i was sooo ready to dislike u and ur video . But Im glad i gave u a chance. thanks for the pick me up, I was truly worried about this issue and had decided to put dating on hold because I was convinced a sex free relationship could not exist.
@danieblu i think this applies more to non-christian (godly) men; men with no morals or values. Throwing all guys in the same boat is kinda unfair. The terminalogies that he used, may not be the best, but it makes sense.
I feel like if a guy is in a relationship with a girl who he loves very much and she is waiting for marriage. Why not just marry her then so he won''t be tempted to get the sex from elsewhere. I think all you need is a few months to a year at most to know whether you will last with a person. Unless there is a reason where you really cannot get married due to finances or being in school, but if not, then why wait for those people who can get married.
omgi loved this! thankyou for answering that question for me i always needed to know and im still looking for a brother that thinks the way you do! btw i had to subscribe! keep the truth comin bud ;)
The Devil is a liar ... ALL men want sex.... Mental pusssy???:/ nah pussy is pussy!! And all the meaningful conversation isn't going to change that .. when a guy see's an attractive woman hes not thinking about all the meaningful conversation and philosophical discussion he's going to have with her ... he's thinking about the quickest route to her vagina... sorry just the truth/ my opinion ...
2:57-3:52 You just described God's mate for us but you'd be surprise how MOST don't want that. I mean we ask God to send a man/woman who we can spend the rest of our lives with but not really willing to go through the process to find and have that kind of love. Usually a little things called lust and impatience get in our way. "House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord."-Pro 19:14
@sjsafety18 I must say this is hillarious! I enjoy how you articulate your viewpoint. I really appreciate your transparency and honesty. Now i'm curious.... the more of your videos I watch the more I wonder what your degree is in. You may be missing your calling.... Inquiring minds would like to know...
@sjsafety18 Journalism... I took a class on the subject some umpteenth years ago. I can see that. I'm sure you know you have the gift of gab,articulation, and hmm the camera loves you. I'd say that degree is working. I would have guessed your major would have been psychology or sociology or the like. But hmm I guessed incorrectly... anywho... Thanks for the laughs and indulging me in my guilty pleasures.
As far as I know, mine is waiting. All I can say is I trust he's being faithful. However if he isn't, then I either pray that I NEVER find out or that I do in enough time before it affects me negatively (i.e.STD) and so that I can end it. I totally agree..we do have amazing mental sex! He always says how amazed at how much fun he has when we're together. He used to say how he'd never watched the Golden Girls.. until me! IT'S MY FAVORITE SHOW! FYI...I do sextext him sometimes though = GUILTY! LOL
LMBO...ur a great speaker and hilarious. I'm a Christian and am therefore not putting out, but I really love what you said bout a 'mental vagina' lol! Unfortunately, in my experience, most guys r not content with just that (especially the Christian ones). They always say I'm wife material and love to hang out with me, then go date the girl that gives it up. Oh well, their loss :)
@Enyibebe omg, I feel you. I always get "you're wifey material," "I never met a girl like you, I really wanna be with you.....but,I don't know if I can get down with the celibacy." It sucks, but I know that my waiting will not be in vain. I love knowing that this area of my life is pleasing to God,along with the rest.No dibbling and dabbling :-)
Great vid, I think mental sex should exist even in relationships where the parties are not celibate otherwise if all you have is intercourse then your relationship will not last too long
I am soooo guilty of the touching and kissing then saying "stop". LMAO I do tell them up front I am not going to give them the cookies. They just think I will give in if we start messing around and they have all been WRONG.
Real talk thanks for this nice video. I don't think nothing wrong being celibate. Good conversations to stimulate the mind that's a very interesting thing.
no physical contact and your not haven sex!! thats just being friends. i think physical contact should be ok. he should have some control over his body!
You said that! And I can confirm that it is true. Not to say that they don't get some elsewhere sometimes while they're waiting but even so they always come back to the woman with substance when they want something serious as long as she has those great traits that you mentioned. It takes a bad woman to hold a man's interest without sex, I know lol
My boo told me flat out he couldn't do it. I think it takes a certain type of man to be able to do it. I agree that if you aren't having sex with him, you better be able to stimulate him mentally otherwise it's a wrap. You better be a 10 in all other aspects.
Lol no they are not all extinct! I'll be 25 this month and yes I am still a virgin. I always get the "why don't you have a man?? You too pretty to be single and you are a virgin?" response from guys. So, for that reason, I never been in a relationship and I only dated one guy and that guy stopped talking to me on this note: "I love you, but I don't want to hurt you" meaning he knew that he couldn't be in a celibate relationship, so he didn't want to commit to one, I respect him for that.
lol...Great vid, very funny! and good advice! I almost died laughing when you took like 5 years to ponder if you could be in a sex free relationship! And that is very true about the mental sex. its very important to be able to hold a conversation and for each other to keep the relationship interesting!
