Caring for Dying Trailer

[sugahsouth]

i cared for my mother and father mostly alone. it was a very very difficult time for me as an only child, especially. the saying goodbye over months is emotionally draining. daddy had constant diarrhea for a month and he was bed ridden. so, it was especially hard. i understand the intimate moment too. there was a lot of crying and many expressions of love. it was hard. but, i couldn't have done it any other way. thank you

[SecretsLifeDeath]

@sugahsouth This is the time when hospice can be most of help to the family. And yet with the cut back in medicare payments we are beginning to see some gaps in service and support. Community is the next place to turn, but in the States we have such a tradition of individualism and taking care of things yourself, it is difficult to ask for help from others. I hope with time you will be able to heal from the hard times and remember only the sweet love. Blessings

[SecretsLifeDeath]

I totally understand. Don't give up. Be with her where ever she is. Your love is the most important care of all.

[goldenflower07]

I am 22 and was taking care of my grandma for the past 2 years. She's bed ridden and has an aortic heart aneurysm. She went to a week long respite and ended up not coming home because hospice though she needed additional care. I'm trying to get her back home because I loved to be there for her and take care of her, give a little back to her. She's like a mother to me, I love her so much and when she does pass away I don't know what I'm going to do.

[carriemaizey]

@goldenflower07 I'm in Thailand, where, despite all of the Buddhist precepts, palliative care is virtually non existent.

My lovely Thai husband had been suffering from cancer for a year without even knowing it. He passed within 3 weeks of collapsing.

[carriemaizey]

Respond to this video...

I made damn sure he was at home, surrounded by his dogs and beautiful garden.

He had a soft serene passing. When I saw he was no longer here, I kissed him and told him I'd see him soon.

Your post is 1 month old. I hope you were able to get your grandmother back home to pass. And YOU WILL know what to do. Everyone believes the 'passed' 'another country'. Not so, we're all headed there in the blink of an eye. And will meet again.

[SecretsLifeDeath]

@carriemaizey We have palliative care but there is so much fear around death that most people do not use it until the very last few days. It can be very hard to stand your ground with medical authority in this country when they are insisting otherwise. Perhaps, in a way, you were blessed by non-interference, and thus able to provide all the love and comfort you husband needed during his dying.

[SecretsLifeDeath]

Thank you for your nice comment.

[Glassgothgirl]

Looks like something worthwhile to watch..I want to be a hospice nurse so I learn all I can. My favorite part was when the daughter talked about her mother waking up everyday asking "what's for breakfast?" :)

[Pipweed]

this is shit