I agree with you I am in sex Ed now (and my friends would make fun of me SOOOOO bad fir this) but I feel like they miss a lot of what is important to us and even worse i'm in a catholic school so half the time they are preaching just about abstinence and it gets monotonus (did I spell that right????) can you send this to my school?!?!?!?!
@chocolateluver117 lol, sorry, but I can't get involved in private school's sex ed choices.... I can only push for public schools to have more comprehensive sex ed... and more interesting/entertaining!
I agree with the internet. Outside resources are a necessity in teaching sex ed. People need to know where to access contraceptives, abortions, sterilization, sex toys, etc. I believe it's a failing system to tell students that these all "exist", we just never tell them WHERE they exist or how to get to them, so they aren't likely to do the research on their own if they are not being morally supported to find these.
as much as this chick is correct, teachers are not like they used to be.
they go to school, talk about random garbage, then get their paycheck.
thats all they care about anymore, ive had dozens of teachers and all they do is shove the information down your throat, even when its completely irrelevent to all the students in their day to day lives.
Good video..."unique" is correct. We're all different, we like different things and it's important for sex education to include things that actually make sex a fun and natural thing. I like confident, secure and successful guys...and I think that some of this comes from selecting partners that have these traits because of education ( on some degree ). Education makes sex fun and interesting with good partners...good partners make good sex and for me that's the whole point. :)
It IS a problem. One big huge problem... more teen pregnancies than we dream of, an STD epidemic of ridiculous proportions. Yeah, they'll figure out the how to have sex part... they WON'T figure out the safety part. And if you say school is solely for future employment, pregnancy gets in the way of finishing school and thus getting even mediocre jobs.
You used the word "educate". Students need to be educated about sex. Not all students get proper information and support from their parents. Also, sex education can raise awareness about sexual assault. I received inadequate sex ed throughout school, but luckily I had good parents who answered any questions I had. Ignoring it won't lead to better understanding.
I am really a fan of yours. All your videos on Sex Education is quite useful. I also like to suggest you to make a video on the Sex Education status on under developed countries like asian countries (india, nepal etc...)
besides the city area sex ed. is treated as a bit negative and because of that specially girls have very few knowledge on sex and sex related information like STDs etc... which can cause a problems on their lives later.
so hope you can address this issue on some videos later.
If you want to have confidential sex ed teachers, they should be professionally trained in counseling techniques and be very adept at spotting "red flags" such as signs of abuse, rape, or self-harm and handling them appropriately. This is not to say they should immediately go to the authorities. Much like doctors, they should use their position to open the lines of communication and educate the youth about their rights and options. Only if harm is imminent do the police or parents come in.
Umm, yeah... I guess I assumed... She shouldn't bleed from anywhere other than the vaginal opening... I can't see a situation causing blood to come from anywhere else... I'm a little lost here?
There are several questions that need to be answered before we can really address this question. A few of them have been asked already: How much is "a lot?" From where exactly is she bleeding? However, some questions haven't been asked: Is the girl due to have her period? Did you engage in very rough or unusual sexual activities? How long has she been bleeding?
Any unexpected vaginal bleeding needs to be examined by a doctor, especially if it persists for longer than a day or two.
Ok, that comment was only for your amusement, that's the beauty of internet, you can say whatever and people like it or not. I worked in small area of development of internet on the early 90. That's makes you an idea of my age 35, and still think that sex is fun. You should give me credit on that, was a clever answer, but funny, I didn't expect you answer it. Of course, that joke isn't for everyone, only a few can understand that, just people with a huge criteria, open minded, smart, and clever.
Ok, that is what I think of you, I find you a very smart woman, that joke doesn't mean anything, just some fun. For your mental peace, I will not be annoying anymore. I found your work very important in your culture, mine is completely different (I would NOT allow you to talk with my daughter). (btw, I DON'T EXPECT you answer!, or approve this comment)
I've watched a lot of your vids kicesie... very cool. You stimulate people to THINK--which is a good thing!
Personally, my #1 thought is that sex is a NATURAL NEED of a human that is doing MORE than "just surviving". Just as we need nutrient-filled food (not just bread) and a variety of drinks (not just water), just as we need shelter, clothing & communication...
Sex is a human NEED. Trying to stifle/hide it--is dangerous, & creates sexual predators & problems--as you know all too well :(
I think it is important that one covers as many good as bad things about sex/consequences so that the kids don't leave either with fear or a great lust. Ballence the lessons.
Here in France they give away free condoms on any school event (like i.e careerday) and I think it's good. It doesn't make the kids go have sex because they have condoms rather than remembers them to use one
Last issue, my parents are quite open to me on sex except when it comes to them. Parents should be invited to sex ed
my idea for improving sex ed (beyond your 7 great points) is convince people they can talk to each other about sex. People probably see your videos and say to themselves, darn I wish I could talk about this with my partner...but they can! Just have to get up the nerve.
I'm blessed with a partner right now who I can discuss anything with, I mean anything, we have gone over a huge spectrum of topics, what we like, don't like, fantasize about, might like to try, am nervous about...it is great.
I think any and all religious issues regarding sex should be left to parents and as a school system we must try to stay neutral on moral issues and sex... but definitely should not discuss specific religious debates like creation or evolution (in our sex ed program. I'm not discussing nor do I care to discuss what occurs in the school's science programs).
the important to give some sex ed, that u can trust the person who you asking and dont be embarrassied to ask you questions. I think, that the sex ed. have to come from the parents and from the school, but parents can´t leave the sex ed of their kids @ school.
also i think that the kids should get sex ed @ the age of 14,.. or ... as developed as they are.
sometimes it will be better to contact some magazins, here in germany there is a magazin called "BRAVO" with a part, where people who are 15
Though I'll acknowledge that rebellion may be a driving factor for SOME kids to have sex, I think a much stronger one is a desire for 2 things: acceptance & intimacy.
Also, in addition to the 7 items you've said, sex ed should always be taught in progression, starting from early recognition of genitals when you're young all the way up to understanding of safe sex and sexual acts when you're older. So, it should be lifelong, if that's the best way to understand it.
I totally agree with this point. But to do this, we need more than just the school's cooperation, but parents. And parents seem more difficult than schools...
At any rate, I couldn't agree more with your points.
