This is an awesome video!! You are awesome for making it!! I am childfree also and very happy with my decision!! I wish I could have you as a friend to hang out with.
Great video. Very straight forward and to the point. I'm childfree, too, it's a choice I've made and am happy with. It's just tough explaining it to others, like family members. I hope the 13-year old grows up to be an independent thinker and makes choices for her own life.
Can I just say that you rock? As another young childfree person, I enjoyed this very much :) That mother was appalling! Not giving her daughter a choice regarding children? Bs. And how can a hardworking woman who has a job and takes care of herself be a "drain" on society? Ugh. I totally wish I could have you as a friend in real life! I don't even know anyone my age who wants to be childfree :(
And you're right on: real women do what's right for them.
EXACTLY! When my 7-year-old daughter comes of age, we wil talk about kids and such. If she wants kids, great. If she doesn't, thats great also! I will never be one of those people that will badger my flesh and blood about having grandkids. If I'm a grandaddy, that would be awesome. If not, I'll live!! :) HATE when people pressure others to have kids.
&zazoupl what's the difference? I think a lot of ppl are motivated not to gave kids because they don't want a child like them or like a close relative.
@imollot: i wanted to have my tubes tied when i reached 20. i was refused as i was single & "might change my mind?" it is difficult for women to have themselves sterilized. now i am a 47 yr childfree person who is childfree: i knew at 3 i didn't want kids.
"who will take care of you w you're old?" having kids is no guarantee. ever check out a retirement home?. in many cases, the senior parents who have raised children have grown children (w kids of their own) are placed in senior homes as the grown children don't want to change their lifestyle.
i am a 47 yr old childfree person & i care for my mom. i am the youngest of 4 kids. i will not have any regrets when she passes.
and adopt but I don't even want to think about it till I'm 30 when I get to my twenties I'm going to have fun have my career graduate collage and if I make a lot of money MAYBE adopt if I marry a man who will let me have a career while he stays home
I knew since I didn't want kids since I was 11 I had a good relationship with my big brother then he had kids & he became angry all the time & I know with my bad temper I can't put up with kids I'm a young aunt so I took care of kids b4 i took care of two nieces and a nephew i loved them but they were so annoying I remember having to cancel plans to hang out with my friends how angry & sad it made me plus childbirth is painful and disgusting I'm not doing that to my body i could change my mind
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My worse fear is being old with no family; no siblings, parents, or aunts. I actually really want to have babies and look forward to having a big family. I think 4 is a great number, maybe 5. I can't wait to be a grandmother and be a great grandmother and see the traditions of my family continuing on to the next generations. Nothing is more beautiful and nothing could replace the gift of children and grandchildren.
I'm between being child free or having a really big family. I want kids...lots, but I don't know if I would want to be a parent in this day and age. =\
The chances of their not being grandchildren would be very slim. More than likely at least 1 would have kids. I don't know why my video received so many negative votes?? I highly doubt that people would vote down a comment that said that they didn't want kids on a video promoting parenthood. I guess people hate kids that bad.
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notice how women who say "child-free " have majority REFUSED TUBES TIED? WHY? no other reason than they are NOT SURE-& will change their mind- show me your tubes tied- then u wont have to utube OTHERS to convince yourself- keep lying- you ll be stealing a non-white baby soon- but u ll refuse to help the mother so she can keep her child- i ve seen it so often-NO equality between women-rich own Children of poor women from whom they STOLE THEIR LANDS- then they exploit her more-to make kids 4 rent$
@lmollot Oh no, I don't want my tubes tied because it's a surgery and I am afraid of that. Therefore since pregnancy and childbirth are more dangerous than surgery (and may require it) I don't want that either. So your logic is folly. BTW that is not my main reason for being child free and my reason will never allow me to change because it is never false. Think a little bit more and stop being so emotional over someone else's body! You don't see us freaking out over you, right?
@lmollot Umm, I have not seen any research that points to this. Actually, many young women (in their 20's, like myself) do want their tubes tied, but are turned away by doctors because the doctors say "oh, you might change your mind so we won't do it yet." This has happened to me. Generally, a doctor won't sterilize a woman unless she is either 30 or has 2 children already. Granted, some doctors will do it earlier (even if you don't have children), but these are hard to come by.
this video just speaks I'm a person doesn't want kids when they get older and this video nearly made me cry because i don't see why some people can't just except my decision to not have kids when i grow up i wish every person who pressured people to have kids could watch this video and see how it makes some people feel
Paid maternity leave and government baby bonus cheques. Yeah, childfree women are the drain on society. We're not the ones expecting other people to pay for our choices with their tax money.
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@autumnsylver - & you dont need anyone younger than you (children) to support whatever products or services which keeps ur rent paid, etc- inequality among women is the problem to overpopulation & GREEDY EXCESS LIVING- look around you-you did not get sterilized = you want kids
I like children, but I have no interest in giving birth to one. I might adopt, which I think is more noble than bringing yet another unneeded life into the world.
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@LadyRuin2012 - how can u adopt a child- if women choose to not have children?- or u just know thgeres a poor mother who has to sell her baby- told she is bad- told that mothering is not a job-you exploit poor women by adopting "children of another woman"- WITHOUT helping the mother keep her child- without adopting the mothers as well- HOW NOBLE- inequality among women is the whole problem of overpopulation-- video MATRIARCHY CLANS PROTECT MOTHERS & YOUTH
I don't wan't kids I could change my mind someday but that's probably not gonna happen. I've been told that my decision is "selfish" by my friend and I told her that choosing to be childfree it's not selfish at all, what is selfish is to bring a child into this world that you don't even wan't.
Society's always telling women what "real" women are; "Real" women have curves, DD breasts, skinny/thick, blonde hair, whatever. Saying that "real" women have kids is just another way to attack women. I'm a real woman--I bleed for 7 days without dying, I pay taxes, I work, I vote, I'm caring, etc. There are many things that make me a real woman. I'm also CF by choice, and plan to stay that way.
I'm grateful I have a mother who has never pushed me into having children. I don't want kids, probably never will. We need to start telling kids "if" you have kids, not "when." Saying "when" implies they don't have a choice. CF ppl realize we have a choice, and if we don't want kids, we don't have to have any:) Thank goodness!
I would choose a cute little puppy or kitten over a screaming child any day. pets lower your blood preasure, kids increase it...Btw that mother pisses me off. So sad how some women think that way.
@ember1k I so agree with you on that my friend. I have cats myself and they don't give me any kind of stress thaf children would give me. I can't stand screaming children. Thank God I have no kids at all.
I think that bringing a child to this world means to condemn him/her to suffering,deseases and death. Everybody says ;''i want to have a child'' but nobody is willing to think ;"does he/she wants to be born and live in this world,etc?''.Selfish and unresponsible decision. The baby will live,eat drink fuck etc, and one day will foolishly die just like everybody on this planet. Is there any importance about bringing children? I certainly dont see any great device about it all.
@gleb202 that is why i never want to have children. i love my children so much that i wont force them into an existence full of suffering, disease and death.
@gleb202 If it is selfish for humans to have kids, then it's also must be selfish for animals, bugs, and plants to reproduce since they suffer, catch diseases and die too.
@scaboi The base act of breeding IS selfish, but it derives from our base human "need" to preserve ourselves. Being a parent is not selfish. But to think they're better than people who don't have children is sickening. And yes I know a lot of parents who think I'm a freak because I don't want kids.
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@LadyRuin2012 -parents get harassed- & you dont need anyone younger than you (children) to support whatever products or services which keeps ur rent paid, etc??- inequality among women is the problem of overpopulation & GREEDY EXCESS LIVING- look around you-if you did not get sterilized = you want kids
I'd say, neither mother nor childfree ladies are "less of a woman." I have 2 childfree aunts, one is my god-mother, and the other baby-sat me a lot. Childfree are not child haters. Although the aunt that baby-sat me didn't know how to act around me, and times it was awkward. My father got "oopsed" into being a father, but at least he did the responsible thing and got "the snip" to prevent any more accidents. My mother who had 4 children total tells me "Just don't have kids! It's not worth it!"
People who have children are more of a drain on society than people who dont. The childfree are helping their community or fighting for a good political cause instead of changing diapers.
