I have been stared at all my life, I learned to not let it bother me. When people fist get to know me and spend time with me in public, (and I am talking about pre fame) they would remark on how people always stare at me, I always said I stopped paying attention to it a long time ago. It's helpful to be a giant Cagefighter.
I know exactly what you mean. I can't stand when men STARE at me. OMG! When you said, 'I didn't give them permission to talk to me.' That is EXACTLY what I think. Why are they talking to me?! The staring? I used to look at those who stared and it took me about 25 years to learn that men think you 'fancy them' and then you have to put up with their bull sh*t by having them come and talk to you. Eye contact definitely doesn't mean the same for everyone.
I don't like talking to people either. Espically strangers. When total strangers try and innicate conversation with me I say, "Why are you talking to me? I don't even know you? So if you don't want me shoving my fist down your throat, you will leave me alone."
@misspinkpunkykat - Lol... I wonder if other aspies have this phenomenon of not being able to feel fear unless the stimulus is really extreme. Men have approached me to talk to me and I've not responded in the way they think women should act and they've projected their own beliefs onto me with, 'oh, are you scared?' I used to say, 'No, I want you to get the fuck out of my face!' I don't have to do that anymore because I walk around with earphones in and I'm older and men tend to ignore me now.
@FredericaBimble I always found eye contact as a threat. Come to think of it humans are the only species that dosen't find it as a threat. Even our supposed closest relatives, chimpanzees don't make eye contact unless they are trying to threaten each other.
@misspinkpunkykat - Me too! When I walk down the street, men will stare and to me, it looks really aggressive, like hateful so I often wonder if they think it looks 'attractive.' When I was younger, I would say how much I can't stand people staring and some would say,"'it's because you're 'pretty'." I never understood that. As if you aren't allowed to have your privacy because someone else might 'like what they see.'
@BullzeyePrO it's a tic I have. I know, right? It happens at the worst times sometimes too. People always look at me funny too. So embarrassing. It's like a quick gasp caused by some kind of weird contraction in my diaphragm. I've always had it. Funny thing is, on some days I get a series of hiccups, and on others it's this weird tic. There are never days where I get both - it's always one or the other. Useless info for you!
@miasansom Oh so it's tics, I just reacted because it sounded sexy. xD I have tics too. My friends have noticed I release some strange sound after sentences or after I have been focusing hard on something like when I smash a ball with a racket. I also have something with my eyes(twitching or something) and people often imitate that to offend me but I don't care. When I was younger it did hurt me, but not anymore. Wish ya all best
I'm an aspie and I have a hard time deciding what to look at in crowded places like bus stations. If I accidentally look at someone a second too long, and they look back at me, it feels like I've been caught red handed doing something I shouldn't have. When I'm talking to someone I can play the eye contact game well enough to keep awkwardness at a minimum.
@yerk3 haha, I can so totally identify myself with that^^
In fact it's awful. I would love to be able to just look at others without feeling that I'm doing something "illegal". I think I just don't want to be realized.
For talking I think I will begin to force myself to look into other peoples eyes constantly, no matter how much it irritates me and hurts me, maybe I would grow used to it.
lol "if you're not an aspie, what are you watchin this for?" My mom has always suspected I had some amount of autism, but I am also highly intelligent, so it's prob asp. My fiancee has definite signs of asp. I'm interested in learning as much as I can about it all.
"If you're not an aspie, what are you watching this for?" -- Only an aspie could ask such a question. Because some of us weirdo neurotypicals are interested in understanding the other. Exactly what most of you aspies have a problem with.
Just make faces at them or flip the middle finger at them. That's what makes people stop staring at me. Eye contact is considered a threat response in every species except humans. When people stare at me, I find it a threat or challange. When I look someone in the eye, it's because I am trying to indimadate them. If people try and talk to me and I don't want them too, I just ignore them or flip my middle finger at them. Works EVERY single time.
I'm sorry, i'm an eyeballer...thats me, i communicate alot with my eyes and i can feel alot of people aren't comfotable about it but i cant stop my eyeballs from roaming.
I an not an aspie but I DO understand...just so you know not everyone out there who isn't, does not get it! If someone wants to be your friend, they should take the time to research and get a grip on this way of being...
Your freaking me out, because I know exactly what your talking about. Ive never heard anyone say this before. I assumed I've always just been social awkward or just paranoid, but hate talking to people, and eye contact just makes me start to panic.... I have no idea why. Small talk is pure torture lol.
Rosecea That is what you have I looked it up, I thank you for answering my comment Im the singer that contacted you, and asked you about the chipped tooth. I am rehabbing injured knees so I wound up on the net and youtube alot. singers are abstract thinkers same as aspies so that what has me looking in at you?. Being a Puerto Rican with Brown skin places me between black and white so while traveling the South I would get the what is he? Looks from both sides so I know the feeling!
It's funny when that happens to me I stare back. They seem to quite soon after. I think I'm a intimidating MF. lol!!! Actually my eyes are very expressive so I don't need to say a word most of the time.
