Unconditional Love

[tubester92]

loving everyone is the hardest thing in the world to do. jesus christ loved everyone and it was even hard for him. if you can ever acheive the unconditional love then you must be super human.

[idontgiveashit0930]

I held a similar philosophy.. i once thought "killing people with kindness" works..it does, but most of the time its simply unproductive, and sometimes, douchebags run you over even more because they think youre too stupid to see that you are getting hurt by them, unable to fight back. i would say you are a kind hearted person, an idealist who maturated a sadistic facet due to childhood complications. But dont get so worked up about it, we are all screwed up in one way or the other.

[Nathan54AB]

Luke, your understanding of love in this video is a primitive one. From what I get, you equate unconditional love with being nice at all times. That's not love at all. That's martyrdom.

Unconditional love in a higher understanding is when you see people as potentials, not as static personalities where each needs different special treatment. It has nothing to do with being nice, being passive, or emotional attachment.

[jotjotzZz]

I wholly disagree with this video unfortunately. Love should have no conditions. In regards to your brother, and the fact that you did try to push him out into the road. I think that was purely due to your immaturity. You do test the limits of morality as a child. I believe in order for you to know 'good', you must first experience bad is. You said "forced yourself to love everyone". You mistake love as a feeling. Love is an act, like charity. You give love with no preconditions of receiving.

[apurviitr]

I know it is easier said than done but true love means you do not expect anything in return... Expectation is root of all pain...

[IceBirdy1]

"Light thinks it travels faster than anything, but it is wrong. No matter how fast light travels, it finds the darkness has always got there first, and is waiting for it." -Terry Pratchett

[Nationalist64]

That's sad! I feel for you man! I think love is a difficult thing for anyone, alhough every individual is different in my opinion. Some people never love, and feel happiness by not loving or feeling nothing. You must let go of your feelings to sometimes love.

[spessit]

ouch i dont like that i relate to this video so strongly

[MuddyTonic]

You said in one of your videos that you didnt think it neceassry to share your personal life on youtube.

[AzoreanProud]

Just acept it, your not just love.

But i agree unconditional love can make you weak but that depends, you need to look at the ego aspect.

Anyways loving creates more love but if your allways loving people will take that love has garanteed.

Enverionment is key...brothers betting, is property, jelousy, scarcity, lack of LOVE.

To love others you first need to love yourself

[tpsisokayiguess]

Loving unconditionally means setting your standards very low.

[wazzzupbuddy]

i forgot to mention one thing, by being vulnurable you can only come out stronger

that you are now and i am sure you feel it too.

[wazzzupbuddy]

Luke here you are feeling bad for not being able to love unconditionally, how many people even try that, i think even able to think about it,having a desire then trying it is a great achievement in being more humanly. i am proud of you. Thanks for bringing this thought forward.

[narayanr]

This is great!

[esaman]

Yes, forcing yourself to love everyone because it is good (it is what good people do) is disingenuous, and is not going to work. Thankfully it is not how unconditional love works. First of all it is not about YOU =))). Unconditional love is when you have understood or think you have understood the core of particular person (or living things in general) and simply love it for its beauty.

[esaman]

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The loved one then can't loose the love by doing or not doing anything, except if the understanding was false and it is brought forth.

Good stuff about acknowledging the dark side.

[matiou479]

Your video reminds me of Alain Finkielkraut's quote : « La barbarie n'est pas la préhistoire de l'humanité mais l'ombre fidèle qui accompagne chacun de ses pas.» I think you speak a little French ?

I think only some perfect Being can love unconditionnally and humans aren't perfect. We can't blame ourselves for not reaching the unreachable.

As you said, by suppressing the shadow we ignore our own duality and we can't possibly reach inner harmony if we don't embrace that "twoness" inside.

[MusicalAdrian]

I actually got a tattoo devoted to acknowledging and accepting my "darker side" this year. It's not to say I define myself as that darker side, just to say I know it's there and I don't see any point trying to deny it anymore.