I'm 35 years old and the pressure never goes away. It only get stronger, and you begin to be viewed as an outcast. I think the insults stem from jealousy for my freedom and independence. All in all I live a really great life, travel as I want to and generally do as I please. I AM HAPPY, and happy to see that young women like yourself are giving child-free women a voice. Well done!
i want to give you some encouragement. i was under the same strain from EVERYONE, men and women alike and constantly interrogated why i never got married or had kids.
guess what? i NEVER thought the pressure would let up and here i am in my mid 40s and they FINALLY now get the idea and they don't say anything to me anymore. i make sure right out the gate i tell people, "marriage and children was never a priority in my life"
you are not a worthless woman though i know what you're saying - most people are so shallow that they deem those of us that are over 40 as barren and such. there are so many women that i regard as worthless to society because they are busy being nothing more than baby making machines and personally i believe that most women, most men, should not be in the business of having children. they simply want a mini me and someone they can love. they ought to start with plants first. LOL!
@inbetweentics Oh I know I'm not worthless. I'm just really looking forward to the time when society will see me like that so they can stop nagging at me to get with the program. I think bringing children into the world is selfish. Have you looked around?
@chrysplatt ikr like those kids starving in those 3rd world countries dieing and homeless can't people just adopt to instead or just respect that people don't want kids at all
@chrysplatt You see. That's what I don't understand. Why is a woman labelled worthness if she doesn't have or want kids? Is a man worthless if he doesn't have or want kids? I'm a man. I'm 34 and I hve no kids and I could not be any happier about that. Why does society put such negativity on childless people? Why do we have to conform to what they do? The problem is that society doesn't respect the decision if a man or woman doesn't want kids. Some of us are just not meant to be parents.
@RetroJenny The one thing I can understand is why do they keep commenting on a woman's point of view on why they do or don't want kids. How about asking how a man feels about not wanting kids? It's always about what a woman feels or says. Ask a man for a change.
@chrysplatt I heard that I am and identical sis, we are 23 yrs old..and we made up our minds alonnng time ago that we didn't have a desire to bear children..and this is shunned upon in the black community..which is crazy
@KMELIZ21 Focus on your education and start a business. Children are financial and time consuming parasites and have no place in a modern-womans life. Walk the path many feminist laid down for us, and keep mobilizing the female population as a whole. Don't be slowed down by the presence of a child (ren) ;)
@blahblahblaman So you basically wished we weren't born to confront you with our lifestyle? Most of our parents made a conscient and well-educated choice. The fact we are thankful for our own life doesn't mean we are obligated to produce new life. We didn't sign a contract to reproduce. Some people accuse, yell and curse- why? Many of you are just jealous of our many freedoms and frustrated with your own life. You sound so bitter. We critisize mindless reproduction. What's your excuse?
@blahblahblaman So you basically wished we weren't born to confront you with our lifestyle? Most of our parents made a conscient and well-educated choice. The fact we are thankful for our own life doesn't mean we are obligated to produce new life. We didn't sign a contract to reproduce. Some people accuse, yell and curse- why? Many of you are just jealous of our many freedoms and frustrated with your own life. You sound so bitter. We critisize mindless reproduction. What's your excuse?
blahman you certainly are an angry person yet you are going onto all the cf vids and posting the same thing telling all cf'ers we should be dead.
well well, i wish that most the human race didn't exist - i'm all for mass culling of the human race - bring on the vaccinations - there's absolutely no reason for it to perpetuate. all we do is destroy one another and the world around us. your parents should've been aborted as well. and we have the right to assert our values just as much as you do.
To any of the "child free" bigots, just remember that before you criticize other women for "breeding", you should first criticize your own parents for not exercising birth control, or for not having you aborted.
I don't have children and don't plan on it any time soon...but seriously, some of you idiots act like you don't have two parents who created you. If SOMEONE didn't chose to "breed", you wouldn't be alive to bitch about it right now.
I really like this little girl on this video. She is ADORABLE!
On a comical note, I recently watched a Sopranos episode on which the Mom told her kids, who were being extremely mean to her, "Just wait until you have kids of your own. You'll understand then." They looked at her, aghast, and said, "We're not going to do that!" (like, "What, are you nuts?")
How is NOT having kids a drain on society!? Most of our resources and taxes go to children, not to people who are contributing to society with their jobs instead of taking time off work to care for people who never needed to exist and increase overpopulation!
You should have never existed, yourself. You should curse your parents for giving you life; you were a mistake, and all they did was contribute to the problem of over population.
@blahblahblahman You're right, I was a mistake. And instead of being responsible and aborting me, my birth mom gave me up for adoption to a family that abused and molested me starting at age 2.
Like many kids whose parents never considered the reasons not to breed or whether they wanted to, I spend my entire life wishing my mother would have spared me the pain by aborting me.
Thanks for proving my point. Clearly your parents didn't care to teach you to be a kind person, so same goes for you.
I don't have children, and I don't plan on it any time soon. I just really, REALLY don't like bigots. A lot of these "child free" women are bitter for whatever stupid reason and take their frustrations out on parents. Bitching about children being in public, for goodness' sake! What the hell is that?! This is the type of content that is seen on their blogs, videos, and forums.
They hate kids, they hate breeding; you would think they didn't have two parents who had sex to have them!
@blahblahblahman My parents raped and abused me. Their decision to have kids was purely selfish and horrible. The reason I don't want them is because I want to make sure I make the right decision for the kids and for me.
We're only on here supporting one another, not judging our parents or anyone else. It's because I CARE so much that I don't want to risk harming a child. I would never judge a woman with kids, I simply want to point out the pros and cons realistically, not judge thegood parents
...And yes, you are indeed a mistake if you believe that people should "stop breeding". Your parents made the stupid mistake of contributing to over-population, something that you have clearly vowed never to do.
@jm2trash this is why I do not believe in adoption, you have NO IDEA who you are giving your child to, they may appear good but are scum, they may be good for a while, then turn out to be scum, the point is you can NEVER know. I want women and girls out there to know that having children is NOT a must. Spare them painful abortion, spare them abusive adoptive parents, spare them a world of cruelty and uncertainty: never bring them into existence. I am truly sorry about what you had to go through.
@jm2trash I am sorry to hear about how your adoptive family treated you.
I hate it when people play the "what if your parents aborted you" or "what if your parents didn't want you?" It's not as if we would know these things. We wouldn't be here! The point is we're here and we should do things in life that make us happy. Just because we are here on this earth doesn't mean we have an obligation to reproduce. At this point, I'd say we'd be better off with less humans: Less strain on the earth.
I hate women who r sexist against their own gender. My mom is kinda the same way so i dont listen 2 her. I think we girls and women should hav the right 2 make our own choises. The way i see it is having kids is a huge responsibility and i dont think i should hav 2 deal with something like that if i dont hav 2. I see more issues than benefits 2 having kids SO WHY BOTHER PUTTING UP WITH THEM.
I don't want to have kids, I can't be tied down to them. I don't care if people see me as less of a woman or not. I'm not putting my life on halt, because of some kid. Not me, I won't allow it. I'll keep my dog.
i hate the propaganda and the ideals that not having children means something is wrong with a couple or person. based on those ideals and ways, women have no rights, speak when spoken to, are only there to make babies, and men have the right to beat their wives if they get out of line. well, i think that is completely wrong and outdated. children are a big factor in divorces and strained relationships. they are a burden and i don't want that tying me down.
your mentioning adoption, albeit not the easiest thing to do as you said, made me think of how it should be just as difficult to have natural children as it is to adopt. it's just too easy for anyone to breed and bring kids into the world which end up being a burden on society, the world's resources, etc.
@inbetweentics I had a psychology instructor who described all the hoops she and her husband had to jump through to adopt. She said people who have biologically should have to jump through those same hoops. I am sure if they did, we wouldn't have so many kids in the foster care system now.
if it weren't for foster care i can only imagine how much more of a burden the kids would be as foster care actually steps in to save these unwanted kids. it's the PARENTS that brought them into this world against their will and then look at the mess they create.
but foster care aside, there are just way too many people that don't amount to a hill of beans in society who have never HAD to go into foster care but come from two parent households, yet all they are is a burden to us.
I just rediscovered this video. While I'm watching this one of my neighbour's kids is crying in the backyard... AGAIN. He has been crying for nearly TWO HOURS! It's driving me NUTS! I am so annoyed by him! It's a sunny day and all I can hear is SOMEONE ELSE's child crying in the yard! Ugh! I wish they would just gag the kid. Children can be just as loud and annoying as adults, you know. Can people PLEASE be more considerate? His mom is too lazy to care, she just throws him outside! Nice- NOT!
