied with one woman.
@GrannyCapBandit , Fine...actually great, but that doesnt really solve anything becuz theres a whole lot of gray area filled with men between that player guy and the guy who's Mr. Faithful. So good luck with that. I actually do hope it works for you.
@GrannyCapBandit , Infact I find it a turn off when ur on a date with a female or speaking on the phone with her and you ask her about herself, and she gives the classic monologue of how she's not the one to be F'd wit or toyed with cuz she a Skrong BW & she may come off as harsh, but everybody loves "Me' once they get to know "Me".
Thats her so called being upfront, but all it really sounds like is a damaged person trying hard to put up a strong wall. Some guys purposely look to play out...
@SLICENSLASH Huh? No...women don't like being lied to. That isn't a "challenge," it's being lied to, played and toyed with. A least, the overwhelming majorityof women don't. There are other ways for women to improve their decision making skills, a man trying to lie and play them isn't one of them.
@GrannyCapBandit , U completely missed the point of that comment. That upfront monologue that a woman will give is a turn off and if anything it will entice a guy to do just what she says she's opposed to. I cant tell you how many times that so called skrong BW will end up with just that sorta guy& get played.
So what I'm saying is be humble, reverant, and observant of the man's behavior & treatment of u rather than think ur upfront declarations are what make the difference....
@SLICENSLASH Your example of being upfront just showed an example of a broken woman putting up a strong front. That's not the same as man being real about how he works in a relationship. You don't have to be arrogant to be upfront and real. And while people need to observe their partner's behavior (I really do agree with this), people need to learn how to be honest.
@GrannyCapBandit , I just gave one example of upfront behavior I've experienced that just doesn't work.
And I also agree with being honest, but just not giving excessive information before its time. And if I'm a cheat and you recognize it, but you're not willing to get over your emotions for me and you build a relationship with me...then ur fault. Its called being an adult my sistah. And its not fair...but relationships rarely are.
@SLICENSLASH It's my fault for staying, your fault for being a lying cheat. My bad decision making does not absolve you or your responsibility for your actions. Being responsible for your actions and the part you play is part of being an adult--and that doesn't just apply to the person who gets done wrong and stays.
@GrannyCapBandit , Never said it did absolve me, but part of being accountable is to stop looking to exact blame and just acknowledge your role.
Its not about I did this, but he did that. Its about I screwed up here. I'm gonna learn from this...period. No looking for an accessory to the crime. Thats why I agreed with UHM1T's vid on cheating.
@SLICENSLASH I agree, but you also have to be real about the entire situation. You can't blame yourself for someone else's actions, you can only acknowledge how you may have influenced them.
@GrannyCapBandit , What I'm saying is own the situation rather than spend your time trying to figure out the perfect amount of blame to pass around. Because in the end of the day no one is counting the numbers, keeping score and gonna determine you should live the better life because he was more wrong than you were.
@SLICENSLASH I see what you're saying. All I'm saying is don't take blame that doesn't belong to you because you cannot fix the mistakes of others, you can only fix what you did wrong. You didn't cheat. You didn't make him cheat. So why take the blame for that?
@GrannyCapBandit , I agree with that as well. Then you got to get to the process of healing, growing & learning from your experiences, and the the only way to do that is to focus solely on your role in the matter.
@GrannyCapBandit ...becuz its obvious to just about every man that No woman likes to be cheated on, or made to feel the unknkowing fool. So a woman saying she's strong, saying she takes no BS & isnt to be F'd with is pretty pointless. Its not scaring us. Just making you look like a damaged little girl in a man's eyes. Humility works wonders.
@SLICENSLASH The kind of upfrontness you're talking about is not the same kind of upfrontness I'm talking about. I'm talking about being upfront about the type of relationship you want to have. Things like, "I don't like monogamous relationships." or "I like to have a lot of distance from my partner." Things that let you know what kind of relationship you will get if you decide to be with them.
i like yourr videos and agree but one question how do you know martin luther king cheated on his wife? because i hope you dont take what the fbi says because they have no credibilty when it comes to that because j edgar hoover hated mlk and came up with cointelpro to discredit black leaders. they put out all types of propaganda trying to discredit black leaders at that time.i've heard people say king cheated on his wife but i've never heard any one give any proof of it.fbi is not a good source.
I fucking detest cheating. It's a very selfish act. IMO, I don't care if my woman slept with 100 men or she got drunk and had sex with a co-worker. Cheating is cheating. I don't accept that shit. People cheat knowing if there partner finds out it will hurt them. Again it's a selfish act. The only person you're thinking about is YOU. And god forbid you're married with kids. When you cheat, don't you think you bring that negative energy around your kids?
Probably gonna lose street cred by saying this... but definitely real talk!
thecinematique 3 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
It is like someone who recognizes that there their are beautiful people besides their spouse. Yet, just because said people exist doesn't mean that one should or would even want to sleep with said people. By like token a person who allows or puts themselves in a bed with someone not their spouse doesn't have to act upon every little they desire they have. Thus, there are some people who either have no desire to cheat or will work to not act on a desire to cheat.
Ehav4Ever 3 months ago
I think I understand "in theory" what soulnblack's statement is supposed to mean. My take is that there are certain types of "people" who don't cheat not because of perfection but because they manage that area of their lives in a way where cheating on their spouse is not a predicament that they will either allow or put themselves in. This does mean that they don't have desires or they don't notice what else is out there. This just means they choose not to act on it.
Ehav4Ever 3 months ago
The nature excuse is a very weak argument because men will use nature only when it's convenient for them, but God forbid I use that shit in the courtroom after I butchered and ate a person. It's "natural" for me not to take these fucking psychological pills, not natural to go through stupid, retarded therapy every month & it's definitely natural for me to kill & eat others (my frontal lobes aren't connected). However, I'm not a primitive animal so therefore I should no better.
