This is an amazing way to bring a child into the world. I am currently pregnant with a little boy. I have two daughters, Rylee who is 7 and Maelyn who is 5. Our newest addition is going to be named Kai. We are planning a homebirth with just the two girls, my husband and I. And obviously Kai! Rylee is excited because she wants to catch the baby with my husbands assitance. This is just perfect though, we are all planning on being in the nude. You made the baby that way. God Bless <3
curious..why did the father let the baby stay so long under the water before pulling from the water. it is the salt water to put away the bacteria...i afraid the babe wont have air to breath...
@Super47max While the umbilical cord is still attached, the baby will still be able to breathe. It has been living and growing in water for the last 9 months and doesn't start breathing on it's own until it hits the air. It's lovely to see the baby swimming around...the last of it's moments of being 100% dependant on the mother for life before breathing on it's own. I plan to let mine swim around for a few seconds before bringing mine out of the water too. I think it's beautiful.
It is comforting to be in the nude when giving childbirth. If it is husband coached, some women prefer to have skin to skin contact with their husband. Trust me, when you're in labor you do not want to have clothes on.
This is so beautiful! I too birthed my baby in the water (birthing pool in my living room) and into my own hands :) it was truly amazing, I thought that I would want her father to "catch" her but I did what felt natural and that was to let her slide into my hands and pull her from the water :). When I watched this I bet the baby was thinking "wow I have more room to swim!" Lol
I will give birth to my baby exactly like this except alone the way women used to do it a long time ago. Womens bodies were made to do these things...
hey rainbow!- yes you will girl- all women are perfectly adapted to birth like kitties and bunnies and all mammals- painlessly surfing their own endorphine pain killers with glassy eyes and the same joy they felt upon lovingly conceiving- all it takes is to get fear back out of birthing- and doctor and hospital "managed" births are adrenaline fear births- no different than facing a saber tooth tiger at the mouth of the cave 1 million years ago- so lets get back to enjoying birth ladies!-
@xiodanse i wanted to have my daughter at home, but after everyone was so against it.. i went with a hospital birth..
i'm glad that i was at least able to do it fearlessly, and i was able to enjoy myself. i wa sin labour for three days and in labour at the hospital for 5 hours... i spent the evening making my nurses laugh hysterically. this is so beautiful, i wish i could have had an experience like this! it must have been amazing.
hi bailey- all births with live mommies and babies is a miracle!- so congratulations on yours!- and adding laughter made yours memorable too!- we're sure that your next baby will be birthed at home in a beautiful pool- for that is the safest way to have a baby!- good luck to you- we remain here to inspire and guide you when you're ready again- love the danses
This is THE most beautiful birth video I have ever seen. No panic, no interference. Just calm presence in the unfolding of a sacred and natural event. I love that you are both naked - there is absolutely no barrier between you and nature (which we are all a part of, but many people seem to have forgotten this). Your son is blessed to be born in such a gentle and loving way. Thanks for sharing this birth - it makes an impact on people and changes their ideas about birth when I share it!
hello adreavs!- thanks for such descriptive feedback- we are all learning to bring intelligent and gentle birth along with us towards an intelligent and gentle world- we are how we were born and raised- all the best to you!
I don't know anything about babies so here's an honest question - Is it safe to let the baby swim around like that after birth? Are there reasons for doing so?
hello jedward!- yes it is perfectly safe as long as the umbilical cord maintains normal heart palpitations- meaning the newborn is still an as yet unborn aquatic creature- and then the "birth" becomes being lifted out of the water- and the gentleness of the event "imprints" the brain for the first time with minimal trauma- and the reason for a life with minimal trauma are self evident- imagine joy and love being our first experience instead of terror and fear and pain!- joy to all!
What a beautiful gift to give your child. That was amazing. Thanks for sharing :) Inspirational. Its time to stop medicalising birth and return to nature and instinct when birthing our babies and that is exactly what ye did !!!
hello tirigu!- what a nice word "instinct" and since birth is not an illness or injury- nor is it meant to be a male managed event- its time for women to trust their instincts and formidable intellects and doubt men and their machines when it comes to their babies- and stay far far away from hospitals and scalpels and monitors and return to trusting instinct- the safest births are planned loving home births- meaning you birth where and how you conceive- music!- candles!- love!
Awesome video! I remember seeing this on that amazing Birth show a while back. I wish i could of had my children in this beautiful setting. I love how the baby is kicking and moving so much as soon as he comes out. The father has such an important role in this kind of birth. This is how it should be. The both of you created this beautiful creature and the both should enjoy the birth together as well. Thanks for sharing this video.
hi erica!- you are so welcome- and yes- this was a family event- love making- loving gestation- loving birth- and full partnership in trusting natures perfection- which we all are- when we surrender our power to others out of fear and lack of trust in ourselves- we teach our babies and children fear and lack of trust in themselves from their first moments of life- imagine living a life of smiles and trust because we were born that way!- hooray for all moms and dads who trust themselves!
by far the most beautiful birth I've seen. My husband and I are expecting our first in July 2011 and I wasn't sure if ocean water would be safe to birth in. We are having an unassisted birth and I'm more excited for the actual birth than I am anything else. Congratulations on your handsome and free son.
hello and thanks for the comments- sea water is far safe than any other water since salt is an antiseptic- we wish you the best with your birth and know that it will go well- the danses
This is one of the most FANTASTIC births I have ever seen! I am 17 and had my son Benette June 3, 2010! Im finishing out my Senior Year while my Finace works, Then im gonna study and become a midwife! We delieverd in my living room, I was squating and he was suporting us while our midwife gentley guided him into the world! It was a challenge but Natural is better! I was almost completley healed within 3 weeks!
hi mommie- we're glad you liked our birth and wish you the best with your midwifery studies- some day we will take birthing back out of hospitals completely and return it safely to the home where it belongs- all our best to you- the danses
That was the best birthing video I've seen. I also like it how the whole family is naked. Just one with nature. I had told my family and boyfriend that if I ever was to get pregnant and have children....every one would have to be naked. Why just me? Awesome video!!!!
hello there- finally a positive comment about the beauty of nudity for all- so many have complained that i as the birth father was naked- which we found so odd to comment about with such a beautiful birth video- thanks for caring enough to get involved- best wishes to you and and all- the danses
Nature is that beautiful! I sadly never had that experience with my three children. But is never too late to be free and follow the natures call! I actually homeschool them and it is amazing to see how they learn on a natural way! Congrats for what you do! Namaste!
so i fear i may not be able to handle it at all... Would love to have the confidence to just go ahead and do it, Im 21 but I sound much younger the way I go on about my family as if I dont have a choice myself..
This is very beautiful! Im pregnant with my first and find it very hard to 'go against the grain' even hypnobirthing seems to have my mothers back up and I cant just be left to make my own desicions! I completely agree with the way you have brought up your children but again, I feel I may be too afraid of the reprecussions and judgements of family go down that route. Its very selfish of me to say that I know but my family are so judgemental and I tend to be massively sensitive
I salute you for those encouraging words, wow. I envy your children, I'm also doing the best I can to raise my 6 year old and 2 year old kids, as I am a single mom. I went through hard times with my parents also and I don't want my children to experience those, they will learn to respect other people if they see it to their parents as well as the outstanding love they are getting from us. :) thank you for your kind words.
hi anjeri- youve got a great handle on things- so good for you and your love children- their health of heart depends on your health of heart- and you cant heal your own heart by just knowing it or thinking about it- you have to live a life of love- not talk it- and then they will live a life of love since we all- especially children- watch and emulate- and not listen- a loving heart naturally respects- so there is nothing to learn- but only trust- thank you for trying to outgrow your parents!
