I am shocked by the above responses. if it is dramatic or irrational for someone to challenge human beings to cultivate compassion, then so be it. Learn.. Try to drop your armor and listen carefully...
Many dislikes. I wonder. Joan takes on a lot of pain, and has been doing so for a long long long time. Perhaps she needs a rest, who are we to know what Joan needs - I know she is totally authentic. Imagine working with dying people for 40 years!!!!
the reason this video has so many thumbs down is because Joan Halifax puts emotions like compassion and empathy in a good light, and says they are necessary. Our culture mistakenly views them as a weakness. And why in the hell is everybody saying this wasn't scientific enough? It's a talk about compassion, it's not supposed to be scientific! That's like trying to analyze a symphony with math.
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I have nothing against women, I think they are brilliant but seriously why is every tedwomen talk so emotional and unscientific, I'm not saying women are unscientific they are just as scientific as we are (as far as I know) but women doing these shitty emotional and moral driven talks just helps enforce the stereotype of the traditional women and thus completely contradict what the tedwomen talks were meant to do. that is all.
2) Why do the religious feel it's their duty to always throw their religion in other peoples faces?
3) A little less drama would be nice.
4) Compassion without rational thought is useless. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Mother Teresa provided care for the dying, but did close to nothing to save them, because she truly believed that their suffering would lead them to Paradise. I wonder if TRUE belief in reincarnation/rebirth is any different...
@therealbreadfan I like your #4 evaluation of compassion. It is truly a tricky thing to determine what is truly compassionate. Our understanding of help may be a hindrance to the recipient. I think true compassion doesnt start with creating a solution for the person in harm, but to just be there and listen to others with an open heart and an open mind. Its not my job to heal people, but to give them the safe and loving environment to allow them to heal themselves.
@therealbreadfan What- Why do the religious throw their religion... Dude, just go find something to do, maybe something OUTSIDE, because your getting weird. Please don't keep guns around. Jesus. Oops
compassion, compassion, compassion i hate that buddhist crap i mean yes be empathic and care about others but come on this is like preaching to convert to buddhism
I would also add as anecdotal evidence, my g/f went to a hs with very well off kids, and there still seemed to be plenty of displays of psychopathic type behavior. I know that's pretty abstract evidence, but it is enough for me personally to not place everything on environment(most, maybe). In fact it supports my idea that you almost have to be an asshole to get rich in America at this point, and assholes have asshole kids. None the less, I guess it still leaves us with nature vs nurture.
@dreaminginnoother Nobody is suggesting that a nurturing environment is defined by material privilege. The chief requisite conditions seem to be love and emotional support, coupled with an awareness of suffering. I agree, all too often, the qualities which promote and maintain material acquisition are sinister ones; placing career and money above friends, partners, children, spirituality, intellectual exploration, etc. Moreover, good people don't hold onto riches while other people are starving.
There's a technical difference between Psychopaths and sociopaths, it isn't for PC. Psychopaths have a physical reason for their personality as sociopaths are a product of their environment. Just FYI
@ElectricError meh. one leans more toward environment, the other more toward genetics. Determining which is which is not very clear though. You won't find psychopathy in the newer DSM's(I guess 'antisocial disorder' kind of took it's place). I think there is more easily a negative reaction to a term that admits some babies come out of the womb 'evil'. I get your point, and you are right, I am specifically speaking of the physical/genetic disorder.
I dunno. She says compassion exists in everyone, but clearly it does not. And those people are called psychopaths, or more PC, sociopaths. Still the same idea, their brain doesn't register empathy.
@dreaminginnoother I suppose she might say that people who have managed to get through life without a conscience have simply not had the most favorable and optimal experiences for the cultivation of compassion.
@maichips that may be true for some, but there has not been a found a direct causal correlation. Not to say we could maybe not decrease the number of psychopaths by creating more loving environments, but some people just kinda come out bad too.
@dreaminginnoother I would add that w/ oxytocin, this is a different way of looking at environment. Low numbers of social supports or lack of community in cultural worldview can regulate the chemical. Environmental studies are far too simple in getting at the effects of subjectively perceived environment, which is what oxytocin manages. For instance, in the United States, individualism makes for a culture-wide poverty of community and the world's high of mood disorders. Coincidence?
@Darwyn43 I don't know about oxytocin's direct role in perceived environment, but knowing what I do about oxytocin, it makes enough sense. But in that case, a brain defect could drastically alter that perceived environment, no? I would not disagree that most social problems are born of poor environment, in our case, created by the individualistic culture. I very much liked zeitgeist: moving forward which was pretty much all about this, but the causal link is still yet to be found.
@dreaminginnoother This is the kind of chicken-egg stuff I am most interested in. For instance, the fact is, American psychology assumes that genetic brain defects are the cause of psychopathology, and yet the views stem from a culture of trait-based thinking. We "reduce" to individuals, so are poor at representing non-linear environmental effects. In fact, I would say "madness" of all kinds is both biological AND developmental BECAUSE of chemistry like oxytocin, dopamine, etc. No defect needed.
@Darwyn43 to the first message, I would say not at all. I can't really disagree with anything you are saying. Either way, America needs a full renovation, it's gettin' ugly fast. It would be awesome if we moved to a socially focused resource based type of economy as proposed by the zeitgeist movement. Then we could find out what role environment plays in psychopathology:). There is a book I have read a little about and am interested in reading called political ponerology. Maybe you would too.
@dreaminginnoother I would agree, but I would stipulate that empathy CAN live in everyone. The chemical of empathy, oxytocin, is a fluid system that exists at birth. If we do not attach to our mother at an early age or maintain social ties later in life, we do not maintain levels of the chemical - our ability to trust, experience social pleasure or be pro-social goes down. In Romanian orphanage kids, they have autistic like effects, for instance. Similarly, psychopaths are made, not born.
@dreaminginnoother I would stipulate that empathy CAN live in everyone. The chemical of empathy, oxytocin, is a fluid system that exists at birth. If we do not attach to our mother at an early age or maintain social ties later in life, we do not maintain levels of the chemical - our ability to trust, experience social pleasure or be pro-social goes down. In Romanian orphanage kids, they have autistic like effects, for instance. Similarly, psychopaths are made, not born.
though i am not a woman i still don't understand the point of her message. you want me to feel upset about every form of suffering that i see and go and help the sufferer? what do i get out of it? there is probably more suffering than i can comprehend in the world so why should i go about fixing it ? this kind of extreme empathy makes no sense.