LadyBludgeon 8 months ago
@LadyBludgeon On the topic of things that are natural... since when humans have ever done anything that is natural? We humans had always manipulated & raped the laws of nature since the day fire was created & agriculture. If going out natural...go all the fucking way... don't half ass it all because it benefited you at the moment. This is why men who use the nature excuse are fucktards that deserve to have their balls sledged hammered without any anesthesia. After all anesthesia isn't natural.
LadyBludgeon 8 months ago
i know many men who WILL tell u to ur face that they got a girl or wife or whatever..but they sure wont tell their significant other at all, only the 2nd girl who didnt get meet them in time to be the wifey. yet they fully expect u to accept that..and unfortunately many women do. my question is: why not just date around? why are ina "monogamous" relationship at all if u cheat at the drop of a hat?
patriciacarrasco 9 months ago 3
Ooh ok thanks ... Girl I'm getting old lol
jadeisback 9 months ago
Do you have another YouTube page ?
jadeisback 9 months ago
@jadeisback
Girl, where you been? I've had the new chan up about 2 weeks not. There's a video from that channel featured on the front page of this channel. It's ELLEgantGirl.
UHeardMe1stTime 9 months ago
To my understanding cheating is cheating weathers it one or 50. An affair is a wedding or prom… cheating is adultery, Punishable by death and grounds for divorce, by some. No I don’t think you can love someone and intentionally hurt them. To edifying your flesh while in the process, hurting the one who love you is not love but selfish. Love would be to deny or abstain from doing what would hurt them. Cussing someone out and in not breaking a commitment, or convent cheating is.
nomyaw 10 months ago
Can one separate their conduct from their character? Personally I see a beautiful woman with a bad attitude, although she may be a sight to see if her personality, character, or behavior weak she ugly to me. Beauty is vain and time sensitive, so the other qualities trump her visuals.
nomyaw 10 months ago
LOL...i just asked my bf why he has never cheated..he said because he is on point. lol! but he isn't black...but cheating can be done by any race and sex. he's also been cheated on, so he probably knows the hurt and pain and doesn't want to hurt someone else. my mother also said finding a guy who doesn't cheat is half the battle in a relationship. i think you just have to find someone with a heart and kind personality.
saphiredewdrop 10 months ago
what makes cheating wrong is not the fact that one has two or more partners. Once again, if someone wants to have multiple partners then that's their right. However, cheating becomes cheating when deception is involved, no one likes to be deceived or lied to.
sexychobit86 10 months ago 6
I understand why most men (or at least those who intend to have multiple partners) are not upfront. They know that most western women expect to be in a monogamous relationship and if confronted with the choice to choose a man who very clearly doesn't want to be monogamous and holding out for one who does, these men know that most women would not consider them. (cont.)
sexychobit86 10 months ago
I think the argument that "people hear what they want to hear" is true. However, in the case of the video, there is a problem. It's one thing if a man tells a woman "Hey, I'm not a one woman man" and then she stills wants to pursue him then she gets what she paid for. However, what happens is that when some men choose to cheat they do so deceptively. The woman has excepted a monogamous relationship while the man has no intention of being monogamous (cont.)
sexychobit86 10 months ago
The problem is that Mr.SoulnBlack and to some degree SgtWilliePete gives their perspective on Top-down Masculinity.
So everything a top-down nigga do is okay even if it's the exact same thing a bottom nigga do.
I don't think either of these cats have ever defined Manhood in a way that's dissimilar to any $10 bootleg hip-Hop CD Rapper.
The only difference I see maybe Submissive Wife over Submissive Hoes and long Money over short Money. I could be wrong.
St1kyFinguz 10 months ago 2
YOU STUPID BLACK BITCH.
The real reason why most Black Men cheat on Black Women is because of black women's tasty attitudes.White Women have better attitudes and better personalities that's why most successful Black Men like me are marring White Women.The Ethiopian Chick was completely right about these stupid black bitches like you.
UncleRuckus11 10 months ago
@UncleRuckus11 "Stupid black bitch." I can see about 100 white people laughing now saying "Those niggers! haha" You are a typical idiot. You do realize (based on your comment) that you're black too, right? And go on, date white women. When she swindles you, takes your money, cheats on you and takes the kids back home, you'll be begging for whoever you can get. P.s., most of us don't want you guys anyway.
ImNotYourFriend212 4 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Great factual points highted by you. I agree, folks should be honest and just state their case. If you not ready for marriage, don't get wed. You want an open relationship, don't get into a one-on-one relationship. Both men and women are guilty of breaking these rules. I rather my partner practise safe Sex & cheat on me, then tell me. Than say, cheat on me without practising SafeSex and infect me with some deadly disease. Real talk, just being honest!
H1MLA 10 months ago
"On point" Lol!!!
seinfeildsucks 10 months ago
UHeardMe1stTime , if you don't have a man, you should. Your non-biased approach to relationships is quite refreshing coming from a black women. You tell it like it is. Some brothers can't take it. You tell the women like it is as well. Some sisters can't handle it when other sisters don't put all the blame on black men. Wish all sisters were rational like you. Would make the slick brothers get their acts together and it would make brothers like me want to commit.
donlon77 10 months ago
@passionateOne32 That is to assume one has all sexual fantasies pre-conceptually idealized. Had you considered that maybe the partner inspired the other to new and exciting passionate sexual spontaneity?
Why don't you live a little?
"Lend your body to the joys of another"
AdonteMacon 10 months ago
Would someone tell me what "on-point" means? People forget that MLK had a dozen mistresses. People are people. Some cheat. Some don't. Some actually have relatively meaningful relationships with their concubines (I didn't know a better word to use). Some make their mistakes, learn & move on with the marathon that is life. In the end, we all come to grips with our own humanity, vulnerabilities & flaws.
