Transracial Adoption: ColorsNW February Story

[iamablackmother]

The only opinions that really matter are those of adults who were transracially adopted as infants or children. Seek out these people.

[CheezInspector]

It's interesting that these adopted kids often have the same issues that we biracial people w/biological parents face anyway. It's hard for either parent to fully understand our experience, plus it's hard being raised in communities that have few biracial people.

[Kirke182]

I'm against transracial adoption and don't care if people think I'm racist for it. In the US, white people don't get it. The problem at the root is that they exalt the attitude that race doesn't matter when their own culture is inherently racist and has demonstrated--often very violently--that it sure as hell DOES matter. It is wrong to raise a nonwhite child in a white culture where he or she simply cannot, does not and will never fit.

[xoxYourMommyxox]

@Kirke182 im bi racial... if i want to adopt transracial kid then i will

[Kirke182]

@xoxYourMommyxox Whose stopping you?

[xoxYourMommyxox]

@Kirke182 no one... ill do what i want... just saying that you thoughts make no sense and are ignorant

[Kirke182]

@xoxYourMommyxox You missed the part where i said I don't care what anyone thinks. Stop wasting my time with inane posts.

[xoxYourMommyxox]

@Kirke182 great come back. original. is that what all racist use as come backs? i guess so. well bye then

[Kirke182]

@xoxYourMommyxox Yes, bye already.

[CheezInspector]

@Kirke182, there isn't just one attitude about race in the US. There's overt and subtle racist; some, like you, want to ignore the issues by insisting people segregate.

You assume a child must "fit in" in for adoption to be a reasonable option. Very few people perpetually "fit in" anywhere. President Obama might as well have been adopted. He didn't "fit in", was raised in Hawaii and Indonesia by a White mom. His consequence? He became the most powerful man in the world. Unique and brilliant.

[Kirke182]

@CheezInspector Yes, i assume a child must "fit" in. That's very important to children to fit in. And don't give me this garbage that Obama might as well have been adopted. He was raised by his natural mother which is how it should be. People like you is why I am against transracial adoption. Somebody who is half-white may as well have been adopted--boy, that's brilliant.

[CheezInspector]

@Kirke182, it's not a realistic assumption that everyone "must fit in". In life, we all have personal issues w/fitting in at times. We all have "crosses" to bear. Life isn't supposed to be pain free and if everyone thought that no child should have challenges or pain, adoption agencies in general would be more full than they already are. It's too bad you fail to grasp the analogy I made between Obama's lack of "fitting in" and the adopted person seeming at times to "not fitting in" too.

[Kirke182]

@CheezInspector Obama fits in with his family. Adoptees of transracial adoptions don't fit in with anybody. It is an unfair burden to put on them. What does that have to do with everybody must feel pain in their lives? Yeah, so what? Is that what you tell a child you adopted who is of a different race when he wants to know why he isn't like the rest of the family and other kids make fun of him for it? "Sorry but everybody has to feel pain." Jeesh.

[CheezInspector]

@Kirke182, how do you know Obama fits in with his family? How do you know every transracial adoptee doesn't fit in with anybody (patently false)? ... Gosh. And who decides what an "unfair burden" is?

I think a kid of any color who is w/out a home can be in pain. Finding a decent transracial home can alleviate that. And yes, (IMO) it's appropriate to say to a child "Sorry but everybody has to feel pain. How are you going to respond to it?" when that child is going through a life challenge.

[LeeMIlby]

@Kirke182

Race and Culture are not the same thing.

[Kirke182]

@LeeMIlby I never said they were.

[Smooth258]

We live in a racist world..and it is people like Truthhurtsallthetime in addition to racists of any color that make this such an issue. There are parents who love their kids regardless of skin color, and are very caring. It's sad that racial attitudes prevent this from happening

[TruthHurtzAllDaTime]

Towards the end of this video she nails it. It's a fade with white people to adopt black children. They know they don't have the means to spiritual and mentally handle the God nature of an African child. The jew they keep showing isn't going to allow that unless she want to be a target in her sick group. Now, maybe an Irish couple, even Russian but never an ashkenaz jew.

[TruthHurtzAllDaTime]

I'm against whites be they gay/straight adopting black children because they can't deny the FACT they have been conditioned from childhood to be racist! You can't live in america under ashkenazi regime and not be. That's the way they've designed it to keep themselves hidden. I will never support the synagogue of satan adopting an African child because number one they're psychopaths! They have this illusion of themselves and a long history of enslaving and murdering Africans all over the globe.

