black men forget college to help family including sister(s) in college or college bound!!!!

[darkconversationist]

ur nigerian that dont count.

[AtiwiSaka]

How much tuition, and loans do you have left over from your college experience? How long did it take you to pay it off, and did the results pay off?

[AtiwiSaka]

-- and focus on the type of self-education that will enable you to collaborate with your brothers to start your own businesses. Be entrepreneurs. College is a hoax and an expensive gamble for black men at least. It is not a solution.

[AtiwiSaka]

From being a college student (now taking classes online), I have come to discover that it doesn't make you any smarter. It's just a piece of paper that is supposed to help you land a mediocre job, that takes years to pay off, and years to advance to a position within someone else's company that actually pays well. As a black man (in college) my advice to brothers would be to save their money, educate themselves and even take some classes that will help them be entreprenuers --

[AtiwiSaka]

A college degree means little to a black man, but is much more beneficial to a black women. Its a game and it's bs. It's depressing that only a few are able to see.

[MllG0]

Black women behave as children, believing they are owed, by default, by those who live around 'em because they assume that they never brought themselves to the life they are living in, in the 1st place. Parents are supposed to provide better lives for their children, and that is the dynamic that black women rely on, they depict their brothers as or as part of the parental figure, on which they rely on, if stuck in hard times. This is why they are hardly, if ever, grateful

[southoreast]

Hey pink. As a Naija America, I must say that you make alot ogf good points in all your vids. Alot of people(Bw in particular) label you as a BW basher. But you're not doing that. You're just merely stating your observations, views, and opinions that I 100% support you on. You'll always be viewed as a threat especially by BW but you got my support and you inspire me to finish my collegiate education as well. God bless bro.

[nothing5630]

Alot of black women are secretely jealous of successful black men. Thats why many choose to surround themselves around bums and players so they can atleast have a certain level of control. With a successful BM and a young BM on the path like myself we will be calling most of the shots. Alot of BW cant handle not having a certain level of control.

The same bw telling their brothers to help out are the same ones that will look down on bm in their own family later down the line. BM --take care.

[pinkkelephant]

there is nothing speical about educated black men or women in the realm of other professionals. we all have degrees and no kids right? No only time my degree or career would boost my ego to the point where i have to brag about it is if i force myself to stay around people from a different walk of life. educated black women are doing nothing that other women are already doing and in larger numbers right? i'm a decent ball player but i can look like kobe if a go to the court w/ no competition.

[nothing5630]

@ pinkkelephant -- spot on with this. If you're dealing with educated brothers being educated is nothing special but rather expected. You're not going to be able to look down your nose on someone because you have an associates degree around folks that are educated. Thats why some educated bw still have a boderline shady crowd of friends and still deal with bum men. It's all about the ego boost and having a certain form of control.

[pierredubois100]

Did you go to USC. I went to SC, I recognize those girls, they all went to USC when I Did.

[pinkkelephant]

naw. found that pic on google.

[deatha44]

ouch!

[Oneintelligentwoman]

BW are better off than BW thats why we dont want them! I really don't care of excuses......Brother!

No more Excusues, I have a White man! lOL

[etatslartnec]

First of all it depends on your major

[Oneintelligentwoman]

BM have brought the demise of their women upon themselves. Your simply "Reaping what you've sown".

1 Timothy 5:8 says that a man that doesnt take care of his family especially his immmediate family is a fool & brings destruction upon himself. He is worse than an unbeliever!

BM have dropped he baill & now Sisters dont want to deal with you. I say its about time that BW bailout & let these Thug, Hood rat, non achievering Baby Boys alone.

Its not all but its MOST OF THEM!

[Oneintelligentwoman]

Many BM don't want to attend college when you talk to them, they said they don't want to work for the WM, I ask what is wrong with working for "You man"? I normally dont get a response.

BM are spoiled by heir Mothers, their Fathers are MIA. There are very few role positive role models in Blk community when it comes to sexing women theres plenty of Brohers who will coach a boy to be a player. When it comes to be being devoted , responsible. man these role models are missing.