But my question is, "why are we paying any regard to a buffoon like SoulinBlack?"
upabittoolate 10 months ago
@upabittoolate Soulnblack already responded to Uheardme's argument in this vid and he BLASTED it to pieces on gen-x, so the brother knows what he is talking about ;-)
XDarkDestroyaX 10 months ago
@XDarkDestroyaX He's not really capable of "blasting" anything. He's too stupid & self-absorbed to frame a mature argument. That's why I was wondering why people think he's worth any consideration at all.
If you're not going to offer anything substantive, save your comments.
upabittoolate 10 months ago
@upabittoolate - Have you actually LISTENED to his video rebuttal, he explained perfectly well by what HE meant "on point" means. And yes by his video rebuttal if we are typing about "do on point men cheat etc" he DID blast her argument out of the water! ;-)
XDarkDestroyaX 10 months ago
@XDarkDestroyaX He's a moron. He can't generate anything meaningful idea. This whole notion of "on-point" is an exercise in bullshit. Damn, is THIS what the problem is? We're so busy pointing fingers & looking for someone else to follow that we can't address actual issues?
Shame on y'all.
upabittoolate 10 months ago
Wow,Sister you are so right.
Elderyoungone 10 months ago
I heard this quote once concerning affairs. "Have your affair, but have the decency to keep it quiet for family sake"
Why does it seem other non-black culture more accepting of affairs?
AdonteMacon 10 months ago
Did Tiger Woods really have 50 bitches on the side...LOL?
AdonteMacon 10 months ago
@AdonteMacon
Yeah, but who's counting?
UHeardMe1stTime 10 months ago 2
@UHeardMe1stTime You know in a few of my relationships I mentioned that I'd like to fulfill sexual fantasy of having multiple simultaneous partners. It wasn't received very well, my admission caused great problems and my sexual desires were used as bashing points by my partner, making me wish I had said nothing at all and just lied and did what I wanted to do like other men.
Well I have yet to mark it off my list of to-dos. But you live, you get older and it becomes a non issue.
AdonteMacon 10 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime You are very inspirational and insightful. Young black women could learn so much from someone like you that's why I'm glad I found your channel because you are bright ,balanced and show logic.
TheQueenrealist 10 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime what i don't like in your videos is we can't see your face but we can feel the hate in your voice !!!!
TIGRE95100 10 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime well since you two confimed it.................... yall
tha2ndchance 9 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime
@UHeardMe1stTime @UHeardMe1stTime I could not leave you a message
UHeardMe1stTime
Please watch this 3 videos from NoLaTvShow and one from Here's OnPointAndOnTheGrind. Please make a video about this I begging you!!!!!! Preference or self-hate.
NoLaTvShow
/watch?v=b3iqz-hONnU&feature=related
/watch?v=PKPUKRj3O8E&feature=watch_response
Brandtley86 8 months ago
I think ON POINT means achievement solely. It has nothing to do with whether you are a good father or husband material. I've met on point UPPER ECHELON men who are sex addicts, weed smokers, womanizers, and pathalogical liers. If you are "on point" that is one side of the coin but what happened to all the rest? Are you a fit husband, leader, father, friend, these are other VERY IMPORTANT characteristics that must accomodate your "on pointness" or else you are not the whole package.
morningafter86 10 months ago
I think people are confusing "on point" men with "good" men. Of course on-point men cheat, however if he does he is excluded from the good men category because "good" men don't cheat. The men are trying to equate one with the other, to make black women who don't choose on point black men look bad, while at the same time creating this mirage of "on point" v.s ray ray and pookie or good v.s. bad. They don't want you to define "ON POINT" because you would unveil the on point= not always good.
morningafter86 10 months ago
@morningafter86 "The men are trying to equate one with the other, to make black women who don't choose on point black men look bad" Which men are doing this? I know you women think that Sarge speaks for every man on here but that's not accurate. Please tell me who these men are. Soul n black, I don't even know who that is. So please tell us who these men are.
TheCruzan26 10 months ago
@TheCruzan26 Yea you answered your own question
morningafter86 10 months ago
@morningafter86 LOL, so when you said I quote "The MEN are trying to equate one with the other, to make black women who don't choose on point black men look bad" you were only talking about TWO people. lol.
TheCruzan26 10 months ago
@TheCruzan26 "The Men" is whom ever it pertains to. Most of the time when a comment offends someone or garners attention from sed person it usually pertains to them.
morningafter86 10 months ago
@morningafter86 "The Men" is whom ever it pertains to."
Yes! in this case you were only talking about two people. I was wondering who all these men were. But you said I answer my own question, so it was only two people you were talking about. I got it.
TheCruzan26 10 months ago
@TheCruzan26 If you go on Gen-x and watch Sarge's video talking about this particular topic, you will see that there is a comments section. This comment section overflows with men who co-sign his views. Therefore these MEN are the one's that believe that an on point man equates a good man. Yes you will get someone who disagrees here and there but overall you will see people in agreeance. Hence why I type" these men".
morningafter86 10 months ago
@morningafter86 They why did you say I answer my own question? I never been on Gen x, only yt. So when you said these men, I know you weren't talking about men on here. Because i can't recall anyone that agree with them. So you were talking about men on Gen x. Got it.
TheCruzan26 10 months ago
If I were married, and my wife cheated on me I would divorce her right away.
I can tolerate people not being perfect, but for me infidelity is unforgivable.
UHeardMe1stTime said she would not "trip" over a one time "business trip"
affair. Well, my thoughts are if a husband or wife cheats once, they are more
inclined to do it again. They would have already proven themselves to be willing
to be unfaithful. However, for me one time is too many. No one is going to make a fool out of me.
blueBlackpurple 10 months ago
In the scriptures Adultery only occurs when a Man sleeps with another man's wife.
