When you love a woman and she breaks up the relationship it can be very horrible/terrible. infact i now believe when you sleep with a woman especially when feelings were involved it can be spiritual. i think it is emotionally unsafe to love a woman that does not love you
dang girl... i need this...me and my ex just broke up...this was so insightful coming from a mans perspective. I've seen some of ur videos before,... but this one will makee me subscribe = ) lata diva
I hate it when people say shit like "the black man has his views" Or "this poor black man has something to say"... It's most of you black people who ask for racism! Don't act like your racial inheritance needs more empathy than everyone else's. WE ARE ALL FLESH AND BLOOD, COLOR IS JUST A USELESS FACTOR. Fuck white pride Fuck the black brothers fuck Lebanese pride... LETS ALL JUST ACT AS ONE GOD DAMN RACE!!!! FUCK SAKE!!! *hyperventilates in a paper bag*.
I know guys like him and I know (single) guys who would sell their soul for a girlfriend, never raise a hand to her, even change his opinion to agree with her just to keep her happy. Some guys can approach a woman anywhere and not care about the outcome. Those are the guys women see all the time. Its the quiet shy men who can never get the nerve to approach/talk to women they dont know. Its sad.
If a man would 'sell his soul' for a girlfriend or change his mind to keep her happy..hes in the wrong state of mind, and ultimately she wont be happy, knowing he has no self worth. I agree its sad there are a TON of guys who are left out because they cannot approach, but they need to learn how to push aside the fear of rejection, which 'bad boys' do not have. Thats why nice guys have such hatred towards them, they dont understand you cant arrest yourself in doubt just because she might say no.
@RNRDOLL its not just fear of rejection alot of it is a guy liking a girl and just may not be where need to be to get at her. I always feel like if u dont think u "on ur game" or u just feel ur game isn't sharp enuff to pull her in u sud just approach her and talk to her, that way u can't go wrong. thing bout us dudes is when we like a girl and if we decide to let her know by comin on strong some dude who dont have experience
@fmcneillii Exactly, EVERY guy gets at least a little nervous talking to a girl he likes..its hardwired into or brain because she could be a total bitch about it, her boyfriend might a total dick and wanna kick your ass; but if you sort just go for it, you realize it can be the easiest thing in the world. One of my tricks is to never compliment her appearance until after a certain point, usually when the conversation has taken a specific turn to where she wont be freaked out or put off by it.
@RNRDOLL yea. They can b a bitch about it but i find it funny because it seems like she tryna b "hard" and very few women are hard; if any. If she being a bitch about u liking her something must really b wrong with her internally. Like she had bad experience with a dude just recently and she sees u as a nice guy she take her revenge out on u.
@fmcneillii EVERY girl carries around that 'damaged' thing. Some dude before you fucked her up, now shes all closed off and acts all crazy n shit wants to scorn all men. It sucks ass, once you know that it gets easier. But then again I've taken myself out of the 'game' thing as of late because it just simply isn't really working out too well..the women I'm pulling are so fucked up in the head dude haha Im just like fuck it Im happier single and if I do go for a chick, shell be older than me.
@RNRDOLL Lol. I dont thing every woman is so bad. I dont mind dealing with some of the attitude but deep down i think women are genuinely good. They just feel because of that they have to look out for themselves and not mind ur feelings and perception of them. I cnt blame them because lets be real men dont take avantage of good women too. So women have to be mean at times to keep those who they feel are gonna be a disaster waiting to happen
@fmcneillii And? I never treat a woman badly. I put it up front and stick to my shit--no matter what. But when I'm on a date and the chick flips the fuck out and starts calling me fucked up names n shit just to 'test' me, Im sorry thats WAY too much to put on someone you just met. Only women can get away with that shit. But see the dude that beats the shit out of his girl, lives with mom, no car/ no job gets all the admiration in the world and women have a problem breaking up with them...
@fmcneillii That whole 'protecting' herself thing is a total copout. Women can be self destructive as hell; they date dudes that EVERYONE will say is a horrible person flat out, and still they get wrapped up in the emotions that person brings. Thats why I can never listen to a woman's advice on dating EVER. They base everything on emotions and playing the 'game', not the nitty gritty realistic shit about just flat out being a good person to someone and using that to find a good partner.