Very true, it's getting rid of the taboo aspect of educating your own kids about sex that needs to be part of the sex ed...call it "sex ed for parents about sex ed"
I love your pragmatic approach to sex ed, and I would also add that along with sex ed being open, honest and inquisitive, it should also include understanding and acceptance of those with sexual tastes that differ from the "norm". Sex ed should be well rounded as you said, but also all-inclusive. Great job on breaking down the points! :)
I think sex ed could be improved by focusing more on the possible result of sex which is having a baby. Not just the physical aspect but also the financial and legal aspects of having a baby. This will result in people taking it more serious.
"Abstinence" ONLY "works" for THOSE FEW that CAN carry it OUT! and, SADLY...THAT'S NOT all THAT many because WE as a SOCIETY DON'T STRESS "self IMAGE" in the proper way. "Self SATISFACTION" is becoming the "way" of today!
Therefore, "sex ED" SHOULD be taught, and discussed...at HOME, at school, and even at Church (Comprehensive, interactive, 'discussion' styles in "youth lingo" WITH VISUAL AIDES seem to work best).
Youth should UNDERSTAND that SEXUAL activities come with GREAT responsibilities (and often PENALTIES too!)
I've gone through ALL of these 108 (?) "comments" so far and NOT ONE of them MENTIONED one of the most (KEY) words...RESPONSIBILITY!
Sad...but TRUE! I'm a Christian (in CALIFORNIA, not necessarily a "HARD CORE" one but a BELIEVER in Christ and His teachings as I understand them). I feel that GOD (in BOTH the 'old' AND the 'new' Testaments is BIG on PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY!
The volume throughout that video was all over the place kicesie. Could hardly hear you at times, so I'd turn up the volume and then almost ruin my speakers as the numbers were said.
sure i think that is something that can happen if you like. dont just give up on you having a child you are after all a person who i think should be breeding. we need more people like you.
I would agree that Kicesie would probably improve the gene pool. And while I enjoy being a parent and find it very fulfilling, I wish more people would put the thought into it that she and her fiance are.
well thank you..! so hopefully I can adopt one of these children that someone else shouldn't have had.... and give that child a real chance at life! :-)
Ahh, gotcha, I understand. Who knows, same may happen for me... I just think that by the time I'm ready to have kids (as in, adopt), I'll be too old! *Shrugs*
ok kicesie i am calling very good looking. sexy and smart . fun to watch interesting and well you just are sexy very sexy. anyway i think you are doing a wonderful bit on here and may well be helping many people. if i had children and they wanted to know about sex and i was not comfortable teaching them i would certainly trust you to help them along with relationships and such. thank you.
Part 2 I suppose 1 and 2 will be all over the map. 3 and 4 could be answered by surveys. 5 is the interesting problem, because sex education should not be delivered in a vacuum. Is there agreement on what kids need to know? I see on the news disagreement all the time about what should be taught. Sex education crosses into areas that many people feel are the province of morality. How do you deal with that, and still be effective? I don't know.
Actually a great way of figuring out what kids know and don't know is to do a combination of (anonymous) true or false questions (to see how much accurate info they already know) and then open ended statements like 'to avoid getting pregnant, one should _______' and things like that.... (to see what exactly they think they know about sex)
i think sexual education is an important topic i liked your vid it seems you know what your talking about i wish you could talk about sex performance and y sometimes you dont work as your suposed to do it and if there problems with erections in oyung people wat age dat problem began i like oyur vid on porn becasuse i like porn but sometimes i had feel of guiltines oyu clear many bouts thanks
First, I never said how I feel one way or another on porn... and the video was meant to make people seriously question why they like or hate porn... to actually think it through and not just go with their gut reactions.
Secondly, I do have videos like the ones you're talking about.... I've done ones on desire disorders.... male orgasm problems (including not obtaining or maintaining an erection) and on my new site when it's up in two weeks I'll have more on male orgasm disorders.
you are so sexy yourself i have to wonder is that in part why you wish to be a sex therpist . just a question . at any rate i think your vids are good and i enjoy them . thank you .
That makes no sense at all. What would being attractive (not that I'm calling myself such) have to do with wanting to help other people sort out their sexual issues and how it's effecting their relationships?
well do you really think a couple is going to go see some ugly looking person who they think may have never had sex because they are so ugly or to someone who they think would be a dream in bed.
Actually the most successful sex therapists have been, in my opinion, quite unattractive. And my mentors have told me that my appearance will have to be largely played down. People can be intimidated by it (face to face is quite different than the net) and who wants to go to an attractive (if that's what you're calling me) therapist when you're having marital problems?? To me, that'd be the last thing a woman would want.... *shrugs*
i agree, poeple are intimidated by very attractive people. i know i tend to be that way. i get nervous just talking about anything to an attractive girl in person.
oh god no. for some reason i can talk to anyone over the internet or phone, but when it comes person to person. i totally freeze up like a bad scence from a sitcom. and the more attractive they are the worse it is..lol and this is even people i have made friends with and i am only friends with, once i finally meet them i lock up. i don't really understand it
No one told us about how we should go about bringing up using a condom without feeling embarrassed or worrying that the person wouldn't like us anymore. They just told us how to put it on. Abstinence-only doesn't work because it's not realistic. But the other extreme isn't realistic either. We should be preparing kids for real life. For real communication. For real sex.
I don't think what you're describing is the opposite from abstinence only... in fact I would say it's similar in the fact that huge, graphic pictures are what we call scare tactics. And you're right, they get a reaction but have no lasting effect.
SEX ed should be about all things regarding sex... like I said, about how to communicate,... but also how to deal with the emotions (good and bad) that come along with it all... So I totally agree. :-) Thanks for the comments!
What no one EVER told us, was that when we started to really like or even love someone, and eventually kissed and touched them and took their pants off and saw that they looked absolutely wonderful, those horrible images would be the last thing on our minds. No one ever prepared us for how getting an infection or becoming pregnant was probably going to happen. It was all clinical. All textbook. All facts upon facts. No one mentioned love or passion or nervousness or fear.
The teachers went into explicit detail about STI's and showed the class VERY graphic pictures of the worst case scenarios. I mean, crystallized, fungus-like, enormous growths. And the reaction was very dramatic. At each slide, we screamed, looked away, and giggled a lot. Some kids had to run to the bathroom. And after it was all over, everyone was like, "I am NEVER having sex!"