This is so true - I have rituals when I get on the bus. I can't sit in a seat facing other people. On the other hand, intellectually I realize that eye-contact is important in a neurotypical world and I overcompensate by forcing myself to do it with colleagues, etc - it can be very disconcerting to people to have me basically stare intensely in their face - and worse for me when it's just about chitchat. Street people and other non-neurotypical people I get along with like a house on fire!
A lot of Aspies have problems making eye contact. I used to have this problem Myself in the past in fact, but I've worked as a cashier for almost three years. Over time I got over this Aversion and can proudly look people in the eye. If I don't want to engage in conversation(as I most often don't) a hard Eye-meeting glare and a curt word or two is most often enough to get the point across that Your not interested.
How, that sounds allot like me. Neat. This weekend I went to Providence Place and there was some idiot next to me stairing at me with a smerk on his face like I was amusing to him, so I had to move to another table at the food court. Do you know what I do to people that make me nervious or annoy me. I build a puppet of them and throw them right on my public access show. LOL _Eric ;)
i HATE morons who invade my personal space. freaky church people ringing my dorbell, idiot salespeople phoning about bs or being asked for money or signature in the streets. FUCK OFF strangers!
I have been stared at all my life, I learned to not let it bother me. When people fist get to know me and spend time with me in public, (and I am talking about pre fame) they would remark on how people always stare at me, I always said I stopped paying attention to it a long time ago. It's helpful to be a giant Cagefighter.
Hungrybear9562 1 week ago
I know exactly what you mean. I can't stand when men STARE at me. OMG! When you said, 'I didn't give them permission to talk to me.' That is EXACTLY what I think. Why are they talking to me?! The staring? I used to look at those who stared and it took me about 25 years to learn that men think you 'fancy them' and then you have to put up with their bull sh*t by having them come and talk to you. Eye contact definitely doesn't mean the same for everyone.
FredericaBimble 2 weeks ago
I don't like talking to people either. Espically strangers. When total strangers try and innicate conversation with me I say, "Why are you talking to me? I don't even know you? So if you don't want me shoving my fist down your throat, you will leave me alone."
misspinkpunkykat 4 weeks ago
@misspinkpunkykat - Lol... I wonder if other aspies have this phenomenon of not being able to feel fear unless the stimulus is really extreme. Men have approached me to talk to me and I've not responded in the way they think women should act and they've projected their own beliefs onto me with, 'oh, are you scared?' I used to say, 'No, I want you to get the fuck out of my face!' I don't have to do that anymore because I walk around with earphones in and I'm older and men tend to ignore me now.
FredericaBimble 2 weeks ago
@FredericaBimble I always found eye contact as a threat. Come to think of it humans are the only species that dosen't find it as a threat. Even our supposed closest relatives, chimpanzees don't make eye contact unless they are trying to threaten each other.
misspinkpunkykat 2 weeks ago
@misspinkpunkykat - Me too! When I walk down the street, men will stare and to me, it looks really aggressive, like hateful so I often wonder if they think it looks 'attractive.' When I was younger, I would say how much I can't stand people staring and some would say,"'it's because you're 'pretty'." I never understood that. As if you aren't allowed to have your privacy because someone else might 'like what they see.'
FredericaBimble 2 weeks ago
Make faces or stick your tounge out at them.If they won't back off, flip them the middle finger.
misspinkpunkykat 4 weeks ago
I guess this answers my question about you.. Sorry Mia, that sounds terrible..
legrandzilla 1 month ago
I avoid eye contact with most people, but I do feel the same when people look into your eyes, it's too intrusive.
TheLcstyle 1 month ago
Haha what happend at 0:03? xD
BullzeyePrO 2 months ago
@BullzeyePrO it's a tic I have. I know, right? It happens at the worst times sometimes too. People always look at me funny too. So embarrassing. It's like a quick gasp caused by some kind of weird contraction in my diaphragm. I've always had it. Funny thing is, on some days I get a series of hiccups, and on others it's this weird tic. There are never days where I get both - it's always one or the other. Useless info for you!
miasansom 2 months ago
@miasansom Oh so it's tics, I just reacted because it sounded sexy. xD I have tics too. My friends have noticed I release some strange sound after sentences or after I have been focusing hard on something like when I smash a ball with a racket. I also have something with my eyes(twitching or something) and people often imitate that to offend me but I don't care. When I was younger it did hurt me, but not anymore. Wish ya all best
BullzeyePrO 2 months ago
@BullzeyePrO lol yeah I get that a lot.
miasansom 2 months ago
Ur as cute as a button; I could feel those sexy eyes wearin' me down ....
DracoAquarian1 2 months ago
fuckin retard.
kane123369 2 months ago
I'm an aspie and I have a hard time deciding what to look at in crowded places like bus stations. If I accidentally look at someone a second too long, and they look back at me, it feels like I've been caught red handed doing something I shouldn't have. When I'm talking to someone I can play the eye contact game well enough to keep awkwardness at a minimum.
yerk3 2 months ago
@yerk3 haha, I can so totally identify myself with that^^
In fact it's awful. I would love to be able to just look at others without feeling that I'm doing something "illegal". I think I just don't want to be realized.
