Coming Out as Trans to My Parents

[gabrielaxoxox]

you are beautiful in and out.

[lukees88]

you have nice eyes

[DutchJake]

Thanks for sharing this. This is a great example, very well written! I won't copy it, because I want it to be in my own words, but it's definitely inspiring.

[semperfidevildogs1]

You're my hero.

[ilovechriscolfer97]

I look up to you

[NeonRaeon]

I'm MtF and coming out soon to my parents. I hope you don't mind that I use some parts of your letter because I feel so much of it is similar to what I wanted to say already :)

[OneHitWunda]

Good for you man <3

[Juizee01]

Your HOT!! LOL! im transgendered m 2 f! good job! like the letter btw! its always hard coming out to your parents but once you get over that hump its grand..

[Chris188228]

Just curious, how did your parents react? Did they end up accepting you?

[riotgrrl67]

@Buffalohunter69 you're nice

[candycane520]

Gj u look just like a guy...thought u really were a guy

[JulieMSchultz1]

Reese,

Thanks so much for your video. I'm struggling with how to go about telling my family (whom I'm very close to) that I'm trans...I couldn't have said it better myself. It's helped me to see how other transguys have gone about coming out and the reactions they've had. I also think reactions have a little bit to do with how you go about telling people...so it's nice to have some ideas for when I come to the point of telling my family and friends. Thanks again.

- Jake

[beavcleaver1]

love how you lay it on thick for your parents... a tad sarcastic... great

[LauraDenvir]

Ha. My name's Laura, and I'm an F2M. XD Not out yet though.

[kompassii0n]

your letter touched me, i am intending to come out as trans to my family & was curious if i could borrow some of your words, along with my own of course. but i feel as though we are all (ftm if not mtf's as well) in the same boat, there for fell similiar & experience the same things i can only hope one day my mother & the rest of my family will undertsand& accept me for me & not like u said assume ima confused "butch lesbian"

[reesekelly]

@kompassii0n Of course you can you can whatever part of it you want. There's no need to recreate the wheel :)

[CharlieeReject]

I am a trans guy and iam having trouble making myself look older. im 18 and i look like im 12. any tips you can give me?

[MissAsha69]

Beautiful lettermy dear :-)

[karina56101]

hello guys mi name is karina and I relly admire and would like to guide me a little about the cost of hormones or if there is no suport for the treatment of payments have always wanted to take that step and start my change in my life in my so much ne yearning in the state of nevada and for the truth because I am low income and I hope someone can assist whith information or guide me on this thanks to all bye guys

[transgender56]

AWSOME LETTER DUDE

[theaidennwillows]

i like this...

this is actually what i am dealing with right now... coming out is scaring me and i want to not lose my family, but i am scared...

i like the points that you make and i appreciate you sharing it.

[DarkPrinc3]

Well done, you have fantastic English and have expressed yourself in a very educated, calm and mature fashion. Kudos to you ...

[writerbutch]

Your vid and letter moved me. I've not come out to my family as yet. Your vid is helping me decide what my next step in this life is. Jools

[D1skobox]

Your letter was very emotional but you I think you should let us know what was their reaction to your news back in 2006. I am sure they treat you with the respect you deserve. I have watched most of your videos in one night and all I can say is that you are a bright, eloquent and well articulated person who happens to be a transman.

[JesseW213]

hey there reese,

really beautifully written letter to your parents, thank you so much for sharing it with us, really heartwarming, and I hope that it went well with your parents~ good luck on your journey, take care

jesse

[ZyonisFTM]

profound

[madaboutclaire]

Thank you so much for posting this... very eloquent, and we need more people to share their stories like this... I hope it all goes well for you :D

[uhthisme]

your so adorable

[berrykrazie]

wow very inspirational, how did they react when the read your letter? Thanks for this video gives me more courage to inform my mom that I am queer, its so hard and darn right nerve raking.

[Jensagirl]

Reese,

I was moved by your letter to your parents. It reminded me of exactly the same thing that I did when I came out to my parents.

I live in Ohio and they live in Texas and well we just don't see each other as often these days.

I will see them both for the first time since I came out to them over 3 years ago.

Good luck to you

[reesekelly]

Hi :)

Thank you for the comment. I hope your visit with your parents goes well. I'll be sending you positive energy!

Take care,

Reese

[Jensagirl]

Thanks Reese,

In wish you all the luck you can possibly ask for when you visit your parents this Christmas.

Coming out as a transwoman at work this past June seems like a "cake-walk" compared to meeting your parents and family face to face for the first time as your true self.

I wonder if your as nervous as I am?

[knarigirl]

Very well written. I wish I could have formulated such a thorough explanation of my reasons to transition.

[BradinMe]

'm just so curious about why a guy is checking into these videos in the first place. One has to wonder what's up with that?

[reesekelly]

yeah. can't imagine they're that easy to stumble upon.

[CAtransguy]

This is awesome dude. :D and ignore clipsryan.

[mfitz1214]

lmao-why oh why do you egg him on, Reese? Not only can he not spell, but he seems so feeble-minded and you know not to battle with unarmed people.

Me thinks he protests too much. A future MTF and I would bet money on it.

