TonyaTko Getting Old: People Don't Dance no mo?

[amaye1979]

Tonya this signal the plan is actually from jamaica,nd we do still make up dances.every day there is something new and we do dance alot.There is alot of smashing nd grindin goin on as well(too much 4 my likin)but u go to jamaica nd there is something 4 every one.

[youzaxgayxmofoxTV]

okkkkkkk nooooooo oneeeeeeee freakinnnnnnnn caressssss youuuuuu FAGGETTTTTTTTTTT

[roadlesswandering]

That's the other thing...if you dance with a guy and you trying to spin...he will stop you and pull you close and try and get a free lap dance! So Mr. Dolt I don't think it's about how much money you make. It's more about keeping it down!

[MrDoItNice929]

We are getting older. It's not about Fun anymore.

Ladys want to know how much Money You Make. FRIST

[NuMoons]

Its the Same shit in Toronto, when you go out with your girls you gotta make your own fun, and thats why they stay in groups, cause if you wait for a man to come and dance your in for a looooooooooooong night doing nothing! Thats the main reason why I don't go out anymore, its boring. I love you girl, you hella funny :)

Moons

[pinkklash]

i disagre! i am living in toronto and guys always approach.

it depends where you go and the event for the night. if its a club like muzik, its more of a stand and stare, too posh. if its somthing like wetbar, youll get approached the whole night.

[Mithraa]

u made me laugh LOOL

[JenJenDucky]

Hmmm... In Florida people actually dance together and no one just stands around. No one's forcing their nuts on you, either :D But I've never been to New York, so who knows. I've never seen a nightclub like that in Florida before, though.

[Magdalicious00]

I'm 'old' I still make up dances... my friend got mad though.. :P

[TonyaTko]

LOL. I dont think it counts if youre the only one making up dances. LOL! I mean as a culture

-Tko

[Magdalicious00]

are you suggesting that I don't dictate entire cultures?

harumph

[Magdalicious00]

LOL sweaty ballz..  I hate guys who do that ,,, they get slapped ;)

[msbrownequal]

Tonya I believe that when you start to feel this way about certain surroundings or activities that you have diffently outgrown that scene. "Time & Season for everything" ---Don't force the fit. I'm from N. Carolina I too have noticed the same divided nightlife. I'm not dancing anymore because obviously I didn't recieve the memo that a simple dance is not just a dance anymore you're now expected to exchange numbers, go to a motel, start a relationship.

[senkyubattle]

1. Women in groups= Scary

2. Men don't dance anymore; trying to be hard!

3. Men's crotches on women's back=2nd base (haha)!

Like your vids!

[NannyGadi]

You gave me such a good laugh with that crutch smashing stuff. I remember in high school see that, but I also remember the girls that did it liked it. lol

[Caribprincess87]

ROFL "signal de plane and the bogel" :)

[6fngers]

Oh Tonya girl let me tell you...the ATL is the SAME way. Especially the "upscale" clubs.

I find myself going to the older clubs, listening to good music, and the older gentlemen have more energy and charisma than the young-uns! lol

I feel you girl!!!!!!!!!!!!

[OMGDAM]

i dont think those people who want to meet u want to meet u with alot of people around cause fo one they prolly want to fuck thats y sweety just saying i like yo vids tho u cool peoples

[TonyaTko]

@OMGDAM: YOu are SUCH a simpleton. You should check out Meetup so you'd see how silly you sound. And whats even sillier is that I was talking about the people in the club.

SMFH :-/

TKO

[tzo1021]

Why some of us don't dance anymore...

I think many of us as men, are yes, looking to smash our crotch on some chick during and hoping that after we can do the real thing. This then put the ladies on guard and put them in a tense mode: is this guy just want to have fun or something more. It is ok to flirt, but I think many men,trying to hard to become sexual athletes have turned the ladies off to the point that they would rather dance in a group for safety and also to avoid a stalking dirt bag

[watahwasofan]

You're right Tonya, it has become way too sexual. Who wants to do all that dry-humping with someone they don't even know? It used to be way more fun. (I don't think its a black thing, I'm Native American. Penobscot to be exact.) Guys don't want to be rejected, I'm sure. We ladies need to say "sure I'll dance but no grinding, let's have FUN!"

[tymurren5]

i gotta check out this meetup thingy..

[tymurren5]

hold the hell up....did u say smashin balls on backs?omg

[TonyaTko]

LOL! YES I DID! Act like you know...

well... maybe you do :-p

-TKo

[tymurren5]

lmaooooooooooooo...