See, this is why I watch your videos! Because I agree with you about everything! Especially about a well-rounded program.
Having gone to a high school with a program for young parents and a daycare center, in which, at one time, I was the only girl in the class who wasn't pregnant, I am VERY pro sex-ed. Understandably, this school had a very extensive sex-ed program, which while better than no sex-ed at all, I believe went too far.
What I took offense to is his term 'all deviant versions of sex'... as what is deviant is a HIGHLY personal opinion and to make a judgement call on anyone other than yourself (unless innocents are involved) I believe to be wrong. that's all....
THE POINT OF THE PREMISE of sex education is as said below in many comments including miss k,s it must be done together, when seperate you seperate everything alo kids or 4 that matter young to older adults to indulge in comftorbale conversation, keeping things as the are and seeing them as they are is the 1st step in a sex ed class or briefing be open and honest NO SEPERATION m&w) good video
But someone that is a lot closer to their age may be more apropreate and more sucsessful cause it hasn't been that long since you were their age they can relate to you and what you are also saying and then it would be easer for them to ask you about sex and their questions
I don't know if there is a secondary school near you but prehaps you should ask if you can take a group of kids that around the sex ed age and you teach them about it because I think that you can't talk about about sex to a teacher cause their considerably older
They do not let someone without certification talk to youth at school about sex. Think of the kind of people who would be interested in that!!! I highly agree with the demand for certified professionals.
And I most certainly do not need to be someone's official sex ed until I have at least a master's degree.
Sex ed definitely needs to be more fun. My early sex ed was dead boring. All it was was watching badly made educational movies.
Then when I was about 15, we had some really interesting sex ed classes - plenty of joking around and open discussions.
And they really need to quit with the gender segregated sex ed classes. It creates the feeling that there's something shameful about talking to the opposite gender about sex.
I see a benefit and problem with gender separation. I have another video about the biggest problem I currently see with sex ed.... being how it teaches us that men and women are entirely different and we can't ever understand each other...
BUT, by separating the genders youth often do feel more comfortable asking questions and giving their thoughts... I've witnessed it personally... but the majority of it needs to be done together.
EVERY recent medical research article (peer reviewed!) (meaning it's as credible as they come) say that having at least one orgasm a day will make you healthier not only in your sexual organs (including the prostate) but your heart, and mental health.
These articles do NOT assume anal sex in a man is occurring. Lots of anal sex can destroy the anus for sure. But I've never heard of it hurting the prostate at all.
I just watched parts of their videos and I think you've totally misrepresented them. I should have watched before I spoke.... !from what I've seen! it looks like they are pretty correct and I did NOT hear them say that too much sex causes prostate cancer.
If I was trying to gear sex ED for today's kids I'd sick with the old run down in class and then give them a website to go to if they are interested in learning more or still have questions.
I would expect trying to have some kind of open sex ED class wouldn't work because kids aren't going to stand up and ask questions because that's admitting they don't know something about sex. Which makes you uncool in today's over sex culture.
That ties in a lot with what I was talking about with confidentiality. We need to develop resources that are credible that youth can learn from without anyone else knowing exactly what kind of questions they have. Be that a website (absolutely none that I have ever come across would fit what I feel needs to exist) or whatever.
That said, I did a short sex ed program when I was a youth mentor for a year and I did programs with the genders separated and also together. For the girls night we had one big sleepover and took quizzes to see how accurate our knowledge on sex was... talked about the truth versus myths and boy issues and it was FUN... and I think they learned a lot.
My 9th grade bio teacher was wonderful about that--at the end of class, we wrote our questions down on notecards and she'd answer ANY QUESTION not explicitly banned by the county (so she couldn't give "how-to's", but she could say anything else). She did as much with that curriculum as she was allowed to, and would even "subtly suggest" that we ask certain questions (she couldn't bring up topics, she could only say what was in her little book and answer our questions).
That's an excerpt from an never aired episode (Titled: Non-Virginity) talking about how screwy modern thinking is to believe that virginity is everything. People that have that mindset end up making really bad decisions I believe.
i dont regeret any desisions i've made, nor do i think women who are still virgins are better than those who arent. if your boyfriend/husband really loves you, its not going to matter, becuase chances are, they arent either.
Shame as well as guilt is a vital part of the human experience and it's what separates a good and sane person from a sociopath. But what we have done is made excuses for the shit we SHOULD feel shame over and we've felt so damn guilty over things that are perfectly natural, healthy and okay!
I understand what you're saying though... Pointless, indoctrinated shame is so harmful.
totaly agree sexed needs to improve omg my high school back in da day class was a joke our school nurse taught it she was 70 NO LIE and got the kids in wood woking class (witch i was in) to make a big wooden penis so ppl could practice and deminstrate on lmao it was funny but on a serios note love the vedio all of them
I learned everything online, reading books from the college and so forth. Young adults who don't have parents to talk to need people like you to inform them on all aspects of sex and being safe.
I would REALLY like to encourage my viewers (whose average age is 26) to remember to be someone your child can turn to about sex. And that means being open to whatever they have to say...
For a lot of you, parenthood is a little ways off... and don't let time and adulthood cause you to forget. Don't stick your heads in the sand... be real, be open and be honest with your kids.
(this isn't directed toward you mes13519, your comment just made think of it)
My school never even had a sex ed class, and my parents never told me anything. The infamous video they show you're in the sixth grade was all about deodorant. I even had a female friends who after watching the "video" though she was going to have her period once and then never again. That's how informative it actually is.
It's going to be hard to promote sexual education in the United States where 25% of population identify itself as hard core fundamentalist Christian evangelists... good luck. You should move to Canada, we're very liberal country.
you had never sex...girl!!!!!!!
vladxela 1 year ago
@vladxela I'm married and happily active in all parts of our marriage..... duuuuude!
kicesie 1 year ago 2
oh. my. god.
your not just hot your beautiful
bcsk8ter 1 year ago
I agree with you I am in sex Ed now (and my friends would make fun of me SOOOOO bad fir this) but I feel like they miss a lot of what is important to us and even worse i'm in a catholic school so half the time they are preaching just about abstinence and it gets monotonus (did I spell that right????) can you send this to my school?!?!?!?!
chocolateluver117 1 year ago
@chocolateluver117 lol, sorry, but I can't get involved in private school's sex ed choices.... I can only push for public schools to have more comprehensive sex ed... and more interesting/entertaining!
kicesie 1 year ago
I agree with the internet. Outside resources are a necessity in teaching sex ed. People need to know where to access contraceptives, abortions, sterilization, sex toys, etc. I believe it's a failing system to tell students that these all "exist", we just never tell them WHERE they exist or how to get to them, so they aren't likely to do the research on their own if they are not being morally supported to find these.