Compassion is not present "in every human being" as she says. At least 1% of the population is a psychopath. And that rises to 3 to 4% the higher you go up in society's strata. So psychopaths are more likely to be found in positions of power, wielding the power to make changes to things like poverty and suffering.
I don't trust for even a second that the "compassion enhances our immune system" or that "generation of compassion mobilizes our immunity."
It sounds like someone just making shit up when they have no idea what they're talking about: Compassion isn't going to spark an increase in the generation of more or better NK cells, lymphocytes, etc. that comprise the immune system.
Emory, which she referenced, has an "ongoing study" with "promising early findings" of something called "compassion meditation", according to their website. They are researching the effect of this meditation (i.e. relaxation) on inflammation, not the effect of compassion itself or even whether the meditation is effective for its stated purpose of increasing compassion.
Religious texts get outdated as language moves on, evolves and requires translation. The people who died before 2011 are dead and deserve no voice, it's how their modern 'counterparts' think that represents them in 2011. No-one can touch modern people like Christopher Hitchens, and those inspired by Carl Sagan, with strained links to people thousands of years ago.
All she's saying is that 'good is good' and 'bad is bad', so bland it can be applied by all sides of any issue.
a men its a empty box that need love and specially sex, and women its a creator of love, and in this world some men things that if you don't have you will not have love, because some women have sell themselves to the material world. Sex its one of the biggest problems of this society. And a men with insecurities its a mortal weapon.
@yannoche yeah right because you give all you have to poor people and you care...I'm sure of that!!! Realize that you are just a selfish human being (ass we all are)...Some times doing charity makes feel me better but I realize that I'm doing it for myself.
Is not hard to be a bad (or good) person....society have the most importance...
PS: search for Milgram's experiment and Philip Zimbardo (not to the point but somehow related)
@Arghira : Hello, I get your point, but please do not generalize too fast about other people behaviours.
You can have compassion all around you, sure you can't save the Earth and its inhabitants alone, but everyone living eyes open about their surrounding will help it. That's what i took from this person speach.
Yes I heard a lot about Milgram. Lately french tv redid the experiment to test 'spectators' (there is also a movie named "I comme Icare" deals with the concept).
Well well ... more feminist bullshit. It was quite enlightening and interesting until she started the feminist rant towards the end. Females (angels) in a sea of fire (men a.k.a. the devils). This woman doesn't look like she likes men either...
I love everything about this talk, except for the slant towards females. Why can't men feel compassion as well? I feel like this would almost DISCOURAGE them! Everything else she said, though, really touched my heart.
This is one of the most beautiful and true speeches. It is true that men, instead of feeling empowered by the strenght and intelligence of his female (sisters, wife, mother..), they feel threatened. How can we overcome this? I'd like to quote Germaine Greer: "The opposite to patriarchy is not matriarchy but fraternity, yet I think it’s women who are going to have to break this spiral of power and find the trick of cooperation"
I like this talk, I really do. Joan Halifax, seems like a great humanitarian. She explains compassion very well, but I think women have more to offer than preaching to a choir. Why isn't there more female scientists up here, showing real empowerment in male dominated fields?
TEDWomen talks seem more like issues of morality, than anything else. Which I suppose is fine. But I think Women offer more than this, it is a shame we do not see more of them.
@jathgnos Truer words have never been spoken on Youtube. I still fail to see the importance of the endless repetition of the themes regarding empathy, there should be no need to repeat the same, rather simplistic, type of message time after time. It seems that nowadays these types of videos take up almost one fourth of TED's new uploads.
She spoke too vaguely. I clicked on this thinking she was going to reveal data/discoveries about compassion from real examples, you know, real information?
Overly feminist in my opinion. Actually, it's I don't even think it's feminist... it's more just sexist. Even if she wants to argue that woman have more compassion than men in general... she acknowledge there are plenty of compassionate men and not make this a sex issue.
great, pessimists...always bring something positive to the table.... That was what I perceive to be the biggest flaw in my (and many others') favorite comedian, George Carlin. He was so pessimistic about the human race that he detached all his feelings regarding fellow humans (except close family and friends...) If everyone acted compassionately, the world would be a much better place. If everyone acts indifferently, the world gets a lot worse. Each person counts...
@mellamosean sometimes I feel drained in being compassionate... it's a way too slow process. I'm more of a engineering mind so I prefer to do great difference with minimal effort. Funny how you mentioned George Carlin, I literally worship him. But as I would agree with Stephen Hawkins, I fear the worst for mankind...
Compassion: Think before acting. Don't hurt others. Be honest. Work to better yourself and to educate yourself and others. Know that being angry all the time doesn't make things better. There. I said more then she did in the entire talk......
TED-woman sux.. but why? there are brilliant women outthere with brilliant things to say that need to be shared to improve our lives, but instead TED-woman is just... huge speeches about feeling, 13 min of ... what was that? learned nothing. Saying the word compassion every 30 secs isn't going to change the world. Change the background and people will change, not the other way around
true human race absolutely would survive without compassion, actually it was mentioned by the greeks and warned that it was a morbous state, even great philosophers have warned about compassion, telling actually compassion spreads misery, multiplies misery and goes against what is strong in life. Defending compassion is actually worthless and somehow stupid. Compassion as Shopenhauer sais denies life.
@jcliveron No compassion, cruelty rocks eh? I think she debunked that position pretty well, that what was criticised was pity, and that compassion was separate and desirable.
I can't shake this feeling of disingenuity when listening to her. Her wavering emotional voice and passionate gestures remind me of a religious leader who has cultivated these manipulative skills.
I got some good stuff outof the middle of the talk, like how Pity is different to Compassion (i'd like to have heard more about that distinction), and i thought the "you cannot be attached to outcome" advice was also good.
Right away, just dumb and demonstrably false. You could make the argument that if everyone was more rational, the human race would survive without compassion. If you look at -some- people you can see compassion and no reason and a whole heck of a lot of hot air and wasted potential.