Men of the scriptures had more than one wife, but to fornicate without with another woman without a Lifetime commitment is Sin. Why?
There was no birth control back then. So birth control itself is Sin.
YahWah (YHWH) knew that men would be sampling every honey he could if he was not forced to commit with the women that he lay with (and that some men would love men who could).
Why atheists care about cheating?
Yahokhanan 10 months ago
@Yahokhanan
Why atheists care about cheating?
We're intelligent "animals"... Right?
Where do you get this concept of remaining attached with someone, or shaming a mate for being an animal?
Yahokhanan 10 months ago
@Yahokhanan
Athiests often get their moral concepts from The Scriptures and Torah (Laws and Instructions) of YahWah (YHWH) like The Christians, Catholics, Muslims, and Scientologists...
Yahokhanan 10 months ago
Men and women have double standards. We live by them when its convenient. And complain about them when its not. As a man cheating is overrated. We want a companion but are attracted to other people. And mix that with a lack of self control is a bad recipe. People make mistakes but we as a society have a fixation with playing with fire. The attraction is natural but the choice is all on the person.
JPatrick1221 10 months ago
Once again most of this is due to American society upbringings. We tell our girls one day you prince will come save you. So some women have it in there head that they should be you one and only...Just because I love you does not mean i cannot be attracted to someone else.
I could care less about Tiger and 50 dumb ass hoe's he was dating. But America needs to get off it dumb ass moral high horse. Don't cheat but allow compounds of people to oppress women, molest kids.
SUMOTACHI 10 months ago
Good vid, love your points
Yolandra101 10 months ago
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Yolandra101 10 months ago
after the fact....great video
simplelife1987 10 months ago
If you cheat it's your problem. People who cheat have self-esteem issues in my opinion. If you cheat don't even think about saying you love the person you cheated on becuase truth it you don't if you did you wouldn't go to someone else. I really could care less what gender the person is...cheating is not right, and it kinda seems a little greedy.
summerchick621 10 months ago
I think wat u call on point an wat he was saying are 2 diffrerent things. i think he meant on point in marrage.
patjose100 10 months ago
Lol I just love ur debates n point if views...
MadameBeautiful 10 months ago
@slingingcatnip Hahaha! Gosh, typed b/f thinking. Oh goodness, the horror, the horror! They're much classier & MUCH better moderated than these folks on YT.
BlackButterfly707 10 months ago
@BlackButterfly707
lol oh noes its too late. some idiot made a comment today about how he only fucks with latin women *facepalm*. thank god that's a rarity on there. and i'm not gonna judge anyone as being classier. but when you say something as simple as hey if you're not a one woman man, be upfront about it (there's plenty people out there who practice open relationships) and even that's met with resistance, all i can say to that is "What the actual fuck?!"
slingingcatnip 10 months ago
@youcantakeapunch ...if it's cheating, it's wrong. If it's a man that's in an open sexual marriage/relationship, then it's not cheating, and it's not wrong. Cheating is when a person steps out on their marriage/relationship (one that is supposed to be exclusive).
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago 3
@GrannyCapBandit
you know people are in a bad state when they don't know cheating is wrong.
trudoll 10 months ago
@trudoll Welcome to the real world... :(
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
Oh, well. I'm off to very smart brothas dot com to get my fix of intellectual AA men who discuss real issues in an adult fashion. This here is just too tiresome & immature for us AA women. These deflectors should be effectively moderated to maintain some semblance of civil discussions or risk it. Have fun!
BlackButterfly707 10 months ago
@BlackButterfly707
oh god no! i wish you hadn't mentioned it here. all the crazy men might invade it. and i i really love that blog man.
slingingcatnip 10 months ago
@grannycapbandit Thanks for that clarification, though I wouldn't call them "men" per se. My father is one, and so are a few others, but I don't see these as such. How sad, ignorant and hurt these bitter individuals are! Guess we should be flattered that they just can't leave us alone, huh?
BlackButterfly707 10 months ago
@BlackButterfly707 Lol, according to them, they have left us alone! And honestly, they're doing us a favor. We don't need bitter black men anymore than we need bitter black women!
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
yes... i agree with what you were saying about going 50 yeas without anyone stepping out. And that scares me >.<
I have an acquaintance from work who is 43 and has been married 23 years and has habitually cheated on his wife for all those years. I mean he tells me about his ex-girlfriends and women he's seen like it no big thang. You can clearly tell he is a man who just loves women, but I'm like WTF are you married. I know you did it when you're young but this is SO unfair to your wife!!
rainonmebi 10 months ago
@rainonmebi WELL EVERY MAN CANT BE FAITHFUL LIKE ME WHAT CAN I TELL YOU
ryanr20091 10 months ago
@ryanr20091 Lol.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
Wow uhm1t Your comment section is being riddled to shreds by one AA hate monger. It's now a cesspool of hate, thanks to one "person." I need to think twice about viewing your channel as there is smthg that attracts these excuses for men to your channel. They need to be silenced. Jmho. Good luck to you.
BlackButterfly707 10 months ago
@BlackButterfly707 These men are attracted to her channel because they don't like hearing someone that is actually balanced in the black men-black women debate. They don't like people who don't put all the blame onto the black woman. That's just my take on it though.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago 14
@bezzly ...how can you say things like "die slow aa woman" and claim that I'M the threat to our people?
