Beginning Transition #1 - Figuring Yourself Out

[TheNeonRabbit]

I'm just a plain ol' hetero guy but I must say I really respect your positive approach, helping people in what must be a very difficult situation learn to make their lives work a little better. I can only imagine how hard it must be to be... different in this way in a world full of haters. God bless!

[ultraawesome55]

What should I do if my parents won't let me transition mtf even though that I've acted like a girl, only wanted girls cloths and all that stuff since I was 7? now I'm 15 and puberty is nearing the end for me and everything is just a mess :(

What should I do? I need some advice?

Btw great video?

[TrannyGirl15]

@ultraawesome55 You're old enough to go see a doctor on your own, and get your own prescriptions... However, the fact is, so long as you live with them, they have alot of control over your life. You can either try to convince them that this is in your best interest, and teach them about transsexuality, or move out as soon as you can.

However, whatever you do, don't drop out of school, don't compromise your education.

[sliphorns]

Your chat was very helpful and constructive. Thankyou.

[Debra291]

I think you are good,precise and devoted to helping others who are in termoil. I am 63 and a transwoman. Just starting. You have helped me in all of yopur videos. Thank you and God bless you. Rebecca

[Tytsjerksteradiel]

I rather be a transgender female than a faggot! Gurl Power!

[TrannyGirl15]

Well I hope that's not your reason for transitioning.

[Angeliumpt]

LOL! Really? What's your problem with faggots then?

[TheNeonRabbit]

@Tytsjerksteradiel Wow, pretty hateful. So you'd like acceptance as a TG but won't grant it to non-TG gays? Isn't life hard enough already?

[ScottyYaoiYum]

@Tytsjerksteradiel I'm an ftm, so I come from the opposite side, but though my mom fully supports me, when I came out she said it would have been easier if I was a lesbian because it's something you can't see or know unless someone tells you, and I agree there wouldn't have been nearly as much frustration about stuff like which bathroom to use. However, since I'm now bi, no matter which gender I am there'll always be someone that calls me queer or whatever, but I'm more comfortable as a guy.

[MrChazian]

@Tytsjerksteradiel I can't even figure out what this comment is supposed to mean. If your saying you would rather be trans and a female, wanting to go F to M, because in your mind you view M to F transgender people as faggots, then technically your saying you would rather be a faggot in the opposite respect.... which makes you an idiot, and a faggot. either way I read your statement you just sound like a loser and a moron. Learn to respect EVERYONE, despite sexuality, gender, or orientation.

[MrChazian]

@MrChazian But if your making a Boisterous comment about how you support the transgender community and making the right decision, I guess good for you? But i still can't figure out why you would word your statement how you did lol. : P

[MzLadySheila]

I think it is very important for all of us to figure out what we really want to be in life and where we want to go.

[Jensagirl]

Nice Touch girl, you make a lot of sense and emphasize on many things I talk to peole considering transitioning to make the outside match the inside.

Thanks

[voldovsfaust]

Eres una excelente persona, y te deseo muchisima suerte. El mundo es tuyo bonita!!!

[etereys7]

*always a fan* :o) Keep up the good work in helping so many out. :o)

[tranny1985ger]

You are my personal Idol of being Transgender!

I Likes all your Videos! They giving me and my Way an Totaly positiv right. And every time I seeing your Videos my Hart is going on! Look forward and never Back!

Have an Nice Day

wishes you

tranny1985ger

[macfire666]

MARRIED WTH ME

[DAN13L15]

Your videos are really helpfull :) Looking forward to the next installment of this series x

[GentilleGabrielle]

Very helpful and informative video.

Thank you for posting this!

[alixinthemiddle]

i semi cross dress. my mom has to buy me clothes, though, so i can only do so much.

i remember this one time i wanted a pair of boy jeans because i think they're more comfortable and she said, "NO!" and when i asked why she said, "BECAUSE I SAID SO!!" and stormed off.

it's both amusing and hurtful her reactions.