hi jenni- thank you for the praise and support- we hope that if you will be having children that you will trust yourself- so your baby can trust you- and both of you can have a beautiful birth- find a used copy of the book "summerhill" by a.s. neill- and learn more about freedom for you and your children- we went and lived at summerhill school in england a long time ago- and it helped us to trust ourselves- and thereby our children- all the best to you and those that you love- the danses
hi giselle- yes sonoma knows eveything of his extraordinary conception- gestation- birth- and early life- it was him who finally gave us permission to show the video to the world when the discovery channel included the births of our children in their program "amazing births"- and it was sonoma who finally gave us his permission to share his birth here on youtube- we kept it private before out of respect for his privacy until he was old enough to decide- all the best to you and yours- danses
part 4- we as parents have adopted a life of learning- we have grieved our own traumas in a decade and a half of deep feeling therapy- so that we do not cause our children to suffer the abuses that we did- we work very hard- we live with compassion for others- we did the best that we could with their births- we are showing them trust and respect as partners in their growing up- and we feel that they will be happy and successful people- but once they are grown- it is up to them- best wishes!
part 3- for example- you never said hello to us here on youtuve- you never said your name- your never said thank you for all the time we are giving here for what feels like an interrogation without courtesy- how do you expect your children to show grace and poise and manners when you do not?- we live the life that our children will live- we want them to do as we do- not as we say- since we dont say anything- and that means that we must be the best we can be ourselves- and they will watch us-
part 2- our children will never be kicked out of home or anywhere- and we dont understand who picked the age of 18- for most people dont fully mature until well into their 20's- as i said self determined and self taught and self educated people are incredibly motivated and passionate and more resilient than indoctrinated people- everything they know- and it is far more than the typical schooled child- they have taught themselves- parents are the mentors and should only guide by example-
(part 1) hi leitha- i did answer two times- but i will try again- we dont feel that it is our responsibility whether our 4 children get a job- whether good or otherwise- it is their responsibility when they grow up and are ready- how they survive when they are grown is up to them- all we feel we can do is be on their side- support them- approve of them- keep them safe from permanent injury or death- and love them just as they are- everything that concerns them is their choice- it is their life-
hi leitha- (part 1)- and thanks for a wonderful question- the importance in freedom for children is that they be their own person- and that they be happy with themselves and their own lives- and that their lives be determined only by them- this is more than we can say for ourselves or the rest of the people of the world- why would anyone want a "good job" when they can be artists or independently wealthy as a result of their free thinking- for who really wants to work for someone else-
part 2- the idea of proper education would be a person who becomes cultured and learned as a result of their education- compulsory education for children is fascism practiced at home- and the environment in the schools of the world today produce obedience to an antiquated state system of patriotism- hate- and violence- auto didactic children- or self educated children- tend to be superbly educated people as they are still guided by their own hearts and interests- and they are happy for it!
part 3- home schooling is most often even more detrimental to children because of the questionable emotional and psychological health of the parents and the conflict of roles where your parent- who should be your champion and partner- becomes your master- and parents should not be masters- and children raised as obedient slaves to the system that has devastated our world will in turn devastate our world further- it is time to be on the side of the child- approve of them- and trust them-
hello again leitha-(part 1) we feel that is a parents responsibility to be on the side of the child as a partner- allowing for freedom to be themselves- approving of them as individuals with their own needs and interests- and is up to the child when they become an adult to choose their own career and way of earning a living- we do not worry about whether they will get good jobs or provide well for their children- we just love them and desire to be at their side and on their side-
part 2- as we said before- we do not trust the current world model of money and a good job being the measure of a person- but instead happiness with ones self and life- whatever the career or income status- free children are far more passionate and interested and resilient than schooled children for they have never had others trying to mold them- as we already related- we adults and our parents have devastated our world already- so we can not be trusted to mold the next generation-
part 3- the future is going to need radical change- radical thinking and action- and we that have already been indoctrinated and bread on television and consumerism obviously dont have the key to the future- here is an example- our son sonoma whos birth you can see here- taught himself to play the piano and guitar- and while strumming the guitar recently a honey bee stung him in the hand- his response was to help it outside his window where it could die free- now that is a proper education- love
part 4- we all know what we want since we were in the womb- but no one has ever trusted us enough to live our life without being forced or compelled or expected to do everything- childhood is a time to play- and play- and play some more- there is plenty of time to be serious later when we have to face our lives as adults- and people who love to play are happy- and happiness and the freedom to be unique is the only thing that will heal us all- happy day to all- now turn off the pc/tv and go play!
nice video though I'm not sure why some women think its better to lay on their stomach, in the stead of laying on their back. (I've seen videos of Natural Births with both the mother lying on her back and stomach. and the mother seems to have more ease when she's lying on her back.)
by "free child" you mean you never registered him with any Gov't, right? if so, then thats good.
hello white moon- the most advantageous position for birthing is squating- this way gravity allows the newborn to follow the birth canal to its exit- the most difficult and painful position for birthing is when the mother is on her back since the last portion of the birth canal then points up against gravity and exit- by free child we do not imply anything at all about the government- but that our children are free to be who they are without intervention by us- especially in their education-
a free child is able to do as they like- and like what they do- without control or manipulation by anyone- especially the parents- this means they regulate themselves- and live their lives their way- they are free to be who they are- but this does not mean that they have the license to impose on the freedom of others- free children decide what to do with their time and rarely choose fascist education for themselves- but are auto didactic- or self educated- free children are free thinkers-
'm a student midwife and we were directed to this video today in a lecture about waterbirth. Just as wonderful as our lecturer said it was! I'm already finding that midwives are a lot more relaxed about water temperature than used to be the case. An inspiration!
hi underling- fyi- the water temperature in the open ocean outside the birthing pool was about 70- but inside our protected natural pool the temperature was a perfect 95- so sonoma could swim without risk of triggering the differentiation of temperature switch to breathing response- giving him more time to swim- thanks for your contribution of wanting to become a gentle birth birth assistant!- we remain here for inspiration and questions for you and your colleagues and trainers- love!
First off, Beautiful Birth! Im 20 years old and expecting my first in about 3 weeks. He is breech but we have done alot of research and decided on a unnassisted home water or hamock birth. Your video is very inspiring! My husband is also going ot be naked during birth. We feel birth is a natural thing and we should be in our natural state. I mean we did make the baby naked. Thanks for posting!
hi princess!- and thanks for the reply and praise- good for you on your ideas of a natural birth- sonoma and this ocean birth was our third birth- and though unassisted- just like the first two- we had the best midwives possible nearby- since natural is the idea- but live mother and baby is the bottom line- so you'll so fine just like you've planned- but please have a beautiful supporting midwife or doula in the other room to help you feel safe- which helps you trust and relax- enjoy!
What a beautiful natural freebirth. Your son was birthed as every babe should be, free of medical intervention, on their own time with only their parents there to greet them. I applaud your decision to birth is such a wondrous environment.
hi poppy!- thanks for watching and commenting- this birth changed our lives- and especially that of sonoma the ocean baby who is now a gifted self taught composer and musician at 15 who's art is driven by peace instead of pain- and all of this has helped us to be here and hopefully inspire others- all the best to you and those that you love-
nicely spoken on all points, though it takes an interesting person to take your passion on the subject, passion like this is so easily mistaken for anger or defensiveness! but this isn't the point, to quote a favorite movie of mine "for what it's worth, you've made a believer out of me" the matrix reloaded.
(comment 2) sonoma the wondrous ocean baby was never at risk- and could have spent a lot longer under water enjoying his expanded womb- but nica the mommie wanted so bad to hold her love child- a newborns oxygen is supplied by the umbilical cord- not breathing yet- and in a water birth- if the water is the same temperature as the womb- the newborn doesnt realize that it has been born- but instead feels suddenly like the womb has gotten very large!- this is why water birth is so gentle!-
Inspiring to say the very least, but someone had to be very crazy to come up with this idea! Not to mention very unhappy with the normal ways of the world. Now I wonder why that would be?
hello there condifent- yes we are brave- but not crazy- this was one of the safest births in the world- with expert support in all regards- and yes- we are very unhappy with the normal ways of the world- why?- in terms of birth- interventionist hospital birth is violent- disrespectful- and emotionally and psychologically devastating for the mother- but psychically catastrophic for the child- and the results of these births manifest into the hate and sadness all around us- lets be gentle instead
at first i was freaking out when i seen this i was like wow why are they both naked in the open is that legal in spain? and then i wondered why u didnt pull the baby out right away, what if it it got scratched on a rock or started breathing the salt water or drown. but your comments where very informative and this video was very beautiful and educational
thank you for the comment!- how soothing that when we feel doubt and fear just having more information can change the perspective- we started out like all people believing only what others believe or what was possible from our own limited experience and perspective- but after intense and very joyous research and interest our fear diminished and our confidence grew- and finally we did it! a beautiful natural and very safe birth- far far far far safer than any hospital birth could be! love to you!