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
(2) that doesn't belong to you.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly I'm not finished, I'm just starting. :) I'm far from having a lower intellect. And more than once I have taken responsibility for MY part in the situation. However, I'm not responsible for him cheating. I didn't FORCE him to cheat. I didn't FORCE him to not try to communicate like he should have. I didn't FORCE him to not break up with me if he was so unhappy. He CHOSE to cheat willingly and that is NOT my fault. When you take blame that isn't yours, you are doomed to carrying a weight
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago 3
@bezzly (2) to be a good girlfriend/wife to him. My mindset is one where I will take responsibility for my actions, but will not take responsibility for his wrongdoing's if it's obviously not my fault. Why does that bother you? Why does it bother you that I won't take the blame for his wrongdoing's when it's not my fault?
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly Lol. I'm a threat because I won't take all the blame for a black man's actions? No, you're the threat because you seem to place all of the blame on the black woman for EVERYTHING, and that will not solve anything. Our people won't have unity until both black women AND men accept that they have both contributed to the bad state of the black community, take responsibility, and then take action. Why would a man not want to be true to me? I will be true to him, give my all and do my best
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
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@bezzly didn't even read your comment as it's hardly worth it, but I will tell you this...FUCK YOU
BlackButterfly707 10 months ago
@ImALilMuch True. I don't think anyone should be blamed for someone else cheating. It never made sense to me.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@grannycapbandit You are way too intelligent to be trying to converse with a fool who will never get what you are trying to explain. They very well understand, but choose to disregard your points altogether & spew their hatred of AA women instead. It hurts to see you casting your pearls to swine. It's no use. Pls put up that wall of silence on this & other excuses for AA men. Please!
BlackButterfly707 10 months ago
@bezzly (2) he decides to leave or cheat, then it's not my fault. It's still his fault for cheating. If I chose to ignore signs, then it's my fault for staying. But it's still not my fault he cheated. No matter what, you cannot blame me for his actions. I can only take accountability for my own.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
Mates cheat for all types of reasons, but one thing I do know is that it is definitely NOT a color issue; it is a delinquent behavior that all human beings exemplify across all race lines. It happens to whites, blacks, hispanics, asians and mixed ppl all the time by their mates of all backgrounds. It hurts all of us humans the same. Understand that.
BlackButterfly707 10 months ago
@bezzly Lol, believe me, the media has no problem making any black person (not just black women) look bad. And you made the claim the black women are apparently the most violent and evil, so why don't you provide me with some proof? No, keeping a man does not help me find out how I have grown as a woman--the state of my entire life determines that. And if I cheat, it's not your fault I cheated. It's my fault because I chose to cheat. It's not my fault if, after giving my all in a relationship,
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago 3
Hey @bezzly since you hate us AA women so much, why in the fuck do you all always have us in your goddamned mouths?! This world is bad enough without you. Why are you here?! Thank god not all AA men share your fucked up views & know how to treat & talk to us. Btw, the overwhelming majority of AA men choose & love AA women. Now go kill yourself!
BlackButterfly707 10 months ago
@bezzly No, we're not on the same level of other women in society's eyes, I agree. But men do want AA women, and most black women I know have no problem getting a man. Either way, keep in mind that women of all races do the things you just listed. Also, have you ever watched a show called "Deadly Women"? It's a show about true stories of women who have stolen, killed, and hurt people. Guess what? Most of the women on the show are white.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago 11
@bezzly Not all black men are good, and not all black women are bad. Black men have abused black women as well, it's not just a one-way thing. I don't need to change, or start blaming myself everytime a man cheats on me when I know I've done my best. You don't have to want AA women, you're only one black man. Most black men do tend to stay with us, and sometimes, men of other races do as well.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly I'm not lying to myself. And I am the type of person who puts my all into the people I love, so I'm not trying to avoid anything like that. Living by promises and trusts is for the weak? Trust is an important part of the relationship, it's for the healthy, lol. Living up to your promises is for the honest. I agree that it's your fault for not paying attention or acknowledging the signs, but it's still not your fault they cheat. The only thing you did wrong was not protect your heart.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly AA women aren't all bad, and everyone is not avoiding us.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
(2) every problem that ever arises in a relationship is to cheat, then that is a huge problem. The other person can only do so much.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly Cheating hurt because it's often accompanied by lies and deceit, and is a betrayal by someone you love and trust. Who likes being lied to? Deceieved? Betrayed? And it's not necessarily because of the other person. Some people cheat just because, and it's not always because the other person wasn't doing what they should. In a relationship, you must communicate your needs and wants to the other person. If there are problems, you should be willing to work them out. If a person's solution to
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
I don't do wrong. And I'm perfect!
usupreme 10 months ago
@bezzly Lickie lick? WTF? As if.
XtraKnowledge 10 months ago
@bezzly I never said I wanted credit for basic shit. Nobody owes anybody unhappiness, but you're not gonna ba happy in a relationship all the time. That goes for all types of relationships, not just romantic ones. No one is a mindreader. If someone doesn't tell you what they need or express it in any kind of way, you can't expect someone to know that that's what they want. I believe women and men cheat for the same reasons: horiness, loneliness, feeling neglected, etc. It's all the same to me.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
(2) stopped for you, because cheating is a very hurtful thing to experience, but at the end of the day the only person who can stop and prevent cheating is the other person. We can't control other people, no matter how good we are. The choice is always up to them.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly Well, if you leave the situation, you don't have to worry about improving it, lol. Me, personally, unless I'm married to him with children, will not even consider improving it. I will leave. If a person wasn't a good mate, then yes, maybe they should change. But not everyone who's cheated on is a bad mate, and despite what kind of mate you are, you can't always hold yourself responsible for someone else's actions. I lot of people know how to love and still get cheated on. I'm glad it
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly I'm not trying to do what men do. Not all cheaters are men reacting to being in a non-reciprocal loveless relationship. Some men have good women and still cheat. No matter the reason, if you cheat, it's still your fault for cheating. Whether or not a black woman wears her natural hair in public has nothing to do with whether or not she loves herself, it's just hair. If this is true psychology, can you give me the source you got this from?