@RNRDOLL . Usually these chick are taken or pissed off bout something that has nothing to do with u. If a woman start being a bitch towards u i say set her straight I dont tolerate no one talking to me any kinda if ima gentleman be a lady
@RNRDOLL or whatever are afraid of the what if after they do come at her. Like how they gonna deal with the fact that messed up completely with a chick they were really interested in.
We must all gaurd ourselves because you never know. SOmetimes we love others more than we love ourselves. Never get so attatched that leaving would make you suicidal.
Oh yes, being just in the middle of a break-up this video is helpfull. Can't seem to get over this void and am doing all of the things I shouldn't be doing. Realy crazy stuff. Does it make me stronger? No feeling like that at the moment. Like the guy, I don't even notice other women. The saddest thing is that I think I will never find someone again. Guess time heals wounds, will I be able to open my heart again????
Yes you will be able to love again IF you CHOOSE to! Stop spreading your pain around because you are only creating cycles for someone else to carry bag and sread hurt. HURT people hurt people, so heal let go and move on:)
Hi Shay, thanks for yr message. I know, I know, I know. However I have chosen for now to live these feelings till the end. And I will choose to love again, to take the risk again. For now it's still to soon. There's now room in my heart at this moment for anybody else, it would be an escape... would not be honest towards to someone new.... As you say, I first need to heal. I started to apply your tips of what to do after a breakup. With love, Robert
okay this is interesting a MANs perspective and then prefferably a black man, I never get to hear the perspective of a male on many many issues! While I would like to understand how it works for them, how they experience things...women got to get on Oprah and any other talkshow around, all magazines dealing with our "hurting" but what about males?
That was deep...men cry too...I watched my brother go thru it....sometimes I think guys have a worse time of it..under pressure to be the don, be in control. True about picking up the energy of someone when you have sex....sex without love hurts the soul...
Man......(sigh) theres nothing worst than seeing a man all fucked up in the game over a woman. Have you ever seen a 250 pound man crying in the dark while listening to KC and Jojo's - All My Life..... I have. To all the fellas out there love your family, love yourself and to all the rest? fuck them. Get Money.
@dp100eboggan yea but yet and still no two are exactly alike. So u cant replace one with another. u gotta just move on and appreciate the great ones u come across
Boy am I sure glad that I am not like many men, I am 18 and unlike most people my age I aint never been or will be a trick.
I have seen too many people around me suffer because of some woman in their life and I am glad that I was exposed to their experiences because I have become flawless relationship-wise.
My only love is money, women to me are just accessories, tools or obstacles. I only see tits and ass.
Seriously stronger, bigger, and tougher men than myself have fell victim to the power of woman. As a man i build walls around myself. I don't like relying on anyone nore being vunerable to any woman. Even if I genuinely have strong feelings for a woman i'll dilute them and give her just enough to get an idea of what I'm feeling. When I was younger a woman had me open like the grand canyon and when I fell man did i fucking fall hard. I was out of comission for a year and on my word never again.
My brotha my brotha...I think we've all been there at least once. I fell for a girl like that when I was 20...said I'd never do it again. I got married and no doubt loved my wife but never that type of crazy in love feeling. After breaking up with my wife I fell hard in love again...red flags appeared from the past but I was told "nah boo I got u". When I let the down the walls she did me wrong so I can defintiely say never again. I just can't let it happen a 3rd time.
Over time a Real man will learn how to deal with issues when woman leaves. It bothers Me very little anymore now, but used to tick Me off greatly. Mostly it was My fault, because I choose women who were dishonest in the first place. All women are dishonest, and the only thing Man can do is see through that shield,
know her true intentions. Second - have a back up plan to meet new women anytime anywhere and forget her at once. Third - invest very little in the relationship and watch for clues of her integrity.
I like his talk...for me he seems much more genuine/real than the other guy you sometimes interview...who I sense (no disrespect intended...just a vibe and opinion) says the right things, but may do otherwise :0) like we all are capable of!
i guess i have a problem because i never been in love with a women before, i never had a emotional tide with them, when we seperate, its like who cares, move on to the next one. i don't know how it feel like to be in that brother shoes or any other brother that been through simular situation.
my problem is i'm too cautious for my own good, because alot my friends and family members been screwed one way or another by a women. i never seen a grown man cry or gone mad (literally gone mad) for anything but the women. the women just has that kind of power that i can't explain but i could try to avoid. so i guess that why i don't fully give my heart out to a women because i seen the consequences of their vulnerbility. they have their wall up for men but when it come to their woman, it down
what happens if your partner does not accept apology? or they leave you and introduce you to their new "friend"..
lilsweeti13 2 months ago
As a dude I am not exactly understanding where dude is coming from?? Come get some of this Kimbo Slice?????