BM rarely help

[TheTruthBearer1]

@Oneintelligentwoman WRONG VIDEO! STFU!

[jascott36]

Great video. I've always wondered why this was so in our communities. It makes no sense.

[Dyakki]

But really, you must also blame society, and the patriarchy that set those "rules." To me, this just sounds like people playing the system. Men do it too. Pretending to be sweet and sensitive to curry favor with women is one example. And it's age old. So please don't blame only women for playing a societal game.

[Dyakki]

The only thing I can slightly agree with is your assess of women playing the 'gender card.' That is, being modern when it is convenient. However, I do not think that all women do this, nor do I think the majority of serious, educated women do this. Those women know better.

[Dyakki]

What sociologists DO say however, is that men are slower to adapting to shifting roles, because of how men are socialized. That is why adhering to rigid gender roles is not good for men or women. Learn to be flexible, or you will break instead of bend. Hope that helps. :]

[Dyakki]

For many, college is simply un masculine, unless there's some kind of sports or frat involved. A lot of colleges have reduced their sports activities or expanded more programs to women, which turns men off. And these are just SOME of the reasons why less men are going to school. No one ever said that women were somehow more capable than men at learning, or that women are naturally "better."

[Dyakki]

Some of the serious researched reasons behind this shift can be found in how men and women are socialized, and what is expected of them. Girls also earn better grades in school statistically then men. Women's roles have expanded, but men feel unsure. They no longer are the head of households, no longer the breadwinners. This means men must adapt, but by and large, the uneducated men do not. Also, men have this stigma that to be educated is to be a 'sissy.'

[Dyakki]

Actually, there are very sound and reserched reasons why women now outnumber men in college campuses in the U. S. at least. One of the main reasons has to do with the changing male / female dynamic. Women have more social power than they ever did, though things are not equal yet. Men's roles are shifting, and a lot of men feel out of place, now that the old walls of patriarcky have been smashed through. You should be happy for this, actually! I'm a guy, and I cheer this. Been a long time coming.

[nothing5630]

(continued) I'm always willing to help out family and sisters etc. BUT not at the expense of my own life.

Sorry to say this but some of the same women in your family that will tell you to get a job and help out your sisters will be the same ones that flip and look down their noses on you once they have their degree and nice car.

ALways respect and look out for sisters/women in your family but never at the expense of your own life.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

Im sure what your saying is true. Most Sisters turn their nose down on BM because they want to live off BW backs.

BM rarely give a "kind word" while your busting your ass off in college. They go after Flashy women & when your about to graduate, get a ogod job offer, dont have kids, very classy , they want to come to you with a blue collared job, kids by different women, no education, ghetto, huslters or can hold a job....that gets tiresomeone. Then you want to live off Sisters?

No way!

[nothing5630]

@Oneintelligentwomen -- I wasnt talking about those kind of black men. This video wasnt about those kind of black men that want to bum off of BW. Its about the ones that delay education TO HELP and I am telling the GOOD BM NOT to do this.. I understand what you are saying though.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

To be honest, I dont know too many Brothers who do anything for BW, not even their Fathers. Alot of Sisters talk about how their Fathers beat their Mothers, cheated on them and didnt pay for heir educations they got them on their own.

I'm being honest. I rarely have BM even give a kind word or hold the door, because they dont.

Black men have failed miserably.

[nothing5630]

@ oneintelligentwomen -- blah blah blah poor you. and since we are being honest here white women and other women are far more polite and lady like when i'm out in public than bw are. It bothers me none because I would never marry or date one of these animals (not all bw) anyway. but I wont be as ignorant as you and say "black women have failed" because I know that not ALL bw are like that. Good luck going through life bitter while decent bm's lives go on.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

I realize its Most BM. I'm not your Mother and I'm not going to take care or let a BM live off men especially when most BM don't do a friggen things for BW & children.

Ingorant?I'm trying to protect myself from BM's high over the stop statisics, that they leave on BW & children. Why would i invest in BM when most Brothers dont take care of their women & chidren & want to live off them? they dont marry, incarrcerted, low or no education, always cheating, lets face it Black men are DUMB!