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
The more on point or successful a man or woman is , the more likely a person is to cheat. Monogamy is a unatural but necessary evil for stable families and children. I don't cheat but if my wife did I.would keep my family together. I do not think cheating is a good reason to break up a home. But you should try and be faithful.
alansjf33 10 months ago
(2) fault for cheating. You can't go through life blaming other people for your actions.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly If we apply your definition to you, then YOU are arrogant as well because you disagreed with me rather than humbly checking yourself and accepting my opinion as just that. So we're just two arrogant people right here. Anyway, I don't know who said a man is bad because he cheats, because I didn't. When I said "bad men" I wasn't necessarily referring to the man who cheats, I meant generally. You need to accept that if a person is cheated on that it's not their fault, it's the cheater's
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
(2) decision, you're still the one who makes it and puts it into action. Take responsibility for your actions.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly I never said it was okay to be a lousy spouse. If I did, please show me where. And I don't care if you're a cheating man or a cheating woman, it's your fault for cheating because you chose to do it. If things are that bad, you can always just leave. If a man isn't getting what he needs or wants, he needs to speak up and let her know, and if she doesn't change, then he needs to break up with her. That's what you do. You cheat because you chose to, and while a woman may influence your
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly I can what? I'm sorry, I'm not sure what comment you were referring to here.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly Right. Okay then. I have no time for men-children like you; grow up please. I should have guessed from your other comments really. You sound like a very stupid person Mr. Have a good evening. Smh... utter foolishness.
kweencessX 10 months ago
@bezzly wrong. I'm not arrogant--I do love and respect men, and I don't have an ounce of overconfidence in me.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly bad men, she is not responsible for his actions. His actions still belong to him, and if he does wrong, he's still wrong and he's still responsible for them. She's at fault for making bad decisions, he's at fault for choosing to hurt people. Just because a person allows you to do wrong to them doesn't mean you should, and if you do, it doesn't suddenly make it okay because they allowed you to, and it doesn't take it away the fact that it's your fault, not theirs, for choosing to do
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly Everyone lies--men and women, so let's get off the lying thing, because everyone does it. No, it's the fault of the man for stepping out. He has the ability to make decisions, and no one put a gun to his head and made him cheat. He cheated because he chose to cheat, therefore, it's his fault for cheating. If you're gonna cheat, have the balls to own up to it. Some men or women are very obvious about being bad catches, most are not. While it is her responsibility to get herself away from
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly Oh wow. Hold on a minute, what did I even say about myself to get this reaction from you? What attitude? Please, do tell me about MYSELF and MY attitude. You seem to know me well enough from a simple 30 word comment that did not say anything of much at all. Please, do explain... You sound like a deranged lunatic right about now.
kweencessX 10 months ago
I consider an "on-point" man to be one with morals and stuff. I don't necessarily think an "on-point' man will be rolling in dough but would be able to live above average and a comfortable life. He would have planned he life around getting married and having kids and stuff. I would use the words "good" and "on-point' interchangeably. A man who makes a ton of money but sucks as a parent and husband (cheats) is not an "on-point' man in my eyes. I separate accomplishments from people.
blktrekie29 10 months ago 2
@blktrekie29 I AGREE YOU ARE RIGHT ON
ryanr20091 10 months ago
@nobby481 "We have dig deep in every fiber of our morals and soul, not to stray. We can be faithful, we have to man-up." What bullshit. Utter bullshit. It is NOT that serious. You make it sound like every woman you come across has her legs wide open ready for you to pounce on the pussy. No! You men anger me with this. Making stupid excuses, blaming it on nature. Nah, fuck that. Bottom line is you are a selfish prick if you cheat on someone you "love" with the knowledge that it will hurt them!
kweencessX 10 months ago
@kweencessX I WOULD NEVER CHEAT ON ANY WOMAN BUT THATS JUST ME . IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO ILL BE HERE TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER
ryanr20091 10 months ago
@ryanr20091 Why Thank you. But I am getting better. The pain has not gone away, I just know how to distract myself from it better. It will never go away. Its whatever. If I even began to tell you my situation, you would not even imagine what you would do if you were in my shoes. I just try put it out of my mind. Whatever will happen, will happen. I am just done..
kweencessX 10 months ago
@kweencessX WELL IM HERE FOR YOU OKAY I HATE TO SEE WOMEN IN SITUATION BUT JUST DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD
ryanr20091 10 months ago
@bezzly Wow. I just.. Wow. This comment has really... wow. You made me want to take a nap. I feel like.. what is even the point... after reading your comments.
kweencessX 10 months ago
I envy you and at the same time feel sorry for you for being so laid back about cheating. I wish I just did not care at times, but then it kind of allows for the man I am with to cheat on me without thinking of the consequences. 5 months and I am still hurting. It is killing me. Literally. I feel dumb as fuck, smh. So that is why I kind of envy your view on it. I feel sorry for you because it kind of seems like you allow cheating if it is only a "slip-up" or whatever... cheating is cheating.
kweencessX 10 months ago
@kweencessX SO YOU STILL WITH THIS GUY I FEEL BAD FOR YOU
ryanr20091 10 months ago
@ryanr20091 No. He is still in my life though. Been extremely close for 9 years, best friends or whatever. I am finding it hard to just let him go just like that. It does not seem real. What he did is the only time he has ever hurt me, so I am just.. stuck. But whatever. I try not to worry about it. Whatever will happen will happen, fuck it.
kweencessX 10 months ago
@bezzly , Thats what Feminism has done to the women of the western world. They have no reverance for men yet expect beneficial treatment from men without offering much themselves, and at the same time claim themselve's victims of male society.