LOVING the MJ poster in the background. I'm glad that you added the part at the end about "no things that typically lead to sex." That's where I struggle. I've decided to remain celibate, but refraining from the touchy, feely, sensual stuff is difficult. I need to hear that section about 15 more times.
omg! i soo love u right now. i never expected that kind of answer from a guy. i'm a 20 year old virgin and i've never been in a serious relationship. i have guy friends and they're shocked when they find out that i'm a virgin.
I am not a virgin but have been celibate for......3 yrs next month and in the past had a long distance relationship where we both were celibate and saw each other quite often..i think it can work if both people in the situation have the same morals and feelings about the relationship..and believe me a sex free relationship is far from boring ...cause like you said they have to have "Great Mind Sex" .. ..
Perhaps I am just a cynic, but I don't think many men these days could do it. Sure, he may TELL you he is okay with it, but I'm thinking if he isn't getting it from you, that doesn't mean he isn't getting it from somewhere else, at least once in while. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there are some out there who can be in a celibate relationship with a virgin (even those who are born-again vigins), but I honestly think those are few and far between.
@Enyibebe aint that the truth
kchism1 1 day ago
Love love love the video x
enommis100 3 days ago
that was a good answer.
truth3712 3 days ago
LOVED THIS!!!!LOL!! " we should stop!!" hahahaha
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i was sooo ready to dislike u and ur video . But Im glad i gave u a chance. thanks for the pick me up, I was truly worried about this issue and had decided to put dating on hold because I was convinced a sex free relationship could not exist.
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Dlover2k5 1 week ago
really liked and the appreciated this
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dwl... u r just to much
eazy55able 2 weeks ago
aww dis guys amazing! God is there anymore of him available?
FaithandChrist 2 weeks ago
"You better have some great mental vagina" LOL!!!!!!
yoruba21 2 weeks ago 3
This video is so funny but also very factual. I can't fault you brother....
StarGyrl 2 weeks ago
I love how long you took to answer the questions... Funny
Urbanmotifs 3 weeks ago
Love love love this!!!! Glad that you were honest in your answer. Love the mental sex point! lol definitely subscribed =)
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Lmbooo that makes a lot of sense
ladiismilezz6 3 weeks ago
@danieblu i think this applies more to non-christian (godly) men; men with no morals or values. Throwing all guys in the same boat is kinda unfair. The terminalogies that he used, may not be the best, but it makes sense.
mermadious 4 weeks ago
Guys can still be unfaithful even if you give it up to him so I think a girl should stick to her values.
misscamara12 4 weeks ago 3
I feel like if a guy is in a relationship with a girl who he loves very much and she is waiting for marriage. Why not just marry her then so he won''t be tempted to get the sex from elsewhere. I think all you need is a few months to a year at most to know whether you will last with a person. Unless there is a reason where you really cannot get married due to finances or being in school, but if not, then why wait for those people who can get married.
misscamara12 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
loved this!
ElleChi24 1 month ago
I already knew I wanted to subscribe and then I saw Michael in the background and I couldn't have clicked that subscribe button fast enough =D <3
ac9231 1 month ago
Subscribed!!!! That was the RIGHTTTTTT answer! I love all your videos by the way!
calinefrombu 1 month ago
SUBSCRIBED!!! Now all that needs to happen is males my age to understand this... "New Generation" -__-
MayaPapaya94 1 month ago
As a male, I can answer this question very quickly.
"No!"
GluttonForSex 1 month ago
omgi loved this! thankyou for answering that question for me i always needed to know and im still looking for a brother that thinks the way you do! btw i had to subscribe! keep the truth comin bud ;)
bonafiedbeauty1 1 month ago
The Devil is a liar ... ALL men want sex.... Mental pusssy???:/ nah pussy is pussy!! And all the meaningful conversation isn't going to change that .. when a guy see's an attractive woman hes not thinking about all the meaningful conversation and philosophical discussion he's going to have with her ... he's thinking about the quickest route to her vagina... sorry just the truth/ my opinion ...
danieblu 1 month ago
Damnn So Deep (smile)
prettycarmencurls 1 month ago
2:57-3:52 You just described God's mate for us but you'd be surprise how MOST don't want that. I mean we ask God to send a man/woman who we can spend the rest of our lives with but not really willing to go through the process to find and have that kind of love. Usually a little things called lust and impatience get in our way. "House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord."-Pro 19:14
Tendra 1 month ago 2
@Tendra amen i would rather have that then sex anyday #teamnofornication
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@Tendra Amen!
tashtee89 1 month ago
That's Real!!!
denita81 1 month ago
You had me rollin at 'mental pussy'...keep doing what you're doing. Keep enlightening the people.