[discovery2245]

You have a swell and awesome wonderful personality and your smart.You would make a very good friend to talk to and hang out with.keep making more videos.Your smart beautiful and intelligent.

[inyourfaceblanz]

Shocking. You always manage to discuss topics of international interest.

Keep on making the world a better place!

[thanae]

Well, I don't know if a lounge is considered the same in America as it is considered in Europe. But generally a lounge is not a place where ppl dance. It is more for chilling and mingling on the level of small talk leading to nice conversations, drinking and stuff like that. If I want to dance, I go to a club and there...most ppl dance, only a few stand around. I am mostly talking about Germany here, but also Greece, France....

[TonyaTko]

See thats the thing... there wasnt ANY mingling...

-Tko

[thanae]

That's indeed strange. But I guess you would have to go to more lounges and see if this is always the case and not dependant on that particular evening and that particular lounge.

[dakairi05]

Maybe I have not been out in a while cuz im wit my babies 24/7 lol but I know when I did go out and my girls tell me about their night they always tell how packed it was and how much fun they had. The guys do like to get nasty lol but if you dont like it just let em no lol. I hope you have more fun next time!

=)

[soflabob]

Yep, as I have gotten older, when I go out to the clubs in Ft. Lauderdale, I just wanna have a few drinks, chill out, talk w/ my friends, just be alone w/ my girl...she's not that much into dancing either, and she's just rather have a few drinks too...so it's a win-win situation.

[miel001]

I got here from Twitter. I don't get it.  What is the thing about twitter. It looks like a chat room.

[robertantonnyc]

I guess things change as you get older Tonya. I remember hititng the club and heading str8 to the dancefloor. Now I chill a little, have a drink, talk a little, dance a little, sit and watch.

Yea, it's different now; but you know I still get down. I gotta get with your meetup group sometimes.

[IBVee]

tonya when i go out i just wanna chill and dance with friends.....im not interested in bending it over or bustin it wide open for some stranger.....

[blacktigerwu]

It's like that everywhere I don't go to the clubs no more because it's a tired scene to me but all of what you said plays a part in it. Women have jacked up attitudes ,guys are scared and just be like fuck it,the dances they come up with these days are not designed to do with someone of the opposite sex. The whole thing about the dick on the back side is just a peacock thing but some are just being perverted lol.

[killerschick409]

hahaha sounds like a middle school dance. girls on one side boys on the other all whispering about each other and getting in big groups to go up and get punch. i think it was the feel of the club. it sounded awkward and made everyone shy or anti social. also for your stretch mark solution if people don't like the smell, feel, of thought of rubbing olive oil on their bodies regular and unscented baby oil works too

[sockmess]

i just don't dance. I hold up the wall. Believe it or not, thats an important job. But talking to women, that i never pass up.

[PforPZ]

Men on one side and woman on the other? That is weird.

[summerbabi]

LOL about sweat ball smashed up on ur back....there are still plenty of dances coming out in the westindian community...left and right...i dnt think the WI will eva stop w/ the dances

[BLKTRX252]

Well Thats Sum Bull...U Just Go To The Club To Dance Wit Ppl U Already Know? Might As Well Have A House Party! I Thought It Was About Being Open And Fun. Meeting New Friends Or More Than Friends Type Deal...IDK Man...We Just Wanna Text Msg And E Mail Nowadays LOL

[devante85]

Hey Tonya! I have been watching you for a long time and this is my first time being able to comment.

I think the biggest problem today is that people do not know the difference between air sex and dancing. I hang around my group of people, but We dance dance not just bump and grind. I surely can do the whole grinding thingy, but I would be disrespecting my love for dance! Personally, I think fear is the reason guys and girls stand in the corner and just watch. It is a worldly disease.

[TonyaTko]

very interesting devante. Well thank you for coming out of the trenches to comment. Do you dance w/ppl you dont know? or is it more w/ppl you already do?

-TKo

[devante85]

I dance with everyone and anyone, and no one is dancing I will do it myself...I LOVE dancing it is such a stress relieving activity. I am open about just about everything. When I went to school, it always took one person to start dancing then others would join and then the party would get fun cuz it is not just one person anymore. so i decided to become that person and I just worked it. I only have one life to live and I will live it Fabulously to the limits. :-D

[YurgesBitch]

Tonya Tko y dont u do BlogTv.! XOXO!

[TonyaTko]

go to my page on Blog. I dont like their ten minute recording time maximum. I was using Ustream but it was too time consuming.