Its a screwed up mess, yet they claim its purpose is equality. Such BS.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@bezzly , So true my man. These chics lack humility, and need to learn how to interact with & understand men. Instead of looking for shortcuts to allieviate the pressures of their ends of the decision making.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
I've always held the belief that there is no excuse for cheating, and that it should not be tolerated. Apparently, according to some of my forum mates, I'm an immature little girl because I'm unwilling to accept his faults and forgive and forget--I told them to suck it.
LadyRuin2012 10 months ago 2
@LadyRuin2012 we make me laugh at times, almost no black marriages work out and we act as if cheating is an even worthy topic of discussion. Cheating is so common among us that its almost no topic. I think most black women with babies have multiple baby daddies. This topic is unworthy of my typing, as a matter of fact let me stop
bibadoe 10 months ago
@bibadoe Whoa. I can name three black marriages (from my personal life) that have and are working out. Black marriages can and do work out. And to be honest, it's not just black marriages that aren't working out, it's marriages in general that aren't working out too well. Cheating, along with any other relationship issues are all worthy topics...if you want to try to fix things, that is.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@bezzly Some men do lie to women, even you know that. And there are plenty of women who have the time for men and respect men. But, okay, let's say more and more women start to become okay with men stepping out on them in relationships...I'm assuming men will be more than happy for their woman to have a couple men on the side too, right?
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago 5
@GrannyCapBandit you just explained exactly why the appeal to nature only comes up after the fact. The man does not want to woman to opt in with the standard that it's ok that they both get a little something on the side. If they thought the woman would opt in with it being alright for only him to dip, he would say that mess from the jump.
XtraKnowledge 10 months ago
@XtraKnowledge Some women still do opt in, knowing that it's only okay for him to dip. And yeah, I know that that's a reason why they lie too. It still doesn't make it right, nor does it mean that men who know they cannot or don't want to commit to one woman should lie about it.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
My mother use to say " If you lie, you cheat. And if you cheat you steal." I don't have time for the foolishness. If I can be faithful to you then yes I deserve for you to be faithful to me. If I don't want to be faithful to a person then you are with the wrong person. Move on instead of dragging them through BS.
prettyshamarlee 10 months ago 3
WOMEN SHOULD KNOW THAT THERS A POSSIBLITY OF A MAN BEING UNFAITHFUL , AND ITS NO THAT SIMPLE FOR THEM JUST SAY IAM NOT FOR MANOGAMY . ITS JUST JUST NOT THAT EASY MEN HAVE TO FIGURE OUT IN TIME IF HE WANTS T REMAIN A LOYAL FAITHFUL SPOUSE .fIRST OFF, THEY HAVE TO SEE IF THE WOMAN IS MARRIAGE MATERIAL AND THAT TAKES YOU ACTUALLY BEING MARRIED FOR A LONG TIME LOL . NOTHING IS SIMPLE WITH GUYS JUST LIKE IT ISNT WITH WOMEN . GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND FINDING A MARRIAGE PARTNER IS NOT EASY
ryanr20091 10 months ago
Great video. On the flip side I would love for you to do a video on women and cheating. I believe cheating among women happens much more than folks want to acknowledge. The thing is when women cheat it's more excusees involved because most men don't believe their lady would step out on them.
rgood247 10 months ago 2
I've notice that SWP escapes any critiques of his arguments by using the "on-point cop-out" while he demolishes ALL black women, established or not...
Might be off topic considering this vid is directed towards Soulnblack, but these other guys seem to be using this same strategy.
GGLebo23 10 months ago
@nobby481 why did you end with "lol" ? were you kidding about everything you had just said?
zelda75231 10 months ago
90% of the men who ask me out are married. Kind of makes me wonder what the point of it is.
laurenoliver23 10 months ago 2
@laurenoliver23
Whats crazy is that many women accept their advances. Being married gets you more women
1titans 10 months ago
@laurenoliver23 WOW YOU MUST BE HOT
ryanr20091 10 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime, I agree wholeheartedly with the first part of this video. Lets Not get accomplishment & achievement confused with character & morality. An accomplished man doesn't automatically equate to a good man like some guys & girls seem to think.
As far as the second point about lets put it all out on frontstreet from the get go. That sounds better on paper then in actual practice. U know better than that. U sound like ur trying to escape the difficulties of decision making for women.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH How in the world is telling a man to be upfront about who he is and how he works in a relationship trying to escape the difficulties of decision making for women? I'm sorry, but that's not what's going on at all. Men shouldn't lie or put on a show about who they are. When people lie about or hide information, they take away a person's ability to make a good decision because they don't have all the info, or all the real info. There are men who are real about being a manwhore, and
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH (2) plenty of women who are willing to put up with it. However, there's also a lot of women who aren't willing to put up with it and that's something that man will have to deal with. But if telling a man to be honest is taking away the difficulties of decision making for women, then we should tell women it's okay to lie to men because it allows men to experience the difficulties of decision making. C'mon now.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , This idea that being upfront fixes everything is a fallacy. More time than not ppl hear what they wanna hear, and still wanna act suprised when things don't turn out the way they'd like.
I don't condone cheating, but I also don't believe in sabotaging myself before a relationship has even begun by telling someone I may or may not know I'm into yet that I'm gonna creep on them if this imaginary dime piece appears.
I believe its something you deal with as it arises.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH And...for women who don't like games, don't like being cheated, don't like the challenge of trying to make somone into someone they're not, being upfront DOES work. Not all women still go along with the mess. Men know if they're the type to be faithful, or the type to get around. They know whether they like have one girl, or a whole bunch and I think that it's only fair to the new woman if she gets to choose (before she's emotionally attached) whether or not she wants to be with a
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , No offense , but you speak of Fair as if women actually believe in the meaning of the word, lol. Maybe they believe in it but choose to follow the definition when they see fit.