Mankind doesn't have empathy, cos they tend to give a fuck about dead while at the same time not a single fuck was given to the living, which just shows you how broken majorities people's value system is.
@joshcarstraw18 Compassion is a technology, entertainment is subjective and there is design is in every sentence spoken. Most importantly, the TED acronym should not be read as a barrier of exclusion.
you was goin' to da chair, you'd want da Fodder dair to forgive you all yur sins & save yur ass from goin' to hell. She ain't helpin nobody in this kind of situation ceptin' her own shit. She makes herself feel bad at yur demise and that makes her feel good. She feels good after all that time caterin' to yur sorry ass. That's kind of creepy. She sounds like that "Do youuuuu believe in miracles?" woman on TV or like some kind of flipped out horny nun. I'd take the priest instead.
this is a strategic marketing thing. Clearly TED wants to grow bigger and target a new group of people. This tendency has been going on for quite a while now. I only have one thing to say about it: Fire this one person who continues to bring marketing analysis up at the meetings at TED HQ. He or She clearly doesn't know what he or she is talking about!
@pseudonymuser What is that supposed to mean? She was invited to give a speech to a certain audience, and she failed to address her target. She was wrong. On a sidenote, I have listened to talks on buddhism and compassion before, and -let me tell you- this was just plain boring.
@ir192217..and if aggressive traits further survival of a particular type of ant that will improve survival.
LiveScience July 2006.
In fighting trials against their natural enemy, a different species of ant.
F. xerophila ants are most successful when they gang up on opponents.
The aggressive ones were more likely to kill their opponents, though, so the behavior served the larger community by keeping enemies away from limited resources.
Compassion? Aggression? Whatever works to ensure survival.
this is spiritual douchebaggery... i am "buddhist" but i don't stake my ego on it, walk around saying "compassion" or wearing stupid clothing (sorry Joan but yo clothes is whack) - reading some CHOGYAM TRUNGPA or will help this old bat...
true compassion (thanks for saying it 1000 times Joan) in the words of Ramana Maharshi is seeing that "there are no others". The only thing that can help is to wake up from the dream.
Ideas worth sharing? Really? I am here for great ideas, not religion and believes. There is not much "idea" in this talk, and men are capable of love and compassion too, whats wrong with the speaker? While I agree that compassion is important, this is by far the most disappointing video I have watched on TED.
@GapToN I'm not going to say that I disagree with you, but, at least here in the United States, we live in a male dominated society. Right now our society is going down the toilet. If there was more love and compassion among our leaders then we would not be facing most of the ills this country is now facing. Instead of love and compassion, money has taken it's place. On the other hand, I think that she is generalizing when she implies that all men, in general are not compassionate.
@jpr422 But that's not a male/female thing, it's a republican/democrat thing. There's not an ounce of compassion in the entire GOP these days who seem more intent on fucking their own poor and killing other countries' people than promoting acceptance.
@Strand0410 That I would have to agree with you. Party definitely has a big role to play in it. Though, you can't include the entire GOP. It's the extremists or the radicals within that party that show no compassion. Unfortunately, it seems that they make up most of the GOP. Back to the gender thing, men tend to be more interested in money and power than women, and women seem to be more into relationships and I mean long-lasting relationships. It could be a gender issue AND a party issue.
@jpr422 I hate generalising, but the modern GOP has been hijacked by these loons. And in fear of being seen as soft on crime, drugs or terrorism, they've drifted even more right to appease these extremist douchebag voters. The 'balanced' ones are utterly powerless because they have to answer to that crazy party.
Gender-based political speculation is baseless. Ann Coulter's a woman, who also happens to be the most heartless and thoughtless human being in US politics + Palin, O'Donnell etc.
What is she talking about, shouldn't she be at a church instead of a TED lecture? It's all this emotional pep talk stuff, like "Lets learn to find the joy within our souls" nonsense that doesn't have any practical bearing on anything.
if she said "We humans need social contacts to survive as a species" than that was true and then she could go on on love but you dont need love to survive.
we are a social species we would not survive without teamwork.
and all species? Yeah right i guess a spider loves his mate right before he kills him. yes get your fact straight.
social species like primates need each other to survive but not love.
@RickonDraw No science? Lets state a well known fact, if your parents did not provide you with love, you would not survive, plain and simple. During the nazi days, experiments were done on babies. One was nurtured fed and held, the other was just simply fed, not touched, held, or loved. That baby died, due to lack of love. Hows that for science?
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Compassion would do much in feasible deeds. It is not enough to be compassionate for dying people in hospices while the drugs are available. And the only limitation is purchasing power - this has to be addressed.
Very funny and immature to bring ancient myths and label "compassion" for women only cause some goddess said so!
Compassion going with politics? if only - As for doctors, Yes they definitely should be more compassionate nurses included, but i think for them it's a way of mentally protecting themselves when patients unexpectedly die and this shields them from internal grievance and conflict ('it just i did the best i could').
Kids especially need to be educated on this subject as more & more people focus on themselves & whats in it for them, & then teach this a personal strength of value to their kids.
@authoradamwhittaker Let me translate for you. Feel compassion, but step back emotionally so you don't get run over by sad feelings, pity won't help and it will fuck you up. Actually do something.
I paraphrased the 13 minutes, but obviously she said something.
@adolthitler Thank you for the summary. After listening to the first two minutes i decided i could not listen to the entire thing without becomming overpoweringly irritated at the speaker.
I totally agree with the content of the summary, and i've practiced this for a few years now. Not only for empathy/compassion, but for feelings in general. I have them, and i use them, but i don't let them rule me, i use them as input for deciding what to do. Some have noted this as being behaviourally "cold".
the reason why i think women are viewed as the more compassionate sex, is probably because of the prejudice associated with the word. In most cultures, men are viewed as being the hard-hearted one and women the soft, compassionate person. Showing signs of compassion for a man is actually viewed as disgraceful by his peers; hence, peer pressure.
Yet, again... well done GUYS for pointlessly making this video into a GENDER issue. What the fuck is wrong with you all? Are you really so insecure about women having a bit of power???
If I said "throughout history, guys, and only guys, have exemplified intelligence" I'd get flamed SO fast. But women are the only ones capable of caring, ever? Sure, that's not sexist.