NaturallyYours87 1 month ago
real talk...like ur vids
nappyqueen86 1 month ago in playlist More videos from sjsafety18
Ok. LOL!!! Just asking. Love me some Kappa's even though I married a Sigma.
MzDija7480 1 month ago
Are u in a fraternity?
MzDija7480 1 month ago
@MzDija7480 ppl ask me that alot, no ma'am. i know the "yo" is a kappa trademark but thats not why i do it. lol but no fraternity here
sjsafety18 1 month ago 2
so then how long do you wait if the relationship is going to be a sexual one or does it just happen when it happens?
digitalredbone 1 month ago
This is a good one. I like your answers because they are straight up and you don't hold back from an honest answer. Love it!
KellBeezy28 2 months ago 3
Subbed. Oh, can you marry me?
RosaCarmesi 2 months ago
I def do that to my bf lmao...we should stop lmao
LoveTana1 2 months ago
@LoveTana1 Omg. Me too. I didn't realize that was a problem. I guess I will have to be a complete square now.
Peachesfolife 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Haha . you're straight #realtalk and you had me lauging. lol. i subbed.
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@AyannaSunshine thank u for subbing! im glad i could bring a lil laughter to your life
sjsafety18 2 months ago
@sjsafety18 I must say this is hillarious! I enjoy how you articulate your viewpoint. I really appreciate your transparency and honesty. Now i'm curious.... the more of your videos I watch the more I wonder what your degree is in. You may be missing your calling.... Inquiring minds would like to know...
sgenisesgs 2 months ago 5
@sgenisesgs lol thank u. i majored in Journalism & Mass Communications @ North Carolina A&T
sjsafety18 2 months ago 6
@sjsafety18 Journalism... I took a class on the subject some umpteenth years ago. I can see that. I'm sure you know you have the gift of gab,articulation, and hmm the camera loves you. I'd say that degree is working. I would have guessed your major would have been psychology or sociology or the like. But hmm I guessed incorrectly... anywho... Thanks for the laughs and indulging me in my guilty pleasures.
sgenisesgs 2 months ago
Can i have you for Christmas
LikeaPROhair 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
As far as I know, mine is waiting. All I can say is I trust he's being faithful. However if he isn't, then I either pray that I NEVER find out or that I do in enough time before it affects me negatively (i.e.STD) and so that I can end it. I totally agree..we do have amazing mental sex! He always says how amazed at how much fun he has when we're together. He used to say how he'd never watched the Golden Girls.. until me! IT'S MY FAVORITE SHOW! FYI...I do sextext him sometimes though = GUILTY! LOL
ShanaJaye 2 months ago
You reason really well and you should use that talent for something else not just youtube.
iMoca90 2 months ago
LMBO...ur a great speaker and hilarious. I'm a Christian and am therefore not putting out, but I really love what you said bout a 'mental vagina' lol! Unfortunately, in my experience, most guys r not content with just that (especially the Christian ones). They always say I'm wife material and love to hang out with me, then go date the girl that gives it up. Oh well, their loss :)
Enyibebe 2 months ago 16
@Enyibebe Just stay true to your values. When they're done with those girls they will turn to women like you to find a wife. :-)
Peachesfolife 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@Enyibebe omg, I feel you. I always get "you're wifey material," "I never met a girl like you, I really wanna be with you.....but,I don't know if I can get down with the celibacy." It sucks, but I know that my waiting will not be in vain. I love knowing that this area of my life is pleasing to God,along with the rest.No dibbling and dabbling :-)
dnyknight05 2 months ago
@Enyibebe AMEN!
MalaikaQ 5 days ago
Lol!
Paula1991Virtue 2 months ago
Great vid, I think mental sex should exist even in relationships where the parties are not celibate otherwise if all you have is intercourse then your relationship will not last too long
Shirl292 2 months ago
I am soooo guilty of the touching and kissing then saying "stop". LMAO I do tell them up front I am not going to give them the cookies. They just think I will give in if we start messing around and they have all been WRONG.
babyu21 2 months ago
mental vagina?!?! hahaha love it
ibqtubu 2 months ago
Im christian, still a virgin. And I want my husband to be that too. In the christian world, its actually really normal, so it is where you look.
zairekrieger 2 months ago 7
@zairekrieger really are there any cute virgin men? im being serious im waiting to but i dont see many male virgins here :(
kattaplay 2 months ago 2
haha this is pretty funny
brooklie57 3 months ago
Real talk thanks for this nice video. I don't think nothing wrong being celibate. Good conversations to stimulate the mind that's a very interesting thing.
missladylove100 3 months ago
no physical contact and your not haven sex!! thats just being friends. i think physical contact should be ok. he should have some control over his body!