Arazante 1 year ago
I believe in Your good intentions in helping/educating people. This is hell of a matter and You are needed doctor! xD Nice listening to You. Cheers.
johnlocke555 1 year ago
Thanks! But remember I am NOT a doctor or a professional of any kind! :-)
kicesie 1 year ago
your hot
leo96115 1 year ago
thanx for being my friend =)
johnnystacks1981 1 year ago
I know you hear this all the time but you are very sexy ..but not in a trashy way .. you are strong and elagent .I find you very
attractive not in a perverted way I to hold you smell your hair and kiss you softlly
realsexyladies 1 year ago
this channel is amazing kids definatley need this kind of stuff now that school programs are so vague and roundabout
EktraKrispy 1 year ago
really kool video...you are good on talking about certain subjects...that is great =) keep up the good work...also would you be my friend?
johnnystacks1981 1 year ago
I love you!
kaptainkashstacka 1 year ago
I don't like how Sex Ed act likes teen sex is inevitable.
The way sex ed is taught that puts pressure on teens to have sex.
They need to explain what "Waiting" is about. Waiting doesn't prevents STDs like the claim.
People wait for religious reasons that should be respect.
People wait until they reach a level of security that if they were to get pregnant - they would be able to handle it.
People wait until they are in a stable healthy relationship.
These reasons should be respected.
mealie1613 1 year ago
5*****
chihuo1 1 year ago
as much as this chick is correct, teachers are not like they used to be.
they go to school, talk about random garbage, then get their paycheck.
thats all they care about anymore, ive had dozens of teachers and all they do is shove the information down your throat, even when its completely irrelevent to all the students in their day to day lives.
this girl needs to go on oprah or somethin haha.
MdNtNightmare 1 year ago
i love the imac !
GlowDome036 1 year ago
you look kinda like Joss Stone
lamaya43 1 year ago
I wached your all videos and you are very sweet :). I'm believe be your successful. Bravo..........
fatihbahat 1 year ago
woah! your elbows are awesome
musicmaniacfreak 2 years ago
haha! ty!
kicesie 2 years ago
nice video
DiamondCashRichTv 2 years ago
hey we have the same desk!
lonewolf88 2 years ago
Good video..."unique" is correct. We're all different, we like different things and it's important for sex education to include things that actually make sex a fun and natural thing. I like confident, secure and successful guys...and I think that some of this comes from selecting partners that have these traits because of education ( on some degree ). Education makes sex fun and interesting with good partners...good partners make good sex and for me that's the whole point. :)
jdfox1 2 years ago
go kicisie!!!
bethslifebeforedeath 2 years ago
Too bad you weren't teaching the students when I was in school. You have an amazing way of keeping the audiences attention. Keep up the great work!
helloomotto 3 years ago 18
Why do we need it? They are not stupid. They know what it is. There needs to be no conversation about it, unless it becomes a problem of course.
It is the function of public schools to educate pupils in skills that will make them employable.
Instucting students in sexuality is not the function of the public schools. A pupil's sexuality is none of the school's business.
Sexuality belongs in the private sphere of life.
paralegal2b 3 years ago
It IS a problem. One big huge problem... more teen pregnancies than we dream of, an STD epidemic of ridiculous proportions. Yeah, they'll figure out the how to have sex part... they WON'T figure out the safety part. And if you say school is solely for future employment, pregnancy gets in the way of finishing school and thus getting even mediocre jobs.
kicesie 3 years ago
You used the word "educate". Students need to be educated about sex. Not all students get proper information and support from their parents. Also, sex education can raise awareness about sexual assault. I received inadequate sex ed throughout school, but luckily I had good parents who answered any questions I had. Ignoring it won't lead to better understanding.
NattyB5693 2 years ago
Your wonderful! I'm 2 days new to YouTube. Your the best thing on thus far. My name is Yava. I'll be watching on the reg. Thanks
voxbee 3 years ago
I am really a fan of yours. All your videos on Sex Education is quite useful. I also like to suggest you to make a video on the Sex Education status on under developed countries like asian countries (india, nepal etc...)
besides the city area sex ed. is treated as a bit negative and because of that specially girls have very few knowledge on sex and sex related information like STDs etc... which can cause a problems on their lives later.
so hope you can address this issue on some videos later.
thapame 3 years ago 2
ur really hot
captain205 3 years ago 14
im 13 and im not thinking about having sex cause im to young ; but does it hurt when you have your first time x
CAMPSEYR 3 years ago 2
I have two videos about virginity that I encourage you to watch...
kicesie 3 years ago
Actually, in the LBGTQ acronym, "Q" stands for "questioning", not "queer."
Whoo69 3 years ago 2
We discussed that at length on that video and decided jointly that it stands for both and therefore, often two Qs are used.
kicesie 3 years ago
wow u are friggin hot.
davenmcdav 3 years ago 2
If you want to have confidential sex ed teachers, they should be professionally trained in counseling techniques and be very adept at spotting "red flags" such as signs of abuse, rape, or self-harm and handling them appropriately. This is not to say they should immediately go to the authorities. Much like doctors, they should use their position to open the lines of communication and educate the youth about their rights and options. Only if harm is imminent do the police or parents come in.
Tanalark99 3 years ago
this is off topic but when you first have sex. and the girl bleeds a lot, thats normal right?
koreankay 4 years ago
It depends on what one means by 'a lot'... If she won't stop bleeding she needs to go to the emergency room immediately.
It's also normal to not bleed at ALL... so it varies a lot.
kicesie 4 years ago
It depends of "from where" she bleeds of, also.
HackmanGT 3 years ago
Umm, yeah... I guess I assumed... She shouldn't bleed from anywhere other than the vaginal opening... I can't see a situation causing blood to come from anywhere else... I'm a little lost here?
kicesie 3 years ago
There are several questions that need to be answered before we can really address this question. A few of them have been asked already: How much is "a lot?" From where exactly is she bleeding? However, some questions haven't been asked: Is the girl due to have her period? Did you engage in very rough or unusual sexual activities? How long has she been bleeding?