Coolyfett 6 months ago
When you love a woman and she breaks up the relationship it can be very horrible/terrible. infact i now believe when you sleep with a woman especially when feelings were involved it can be spiritual. i think it is emotionally unsafe to love a woman that does not love you
emmanuel43 7 months ago
that dude was all emotional in that interview, had to bust out he ufc chops haha
blinkzone1 11 months ago
i agree on what he is saying cuz he speaks on his spiritual knowlege and we need to realize when we sleep with a man we are getting a deposit
angiebigbutt 1 year ago 3
dang girl... i need this...me and my ex just broke up...this was so insightful coming from a mans perspective. I've seen some of ur videos before,... but this one will makee me subscribe = ) lata diva
karamellady44 1 year ago
i dont understand the word ''diva''. i mean does it mean, ''proud''?
or ''flashy''?
or ''boisterous''.
copnite12342 1 year ago
Word, i know exactly what he means. Can't even see other women, even though there better. But that's weak.
ponarona 1 year ago
I hate it when people say shit like "the black man has his views" Or "this poor black man has something to say"... It's most of you black people who ask for racism! Don't act like your racial inheritance needs more empathy than everyone else's. WE ARE ALL FLESH AND BLOOD, COLOR IS JUST A USELESS FACTOR. Fuck white pride Fuck the black brothers fuck Lebanese pride... LETS ALL JUST ACT AS ONE GOD DAMN RACE!!!! FUCK SAKE!!! *hyperventilates in a paper bag*.
danielkirk1 2 years ago
Damn he was dropping some knowledge great video!
mayliliflower85 2 years ago
I know guys like him and I know (single) guys who would sell their soul for a girlfriend, never raise a hand to her, even change his opinion to agree with her just to keep her happy. Some guys can approach a woman anywhere and not care about the outcome. Those are the guys women see all the time. Its the quiet shy men who can never get the nerve to approach/talk to women they dont know. Its sad.
hrobbins 2 years ago
If a man would 'sell his soul' for a girlfriend or change his mind to keep her happy..hes in the wrong state of mind, and ultimately she wont be happy, knowing he has no self worth. I agree its sad there are a TON of guys who are left out because they cannot approach, but they need to learn how to push aside the fear of rejection, which 'bad boys' do not have. Thats why nice guys have such hatred towards them, they dont understand you cant arrest yourself in doubt just because she might say no.
RNRDOLL 2 years ago
@RNRDOLL its not just fear of rejection alot of it is a guy liking a girl and just may not be where need to be to get at her. I always feel like if u dont think u "on ur game" or u just feel ur game isn't sharp enuff to pull her in u sud just approach her and talk to her, that way u can't go wrong. thing bout us dudes is when we like a girl and if we decide to let her know by comin on strong some dude who dont have experience
fmcneillii 1 year ago
@fmcneillii Exactly, EVERY guy gets at least a little nervous talking to a girl he likes..its hardwired into or brain because she could be a total bitch about it, her boyfriend might a total dick and wanna kick your ass; but if you sort just go for it, you realize it can be the easiest thing in the world. One of my tricks is to never compliment her appearance until after a certain point, usually when the conversation has taken a specific turn to where she wont be freaked out or put off by it.
RNRDOLL 1 year ago
@RNRDOLL yea. They can b a bitch about it but i find it funny because it seems like she tryna b "hard" and very few women are hard; if any. If she being a bitch about u liking her something must really b wrong with her internally. Like she had bad experience with a dude just recently and she sees u as a nice guy she take her revenge out on u.
fmcneillii 1 year ago
@fmcneillii EVERY girl carries around that 'damaged' thing. Some dude before you fucked her up, now shes all closed off and acts all crazy n shit wants to scorn all men. It sucks ass, once you know that it gets easier. But then again I've taken myself out of the 'game' thing as of late because it just simply isn't really working out too well..the women I'm pulling are so fucked up in the head dude haha Im just like fuck it Im happier single and if I do go for a chick, shell be older than me.