Compassion like love, is an emotion that can't be expressed in words, it's something known only to those that have experienced it. And i think too often were taught that self gratification is the only gratification, and the world we live in one riddled with war and poverty is a direct result of that mindset. its time to challenge these values, we need to reevaluate what is really important not just to ourselves but the society and the world as a whole
Beautiful ... :) ! ty
Maiyaee 1 day ago
Why is it that anyone preaching compassion instantly gets a lot of hate?
devourerofbabies 2 weeks ago
@therealbreadfan:
1) It's really no different to, say, stroking one's beard.
2) Buddhism is a philosophy not a religion.
3) You probably wouldn't say that if she were, say, discussing a complex scientific subject.
4) Rational thought without compassion leads to horrific acts of violence.
Scorpion0x17 1 month ago
I am shocked by the above responses. if it is dramatic or irrational for someone to challenge human beings to cultivate compassion, then so be it. Learn.. Try to drop your armor and listen carefully...
fudgyboy2 1 month ago
Many dislikes. I wonder. Joan takes on a lot of pain, and has been doing so for a long long long time. Perhaps she needs a rest, who are we to know what Joan needs - I know she is totally authentic. Imagine working with dying people for 40 years!!!!
earlyrisersteph 1 month ago
I cannot f#cking believe she got on the channel and Sarah Silverman didn't.
masusomasuso 3 months ago 3
the reason this video has so many thumbs down is because Joan Halifax puts emotions like compassion and empathy in a good light, and says they are necessary. Our culture mistakenly views them as a weakness. And why in the hell is everybody saying this wasn't scientific enough? It's a talk about compassion, it's not supposed to be scientific! That's like trying to analyze a symphony with math.
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lightandbeautiful 4 months ago
I have nothing against women, I think they are brilliant but seriously why is every tedwomen talk so emotional and unscientific, I'm not saying women are unscientific they are just as scientific as we are (as far as I know) but women doing these shitty emotional and moral driven talks just helps enforce the stereotype of the traditional women and thus completely contradict what the tedwomen talks were meant to do. that is all.
fruiteo 4 months ago
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It could be because women are more emotional. You cant science everything.
AnaLoGMunKy 3 months ago
@fruiteo I (female) agree. I wonder what has stopped people around her from telling her she is taling out of her ass. Condescension maybe?
masusomasuso 3 months ago
0:15 start of talk.
stgnnn 5 months ago
1) What's with the hands?
2) Why do the religious feel it's their duty to always throw their religion in other peoples faces?
3) A little less drama would be nice.
4) Compassion without rational thought is useless. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Mother Teresa provided care for the dying, but did close to nothing to save them, because she truly believed that their suffering would lead them to Paradise. I wonder if TRUE belief in reincarnation/rebirth is any different...
therealbreadfan 5 months ago 7
@therealbreadfan I like your #4 evaluation of compassion. It is truly a tricky thing to determine what is truly compassionate. Our understanding of help may be a hindrance to the recipient. I think true compassion doesnt start with creating a solution for the person in harm, but to just be there and listen to others with an open heart and an open mind. Its not my job to heal people, but to give them the safe and loving environment to allow them to heal themselves.
slangsd 5 months ago
@therealbreadfan What- Why do the religious throw their religion... Dude, just go find something to do, maybe something OUTSIDE, because your getting weird. Please don't keep guns around. Jesus. Oops
twoz3ro 1 month ago
compassion, compassion, compassion i hate that buddhist crap i mean yes be empathic and care about others but come on this is like preaching to convert to buddhism
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I don't get why this clip has so many thumbs down. Perhaps those people lack compassion.
ogrish84 5 months ago
this chick might look old, but I reckon she's got at least five years of fuck left in her
chopper84a 5 months ago
Oh please TED, no more hippies
HeilNizar 5 months ago
@HeilNizar You need to smoke some pot and take some LSD.
ogrish84 5 months ago
@HeilNizar hippies gave us the sexual revolution, good music, and marijauna. Not all bad. Peace.
ThisSentenceIsFalse 5 months ago
Brilliant. I bow to living Avalókitéšvara.
RagDoll2band 5 months ago
I would also add as anecdotal evidence, my g/f went to a hs with very well off kids, and there still seemed to be plenty of displays of psychopathic type behavior. I know that's pretty abstract evidence, but it is enough for me personally to not place everything on environment(most, maybe). In fact it supports my idea that you almost have to be an asshole to get rich in America at this point, and assholes have asshole kids. None the less, I guess it still leaves us with nature vs nurture.
dreaminginnoother 5 months ago
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Silenus6 5 months ago
@dreaminginnoother Nobody is suggesting that a nurturing environment is defined by material privilege. The chief requisite conditions seem to be love and emotional support, coupled with an awareness of suffering. I agree, all too often, the qualities which promote and maintain material acquisition are sinister ones; placing career and money above friends, partners, children, spirituality, intellectual exploration, etc. Moreover, good people don't hold onto riches while other people are starving.
Silenus6 5 months ago
Namaste.
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kasperx01 5 months ago
There's a technical difference between Psychopaths and sociopaths, it isn't for PC. Psychopaths have a physical reason for their personality as sociopaths are a product of their environment. Just FYI
ElectricError 5 months ago
@ElectricError meh. one leans more toward environment, the other more toward genetics. Determining which is which is not very clear though. You won't find psychopathy in the newer DSM's(I guess 'antisocial disorder' kind of took it's place). I think there is more easily a negative reaction to a term that admits some babies come out of the womb 'evil'. I get your point, and you are right, I am specifically speaking of the physical/genetic disorder.
dreaminginnoother 5 months ago
I dunno. She says compassion exists in everyone, but clearly it does not. And those people are called psychopaths, or more PC, sociopaths. Still the same idea, their brain doesn't register empathy.
dreaminginnoother 5 months ago
@dreaminginnoother I suppose she might say that people who have managed to get through life without a conscience have simply not had the most favorable and optimal experiences for the cultivation of compassion.
maichips 5 months ago
@maichips that may be true for some, but there has not been a found a direct causal correlation. Not to say we could maybe not decrease the number of psychopaths by creating more loving environments, but some people just kinda come out bad too.
dreaminginnoother 5 months ago
@dreaminginnoother I would add that w/ oxytocin, this is a different way of looking at environment. Low numbers of social supports or lack of community in cultural worldview can regulate the chemical. Environmental studies are far too simple in getting at the effects of subjectively perceived environment, which is what oxytocin manages. For instance, in the United States, individualism makes for a culture-wide poverty of community and the world's high of mood disorders. Coincidence?