[nothing5630]

@ Oneintelligentwomen -- "bw childbirth rate decreased 50%" haha are those factual stats or black women wishful thinking stats haha get out of her with that. BW still have the second highest birthrate in America. BTW none of those negative stereotypes apply to me so your wasting your time with the typical "no good bm" rhetoric on me. and being one of the decent BM i've ruled out the worthless black women a long time ago so you are not telling me much at all. Im happy with my dating. Good Luck.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

I think it will decrease even more. Since most BW are telling the daughters to get educated & date and marry outside the race.

Yes, I dont date BM either, its a waste of time. Too many BM are losers, Im not taking care of BM not as little as they've done collectively for BW and children.

Too damn bad, you see me with the White men! I think your hearing and see it more

Good luck to you! LMAO

[nothing5630]

@ oneintelligentwoman -- you misunderstood me. The black women birthrate isn't decreasing -- thats false. OF course the abortion rate is high for bw -- they have abortions like its a sport.

Thanks for the good luck wishes although I don't need them -- good luck getting a white man to actually wife you.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

Most BW that I know dont have kids. I know a few women but most have 1 with a BM that they've dated and since they cheat often they bailout of them. Its also the BM who has multiple OOW kids by different women.

I wouldn't have no baby by a BM. I dont blame them for aborting them. Why even get pregnant? We all know that 80% of BM abandon their children collectively so why would I want to be a BM's statistic!

As far as marriage, its BM who dont marry and have the lowest marriage rates.

[nothing5630]

Just because you don't personally know BW with kids doesnt negate the facts. Thats like me saying just because i havent met a mexican that they dont exsist.Black women are still pumping out babies at the second highest rate in America. FACT.

Like I said -- I think its good you don't mess with black men because probably over 80% of bw arent good enough for me either and I can pick up an attractive black or white women if I want so i'm comfortable and happy.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

Im an attractive professional career woman who is dating a successful White male

FACT

[nothing5630]

@Oneintelligentwoman --good for you.

[Nigerianborn]

80% where are you getting these numbers from? And I want to ask you to look at the type of black men that are abandoning these children. These black women made a poor choice because it wasnt like these men were doing something with their lives before they got the women pregnant.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

Actually its 72% of BM but they said that 10% of Brothers stay until the child is at least 2-3 yrs old and then they are normally gone out of that child's life.

I dont' view Africans the sameway. Most of the Africans on my job are educated, work hard, their married and take care of their families its African American men that don't do for their own, not Africans!

I have friends who date date AA men but will date Africans & carribeans. Since im bi-racial, I perfer WM

I respect Africans

[Nigerianborn]

It doesnt matter how you view Africans. Thats not the point. All im saying is that when these black women were younger they chose NIGGAS, they didnt choose BLACK MEN. Theres two types of black men, you have BLACK MEN and you have NIGGAS. The majority of the men that are having children out of wedlock are NIGGAS. It comes down to the choices the black women make in picking men. And they have been making poor choices for years.

[EandA23]

@Oneintelligentwoman I hate uncle tom hateful white supremacist ideals go hang yourself you silly self hating bitch. Fuck black women I will get successful and marry non black or stay single.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

Why are there so many irresponsible BM? There's alot of BM who are losers they don't have good role models. Its really why they end up incarcerated, with OOW babies, living off women.

[nothing5630]

Good video -- men I will say this: Never sacrifice your education and life for ANYONE. period. this includes the women in your family. Lets face it -- as much as you love them the older women in your family should have had their lives togeter by now especially having kids.

ALWAYS look after your health and education.

Its not mentioned enough especially amongst blacks but military is always a good choice if you dont have alot of money. They will take care of you and pay for school.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

BM don't look after BW and children its rare. Most BW got their educations on their own thats wht reason why so many BW don't want Blue collared BM. They want to run to Sisters after they get educated, have a bunch of OOW babies....BM rarely give a 'Kind word".