[reesekelly]

i usually ignore people...but i needed an excuse to procrastinate some more today :)

[clipsryan]

"hi ma and dad, the fact that you gave me life isn't good enough, so I'm gonna ulter my private parts in order to feel like a women eventhough I don't know what that feels like but whatever". "Now I can trick straight men or now I can have straight sex with a gay man?

[reesekelly]

ha ha ha. you're such a f-cking idiot. ha ha ha. hey jack-ss, I USED to be a woman. yeah, and i became a man all to trick people into having sex with me. right.

you feeble minded prick. when you insult someone at least have somewhat of a clue as to what you're talking about.

[clipsryan]

Prove me wrong. You forgot about the first half of the comment by the way.

[reesekelly]

you mean where you spelled "alter" wrong?

[clipsryan]

Yeah that half!

[reesekelly]

you still don't get it do you? i feel sorry for you.

[clipsryan]

Oh I get it and don't feel sorry for me because I know who the fuck I am. Thanks for helping to give uptight christians more reasons to say that being gay is a choice. Good work.

[reesekelly]

christians are uptight?

[noorderloos]

thanks for inspiring me i m thinking for months ab how to tell my father

[reesekelly]

i wish you the best of luck :)

[siguent]

do you think you can give me this letter as a reference for coming out to my parents in the future...I'm only 19...and I absolutely freaks out whenever I think of how am I gonna do that...but I know! Deep down inside...that I've gotta do it! ASAP....:-)

[reesekelly]

You are welcome to take notes from the video. Good luck with talking to your parents.

[rockerdood74]

Great letter. Thank you for sharing it. I came out to my parents in person at the age of 33 (it was the hardest thing I have EVER had to do). I kind of wish I would have written a letter as well so they would have something to refer back to, reread, etc. However, since coming out I have had several conversations with them about it and they seem to understand where I am coming from now. Thank you again for sharing.

[reesekelly]

Thank you for your comment. It was really important to me that I gave them the space to process the letter. I didn't want to put them in a position where they'd immediately have to respond so that they could think about it, talk to each other, and even learn more about trans stuff on their own. That way we could come to the conversation on more equal footing. And honestly, I was afraid to see the look on their faces. Whatever it would have been, I could have read something negative into it.

[reesekelly]

I think you are incredibly brave for telling them in person. :)

[rockerdood74]

The thing I was shocked most about was that my dad (who is a jerk and knows it), was sad because I didn't tell them sooner. But I didn't know what tg meant until I was 33, even though I've always wanted a 'sex change'. When I was 3, I asked my dad, 'when will i turn into a boy' and he said when I was 12. He remembered that 30yrs later when I came out to him. I was shocked. I never id'd as a lesbian, and my sexuality and gender id were never discussion topics. I was just me.

[rockerdood74]

I just needed to let them know finally how I have always felt. That was the hard part. Like I was keeping a secret. I just always thought I was crazy, but it has been great meeting others that have similar childhood experiences/thoughts. I heard you say too, that you had to grow up and become an adult. That's how I felt. I was in New Zealand last May and got carded. The drinking age there is 18 and I was 34! It's hard to be a professional when everyone thinks you are a teenage boy...

[reesekelly]

ha ha ha, I know, right! There was about a year to two years at the beginning of my transition where no one would believe I was over 21 and I was 25/26. I still know that I look younger than my age, which is hard being in a profession where most of my colleagues are older than me to begin with. Oh well, I'm sure there are some advantages...maybe. ha ha :)

[cameraboi1229]

You were very eloquent in your description in your feelings and identity. You were also very fortunate to have a supportive family.

[reesekelly]

I think about that a lot...about how supportive they are and I do my best to remind them how appreciative I am all of the time. I only hope I can be the same for my children if I ever have any.

[brittanyisl0ve]

im not gonna lie, i cried like a baby at the end. you have such a way with words. kudos to you

[reesekelly]

thank you very much. i probably would have cried too, but it has been over two years since I wrote the letter, so it's not as sensitive a topic for me anymore. thanks for watching my videos.

Reese

[psytrancegirl]

my bf said.... this dude rules...btw my bf never use the word dude unless he wanna sound supportive.... like he would tell me ..DUDE ( I'm a grl and his gf) ur rite or u rock or telll his brother dude everything is gonna be ok and u are totally a cool dude for him :P ...I know it sounds kinda weird, or even dumb but if u knew my bf u would know he means good

[psytrancegirl]

UR SOOO FUCKING AWESOME U MAKE ME SOOO PROUD OF BEING A HUMAN BEING ur mind the way u handle urself....so effn center,,,, wow ur amazing ,,even my kinda homophobic bf loves the way u handle ur self, I would b so proud if u were a member of my family....would totally show smart geens on the fam :P

[reesekelly]

thank you :)

[TanzElement]

I adore you for this man. This is one of the best letters i've ever heard. Would you mind if I shared it with some other guys?

[reesekelly]

Thank you :) Yes, please feel free to share this with others.

[xoRobincredible]

this is great...you look awesome!

[reesekelly]

Thanks :)

[reesekelly]

My parents were actually really supportive. I know they were nervous, but they really trusted my judgement which says a lot about them and about our relationship.

[JayTeeNY12]

Thank you so much for sharing this. It's very helpful in a sense even though I have already taken that step in my life, I feel I need to constantly reassure them and constantly keep coming out at least to my mother whom isn't as accepting as my father is. It's well written, of course ^^ and I hope they responded in a supportive way.