It was very interesting to have someone put my own thoughts into words in a way that I really couldn't. Thanks for the upload.

[MooWithMetubes]

I agree comptelely...nice to hear someone else say it.

[LeonaFaey]

Thank you,

for some reason thats all I want to say, yet another part of me wants to explain it and talk it out with you.

I was well aware of my darker side at a younger age and had even named this alter ego and can picture what 'she' looks like in my head. Its a part of me I have at times suppressed, beat down; and other times I use to protect what i love.

I dont think that my love is unconditional, however I keep in mind that you don't always have to 'like' who you 'love'.

[drew335533]

I'm not sure, I think you're making too broad of an assumption about testosterone here. It all comes down your defenition of love. I think Luke likes to love to make himself feel better, and when you love someone and they don't love you back is it really good for either of the parties involved? If you ever feel unconditional love hurting you, think about what he is talking about here.

[drew335533]

I've tried unconditional love before. There were to major weaknesses I found with it. One was what you mentioned, I never really got any respect from the people whom I did love unconditionally, and this made me very upset, as I thought I was acting in a very noble manor at the time. The second problem was that when I was upset with the other person, they basically told me "you love me unconditionally you can't be mad". Devoting yourself to someone unconditionally isn't the smartest thing IMO.

[roboticterror]

Good video Luke.

[kvan1917]

I can definitely sympathize with you, Luke. My brother and I used to fight all the time and hate each other, but now we're practically best friends. Time heals most wounds...

[xwidget]

The foundation for loving others is loving one's self.

see: The Art of loving by Erich Fromm

Don't obsess about the memory of your action with your brother. Sibling rivalry is normal, you know better now.

A small child needs the security of unconditional love from someone.

[ThePunkReturns]

Amazing video Luke. I, too, have struggled with this. Raised in a Baptist household, I was taught to fear the negative aspects of myself, to hide, conceal and not admit they existed. It is a hard thing to get past (if you ever do). Keep trying Luke, keep loving who you are despite what others expect. It's the best you can do. Peace

[robinsoncrucify]

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[gombet]

Wow, really heavy stuff. You must remember by friend, that you take what is inside of you throughout your life and beyond. We all have a dark side that we frankly must express from time and that is a good thing, Not necessarily against other people. Sometimes we need to go out alone in an isolated place and scream and yell and cuss. Venting our frustrations is a good thing, so don't be afraid of it, let it out. I think that is important.

Take care.

[Omithy]

Luke, you care too much. You're afraid to know that to love someone here on earth is a waste of love. Your brother, mother, father, etc. are all important people in your life, granted. But in the end, you are in love with ash. No matter how much you love someone, unconditionally or otherwise, it will all be for nothing. Someone's grave won't be any warmer because they had love in their life. Had I been in your position, I would have pushed your brother in far worse places that just under a car.

[drew335533]

What are you talking about? I would argue that love is not a waste, it brings us the feeling of connection that we, well at least I so strongly desire. Isn't it great to have

[drew335533]

Sorry, totally posted that comment w/o completing the thought. Isn't it great to have someone in your life whom you share so much similar values and ideas with?

[wazzzupbuddy]

why would you do that?

[PeaceProfit]

One who loves unconditionally, must have the courage, strength, grace and wisdom to embrace the choices of others as being appropriate to their life course, while being thankful for the personal sacrifice of the love they offer...

You are loved... All*Ways & Unconditionally

[danielsondanielson]

Do not be excessively righteous and do not be overly wise. Why should you ruin yourself?

Ecclesiastes 7:16

Regards from an ex-Xtian

[ifwere1021]

I love Ecclesiastes...

I agree that unconditional love is a mistake, but I think it's important to distinguish between "earning love" by being yourself a good, loving person, and "earning love" by external achievement such as a high paying job. My dad always made me think I had to earn it through the latter method and it ended up driving us apart. Love is a tricky bitch.