-Tko

[dragonrow3]

your getting old? you look 21-27 years old your not old lol

[TonyaTko]

Hahahah. NO, the girls I was with were dancing as well. But we pretty much stayed to each other, and as I looked around having fun... others were just standing around clocking.

-Tko

[BLKTRX252]

House Parties Are Much Better And They Are FREE!

[TonyaTko]

See thats the thing @Blk, people only want to socialize with folks they already know?

-Tko

[BLKTRX252]

ITZ THE SAME IN VA...The Last Time I Went To A Club It Was The Exact Same Way....Yes BLACK PPL Dont Dance No More....Women On The "Im Too Fly To Dance" Or "Get Away From Me U Wack Ass Nigga" Shit And If A Nigga Dance He Gotta Be Gay Cuz Niggaz Dont Wanna Let Their Defenses Down Thats At EVERY CLUB I Been Too. Im Twenty Two By The Way. This Generation Has Been Tricked Into Being HARD! And Women Just Have A Defense Mechanism...IDK I Dont Get The Point Of Goin To A Club?!?! I Dont Go LOL

[leedime]

When I use to go to Morgan State university, people from Maryland were dancing and the New Yorkers just stood there. I think it's New York.

[byintyme]

People don't like each other no mo! Too many things to do except learning how to talk to each other. The men/women thing is a whole different story. Some decades in the making for that one baby, Peace. Stuff is stupid.

[krenzzzo]

No, its not about freakin pancaking our damn scrotum against some women's abdomen. It's about pancaking on their butts too!

[mrh3art]

I guess it's with the lounge you went into. Maybe its just a chill out place and people are not really interested in dancing. They're there to chillax and not to stress their asses off :D

[TonyaTko]

Okay... The thing is, ppl were standing around 2stepping & just trying to be fly.

-TKo

[shugga24]

Also was the group you with not dancing? Was they apart f zombie crew. Hehe. There are always new dances & no not the souljah boy dances or chicken noodle soup. I guess they are not broadcast much due to the kiddie dances

[TonyaTko]

We were dancing of course. DOnt get me wrong, small dances were happening around the club but it was only within small groups of women.

Please, name some of these new dances that have come out for adults. I think I've missed the memo :)

Tko

[shugga24]

oh for the grown folks i have no clue; you can be correct on that there are no new grown folks dances because there are not many grown people coming out with new things. sorry. small groups of dancing bug me though

[shugga24]

See I am of a younger crowd [20s] & we tend to dance but it does start off slow as you mention everyone looking @ each other for the approval. It bugs me so I wait for no1 & start to dance. Eventually ppl dance. It does get annoying for a male to crush ur back side cuz he wants to get off that's y I think many females dance in groups n r selective. As for clubs I can't attend idk the reason but its not the weather or a ny thing. Trust. Just need the correct location where its not abut hook ups.

[momodani7]

I don't club much, but when I have, that's exactly why I stayed in my girl group...guys can get ridiculous!

[jsphbjmn]

For some strange reason everyone has there gard up. I am a free spirit and dont understand why people cant just say hello. People are trying to hook up, why? Just have a good time.

[missy1e23]

I think it's about comfort. I've never been comfortable dancing in public...at least not without a few drinks, lol. I will do me a new line dance though, lol.

[Frezcodelavita]

oh god not that thing, i think its just one of those 5th grade dance issues but i never thought id see older people just sitting aroun

[DJON405]

I used to live on the east coast and i noticed that. It's not real social.

[lunaone]

LMAOOOOOOO at 7:34!!!

hahahahahaha

[lunaone]

I'm in NYC. I think you're going to the wrong places. I listen to house music. Try a house club like Cielo. Soooo fun! :)

[linkpluss]

am i the only one in here? guessing im talking to myself. hey tonya, i was looking at the shea butter but you did mention you had something better right. if so, when will that be posted? love the whole web setup you have going on. if you had a tutorial thatll be nice. ok im outa here because i cant find my freakn coffee filter...geeeez weez, im going to bed

[TonyaTko]

Thanks Link, Sleep tight.... yessss. I found a better oil for the stretchmark remedy... Don't worry when I have the info in full you al will have the info

:)

Tko

[lisalary]

be happy to be in NY, coz here in OKC....lol

Everything sucks

[linkpluss]

anyone know of some really good coffee??