The babies have arrived! We deliverd them in the comfort of our back yard! Zaiden Todd weighs 8lbs 9ounces and Gracelyn Noel weighs 6lbs 7ounces! Thankyou for all your support. Although my labor wasnt 100% pain free it was calm and enjoyable!
@BouncinBundle hello zaiden and gracelyn!- and welcome to our world- this is your world now- so we all hope you delight in your beautiful parents- and that they trust you to love like they did when they were babies- if life is a classroom then lets make school the happiest and funnest place we can- there is too much seriousness already- and too much pain- show your mommy and daddy how to love!- and they will mentor you both into a life of happiness- congratulations!- you are all miracles!
thank you for the kind words- you can save the web address at the end of the video and we would be happy to mentor you into your own ultimate gentle birth-
this tide pool on the coast of spain was actually an anicent roman rock quarry- it was so beautiful- with the waves splashing in through a small opening in the front- and there were dozens of species of wonderful sea animals- the baking summer sun heated the water naturally to 95 degrees- perfect birthing temperature- but there were many challenges!- thanks for the comment!
@xiodanse Wow, thankyou, sounds so amazing. It was so wonderful to see your baby kicking his way through the water. I had my 4th baby in a birth pool, I myself was born on a beach - if only my Mum had known to get in the water.
I had never seen an ocean birth before yours and I want you to know this is one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen. thanks so much for posting this. He WAS swimming after he was born. How amazing.
yes sonoma swam at birth- and then spent many many hours solo swimming and back floating in his tide pool and every body of water we could find- with us always present of course- the miracles of life are right before us- it is our choice whether we want to sit in the back of a train on the tracks- or pilot our own glider any where we choose- i use this metaphor because sonoma-now 15 is a sailplane aficionado- when he is not composing music- dream on everyone!
... in an artificially (over)sanitised place where everything around you is aesthetically and psychologically focused on illness and death, where strange people invade upon your most intimate moment, then take your baby away, and try to force you to feed it formula which will begin the child's inevitable journey to ill health - that is such a nightmarish concept, isn't it? It endlessly amazes me that women have children, when that is the only reality they know!
hello and thanks for your inspiration!- women in general think that "daddy" and "policeman" and "judge" and "president"- right down to "he" as god- make father- male son- male holy ghost- are all "holy" and to be obeyed- now add "doctor" and the ladies are as good as c sectioned- males have no business in childbirth except as loving birth partners who are quiet and supportive to the need of mama the creator of life- it is time for women to claim their birth right- the right to birth as a woman
Beautiful. I love the idea of giving birth in the ocean instead of an artificial pool in some birthing clinic. If a hospital was the only option out there I would simply never do it. The idea of giving birth...
good question- the salinity of uterine life- the amniotic fluid is about 9 ppt (parts per thousand) while the ocean where sonoma was born was 34- much saltier- yet he moved from a salty environment to another- and opened his eyes in the tide pool with no notice-
the actual birth in a water birth is when the baby is raised out of the water!- talk about gentle- leaving mommie's body is only swimming out of a tight spot into a bigger watery world!
thaks for the answer, some of my friends watched the video and were wondering about the polution and salt in the water. Anyway, it's beautiful the baby coming out in the water. Gratz
that was the idea- the beauty of being in love- of making love- and of birthing lovingly-
as far as pollution- salt water- especially coastal oxygenated water- is virtually antiseptic- salt of course being a purifier-
the most lethal environment in the world is in the hospital- besides the lethal germs lying in wait from the last terminally infected person- you have the harsh carcinogenic chemicals designed to kill the germs-
pregnancy and birth are not sicknesses- or risks- or liabilities- or things to be managed like vaginal audits or footballs by mr doctor who is supposed to be the master- but who actually doesnt know anything at all about birth or babies-
trust your bodies and your babies ladies- not the man with the scalpel-
birth is a womans right- and she and you can regain the trust to love your baby right into life- safely
during birth you need to retreat into your "cave"- quiet safe loving darkness- sexy music- sweet dancing- yummy nibbles- plants and stuffies and things that help you feel like you're in your childhood dreamhome-
touch each other- say sweet nothings- scream at the gods- stay away from knowing or thinking or controlling- no more wonder woman or super chick or ultra mom- let him do the work of caring for you-
birthing your love babies is not supposed to be a struggle- or a "pushing"- or a fear or a nightmare- but the most beautiful and important thing the universe ever trusted anyone to do- and you have been trusted with 2- so you are two times more special!
your birth place should look and feel special!- your place- where you rule!
then during birth- relax- retreat- release!- your twins are in control and know what to do- they direct the birth- listen to them!
Thankyou! Again sorry for the deletion of my comment. I got a message from youtube about it being spam. Idk. Haha. I only have about a month to go. We have chosen a wonderful place to birth the babies and its close to home. Im very excited about it and ready to take on the birth. Thanks again!
of our four births this is the only one with live video- if you watch for "amazing births" on discovery health channel you'll see a half hour program on our births which shows video of leili's birth (our 4th) just after she comes out of the water- we did this in a beautiful sioux lodge filled with plants and music at home in california in our yard-
this was our most beautiful birth in terms of intimacy and privacy-
though we have a priceless memory of sony's ocean birth for all to see- we felt that the filming experience detracted from our own joy- beautiful mom played the role as the conceiver-gestator-and birther of life- as she should-
i as the seed donor played the role as visionary- logistician- effector- birth partner- photographer- videographer- midwife- doctor- and i largely missed the part of just being the lover and father-
i am naked as the original primordial creator should be in a natural environment- with my naked creatress goddess in her ocean lair- we are both in love with the nudity of the landscape and proud of how we fit into it-
we meant to birth in the black sea but instead returned to spain (where our second "espania") was waterbirthed in order to feel safe and welcomed- emotions are paramount in birth-
we shipped an american van to europe equipped with an inflatable zodiac boat- after numerous days of searching the sea coast with all the kids adventuring- we found this ancient coastal roman rock quarry which had become exposed to the sea- we then spent days relocating many days relocating many hundreds of beautiful tide pool animals to ready our birthing pool- we camped there for 10 days before and 10 days after the birth!
"allow" is not a term that can be part of sharing the life with a free child- we feel that as parents we must nourish them and keep them from permanent injury or death- and marrying or loving is beautiful- however young-
our own personal views would be against this- and we feel we have the right to voice this- but no more than they have the right to not listen-
yes- our children make all of their own choices- and they come to us every day for guidance- though they are free to accept it or not-
we intervene when their health or safety are concerned- other than that they are on auto pilot- and they fill their day with whatever their interests are- and yes there is a lot of boredom!- which we do not rescue them from-
if they want to go to school- they would get all of our support- we have no control of their aspirations!
nica the birth mommie was in the deep throws of primordial birth pain- and as a man i call it extreme- but beautifully enough she was not aware of it-
look into the eyes of any birthing mammal and you will see the glazed eyes of a drugged mommy! if that is pain that bring it on!
a woman's own endorphins (natural pain killer) is 10 times more powerful than the worlds most powerful morphine- and nica was surfing the waves of the primordial goddess!
and as usual- after she lifted him out of the water in tears of joy- she said she wanted another baby- and wanted to do it again-
7 years later- and after 7 years of deep feeling therapy where one grieves traumas and deprivations- nica had a virtually pain free birth- called an ecstatic birth where contractions feel like small euphoric orgasms-
birth is not meant to hurt- it is supposed to be orgasmic- hopefully like the love making and conception!
the amount of pain a mother feels during birth- and thereby passes it onto the child- is directly proportionate to the amount of trauma she has repressed in her own psyche from her own birth and early childhood-
she can trust her endorphins to fly her through the experience if she stays away from doctors and hospitals-
and she can face her own fears and pains in deep long term therapy to evolve herself towards a loving pain free birth!