I don't condone cheating, and I'm all for taking accountability for one's indiscretions, but this idea that just be upfront and it'll solve it before it starts is an under-developed idea. I've never cheated on someone, but I cant tell for absolute sure that I'll never do it or will definitely do it.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH Some women do believe in the meaning of fair, and some don't just follow it when they see fit. Some men know that they are not a one-woman kind of man, those men who know this should tell women that they like to get around at the beginning. I'm not talking about all men saying this, I'm just talking about men who know they simply cannot be satisfied with one woman.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , Fine...actually great, but that doesnt really solve anything becuz theres a whole lot of gray area filled with men between that player guy and the guy who's Mr. Faithful. So good luck with that. I actually do hope it works for you.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH Thanks.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH (2) player, manwhore, whatever. If you're not a manwhore and can be faithful...then you wouldn't have to tell her otherwise.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , Infact I find it a turn off when ur on a date with a female or speaking on the phone with her and you ask her about herself, and she gives the classic monologue of how she's not the one to be F'd wit or toyed with cuz she a Skrong BW & she may come off as harsh, but everybody loves "Me' once they get to know "Me".
Thats her so called being upfront, but all it really sounds like is a damaged person trying hard to put up a strong wall. Some guys purposely look to play out...
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit, ...girls like this, just for the challenge. Just becuz she said she wouldn't be toyed with.
I on the other hand tend to just go the other way when I see the damage in her (give or take a few occasions).
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH Huh? No...women don't like being lied to. That isn't a "challenge," it's being lied to, played and toyed with. A least, the overwhelming majorityof women don't. There are other ways for women to improve their decision making skills, a man trying to lie and play them isn't one of them.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , U completely missed the point of that comment. That upfront monologue that a woman will give is a turn off and if anything it will entice a guy to do just what she says she's opposed to. I cant tell you how many times that so called skrong BW will end up with just that sorta guy& get played.
So what I'm saying is be humble, reverant, and observant of the man's behavior & treatment of u rather than think ur upfront declarations are what make the difference....
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH Your example of being upfront just showed an example of a broken woman putting up a strong front. That's not the same as man being real about how he works in a relationship. You don't have to be arrogant to be upfront and real. And while people need to observe their partner's behavior (I really do agree with this), people need to learn how to be honest.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , I just gave one example of upfront behavior I've experienced that just doesn't work.
And I also agree with being honest, but just not giving excessive information before its time. And if I'm a cheat and you recognize it, but you're not willing to get over your emotions for me and you build a relationship with me...then ur fault. Its called being an adult my sistah. And its not fair...but relationships rarely are.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH It's my fault for staying, your fault for being a lying cheat. My bad decision making does not absolve you or your responsibility for your actions. Being responsible for your actions and the part you play is part of being an adult--and that doesn't just apply to the person who gets done wrong and stays.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , Never said it did absolve me, but part of being accountable is to stop looking to exact blame and just acknowledge your role.
Its not about I did this, but he did that. Its about I screwed up here. I'm gonna learn from this...period. No looking for an accessory to the crime. Thats why I agreed with UHM1T's vid on cheating.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH I agree, but you also have to be real about the entire situation. You can't blame yourself for someone else's actions, you can only acknowledge how you may have influenced them.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , What I'm saying is own the situation rather than spend your time trying to figure out the perfect amount of blame to pass around. Because in the end of the day no one is counting the numbers, keeping score and gonna determine you should live the better life because he was more wrong than you were.
Just doesnt work that way.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH I see what you're saying. All I'm saying is don't take blame that doesn't belong to you because you cannot fix the mistakes of others, you can only fix what you did wrong. You didn't cheat. You didn't make him cheat. So why take the blame for that?
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit , I agree with that as well. Then you got to get to the process of healing, growing & learning from your experiences, and the the only way to do that is to focus solely on your role in the matter.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit ...And let me say most girls don't make it to to that next step. They begin and end with divying blame.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH Most people in general don't get to the next step.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
@GrannyCapBandit ...becuz its obvious to just about every man that No woman likes to be cheated on, or made to feel the unknkowing fool. So a woman saying she's strong, saying she takes no BS & isnt to be F'd with is pretty pointless. Its not scaring us. Just making you look like a damaged little girl in a man's eyes. Humility works wonders.
SLICENSLASH 10 months ago
@SLICENSLASH The kind of upfrontness you're talking about is not the same kind of upfrontness I'm talking about. I'm talking about being upfront about the type of relationship you want to have. Things like, "I don't like monogamous relationships." or "I like to have a lot of distance from my partner." Things that let you know what kind of relationship you will get if you decide to be with them.
GrannyCapBandit 10 months ago
i like yourr videos and agree but one question how do you know martin luther king cheated on his wife? because i hope you dont take what the fbi says because they have no credibilty when it comes to that because j edgar hoover hated mlk and came up with cointelpro to discredit black leaders. they put out all types of propaganda trying to discredit black leaders at that time.i've heard people say king cheated on his wife but i've never heard any one give any proof of it.fbi is not a good source.
326Ka 10 months ago
@nobby481 "We have dig deep in every fiber of our morals and soul, not to stray. We can be faithful, we have to man-up."
I don't think it's that deep. You just have to care for someone more than yourself.
TheCruzan26 10 months ago 2
I fucking detest cheating. It's a very selfish act. IMO, I don't care if my woman slept with 100 men or she got drunk and had sex with a co-worker. Cheating is cheating. I don't accept that shit. People cheat knowing if there partner finds out it will hurt them. Again it's a selfish act. The only person you're thinking about is YOU. And god forbid you're married with kids. When you cheat, don't you think you bring that negative energy around your kids?
TheCruzan26 10 months ago 23