[linkpluss]

i think its the music. sometimes if you have slow paced music then you tend to be more social but if you have something thatll get your grandmomma up and feeling the groove then you feel like dancing and maybe a lil dirt dancin. Tonya what kind of music did they have at this boring lounge??

[TonyaTko]

Oh okay, have a good night Linkplus. I mentioned in the comments earlier what type of music they were playing. It was mixed.

-Tko

[angiekane]

Thats because when we were younger we had great disco music about love and having a good time that you could actually dance too.

How do you dance to gangbang music.

Also if you look at modern black music video's the guy stands there and the girl rubs herself up and down them, what modern day women would want to do that to a stranger in public ,if a ugly guy come up and could dance its ok, now they want to paw and grind you like they see in videos and if you say No you get verbal abuse.

[TonyaTko]

OH LAWDDD!!! @Angie! LOL it sounds like you been thru some thangs! lmao.

I apologize

-Tko

[cybersalad]

Did you wear your name tag at the lounge? Maybe that had something to do with it!

Anyway, Isn't the point of a "lounge" to lounge? A bit different than an actual dance club.

Everywhere I go (Los Angeles area, Boston area) it's just chicks in circles dancing with eachother. While we guys just stand around discussing who we're chatting up on facebook or something. :)

[TonyaTko]

@Cyber; LOL! At least with my name tag on ppl would already know my name without having to ask! lmao!!! hahaha. Take away all the discomfort of introductions.

(plus I had it left on from the bowling event :)

-TKo

[cybersalad]

That could be some new meme. If people want to get chatted up they rock name tags to clubs and lounges. You should start the trend.

[horsesinnyc]

in the places that I go in NYC, people dance a lot. but you are right no new dances anymore LOL

[TonyaTko]

THANK YOU! What was the last new dance? Chicken noodle soup? And that was for 12 year olds!

-Tko

[str8philly]

I'm sitting here crackin up because of the whole "smashing balls on your back" thing....LoL!!!! It's funny because it's true.....HaHaHaHa!!!

[bigbuzin555]

its like women go to the club looking pretty with their girlfriends, but dont want to do anything. and as for west indians, grinding is the only kinda dancing they do.

[TonyaTko]

@buzin, im not talking about west indian dancing. I'm talking about people trying to grind it out to hip hop r&b whatever. Any excuse to beat their balls onto your back

-Tko

[bigbuzin555]

honestly, i dont know how else to dance to hip hop or rnb.and im certainly not going to waltz with anyone. lol. seriously, i dont know how to dance face to face with a woman. what are we supposed to do? the electric slide? i guess thats the wrong music for that kinda dancing.

[TonyaTko]

So you feel your only dance alternative is genital smashing?

-Tko

[bigbuzin555]

to hip hop? yes. and really, i grew up dancing like that at parties. you didn't really have a choice. that was how you danced or you didn't dance. i dont go out to clubs much anymore except like on 4th of july, labor day, days like that. but the women have no issues about that. seeing how many rap songs rap speaks of bitches and hoes, its like there's no nice way to dance to it anyway

[philanati]

What kind of Music was being played?

I notice when the right Music is being played everyone will dance.

The right Music for the right generation sweaty balls and all lol!

[TonyaTko]

They played everything under the sun, reggae, hip hop, r&b, everything you can think of,

-Tko

[linkpluss]

yup, you hit it right on the spot, it is the girls fault because they want a man to buy them a drink. yup, yup it is the girls fault . ITS A WOMAN WANTING A MAN TO BUY THEM A DRINK IN ORDER TO DANCE WITH THEM THING. Believe you me, I do this for a living

[TonyaTko]

LinkPluss, what is bothering you? please elaborate

-Tko

[linkpluss]

hey my beautiful buddy, im year older than you and surely i know what youre talking about. theres been times when i leave the club drunk because the girls in clubswant to be cuddled in this woman only social group. its madness i tellya! just playn, lol....Tonya babe, you need to come to the Va so I can show you some wild clubs, i mean some raising the roof clubs. To be serious for a second or two, im really not into clubs but i do like traveling, painting, dining out, and being a lil weird.

[shojinstudios]

SWEATY BALLS! HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! sick but true! Yea folks can't really get in tune in clubs anymore. I think it's due to the lack of Male role models for men out there. Seriously a whole lotta teens out there think R Kelly or T.I. even fitty are good role models. Please let's teach these teens/young men of any race what a GENTLEMAN is supposed to act like. Too many don't know and too many r afraid to ask. That's my POV what do you think T??