This is astounding! Beautiful.Refreshing. I wish more families had access to other birthing options. Were I live there is only 1woman that I know of that will do a homebirth. Your son is an excellent swimmer even from day one. I hope "western style" medicine will one day catch up to other options for women and their families.
hello- thank you for the reply- we are all doing our own little parts to bring birth back to the love it deserves- and thereby bringing the world- one baby at a time- back to the love it deserves- thanks for coming here and for taking the time to connect-
yes sonoma swam from the first minute- in the days that followed he spent many many hours in the tidepool backfloating around solo as an acuatic infant- if only we all could remember how gifted we really are-
with freedom for children a parent may not invest in the outcome of a childs life unless the child asks for it- and children do not ask for compulsory schooling or college-
a parents job is to keep a child safe- to love and approve of them- and to nourish them- that's all-
this makes happy children and people!-
if they grow up and do not have what they want- they have the passion and resilience which freedom and approval afforded them to go and get it!
this way the child does not blame the parent- for they made their own choices-
of course the parent of a free child helps and supports much more and more often than with a schooled child- for the free child is passionate and interested indeed and expects attention and support of their interests- just not in the things you might imagine-
our eldest xiomara decided to go to college at 21- with no grades or transcripts or records- and she was told it was impossible-
careful telling a passionate free child that anything is impossible-
one year later she entered a california 4 year university by special admission with a g.e.d. and test scores off the charts- the first in california history-
we the parents were only there to say "go xio go!- and be there for the many hugs and cries-
wow, thank you so much for your response! what an amazing way you've chosen to love and respect your kids. and wow, your daughter made history; very very impressive! thanks again so much for the beauitful video and showing the world out there that there's other options!!!
you're welcome rs- and i know that you are or will be options for your own- far beyond what your own parents were capable of- it may look dark sometimes everyone- but we are moving forward- trust the chilren for they will grow up to be more than we are someday- just like we did- best wishes to you and those you love everyone- we are all doing just fine!
hello! a natural birth starts out with a natural mother and a natural father- and results in a natural baby- when two people are in love and make love they are naturally naked- and when the love child is born they are naturally naked- it felt really beautiful for all of us to be so natural- and with this beautiful event clothing of any kind would have taken away from the event- and doesn't he have a beautiful body!- from nica the mom
hi and thanks for the reply!- if you look carefully at the video- nica the momma also cried as she beheld her newborn son!- then she asked if she could do it again!- (she did the same thing after all 4 babies)- now that is ecstatic birth for you!
ecstatic birth is where the birthing mother and baby feel ecstacy during birth- where contractions feel like euphoric orgasmic like flutters-
the amount of pain a woman and child feel during childbirth is directly proportionate to the amount of pain experienced during the mothers birth and the trauma and deprivations of the mothers early childhood-
if a mothers own birth and childhood were not ideal- only long term deep feeling therapy and grieving can heal the pain!
hello!- people are doing water births and ocean births as an expression of love for their babies- themselves- and as a gesture of peace and gentility for our world-
hospital births cause and perpetrate pain- and so an ocean birth is the ultimate natural water birth or gentle birth-
yes!- extraordinary sonoma is now 15- besides his ocean birth- like his 3 sisters he is auto-didactic (self educated)- and self regulated- he is very gentle- funny- and loves to play music and fly airplanes- he is now 5' ll" tall and plays and plays the whole day long- (since he doesnt go to school or get home schooled-
sonoma and his three sisters are all auto didactic- meaning self educated- they have never been to school or been home schooled- they are self regulated- meaning they are in charge of their own interests and time- basically freedom and approval for children inspired by a.s. neill's summerhill school in england which is still going strong- it is wonderful to be a child free to be a child the way a child knows they want to be!- it makes for a happy person as an adult!
Thank you for sharing that beautiful moment in your life.
RudeMcNasty 3 weeks ago
This is an amazing way to bring a child into the world. I am currently pregnant with a little boy. I have two daughters, Rylee who is 7 and Maelyn who is 5. Our newest addition is going to be named Kai. We are planning a homebirth with just the two girls, my husband and I. And obviously Kai! Rylee is excited because she wants to catch the baby with my husbands assitance. This is just perfect though, we are all planning on being in the nude. You made the baby that way. God Bless <3
BabyBellyful 7 months ago
beautiful,the first i seen this was on amazing births.u were an inspiration!
ninthseed 7 months ago
I'm awestruck
noraraes 7 months ago
curious..why did the father let the baby stay so long under the water before pulling from the water. it is the salt water to put away the bacteria...i afraid the babe wont have air to breath...
Super47max 9 months ago
@Super47max While the umbilical cord is still attached, the baby will still be able to breathe. It has been living and growing in water for the last 9 months and doesn't start breathing on it's own until it hits the air. It's lovely to see the baby swimming around...the last of it's moments of being 100% dependant on the mother for life before breathing on it's own. I plan to let mine swim around for a few seconds before bringing mine out of the water too. I think it's beautiful.
Keelahlee 9 months ago
@Super47max i believe the cord is still attached from the baby to the mother so it still breaths like its still in the womb =)
Keliiholokai89 1 month ago
no disrespect but why you both naked??
sexiibitch718 10 months ago
@sexiibitch718
It is comforting to be in the nude when giving childbirth. If it is husband coached, some women prefer to have skin to skin contact with their husband. Trust me, when you're in labor you do not want to have clothes on.
way2sweet 9 months ago
This is so beautiful! I too birthed my baby in the water (birthing pool in my living room) and into my own hands :) it was truly amazing, I thought that I would want her father to "catch" her but I did what felt natural and that was to let her slide into my hands and pull her from the water :). When I watched this I bet the baby was thinking "wow I have more room to swim!" Lol
Nikicole831 10 months ago
I will give birth to my baby exactly like this except alone the way women used to do it a long time ago. Womens bodies were made to do these things...
Rainbow2010able 1 year ago 3
hey rainbow!- yes you will girl- all women are perfectly adapted to birth like kitties and bunnies and all mammals- painlessly surfing their own endorphine pain killers with glassy eyes and the same joy they felt upon lovingly conceiving- all it takes is to get fear back out of birthing- and doctor and hospital "managed" births are adrenaline fear births- no different than facing a saber tooth tiger at the mouth of the cave 1 million years ago- so lets get back to enjoying birth ladies!-
xiodanse 1 year ago 6
@xiodanse i wanted to have my daughter at home, but after everyone was so against it.. i went with a hospital birth..
i'm glad that i was at least able to do it fearlessly, and i was able to enjoy myself. i wa sin labour for three days and in labour at the hospital for 5 hours... i spent the evening making my nurses laugh hysterically. this is so beautiful, i wish i could have had an experience like this! it must have been amazing.
BaileyFlys 11 months ago
hi bailey- all births with live mommies and babies is a miracle!- so congratulations on yours!- and adding laughter made yours memorable too!- we're sure that your next baby will be birthed at home in a beautiful pool- for that is the safest way to have a baby!- good luck to you- we remain here to inspire and guide you when you're ready again- love the danses
xiodanse 11 months ago
This is the birth of my dreams! I am inspired.
tangenterine 1 year ago
hello tangenterine!- and you can and will do anything you are inspired to do- and we will be here to support you1
xiodanse 1 year ago
This is THE most beautiful birth video I have ever seen. No panic, no interference. Just calm presence in the unfolding of a sacred and natural event. I love that you are both naked - there is absolutely no barrier between you and nature (which we are all a part of, but many people seem to have forgotten this). Your son is blessed to be born in such a gentle and loving way. Thanks for sharing this birth - it makes an impact on people and changes their ideas about birth when I share it!