For talking I think I will begin to force myself to look into other peoples eyes constantly, no matter how much it irritates me and hurts me, maybe I would grow used to it.
This video somehow relaxes me^^
IIIIIawesIIIII 2 months ago
Yes
IwasaBushfan 3 months ago
lol.....I understand completely!! yep spot on!
justgetafix1 3 months ago
lol "if you're not an aspie, what are you watchin this for?" My mom has always suspected I had some amount of autism, but I am also highly intelligent, so it's prob asp. My fiancee has definite signs of asp. I'm interested in learning as much as I can about it all.
yahssis 4 months ago
"If you're not an aspie, what are you watching this for?" -- Only an aspie could ask such a question. Because some of us weirdo neurotypicals are interested in understanding the other. Exactly what most of you aspies have a problem with.
Pastor9764 5 months ago
lawl! you're weird but it's funny.
RoboticusMusic 5 months ago
thank you
ThePrrstar 6 months ago
Just make faces at them or flip the middle finger at them. That's what makes people stop staring at me. Eye contact is considered a threat response in every species except humans. When people stare at me, I find it a threat or challange. When I look someone in the eye, it's because I am trying to indimadate them. If people try and talk to me and I don't want them too, I just ignore them or flip my middle finger at them. Works EVERY single time.
misspinkpunkykat 8 months ago
I'm sorry, i'm an eyeballer...thats me, i communicate alot with my eyes and i can feel alot of people aren't comfotable about it but i cant stop my eyeballs from roaming.
indoril81 8 months ago
I an not an aspie but I DO understand...just so you know not everyone out there who isn't, does not get it! If someone wants to be your friend, they should take the time to research and get a grip on this way of being...
hisbride49 10 months ago 2
lol ur funny : )
Insurgent999 10 months ago
I know what you mean! Facing other people scare me.... So Uncomfortable. O.O
Juggafreeze2 10 months ago
i think i love you
troysol 11 months ago
the thing you said about the dark force and looking away does this mean your an aspie?
troysol 11 months ago
i only make eye contact if i am telling a lie
judet2006 11 months ago
Your freaking me out, because I know exactly what your talking about. Ive never heard anyone say this before. I assumed I've always just been social awkward or just paranoid, but hate talking to people, and eye contact just makes me start to panic.... I have no idea why. Small talk is pure torture lol.
ajw159 1 year ago
what a weird chick!
kfag101 1 year ago
Rosecea That is what you have I looked it up, I thank you for answering my comment Im the singer that contacted you, and asked you about the chipped tooth. I am rehabbing injured knees so I wound up on the net and youtube alot. singers are abstract thinkers same as aspies so that what has me looking in at you?. Being a Puerto Rican with Brown skin places me between black and white so while traveling the South I would get the what is he? Looks from both sides so I know the feeling!
ajushi10 1 year ago
Why don't you just ignore them or flip them off? That's what I do.
PinkPunkyKat 1 year ago 2
@PinkPunkyKat I'll try that and see how it goes...
miasansom 1 year ago 2
It's funny when that happens to me I stare back. They seem to quite soon after. I think I'm a intimidating MF. lol!!! Actually my eyes are very expressive so I don't need to say a word most of the time.
notapplicable66 2 years ago
This is so true - I have rituals when I get on the bus. I can't sit in a seat facing other people. On the other hand, intellectually I realize that eye-contact is important in a neurotypical world and I overcompensate by forcing myself to do it with colleagues, etc - it can be very disconcerting to people to have me basically stare intensely in their face - and worse for me when it's just about chitchat. Street people and other non-neurotypical people I get along with like a house on fire!
concertobub 3 years ago
That is not crazy.
I feel like they are entering my mind when we have eye contact.
Kumari58787 3 years ago
-yes, I got the same problems Mia.
117000000 4 years ago
A lot of Aspies have problems making eye contact. I used to have this problem Myself in the past in fact, but I've worked as a cashier for almost three years. Over time I got over this Aversion and can proudly look people in the eye. If I don't want to engage in conversation(as I most often don't) a hard Eye-meeting glare and a curt word or two is most often enough to get the point across that Your not interested.
Wolffur 4 years ago
How, that sounds allot like me. Neat. This weekend I went to Providence Place and there was some idiot next to me stairing at me with a smerk on his face like I was amusing to him, so I had to move to another table at the food court. Do you know what I do to people that make me nervious or annoy me. I build a puppet of them and throw them right on my public access show. LOL _Eric ;)
MuppetPro 4 years ago
woooo the EYE asssins!!
i HATE morons who invade my personal space. freaky church people ringing my dorbell, idiot salespeople phoning about bs or being asked for money or signature in the streets. FUCK OFF strangers!
BumsenDK 4 years ago