Is This Long Distance Relationship Really Possible?

[watvid1]

wow i dont know how i got on this vid but the answer is common sense geez. or does this mean im good at giving advice too?

[mysteriousguest13]

Dan and Jan....ive been dating my gf for 4 years...i moved and i live 2 hours away...but im moving back in a 2 years...one year passed and were going for one more..but i feel as if im loosing her..she says she loves me but says that she dosent feel the same....but when i go visit..she says that she feels like if her heart was about to explode..im doing everything in my power to support her and hold on for just one more year ...im going to visit in a week..anything i can do??

[ananbxora]

LDR is possible but need very much work by both side!

(My experience) ;)

[countrybabe3818]

This really didnt help mee... :/ Im dating this amazing boy from canada but yet im in Pennsylvaina...

[jenpockets]

I am in the exact same situation. My fieonce is a marine in Okinawa and he has been gone for 1 year and 4 months. I see him on average about every 4 months. The thing I don't like about this video is they harp on the circumstance thing and not on giving good unique heart felt advice. Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable to move, maybe she can't go with him cause she is in school or she can't leave the country for whatever reason. Also there are some duty stations that don't allow spouses. Any w

[123Shelbi]

lol, I live in Missouri, US and my boyfriend lives in Bath, UK... That pretty much sucks, but I love the feeling I get when I see him for the first time in months.

[CarvedGrape]

Here's a question. I've known this girl for a little over a year now, she lives in Wisconsin, I live in Virginia (13 hour drive, not too bad), since January, we've gotten a lot closer (Skype every night, texts, sexts), her birthday was last weekend and now she acts indifferent and doesn't show nearly as much interest in talking to me like she used to. I know it's only been a few days but we used to talk on the phone every night, maybe I'm just paranoid. Advice to cope with this?

[spicegirl479]

@CarvedGrape shes probably very fond of you but finding it difficult not to see you as much as she would like,talk to her and ask her upfront thats the only way it will last, ive been in this situation except i was the girl acting indifferent.

[CarvedGrape]

@spicegirl479 Why did you act different? For the reason you provided?

[spicegirl479]

@CarvedGrape I was frustrated by lack of phuysical contact its important part, and i didnt communicate enough.

[CarvedGrape]

@spicegirl479 Thank you very much for the input. It has made me feel a little bit more at ease about my situation.

[marianita3004]

horrible video terrible advices!!!

reasons why she cant come..a thousand!! it doesnt have to do with how strong the commitment or the love is.

I my self, have a LDR and we cannot be together until i finish my mastrs studies (another 2 years), it doesnt have to do with not being commited.

And yes LDR can work, depending on the person, you and your partner, what each one is looking for, and how willing are they to commit.

In a LDR u are a 100% on it or your not.

[peppers1616]

that woman looks like a fucking whore and the guy looks mega-gay

[gorditabellisima]

All is possible if have true love!!!

[pinkawaii25]

fuuuuuucccccck this american mongoloid parasites giving couples with a LDR advice . phone sex daw ow ? tang ina mo

[ovhell13]

wannabe amature advice givers lol...

[Halfcastkidbj]

my girl is from guinea (west africa). im from germany!

CHECK OUR LONG DISTANCE 101s on our channel

THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Halfcastkidbj]

i like the video! i'm in a LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP as well

check out my #1advice for you guys in english and french!

watch?v=I1PtQaekhWY

[privatebeachxo]

you are giving fucking horrible advice. you both should kill yourselves. distance doesnt end a relationship

[xXBambiHuntXx]

This is the worst advice ive ever heard you too give.

[aniger818]

I've got some advice, amor de lejos amor de pendejos

[Ziixt]

This is stupid. You guys are horrible at giving advice. If you REALLY love someone, you would try your hardest to still be with them, even if you can't really be THERE for them. And wth? "Let's get married now?" No, that's stupid. I see nothing wrong with distance, I've been in a relationship for a year without seeing my boyfriend, and I still love him to death. if you can't wait for your partner then fuck you. You aren't worth it. 

[ArtyBlackops]

@Ziixt thank u my gf just broke up with me we been together for two years distance and time is just a challange are u going to pass or fail and if u fail did that mean u even loved them in the first place.if u think of distance and time the hole time i think u only want sex you dont really care about them and thats sad.

[cypha128]

You guys are TWATS!!!

[rach080]

Maybe her circumstances are college... way to be negative.

