We'd like to thank you 2 lovebirds for doing all of the deep personal work individually & jointly to demonstrate that healthy relationships are well within a couple's grasp, that NPD is simply a collection of nasty habits that can be overcome with determination, courage, & love, & that a beautiful & loving relationship is a privilege for which both partners are 100% responsible.
Bright blessings to you & yours personally & professionally!
I would question whethere or not Steve was a "real" narcissist as opposed to someone just being selfish and focused on self. There are a lot of troubled relationships.
Steve had secretly joined a house sitting agency to have his own BP (when he already couldn't pay the rent). Addicted to porn, secret crushes - debt collectors visiting our house - but still described himself as an extrodinary public figure and even put it on a card.
What is a real narcissist anyway? We all have narcissistic tendencies that can be triggered by circumstance. The issue is moral not medical.
Hi Zaking - Thanks for the support and thanks for the video, that was lovely (-:
To answer your question it took about 6 months I guess and then at about 11 months in we had a set back that was very painful for me but taught me a lot. When I wrote the first ebook things were very good between us but I had no idea how much further Steve would come in the years that followed.
He is playing football again now and is so happy. Him working on our help desk I know has helped him too.
I really love the fact that you're in such a great place that you both can so openly talk about things & admit all the terrible things you've done wrong. It really helps people to hear honesty! A question for you: Kim - how long did it take you to really firmly get it through your head that there was only one way forward - through yourself?! I fall down, ALOT, and lose hope & forget my way.
I think it took me seeing I was going to end up living in a very bad neighborhood and dealing with Steve being even nastier and shacked up with some tramp and that there was no one who could stop that slide but me.
It felt like climbing out of a pit with my family on my back for a long time- but once I stopped thinking I could avoid the hard stuff I at least had focus.
I was avoiding a lot of responsibility before that and I saw that had to change.
Dear Mrs. Cooper & Mr. Cooper...
We'd like to thank you 2 lovebirds for doing all of the deep personal work individually & jointly to demonstrate that healthy relationships are well within a couple's grasp, that NPD is simply a collection of nasty habits that can be overcome with determination, courage, & love, & that a beautiful & loving relationship is a privilege for which both partners are 100% responsible.
Bright blessings to you & yours personally & professionally!
SurviveStepLand 1 year ago 2
I would question whethere or not Steve was a "real" narcissist as opposed to someone just being selfish and focused on self. There are a lot of troubled relationships.
Trish12344 1 year ago
Hi Trish thanks for posting ...
I lived through my own hell for over 10 years.
Steve had secretly joined a house sitting agency to have his own BP (when he already couldn't pay the rent). Addicted to porn, secret crushes - debt collectors visiting our house - but still described himself as an extrodinary public figure and even put it on a card.
What is a real narcissist anyway? We all have narcissistic tendencies that can be triggered by circumstance. The issue is moral not medical.
kimandSteveCooper 1 year ago
I simply love your website and love The Love Safety Net radio shows - I think this could help any person in a relationship.
I m also wondering how long it took from the time you started setting boundaries to having a stable and secure relationship ?
zakinga 1 year ago
Hi Zaking - Thanks for the support and thanks for the video, that was lovely (-:
To answer your question it took about 6 months I guess and then at about 11 months in we had a set back that was very painful for me but taught me a lot. When I wrote the first ebook things were very good between us but I had no idea how much further Steve would come in the years that followed.
He is playing football again now and is so happy. Him working on our help desk I know has helped him too.
kimandSteveCooper 1 year ago
I really love the fact that you're in such a great place that you both can so openly talk about things & admit all the terrible things you've done wrong. It really helps people to hear honesty! A question for you: Kim - how long did it take you to really firmly get it through your head that there was only one way forward - through yourself?! I fall down, ALOT, and lose hope & forget my way.
TracyFalke 1 year ago
Hi Tracy - Great to hear from you!
I think it took me seeing I was going to end up living in a very bad neighborhood and dealing with Steve being even nastier and shacked up with some tramp and that there was no one who could stop that slide but me.
It felt like climbing out of a pit with my family on my back for a long time- but once I stopped thinking I could avoid the hard stuff I at least had focus.
I was avoiding a lot of responsibility before that and I saw that had to change.
kimandSteveCooper 1 year ago
ty for m akingthis viideo
BabyBright 3 years ago 2