Overcome Shyness, Social Anxiety, Fear of Public Speaking

[jh18316]

@covet02 I agree with you that's wot I so scared about. And the worst part is that my teacher have gave me the leading role to play in front Of all the students and teachers and parents. Dreading that day

[WutangClan4LiF3]

i m really anxious in real world... i m really confident in phone or pc chat...

[watermelonroks]

He's kinda cute 

[favm360]

I get anxious even when talking on the phone. It sucks >.<

[covet02]

can't believe they laughed at him.....I'm pretty sure the anxiety is based on the fear of being judged, laughed at etc.

[LifePotentialDev]

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[LifePotentialDev]

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[shapman87]

man. me too. need to learn more of this stuff. im going Stircrazy. i barely go out.

[chrisfullofsteel]

i need to take a class or therapy session like this

[AccidentlyDurred]

I FEEL THIS EXACT SAME WAY WHEN I HAVE TO PUBLIC SPEAK ITS RIDICULOUS!

[FILTHYFAKE]

It seems to me there are two types of people... those who like to do public speaking n those who dont. why the hell do those who dont still have to? its the most feared thing to do in life... why the hell are we doing this to ourselves?

[MONKEYONDALOOSE]

PLEASE HELP I HAVE SO MANY PHOBIAS I FEEL SO WEEK ALL THE TIME, CANT REALY GO OUT, ITS RUINING MY LIFE PLEASE HELP!!! :'(

IUSED TO BE SO OUTGOING AND STRONG

[Pockyturtle]

Someone please help me I have to give a two minute presentation in my first period class next friday!!! Help please! My hearts already beating and I haven't even started yet!!!

[nabznab]

@maggotsretards dont worry I think this is a very common problem. It seems everyone has it so you're not alone!

@Nihadkeso you need to be confident, build it and have self belief. Thats what I did.

I've been searching for other ways to overcome fear of public speaking and found a free report on this website. Its pretty cool. Check it out. I dont think Youtube allows me to post links so i'll have to show it to you in this format:

publicspeakingformula[dot]com

[maggotsretards]

It is nice to know that i am not alone, in only a couple hours from know i will have to do a presentation in my english class over a book that i read, I shake, my knees shake, and I run out of breath easily causing my voice to make weird noises, and the worst thing is looking around and noticing that everybody is looking at me, I look forward to the day where i can get up proudly and give a good presentation and not look like a complete reck

[nobodypersonsomeone]

@maggotsretards I feel your pain

[maggotsretards]

@nobodypersonsomeone  Thanks

[Nihadkeso]

what brian just did is the same thing what i deal with too. i have no idea how the hell to overcome this wierd fear of speaking

[waiting4smtin]

where do you give this class, cause i'd love to be in it.

[vitriolicscott]

What a brave young man.

[TheCrossov3r]

I also get nervous during public speaking to large crowds, and I don't know why. I don't have any type of fear of any other social interactions, its just public speaking.. I wish the fear would just go away

[MegaDreamer88]

I can't believe my eyes when I find and see ppl as shy as me, I seriously am always around super confident socially apt ppl!! I'm glad I'm not alone... you guys are out there!

[willz1804]

I get shy and nervous when im at work, the look on peoples faces dont help at all

[Gusterwoei]

The only problem of mine is when talking to my hall mates, somehow, for some reason, I just don't know why I feel awkward while seeing them. And I'm fine with speaking to others.

[LissaLikesYou]

I really wonder how horrible of a public speaker I am to other people. When I give speaches, I literally feel like my chest is caving in and my mind goes blank. I had to give a wedding toast for my friends wedding last summer, and it was terrible. I think someone has the toast on tape somewhere...I hope they burn it! I really need help with this problem.

[thebriefholt]

he says "UH" too much!! haha i can relate tho

[suprea107]

i can really relate! i hate being shy because you miss out on alot of stuff! like for example im still in highschool right, and if i dont understand something in class i dont ask the teacher to explain it because 1. im scared the other students might think um dumb (lolz) 2. i get to nervous speaking ANYWHERE in public! it's gotten so bad that im starting to get a little shy around my BEST FRIENDS....*sigh* i really need help any advise?

[rhcp2320]

its pretty much all in your head, i know where youre coming from though. but tell me something, when another student raises his hand and asks a quiestion or just speaks out, do you think he or she is stupid for doing so? probably not huh? the best advice i got was that its pretty much all in MY head.

[rhcp4565]

@suprea107 I am exactly the same way man........look at all these comments u are not alone...my best advise is to 1) just push through it, be yourself and 2) the next time your in school, in class, work on answering questions aloud, it can help with confidence while speaking in front of people

[kloudbreak]

This guy is me without a doubt! i'm confident 1 on 1 but throw me in front of 3+ people and i get swollowed up by quick sand. I think I read people individually and adjust accordibgly but mass people i'm completely lost i'm not sure yet and believe me, alcohol does not work! i choked completely! Any cures yet...