357andreavs 1 year ago
hello adreavs!- thanks for such descriptive feedback- we are all learning to bring intelligent and gentle birth along with us towards an intelligent and gentle world- we are how we were born and raised- all the best to you!
xiodanse 1 year ago
I don't know anything about babies so here's an honest question - Is it safe to let the baby swim around like that after birth? Are there reasons for doing so?
jedwardc1982 1 year ago
hello jedward!- yes it is perfectly safe as long as the umbilical cord maintains normal heart palpitations- meaning the newborn is still an as yet unborn aquatic creature- and then the "birth" becomes being lifted out of the water- and the gentleness of the event "imprints" the brain for the first time with minimal trauma- and the reason for a life with minimal trauma are self evident- imagine joy and love being our first experience instead of terror and fear and pain!- joy to all!
xiodanse 1 year ago
What a beautiful gift to give your child. That was amazing. Thanks for sharing :) Inspirational. Its time to stop medicalising birth and return to nature and instinct when birthing our babies and that is exactly what ye did !!!
odltirigu 1 year ago 2
hello tirigu!- what a nice word "instinct" and since birth is not an illness or injury- nor is it meant to be a male managed event- its time for women to trust their instincts and formidable intellects and doubt men and their machines when it comes to their babies- and stay far far away from hospitals and scalpels and monitors and return to trusting instinct- the safest births are planned loving home births- meaning you birth where and how you conceive- music!- candles!- love!
xiodanse 1 year ago
Awesome video! I remember seeing this on that amazing Birth show a while back. I wish i could of had my children in this beautiful setting. I love how the baby is kicking and moving so much as soon as he comes out. The father has such an important role in this kind of birth. This is how it should be. The both of you created this beautiful creature and the both should enjoy the birth together as well. Thanks for sharing this video.
-Erica
seller1985 1 year ago 2
hi erica!- you are so welcome- and yes- this was a family event- love making- loving gestation- loving birth- and full partnership in trusting natures perfection- which we all are- when we surrender our power to others out of fear and lack of trust in ourselves- we teach our babies and children fear and lack of trust in themselves from their first moments of life- imagine living a life of smiles and trust because we were born that way!- hooray for all moms and dads who trust themselves!
xiodanse 1 year ago
by far the most beautiful birth I've seen. My husband and I are expecting our first in July 2011 and I wasn't sure if ocean water would be safe to birth in. We are having an unassisted birth and I'm more excited for the actual birth than I am anything else. Congratulations on your handsome and free son.
TheMrsplankton 1 year ago
hello and thanks for the comments- sea water is far safe than any other water since salt is an antiseptic- we wish you the best with your birth and know that it will go well- the danses
xiodanse 1 year ago
This is one of the most FANTASTIC births I have ever seen! I am 17 and had my son Benette June 3, 2010! Im finishing out my Senior Year while my Finace works, Then im gonna study and become a midwife! We delieverd in my living room, I was squating and he was suporting us while our midwife gentley guided him into the world! It was a challenge but Natural is better! I was almost completley healed within 3 weeks!
MommieToBenette 1 year ago
hi mommie- we're glad you liked our birth and wish you the best with your midwifery studies- some day we will take birthing back out of hospitals completely and return it safely to the home where it belongs- all our best to you- the danses
xiodanse 1 year ago
That was the best birthing video I've seen. I also like it how the whole family is naked. Just one with nature. I had told my family and boyfriend that if I ever was to get pregnant and have children....every one would have to be naked. Why just me? Awesome video!!!!
shybettigurl 1 year ago 2
hello there- finally a positive comment about the beauty of nudity for all- so many have complained that i as the birth father was naked- which we found so odd to comment about with such a beautiful birth video- thanks for caring enough to get involved- best wishes to you and and all- the danses
xiodanse 1 year ago 3
Wow this was amazing and inspirational.
br0m0ntana 1 year ago
Nature is that beautiful! I sadly never had that experience with my three children. But is never too late to be free and follow the natures call! I actually homeschool them and it is amazing to see how they learn on a natural way! Congrats for what you do! Namaste!
dimar79pr 1 year ago
so i fear i may not be able to handle it at all... Would love to have the confidence to just go ahead and do it, Im 21 but I sound much younger the way I go on about my family as if I dont have a choice myself..
Babydollxxsaz 1 year ago
This is very beautiful! Im pregnant with my first and find it very hard to 'go against the grain' even hypnobirthing seems to have my mothers back up and I cant just be left to make my own desicions! I completely agree with the way you have brought up your children but again, I feel I may be too afraid of the reprecussions and judgements of family go down that route. Its very selfish of me to say that I know but my family are so judgemental and I tend to be massively sensitive
Babydollxxsaz 1 year ago
hi baby doll- did you receive the reply that i sent a week ago? it would be nice to hear from you- good luck- roe the birth daddy-
xiodanse 1 year ago
@xiodanse Hi xiodanse, no I dont think I did, cant find it anywhere. =(
Babydollxxsaz 1 year ago
Breathtaking, beautiful birth! Great job Mom, Dad, and Sonoma. =)
aprilmc04 1 year ago
This is one of the most wonderful things I've ever seen!
deliciouspear 1 year ago
get it out of water you damn hippie! LOL
msc123 1 year ago
I salute you for those encouraging words, wow. I envy your children, I'm also doing the best I can to raise my 6 year old and 2 year old kids, as I am a single mom. I went through hard times with my parents also and I don't want my children to experience those, they will learn to respect other people if they see it to their parents as well as the outstanding love they are getting from us. :) thank you for your kind words.
anjeriiku0000 1 year ago
hi anjeri- youve got a great handle on things- so good for you and your love children- their health of heart depends on your health of heart- and you cant heal your own heart by just knowing it or thinking about it- you have to live a life of love- not talk it- and then they will live a life of love since we all- especially children- watch and emulate- and not listen- a loving heart naturally respects- so there is nothing to learn- but only trust- thank you for trying to outgrow your parents!
xiodanse 1 year ago
this is the most beautiful birth I have ever seen! and I totally agree on your philosophies of life
jennni75 1 year ago
hi jenni- thank you for the praise and support- we hope that if you will be having children that you will trust yourself- so your baby can trust you- and both of you can have a beautiful birth- find a used copy of the book "summerhill" by a.s. neill- and learn more about freedom for you and your children- we went and lived at summerhill school in england a long time ago- and it helped us to trust ourselves- and thereby our children- all the best to you and those that you love- the danses
xiodanse 1 year ago
hi giselle- yes sonoma knows eveything of his extraordinary conception- gestation- birth- and early life- it was him who finally gave us permission to show the video to the world when the discovery channel included the births of our children in their program "amazing births"- and it was sonoma who finally gave us his permission to share his birth here on youtube- we kept it private before out of respect for his privacy until he was old enough to decide- all the best to you and yours- danses
xiodanse 1 year ago
part 4- we as parents have adopted a life of learning- we have grieved our own traumas in a decade and a half of deep feeling therapy- so that we do not cause our children to suffer the abuses that we did- we work very hard- we live with compassion for others- we did the best that we could with their births- we are showing them trust and respect as partners in their growing up- and we feel that they will be happy and successful people- but once they are grown- it is up to them- best wishes!
xiodanse 1 year ago
part 3- for example- you never said hello to us here on youtuve- you never said your name- your never said thank you for all the time we are giving here for what feels like an interrogation without courtesy- how do you expect your children to show grace and poise and manners when you do not?- we live the life that our children will live- we want them to do as we do- not as we say- since we dont say anything- and that means that we must be the best we can be ourselves- and they will watch us-
xiodanse 1 year ago
part 2- our children will never be kicked out of home or anywhere- and we dont understand who picked the age of 18- for most people dont fully mature until well into their 20's- as i said self determined and self taught and self educated people are incredibly motivated and passionate and more resilient than indoctrinated people- everything they know- and it is far more than the typical schooled child- they have taught themselves- parents are the mentors and should only guide by example-
xiodanse 1 year ago
(part 1) hi leitha- i did answer two times- but i will try again- we dont feel that it is our responsibility whether our 4 children get a job- whether good or otherwise- it is their responsibility when they grow up and are ready- how they survive when they are grown is up to them- all we feel we can do is be on their side- support them- approve of them- keep them safe from permanent injury or death- and love them just as they are- everything that concerns them is their choice- it is their life-
xiodanse 1 year ago
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leithatex 1 year ago
hi leitha- (part 1)- and thanks for a wonderful question- the importance in freedom for children is that they be their own person- and that they be happy with themselves and their own lives- and that their lives be determined only by them- this is more than we can say for ourselves or the rest of the people of the world- why would anyone want a "good job" when they can be artists or independently wealthy as a result of their free thinking- for who really wants to work for someone else-
xiodanse 1 year ago
part 2- the idea of proper education would be a person who becomes cultured and learned as a result of their education- compulsory education for children is fascism practiced at home- and the environment in the schools of the world today produce obedience to an antiquated state system of patriotism- hate- and violence- auto didactic children- or self educated children- tend to be superbly educated people as they are still guided by their own hearts and interests- and they are happy for it!