BM dont deserve honor or respect because you leave your women and children & basically abandon them while you act "Irreponsible". Almost 80% of the Blk race is single parents , BM are too busy chasing ASS rather than raise their kids

[nothing5630]

@oneintelligentwoman -- but with all that negativty being said about BM you do know that black women still have the second highest birthrate only outdone by hisp. women right? So these guys are "no good" and "never have a kind word to say" but they are still good enough for most bw to spread their legs wide open to right? The fact of matter is I agree that alot of BM dont have their shit together but most of these bw deserve what they get when dealing with them. I only feel sorry for the kids.

[Oneintelligentwoman]

Yes, I realize this many BW do want BM but so many BM are patthetic & I refuse to accept less than to be with a BM. BM don't do a fuk'n thing for the race so I said its time for me to "Bailout on Brothers".

I read that BWs childbirth rare decreased 50%. they get abortions & career BW are not having kids by BM, their fearful of being left to raise them alone & BM dont support their children. Ive noticed that when women help Brothers out, 90% of the time it "backfires" they use them. them.

[PillzBerry27]

Pink, this video is a classic!! I did the collage thing three times. I was in collage my child was born and my daughter is getting very sick. I had to drop out because I do what I need to do to take care of my family. Black women need to understand that if situation are getting bad in the family, you need to sacrifice to take care of your family. This video is wake up call to hit reality for black women. Great video, hands down!!

[mpenny226]

I see your point Pinkk. It's not my story but I know other people that this happened to. My father was bed ridden with cancer and me and my brother were in college. We wanted to drop out but they wouldn't let us. I wish that I had a story like that to tell about how the males in my family pitched in to send me to school..nope Salliemae paid for that. (those student loan folks) but my brothers supported me by loving me and I will thank them for that.

[pinkkelephant]

lol. me and miss salliemae are very close.  we must be related. lol

[RNU4Life]

Thanks for putting this up. My uncle (R.I.P) had to drop out to help my grandma and his siblings. His own daughter who years later he paid to have her go to college looked down on him as if he was an embarassment. She apologized when she realized he was going to pass away. Its sad times we live in my brotha. Just keep coming with whats real and may be some logic will rub off on the ones who need this knowledge the most. RNU4Life

[abamieda2]

The ambiguity in the traditional role of men/women has lead to role conflict.Parents have to ensure that their sons are raised to perform their predestined role as leaders and providers. This includes the pursuit of a career.

If a man puts his sister through school at the expense of pursuing his own career then he needs to realise that when the sister gets married it is her own family that will reap the full benefit of this education. No parent should allow a son to drop out of school

[Remedymp]

Most black men were raised to just be Blue collar. So, the idea of them working at an early age was by design. It's almost as if, we've been whipped into labor to support the Independent black woman road map, but they forgot about paying homage to provisionary black men.

[pinkkelephant]

very true. i think i may have to a vid on this one

[YoungGrizzly82]

The funny thing with BW is, they yip & yap about these monumental achievements of the ever powerful "independent BW", yet practically all of their achievements was a DIRECT result of the sacrifice of others, namely BM. Like pinkk said, they never give so much as a thank you, nor do they show respect to those sources that got them to where they are.

[Mhendeb]

Great video Pink. It's so true, it's not even funny. Yet, these BW swear up and down how worthless and horrible BM are. You BW are seriously wrong for this.

[artbunker]

This is something I never knew about .. Interesting piece of knowledge you present

[darkdragon99]

This shit is so true Alot of my male friends growing up went this route to help their families. And alot of the time things turned for the worse for them later in life as well.

[macadon]

Excellent Commentary!!!

[supersayin1]

Amazing post Pink yet again. Have you ever done a video on a controversial subject in relationships yet you know The weight issue? It's very important in so many ways in the relationship. Also the topic of I met you as a size 8 now your a size 18 for example. Or how alot of sistas tend to wait until their overweight and then try to lose it. The Door swings both ways though. But I'm sure you see it alot within the black relationship. But let me know if you have done something similar already!