[Baldtel]

hi

I'm after advice on what to do. I started to write a blog about meeting this girl.

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I dont know what to do about this. Do I move on?

Help...

[katrinathalia]

I know what you mean my husband is in Iraq .......we do alot of yahoo messenger an video chat along with lots of phone calls. Sometimes the distance can be good because you also realize how much that person means to you. As long as both of you guys are commited to jus eachother an keep the relationship together its seems as tho the distance makes you fall more in love with that person.

[caminatamusic]

im in indonesia and my boyfriend is in netherland, we are separated by 6 hours, its a bit hard to communicate with the time difference, and it does get frustrating at times, but we love each other so much, so we decided to do whatever it takes to make it work

[stereosrocks]

HAHAHAHAH phone sex lmfao

[akyley]

My husband lived in US as a legal permanent resident and couldn't bring his family there ( me and our 2 kids) until he became an American citizen ....so...

We had LDR for 5 years because he was a LPR :))...

[mzgillis91]

Hi everybody.

I'm 18 years old and me and my husband(Boyfriend lol] have been in a LDR for 3years. We haven't seen each other one time since the LDR started.

We've had alot of hard times and things that we went through, but, we're still together and very very much in love.

We're planning to get married in 2011 b/c of school.

Don't listen to negativity. Stay positive and strong.

Everything will work out.

=)

[zeromont]

needed to hear that from somewhere. thanks. cus this video didnt help at all haha

[DOSU344]

Thanks.)) My girl is in Russia im in America we have a great communication, and always have a spark in our relation.

We are far, but we are near, we have been 2 years for LDR and i will visit her in the end of APRIL

[4britt2babe0]

this adivice really helps me, i cried of happiness, because evryone tells me to find someone in my own town that makes me happy, that i need a physical relationship, but reading these comments really give me hope :)

[marissalee1990]

Im in a LDR 4 the past 11months we spend 6 months together,he live in USA i Live In Barbados after i came back we have been fightin alot and he never as time to talk at all everynight im on skype waiting for him but when we talk it always end up in fight most of the time it bout nothing and he always say it cause of me,all i do is be home work and wait for him to call but im the who is calllin i dont even have friend 14years but i really dont know where we are going in this one i need help

[Sabrinaleewizzle]

you guys just need to see each other and be reminded of everything that brought you guys together.

[marissalee1990]

14 years is how long we knew each other.....

but thank you i guess well have to see when i do see im a let you how it going............happy new year

[Sabrinaleewizzle]

To you too :) I hope every thing works out for you.

[Moony1989]

I was there... it didn't work. I would sugjest trying to move on... I know it sucks, but believe me.

[Ninjaholkensbrud]

I had a 3 years distance relationship that worked fine, everyone is different and never listen to this #"¤"#¤%#¤%

[HeartBreakBlake]

i know how you feel about the distance i live in Ontario Canada and she lives in california but we plan to see eachother after school but thats pretty far away from now

[stereosrocks]

@bellamia126 pshh i live in canada mines in norway but we still love eachother

[TheBrii]

@bellamia126

Ahah.. well you know what (: I win over all of you, my guy lives in Australia, me in Canada. We're doing amazing, heheh XD

[pilawuvsgerger]

ive been dating my boy friend for a 1yr and i live in cali he lives in florida lol :) and its awesome! the communicATION IS STRONG AND THE LOVE :) :)

[tm11111111]

If anyone wants to tell me about their LDR[general stuff, but if more, that's okay] I just started one today so I really want to know what it's like for everyone else who is in one :)

[catherin77]

LDR really do work even though so many ppl would tell you the opposite. There've been some hard but loads of sweet moments in my own LDR. And my advice don't listen to anyone but try it yourself. ONLY IF BOTH OF YOU ARE REALLY COMMITTED THOUGH.

If you are genuinely love that person then it's worth it!!

[elina2010]

okay well i'm in a long distance relationship , i'm about 10 and a bit hours away from him (Manitoba for me which is in canada, im actually 30 min away from the border.. and Iowa for him) .. yeah it sucks :(

but yes hes going to come for my bday in november and then he's going for basic training in the marine corps. It's going to be tough but we have talking overall as friends for 3 years and we've liked each other for about a year. So I personally think people who survive LDRs are very strong

[SexyAlexaTTB4L]

my bf lives four hrs away and i talk to him 24/7 and we just had our 3 month anniversarry so u guys can suck it it duz work i love u zach xoxo- alexa

[fati48]

um chatting every day can be awefully boring. at first its fun, then u dont have much to talk about. so u should stay in touch but dont chat/call/etc everyday. u'll have nothing to talk about soon. but do it at 1-2 times a week. but if u both r talking and good at finding things to talk about, then 3-4 times a week. NOT EVERY DAY. and NOT 1-4 days in a row. or w/e

[gammypage]

They didn't give any advice, also don't text every day, you#d get sick of each other, or one of you would get sick of the other, call every 5-9 days, and have a chat for 45 mins.

