@Landrew120880 When I identify as "queer" to me it means so many things, but mostly outside of the contrasts that society has defined the gender binary to be. I also use "queer" to define my sexuality. Though people walking down the street view my partner and I as a "straight" couple we will never be that straight couple and will never feel like we are.
I do think that depression is very common among gender variant individuals because of societies perceived limitations of gender expression.
@Landrew120880 I attended a meeting tonight where I heard many instances of depression with people dealing with coming to terms with who they are and coming out to people. One of the hardest things is coming out to people, which I again feel is very hard because of the strict gender binary views the society we live in teaches us to hold.
You have really inspired me, I just thought I'd let you know that because of your videos, I came out of the closet to my mom last night and told her that I didn't want to be a girl. It went well. It could've went better, because she still doesn't accept it, but she said she wasn't going to say anything against it. Thank you for inspiring me so much.
@JustinCaseyFTW Thanks for watching my videos. I'm glad I could help and I'm glad things are going well with your Mom. If you want to friend me on facebook it's Kaden FTM. Thanks for watching and let me know if there are any videos you want me to make (maybe I'll start making some again soon) or if you have any questions or anything. Have a great week! Kaden
This was a really great video. I know it's easy for some ppl to just fit EVERY trans person into the ''born in the wrong body'' category (of course that's how a lot of transpeople feel) when gender is so much more complex. I think it was brave of you to put yourself out there and explain how you really feel.
@alissewonder The subtle varieties in the trans community itself are so interesting that it overgrows the petty conceptions often held by people or professionals about sexual identity and so-called orientation.Even when a person starts with a defined trans identity,if the spirit grows enough to embrace its androgeny and realize the potential alternatives of this condition, a new spectrum of possibilities opens up and the beautiful hues of colors start to show up.
Hi, im 15 years old and im feeling alot of the same ways. i dont want to be a girl but male dosent fit me to either i am me. i do go by male pronouns and i date girls but i dont consider my self a "straight man". i am a huge feminist so completely male dosent really fit. i do plan to go on T and have top surgery and like you i see myself as gender queer. but this situation is reeally complicated even for people who support me. how do i explain to them how i feel so they can really know who i am?
@TheRainbowMcFly ou can tell them, but most of all you will have to show them. Just be yourself. Over time they will understand. Not everyone knows that I don't really feel maie & many don't even know I'm trans, but the ones that matter and love me know. They know to treat me the same as before hormones and love me as I have always been. They see I'm happier now and that this is my true self. My appearance has changed but that is it. Give it time and have patience and most of all be yourself.
your experience with puberty sounds very similar to mine. I just kinda numbed myself. still to this day I've just made myself sort of apathetic and "I just don't care anymore" attitude, depression and all that. It's getting better though. Especially since I will be starting T and also hopefully getting top surgery soon.
You sound soooo much like me... As far as just being me and self mutilation and everything I really thank you for sharing this with us and this actaully helps me alot as to my transition
How did you go about telling people at school and that you worked closely with?
How did they take it? I think that's one of my biggest fears as well as I don't want it to affect me getting a new job
I am glad my sharing helps and that you can relate. I didn't think I was alone.
I was not in school so I didn't have to worry about that. Most people I know in college make sure to email professors before classes start to make sure they get the name right... if it is not legally changed yet, and the pronouns right. My friend came out in high school and I believe his parents told teachers and administrators.
At work I was lucky enough to have a very supportive boss and boss' boss. I came out
to them as well as the VP of finance to make sure everything would be ok. I then started T and waited until maybe ~4 months on T until I told everyone on staff (not a very large staff ~40 I told). I emailed them and received many positive responses. Others had no response, but I've never had any issues. It took time for them to adjust, but they are all doing great. I still use a family restroom for my own comfort most of the time, but that is my choice.
was also a little concerned before, but I am a very open and out person so I don't mind sharing it with new employers and explaining if asked. I think I am more confident now to get a new job... now that I am really comfortable with myself. i don't ever plan on changing my sex on any documents so I will also have to explain, but that is fine by me... at the moment at least.
Thanks 4 taking the time to share your experiences. I just have two questions plz. What does "queer" mean as it applies to you?
Secondly, when someone is having gender identity issues in a society that has limited understanding of human nature, is clinical depression common?
Landrew120880 2 months ago
@Landrew120880 When I identify as "queer" to me it means so many things, but mostly outside of the contrasts that society has defined the gender binary to be. I also use "queer" to define my sexuality. Though people walking down the street view my partner and I as a "straight" couple we will never be that straight couple and will never feel like we are.
I do think that depression is very common among gender variant individuals because of societies perceived limitations of gender expression.
moldingMe 2 months ago
@Landrew120880 I attended a meeting tonight where I heard many instances of depression with people dealing with coming to terms with who they are and coming out to people. One of the hardest things is coming out to people, which I again feel is very hard because of the strict gender binary views the society we live in teaches us to hold.
moldingMe 2 months ago
Wow, your voice has really deepened since I've seen one of your videos. You look great. Continue pursuing your happiness!