JadeyJadePlace 4 months ago 2
Ok but no physical contact? lol Its called will power:-)
msbumblebee80 4 months ago
You said that! And I can confirm that it is true. Not to say that they don't get some elsewhere sometimes while they're waiting but even so they always come back to the woman with substance when they want something serious as long as she has those great traits that you mentioned. It takes a bad woman to hold a man's interest without sex, I know lol
msbumblebee80 4 months ago
Yes we exist, we just get overlooked a lot of the times
nlking10 4 months ago 40
@nlking10 THERE IS HOPE. =D
zairekrieger 2 months ago
Yes we do still exist
mmmcookie23 4 months ago 2
Great video!!! Love the tips and advice!! I'm a 21yr old virgin and this is the main reason why I've been single for as long as I have been.
chocolateangel52 4 months ago
My boo told me flat out he couldn't do it. I think it takes a certain type of man to be able to do it. I agree that if you aren't having sex with him, you better be able to stimulate him mentally otherwise it's a wrap. You better be a 10 in all other aspects.
snc99 4 months ago
Awesome Video!!!!!!
Someone please clone this man a thousand time. As a virgin, it's difficult to meet men that feel this way!!
Marianspeace 4 months ago 5
Extinct??!! lol That's messed up... From 4:11-4:34 you sound like my ex haha!!... Nice MJ pic in the back btw. :o)
RosiLeouis80 4 months ago
Lol no they are not all extinct! I'll be 25 this month and yes I am still a virgin. I always get the "why don't you have a man?? You too pretty to be single and you are a virgin?" response from guys. So, for that reason, I never been in a relationship and I only dated one guy and that guy stopped talking to me on this note: "I love you, but I don't want to hurt you" meaning he knew that he couldn't be in a celibate relationship, so he didn't want to commit to one, I respect him for that.
onlylegit01 4 months ago
I LIK COOKIES 2 LOL
GeorgeouxDash 4 months ago
lol...Great vid, very funny! and good advice! I almost died laughing when you took like 5 years to ponder if you could be in a sex free relationship! And that is very true about the mental sex. its very important to be able to hold a conversation and for each other to keep the relationship interesting!
MissLoloy 4 months ago
This was a great topic, and you gave very good advice. Plus you dressed nicely.
A++ Great poster. Would read again.
cocoapeach 4 months ago
Omg this was hilarious
MsKdoll1 4 months ago
LOVING the MJ poster in the background. I'm glad that you added the part at the end about "no things that typically lead to sex." That's where I struggle. I've decided to remain celibate, but refraining from the touchy, feely, sensual stuff is difficult. I need to hear that section about 15 more times.
SoKnotNappy 4 months ago
omg! i soo love u right now. i never expected that kind of answer from a guy. i'm a 20 year old virgin and i've never been in a serious relationship. i have guy friends and they're shocked when they find out that i'm a virgin.
TheSoflydiva 4 months ago
Love this video lmao!
KaSheLuv 4 months ago
Great video!! Very real lmbo. But did you wear a suit just for the video? :P
mimigirljoy 4 months ago
thanks !
jaurre2007 4 months ago
Great advice!
Kinkycurlycoil 4 months ago
looking Good..... Great video...
jrnelson81 4 months ago
OMG!!! Great descriptions of "mind sex (mental sex)"!!!!
kristenjdec 4 months ago
Agreed:)
JaydinChristine 4 months ago
I am not a virgin but have been celibate for......3 yrs next month and in the past had a long distance relationship where we both were celibate and saw each other quite often..i think it can work if both people in the situation have the same morals and feelings about the relationship..and believe me a sex free relationship is far from boring ...cause like you said they have to have "Great Mind Sex" .. ..
Luvnme09 4 months ago
I felt like I just stepped out of the doctors office!
AfroMohawkable 4 months ago
Girl, when u gon let me beat that thang for ya ...LMAO Dead*
loveiseverything25 4 months ago 7
@loveiseverything25 lmaoooooo
BLACKCHERRY66 3 months ago
@loveiseverything25 That made me Die! I swear this southern guy said that EXACT thing when I was a freshman in College hahahah!
Aurora7399 3 months ago
Perhaps I am just a cynic, but I don't think many men these days could do it. Sure, he may TELL you he is okay with it, but I'm thinking if he isn't getting it from you, that doesn't mean he isn't getting it from somewhere else, at least once in while. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there are some out there who can be in a celibate relationship with a virgin (even those who are born-again vigins), but I honestly think those are few and far between.
kandiekj100 4 months ago 26
@kandiekj100 I agree
kristenjdec 4 months ago
Lmao! Great vid!
KokoGigglesLots 4 months ago
You clean up real nice.
useemi1 4 months ago 3
IM A VIRGIN!!! (in my nostril hahahahahahaha)
cassideez 4 months ago