[Sorrento1969]

"the first video, on a series of videos", redundancy can be avoided you know :D

Anyway thanks for sharing your experiences. There are a lot of people out there who need to know there are people going thru the same things. One of the few things the Internet has actually helped is this.

[kotekotekitty]

personally i think that transition would make me feel better if i had alot of trans/gay/female friends, which i dont :' (

so i dunno what to do

[TrannyGirl15]

Well, perhaps you should work on making friends. You have to realize that transitioning is something you do for yourself, however.

[kotekotekitty]

yeah, i know :) but i feel that it would do more harm than help without the right kinda friends

[fastmandan88]

what's with the hate? how does any of this bother trans-phobics? i just don't understand how what someone does with their body effects ppl in such a radical, hateful manner...of course they have right to their opinion but damn...

[visualkei72]

@fastmandan88

insecurity. fearing the effects of understanding it to splash into their life, their children, their friends.

fear of being attracted to it. fear of feeling tricked/fooled. and for the God lovers, they're sinners that are broken down into bible terms that deserve to be damned.

homophobia adds to it. the idea of a pretty girl that's pre-op horrifies "big, tough, manly, straight" men.

"does this mean i'm... gg-g-gay?!" lol

[kotekotekitty]

OMG! Wooooo Visual Kei ROCKS :P

[visualkei72]

@ kotekotekitty

XD hail yeah

[devaloki]

there's nothing wrong with being gay, the straight guys scared of gay sex are only scared of it bcuz they think it will feminize them when in reality unless they're a bottom it doesn't

[visualkei72]

i think there's a lot more to being gay and straight men scared of it than that...

but why did you reply to my comment? i didn't mention anything about straight men being scared of gays. i just made a joke.

[devaloki]

bcuz you mentioned the subject

i'lll comment you anytime i want and what are you gonna do about it lol

[visualkei72]

knock yourself out.. /shrug

[TrannyGirl15]

Having the right to an opinion does not mean having the right to post hate messages, however. These ignorant twats should at least be nice enough to keep it shut.

[BarefootRadio]

BreathDoctor, you're one of those internet fuck faces. ;)

[kotekotekitty]

nice hair...

[kotekotekitty]

@BreathDoctor

[krystalvictor]

Breathdoctor show some respect.

[ProjectBrooke]

Cool video! ..it really helps, Thank you N ill be lookin 4ward 2your next 1 :) Xx

[AngelMarie1976]

I was thinking about posting something very similar to this story.. ;-) I've just barely got my vlogging grove on, and have been internally debating on what to post next, other than just life events. Either way, great job hun, great resources, and you look great!

[universalJok3r]

If you happen to be googling the word Transexual, for the love of god, KEEP "SAFE SEARCH" ON!

But If you're seriously having feelings that your assigned gender is not congruent with your internal gender identity, then you can be certain there is a problem.

Chromosomes have little bearing on gender, just because your body carries a certain genotype it does not mean it will be expressed in the phenotype: there are to many factors at play in human development to draw those kinds of lines...

[hcgkid]

Looking good by the way, still look a little swollen but, looking good. Keep up the great work, I look forward to more posts.

[missylovesjessy]

Thank you for posting this video. I agree that you should really try to figure out what you want to do before going too deep into hormones. I didn't and now I am having second thoughts.

[gedify]

I have crossdressed for many years and . I was wondering about the facial surgery route and how surgery or even hormones could revitalise (or not) my hairline which has greatlly receded. Is there any hope for hair restoration through transitioning?

May, I also ask about hips and a female shape around the middle body area....how do you oversome this i.e. do female hormones have any impact?

[TrannyGirl15]

For hair, see video blog about hair removal and hair loss.

As for hips, hormones won't make your pelvic bone enlarge, not after puberty. The best they can do is cause more fat accumulation there.

