How I Fooled Myself Into Thinking Ex-Gay Therapy Worked

[globehunter2]

why is being straight suppose to bring Happiness? there are millions

of miserable straights in this world. Homophobia is the problem! not

Homosexuality.

[fredkwint]

There is no treatment or cure for gays... for a simple reason...there is nothing wrong with gays. We are not ill, not mentally deficient. All we are is different from the majority. But being different is not a crime or a disorder!

[7ees]

@fredkwint

Wouldn't you rather be a happy heterosexual?

[fredkwint]

@7ees In the past I would have answered YES! But now I know there is nothing wrong with me or my sexual orientation. So I'm happy with the way my life turned out. Why would I not be? Of course life is easier as a straight person, but that is because of al the prejudice and condemnation of straight people. So my question to you is: Why can't people just let me be a happy gay?

[7ees]

@fredkwint

In my opinion, you wanted to be straight back then because you were thinking rationally.

But now, you don't mind being "gay" because there are emotions involved in the equation.

Emotions and logic are two opposite forces, by the way.

It's up to you. Do you want Logic to rule you, or do you want emotions to control your life?

[fredkwint]

@7ees In my opinion you ar4e talking nonsense. Being gay is not a choice, you can hide it, but you can not change it. That is the only logical thing to say. And if you can't change it, what every decent psychiatrist and psychologist will confirm, then you have to accept the fact that you are who you are, gay, straight, bi or t.g... It is a fact of life and fighting that is illogical and useless.

[fredkwint]

@7ees Where did you get your degree in psychology? Emotions and logic are not per se opposite forces. They can work together nicely, you should try it! It feels good and shows results!

[ocmozfan]

Thanks for speaking your truth. Seriously. I'm sure it isn't easy.

[rooio3]

Jesus doesn't work because he is a mythological figure based off of Mesopotamian theology of an ancient archaic religion. Jesus loves you is no more significant than mickey mouse loves you.

[siholgs]

Teraphies don't work. only Jesus works ^^ Jesus loves you.

[kevin080592]

o daym! i remember the time were i first saw this video, and commented that i want a sexual orientation change, but then someone commented to me, i don't need to change and perhaps the world is the world who would realy need it, (as you can see on the highest rated comment), and it turns out they were right! im 18 now, and i don't need to be ashamed on what i am right now that im bisexual, whatever they say that im disgusting or whatever i don't f*cking care its my life and i respect it more

[MegaMambo5]

just because it didnt work out for you it doesnt mean it doesnt work out for other people, you wont get anywere just by uploading videos about giving up, I personally believe that the patient doesnt have to merely depend on the therapist, and there a lot of tools out there so you can achieve your goal, and honestly that combination that you mention in the video is not helpful et all

[exgaysurvivordan]

@MegaMambo5 I love how no matter what type of different program or how much time an ex-gay survivor attended they're always met with "oh well you didn't do it right." You're SO right, I was only in therapy with the man who founded the modern exgay movement, I should totally subscribe to your crackpot ideas. Oh please make me straight with your method that no one else knows!

[exgaysurvivordan]

@MegaMambo5 Also the former co-founder of Exodus International actually addresses the idea of "you just didn't do it right" in a video on youtube titled "Exodus Co-Founder: The Inherent Harm In Ex-Gay Programs." I'd provide a link but youtube doens't allow me to post links in comments.

[exgaysurvivordan]

@MegaMambo5 You can "personally believe" whatever you want and nobody fucking cares. You can personally believe the earth is flat or that the known universe is 5000 years and any number of things that have zero scientific backing just like ex-gay programs. Take your intellectual laziness elsewhere.

[dattelpalme83]

Interesting! Thanks!

[santistag]

Thanks for the video. Gracias por el video.

[kevin080592]

well how do you really change your sexual orientation completely?!!....i'm 16 and bisexual...and i want to be straight!!! please help me!!!!

[oggasteen]

kevin, you don't need to change. the world needs to change.

[TrueRevivalNow]

Why do you want to change? Are you a Christian?

[kevin080592]

i'm agnostic and i live in a predominantly christian country.....so...i'm struggling!

[schoende]

kevin, I'm bi too, with a greater attraction to man then women (5.0 on kinsey I'd say). I have lived in celibacy for 5 years getting depressed (not being able to sleep from the suicidal images in my head) and losing any sence of sexuality (men and women)... try to accept yourself... Your sexual orientation can't really be changed. The only thing they do in those therapies is reporgramming you to neglect you are sexually attracted to man too as told in this vid...

[Gewaldro]

Yeah, but on the other hand one German psychologist who also offers the "Reparative Therapy" says it only works on one third of all patients. And it's just that you really have to be willing to change. NARTH says that boys who are gay often have a too strong bond to their mothers. The weird thing is, I grew up without a father, I don't even know him and I'm also bisexual/gay. I was always surrounded by women, I had only 3 female friends and whenever I was with them, I played with barbies.

[Gewaldro]

I just behaved like a girl, because I've been put into this role. My mom didn't do anything about this, she never made any efforts to make me get to know the male world. And because I had no father, I never got to know the men world. And that's how my homo-/bisexuality developed. I alwys got bullied in my childhood, so I retreated from other persons especially boys. And looking at this, the theories of Dr. Nicolosi make sense to me. I really don't belive that homosexuality has a genetical cause

[TazHall]

@kevin080592 You cannot do it on your own power. I ask you to consider Jesus Christ not wacked out therapists who are trying to do God's job (poorly). You are not bi-sexual. That is a label man has slapped on you. You're a human being made in the image of God; created with love and dignity. Ironically it is repentance AND acceptance by God that paves the way to healing. You openly confess with your mouth that you are sinner and ask Jesus to please save you.

[TazHall]

@kevin080592 Most of all Kevin, God will be the Father we all so desperately need because so many Earthly fathers have abused or abandoned the responsibility given to them.

[papatoony]

I'm a 6.0

[DblOSmith]

So cute... Go Daniel!

[xenokyle]

omg....all those so called therapists are just latent gays themselves, or are so insecure with their own sexuality that they HAVE to try and make everyone exactly what they wish they were.

[AJuner78]

You poor thing. There is nothing wrong with being Gay. Celebrate your GAYness.

Look down on those pathetic republican isolationist "ideals".

You can do better. Don't hurt yourself anymore.

[soulinite]

great video.

[kaijuman]

I'm curious about this 'scale' at 1:18.

[Icarus3]

The Kinsey scale. It actually goes from 0 (exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (exclusively homosexual). The Wikipedia article explains each number in more detail. Like any attempt to simplify something as complex as sexuality, it has limitations, but it can be a useful tool to quickly explain one's orientation with a little more specificity than just gay/straight/bi. Like, a "5" might consider himself gay, or a bisexual might be "2" or "4" instead of the common perception of a bisexual as a "3".