Darwyn43 5 months ago
@Darwyn43 I don't know about oxytocin's direct role in perceived environment, but knowing what I do about oxytocin, it makes enough sense. But in that case, a brain defect could drastically alter that perceived environment, no? I would not disagree that most social problems are born of poor environment, in our case, created by the individualistic culture. I very much liked zeitgeist: moving forward which was pretty much all about this, but the causal link is still yet to be found.
dreaminginnoother 5 months ago
@dreaminginnoother This is the kind of chicken-egg stuff I am most interested in. For instance, the fact is, American psychology assumes that genetic brain defects are the cause of psychopathology, and yet the views stem from a culture of trait-based thinking. We "reduce" to individuals, so are poor at representing non-linear environmental effects. In fact, I would say "madness" of all kinds is both biological AND developmental BECAUSE of chemistry like oxytocin, dopamine, etc. No defect needed.
Darwyn43 5 months ago
@Darwyn43 to the first message, I would say not at all. I can't really disagree with anything you are saying. Either way, America needs a full renovation, it's gettin' ugly fast. It would be awesome if we moved to a socially focused resource based type of economy as proposed by the zeitgeist movement. Then we could find out what role environment plays in psychopathology:). There is a book I have read a little about and am interested in reading called political ponerology. Maybe you would too.
dreaminginnoother 5 months ago
@dreaminginnoother I would agree, but I would stipulate that empathy CAN live in everyone. The chemical of empathy, oxytocin, is a fluid system that exists at birth. If we do not attach to our mother at an early age or maintain social ties later in life, we do not maintain levels of the chemical - our ability to trust, experience social pleasure or be pro-social goes down. In Romanian orphanage kids, they have autistic like effects, for instance. Similarly, psychopaths are made, not born.
Darwyn43 5 months ago
@dreaminginnoother I would stipulate that empathy CAN live in everyone. The chemical of empathy, oxytocin, is a fluid system that exists at birth. If we do not attach to our mother at an early age or maintain social ties later in life, we do not maintain levels of the chemical - our ability to trust, experience social pleasure or be pro-social goes down. In Romanian orphanage kids, they have autistic like effects, for instance. Similarly, psychopaths are made, not born.
Darwyn43 5 months ago
"An undefended heart."
See "All My Sons" by Arthur Miller.
sjbosch56 5 months ago
though i am not a woman i still don't understand the point of her message. you want me to feel upset about every form of suffering that i see and go and help the sufferer? what do i get out of it? there is probably more suffering than i can comprehend in the world so why should i go about fixing it ? this kind of extreme empathy makes no sense.
priyochatterjee1 5 months ago
This just in - nerds are dicks to nanas on the innerweb. A+.
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@GraeHall Nerds are on the internet because they are fearful of real life consequences. They are the quiet people on the buss.
GrimSoul66 5 months ago
why are there so many dislikes???
microphon3 5 months ago 2
@microphon3 oh i think i see it now
microphon3 5 months ago
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Compassion is not present "in every human being" as she says. At least 1% of the population is a psychopath. And that rises to 3 to 4% the higher you go up in society's strata. So psychopaths are more likely to be found in positions of power, wielding the power to make changes to things like poverty and suffering.
bodnotbod 5 months ago
"They touched me when I was four., and I lost my eye sight"
WeatherManToBe 5 months ago
I don't trust for even a second that the "compassion enhances our immune system" or that "generation of compassion mobilizes our immunity."
It sounds like someone just making shit up when they have no idea what they're talking about: Compassion isn't going to spark an increase in the generation of more or better NK cells, lymphocytes, etc. that comprise the immune system.
What complete tosh.
KemaTheAtheist 5 months ago
@KemaTheAtheist
Emory, which she referenced, has an "ongoing study" with "promising early findings" of something called "compassion meditation", according to their website. They are researching the effect of this meditation (i.e. relaxation) on inflammation, not the effect of compassion itself or even whether the meditation is effective for its stated purpose of increasing compassion.
tky011 5 months ago
TED stands for Technology, Entertainment, Design...so, this is what?
Entertainment from a poor character actress.
azcentralsurprise 5 months ago
@azcentralsurprise It's Education. Not Entertainment.
Radjehuty 5 months ago
@Radjehuty.
From their website: ted.com/pages/about
"...a conference bringing together people from three worlds: Technology, Entertainment, Design."
Sorry, no education to be found; unless you are one of the people who found that poor delusional woman Halifax educational.
Her sob story belongs anywhere but TED.
azcentralsurprise 5 months ago
sorry but its just a whole lot of psycho babble to me..
iezzzwan 5 months ago
Religious texts get outdated as language moves on, evolves and requires translation. The people who died before 2011 are dead and deserve no voice, it's how their modern 'counterparts' think that represents them in 2011. No-one can touch modern people like Christopher Hitchens, and those inspired by Carl Sagan, with strained links to people thousands of years ago.
All she's saying is that 'good is good' and 'bad is bad', so bland it can be applied by all sides of any issue.
DanteAlucardAluxes 5 months ago
I wanted to like it, but it bored me to tears.
Greatbloke 5 months ago
My favorite part is how if you replace every time she says "woman" with "man" it would become sexist.
Migpoola 5 months ago 5
a men its a empty box that need love and specially sex, and women its a creator of love, and in this world some men things that if you don't have you will not have love, because some women have sell themselves to the material world. Sex its one of the biggest problems of this society. And a men with insecurities its a mortal weapon.
tenisplayer 5 months ago
her pants are awesome
utubeistubes 5 months ago
Why do people talk of women instead of people?
branfransisco9 5 months ago
The idea that TED and anyone connected with TED feels the need for genders to separate speaks volumes; very sad.
scotsmanlerxt 5 months ago
This reminds me of Sting & the Police song "King of Pain".