When women are young teens our parents (especially mothers) tells us we are complete just being us. They teach us to find company within ourselves and be our own best friend. They teach us not to rely on someone else to make us complete. So, why is it when we become adults it's suddenly the other way around? Suddenly we're not complete unless we get married and have babies....what?? Well, we are complete without marriage and kids. We are who we are, and that's enough.
when i was five years old i marched out to the living room and announced,
I'M NOT GETTING MARRIED AND I'M NEVER HAVING KIDS
i was harassed by both men and women all throughout my 20s and 30s and told i would give in eventually.
whatever. i'm well over 40 and i may not have always known what i wanted in life, but i knew what i didn't want - and i'm never getting married and i'm not having kids!
not having kids is not giving up anything, it's embracing so much more.
Well I see 2 breasts and and furry mound in the mirror, I am a woman :) I wanted children and never got any, I wish I had your attitude, it would not have hurt so much when people make those ridiculous comments What if the child grows up to have infertility problems, I know you will have a good life, despite it all, my life is full and interesting, I have time for my career and my art, I feel as though I am a valid member in this world!.
To answer your questions at the end: 1.) I don't think all mothers contribute to society. In fact, the welfare moms and the people who have kids without planning ahead for the future are the real drains. 2.) I'm w/ you. A "real woman" is one who lives life doing things she's good at. If she know she wouldn't be good at being a mom and stays childfree, she's being more real than lying to herself and having kids. 3.) I'm happily childfree! The world is so overpopulated that we face a scary future
@Awenasa2 I absolutely agree. And what is it with "passing on my genes" as if that is an intelligent reason to have children. What genes are they talking about? Eye colour? Hair colour? Hair texture? Skin tone? Height? Genes for these traits already exist in the world, they don't need to pass them on. To me, it's a piss poor excuse to have children.
Thanks for sharing your comments. It's good to hear that people are keeping their options open and considering childfree as a choice despite the unwlecoming attitude. The woman who made those remarks to her kid is just...ugh! What a rude thing to say, "When you grow up YOU WILL be tired all the time!". Thanks for caring so much about my health, mom! Not to mention that in the US you can get more out of childfree people taxwise. Drain on society.
I have more maternal instinct towards small dogs. Babies just don't do it for me. I don't HATE kids, I just don't want them. Funny thing is, kids LOVE ME! If I go to a doctors office or out to eat, if there are kids near, they either come up and touch me or start talking to me. This tickles my sister to no end!
This has been bothering me for some time now, so Ive decided to get it off my chest. Im sad to say my wife & I cant have children. Thats correct, we cant have kids. You see, we have a white carpet.
Say what? Childless people are a drain on society? Someone needs to inform that lady that just about everyone on welfare, food stamps, WIC etc are ALL parents who probably wouldn't need so much taxpayer help if they closed their legs in this non-agriarian society and get an education. Who's the drain now?
I have found that nothing punctuates the statement "I don't want children." like a vasectomy. Yet even at the age of 41 I have the lessers of society telling me that I will change my mind and that the procedure is reversible. I guess nothing short of having yourself completely separated from your lower torso will satisfy some of the crayon eaters who just refuse to get it. Kudos for knowing your mind and being strong enough to commit. You will achieve greatness one day.
a "real women" or man for that matter is someone that knows what he or she wants!and goes for it!as long as its not hurting anyone or breaking the law! all people that say its wrong not to have kids are just jealous,because thay did not think before their doing and now they are just simply jealous!!hahaha!! I think thats kinda funny!
Thank you!!! The most positive and influential women in my life are/were child free. They were school teachers, neighbors, aunts and cousins. Most mothers I knew - my own included - made me feel like just another pain-in-the-ass kid. With a childfree I felt respected and appreciated. I don't want children of my own.
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i think the mother was just trying to control her daughter/live thru her daughter/put her needs on her daughter`s shoulders etc. If confronted in this kind of discussion she might agree with you that it doesn`t actually take kids to be a real woman(!).But having kids, some people resort to all kinds of behaviour (like this false suggestion) just to make their kids do what THEY want them to do.
I used to think I`d never want kids for reasons similar to yours, but now consider having them later.
Trust me, don't have children unless you truly know you're wanting them. I have two illegitimate kids who don't want anything to do with me and given the choice, I wouldn't repeat that little bit of history.
I can't thank you enough for creating this video. I recently had to give my own mother the whole song and dance as to why I never want children - they are a drain on your sanity, your finances, your free time, and your health (lack of sleep and lots of stress). I at last got her to admit that making such a decision is quite an intelligent one, and that some people definitely shouldn't have children. I consider myself one of those people, and thus will not be breeding anytime soon.
I'm never having children, and I've never wanted any. I think mothers are going to be the cause of the world ending. The world is likely to continue getting more and more overpopulated until it's destroyed. We'll see if they still call them "real" women then.
Being a mother certainly doesn't make anyone a "real" woman. And if a woman has children just because she thinks she's supposed to, I think she's even less of a woman than someone who chooses to not have any.
My only concern with the child-free concept is that we currently have all the intelligent, upper middle class people either not having kids, adopting, or having just one, while criminals and trailer trash are shitting out five and ten kids over the course of their lifetime.
What will our gene pool look like in two hundred years as this persists?
I knew parenthood wasn't for me at around the age of 10. I'm a commitmentphobe. I'm 61 now and it was absolutely the right decision for me. But I like having a cat.
@LindaDooWop Can I ask you a question? I'm childfree too. I have no interest in children, but I consider forcing myself to have them anyway because I fear being old and alone and having no one to care for me or spend holidays with.
How are you dealing without children? Are you lonely? What do you do on holidays? What will you do if your spouse (assuming you have one) dies?
Hi! I get to choose who I spend my time with. I have siblings and friends (some going back to pre-teen years) I also have a cat that I absolutely adore! I have the same boyfriend that I met in 1977. He's 5 years younger than I and he's so healthy he looks 20 years younger. He'll live way longer than I because his Dad did.
I dislike family holidays. I keep getting invited to them and I'm always getting out of it.
I'd rather go somewhere together or have 2 to 4 friends over.
What I'm seeing now shocks me! I have friends whose grown kids treat them like crap. They either won't leave the nest and won't even clean up after themselves or they're on drugs and alcohol. One friend even had to raise her Grandson because her daughter is too irresponsible to do it.
If I had it to do over again, though, I would make money and investing a big priority. I haven't saved enough and I should have done so much better. I didn't think it was important.
@jm2trash Let me tell you something. Visit a nursing home and see how many visits (a year) those people get from their children. One or none, mostly, there is no guarantee, all the people using that as a reason are going to be very surprised and disappointed. Don't you know any of you other family or friends that you should spend your golden years with? That's your best bet. Save your money so you can put yourself in a nice nursing home; invest it in a child and he/she may just put you out.
It's so nice to know I'm not alone as a child-free (by choice) woman in the United States. I never had that urge to have children like the majority of the women I grew up with/around. People assume I am selfish and somehow less of a woman because I don't have children. I am neither. Thanks for sharing your views on this emotionally-charged issue.
We have to make up for all the mistakes people have.....do you really want to waste time, money, vacations, no-sleep, no free times, etc........................
Glad someone else feels free to stand up for their choices...I have been discriminated against for not having children, called selfish and cold. I have lost jobs because I was the only SINGLE AND CHILDLESS person in the group and was ostracized. Plus, I get tired of hearing my friends and relatives CONSTANTLY complain about their kids and their husbands, and how their relationships are not working.
I forgot to add that my girl who is 6 is in the playground and a new mum comes up with her baby all my daughters friends and their mums are around her wanting to cuddle the baby and even the little girls are all over these babies except my little girl who doesn't want anything to do with them and some holier than thou mum said to another that little girl is cold like her mum!!!!! can you believe it? My daughter probably just takes after me in that babies do not interest her. Honestly!!!
I have one daughter having given in to my husband who desperately wanted at least one so i gave him one and that is it. I am not a natural mum, i never had the maternal instinct and it never really came. I love my daughter but I am bringing her up to be educated and independent and if she turns around and says I am never having children I will say "good for you". My marriage has suffered as a consequence, we never have time to do what we want to do.
people please type in spectation & read spectation: intellectual fraud. it exposed his aliases, etc. PHL wants the word passed around that he is compiling a data base of his trolls & aliases. if you run across him report him. he is on anti-creationist and childrfee channels & others as well.
Whoopee! I'm never gonna be a real woman, never mind, I'll just enjoy my freedom, my money, my holidays, my fabulous social life. I'm sure I will cope. :)
I think it's the worst 'reason' possible to have a kid just because someone expects you to. You make your choice and stick to your guns. You're a bright and articulate young woman - you've got to make your own life. Good for you, and I feel the same as a 40-something woman. We are real, we work hard, we pay our dues. For too many reasons, most of them depressing, I do not want kids. There it is. How real do I have to be?