xiodanse 1 year ago
part 3- home schooling is most often even more detrimental to children because of the questionable emotional and psychological health of the parents and the conflict of roles where your parent- who should be your champion and partner- becomes your master- and parents should not be masters- and children raised as obedient slaves to the system that has devastated our world will in turn devastate our world further- it is time to be on the side of the child- approve of them- and trust them-
xiodanse 1 year ago
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leithatex 1 year ago
hello again leitha-(part 1) we feel that is a parents responsibility to be on the side of the child as a partner- allowing for freedom to be themselves- approving of them as individuals with their own needs and interests- and is up to the child when they become an adult to choose their own career and way of earning a living- we do not worry about whether they will get good jobs or provide well for their children- we just love them and desire to be at their side and on their side-
xiodanse 1 year ago
part 2- as we said before- we do not trust the current world model of money and a good job being the measure of a person- but instead happiness with ones self and life- whatever the career or income status- free children are far more passionate and interested and resilient than schooled children for they have never had others trying to mold them- as we already related- we adults and our parents have devastated our world already- so we can not be trusted to mold the next generation-
xiodanse 1 year ago 4
part 3- the future is going to need radical change- radical thinking and action- and we that have already been indoctrinated and bread on television and consumerism obviously dont have the key to the future- here is an example- our son sonoma whos birth you can see here- taught himself to play the piano and guitar- and while strumming the guitar recently a honey bee stung him in the hand- his response was to help it outside his window where it could die free- now that is a proper education- love
xiodanse 1 year ago 7
part 4- we all know what we want since we were in the womb- but no one has ever trusted us enough to live our life without being forced or compelled or expected to do everything- childhood is a time to play- and play- and play some more- there is plenty of time to be serious later when we have to face our lives as adults- and people who love to play are happy- and happiness and the freedom to be unique is the only thing that will heal us all- happy day to all- now turn off the pc/tv and go play!
xiodanse 1 year ago 2
diache super natural jajajajajaajaj, eso si que es un mega parto respetado , mejor opinen ustedes
Jennifer691000 1 year ago
nice video though I'm not sure why some women think its better to lay on their stomach, in the stead of laying on their back. (I've seen videos of Natural Births with both the mother lying on her back and stomach. and the mother seems to have more ease when she's lying on her back.)
by "free child" you mean you never registered him with any Gov't, right? if so, then thats good.
check out www_thinkFREE_ca
white0moon 1 year ago
hello white moon- the most advantageous position for birthing is squating- this way gravity allows the newborn to follow the birth canal to its exit- the most difficult and painful position for birthing is when the mother is on her back since the last portion of the birth canal then points up against gravity and exit- by free child we do not imply anything at all about the government- but that our children are free to be who they are without intervention by us- especially in their education-
xiodanse 1 year ago
a free child is able to do as they like- and like what they do- without control or manipulation by anyone- especially the parents- this means they regulate themselves- and live their lives their way- they are free to be who they are- but this does not mean that they have the license to impose on the freedom of others- free children decide what to do with their time and rarely choose fascist education for themselves- but are auto didactic- or self educated- free children are free thinkers-
xiodanse 1 year ago
'm a student midwife and we were directed to this video today in a lecture about waterbirth. Just as wonderful as our lecturer said it was! I'm already finding that midwives are a lot more relaxed about water temperature than used to be the case. An inspiration!
underling19 1 year ago
hi underling- fyi- the water temperature in the open ocean outside the birthing pool was about 70- but inside our protected natural pool the temperature was a perfect 95- so sonoma could swim without risk of triggering the differentiation of temperature switch to breathing response- giving him more time to swim- thanks for your contribution of wanting to become a gentle birth birth assistant!- we remain here for inspiration and questions for you and your colleagues and trainers- love!
xiodanse 1 year ago
First off, Beautiful Birth! Im 20 years old and expecting my first in about 3 weeks. He is breech but we have done alot of research and decided on a unnassisted home water or hamock birth. Your video is very inspiring! My husband is also going ot be naked during birth. We feel birth is a natural thing and we should be in our natural state. I mean we did make the baby naked. Thanks for posting!
PrincessPregnant 1 year ago 2
hi princess!- and thanks for the reply and praise- good for you on your ideas of a natural birth- sonoma and this ocean birth was our third birth- and though unassisted- just like the first two- we had the best midwives possible nearby- since natural is the idea- but live mother and baby is the bottom line- so you'll so fine just like you've planned- but please have a beautiful supporting midwife or doula in the other room to help you feel safe- which helps you trust and relax- enjoy!
xiodanse 1 year ago
What a beautiful natural freebirth. Your son was birthed as every babe should be, free of medical intervention, on their own time with only their parents there to greet them. I applaud your decision to birth is such a wondrous environment.
poppyblue2468 1 year ago
hi poppy!- thanks for watching and commenting- this birth changed our lives- and especially that of sonoma the ocean baby who is now a gifted self taught composer and musician at 15 who's art is driven by peace instead of pain- and all of this has helped us to be here and hopefully inspire others- all the best to you and those that you love-
xiodanse 1 year ago
nicely spoken on all points, though it takes an interesting person to take your passion on the subject, passion like this is so easily mistaken for anger or defensiveness! but this isn't the point, to quote a favorite movie of mine "for what it's worth, you've made a believer out of me" the matrix reloaded.
latenightconfident 1 year ago
(comment 2) sonoma the wondrous ocean baby was never at risk- and could have spent a lot longer under water enjoying his expanded womb- but nica the mommie wanted so bad to hold her love child- a newborns oxygen is supplied by the umbilical cord- not breathing yet- and in a water birth- if the water is the same temperature as the womb- the newborn doesnt realize that it has been born- but instead feels suddenly like the womb has gotten very large!- this is why water birth is so gentle!-
xiodanse 1 year ago
How beautiful!
musicpeace 1 year ago
Birth the way it should be, wow, truly beautiful x
Mooeybubs 1 year ago
absolutely gorgeous and sensual. thank you!!!
seraphimama 1 year ago
Inspiring to say the very least, but someone had to be very crazy to come up with this idea! Not to mention very unhappy with the normal ways of the world. Now I wonder why that would be?
That was rhetorical by the way.
nice work, I gotta look into this!
latenightconfident 1 year ago
hello there condifent- yes we are brave- but not crazy- this was one of the safest births in the world- with expert support in all regards- and yes- we are very unhappy with the normal ways of the world- why?- in terms of birth- interventionist hospital birth is violent- disrespectful- and emotionally and psychologically devastating for the mother- but psychically catastrophic for the child- and the results of these births manifest into the hate and sadness all around us- lets be gentle instead
xiodanse 1 year ago
wtf!
haleyrenee92 1 year ago
at first i was freaking out when i seen this i was like wow why are they both naked in the open is that legal in spain? and then i wondered why u didnt pull the baby out right away, what if it it got scratched on a rock or started breathing the salt water or drown. but your comments where very informative and this video was very beautiful and educational
baddestbifar420 1 year ago
thank you for the comment!- how soothing that when we feel doubt and fear just having more information can change the perspective- we started out like all people believing only what others believe or what was possible from our own limited experience and perspective- but after intense and very joyous research and interest our fear diminished and our confidence grew- and finally we did it! a beautiful natural and very safe birth- far far far far safer than any hospital birth could be! love to you!
xiodanse 1 year ago
The babies have arrived! We deliverd them in the comfort of our back yard! Zaiden Todd weighs 8lbs 9ounces and Gracelyn Noel weighs 6lbs 7ounces! Thankyou for all your support. Although my labor wasnt 100% pain free it was calm and enjoyable!
