Good point, can't say I agree 100%. Perfect relationships are fictional. I say date long enough to get to know the family and recognize bones of contention. If the couple cannot agree on how to handle these points and put them into practice before marriage then run. In laws should be guiding the couple. Sadly that is a rare occurrence. The 1st 16 years of my marriage we were in different countries. now we live close and discover that they have changed and even my wife is having problems.
Can honestly say I full heartedly disagree with this 100%. I went into my marriage with my husband after a lot of prayer and 3 years or so of dating despite his family possibly having issues with me. In a marriage family does not come before the spouse, so it shouldn't matter the family, but I guess that's just something my husband and I are stronger about than most couples. I ignore the 'issues' they have and focus on just my marriage. Maybe God intended the inlaws to be a problem to MINISTER.
@iCaramel You are right. Spouse should come first. Normally. So your spouse isn't normal. But yeah, Who is perfect? You saw this before. Still, you promised eternal fidelity. Did you say to your spouse: "I will only marry you if you chase away your mother!" ? Did he promise that? Did you expect that? Why?
You made a choise. You accepted him the way he is. He is like that. Why did you made this decision?
Don't blame god's intentions for your decision or attitude. It makes you careless.
@kobor42 What I mean by maybe God intended the in-laws to be that way (because youtube limits comment characters or I'd write out my full thoughts) is more of like...maybe God intended for you to be put into that specific situation to minister something to you or help you learn to grow stronger in something. I learned from my in-laws how to have ever lasting love and patience for others. God in turn might use YOU to teach THEM something as well.
I find his issue is... if you have issues with the family. Then why go into a situation you do not like?
Its easy for you because you stayed strong. You lived it out and got through it.... some people cannot handle that so hes making the point "Why put yourself in that situation anyway???"
@revron77 It really isn't easy at all to be honest. I've been married for over a year and I still have struggles here and there but the difference between me then and me now is I know that no matter what, God is in control of this marriage and it won't matter what the in-laws, actual parents, or anyone else has to say about it. I understand he's talking to single people and dating people with this video, but I feel like it's putting a bit of a bad light on possible God driven marriages just >>
@iCaramel because of the in-laws. Then again, I have not seen the whole series so who knows what he's actually going to say about it. Just a distasteful snippet of the video for me I guess being someone who got married into a tough family but getting through it. I didn't find this a horrible thing, I found it a blessing in disguise instead :)
this guy is soo funny
enemysenemy 1 month ago
guess ill never get married i dont even like my family
junebugj428 1 month ago 3
does this mean there is no hope for me?
not kidding ya! I have the most psycho/dysfunctional (apart from dad) family in the entire planet!!!!
and it will bother me when the bf starts wondering why i wont introduce him to the family....
TheLooselois 2 months ago
Good point, can't say I agree 100%. Perfect relationships are fictional. I say date long enough to get to know the family and recognize bones of contention. If the couple cannot agree on how to handle these points and put them into practice before marriage then run. In laws should be guiding the couple. Sadly that is a rare occurrence. The 1st 16 years of my marriage we were in different countries. now we live close and discover that they have changed and even my wife is having problems.
10yearvet 2 months ago
I would have done ANYTHING to have heard this video 10 years ago.
bigun89 2 months ago
Can honestly say I full heartedly disagree with this 100%. I went into my marriage with my husband after a lot of prayer and 3 years or so of dating despite his family possibly having issues with me. In a marriage family does not come before the spouse, so it shouldn't matter the family, but I guess that's just something my husband and I are stronger about than most couples. I ignore the 'issues' they have and focus on just my marriage. Maybe God intended the inlaws to be a problem to MINISTER.
iCaramel 2 months ago
@iCaramel You are right. Spouse should come first. Normally. So your spouse isn't normal. But yeah, Who is perfect? You saw this before. Still, you promised eternal fidelity. Did you say to your spouse: "I will only marry you if you chase away your mother!" ? Did he promise that? Did you expect that? Why?
You made a choise. You accepted him the way he is. He is like that. Why did you made this decision?
Don't blame god's intentions for your decision or attitude. It makes you careless.
kobor42 2 months ago
@kobor42 What I mean by maybe God intended the in-laws to be that way (because youtube limits comment characters or I'd write out my full thoughts) is more of like...maybe God intended for you to be put into that specific situation to minister something to you or help you learn to grow stronger in something. I learned from my in-laws how to have ever lasting love and patience for others. God in turn might use YOU to teach THEM something as well.
iCaramel 2 months ago
@iCaramel
I find his issue is... if you have issues with the family. Then why go into a situation you do not like?
Its easy for you because you stayed strong. You lived it out and got through it.... some people cannot handle that so hes making the point "Why put yourself in that situation anyway???"
revron77 2 months ago
@revron77 It really isn't easy at all to be honest. I've been married for over a year and I still have struggles here and there but the difference between me then and me now is I know that no matter what, God is in control of this marriage and it won't matter what the in-laws, actual parents, or anyone else has to say about it. I understand he's talking to single people and dating people with this video, but I feel like it's putting a bit of a bad light on possible God driven marriages just >>
iCaramel 2 months ago
@iCaramel because of the in-laws. Then again, I have not seen the whole series so who knows what he's actually going to say about it. Just a distasteful snippet of the video for me I guess being someone who got married into a tough family but getting through it. I didn't find this a horrible thing, I found it a blessing in disguise instead :)
iCaramel 2 months ago
bcs I can't stand them we moved to another continent miles away.....HAHAHAHHAHAAAAA
littlegiant1972 2 months ago
Well Said!!!
kemuael 2 months ago