DBTdad 5 months ago
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2LegHumanist 5 months ago
people are dying but I don't give a fuck...That's because I'm evolutionary adapted
Arghira 5 months ago
@Arghira : Hello I'm afraid your not, this is the habit of cavemen you show here. You'd better realize fast that you are a few millenaries late !
yannoche 5 months ago
@yannoche yeah right because you give all you have to poor people and you care...I'm sure of that!!! Realize that you are just a selfish human being (ass we all are)...Some times doing charity makes feel me better but I realize that I'm doing it for myself.
Is not hard to be a bad (or good) person....society have the most importance...
PS: search for Milgram's experiment and Philip Zimbardo (not to the point but somehow related)
Arghira 5 months ago
@Arghira : Hello, I get your point, but please do not generalize too fast about other people behaviours.
You can have compassion all around you, sure you can't save the Earth and its inhabitants alone, but everyone living eyes open about their surrounding will help it. That's what i took from this person speach.
Yes I heard a lot about Milgram. Lately french tv redid the experiment to test 'spectators' (there is also a movie named "I comme Icare" deals with the concept).
yannoche 5 months ago
@Arghira.
Finally, someone speaks the Truth.
Thumbs up!
azcentralsurprise 5 months ago
No idea why this has so many dislikes, thought it was amazing. Good speech <3
ImDrizzt 5 months ago
@ImDrizzt Maybe they're more eager to watch Jersey Shore.
SirArghPirate 5 months ago
I gave this a big fat thumb down for the feminism alone. The rest of it was very good.
barhab 5 months ago
Well well ... more feminist bullshit. It was quite enlightening and interesting until she started the feminist rant towards the end. Females (angels) in a sea of fire (men a.k.a. the devils). This woman doesn't look like she likes men either...
barhab 5 months ago
@barhab
"Double D"
Definitely Dyke.
azcentralsurprise 5 months ago
I love everything about this talk, except for the slant towards females. Why can't men feel compassion as well? I feel like this would almost DISCOURAGE them! Everything else she said, though, really touched my heart.
lenaslife 5 months ago
This is one of the most beautiful and true speeches. It is true that men, instead of feeling empowered by the strenght and intelligence of his female (sisters, wife, mother..), they feel threatened. How can we overcome this? I'd like to quote Germaine Greer: "The opposite to patriarchy is not matriarchy but fraternity, yet I think it’s women who are going to have to break this spiral of power and find the trick of cooperation"
Lots of love to everyone
hastalueguito 5 months ago
224 people don't like compassion???
jalopez270668 5 months ago
@jalopez270668 I'd rather say, 224 people don't like her pointless definition of compassion
teogarno 5 months ago
Roshi Joan Halifax IS compassion... The amount of selflessness she displays is phenomenal. _/\_
worthmoremusic 5 months ago
You quote Dalai Lama and any other mambo-jumbo, I close the browser. Don't even need to watch this garbage.
ScoreStudy 5 months ago
I like this talk, I really do. Joan Halifax, seems like a great humanitarian. She explains compassion very well, but I think women have more to offer than preaching to a choir. Why isn't there more female scientists up here, showing real empowerment in male dominated fields?
TEDWomen talks seem more like issues of morality, than anything else. Which I suppose is fine. But I think Women offer more than this, it is a shame we do not see more of them.
jathgnos 5 months ago 44
@jathgnos Truer words have never been spoken on Youtube. I still fail to see the importance of the endless repetition of the themes regarding empathy, there should be no need to repeat the same, rather simplistic, type of message time after time. It seems that nowadays these types of videos take up almost one fourth of TED's new uploads.
RedlefB 5 months ago
She spoke too vaguely. I clicked on this thinking she was going to reveal data/discoveries about compassion from real examples, you know, real information?
Cannibalzz 5 months ago
Overly feminist in my opinion. Actually, it's I don't even think it's feminist... it's more just sexist. Even if she wants to argue that woman have more compassion than men in general... she acknowledge there are plenty of compassionate men and not make this a sex issue.
mellamosean 5 months ago
too late for a compassionate world.... I fear the worst as we slowly consume our global resources and continue to kill for greed and envy
Valca000 5 months ago
@Valca000
great, pessimists...always bring something positive to the table.... That was what I perceive to be the biggest flaw in my (and many others') favorite comedian, George Carlin. He was so pessimistic about the human race that he detached all his feelings regarding fellow humans (except close family and friends...) If everyone acted compassionately, the world would be a much better place. If everyone acts indifferently, the world gets a lot worse. Each person counts...
mellamosean 5 months ago
@mellamosean sometimes I feel drained in being compassionate... it's a way too slow process. I'm more of a engineering mind so I prefer to do great difference with minimal effort. Funny how you mentioned George Carlin, I literally worship him. But as I would agree with Stephen Hawkins, I fear the worst for mankind...
Valca000 5 months ago
@Valca000
I disagree with that perspective. I think humans will slowly overcome these problems.
mellamosean 5 months ago
Compassion: Think before acting. Don't hurt others. Be honest. Work to better yourself and to educate yourself and others. Know that being angry all the time doesn't make things better. There. I said more then she did in the entire talk......
papasitoman 5 months ago
TED-woman sux.. but why? there are brilliant women outthere with brilliant things to say that need to be shared to improve our lives, but instead TED-woman is just... huge speeches about feeling, 13 min of ... what was that? learned nothing. Saying the word compassion every 30 secs isn't going to change the world. Change the background and people will change, not the other way around
Ultra4 5 months ago 2
@Ultra4 If you learn nothing, maybe its you?
adolthitler 5 months ago
She raised excellent points.
BTinHD 5 months ago
true human race absolutely would survive without compassion, actually it was mentioned by the greeks and warned that it was a morbous state, even great philosophers have warned about compassion, telling actually compassion spreads misery, multiplies misery and goes against what is strong in life. Defending compassion is actually worthless and somehow stupid. Compassion as Shopenhauer sais denies life.
jcliveron 5 months ago
@jcliveron No compassion, cruelty rocks eh? I think she debunked that position pretty well, that what was criticised was pity, and that compassion was separate and desirable.
adolthitler 5 months ago
I can't shake this feeling of disingenuity when listening to her. Her wavering emotional voice and passionate gestures remind me of a religious leader who has cultivated these manipulative skills.