Thank you so much for posting this. I've never wanted children, but there is certainly a lot of pressure to conform. I am blessed to have found a partner who believes in all the "feminist clap-trap" as much as I do, and who also wishes to remain childfree.
I just about stood up and cheered when you brought up the point that people who have kids for the sake of it are the real drains on society.
So yeah, thank you SO much for speaking your mind on this issue. I agreed with every word. It's pretty damn insulting to say that the only worth a woman has is as a reproductive organ...
Thanks for posting this! There are some scary women out there, huh? I really feel for that girl. I'm 27 right now and I'm still as childfree as ever! Well actually, that is not entirely true. My arguments for being childfree have become EVEN STRONGER the past 3 years. I'm in that critical age group now, you know, the group between 27 and 35, the most common ages for having children. I am perfectly honest about my general dislike for children and motherhood. I don't like children, period.
Good for you for speaking up about your opinion. Feel free to be childfree if you like. I am happy that you made your choice. It is you who gets to choose your way of life.
BTW, whoever said that real woman are mothers needs to think clearly and realize that there's nothing wrong with being childfree.
I am also a proud childfree woman and I know what I want in life. Therefore, I am a real woman. The world needs more people like you because more and more women are being sucked in by others--be it people they are close to or simply just pressure from the outside (aka. society). That mother in the restaurant is fucked up and a terrible influence on her daughter. I feel so bad for that 13-year old girl! :( Nevertheless, I'm so happy to have found such a fantastic video.
Brilliant video well put and methinx you are articulate and intelligent. No I do NOT want kids, I work with them but LOVE going home to my childfree life. Real women choose for themselves how to live their lives.
hey everyone who chooses to be childfree! my favourite slogan is 'darin' to be barren. don't let anyone get you down. it is a choice. it's your body and your mind! great video!
Real women have long hair, too. At least, that's what a redneck woman in a Walmart in Oregon told her little daughter as I walked by (with short hair).
I've gotten that "you're young"/"you'll change your mind" crap for years.
I've been childfree as far back as I can remember. I think it was around age 11 that I decided I'd get my tubes tied as soon as legally possible. I've had more than enough time to decide.
It is a CHOICE! Remember that and everyone should respect that!!! Thank God I have made a choice not to have chidren and married a man who feels the same way!
Real women are mothers??? Real women, mind their own fucking buisness! And are confident enough in their woman-hood to have children only IF they want them! My mom rules! You know why? Cause she doesn't care if I have kids. She wants me to be happy! Yay! Go moms who are awesome... but people who say that there are too many people in the world, should jump off a bridge themselves, or rip out their own uterus. People aren't drains. But if you don't want kids, don't have em. I don't, I won't.
Global overpopulation is a fact, not an opinion. The human race is the single biggest drain on the Earth's resources, again, fact not conjecture. I agree with you about enlightened mothers letting their children have choices but implying violent self sterilisation or suicide towards those who recognise a scientific certainty is inappropriate, shouldn't people have the CHOICE to believe what they want, particularly as their opinion doesn't harm you?
also people who have kids are a drain on society: they cost the medical system millions of dollars, drain our water resources, put more of a strain on food supply, and the lists go on. i knew when i was 5 years old i didn't want children. you just try telling people when you're 5 years old you do not want kids when adult!
Never wanted children, never had children; don't see why anyone would would to have children.
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Spartan7735 1 month ago
This is an awesome video!! You are awesome for making it!! I am childfree also and very happy with my decision!! I wish I could have you as a friend to hang out with.
westykitten 1 month ago
Great video. Very straight forward and to the point. I'm childfree, too, it's a choice I've made and am happy with. It's just tough explaining it to others, like family members. I hope the 13-year old grows up to be an independent thinker and makes choices for her own life.
violettalough 4 months ago
Can I just say that you rock? As another young childfree person, I enjoyed this very much :) That mother was appalling! Not giving her daughter a choice regarding children? Bs. And how can a hardworking woman who has a job and takes care of herself be a "drain" on society? Ugh. I totally wish I could have you as a friend in real life! I don't even know anyone my age who wants to be childfree :(
And you're right on: real women do what's right for them.
tfrey01 4 months ago
Damn right!
farkyewtoob 4 months ago
"You do what's right for you."
EXACTLY! When my 7-year-old daughter comes of age, we wil talk about kids and such. If she wants kids, great. If she doesn't, thats great also! I will never be one of those people that will badger my flesh and blood about having grandkids. If I'm a grandaddy, that would be awesome. If not, I'll live!! :) HATE when people pressure others to have kids.
autismpete 4 months ago
&zazoupl what's the difference? I think a lot of ppl are motivated not to gave kids because they don't want a child like them or like a close relative.
ladyEulaelie 4 months ago
What a foolish woman that woman was when she said those things. A real woman is someone who takes care of herself. I don't want kids ever.
Blueberry40 4 months ago
@imollot: i wanted to have my tubes tied when i reached 20. i was refused as i was single & "might change my mind?" it is difficult for women to have themselves sterilized. now i am a 47 yr childfree person who is childfree: i knew at 3 i didn't want kids.
so don't criticise artep123.
canadianskye1964 6 months ago
"who will take care of you w you're old?" having kids is no guarantee. ever check out a retirement home?. in many cases, the senior parents who have raised children have grown children (w kids of their own) are placed in senior homes as the grown children don't want to change their lifestyle.
i am a 47 yr old childfree person & i care for my mom. i am the youngest of 4 kids. i will not have any regrets when she passes.
canadianskye1964 6 months ago
and adopt but I don't even want to think about it till I'm 30 when I get to my twenties I'm going to have fun have my career graduate collage and if I make a lot of money MAYBE adopt if I marry a man who will let me have a career while he stays home
zazoupl 7 months ago
I knew since I didn't want kids since I was 11 I had a good relationship with my big brother then he had kids & he became angry all the time & I know with my bad temper I can't put up with kids I'm a young aunt so I took care of kids b4 i took care of two nieces and a nephew i loved them but they were so annoying I remember having to cancel plans to hang out with my friends how angry & sad it made me plus childbirth is painful and disgusting I'm not doing that to my body i could change my mind
zazoupl 7 months ago
I agree with you. I'm 25 and I don't want kids. The world is over populated as it is
86thislove 7 months ago 5
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My worse fear is being old with no family; no siblings, parents, or aunts. I actually really want to have babies and look forward to having a big family. I think 4 is a great number, maybe 5. I can't wait to be a grandmother and be a great grandmother and see the traditions of my family continuing on to the next generations. Nothing is more beautiful and nothing could replace the gift of children and grandchildren.
ladyEulaelie 8 months ago
@ladyEulaelie what if none of your kids wanted to have or adopt kids? then what?
zazoupl 7 months ago
@zazoupl
I'm between being child free or having a really big family. I want kids...lots, but I don't know if I would want to be a parent in this day and age. =\
The chances of their not being grandchildren would be very slim. More than likely at least 1 would have kids. I don't know why my video received so many negative votes?? I highly doubt that people would vote down a comment that said that they didn't want kids on a video promoting parenthood. I guess people hate kids that bad.
ladyEulaelie 7 months ago
@ladyEulaelie I don't hate kids I love a lot of them its just all the expeireinces and all I just don't want them but I do really want to adopt.
zazoupl 4 months ago
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notice how women who say "child-free " have majority REFUSED TUBES TIED? WHY? no other reason than they are NOT SURE-& will change their mind- show me your tubes tied- then u wont have to utube OTHERS to convince yourself- keep lying- you ll be stealing a non-white baby soon- but u ll refuse to help the mother so she can keep her child- i ve seen it so often-NO equality between women-rich own Children of poor women from whom they STOLE THEIR LANDS- then they exploit her more-to make kids 4 rent$
lmollot 8 months ago
@lmollot Oh no, I don't want my tubes tied because it's a surgery and I am afraid of that. Therefore since pregnancy and childbirth are more dangerous than surgery (and may require it) I don't want that either. So your logic is folly. BTW that is not my main reason for being child free and my reason will never allow me to change because it is never false. Think a little bit more and stop being so emotional over someone else's body! You don't see us freaking out over you, right?
artep2122 6 months ago
@lmollot Umm, I have not seen any research that points to this. Actually, many young women (in their 20's, like myself) do want their tubes tied, but are turned away by doctors because the doctors say "oh, you might change your mind so we won't do it yet." This has happened to me. Generally, a doctor won't sterilize a woman unless she is either 30 or has 2 children already. Granted, some doctors will do it earlier (even if you don't have children), but these are hard to come by.
tfrey01 4 months ago
I freakin' love you for making this video. It was so eye-opening and inspiring.