BouncinBundle 1 year ago
@BouncinBundle hello zaiden and gracelyn!- and welcome to our world- this is your world now- so we all hope you delight in your beautiful parents- and that they trust you to love like they did when they were babies- if life is a classroom then lets make school the happiest and funnest place we can- there is too much seriousness already- and too much pain- show your mommy and daddy how to love!- and they will mentor you both into a life of happiness- congratulations!- you are all miracles!
xiodanse 1 year ago
A beautiful birth, thank you for sharing!
Xakana 1 year ago
This is so beautiful. Beyond words. love.
oSillyJessi 1 year ago
hello kai!
thank you for the kind words- you can save the web address at the end of the video and we would be happy to mentor you into your own ultimate gentle birth-
good luck!
the danses
xiodanse 1 year ago
Wow, how beautiful. This would be a wonderful dream of birthing in wild water (as opposed to a birth pool)
inakid 1 year ago
hi inakid!
this tide pool on the coast of spain was actually an anicent roman rock quarry- it was so beautiful- with the waves splashing in through a small opening in the front- and there were dozens of species of wonderful sea animals- the baking summer sun heated the water naturally to 95 degrees- perfect birthing temperature- but there were many challenges!- thanks for the comment!
xiodanse 1 year ago
@xiodanse Wow, thankyou, sounds so amazing. It was so wonderful to see your baby kicking his way through the water. I had my 4th baby in a birth pool, I myself was born on a beach - if only my Mum had known to get in the water.
inakid 1 year ago
I had never seen an ocean birth before yours and I want you to know this is one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen. thanks so much for posting this. He WAS swimming after he was born. How amazing.
ellonylynn 2 years ago
hello ellon-
yes sonoma swam at birth- and then spent many many hours solo swimming and back floating in his tide pool and every body of water we could find- with us always present of course- the miracles of life are right before us- it is our choice whether we want to sit in the back of a train on the tracks- or pilot our own glider any where we choose- i use this metaphor because sonoma-now 15 is a sailplane aficionado- when he is not composing music- dream on everyone!
xiodanse 2 years ago
... in an artificially (over)sanitised place where everything around you is aesthetically and psychologically focused on illness and death, where strange people invade upon your most intimate moment, then take your baby away, and try to force you to feed it formula which will begin the child's inevitable journey to ill health - that is such a nightmarish concept, isn't it? It endlessly amazes me that women have children, when that is the only reality they know!
skarabeios 2 years ago
hello and thanks for your inspiration!- women in general think that "daddy" and "policeman" and "judge" and "president"- right down to "he" as god- make father- male son- male holy ghost- are all "holy" and to be obeyed- now add "doctor" and the ladies are as good as c sectioned- males have no business in childbirth except as loving birth partners who are quiet and supportive to the need of mama the creator of life- it is time for women to claim their birth right- the right to birth as a woman
xiodanse 2 years ago
Beautiful. I love the idea of giving birth in the ocean instead of an artificial pool in some birthing clinic. If a hospital was the only option out there I would simply never do it. The idea of giving birth...
skarabeios 2 years ago
i love water births, but isn't this a bit salty???
Alaya7 2 years ago
hello alaya-
good question- the salinity of uterine life- the amniotic fluid is about 9 ppt (parts per thousand) while the ocean where sonoma was born was 34- much saltier- yet he moved from a salty environment to another- and opened his eyes in the tide pool with no notice-
the actual birth in a water birth is when the baby is raised out of the water!- talk about gentle- leaving mommie's body is only swimming out of a tight spot into a bigger watery world!
love to all-
the danses
xiodanse 2 years ago
thaks for the answer, some of my friends watched the video and were wondering about the polution and salt in the water. Anyway, it's beautiful the baby coming out in the water. Gratz
Alaya7 2 years ago
hi alaya-
that was the idea- the beauty of being in love- of making love- and of birthing lovingly-
as far as pollution- salt water- especially coastal oxygenated water- is virtually antiseptic- salt of course being a purifier-
the most lethal environment in the world is in the hospital- besides the lethal germs lying in wait from the last terminally infected person- you have the harsh carcinogenic chemicals designed to kill the germs-
why risk having your baby in the infection room?
xiodanse 2 years ago
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pregnancy and birth are not sicknesses- or risks- or liabilities- or things to be managed like vaginal audits or footballs by mr doctor who is supposed to be the master- but who actually doesnt know anything at all about birth or babies-
trust your bodies and your babies ladies- not the man with the scalpel-
birth is a womans right- and she and you can regain the trust to love your baby right into life- safely
and the world is ready to support you!
love nica- the ocean mommy
xiodanse 2 years ago
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BouncinBundle 2 years ago
hello bouncinbundle (i just love that!)
birth is a limbic (feeling) experience- and the mommie's emotions are number 1!
where?-
birth where you feel SAFE-LOVED-PROTECTED-AND TOTALLY PRIVATE
imagine yourself as a prehistoric mother on the savanna- find the safest "cave" that you can-
keep everyone out!- allow only a woman who you trust- like a loving friend or grandmother type who is a skilled midwife-
have the midwife choose a hospital and doctor who respects her- only as a standby-
xiodanse 2 years ago
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during birth you need to retreat into your "cave"- quiet safe loving darkness- sexy music- sweet dancing- yummy nibbles- plants and stuffies and things that help you feel like you're in your childhood dreamhome-
touch each other- say sweet nothings- scream at the gods- stay away from knowing or thinking or controlling- no more wonder woman or super chick or ultra mom- let him do the work of caring for you-
you are the goddess- he is your devoted servant!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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birthing your love babies is not supposed to be a struggle- or a "pushing"- or a fear or a nightmare- but the most beautiful and important thing the universe ever trusted anyone to do- and you have been trusted with 2- so you are two times more special!
your birth place should look and feel special!- your place- where you rule!
then during birth- relax- retreat- release!- your twins are in control and know what to do- they direct the birth- listen to them!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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so with all of the above in mind- you both and babies need to choose your place!
trust your heart- and if you feel like you can endure a measure of stress- go for something as exotic and natural as you would like!
i would be happy to continue to inspire you and guide you if you write me at the address at the end of the ocean birth video-
hugs and beautiful birthing to you both!
and hello twins!
love roe
the birth daddy
xiodanse 2 years ago
Thankyou! Again sorry for the deletion of my comment. I got a message from youtube about it being spam. Idk. Haha. I only have about a month to go. We have chosen a wonderful place to birth the babies and its close to home. Im very excited about it and ready to take on the birth. Thanks again!
Bella the birthing mommy!
BouncinBundle 1 year ago
we're glad you're back!- good luck with a gentle love birth- let us know if there is anything we can do- the danses
xiodanse 1 year ago
I have some quesions.
1. Will you post the other births?
2. Why is the huby naked?
3. Where did you find such a private spot to birth.
4. Would you allow your son to have a wife at this age if he wanted.
5. Do your children make all there own choices (like if they wanted to be a birth mom now or if they waned togo to school)