Any unexpected vaginal bleeding needs to be examined by a doctor, especially if it persists for longer than a day or two.
Tanalark99 3 years ago
Ok, that comment was only for your amusement, that's the beauty of internet, you can say whatever and people like it or not. I worked in small area of development of internet on the early 90. That's makes you an idea of my age 35, and still think that sex is fun. You should give me credit on that, was a clever answer, but funny, I didn't expect you answer it. Of course, that joke isn't for everyone, only a few can understand that, just people with a huge criteria, open minded, smart, and clever.
HackmanGT 3 years ago
Ok, that is what I think of you, I find you a very smart woman, that joke doesn't mean anything, just some fun. For your mental peace, I will not be annoying anymore. I found your work very important in your culture, mine is completely different (I would NOT allow you to talk with my daughter). (btw, I DON'T EXPECT you answer!, or approve this comment)
Be good !
HackmanGT
Some was lost in the translation.
HackmanGT 3 years ago
Another good video Kim !
Sex ed is "a problem" meaning is not enough talk about.
LoL your left arm is impressive :p
/kiss
soussou63 4 years ago
aaaaargh, your left arm in the first scene really scares me! ^^
dirki91 4 years ago 2
LOL!! :-P
kicesie 4 years ago
This girl is a new Dr Ruth Westenheimer.ALL PRAISE KICESIE.ALL YOUR SEX ED ARE BELONG TO YOU:D:P
zastonecesda 4 years ago 3
Just ordered your videos from loving sex. They should be here on Saturday or early next week. I'm very excited.
sorris07 4 years ago
awesome!
kicesie 4 years ago
I have the same speaker as you do, lol. They are just grey not black like yours. Just a side note
Morcadian 4 years ago
I've watched a lot of your vids kicesie... very cool. You stimulate people to THINK--which is a good thing!
Personally, my #1 thought is that sex is a NATURAL NEED of a human that is doing MORE than "just surviving". Just as we need nutrient-filled food (not just bread) and a variety of drinks (not just water), just as we need shelter, clothing & communication...
Sex is a human NEED. Trying to stifle/hide it--is dangerous, & creates sexual predators & problems--as you know all too well :(
lightsaber1138 4 years ago
I think it is important that one covers as many good as bad things about sex/consequences so that the kids don't leave either with fear or a great lust. Ballence the lessons.
Here in France they give away free condoms on any school event (like i.e careerday) and I think it's good. It doesn't make the kids go have sex because they have condoms rather than remembers them to use one
Last issue, my parents are quite open to me on sex except when it comes to them. Parents should be invited to sex ed
Razzfazz87 4 years ago
my idea for improving sex ed (beyond your 7 great points) is convince people they can talk to each other about sex. People probably see your videos and say to themselves, darn I wish I could talk about this with my partner...but they can! Just have to get up the nerve.
I'm blessed with a partner right now who I can discuss anything with, I mean anything, we have gone over a huge spectrum of topics, what we like, don't like, fantasize about, might like to try, am nervous about...it is great.
GretchenDawntreader 4 years ago
great video! i love how your channel is so unique and focused on something so important!
BelovedWhy 4 years ago
it is sick
hxspurs7 4 years ago
kool
gstuba001 4 years ago
Hi! I like your vlogs. Do you think we should talk about creation and evolution as a sex-ed tool?
gstuba001 4 years ago
I think any and all religious issues regarding sex should be left to parents and as a school system we must try to stay neutral on moral issues and sex... but definitely should not discuss specific religious debates like creation or evolution (in our sex ed program. I'm not discussing nor do I care to discuss what occurs in the school's science programs).
kicesie 4 years ago
Kicesie you should make some videos where you talk about things other than sex. Just to give your viewers some variety.
Tell us about other parts of your life or something.
You've probably got a lot of different things going on.
username42936432 4 years ago
I have an entire channel for that! It's kicesiesvlog.
kicesie 4 years ago
wow i just realized your elbows are double jointed.
MichaelZycz 4 years ago
years old who can aks questions to an instructed team, with are answer the questions.
such magazins are in every develop country.
hope u understand what i want to say (sry bad english=)
great job, love ur vidos
ps nice outfit @ 1:32
0y1y2y 4 years ago
the important to give some sex ed, that u can trust the person who you asking and dont be embarrassied to ask you questions. I think, that the sex ed. have to come from the parents and from the school, but parents can´t leave the sex ed of their kids @ school.
also i think that the kids should get sex ed @ the age of 14,.. or ... as developed as they are.
sometimes it will be better to contact some magazins, here in germany there is a magazin called "BRAVO" with a part, where people who are 15
0y1y2y 4 years ago
But really who wants to talk about sex with their parents? Kids have sex to rebel. So the parents only make them want to do it for the wrong reasons.
Sex ed at school is good but there should be more emphasis on choosing the right partner.
naturboyy 4 years ago
Though I'll acknowledge that rebellion may be a driving factor for SOME kids to have sex, I think a much stronger one is a desire for 2 things: acceptance & intimacy.
kicesie 4 years ago
My best sex is with my hand :DD~
kostas1995 4 years ago
Also, in addition to the 7 items you've said, sex ed should always be taught in progression, starting from early recognition of genitals when you're young all the way up to understanding of safe sex and sexual acts when you're older. So, it should be lifelong, if that's the best way to understand it.
play4n6 4 years ago
I totally agree with this point. But to do this, we need more than just the school's cooperation, but parents. And parents seem more difficult than schools...
At any rate, I couldn't agree more with your points.
kicesie 4 years ago
Very true, it's getting rid of the taboo aspect of educating your own kids about sex that needs to be part of the sex ed...call it "sex ed for parents about sex ed"
play4n6 4 years ago
I love your pragmatic approach to sex ed, and I would also add that along with sex ed being open, honest and inquisitive, it should also include understanding and acceptance of those with sexual tastes that differ from the "norm". Sex ed should be well rounded as you said, but also all-inclusive. Great job on breaking down the points! :)
play4n6 4 years ago
ur videos are okay, but ur really talking too much about worthless things that dont really belong to the topic.
xmxaxgxgxixex 4 years ago
I think sex ed could be improved by focusing more on the possible result of sex which is having a baby. Not just the physical aspect but also the financial and legal aspects of having a baby. This will result in people taking it more serious.