The1andonlyIris 9 months ago 4
this video just speaks I'm a person doesn't want kids when they get older and this video nearly made me cry because i don't see why some people can't just except my decision to not have kids when i grow up i wish every person who pressured people to have kids could watch this video and see how it makes some people feel
LangBellsChannel 10 months ago 3
Paid maternity leave and government baby bonus cheques. Yeah, childfree women are the drain on society. We're not the ones expecting other people to pay for our choices with their tax money.
autumnsylver 10 months ago
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@autumnsylver - & you dont need anyone younger than you (children) to support whatever products or services which keeps ur rent paid, etc- inequality among women is the problem to overpopulation & GREEDY EXCESS LIVING- look around you-you did not get sterilized = you want kids
lmollot 8 months ago
I like children, but I have no interest in giving birth to one. I might adopt, which I think is more noble than bringing yet another unneeded life into the world.
LadyRuin2012 11 months ago 2
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@LadyRuin2012 - how can u adopt a child- if women choose to not have children?- or u just know thgeres a poor mother who has to sell her baby- told she is bad- told that mothering is not a job-you exploit poor women by adopting "children of another woman"- WITHOUT helping the mother keep her child- without adopting the mothers as well- HOW NOBLE- inequality among women is the whole problem of overpopulation-- video MATRIARCHY CLANS PROTECT MOTHERS & YOUTH
lmollot 8 months ago
Traveling the world is time wasting? The typical argument of an ignorant breeder.
LadyRuin2012 11 months ago 3
Oprah is a real woman and she doesn't have any kids!
harajukugrl 1 year ago 6
What is this obsession with the word "raising"? My mom always said that you can't raise kids, eventually they're gonna do what they want anyway.
thundermorphine 1 year ago 2
"You're not a real woman if you don't have kids."
No true Scotsman fallacy there. :)
gir908922 1 year ago 2
I don't wan't kids I could change my mind someday but that's probably not gonna happen. I've been told that my decision is "selfish" by my friend and I told her that choosing to be childfree it's not selfish at all, what is selfish is to bring a child into this world that you don't even wan't.
SpavVy1993 1 year ago
Society's always telling women what "real" women are; "Real" women have curves, DD breasts, skinny/thick, blonde hair, whatever. Saying that "real" women have kids is just another way to attack women. I'm a real woman--I bleed for 7 days without dying, I pay taxes, I work, I vote, I'm caring, etc. There are many things that make me a real woman. I'm also CF by choice, and plan to stay that way.
tigerslilly29 1 year ago 9
I'm grateful I have a mother who has never pushed me into having children. I don't want kids, probably never will. We need to start telling kids "if" you have kids, not "when." Saying "when" implies they don't have a choice. CF ppl realize we have a choice, and if we don't want kids, we don't have to have any:) Thank goodness!
tigerslilly29 1 year ago 3
I would choose a cute little puppy or kitten over a screaming child any day. pets lower your blood preasure, kids increase it...Btw that mother pisses me off. So sad how some women think that way.
ember1k 1 year ago 2
@ember1k I so agree with you on that my friend. I have cats myself and they don't give me any kind of stress thaf children would give me. I can't stand screaming children. Thank God I have no kids at all.
agentbl 1 year ago 2
@ember1k You wouldn't be saying that if you had a dog that barks at everybody it sees, like I had once.
scaboi 1 year ago
I think that bringing a child to this world means to condemn him/her to suffering,deseases and death. Everybody says ;''i want to have a child'' but nobody is willing to think ;"does he/she wants to be born and live in this world,etc?''.Selfish and unresponsible decision. The baby will live,eat drink fuck etc, and one day will foolishly die just like everybody on this planet. Is there any importance about bringing children? I certainly dont see any great device about it all.
gleb202 1 year ago 3
@gleb202 that is why i never want to have children. i love my children so much that i wont force them into an existence full of suffering, disease and death.
Armzan 1 year ago 3
@gleb202 If it is selfish for humans to have kids, then it's also must be selfish for animals, bugs, and plants to reproduce since they suffer, catch diseases and die too.
scaboi 1 year ago
@scaboi The base act of breeding IS selfish, but it derives from our base human "need" to preserve ourselves. Being a parent is not selfish. But to think they're better than people who don't have children is sickening. And yes I know a lot of parents who think I'm a freak because I don't want kids.
LadyRuin2012 11 months ago
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@LadyRuin2012 -parents get harassed- & you dont need anyone younger than you (children) to support whatever products or services which keeps ur rent paid, etc??- inequality among women is the problem of overpopulation & GREEDY EXCESS LIVING- look around you-if you did not get sterilized = you want kids
lmollot 8 months ago
@gleb202 What you said is exactly the truth.
artep2122 1 year ago
I'd say, neither mother nor childfree ladies are "less of a woman." I have 2 childfree aunts, one is my god-mother, and the other baby-sat me a lot. Childfree are not child haters. Although the aunt that baby-sat me didn't know how to act around me, and times it was awkward. My father got "oopsed" into being a father, but at least he did the responsible thing and got "the snip" to prevent any more accidents. My mother who had 4 children total tells me "Just don't have kids! It's not worth it!"
cuzinoftheotherworld 1 year ago 2
If you have the parts, you're a woman. Simple as that.
TheWeirdPlant 1 year ago
People who have children are more of a drain on society than people who dont. The childfree are helping their community or fighting for a good political cause instead of changing diapers.
setustraight 1 year ago 2
Yeah. who's the bigger drain on society? Those that have kids, or those that don't
tessam2010 1 year ago 6
You are right on. Happy to see smart young women like you who aren't brainwashed.
P.S. VERY happily child-free. As someone else said...like having cats tho'
dendryite 1 year ago 3
I'm 35 years old and the pressure never goes away. It only get stronger, and you begin to be viewed as an outcast. I think the insults stem from jealousy for my freedom and independence. All in all I live a really great life, travel as I want to and generally do as I please. I AM HAPPY, and happy to see that young women like yourself are giving child-free women a voice. Well done!
chrysplatt 1 year ago 6
@chrysplatt
i want to give you some encouragement. i was under the same strain from EVERYONE, men and women alike and constantly interrogated why i never got married or had kids.
guess what? i NEVER thought the pressure would let up and here i am in my mid 40s and they FINALLY now get the idea and they don't say anything to me anymore. i make sure right out the gate i tell people, "marriage and children was never a priority in my life"
CASE CLOSED ;)
they let up on you the older you get :)
inbetweentics 1 year ago
I'm counting the day to 40 when people will label me a "worthless-woman", unable to be successfully married off. Counting the days ;)
chrysplatt 1 year ago 2
@chrysplatt
you are not a worthless woman though i know what you're saying - most people are so shallow that they deem those of us that are over 40 as barren and such. there are so many women that i regard as worthless to society because they are busy being nothing more than baby making machines and personally i believe that most women, most men, should not be in the business of having children. they simply want a mini me and someone they can love. they ought to start with plants first. LOL!
inbetweentics 1 year ago 2
@inbetweentics Oh I know I'm not worthless. I'm just really looking forward to the time when society will see me like that so they can stop nagging at me to get with the program. I think bringing children into the world is selfish. Have you looked around?
chrysplatt 1 year ago 2
@chrysplatt
honey they will never stop nagging you. they just have tunnel vision and are probably ticked that you never got yourself trapped into it.
someone i once knew said it best - once you have children, your life is not your own.
THAT'S PRICELESS.
inbetweentics 1 year ago
@inbetweentics
You're probably right about that. My mother used to say that to me all the time. It really sunk in, now she's mad I listened. Weird.
chrysplatt 1 year ago
@chrysplatt ikr like those kids starving in those 3rd world countries dieing and homeless can't people just adopt to instead or just respect that people don't want kids at all
zazoupl 7 months ago
@inbetweentics It's complete madness, and I don't understand it but I'm not about to have a baby just so society will accept me ;)
chrysplatt 1 year ago
@chrysplatt
BRAVO!!!!
inbetweentics 1 year ago
@chrysplatt You see. That's what I don't understand. Why is a woman labelled worthness if she doesn't have or want kids? Is a man worthless if he doesn't have or want kids? I'm a man. I'm 34 and I hve no kids and I could not be any happier about that. Why does society put such negativity on childless people? Why do we have to conform to what they do? The problem is that society doesn't respect the decision if a man or woman doesn't want kids. Some of us are just not meant to be parents.
agentbl 1 year ago 2
@agentbl That is so true. I am 33 years old, and I feel the same way.