[anm6malice1]

wtf that was the dumbest thing ive ever heard.

[SoniaB5]

That was horrible advice...

[stereosrocks]

@SoniaB5 so so true

[MissRoxyLouise]

hey guys, me and boyfriend had been together 9 months when he was forced to move to australia by his parents, first of all we talked nearly every day and now its not as much because his laptop has broken he told me he sent a letter but i havent received it yet,but i am in essex so. he has got a job and is working all the time so i dont get to talk to him much, its like every three days. but he tells me he cant live with out me. i really dont know what to do i love him loads.

[CadetSquirrel]

My fiancé is military as well and I have to say a deep rooted love makes the difference. YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHAT YOUR GETTING YOURSELF INTO. There are night when it is incredibly romantic and sweet and others when you literally ache hoping they are safe and that the pain of missing them will go away. People will tell you that you're stupid and that it is a waste of time. Again know what you want and be prepared to fight for it.

[ronniegana2]

circumstances could be age, that country might be dangerous for dependents or its just that they're not married.

[DakidImetnhighschool]

My boyfriend is currently in Brazil as a foriegn exchange student and will be there for about a year. It has already been about three months and we are still going strong racking up the months on our two year relationship. One this that has been a life saver for us has been SKYPE. We can talk to one another throught the computer without any phonebill hassels or whatnot. It does, however, hurt terribly not to see him or hug him whenever I want.

[binoyrakesh]

wish you a great future. unfortunately, mine did not work. she met someone and liked him better.

[H3Media]

I am REALLY sorry, but that was a poor poor answer for his question; you basically repeated what he already knew. The circumstances do not matter, & to spend that much time of the video on it was awful.

he's in the military, how much time do you think he has for the internet? Even if he did, you just repeated what he probably already knew.

If I had more space to write, I'd probably post my own advice - anyway sorry for being a bug but...ya..

[79Shingo]

agreed! since he's not there to answer their questions, they should just go with the assumption that the circumstances are unchangeable. They're engaged so they must be serious about getting married, therefore if they're not married yet, there must be some real obastacle in the way.

I love how (purposely?) uncreative they are about trying to "figure out" the reason the couple can't be together. Maybe she's in school, maybe she's taking of a dying family member, who cares!

Just answer the Q!

[79Shingo]

anyways, my advice is trust and communication. I've been making one work for 3 1/2 years now and we are still crazy about each other. We talk every day, which I presume won't be possible for you two, but try as much as possible. If you don't keep in touch and stay in each others' minds with something more current than a memory, eventually that's all that person will become. I use Skype a lot and if you buy Skype phones, you can plug it into your router without turning the computer on.

[79Shingo]

Skype also has "cell" phones that can pick up on WiFi signals to connect to the net. You just log in to your account and all your contacts are there. I don't know where you are, but if she's in North America, you can also, for $35/year, get unlimited calling to "real" telephones so you can reach her without her having to be logged into Skype if you just call her cell phone. I swear I don't work for Skype, I just love them cause they've really saved my relationship.

...and my wallet!

good luck

[Gahara08]

Damn!!!! LDR is like a torture!!!

[epinis]

@Gahara08 it sure is....

[silvermasquerade93]

thanks for posting this video.

i hate when people beat up long distance relationships, because they aren't "real relationships". My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year, and he moved about a month ago. I am in illinois and he is in texas, and we are in high school. We are very serious about each other and really want to make it work. I'll get to see him over christmas and summer break, but it still kills me sometimes.

[dawoel]

My girlfriend just moved back to america for university & I'l be in scotland, we're both doing 4 yhr courses. Yep, It's a killer. So far its "well lets see how it works out"

[honeybear947]

I kno how he feels cuz i wont be able 2 see my boyfriend fo 2 years

[Imaryannharo]

why won't you be able to see him in 2 years?