I got some good stuff outof the middle of the talk, like how Pity is different to Compassion (i'd like to have heard more about that distinction), and i thought the "you cannot be attached to outcome" advice was also good.
roidroid 5 months ago
Right away, just dumb and demonstrably false. You could make the argument that if everyone was more rational, the human race would survive without compassion. If you look at -some- people you can see compassion and no reason and a whole heck of a lot of hot air and wasted potential.
StabbyRaccoon 5 months ago
13:06 - Judge the talk by the number of standing male ovations.
kebakent 5 months ago
@kebakent you'd only give that kindof talk to an audience of mostly women. Which is probably what this is.
roidroid 5 months ago
@roidroid AND?????? Your point??!
SaniyaCanada 5 months ago
@SaniyaCanada even if the whole audience stood up, you're not going to have many men standing up. Because there isn't many men there.
roidroid 5 months ago
Mankind doesn't have empathy, cos they tend to give a fuck about dead while at the same time not a single fuck was given to the living, which just shows you how broken majorities people's value system is.
CapMurd 5 months ago
She only talks about herself.. and i dont care about you.
JouanOne 5 months ago
@JouanOne lol
teogarno 5 months ago
I don't see at all how this related to technology, entertainment, or design.
joshcarstraw18 5 months ago
@joshcarstraw18 Compassion is a technology, entertainment is subjective and there is design is in every sentence spoken. Most importantly, the TED acronym should not be read as a barrier of exclusion.
ludenmenthol 5 months ago
you was goin' to da chair, you'd want da Fodder dair to forgive you all yur sins & save yur ass from goin' to hell. She ain't helpin nobody in this kind of situation ceptin' her own shit. She makes herself feel bad at yur demise and that makes her feel good. She feels good after all that time caterin' to yur sorry ass. That's kind of creepy. She sounds like that "Do youuuuu believe in miracles?" woman on TV or like some kind of flipped out horny nun. I'd take the priest instead.
BrotherWoody1 5 months ago
this is a strategic marketing thing. Clearly TED wants to grow bigger and target a new group of people. This tendency has been going on for quite a while now. I only have one thing to say about it: Fire this one person who continues to bring marketing analysis up at the meetings at TED HQ. He or She clearly doesn't know what he or she is talking about!
frede1k 5 months ago
There is nothing new under the sun.
bugsz1 5 months ago
more sciency stuff
sealingTIE 5 months ago
Nice dharma talk .. but as i can see from the most coments here directed to the wrong audience with tedtalk - thank you roshi halifax
GASHO
pseudonymuser 5 months ago
@pseudonymuser What is that supposed to mean? She was invited to give a speech to a certain audience, and she failed to address her target. She was wrong. On a sidenote, I have listened to talks on buddhism and compassion before, and -let me tell you- this was just plain boring.
teogarno 5 months ago
@ir192217..and if aggressive traits further survival of a particular type of ant that will improve survival.
LiveScience July 2006.
In fighting trials against their natural enemy, a different species of ant.
F. xerophila ants are most successful when they gang up on opponents.
The aggressive ones were more likely to kill their opponents, though, so the behavior served the larger community by keeping enemies away from limited resources.
Compassion? Aggression? Whatever works to ensure survival.
azcentralsurprise 5 months ago 2
Honestly I find this talk completely useless.
invinciblemode 5 months ago 2
Has our society truly degraded to a point where we need a talk to TELL us what is compassion? Really TED?
invinciblemode 5 months ago
this is spiritual douchebaggery... i am "buddhist" but i don't stake my ego on it, walk around saying "compassion" or wearing stupid clothing (sorry Joan but yo clothes is whack) - reading some CHOGYAM TRUNGPA or will help this old bat...
true compassion (thanks for saying it 1000 times Joan) in the words of Ramana Maharshi is seeing that "there are no others". The only thing that can help is to wake up from the dream.
dozza06 5 months ago 2
@hwnzero fuck you
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
This is one of the most wishy washy TEDTalks I've ever seen. Interesting as a human interest story, but really nothing else.
Strand0410 5 months ago
@Strand0410 Fag
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
@WyldOrbit I criticise a TED speaker and thus a homosexual? Funny how that's what comes first to your mind. You must have a guilty conscience.
Strand0410 5 months ago
If all women have to offer is compassion, I'm glad men exist to get the important work done.
johnaiton 5 months ago
@johnaiton fag
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
Enough with the preaching! Where is the idea worth sharing?
teogarno 5 months ago
@teogarno fag
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
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@WyldOrbit As a matter of fact, I am.
teogarno 5 months ago
Ideas worth sharing? Really? I am here for great ideas, not religion and believes. There is not much "idea" in this talk, and men are capable of love and compassion too, whats wrong with the speaker? While I agree that compassion is important, this is by far the most disappointing video I have watched on TED.
GapToN 5 months ago
@GapToN I'm not going to say that I disagree with you, but, at least here in the United States, we live in a male dominated society. Right now our society is going down the toilet. If there was more love and compassion among our leaders then we would not be facing most of the ills this country is now facing. Instead of love and compassion, money has taken it's place. On the other hand, I think that she is generalizing when she implies that all men, in general are not compassionate.
jpr422 5 months ago
@jpr422 But that's not a male/female thing, it's a republican/democrat thing. There's not an ounce of compassion in the entire GOP these days who seem more intent on fucking their own poor and killing other countries' people than promoting acceptance.
Strand0410 5 months ago
@Strand0410 That I would have to agree with you. Party definitely has a big role to play in it. Though, you can't include the entire GOP. It's the extremists or the radicals within that party that show no compassion. Unfortunately, it seems that they make up most of the GOP. Back to the gender thing, men tend to be more interested in money and power than women, and women seem to be more into relationships and I mean long-lasting relationships. It could be a gender issue AND a party issue.
jpr422 5 months ago
@jpr422 I hate generalising, but the modern GOP has been hijacked by these loons. And in fear of being seen as soft on crime, drugs or terrorism, they've drifted even more right to appease these extremist douchebag voters. The 'balanced' ones are utterly powerless because they have to answer to that crazy party.
Gender-based political speculation is baseless. Ann Coulter's a woman, who also happens to be the most heartless and thoughtless human being in US politics + Palin, O'Donnell etc.