RetroJenny 8 months ago 3
@RetroJenny The one thing I can understand is why do they keep commenting on a woman's point of view on why they do or don't want kids. How about asking how a man feels about not wanting kids? It's always about what a woman feels or says. Ask a man for a change.
agentbl 8 months ago 4
@chrysplatt I heard that I am and identical sis, we are 23 yrs old..and we made up our minds alonnng time ago that we didn't have a desire to bear children..and this is shunned upon in the black community..which is crazy
KMELIZ21 1 year ago
@KMELIZ21 Focus on your education and start a business. Children are financial and time consuming parasites and have no place in a modern-womans life. Walk the path many feminist laid down for us, and keep mobilizing the female population as a whole. Don't be slowed down by the presence of a child (ren) ;)
chrysplatt 1 year ago
Brilliant video! great insight!
ChildfreeandHappy 1 year ago
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@blahblahblaman So you basically wished we weren't born to confront you with our lifestyle? Most of our parents made a conscient and well-educated choice. The fact we are thankful for our own life doesn't mean we are obligated to produce new life. We didn't sign a contract to reproduce. Some people accuse, yell and curse- why? Many of you are just jealous of our many freedoms and frustrated with your own life. You sound so bitter. We critisize mindless reproduction. What's your excuse?
beekill82 1 year ago
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@blahblahblaman So you basically wished we weren't born to confront you with our lifestyle? Most of our parents made a conscient and well-educated choice. The fact we are thankful for our own life doesn't mean we are obligated to produce new life. We didn't sign a contract to reproduce. Some people accuse, yell and curse- why? Many of you are just jealous of our many freedoms and frustrated with your own life. You sound so bitter. We critisize mindless reproduction. What's your excuse?
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beekill82 1 year ago
blahman you certainly are an angry person yet you are going onto all the cf vids and posting the same thing telling all cf'ers we should be dead.
well well, i wish that most the human race didn't exist - i'm all for mass culling of the human race - bring on the vaccinations - there's absolutely no reason for it to perpetuate. all we do is destroy one another and the world around us. your parents should've been aborted as well. and we have the right to assert our values just as much as you do.
inbetweentics 1 year ago 2
To any of the "child free" bigots, just remember that before you criticize other women for "breeding", you should first criticize your own parents for not exercising birth control, or for not having you aborted.
I don't have children and don't plan on it any time soon...but seriously, some of you idiots act like you don't have two parents who created you. If SOMEONE didn't chose to "breed", you wouldn't be alive to bitch about it right now.
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jm2trash 1 year ago
I really like this little girl on this video. She is ADORABLE!
On a comical note, I recently watched a Sopranos episode on which the Mom told her kids, who were being extremely mean to her, "Just wait until you have kids of your own. You'll understand then." They looked at her, aghast, and said, "We're not going to do that!" (like, "What, are you nuts?")
LindaDooWop 1 year ago
How is NOT having kids a drain on society!? Most of our resources and taxes go to children, not to people who are contributing to society with their jobs instead of taking time off work to care for people who never needed to exist and increase overpopulation!
jm2trash 1 year ago 2
@jm2trash
You should have never existed, yourself. You should curse your parents for giving you life; you were a mistake, and all they did was contribute to the problem of over population.
blahblahblahman 1 year ago
@blahblahblahman You're right, I was a mistake. And instead of being responsible and aborting me, my birth mom gave me up for adoption to a family that abused and molested me starting at age 2.
Like many kids whose parents never considered the reasons not to breed or whether they wanted to, I spend my entire life wishing my mother would have spared me the pain by aborting me.
Thanks for proving my point. Clearly your parents didn't care to teach you to be a kind person, so same goes for you.
jm2trash 1 year ago 4
@jm2trash
I don't have children, and I don't plan on it any time soon. I just really, REALLY don't like bigots. A lot of these "child free" women are bitter for whatever stupid reason and take their frustrations out on parents. Bitching about children being in public, for goodness' sake! What the hell is that?! This is the type of content that is seen on their blogs, videos, and forums.
They hate kids, they hate breeding; you would think they didn't have two parents who had sex to have them!
blahblahblahman 1 year ago
@blahblahblahman My parents raped and abused me. Their decision to have kids was purely selfish and horrible. The reason I don't want them is because I want to make sure I make the right decision for the kids and for me.
We're only on here supporting one another, not judging our parents or anyone else. It's because I CARE so much that I don't want to risk harming a child. I would never judge a woman with kids, I simply want to point out the pros and cons realistically, not judge thegood parents
jm2trash 1 year ago
@jm2trash
...And yes, you are indeed a mistake if you believe that people should "stop breeding". Your parents made the stupid mistake of contributing to over-population, something that you have clearly vowed never to do.
blahblahblahman 1 year ago
@jm2trash this is why I do not believe in adoption, you have NO IDEA who you are giving your child to, they may appear good but are scum, they may be good for a while, then turn out to be scum, the point is you can NEVER know. I want women and girls out there to know that having children is NOT a must. Spare them painful abortion, spare them abusive adoptive parents, spare them a world of cruelty and uncertainty: never bring them into existence. I am truly sorry about what you had to go through.
artep2122 1 year ago
@jm2trash I am sorry to hear about how your adoptive family treated you.
I hate it when people play the "what if your parents aborted you" or "what if your parents didn't want you?" It's not as if we would know these things. We wouldn't be here! The point is we're here and we should do things in life that make us happy. Just because we are here on this earth doesn't mean we have an obligation to reproduce. At this point, I'd say we'd be better off with less humans: Less strain on the earth.
LoveToday8 1 year ago 2
keep up the good work and keep making videos. we are a minority that no one even acknowledges. The world and the wed needs people like you.
jaylcage1123617 1 year ago
I hate women who r sexist against their own gender. My mom is kinda the same way so i dont listen 2 her. I think we girls and women should hav the right 2 make our own choises. The way i see it is having kids is a huge responsibility and i dont think i should hav 2 deal with something like that if i dont hav 2. I see more issues than benefits 2 having kids SO WHY BOTHER PUTTING UP WITH THEM.
0alienshateus0 1 year ago 4
I don't want to have kids, I can't be tied down to them. I don't care if people see me as less of a woman or not. I'm not putting my life on halt, because of some kid. Not me, I won't allow it. I'll keep my dog.
reesescupbrandy1 1 year ago 3
i hate the propaganda and the ideals that not having children means something is wrong with a couple or person. based on those ideals and ways, women have no rights, speak when spoken to, are only there to make babies, and men have the right to beat their wives if they get out of line. well, i think that is completely wrong and outdated. children are a big factor in divorces and strained relationships. they are a burden and i don't want that tying me down.
mycrimsonregrets 1 year ago 2
I am glad so many of you like this video. I would love to see more videos by childfree people just talking about their experiences.
LoveToday8 1 year ago 24
@LoveToday8
your mentioning adoption, albeit not the easiest thing to do as you said, made me think of how it should be just as difficult to have natural children as it is to adopt. it's just too easy for anyone to breed and bring kids into the world which end up being a burden on society, the world's resources, etc.
inbetweentics 1 year ago 20
@inbetweentics I had a psychology instructor who described all the hoops she and her husband had to jump through to adopt. She said people who have biologically should have to jump through those same hoops. I am sure if they did, we wouldn't have so many kids in the foster care system now.
LoveToday8 1 year ago 20
@LoveToday8
if it weren't for foster care i can only imagine how much more of a burden the kids would be as foster care actually steps in to save these unwanted kids. it's the PARENTS that brought them into this world against their will and then look at the mess they create.
but foster care aside, there are just way too many people that don't amount to a hill of beans in society who have never HAD to go into foster care but come from two parent households, yet all they are is a burden to us.
inbetweentics 1 year ago
@LoveToday8 Exactly.
QueenAnime99 1 year ago
What's this web childfree community your apart of? I'd love to join.