[str8philly]

Another problem is that many people just can't dance. There's been times when I've been on the dance floor with a few ladies & you'll see the guys by the bar doin the same 2-step all night,while the women will be in their little section talking on the phone or talking to each other. I mentioned the club/lounge thing because many people are more prone 2 dance @ a club because there is a cover charge. I used 2 be that way-(I'm not gonna pay $10-$15.00 to go in,& not make the most of it by dancing)

[1feistydst]

don't stress out tonya. it was probably the club you went to cuz i know there are plenty of "grown and sexy" clubs still out there were men aren't grinding up on the women and where people dance and have fun. don't go to that club anymore....;0)

[rovital1]

I agree. I'm 27 in Houston, Tx. And people can't dance here anyway. lol, but on top of that, Its a fashion show everywhere. Well, that is..until its about 30 minutes from closing time. And then they don't want to leave. ha ha ha..Talk about crazy.

[rovital1]

Oh and if I hear cupid shuffle one..more..time! LMAO

[dakairi05]

In AZ the floors are packed lol!

[TonyaTko]

Okay, so maybe its the weather?

-TKo

[str8philly]

Here in Philly,it's not different than what you see in NYC. Part of the problem could be that you went 2 a lounge,& not a club. Like "Pictish Prince" stated,people usually go 2 lounges to listen to music,have a drink,& socialize with the opposite sex. I'm 30 years old,so I go to lounges when I have the time,but I also notice the guys are just as shy as the women are. I personally have no problem asking a female 2 dance,but many men aren't as outgoing as I percieve myself 2 be. Just my 2 cents...

[TonyaTko]

Have you EVER seen anyone socializing with ppl they don't know at a lounge? Its like they stay in their own huddle. That's what I'm saying.

-Tko

[str8philly]

I actually have. Not just myself,but my friends & I,we have no problem striking up conversation with women & asking them 2 dance,& @ times I've even told women "I'm not tryna holla @ you or pick you up,I just wanna dance with you". The average guy wouldn't do that,same way that many women wouldn't buy that. I've been going to clubs/lounges ever since I was 16 years old,& I've always felt,"I'm gonna dance & socialize with women,because I could just sit around & have a drink @ home myself"......

[TonyaTko]

@Philly, okay so we have ONE guy who goes out to have fun & does approach people.

-TKo

[str8philly]

Absolutely. But Tanya,I'm sure it won't always be that way in your neighborhood. The weather will be breaking soon & I'm sure more outgoing men like myself will be in those same lounges & if they posess a grain of intellect,they'll ask a young beautiful sister like you 2 dance & all,it's still Wintertime,so maybe it's just the people you're running into. More people will be going out within the next 2-3 months,& with more people going out,comes more responsibility 2 meet people & have fun......

[TonyaTko]

@Str8, who's Tanya?

-Tko

[str8philly]

Did I call you "Tanya"??? ***oops!!!!*** I'm sorry sweetie!!!! ***giving Tko a big hug & begging for her forgiveness*** I had no idea I typed that....Sorry hun!!!

[queenfee]

OMG...Thats why I don't club....The sweaty ball smashing is not cute!

[BRENDA180]

ppl in ny call for rape to fast that's why no one get down no more like they use to girl lol

in trinidad when it come's to dancing every one join in for the fun na mean as long as no one grabing things them not have to grab na mean ??? lol kool video no man want to spend jail time no more lol i heard it'z bad in the po po lmao grrrrrrrrrrrr

[PictishPrince]

Is not a lounge a place to simply relax and unwind, while a club is a place for the dancing and release of energies?

[PictishPrince]

Smashing crotches? Doesn't 'Frenchy' demand such activities of you?

[TonyaTko]

People can dance in certain lounges.But even in the night clubs people are standing around like they are in a fashion show posing their outfits. Its weird... so its not like that in your neighborhood? And NO Frenchy is choosy.

-TKo

[PictishPrince]

In my 'neighborhood' there are no lounges or clubs, so I cannot comment on such events. Even if there were such places, I doubt I would frequent them, since I choose to associate with as few people as possible.....except for auto racing events where I am monetarily involved of course.

[TonyaTko]

"except for auto racing events where I am monetarily involved of course. "

Hahhaha! You are a trip! lol

-Tko

[PictishPrince]

A trip, that is a good word to use right now. Maybe one to Nevis, a doublewide on a small piece of land, orange juice every morning, being away from millions of 'neighbors'. That sounds like a good trip to take.

[x23xBooGieMaNx23x]

nice vid