RNRDOLL 1 year ago
@RNRDOLL Lol. I dont thing every woman is so bad. I dont mind dealing with some of the attitude but deep down i think women are genuinely good. They just feel because of that they have to look out for themselves and not mind ur feelings and perception of them. I cnt blame them because lets be real men dont take avantage of good women too. So women have to be mean at times to keep those who they feel are gonna be a disaster waiting to happen
fmcneillii 1 year ago
@fmcneillii And? I never treat a woman badly. I put it up front and stick to my shit--no matter what. But when I'm on a date and the chick flips the fuck out and starts calling me fucked up names n shit just to 'test' me, Im sorry thats WAY too much to put on someone you just met. Only women can get away with that shit. But see the dude that beats the shit out of his girl, lives with mom, no car/ no job gets all the admiration in the world and women have a problem breaking up with them...
RNRDOLL 1 year ago
@fmcneillii That whole 'protecting' herself thing is a total copout. Women can be self destructive as hell; they date dudes that EVERYONE will say is a horrible person flat out, and still they get wrapped up in the emotions that person brings. Thats why I can never listen to a woman's advice on dating EVER. They base everything on emotions and playing the 'game', not the nitty gritty realistic shit about just flat out being a good person to someone and using that to find a good partner.
RNRDOLL 1 year ago
@RNRDOLL away
fmcneillii 1 year ago
@RNRDOLL . Usually these chick are taken or pissed off bout something that has nothing to do with u. If a woman start being a bitch towards u i say set her straight I dont tolerate no one talking to me any kinda if ima gentleman be a lady
fmcneillii 1 year ago
@RNRDOLL or whatever are afraid of the what if after they do come at her. Like how they gonna deal with the fact that messed up completely with a chick they were really interested in.
fmcneillii 1 year ago
We must all gaurd ourselves because you never know. SOmetimes we love others more than we love ourselves. Never get so attatched that leaving would make you suicidal.
brotherminister1930 2 years ago
wow this video is great, this is a real man
gburton 2 years ago
Men are emotional beings too. He was deep.
mindyourbizok 2 years ago 4
Oh yes, being just in the middle of a break-up this video is helpfull. Can't seem to get over this void and am doing all of the things I shouldn't be doing. Realy crazy stuff. Does it make me stronger? No feeling like that at the moment. Like the guy, I don't even notice other women. The saddest thing is that I think I will never find someone again. Guess time heals wounds, will I be able to open my heart again????
robert12071 2 years ago
Yes you will be able to love again IF you CHOOSE to! Stop spreading your pain around because you are only creating cycles for someone else to carry bag and sread hurt. HURT people hurt people, so heal let go and move on:)
With Love
Shay Your Date Diva
lovein30days 2 years ago
Hi Shay, thanks for yr message. I know, I know, I know. However I have chosen for now to live these feelings till the end. And I will choose to love again, to take the risk again. For now it's still to soon. There's now room in my heart at this moment for anybody else, it would be an escape... would not be honest towards to someone new.... As you say, I first need to heal. I started to apply your tips of what to do after a breakup. With love, Robert
robert12071 2 years ago
okay this is interesting a MANs perspective and then prefferably a black man, I never get to hear the perspective of a male on many many issues! While I would like to understand how it works for them, how they experience things...women got to get on Oprah and any other talkshow around, all magazines dealing with our "hurting" but what about males?
YahWillDeliverUs 2 years ago
he looks like morgan freeman
Evoluta 2 years ago
That was deep...men cry too...I watched my brother go thru it....sometimes I think guys have a worse time of it..under pressure to be the don, be in control. True about picking up the energy of someone when you have sex....sex without love hurts the soul...
sweeetly 2 years ago
Man......(sigh) theres nothing worst than seeing a man all fucked up in the game over a woman. Have you ever seen a 250 pound man crying in the dark while listening to KC and Jojo's - All My Life..... I have. To all the fellas out there love your family, love yourself and to all the rest? fuck them. Get Money.