[visualkei72]

to gedify:

estrogen won't work like rogaine, but it can stop hair loss. it won't rebuild anything. and as TG15 said, hormones have 0 effect on bone structure after puberty.

fat accumulation does shift and can help out, but it's hard to predict what estrogen will do to who. a good guideline is: if you've already got some, it'll add to it, but if you don't have much there to begin with, then don't expect any miracles.

[74stef]

I just got back late-  and yes im in transition- I have a question about ffs. do you think it was worth it? thats a question only to you. I hope you find the time to reply. I have watched you for a while now, and seen both before and after- and i just would like to hear your take on it.

Stef

[callmeuzy]

you can't be a women just with some kind of surgary, because it's just in the outside, not inside,

lol, can you pregnant??

[QueenOfShemakh]

she never sais she'a a woman; she'a a trans! pay attention!

[sexydragonlady]

you can be whoever you want to be and most are female or a woman on the inside already. and yes its possible to get pregnant there's not only one way to get pregnant nowadays.

[shawncg1]

There are also many variations on any "internal" aspects of the people that you perceive as a women that you cant use those either. And since you are not able to view people at the chromosomal level (not that that would be definitive in my opinion) it seems to me that you may not be in any position to judge others gender.

After considering these points can you come up with any reasons you may still think you can determine someones gender is different than they say it is?

[visualkei72]

@shawncg1

you bring up a really good point. i agree with the angle and speculation you're coming from. but the true tests can be determined psychologically.

women and men deal with their emotions very differently, and their drive systems are completely different as well. biological women have an entire chromosome that men don't. the information in there is what determines the vast differences.

our environment isn't as strong as people suggest when battling our biology. addiction is an example

[shawncg1]

Back @ visualkei72

but how much of that is socialization? how much of it is hormonal? I think the point that at the chromosomal level there is a significant difference but we have no way to know what the true nature of those differences are related to gender.

Personally I think we, as a society or the human race, are looking at the problem from the wrong angle. The idea that 7 billion of anything as unique as human individuals could be divided into just 2 categories should be reviewed.

[visualkei72]

@ shawncg1

we already have so many denominations, it would just add confusion in the current state. many cultures would outcast or even kill tg/ts in their community.

transsexuals are even hated by some members of the gay community. they're the least liked type on the entire spectrum of gender and sexuality.

if more efforts were made for transgendered and transsexuals to be taken seriously, that would be the first step. in some southeast asian countries they refer to a "3rd gender".

[alphanumeric1971]

Hey your looking good! I see some more of the swelling has gone away, you look fantastic!

[KellyMacCornmac]

I've been crossdressing for many months now. I prefer it much better than being in teh female role.

I'm pretty sure I want my boobs offed, but I don't think I want the hormones (not sure yet). The main issue is money and where to get the surgery -_-'.

[u6044r0n]

Thanks for the vids, you are beautiful, God bless you!

[jacobterriify]

i wonder if the left side of ur face is numb? interesting...as usual.

[QueenOfShemakh]

I dont think that what you feel is important because this feeling can change through ur life. I was sure that transition was right for me when I started but it didnt make me happier. I would never start transitioning if I could turn back time :(

[Degga1313]

Hey great video. Can't wait to see more. ^_^

[wmw1993]

Live for today....Dream for tomorrow. Learn from You.. Thanks

[jennyomalley]

Why does DATING WITH LADYBOYS pop up at the start of your video?? see sex labels.

[Helourob]

A very, very helpful video, presented so beautifully. Looking forward to future instalments.

Helen

[eastsideboi420]

your so amazing it's crazy. love all the vids :)

[Forlorn79]

This video was very informative, and wise advice, to look inward and find community from the start. I would just suggest you add the links in the description, so people can easily click on them. I've been transitioning for over a year, living part time as female, and am almost to the point of starting hormones. For me, that is the last big step, not something I did at the start. I look forward to the rest of this educational series!

[aspirefire12]

btw your face looks beatiful

[aspirefire12]

i love u tranny girl

[iVictoriaX]

A lot of thoughtfull information. Thanks.