[08metalmama]

aww me too.. I get nervous even when I try to order food... I wish it was as easy as talking on a computer :)

[Mineav]

@08metalmama I used to be incredibly shy and nervous in pretty much all situations, so I understand. I don't know if it was part of me maturing (in my late 20's now) or what, but I finally got over nearly all of my fears of public speaking (not an issue at all), social situations, etc. I guess it started when I convinced myself that I didn't care what people though of me--whether that was/is really true is irrelevant. If you believe it enough it becomes a 'truth'. I'm sure you'll grow out of it.

[tretastellar]

Good job Bryan!

[staarcrazy]

I have still not overcome it...For me, my shyness is because of bullys. Lack of selfesteem. ure feeling judged in every word and acts u make. "Dont do this or say this wrong", guess u know what i mean..

[staarcrazy]

cognitive behavioural therapy is the way yes.

You have to put ureself in situations that u normally avoid. Like you say Vektruscen, u do one thing that scares u, and then u do it again,again and again..And u notice that nothing bad is happening. That is one step closer to overcome the shynes though..have to see a CBT.

[k19741000]

u maybe should see a doctor its not a big deal

[ClearMetalVoltar]

i laffed my ass off at the guy when he 1st gave his speech. why? becuase he reminded me of myself in high school, when i had to give oral reports in class and the spelling bees.

i would stutter and freeze and say ummm alot. especially if there was some hot chicks in the room, or somebody started laffing.

[angbot5000]

i can COMPLETELY relate to this. well at least he doesn't turn bright red and tremble like i do when i have to give a presentation. i have to give a 5 minute speech in december for one of my courses and i'm already completely anxious about it. i don't know how to get past this at all. it's horrible.

[Vektruscen]

When I was in my second year of community college I had to give an oral presentation in a psychology class. I didn't know anyone in the class and they all seemed much older than me, and when I started my presentation I got so horribly nervous that I was unable to speak for a good 30 seconds, then my whole body shook while I struggled through finishing. It was so embarrassing, it's the one memory I wish I could erase from my mind forever :(

[diegocarpaccio]

I feel for you man, it sucks for people like us who have trouble speaking in public. It's not easy, only super confident d-bags usually are succesful at it.

[TurkTito]

At least you finished.I had a 5 minute panel presentation in my class yesterday and I was exactly like this guy in the video.I just started shaking, ran out of words and a minute into it, I said i can't do this, and made up a ridiculous excuse saying I didn't care about the subject. I've been so down on myself today thinking about it, which is fucking eating me apart. The ironic thing is, people think highly of me as someone cool and extroverted and shit due to my looks and how i dress and shit.

[Vektruscen]

If you subject yourself to public speaking frequently you'll eventually get over the fear and become comfortable in that situation. That's the only way. The only thing is, you're going to have to fail a few more times before eventually getting over it, which takes a lot of courage (which I don't yet have).

[TurkTito]

I don't want to brag but I do dress better than 99% of males,I drive a mercedes, A&B student,good looking,with a lot of friends; basically someone classified as cool and a jock.I hear it from people all the time.The sad thing is, sometimes instead of havin these good things I wish I was confident and extroverted.After my disaster yesterday I told myself I'm going to beat this.Here I am talking about it which I thought I never would and searching into it. Good luck to you and everyone else.

[hellogoodby43]

plzzz someone help me!!! i have terible stage fright! and social anxiety!! i get terrible panic attacks and people laugh at me =[ its so embarrasing is their any way i can make them stop? do i need to take medication or something?

[KigurumiAlice]

I errr....I errr... SOMEONE HELP ME YOU HAM!

[knightrrider]

At least his voice doesn´t shake like mine.

[hellogoodby43]

MINE DOES TO! itsnt it so embarrasing exspecially when ur giving a report to the class and everybody starts laughing at u . people think im having a sezire or something how bad i shake and my voice shakes to

[neofaustian]

Looks like he went into the brainwashing chamber then came out neddly diddly riffic. I've heard a lot of good things about nlp.

[LifePotentialDev]

Hi mastero fuall,

Orange site is quite expressive! And I would stay away from tequila too when trying to speak.

But about that tunnel ...

Bob

[masterofuall]

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[ihavedream]

This is soo meeeeeeee !!!

[speechless00]

cute

[ParalyzerEx]

My heart goes out to this man.

[nystagmus]

yes, because thats like me. im terrible at extemporaneous speaking. i cannot think on the spot, i cannot form a sentence in front of people unless its memorized and preprogrammed .

so yes, my heart goes out to this man

[LifePotentialDev]

Hi ParalyzerEx,

You should see him now! He has even assisted on one of our trainings, teaching others.

Bob

[ParalyzerEx]

That's great!

[daphilster78]

i can relate to this kid in the sense that i've dropped speeches mid sentences and have had awkward gaps of 10-20 seconds of hemming and hawing.

[futballlife]

me to man me to

[ShotokanKarateRules]

Same