FitnessGuru1988 2 years ago 2
There are 3 billion women on Earth... no use in trippin over one
dp100eboggan 2 years ago 5
@dp100eboggan yea but yet and still no two are exactly alike. So u cant replace one with another. u gotta just move on and appreciate the great ones u come across
fmcneillii 1 year ago
All women do is bring unwanted confusion and depression, she is going to break your heart whether you know about it or not.
All I hear about is "good man this, good man that" but why do most women choose the bad guy?
Yes there are some(very few) good women out there today, but I am not going to waste my life looking for them when I could be bettering myself.
charismacage 2 years ago 3
Boy am I sure glad that I am not like many men, I am 18 and unlike most people my age I aint never been or will be a trick.
I have seen too many people around me suffer because of some woman in their life and I am glad that I was exposed to their experiences because I have become flawless relationship-wise.
My only love is money, women to me are just accessories, tools or obstacles. I only see tits and ass.
charismacage 2 years ago
Like a child, you still have a lot of growing up to do.
SYDD
lovein30days 2 years ago 7
So are you saying that I should'nt be smart before I get hurt and lied too?
No Thank you miss, I don't need heartbreaks and depression.
charismacage 2 years ago
@charismacage u have alot of growing up to do. someone will hurt u one day so bad ur gonna know that what ur doing is wrong
chells1991 6 months ago
@chells1991 Im my own best friend and worst enemy, and no one else can hurt me unless I let them.
charismacage 6 months ago
Love don't live here no more. Get money.
FitnessGuru1988 2 years ago
Seriously stronger, bigger, and tougher men than myself have fell victim to the power of woman. As a man i build walls around myself. I don't like relying on anyone nore being vunerable to any woman. Even if I genuinely have strong feelings for a woman i'll dilute them and give her just enough to get an idea of what I'm feeling. When I was younger a woman had me open like the grand canyon and when I fell man did i fucking fall hard. I was out of comission for a year and on my word never again.
FitnessGuru1988 2 years ago
My brotha my brotha...I think we've all been there at least once. I fell for a girl like that when I was 20...said I'd never do it again. I got married and no doubt loved my wife but never that type of crazy in love feeling. After breaking up with my wife I fell hard in love again...red flags appeared from the past but I was told "nah boo I got u". When I let the down the walls she did me wrong so I can defintiely say never again. I just can't let it happen a 3rd time.
spankybighead 2 years ago
Over time a Real man will learn how to deal with issues when woman leaves. It bothers Me very little anymore now, but used to tick Me off greatly. Mostly it was My fault, because I choose women who were dishonest in the first place. All women are dishonest, and the only thing Man can do is see through that shield,
syntonicstorm 2 years ago
know her true intentions. Second - have a back up plan to meet new women anytime anywhere and forget her at once. Third - invest very little in the relationship and watch for clues of her integrity.
syntonicstorm 2 years ago
I would read that book. What is it called, 'Nightclubland'?
My hearing isn't that good. I couldn't understand what he said his name was.
CanadianKelley 3 years ago
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jadeisback 3 years ago
What a 100% genuine man damn can somebody please give me his name again he said it too fast & Id like to cop his book
Sosensual24 3 years ago 2
He is so funny, lol he reminds me of this dude I know. Good video Shay!
kendrabyrd 3 years ago
HAHAHA HA!! You gone get some a dat Kimbo Slice!!
Macmittens411 3 years ago 2
Hes a real man.
SimplyAdiva 3 years ago 13
I like his talk...for me he seems much more genuine/real than the other guy you sometimes interview...who I sense (no disrespect intended...just a vibe and opinion) says the right things, but may do otherwise :0) like we all are capable of!
penny71 3 years ago
i guess i have a problem because i never been in love with a women before, i never had a emotional tide with them, when we seperate, its like who cares, move on to the next one. i don't know how it feel like to be in that brother shoes or any other brother that been through simular situation.
chambers396 3 years ago
Well you never experienced true love and lost before. I pray you do because you haven't lived if you haven't loved.
With Love
SYDD
lovein30days 3 years ago
my problem is i'm too cautious for my own good, because alot my friends and family members been screwed one way or another by a women. i never seen a grown man cry or gone mad (literally gone mad) for anything but the women. the women just has that kind of power that i can't explain but i could try to avoid. so i guess that why i don't fully give my heart out to a women because i seen the consequences of their vulnerbility. they have their wall up for men but when it come to their woman, it down
chambers396 3 years ago 2