SamanthaMares 1 year ago
I just rediscovered this video. While I'm watching this one of my neighbour's kids is crying in the backyard... AGAIN. He has been crying for nearly TWO HOURS! It's driving me NUTS! I am so annoyed by him! It's a sunny day and all I can hear is SOMEONE ELSE's child crying in the yard! Ugh! I wish they would just gag the kid. Children can be just as loud and annoying as adults, you know. Can people PLEASE be more considerate? His mom is too lazy to care, she just throws him outside! Nice- NOT!
beekill82 1 year ago 2
Fuck breeders!
rep5281 1 year ago
When women are young teens our parents (especially mothers) tells us we are complete just being us. They teach us to find company within ourselves and be our own best friend. They teach us not to rely on someone else to make us complete. So, why is it when we become adults it's suddenly the other way around? Suddenly we're not complete unless we get married and have babies....what?? Well, we are complete without marriage and kids. We are who we are, and that's enough.
klb084 1 year ago 6
Amazing.
aubreytube 1 year ago
physically cannot stomach the thought of having a baby...
smedheat 1 year ago
@smedheat
physically cannot have children
57 years old and a vasectomy at 17 1/2 years old fixed that
and never been happier
safemale
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safemale 6 months ago
when i was five years old i marched out to the living room and announced,
I'M NOT GETTING MARRIED AND I'M NEVER HAVING KIDS
i was harassed by both men and women all throughout my 20s and 30s and told i would give in eventually.
whatever. i'm well over 40 and i may not have always known what i wanted in life, but i knew what i didn't want - and i'm never getting married and i'm not having kids!
not having kids is not giving up anything, it's embracing so much more.
i love you for this video.
inbetweentics 1 year ago 2
I'm with you! Great vid!
Marylain 1 year ago
Very, very well done! Good post.
zionistredhead 1 year ago
Well I see 2 breasts and and furry mound in the mirror, I am a woman :) I wanted children and never got any, I wish I had your attitude, it would not have hurt so much when people make those ridiculous comments What if the child grows up to have infertility problems, I know you will have a good life, despite it all, my life is full and interesting, I have time for my career and my art, I feel as though I am a valid member in this world!.
I respect your choice 100%
Thank you for sharing
AbsolutelyNameless 1 year ago
To answer your questions at the end: 1.) I don't think all mothers contribute to society. In fact, the welfare moms and the people who have kids without planning ahead for the future are the real drains. 2.) I'm w/ you. A "real woman" is one who lives life doing things she's good at. If she know she wouldn't be good at being a mom and stays childfree, she's being more real than lying to herself and having kids. 3.) I'm happily childfree! The world is so overpopulated that we face a scary future
sonadorhermosa 1 year ago
Fantastically put. Keep it up! :)
waywardtitania 1 year ago
I don't get why passing on their genes is so important to some people. There are thousands of kids that already exist that need parents.
Awenasa2 1 year ago 5
@Awenasa2
That's a beautiful message!
TheRatadedospatas 1 year ago
@Awenasa2 I absolutely agree. And what is it with "passing on my genes" as if that is an intelligent reason to have children. What genes are they talking about? Eye colour? Hair colour? Hair texture? Skin tone? Height? Genes for these traits already exist in the world, they don't need to pass them on. To me, it's a piss poor excuse to have children.
PositiveNature 1 year ago
Great message but please buy a tripod :)
EliteDoomer 1 year ago
Thanks for sharing your comments. It's good to hear that people are keeping their options open and considering childfree as a choice despite the unwlecoming attitude. The woman who made those remarks to her kid is just...ugh! What a rude thing to say, "When you grow up YOU WILL be tired all the time!". Thanks for caring so much about my health, mom! Not to mention that in the US you can get more out of childfree people taxwise. Drain on society.
somethinguncreative 1 year ago
I have more maternal instinct towards small dogs. Babies just don't do it for me. I don't HATE kids, I just don't want them. Funny thing is, kids LOVE ME! If I go to a doctors office or out to eat, if there are kids near, they either come up and touch me or start talking to me. This tickles my sister to no end!
mne202001 1 year ago
Childfree is the WAY TO GO!!! :D
egyprincess2k5 1 year ago 6
This has been bothering me for some time now, so Ive decided to get it off my chest. Im sad to say my wife & I cant have children. Thats correct, we cant have kids. You see, we have a white carpet.
wannabeeebee 1 year ago 4
Say what? Childless people are a drain on society? Someone needs to inform that lady that just about everyone on welfare, food stamps, WIC etc are ALL parents who probably wouldn't need so much taxpayer help if they closed their legs in this non-agriarian society and get an education. Who's the drain now?
meinside99 2 years ago 31
It's good to know that, others have the same determination from, a very young age.
I figured, if I ever felt that "motherly" instinct, kick in,
I would simply adopt a kid. Or even better, adopt even more feral cats.
BeautyinDiatoms 2 years ago 21
I have found that nothing punctuates the statement "I don't want children." like a vasectomy. Yet even at the age of 41 I have the lessers of society telling me that I will change my mind and that the procedure is reversible. I guess nothing short of having yourself completely separated from your lower torso will satisfy some of the crayon eaters who just refuse to get it. Kudos for knowing your mind and being strong enough to commit. You will achieve greatness one day.
Mudflappus 2 years ago 4
a "real women" or man for that matter is someone that knows what he or she wants!and goes for it!as long as its not hurting anyone or breaking the law! all people that say its wrong not to have kids are just jealous,because thay did not think before their doing and now they are just simply jealous!!hahaha!! I think thats kinda funny!
stanleynorbay 2 years ago 9
Thank you!!! The most positive and influential women in my life are/were child free. They were school teachers, neighbors, aunts and cousins. Most mothers I knew - my own included - made me feel like just another pain-in-the-ass kid. With a childfree I felt respected and appreciated. I don't want children of my own.
1DennisK 2 years ago 30
This comment has received too many negative votes show
i think the mother was just trying to control her daughter/live thru her daughter/put her needs on her daughter`s shoulders etc. If confronted in this kind of discussion she might agree with you that it doesn`t actually take kids to be a real woman(!).But having kids, some people resort to all kinds of behaviour (like this false suggestion) just to make their kids do what THEY want them to do.
I used to think I`d never want kids for reasons similar to yours, but now consider having them later.
BluRidgeMountain 2 years ago
Trust me, don't have children unless you truly know you're wanting them. I have two illegitimate kids who don't want anything to do with me and given the choice, I wouldn't repeat that little bit of history.
Yusuke1096 2 years ago 11
I love your video!
MelissaDotBartley 2 years ago 10
I can't thank you enough for creating this video. I recently had to give my own mother the whole song and dance as to why I never want children - they are a drain on your sanity, your finances, your free time, and your health (lack of sleep and lots of stress). I at last got her to admit that making such a decision is quite an intelligent one, and that some people definitely shouldn't have children. I consider myself one of those people, and thus will not be breeding anytime soon.
Raichu862000 2 years ago 12
I'm never having children, and I've never wanted any. I think mothers are going to be the cause of the world ending. The world is likely to continue getting more and more overpopulated until it's destroyed. We'll see if they still call them "real" women then.
Being a mother certainly doesn't make anyone a "real" woman. And if a woman has children just because she thinks she's supposed to, I think she's even less of a woman than someone who chooses to not have any.
Japhyl 2 years ago 8
My only concern with the child-free concept is that we currently have all the intelligent, upper middle class people either not having kids, adopting, or having just one, while criminals and trailer trash are shitting out five and ten kids over the course of their lifetime.
What will our gene pool look like in two hundred years as this persists?
apersonfromporlock 2 years ago 4
I knew parenthood wasn't for me at around the age of 10. I'm a commitmentphobe. I'm 61 now and it was absolutely the right decision for me. But I like having a cat.
LindaDooWop 2 years ago 33
@LindaDooWop Can I ask you a question? I'm childfree too. I have no interest in children, but I consider forcing myself to have them anyway because I fear being old and alone and having no one to care for me or spend holidays with.
How are you dealing without children? Are you lonely? What do you do on holidays? What will you do if your spouse (assuming you have one) dies?
jm2trash 1 year ago
@jm2trash
Hi! I get to choose who I spend my time with. I have siblings and friends (some going back to pre-teen years) I also have a cat that I absolutely adore! I have the same boyfriend that I met in 1977. He's 5 years younger than I and he's so healthy he looks 20 years younger. He'll live way longer than I because his Dad did.
I dislike family holidays. I keep getting invited to them and I'm always getting out of it.
I'd rather go somewhere together or have 2 to 4 friends over.
LindaDooWop 1 year ago
@jm2trash
What I'm seeing now shocks me! I have friends whose grown kids treat them like crap. They either won't leave the nest and won't even clean up after themselves or they're on drugs and alcohol. One friend even had to raise her Grandson because her daughter is too irresponsible to do it.
If I had it to do over again, though, I would make money and investing a big priority. I haven't saved enough and I should have done so much better. I didn't think it was important.
LindaDooWop 1 year ago
@jm2trash
I have about 8 cousins who also made the same decision, unbeknownst to each other. I was surprised to find out.
Some of the grown kids I've seen won't even buy any house-hold supplies or lift a finger to even take the trash out. They're completely self-centered.
I have one friend who got cancer, probably from so much stress. Her kids still refuse to be more considerate.
I also LOVE to be alone. I'm always trying to get it.
I LOVE my cat so much it hurts.