18hands 4 years ago
how much did the comp cost?
mikeilia 4 years ago
School loans cover things like that. :-) I think it was about a grand new... about 3 years ago.
kicesie 4 years ago
nice computer
tylerdeKeruzec 4 years ago
dead on right and well said, girl!
UnificationNow 4 years ago
I HOPE that my various 'comments' get "approved" and POSTED in the right order!!!
Scooter2putt
PS: An ORGASM a DAY? THAT seems a bit 'steep'...but,maybe it's a GOOD 'goal'4a healthy married couple trying2get prego!
IBETthat 2-4 times a week isQUITE HEALTHY enough4MOST humans past the "honeymoon"stage!
&I bet that THAT much'anal'sex wouldCUM w/GREAT RISKS!!! LOL!
Virginity WOULD make a WONDERFUL "gift" to your"SOUL MATE"though,wouldn't it?
Be YOURSELF for YOURSELF&4THOSE that YOU love!
Scooter2Putt 4 years ago
"Abstinence" ONLY "works" for THOSE FEW that CAN carry it OUT! and, SADLY...THAT'S NOT all THAT many because WE as a SOCIETY DON'T STRESS "self IMAGE" in the proper way. "Self SATISFACTION" is becoming the "way" of today!
Scooter2Putt 4 years ago
Therefore, "sex ED" SHOULD be taught, and discussed...at HOME, at school, and even at Church (Comprehensive, interactive, 'discussion' styles in "youth lingo" WITH VISUAL AIDES seem to work best).
Youth should UNDERSTAND that SEXUAL activities come with GREAT responsibilities (and often PENALTIES too!)
Scooter2Putt 4 years ago
I've gone through ALL of these 108 (?) "comments" so far and NOT ONE of them MENTIONED one of the most (KEY) words...RESPONSIBILITY!
Sad...but TRUE! I'm a Christian (in CALIFORNIA, not necessarily a "HARD CORE" one but a BELIEVER in Christ and His teachings as I understand them). I feel that GOD (in BOTH the 'old' AND the 'new' Testaments is BIG on PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY!
Scooter2Putt 4 years ago
The volume throughout that video was all over the place kicesie. Could hardly hear you at times, so I'd turn up the volume and then almost ruin my speakers as the numbers were said.
Petemoss1976 4 years ago
if she wants to teach me about sex ill learn anything count me in she is hot
bigkylelake 4 years ago
Sex ed should be interesting.
roadk1ll 4 years ago
sure i think that is something that can happen if you like. dont just give up on you having a child you are after all a person who i think should be breeding. we need more people like you.
bill739 4 years ago
I would agree that Kicesie would probably improve the gene pool. And while I enjoy being a parent and find it very fulfilling, I wish more people would put the thought into it that she and her fiance are.
anonxyzus 4 years ago
not often do i think anyone having kids in this time is a good idea but you i think would be a wonderfull mom.
bill739 4 years ago
well thank you..! so hopefully I can adopt one of these children that someone else shouldn't have had.... and give that child a real chance at life! :-)
kicesie 4 years ago
age 44 not much chance of kids now . like kids but we dont all get to have them. no matter such is life.
bill739 4 years ago
Ahh, gotcha, I understand. Who knows, same may happen for me... I just think that by the time I'm ready to have kids (as in, adopt), I'll be too old! *Shrugs*
kicesie 4 years ago
ok kicesie i am calling very good looking. sexy and smart . fun to watch interesting and well you just are sexy very sexy. anyway i think you are doing a wonderful bit on here and may well be helping many people. if i had children and they wanted to know about sex and i was not comfortable teaching them i would certainly trust you to help them along with relationships and such. thank you.
bill739 4 years ago
Ah, thanks, but if/when you have kids, hopefully you'll be mad cool enough to talk to them about it. ;-)
kicesie 4 years ago
"Complete and well rounded." That's where I got distracted.. You did that 'thing' on purose didn't you? ;-)
PuppyZwolle 4 years ago
I am totally lost. did WHAT thing?
kicesie 4 years ago
Part 2 I suppose 1 and 2 will be all over the map. 3 and 4 could be answered by surveys. 5 is the interesting problem, because sex education should not be delivered in a vacuum. Is there agreement on what kids need to know? I see on the news disagreement all the time about what should be taught. Sex education crosses into areas that many people feel are the province of morality. How do you deal with that, and still be effective? I don't know.
anonxyzus 4 years ago
Part 1 It seems to me sex educators need to know:
1. What kids know
2. What kids don't know
3. What kids think they know
4. What kids want to know
5. What kids need to know
anonxyzus 4 years ago
Very smart but... kids don't even know what they know. Specially when it comes to sex.
PuppyZwolle 4 years ago
Actually a great way of figuring out what kids know and don't know is to do a combination of (anonymous) true or false questions (to see how much accurate info they already know) and then open ended statements like 'to avoid getting pregnant, one should _______' and things like that.... (to see what exactly they think they know about sex)
kicesie 4 years ago
i think sexual education is an important topic i liked your vid it seems you know what your talking about i wish you could talk about sex performance and y sometimes you dont work as your suposed to do it and if there problems with erections in oyung people wat age dat problem began i like oyur vid on porn becasuse i like porn but sometimes i had feel of guiltines oyu clear many bouts thanks
caramandunga100 4 years ago
First, I never said how I feel one way or another on porn... and the video was meant to make people seriously question why they like or hate porn... to actually think it through and not just go with their gut reactions.
Secondly, I do have videos like the ones you're talking about.... I've done ones on desire disorders.... male orgasm problems (including not obtaining or maintaining an erection) and on my new site when it's up in two weeks I'll have more on male orgasm disorders.
kicesie 4 years ago
More illustrations would help.
PaidCommenter 4 years ago
you are so sexy yourself i have to wonder is that in part why you wish to be a sex therpist . just a question . at any rate i think your vids are good and i enjoy them . thank you .
bill739 4 years ago
That makes no sense at all. What would being attractive (not that I'm calling myself such) have to do with wanting to help other people sort out their sexual issues and how it's effecting their relationships?
kicesie 4 years ago
well do you really think a couple is going to go see some ugly looking person who they think may have never had sex because they are so ugly or to someone who they think would be a dream in bed.
bill739 4 years ago
Actually the most successful sex therapists have been, in my opinion, quite unattractive. And my mentors have told me that my appearance will have to be largely played down. People can be intimidated by it (face to face is quite different than the net) and who wants to go to an attractive (if that's what you're calling me) therapist when you're having marital problems?? To me, that'd be the last thing a woman would want.... *shrugs*
kicesie 4 years ago
i agree, poeple are intimidated by very attractive people. i know i tend to be that way. i get nervous just talking about anything to an attractive girl in person.