Strand0410 5 months ago
@Strand0410 I would have to agree with you on the women you just mentioned (hate those bitches). But remember these women are not of sound mind.
jpr422 5 months ago
@GapToN fag
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
What is she talking about, shouldn't she be at a church instead of a TED lecture? It's all this emotional pep talk stuff, like "Lets learn to find the joy within our souls" nonsense that doesn't have any practical bearing on anything.
Give us some science and advancement please.
Destro7000 5 months ago 2
@Destro7000 fag
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
@WyldOrbit oh yeah, that was an incredibly articulate and intelligent comment there, well done.
Destro7000 5 months ago
Seriously, this is awful. She's just rambling on with terms which she does not fully comprehend.
TheLostDemocracy 5 months ago
@TheLostDemocracy fag
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
@WyldOrbit Go hug a fucking plankton or something, you nut.
TheLostDemocracy 5 months ago
only a few TED women made sense, but this is the worse one of em all.
silent4fail 5 months ago
@silent4fail fag
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
I actually stopped watching after 2 minutes.
I would appreciate it if all TED WOMAN talks WERE POSTED ON A SEPARATE CHANNEL !!
GermanExceptionalism 5 months ago
@GermanExceptionalism FAggot
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
Looks like TED is going down.
TheProdigySupreme 5 months ago
@TheProdigySupreme FAGGot
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
@WyldOrbit Hi FAGGot, u can call me Prodigy, nice to meet you...Faggot:)
TheProdigySupreme 5 months ago
I stopped watching at 0:50 ,
if she said "We humans need social contacts to survive as a species" than that was true and then she could go on on love but you dont need love to survive.
we are a social species we would not survive without teamwork.
and all species? Yeah right i guess a spider loves his mate right before he kills him. yes get your fact straight.
social species like primates need each other to survive but not love.
RickonDraw 5 months ago
@RickonDraw Your a fuckin idiot go castrate yourself, you dont need to breed
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
@WyldOrbit
right on with the aggression you should let someone check that out,
if you actaully can say why i am an "idiot" and actually point out where i'm wrong that would have not been a complete waste of bytes.
im only saying that this is complete bullshit because its not true, there's no science here.
if you actually had the brain or some understanding of biology you would have got it.
RickonDraw 5 months ago
@RickonDraw No science? Lets state a well known fact, if your parents did not provide you with love, you would not survive, plain and simple. During the nazi days, experiments were done on babies. One was nurtured fed and held, the other was just simply fed, not touched, held, or loved. That baby died, due to lack of love. Hows that for science?
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
@WyldOrbit Fag
Strand0410 5 months ago
@Strand0410.
My friend, you are wrong - @WyldOrbit, is not a Fag...he is a fat baby boy FAG with a girly high pitched voice who tries to find validation and meaning for his worthless existence through YT.
Can't play the guitar worth a shit either.
azcentralsurprise 5 months ago
This saddened me. No preachers on TED, please.
fattonysullivan 5 months ago
@fattonysullivan Youre an idiot...
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
+1 if you paused at 0:53 to read comments and decide whether to finish the talk
htedrom 5 months ago
Compassion would do much in feasible deeds. It is not enough to be compassionate for dying people in hospices while the drugs are available. And the only limitation is purchasing power - this has to be addressed.
Very funny and immature to bring ancient myths and label "compassion" for women only cause some goddess said so!
ivnat77 5 months ago
@ivnat77 And youre retarded!
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
@WyldOrbit
Beware people: mega troll in the house!
ivnat77 5 months ago
Compassion going with politics? if only - As for doctors, Yes they definitely should be more compassionate nurses included, but i think for them it's a way of mentally protecting themselves when patients unexpectedly die and this shields them from internal grievance and conflict ('it just i did the best i could').
Kids especially need to be educated on this subject as more & more people focus on themselves & whats in it for them, & then teach this a personal strength of value to their kids.
MultiInternetfreak 5 months ago
What a pointless pile of waffle. She spoke for 13 minutes, yet said nothing.
authoradamwhittaker 5 months ago 13
@authoradamwhittaker Wow, i cant believe how stupid you are, why dont you go read a book or something?
WyldOrbit 5 months ago
@authoradamwhittaker no, no. she was wearing ridiculous clothes as well :D
lilchimy 5 months ago
@authoradamwhittaker Oh, Adam. I have compassion for you. Namaste.
SaniyaCanada 5 months ago
@authoradamwhittaker Let me translate for you. Feel compassion, but step back emotionally so you don't get run over by sad feelings, pity won't help and it will fuck you up. Actually do something.
I paraphrased the 13 minutes, but obviously she said something.
adolthitler 5 months ago 32
@adolthitler Thank you for the summary. After listening to the first two minutes i decided i could not listen to the entire thing without becomming overpoweringly irritated at the speaker.
I totally agree with the content of the summary, and i've practiced this for a few years now. Not only for empathy/compassion, but for feelings in general. I have them, and i use them, but i don't let them rule me, i use them as input for deciding what to do. Some have noted this as being behaviourally "cold".
gulllars 5 months ago
the reason why i think women are viewed as the more compassionate sex, is probably because of the prejudice associated with the word. In most cultures, men are viewed as being the hard-hearted one and women the soft, compassionate person. Showing signs of compassion for a man is actually viewed as disgraceful by his peers; hence, peer pressure.
arvindknight 5 months ago
Yet, again... well done GUYS for pointlessly making this video into a GENDER issue. What the fuck is wrong with you all? Are you really so insecure about women having a bit of power???
MrDarkbloom 5 months ago
@MrDarkbloom
Women per se...no.
Psychotic women...yes.
azcentralsurprise 5 months ago
no intellectual surplus - only one long list of politically correct words..
frede1k 5 months ago
woww, that was pretty sexist.
If I said "throughout history, guys, and only guys, have exemplified intelligence" I'd get flamed SO fast. But women are the only ones capable of caring, ever? Sure, that's not sexist.
really???
Can't believe I wasted my time on this video
isthissnfree 5 months ago 2
Compassion like love, is an emotion that can't be expressed in words, it's something known only to those that have experienced it. And i think too often were taught that self gratification is the only gratification, and the world we live in one riddled with war and poverty is a direct result of that mindset. its time to challenge these values, we need to reevaluate what is really important not just to ourselves but the society and the world as a whole
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