[davyse]

Been in a long distance relationship for 1 year and 8 months now (I'm in sweden he's in france, we're both students), so far it's working out really well. I don't cheat on him and trust him enough not to cheat either, might sound naive but that's the way we make it work. Trust and loads of communication. We meet up a couple of months every year but talk on skype several times a week. My advice would be work hard, if you don't it will fall apart.

[Dalmasca18]

To Davyse: it's not being naive at all. My boyfriend, who lives almost 17 hours away, won't be able to make it out to see me early July. Now I have to wait another few months, maybe even longer. You have to have complete trust in your partner. I've put a lot into this relationship and I'm not about to let it fall apart with something as silly as "distance."

[Teefree1]

I was in a LDR for 5 years, 3 months ago we split apart, was the hardest thing ever, i'm still recovering but she'll always go through my head, is there anything i can do to help me move on?

[gunturina]

yeah i agree with that,its either 1 party join the other @ the relationship ends.i've been with my ex for nearly 5yrs when im studying although we met once in 'bout 5mnths it doesnt survive either.now im in long distance relationship with another guy,its very hard as we are in process of breaking..

[99virgo]

NO WAY!!!! This is a fact. Between the two someone will have to relocate!! Looking at the numbers (today)girls cheat more than men!! Long distance will make sure you get cheated on, and lied to.

[Euterpe001]

I was in a LDR for 2 years and I never cheated. Mind you the longest we were apart was 3 months, not 3 years... But I would much rather break up with someone than cheat on them.

[99virgo]

Then you are a rare girl. Where i'm from the girls lie, lie , lie!! I'm 33 years old and i have only met four honest girls. All girl friends or wives of my friends, sav 4 one. She was in love with some other guy but hey, she was honest about it. Hell one girl was dating slep with three guys in one night when i was on a trip. Did she tell me about it? noooooo!! She lied!! (like most girls do)

[Euterpe001]

Yeah. It's funny. Many of my friends always have boyfriends but I don't, yet I'm (not to be conceited but it's true) better gf material than they are.

[99virgo]

Yep. I understand. I've thought a few times that i should have met the girl before they did. Especially knowing the cold crap they had planned for them.

[Dalmasca18]

Same here. I think breaking up with someone is much better. Why lie to someone, and make yourself miserable??? That's why I don't understand cheaters. In fact, I don't believe in cheating at all. I even told my boyfriend, "if you hit it off with another broad and have no more interest in me whatsoever, I want you to tell me. Don't go behind my back."

[Core2k8]

i have a problem im in love with this gurl i no i am cant stop thinkin bout her ... im goin the army an we agreed not to go into the long distance thing buh i reli want 2 buh dun think i could cope with sumin lyk this ... any1 give me more advice or any experienced people dealt wit the same problem ?

[freehah]

I think there's no perfect answer to this question...it all depends on both parties and their will to keep this relationship alive...I have tried tat personally and yes, we do have bad time during that period, anything could happen...but watever happens, do not let it go jus like tat...because i believe, u will regret once u have a thought about it again...good luck to you and ur girl!

[Core2k8]

thanx alot

[asiancath]

I'm also in a long distance relationship and here are some tips for you using technology...

1.) Send text messages/call sometimes

2.) Send emails (won't cost than phone calls)

3.) Share intimate moments when you get a chance. It could be on the phone or online via web cam.

4.) When you send emails, try to attached pictures of you. (this helps stop you from working if you can't see each other online.)

-it takes a little WILL and little sacrifice to keep the love alive. :)

[asiancath]

Sorry Core2k I meant "worrying" not working. Lol! Attaching pictures on emails helps you to stop worrying when you can't catch each other online bec. of the work issues or TIME DIFFEENCE if you're on a different country and it will absolutely make your love one smile when he/she sees you on pics.

[asiancath]

Ohh dear... It's DIFFERENCE not Diffeence. LOL! Hope my advice will help you.

Cheers! ;)

[andypc78]

Don't join the fucking army douchebag. Army and relationships don't mix. Simple.

[aaronmp2003]

I've always believed that there are only 2 ways that a long-distance relationship ends: one person moves, or the relationship goes away. There are no in-betweens, and 3 years is too much of your life to spend away from someone that you love.

[thatissoraven]

just wondering have u thought of ask " Jennifer and Dane" rather than Dane and Jennifer

[AutumnBrooke]

She's probably in school or something. My husband and I did a year deployment and it is TOUGH. Three years would have made me go crazy!