LindaDooWop 1 year ago
@jm2trash Let me tell you something. Visit a nursing home and see how many visits (a year) those people get from their children. One or none, mostly, there is no guarantee, all the people using that as a reason are going to be very surprised and disappointed. Don't you know any of you other family or friends that you should spend your golden years with? That's your best bet. Save your money so you can put yourself in a nice nursing home; invest it in a child and he/she may just put you out.
artep2122 1 year ago
It's so nice to know I'm not alone as a child-free (by choice) woman in the United States. I never had that urge to have children like the majority of the women I grew up with/around. People assume I am selfish and somehow less of a woman because I don't have children. I am neither. Thanks for sharing your views on this emotionally-charged issue.
JazzyFunkySoul1 2 years ago 15
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Yeah child free that's the way to go, because civilization would go SO much further without children.
Pacman272 2 years ago
Girl....childfree, is the way 2 b(no headachess).........
kidsareannoying 2 years ago 7
We have to make up for all the mistakes people have.....do you really want to waste time, money, vacations, no-sleep, no free times, etc........................
kidsareannoying 2 years ago 2
YYou make so much sense....why would you have kids, to take off free time, money, job, shitty diapers, no sleeep, becoming ugly??????????????
kidsareannoying 2 years ago 7
Becoming ugly ?
soniccage 2 years ago
type I dont want kids in youtube search, and watch the first video that comes....the related vids are good too....
kidsareannoying 2 years ago 2
I dont have kids....I value my own money, free time, sleep, no smelly diapers, headaches, candy,etc.....
kidsareannoying 2 years ago 4
canadiansky1964@kidsareannoying ; no to mention your sanity, i knew at 4 yrs of age i didn't want kids.
canadianskye1964 1 year ago
Totallly agree with you....you wont have free time leftt..
kidsareannoying 2 years ago
Glad someone else feels free to stand up for their choices...I have been discriminated against for not having children, called selfish and cold. I have lost jobs because I was the only SINGLE AND CHILDLESS person in the group and was ostracized. Plus, I get tired of hearing my friends and relatives CONSTANTLY complain about their kids and their husbands, and how their relationships are not working.
LUVJONZ99 2 years ago 8
Preach on, sister! Right to chose!
Condeycon 2 years ago 5
I forgot to add that my girl who is 6 is in the playground and a new mum comes up with her baby all my daughters friends and their mums are around her wanting to cuddle the baby and even the little girls are all over these babies except my little girl who doesn't want anything to do with them and some holier than thou mum said to another that little girl is cold like her mum!!!!! can you believe it? My daughter probably just takes after me in that babies do not interest her. Honestly!!!
gowest12 2 years ago 2
I have one daughter having given in to my husband who desperately wanted at least one so i gave him one and that is it. I am not a natural mum, i never had the maternal instinct and it never really came. I love my daughter but I am bringing her up to be educated and independent and if she turns around and says I am never having children I will say "good for you". My marriage has suffered as a consequence, we never have time to do what we want to do.
gowest12 2 years ago 5
what the website of the community ?
disneydiva21 2 years ago 3
people please type in spectation & read spectation: intellectual fraud. it exposed his aliases, etc. PHL wants the word passed around that he is compiling a data base of his trolls & aliases. if you run across him report him. he is on anti-creationist and childrfee channels & others as well.
seranissima 2 years ago
Whoopee! I'm never gonna be a real woman, never mind, I'll just enjoy my freedom, my money, my holidays, my fabulous social life. I'm sure I will cope. :)
faghag007 2 years ago 6
I think it's the worst 'reason' possible to have a kid just because someone expects you to. You make your choice and stick to your guns. You're a bright and articulate young woman - you've got to make your own life. Good for you, and I feel the same as a 40-something woman. We are real, we work hard, we pay our dues. For too many reasons, most of them depressing, I do not want kids. There it is. How real do I have to be?
You go, girl!
HaFannyHa 2 years ago 8
Thank you so much for posting this. I've never wanted children, but there is certainly a lot of pressure to conform. I am blessed to have found a partner who believes in all the "feminist clap-trap" as much as I do, and who also wishes to remain childfree.
Great Video!
babybunnyberry 2 years ago 6
I just about stood up and cheered when you brought up the point that people who have kids for the sake of it are the real drains on society.
So yeah, thank you SO much for speaking your mind on this issue. I agreed with every word. It's pretty damn insulting to say that the only worth a woman has is as a reproductive organ...
dynamitespoony 2 years ago 5
Thanks for posting this! There are some scary women out there, huh? I really feel for that girl. I'm 27 right now and I'm still as childfree as ever! Well actually, that is not entirely true. My arguments for being childfree have become EVEN STRONGER the past 3 years. I'm in that critical age group now, you know, the group between 27 and 35, the most common ages for having children. I am perfectly honest about my general dislike for children and motherhood. I don't like children, period.
beekill82 2 years ago 3
Good for you for speaking up about your opinion. Feel free to be childfree if you like. I am happy that you made your choice. It is you who gets to choose your way of life.
BTW, whoever said that real woman are mothers needs to think clearly and realize that there's nothing wrong with being childfree.
calvin09232009t 2 years ago 3
Amen!
I am also a proud childfree woman and I know what I want in life. Therefore, I am a real woman. The world needs more people like you because more and more women are being sucked in by others--be it people they are close to or simply just pressure from the outside (aka. society). That mother in the restaurant is fucked up and a terrible influence on her daughter. I feel so bad for that 13-year old girl! :( Nevertheless, I'm so happy to have found such a fantastic video.
feuerhase3 2 years ago 5
I totally agree with you, feuerhase3.
In fact, having kids are really expensive. And there're lots of expenses and commitment involved.
It's up to a person to choose whether he/she wants kids or not. If one choose to be childfree, then that's perfectly fine.
calvin09232009t 2 years ago
That "mother" who said that does not deserve her kid(s).
What a bitch!
To the young lady who made this video: you are cool.
mylesh2000 2 years ago 4
Brilliant video well put and methinx you are articulate and intelligent. No I do NOT want kids, I work with them but LOVE going home to my childfree life. Real women choose for themselves how to live their lives.
AthenaMarinayay 2 years ago 7
Please be happy with your choice of lifestyle, AthenaMarinayay. Don't let others put you down just because of your choice of not having kids..
A person gets to choose if he/she wants kids or not. If one decides to go childfree, than I respect that.
calvin09232009t 2 years ago 2
hey everyone who chooses to be childfree! my favourite slogan is 'darin' to be barren. don't let anyone get you down. it is a choice. it's your body and your mind! great video!
seranissima 2 years ago 4
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seranissima 2 years ago
hehe
observant09 2 years ago
Real women have long hair, too. At least, that's what a redneck woman in a Walmart in Oregon told her little daughter as I walked by (with short hair).
devilkitty 2 years ago 6
I've gotten that "you're young"/"you'll change your mind" crap for years.
I've been childfree as far back as I can remember. I think it was around age 11 that I decided I'd get my tubes tied as soon as legally possible. I've had more than enough time to decide.
AnimaSeverem 2 years ago 13
It is a CHOICE! Remember that and everyone should respect that!!! Thank God I have made a choice not to have chidren and married a man who feels the same way!
JCBARTA 2 years ago 8
What a brave, intelligent real woman!! This video should be shown to every young woman. The choice is yours. Not society.
kirillian554 2 years ago 11
Real women are mothers??? Real women, mind their own fucking buisness! And are confident enough in their woman-hood to have children only IF they want them! My mom rules! You know why? Cause she doesn't care if I have kids. She wants me to be happy! Yay! Go moms who are awesome... but people who say that there are too many people in the world, should jump off a bridge themselves, or rip out their own uterus. People aren't drains. But if you don't want kids, don't have em. I don't, I won't.
buddybadassbird 2 years ago 9
Global overpopulation is a fact, not an opinion. The human race is the single biggest drain on the Earth's resources, again, fact not conjecture. I agree with you about enlightened mothers letting their children have choices but implying violent self sterilisation or suicide towards those who recognise a scientific certainty is inappropriate, shouldn't people have the CHOICE to believe what they want, particularly as their opinion doesn't harm you?
pete2778 2 years ago 7
How refreshing to listen to a bright young lady. Good commentary.
piefrance 2 years ago 7
sorry about all the comments, i had trouble posting them
seranissima 2 years ago
also people who have kids are a drain on society: they cost the medical system millions of dollars, drain our water resources, put more of a strain on food supply, and the lists go on. i knew when i was 5 years old i didn't want children. you just try telling people when you're 5 years old you do not want kids when adult!
seranissima 2 years ago 5