[CheezInspector]

@TruthHurtzAllDaTime, that's just conspiratorial, whackadoodle, anti-semitic misinformation. I'm part Black and also part White (Askenazi Jew). There's racism in all sectors of American society, including the Black community. So let's not get carried away and act like one group has the monopoly. Of all the White groups, I've generally found the Reformed Ashzenazi Jews are the most accepting and embracing of other cultures. They also tend to inter-marry the most. I speak from experience.

[isisqueenafrika]

This white woman is crying and asking how can they not love her son. She should talk to Black mothers and fathers accross America. This society still very racist and when you are white you don't have to know this fact!

[isisqueenafrika]

Black children should be in Black homes or in homes with parents of colour, Latino, Asian, etc. At least a family of colour will understand more than a white family.

[mirfir]

I agree it's very foreign to most people that most transracial adoptees 'have to learn first hand about their birth cultures.'

[420itsme]

I asked my father why he never had any black friends. He says he did at work. I reply, why haven't I ever seen them. He just stayed quiet and ate his food.

[evemartin1]

I saw your comment and it just reinforced my ideas on just why do white people adopt black children when they don't have black friend themselves. I use to watch the adoption programs where canadians were adopting children from Haiti and at the airport they would have their friends and family waiting to greet them and there was NEVER any black friends in those groups.

[TruthHurtzAllDaTime]

I was wondering about that and feel it's a sort of vindication. It's like putting a flag on the moon and saying it's yours. If you can raise a black child to love you and keep him/her away from the truth, you can continue to live in your utopia.

[LeeMIlby]

@TruthHurtzAllDaTime

Adopting a child is not a matter of charity. That's not what love is about.

[wmthomas28]

@420itsme At least you had the guts to ask.

[LeeMIlby]

@420itsme

He probably felt awkward cause he knows that the core of what you were asking about is something he can never provide just because of his race. It's an awful feeling for a parent to be helpless in supporting their child. You should both talk openly about this because it would be a shame if you both let the question separate your bond.

[420itsme]

My adoption was famous. My family was on Oprah because my family fought the state for my adoption. But now, I still feel so incomplete. I've been a black man in a white community, family, gradeschool. I'm 26 and now just coming to terms with my identity.

[highflyer]

Why are you against the honkys? using that word is offensive to them

[laleebee]

This documentary is so much better than the adoptedthemovie clips.

[highflyer]

aren't there any colored parents with white kids?

[swkangelgirl]

actually yes! but not that many actually as black parents are more likely prone to adopt black children, plus there are more black children in the US available for adoption.

[Applebaum]

coloured? what are we in the year 1972 or somethin??

[callmeservant]

If not there will be I plan on adopting half of however many children I have. Adoption is beautiful no matter what race you adopt there still your baby.

[highflyer]

I agree. But I was just curious.

[djkimcheelove]

asian adult adoptee mini-gathering and film festival this october in waikiki. email djkimcheelove at yahoo for more info.

anyong!

[thanks88]

CIA has been recruiting some american to adopt as many Chinese orphan as possible from Mainland China. Their main purpose is to train these innocent human being to become anti-Chinese spy so they can be used in favor of American opinion in future conflict between China and US. BEWARE China! north american has been using this deceptive method against American indian for two hundred years, you will be their next target!

[inkfishgraphics]

Very important information. Thank you.

[teenlebean]

I heard a few things that i had only ever felt inwardly. I'm a half indian woman. I grew up in a white family in a white area . It was obvious that i was adopted as i stood out like a sore thumb even within my family! Identity issues are now coming to the fore 4 me. I don't think people realised in 1968 the effect that feeling like an outsider can have on you. This gives me hope that things are maybe a bit different now..thanks!

[theosdas]

That is so sad. :( I hope things have gotten better. I am married to an Indian (from India) and people stare at us a lot. I think my kids eat it up though. We go to India and it is the same thing there. I think there is always a little struggle for interracial families and kids.

[teenlebean]

thanks for your reply! i'm trying to find out more about my indian father but it's not easy! never been 2 india or had any contact with indian culture (apart from a 4 yr relationship with a pakistani guy..trying to find my identity!)if i can learn more about my father i hope it will help me find peace x

[arkiepicker]

Thanks for posting this video. We have a Chinese Daughter and live in a predominantly white area. So far, things have gone wonderfully. Your video reinforces my responsibility as an adoptive parent to integrate culturally relevant activities into my Daughter's experiences within our family.

Thanks again.

[aluv101]

Thank you for this. Hey Sarah! Randomly found this. Your represent well, girl.

[bleazy206]

Big ups NW colors magazine. Some of my Colleagues from School are Transracial adoptees. It is important that adoptees from other countries as well as adoptees who were born in the U.S. introduced to their cultures and people in their culture. That responsibility resides on the family and parents.