6. How much pain was she in?
DancermissB1512 2 years ago
hello dancermiss!- so nice to hear from you-
of our four births this is the only one with live video- if you watch for "amazing births" on discovery health channel you'll see a half hour program on our births which shows video of leili's birth (our 4th) just after she comes out of the water- we did this in a beautiful sioux lodge filled with plants and music at home in california in our yard-
this was our most beautiful birth in terms of intimacy and privacy-
xiodanse 2 years ago
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though we have a priceless memory of sony's ocean birth for all to see- we felt that the filming experience detracted from our own joy- beautiful mom played the role as the conceiver-gestator-and birther of life- as she should-
i as the seed donor played the role as visionary- logistician- effector- birth partner- photographer- videographer- midwife- doctor- and i largely missed the part of just being the lover and father-
keep birth loving and intimate!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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i am naked as the original primordial creator should be in a natural environment- with my naked creatress goddess in her ocean lair- we are both in love with the nudity of the landscape and proud of how we fit into it-
we meant to birth in the black sea but instead returned to spain (where our second "espania") was waterbirthed in order to feel safe and welcomed- emotions are paramount in birth-
xiodanse 2 years ago
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we shipped an american van to europe equipped with an inflatable zodiac boat- after numerous days of searching the sea coast with all the kids adventuring- we found this ancient coastal roman rock quarry which had become exposed to the sea- we then spent days relocating many days relocating many hundreds of beautiful tide pool animals to ready our birthing pool- we camped there for 10 days before and 10 days after the birth!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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"allow" is not a term that can be part of sharing the life with a free child- we feel that as parents we must nourish them and keep them from permanent injury or death- and marrying or loving is beautiful- however young-
our own personal views would be against this- and we feel we have the right to voice this- but no more than they have the right to not listen-
xiodanse 2 years ago
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yes- our children make all of their own choices- and they come to us every day for guidance- though they are free to accept it or not-
we intervene when their health or safety are concerned- other than that they are on auto pilot- and they fill their day with whatever their interests are- and yes there is a lot of boredom!- which we do not rescue them from-
if they want to go to school- they would get all of our support- we have no control of their aspirations!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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nica the birth mommie was in the deep throws of primordial birth pain- and as a man i call it extreme- but beautifully enough she was not aware of it-
look into the eyes of any birthing mammal and you will see the glazed eyes of a drugged mommy! if that is pain that bring it on!
a woman's own endorphins (natural pain killer) is 10 times more powerful than the worlds most powerful morphine- and nica was surfing the waves of the primordial goddess!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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and as usual- after she lifted him out of the water in tears of joy- she said she wanted another baby- and wanted to do it again-
7 years later- and after 7 years of deep feeling therapy where one grieves traumas and deprivations- nica had a virtually pain free birth- called an ecstatic birth where contractions feel like small euphoric orgasms-
birth is not meant to hurt- it is supposed to be orgasmic- hopefully like the love making and conception!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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the amount of pain a mother feels during birth- and thereby passes it onto the child- is directly proportionate to the amount of trauma she has repressed in her own psyche from her own birth and early childhood-
she can trust her endorphins to fly her through the experience if she stays away from doctors and hospitals-
and she can face her own fears and pains in deep long term therapy to evolve herself towards a loving pain free birth!
love to all for listening!
xiodanse 2 years ago
This is astounding! Beautiful.Refreshing. I wish more families had access to other birthing options. Were I live there is only 1woman that I know of that will do a homebirth. Your son is an excellent swimmer even from day one. I hope "western style" medicine will one day catch up to other options for women and their families.
scoresone2002 2 years ago
hello- thank you for the reply- we are all doing our own little parts to bring birth back to the love it deserves- and thereby bringing the world- one baby at a time- back to the love it deserves- thanks for coming here and for taking the time to connect-
yes sonoma swam from the first minute- in the days that followed he spent many many hours in the tidepool backfloating around solo as an acuatic infant- if only we all could remember how gifted we really are-
hugs to all-
xiodanse 2 years ago
how does it work having your children never actually get "txtbook" education? will that hinder them if they want to go to college? just curious....
rsdangel 2 years ago
hello rs-
good question!-
with freedom for children a parent may not invest in the outcome of a childs life unless the child asks for it- and children do not ask for compulsory schooling or college-
a parents job is to keep a child safe- to love and approve of them- and to nourish them- that's all-
this makes happy children and people!-
if they grow up and do not have what they want- they have the passion and resilience which freedom and approval afforded them to go and get it!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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this way the child does not blame the parent- for they made their own choices-
of course the parent of a free child helps and supports much more and more often than with a schooled child- for the free child is passionate and interested indeed and expects attention and support of their interests- just not in the things you might imagine-
hooray for freedom!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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we all understand this politically- "i want freedom to be myself!" we say in democracy-
"you will do what we think is best for you!" they say in communism-
it is time we treat our children like we want to be treated!-
it boils down to trust-
we were not trusted as children to know what we wanted- so now we do not trust our children to guide their own lives-
if government never trusts us to govern ourselves- how will we ever prove that we can?
trust freedom!
xiodanse 2 years ago
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our eldest xiomara decided to go to college at 21- with no grades or transcripts or records- and she was told it was impossible-
careful telling a passionate free child that anything is impossible-
one year later she entered a california 4 year university by special admission with a g.e.d. and test scores off the charts- the first in california history-
we the parents were only there to say "go xio go!- and be there for the many hugs and cries-
love'em! free'em!
xiodanse 2 years ago
wow, thank you so much for your response! what an amazing way you've chosen to love and respect your kids. and wow, your daughter made history; very very impressive! thanks again so much for the beauitful video and showing the world out there that there's other options!!!
rsdangel 2 years ago
you're welcome rs- and i know that you are or will be options for your own- far beyond what your own parents were capable of- it may look dark sometimes everyone- but we are moving forward- trust the chilren for they will grow up to be more than we are someday- just like we did- best wishes to you and those you love everyone- we are all doing just fine!
xiodanse 2 years ago
Wondrous!
yuniique 2 years ago
hi yuniique- some day you will do your own wondrous birth!-
xiodanse 2 years ago
but why is he naked? beautiful birth and area though..just want to know why he is naked also????
kigirlfcbf1 2 years ago
hello! a natural birth starts out with a natural mother and a natural father- and results in a natural baby- when two people are in love and make love they are naturally naked- and when the love child is born they are naturally naked- it felt really beautiful for all of us to be so natural- and with this beautiful event clothing of any kind would have taken away from the event- and doesn't he have a beautiful body!- from nica the mom
xiodanse 2 years ago
Beautiful!
zimovjel 2 years ago
Lovely! Thanks for sharing!
laurashanley 2 years ago
THAT is amazing! WOW! Just beautiful. **tears**
DoulaSurround 2 years ago
Wow. That was astonishingly beautiful. I cried when she finally turned around and got to see her son. Just wonderful and full of love. <3
3goodtimes 2 years ago
hi and thanks for the reply!- if you look carefully at the video- nica the momma also cried as she beheld her newborn son!- then she asked if she could do it again!- (she did the same thing after all 4 babies)- now that is ecstatic birth for you!
xiodanse 2 years ago
that is just so amazing.....that would have to be the best way to birth. Thanks for sharing and showing how it should be.
lisa5boys 2 years ago
you are welcome!
ecstatic birth is where the birthing mother and baby feel ecstacy during birth- where contractions feel like euphoric orgasmic like flutters-
the amount of pain a woman and child feel during childbirth is directly proportionate to the amount of pain experienced during the mothers birth and the trauma and deprivations of the mothers early childhood-
if a mothers own birth and childhood were not ideal- only long term deep feeling therapy and grieving can heal the pain!
xiodanse 2 years ago
hello!- people are doing water births and ocean births as an expression of love for their babies- themselves- and as a gesture of peace and gentility for our world-
hospital births cause and perpetrate pain- and so an ocean birth is the ultimate natural water birth or gentle birth-
xiodanse 2 years ago
hi there!- roe (hubby) answering-
yes!- extraordinary sonoma is now 15- besides his ocean birth- like his 3 sisters he is auto-didactic (self educated)- and self regulated- he is very gentle- funny- and loves to play music and fly airplanes- he is now 5' ll" tall and plays and plays the whole day long- (since he doesnt go to school or get home schooled-
thanks for the comments!
xiodanse 2 years ago
why doesnt he go to school?
xmissjones2youx 2 years ago
hello!-
sonoma and his three sisters are all auto didactic- meaning self educated- they have never been to school or been home schooled- they are self regulated- meaning they are in charge of their own interests and time- basically freedom and approval for children inspired by a.s. neill's summerhill school in england which is still going strong- it is wonderful to be a child free to be a child the way a child knows they want to be!- it makes for a happy person as an adult!
thanks for asking
xiodanse 2 years ago
Oh right!i undersatand now!:)
Thanx for sharing ,its a beautiful video!
:)
xmissjones2youx 2 years ago
Hey this poor creature was 45 seconds underwater!!! he/she it was a not good idea to cut the cord being underwater!
hedleypanama 2 years ago
hello!- sonoma could have swam a lot longer!- but mom wanted to hug him!- his cord was not cut until long after the birth- so he was never at risk-
xiodanse 2 years ago