:-)
VirgoDar 2 months ago
@VirgoDar Thanks!
moldingMe 2 months ago
thank you so much...you explained so much about how i feel and talk about in my videos
Pathfinder110583 2 months ago
@Pathfinder110583 Thanks for watching. I'll have to check out your videos soon!
moldingMe 2 months ago
You have really inspired me, I just thought I'd let you know that because of your videos, I came out of the closet to my mom last night and told her that I didn't want to be a girl. It went well. It could've went better, because she still doesn't accept it, but she said she wasn't going to say anything against it. Thank you for inspiring me so much.
JustinCaseyFTW 2 months ago in playlist More videos from moldingMe
@JustinCaseyFTW Thanks for watching my videos. I'm glad I could help and I'm glad things are going well with your Mom. If you want to friend me on facebook it's Kaden FTM. Thanks for watching and let me know if there are any videos you want me to make (maybe I'll start making some again soon) or if you have any questions or anything. Have a great week! Kaden
moldingMe 2 months ago
This was a really great video. I know it's easy for some ppl to just fit EVERY trans person into the ''born in the wrong body'' category (of course that's how a lot of transpeople feel) when gender is so much more complex. I think it was brave of you to put yourself out there and explain how you really feel.
alissewonder 10 months ago
@alissewonder The subtle varieties in the trans community itself are so interesting that it overgrows the petty conceptions often held by people or professionals about sexual identity and so-called orientation.Even when a person starts with a defined trans identity,if the spirit grows enough to embrace its androgeny and realize the potential alternatives of this condition, a new spectrum of possibilities opens up and the beautiful hues of colors start to show up.
Gwynsek 9 months ago
Hi, im 15 years old and im feeling alot of the same ways. i dont want to be a girl but male dosent fit me to either i am me. i do go by male pronouns and i date girls but i dont consider my self a "straight man". i am a huge feminist so completely male dosent really fit. i do plan to go on T and have top surgery and like you i see myself as gender queer. but this situation is reeally complicated even for people who support me. how do i explain to them how i feel so they can really know who i am?
TheRainbowMcFly 1 year ago
@TheRainbowMcFly ou can tell them, but most of all you will have to show them. Just be yourself. Over time they will understand. Not everyone knows that I don't really feel maie & many don't even know I'm trans, but the ones that matter and love me know. They know to treat me the same as before hormones and love me as I have always been. They see I'm happier now and that this is my true self. My appearance has changed but that is it. Give it time and have patience and most of all be yourself.
moldingMe 1 year ago
your experience with puberty sounds very similar to mine. I just kinda numbed myself. still to this day I've just made myself sort of apathetic and "I just don't care anymore" attitude, depression and all that. It's getting better though. Especially since I will be starting T and also hopefully getting top surgery soon.
MyGenesis122 1 year ago
@MyGenesis122 Glad to hear you understand and that it is getting better for you! Good luck with everything!!
moldingMe 1 year ago
Do you date men or women more?
You055Tuber 1 year ago
@You055Tuber I am married to a woman so I don't date anymore. I am mainly attracted to women.
moldingMe 1 year ago
*wink*
MeikoEliasXavier 1 year ago
@MeikoEliasXavier Right back at you handsome
moldingMe 1 year ago
This has helped me a tremendous amount, thanks so much for sharing.
drummerstarboy 1 year ago
@drummerstarboy I'm glad it helped!
moldingMe 1 year ago
your very cute :)
canvasofdreams75 1 year ago
Thanks
moldingMe 1 year ago
GREAT to hear :) Good luck!
DaveAndy89 1 year ago
Thanks!
moldingMe 1 year ago
Good video so far
You sound soooo much like me... As far as just being me and self mutilation and everything I really thank you for sharing this with us and this actaully helps me alot as to my transition
How did you go about telling people at school and that you worked closely with?
How did they take it? I think that's one of my biggest fears as well as I don't want it to affect me getting a new job
Brandon
bem045000 1 year ago
I am glad my sharing helps and that you can relate. I didn't think I was alone.
I was not in school so I didn't have to worry about that. Most people I know in college make sure to email professors before classes start to make sure they get the name right... if it is not legally changed yet, and the pronouns right. My friend came out in high school and I believe his parents told teachers and administrators.
At work I was lucky enough to have a very supportive boss and boss' boss. I came out
moldingMe 1 year ago
to them as well as the VP of finance to make sure everything would be ok. I then started T and waited until maybe ~4 months on T until I told everyone on staff (not a very large staff ~40 I told). I emailed them and received many positive responses. Others had no response, but I've never had any issues. It took time for them to adjust, but they are all doing great. I still use a family restroom for my own comfort most of the time, but that is my choice.
As far as getting a new job goes, I
moldingMe 1 year ago
was also a little concerned before, but I am a very open and out person so I don't mind sharing it with new employers and explaining if asked. I think I am more confident now to get a new job... now that I am really comfortable with myself. i don't ever plan on changing my sex on any documents so I will also have to explain, but that is fine by me... at the moment at least.
I hope that answers your questions.
Kaden
moldingMe 1 year ago