JefferyCMusic 4 years ago
Is it the same over the internet (like talking to a youtuber you found attractive) versus face to face?
kicesie 4 years ago
oh god no. for some reason i can talk to anyone over the internet or phone, but when it comes person to person. i totally freeze up like a bad scence from a sitcom. and the more attractive they are the worse it is..lol and this is even people i have made friends with and i am only friends with, once i finally meet them i lock up. i don't really understand it
JefferyCMusic 4 years ago
No one told us about how we should go about bringing up using a condom without feeling embarrassed or worrying that the person wouldn't like us anymore. They just told us how to put it on. Abstinence-only doesn't work because it's not realistic. But the other extreme isn't realistic either. We should be preparing kids for real life. For real communication. For real sex.
maryisblue 4 years ago
I don't think what you're describing is the opposite from abstinence only... in fact I would say it's similar in the fact that huge, graphic pictures are what we call scare tactics. And you're right, they get a reaction but have no lasting effect.
SEX ed should be about all things regarding sex... like I said, about how to communicate,... but also how to deal with the emotions (good and bad) that come along with it all... So I totally agree. :-) Thanks for the comments!
kicesie 4 years ago
What no one EVER told us, was that when we started to really like or even love someone, and eventually kissed and touched them and took their pants off and saw that they looked absolutely wonderful, those horrible images would be the last thing on our minds. No one ever prepared us for how getting an infection or becoming pregnant was probably going to happen. It was all clinical. All textbook. All facts upon facts. No one mentioned love or passion or nervousness or fear.
maryisblue 4 years ago
The teachers went into explicit detail about STI's and showed the class VERY graphic pictures of the worst case scenarios. I mean, crystallized, fungus-like, enormous growths. And the reaction was very dramatic. At each slide, we screamed, looked away, and giggled a lot. Some kids had to run to the bathroom. And after it was all over, everyone was like, "I am NEVER having sex!"
maryisblue 4 years ago
See, this is why I watch your videos! Because I agree with you about everything! Especially about a well-rounded program.
Having gone to a high school with a program for young parents and a daycare center, in which, at one time, I was the only girl in the class who wasn't pregnant, I am VERY pro sex-ed. Understandably, this school had a very extensive sex-ed program, which while better than no sex-ed at all, I believe went too far.
maryisblue 4 years ago
Have you ever read/seen preformed the "Vagina Monologue" I'm sure you have but if not, I think you'd definitely like it considering you liked "Cunt"
musicxisxgod 4 years ago
I've heard the author speak several times.
kicesie 4 years ago
Your lucky, I'd love to hear them speak.
musicxisxgod 4 years ago
GOOOOOOOOD :)
Faba15 4 years ago
:) So true. x
SezDevil 4 years ago
I'm not from US and I don't know much... Do U have any TV programme or are you a psychologist or sexuologist?
Karoll0z 4 years ago
Nope... just a student studying to eventually, one day become a sex therapist. I am definitely not a professional!
kicesie 4 years ago
I love you and your videos Kicesie :) Keep up the good work!
filthiestfish 4 years ago
Merci!
kicesie 4 years ago
I dont know how u know all this stuff but y r going places and every time i watch u i learn somthing new so thanks for another lession teach k later
tupac420187 4 years ago
What I took offense to is his term 'all deviant versions of sex'... as what is deviant is a HIGHLY personal opinion and to make a judgement call on anyone other than yourself (unless innocents are involved) I believe to be wrong. that's all....
kicesie 4 years ago
You have a cool work station.
Can't stop looking at it.
A glass desk, how cool is that.
Oh, your video is cool too.
But that desk.
I WANT ONE...
toshinden2 4 years ago
THE POINT OF THE PREMISE of sex education is as said below in many comments including miss k,s it must be done together, when seperate you seperate everything alo kids or 4 that matter young to older adults to indulge in comftorbale conversation, keeping things as the are and seeing them as they are is the 1st step in a sex ed class or briefing be open and honest NO SEPERATION m&w) good video
187beyond 4 years ago
Nice video!
MADREX2001 4 years ago
i love you your video's alll rock
Blackknight10000003 4 years ago
in brtian thay always tie sex ed in with PSHE days so most peeps end up skiping school LOL
DJrazial 4 years ago
But someone that is a lot closer to their age may be more apropreate and more sucsessful cause it hasn't been that long since you were their age they can relate to you and what you are also saying and then it would be easer for them to ask you about sex and their questions
cers001 4 years ago
I don't know if there is a secondary school near you but prehaps you should ask if you can take a group of kids that around the sex ed age and you teach them about it because I think that you can't talk about about sex to a teacher cause their considerably older
cers001 4 years ago
They do not let someone without certification talk to youth at school about sex. Think of the kind of people who would be interested in that!!! I highly agree with the demand for certified professionals.
And I most certainly do not need to be someone's official sex ed until I have at least a master's degree.
kicesie 4 years ago
Well when you get a master's degree it still could work
cers001 4 years ago
I like your lava lamps (those things next to the PC), are they fallacy symbols?
uni000ver000sal 4 years ago
Not to me... I guess they only are to people who have penis on the brain..........
kicesie 4 years ago
Sex ed definitely needs to be more fun. My early sex ed was dead boring. All it was was watching badly made educational movies.
Then when I was about 15, we had some really interesting sex ed classes - plenty of joking around and open discussions.
And they really need to quit with the gender segregated sex ed classes. It creates the feeling that there's something shameful about talking to the opposite gender about sex.
EmmaBeeba 4 years ago
I see a benefit and problem with gender separation. I have another video about the biggest problem I currently see with sex ed.... being how it teaches us that men and women are entirely different and we can't ever understand each other...
BUT, by separating the genders youth often do feel more comfortable asking questions and giving their thoughts... I've witnessed it personally... but the majority of it needs to be done together.
kicesie 4 years ago
Assuming that their abstaining from all types of sex, of course.