[danielsondanielson]

Yes, earning and providing money or expensive things is only a one-sided - and potentially a very problematic - way of benefiting others. But on the other hand, is there any pure, sacred, comprehensive love on the Earth? Even non-pecuniar and much more diversified benefitings are particular, too, and they can also be treated quite pragmatically in terms of exchange of goods and services. At least it is how I would see it now. Even a charity is a business as usual from many points of view...

[LatinoParaSiempre]

wow Luke kudos to you, i could not spill my guts out to millions, un-conditional love is impossible, i did many of the same things you described, found out i was doing it for selfish reasons, practicing unconditional love for my own selfish needs...peace

[HIPERDEMOCRACY]

You are facing your insanity; and when you do it, you are preaparing walk the next step.

[XOmniverse]

It takes courage to talk about stuff like this and I could tell a couple of times that you were feeling some strong emotions while talking about it.

I think its important to empathize with every part of yourself, even the parts that objectively appear to be bad. If some part of you is fucked up, its fucked up because of your experiences in the past and is probably connected to some kind of abuse from others.

[k6tpl]

In your lifetime Luke maybe one or two people should be offered this Unconditional Love. And your right it can never really be done unless you Love yourself First. A Special and very good video.

[b95gshawn]

a friend just post this,so I thought I'd share it "Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do " ~BK~

[GeraldP1983]

Thanks for this Luke, response video is on the way! :]

[Mastikator]

I wish I had the courage to be this open.

[b95gshawn]

unconditional love - what about reward and punishment ("pillars"). I think it may have it place along with other things .right now I'm working or thinking about spirit and my need to recognize and follow it more as a future fulfillment of perfection.

[idlemind009]

Imagine a love so strong that it makes you believe you may be evil ? God did not create any such creature. The fear and hate you feel is simply an emptiness inside of yourself. A despair that has fallen on your soul. Do not become selfish, do not stop believing in your dreams. They CAN come to light but YOU must not give up on them. And you Luke have such wonderful dreams.

[MariMari404]

Hi, Luke. This video was amazing. I'm sure that a lot of your viewers can relate to your story on some level. I really hope you do more videos like this.

Much admiration.

[ks100001]

I have to say this video made me feel deep admiration for you, Luke.

I'm sorry to hear about your experiences, I know what it's like to be a product of a broken home.

Massive respect.

[samometal]

fuck everything.

[bobstheking]

Hello Cardello, As you said, Particle and Wave. Vibrational entanglement. joy.

[bobstheking]

Unconditional love as a mother might have for a child, is conditional. The condition is that is the the child is her child. Luke's dilemma is that he and his brothers beat the crap out of each other. Even if a person is a brother a beating is a series of blows meant to harm. Thats hard to forgive.

[cardellacole2]

yes its like comming into season , the tree must bare its fruit

[ILYIAB]

So you are talking about natural law?

What "love" (in the human sense) does the tree show the apple?

[cardellacole2]

no thats the whole point ,there is no law involved , human or natural , it must be a gift freely given , it comes of its own accord

[ILYIAB]

Young children give it freely (if you can call it that).

I say it's something earned. Some ppl give it without any condition, but is that good?

We perceive dogs to give it freely. But why?

I just think you have a naive way of thinking of it. A Cinderella way. As long as you are happy with that... fine. I'm just trying to understand what you are saying. It's very vague.

[cardellacole2]

i understand what you mean , but do dogs give it freely ?

[cardellacole2]

do you mean dogs giving it freely to you or another dog as in affection i mean

[cardellacole2]

does not a mother bare her children ,

[ILYIAB]

A mother gives birth. Most mothers love them. Do you claim all do? Do you claim all mothers do through the whole life of the child? Where and what is love to you? Please be specific. Thanks. :-)

Why name the mother? Why not the Father?

[cardellacole2]

love is the force that holds wave and particle together ,

[ILYIAB]

Guess you want to get the Nobel Prize. roflmao!