[fairguynova]

...or BW and the height issue...

[supersayin1]

Actually heaight isn't anything you can help it's just genetics.

[fairguynova]

Read my comment with respect to the guy who made the comment about weight. You know how sistahs are...

[supersayin1]

True!

[pinkkelephant]

i have a vid about the weight thing that u will enjoy. give me some time to put it together.

[supersayin1]

Cool bro can't wait to view it I know it will be great! Keep up the good work and teaching bro!

[Lilart1981]

Man we men can cut our arms & legs off, get shot in the face, anything that involves MAJOR SACRIFICE, it still won't matter because most females DON'T APPRECIATE ANYTHING!

I refuse to take females serious because they're confused. How you gonna be Tradional or Modern depending on your Mood or depending on the situation???

All I know is things don't seem to make much sense when it comes to women. They are the most confusing (& confused) Mammals walking this earth!!!

[kimmaytube]

I appreciate your perspective pinkelephant. But I know this applies to both genders.

When my younger sister died, she left behind 2 fatherless children - my mother took guardianship. I was only 22yrs old & in college. It was an emotional time & I considered leaving school to return home & help. Fast Fwd 10 yrs later, I'm glad I didn't. It would have been THE worst mistake of my life. U can't help people until u help yourself. If it isn't life threatening, put your needs FIRST always.

[pinkkelephant]

great point. especially in the world we live in. u have to allow people time to help themselves first.

[cnell25]

Pinkk, this vid is so on point!!!

I remember my wife and i were watching the first black in America series.

The segment where the single BW was raising 4 teenagers by herself, 2 boys and 1 girl that were hers, and she was raising her niece I think. At the end of that segment, my wife made this comment.

Those boys look old enough, they can get a job and help they mama out

I asked her

"if thats the case, why cant all the kids get a job"

she had nothing to say about that!!!

[supersayin1]

Wow! Thats all I can say! But now that I sit back and think about it my Wife has a grandmother that has a house full of grown men and women16 to 27 yet none of them wants to work. Shes basically still working and paying bills from the money she makes and the money her husband sends from Haiti. Thats very sad because the girl who lives there has a 3 year old and no job, no baby daddy to help out vis jail. But theres 3 men 16, 20 ,and 27 And they won't work. The girl is 22. They just won't work!

[5thsci]

You hit it on the head with this one. The mom of a friend of mine passed away from cancer. So, he dropped out of UG to care for his two younger sisters. Put them through school and everything. Now, these two bubbleheads are the epitome of the "Independent" woman. I have had to bring them both down a notch for that mess.

[ristobenjie]

A divorced doctor lady friend of mine in Wisconsin was supported financially by her then husband who held down three jobs while she went thru med school. The plan was that when she made it, she would return the favor at least to a degree while he went to med school. She didn't. They split and he had to struggle thru on his own. She told me she couldn't explain why, but that she just couldn't bring herself to support him.

[supersayin1]

WTF!!! Thats messed up!!!

[ristobenjie]

When she told me that, I looked at her, saying more with my eyes than any words could. Over time she did reach out to him and at least acknowledge this fact although they didn't get back together.

[cjjaxxon]

That's a sad story. Just another example on how women use men. I hate that!

[supersayin1]

Wow!! At least she realized what she did and try to right the wrong. But man I wouldn't have taken her back on that one either. I would've been to hurt by it. Real Talk!

[ristobenjie]

She didn't try to get back, she knew better but she did want to reveal it. Even though she and I just messed around that move made me know that not taking our relationship in a serious direction was maybe a good move.

[supersayin1]

I feel ya!

[Silkravage]

I've seen this happen numerous times. When she graduates she suddenly gets tired of the relationship and wants to explore her other options. Funny, while they are exploring their other options they never see fit to help the guy with his school. Shiiiiit, go, but hit me back with the loot that gave you to help when you were in school. Unlikely, she'll find a reason not to because of something else.

[JamesJ30t]

About time somebody talked about this.

In some families the girls get to go to

college while they guys are expected to

sacrifice for the family.