EmmaBeeba 4 years ago
love the new place babe
RgB
roccigiovanniberrini 4 years ago
Thanks!! :-)
kicesie 4 years ago
YouTuber "LoveandHealth" says that too much sex (and not just anal sex) causes prostate cancer. Is she correct?
saintgeorgestreet 4 years ago
EVERY recent medical research article (peer reviewed!) (meaning it's as credible as they come) say that having at least one orgasm a day will make you healthier not only in your sexual organs (including the prostate) but your heart, and mental health.
These articles do NOT assume anal sex in a man is occurring. Lots of anal sex can destroy the anus for sure. But I've never heard of it hurting the prostate at all.
kicesie 4 years ago
Some years ago a study of celibate priests indicated that total sexual abstinence was associated with an increase in prostate cancer.
anonxyzus 4 years ago
If she wants, I wouldn't mind holding a debate with her. ;-)
kicesie 4 years ago
I just watched parts of their videos and I think you've totally misrepresented them. I should have watched before I spoke.... !from what I've seen! it looks like they are pretty correct and I did NOT hear them say that too much sex causes prostate cancer.
kicesie 4 years ago
I need completion
rmcfarland 4 years ago
Sex ed is usless like drug education is useless. Kids arnt going to listen to some teacher talking about penis's. they'll laugh and thats about it.
Thespartan18 4 years ago
Studies (in peer-reviewed journals) would prove you pretty freakin wrong.
kicesie 4 years ago
No way! that's awesome! I do too!
Bloodmook 4 years ago 8
NO WAY
ME TOO
toxicshot 4 years ago
I agree with all that But well no never mined good stuff.
Ronin246 4 years ago
If I was trying to gear sex ED for today's kids I'd sick with the old run down in class and then give them a website to go to if they are interested in learning more or still have questions.
I would expect trying to have some kind of open sex ED class wouldn't work because kids aren't going to stand up and ask questions because that's admitting they don't know something about sex. Which makes you uncool in today's over sex culture.
Elk4758 4 years ago
That ties in a lot with what I was talking about with confidentiality. We need to develop resources that are credible that youth can learn from without anyone else knowing exactly what kind of questions they have. Be that a website (absolutely none that I have ever come across would fit what I feel needs to exist) or whatever.
kicesie 4 years ago
That said, I did a short sex ed program when I was a youth mentor for a year and I did programs with the genders separated and also together. For the girls night we had one big sleepover and took quizzes to see how accurate our knowledge on sex was... talked about the truth versus myths and boy issues and it was FUN... and I think they learned a lot.
kicesie 4 years ago
My 9th grade bio teacher was wonderful about that--at the end of class, we wrote our questions down on notecards and she'd answer ANY QUESTION not explicitly banned by the county (so she couldn't give "how-to's", but she could say anything else). She did as much with that curriculum as she was allowed to, and would even "subtly suggest" that we ask certain questions (she couldn't bring up topics, she could only say what was in her little book and answer our questions).
amortussique 4 years ago
... if virginity is everything, then i'm fucked.
fllnang3l 4 years ago
That's an excerpt from an never aired episode (Titled: Non-Virginity) talking about how screwy modern thinking is to believe that virginity is everything. People that have that mindset end up making really bad decisions I believe.
kicesie 4 years ago
i dont regeret any desisions i've made, nor do i think women who are still virgins are better than those who arent. if your boyfriend/husband really loves you, its not going to matter, becuase chances are, they arent either.
fllnang3l 4 years ago
Are you are like some sort of prophet?
How do you know all this stuff?
KingRichardXVIII 4 years ago
Know what stuff? lol
kicesie 4 years ago
you sure are pretty
josh198869 4 years ago
definitely all things that need to be in the curriculum.
they need to do away with the old culture of shame regarding sex as well. Or well, we need to do away with the old culture of shame altogether.
Dadalama 4 years ago
Shame as well as guilt is a vital part of the human experience and it's what separates a good and sane person from a sociopath. But what we have done is made excuses for the shit we SHOULD feel shame over and we've felt so damn guilty over things that are perfectly natural, healthy and okay!
I understand what you're saying though... Pointless, indoctrinated shame is so harmful.
kicesie 4 years ago
totaly agree sexed needs to improve omg my high school back in da day class was a joke our school nurse taught it she was 70 NO LIE and got the kids in wood woking class (witch i was in) to make a big wooden penis so ppl could practice and deminstrate on lmao it was funny but on a serios note love the vedio all of them
paulsavage33 4 years ago
wow, and I thought my high school sex ed was bad....
A wooden penis? Are you kidding me? Haha. Good think it wasn't a Ceramics class ;)
kastmaster2000 4 years ago
Oh but then you could have painted the penis! :-)
kicesie 4 years ago
Are you japanese?
uni000ver000sal 4 years ago
I learned everything online, reading books from the college and so forth. Young adults who don't have parents to talk to need people like you to inform them on all aspects of sex and being safe.
mes13519 4 years ago
I would REALLY like to encourage my viewers (whose average age is 26) to remember to be someone your child can turn to about sex. And that means being open to whatever they have to say...
For a lot of you, parenthood is a little ways off... and don't let time and adulthood cause you to forget. Don't stick your heads in the sand... be real, be open and be honest with your kids.
(this isn't directed toward you mes13519, your comment just made think of it)
kicesie 4 years ago
My school never even had a sex ed class, and my parents never told me anything. The infamous video they show you're in the sixth grade was all about deodorant. I even had a female friends who after watching the "video" though she was going to have her period once and then never again. That's how informative it actually is.
mes13519 4 years ago
Ok, ok ... so ... you look very smart with that glasses! Love your videos! :)
HackmanGT 4 years ago
i like the lava lamps.
bulabula80 4 years ago
Me too... I often do some relaxation therapy while watching them.
kicesie 4 years ago
thats cool, i used to have this really cool one...but it fell off my table and broke :(
bulabula80 4 years ago
It's going to be hard to promote sexual education in the United States where 25% of population identify itself as hard core fundamentalist Christian evangelists... good luck. You should move to Canada, we're very liberal country.
PalluxoMediaOfficial 4 years ago
Studies in California are showing that even among the most fundamental Christians, 73% of them support full sex ed (versus abstinence only).
kicesie 4 years ago