Sorry, but I think you are referring to the Attraction Force. ;-)

[cardellacole2]

i name the mother because ,pure energy , produces energy that creates energy that produces energy etc , as a mother gives birth the child grows and gives birth herself to a child etc

[ILYIAB]

"pure energy"?

The energy comes from the sun (through plants, and animals).

"energy that produces energy".. Ehh.. That's just ignorant talk.

"as a mother gives birth the child grows and gives birth herself to a child etc" Not if she only has a son. According to you.

Are you a Flower Power child? ;-)

[cardellacole2]

where does the sun get its energy

[ILYIAB]

Nuclear reaction.

You mean you don't know?

[cardellacole2]

where does the nuclear reaction come from

[ILYIAB]

The breaking down of the Strong Nuclear Force.

If you ask where that came from... I suggest you read Dan Dennet's "Breaking the Spell" and buy a clue. Clues aren't cheap. They require time, and time is the most valuable currency we have.

[ILYIAB]

Welcome to "Growing up".

Since trust & respect are earned, so is love.

The Abrahamic gods have BIG conditions on love. Funny, huh?! ;-)

Nice vid!

[cardellacole2]

does an apple tree earn its fruit ?

[ILYIAB]

Does humans earn to have children?

What does that to do with love?

[cardellacole2]

no, then it must be a gift

[ILYIAB]

Why?

I was thinking more that it's reproduction. Why a dichotomy? (If not A then B. Why not C or D?)

Again, what does this have to do with love?

(And sorry for my grammar snafu in the previous comment).

[cardellacole2]

we are both thinking more than its reproduction

[ILYIAB]

I think "mother"+"child" is not what we humans think of as love. Animals through out nature show "love" to their off-spring.

Luke is talking about a different love. A love we can enjoy since we have a different brain. And that, the thoughtful love, not the instinctual love, is strong. And damn beautiful! (If I may say so... shy smiley face)

[cardellacole2]

what do we make when we make love , ?

[ILYIAB]

"make love" is an expression. So is "fuck", "hump", "doing it" etc etc....

The feeling is different when you love your partner. The action is the same.

[cardellacole2]

of course the feeling is different when you love your partner

[cardellacole2]

animals sometimes eat there offspring

[cardellacole2]

animals sometimes eat there offspring , i am talking of more than thought or instinct , but forces that move freely back and forth in time ,,

[ILYIAB]

Do mothers always "love" their children? Do mothers always "love" their kids through out their lives?

[cardellacole2]

subconsciously sub atomically yes, but like you it has become a war of earned emotions bartered and sold in the market place of consciousness

[ILYIAB]

Sub atomically?

You work at the LCH or at Ferm?

Damn! You must be educated!

You as every other Faith person pulls what you call reality out of your ***.

Would be great if you ever produced something useful. (A philosophy, a book, an insight,... anything?)

[cardellacole2]

the thought that thought of dreaming and the dream that dreamt of thinking is the oneness of consciousness , would this be helpful to you

[SOCRATES012]

Thanks for opening up Luke. I have learned to simple accept and be. Fighting yourself is useless

[bobstheking]

i've had nervous breakdowns . You might try xanax. You seem to be suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome . Maybe it went too far with your brother. With people, you kind of have to not stick your hand in the cage

[Anon1696]

I conditionally love you Luke.

Thanks so much for sharing this and all of your other videos and music.

You're an awesome and honest person.

Peace.

[bobstheking]

We can't love unconditionaly. There has to be a wariness and a certain detachment to everyone, even ourselves. You're a good person. meaning no better or worse than anyone. You deserve to be happy.

[cardellacole2]

do not try to love , it has its own movement , one day you will know it is holding you , when you know this do not hold on to the knowing of it , because the knowing of it puts the genie back in the bottle, so to speak

[TheReasonWhyGuy]

Unconditional love=Dogmatic Love

Dogma is bad... :(