Want? Less Pain - a reasonable level so to not want to end my life. Need? A lot of time alone, because I have learned that my boundaries are not clear; I become enmeshed; I make mistakes that create strong guilt. ...As a member of lgbt community, HIV+, somewhat let-down classical musician, never felt attractive, sadly mood-driven, restless/impulsive (esp. my past) there is a reality: expect quite a bit less. I don't expect to get as far as you have gone; I will run out of time. peace
I found one of your videos through a facebook page that I liked today. I have come to the realization recently that I have BPD. Everything you've said is relevant to me and I'm grateful to finally figure out more about myself. It's nice to hear someone else talk about these same feelings I've had for years and have never understood. I don't feel quite so alone now. Thank you for your videos.
@bnagit That's quite common if one isn't in treatment or yet able to accept that they emotionally react from a young wounded child place inside. I'm sure your wife doesn't understand, emotionally, the difference between her wants and her needs. She likely is overwhelmed by all she feels she needs and doesn't have the insight to understand why.
wow, so helpful to understand that not everyone thinks the way we do and the abandonment idea, wanting others to help me because I felt so helpless. My self care is lacking right now, I am just becoming aware of my borderline traits and how I project onto others. Thank you
OMG! This really really helpful! I am BPD and I am currently going through a divorce because I was too needy and my BPD was untreated. I am going to get help today because I realize that BPD is getting in the way of a lot of things. I am in a lot of pain at this moment.... THANK U!!!! I needed to hear this.
I am a borderline and have been thinking what i really want as a career but it's hard to choose my own career bcos first, i hope for a career that would not give me the emotional battle and that i would not feel such negative emotion for so long bcos then I would be facing the career for life and i dont want that battle to last that long..I'm a nusing student and i hate nursing. I dont like the heavy pressures i face every night b4 my duties/exams..it's an anxiety but dont know how not to be..
Thank you Ms Mahari. Your website has been a godsend in my non-BPD recovery. You are so right. Letting go, accepting no resolution, no closure, no understanding, no apologies, walking away from the ashes and ruins with no answers at all, is so difficult. I believe it left me with a mild case of PTSD. I've been trying just to change the record when I start obsessing in the downward spiral of "why?" It's the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life. Thank you for your insight and support!
Want? Less Pain - a reasonable level so to not want to end my life. Need? A lot of time alone, because I have learned that my boundaries are not clear; I become enmeshed; I make mistakes that create strong guilt. ...As a member of lgbt community, HIV+, somewhat let-down classical musician, never felt attractive, sadly mood-driven, restless/impulsive (esp. my past) there is a reality: expect quite a bit less. I don't expect to get as far as you have gone; I will run out of time. peace
13abbitt 7 months ago
I found one of your videos through a facebook page that I liked today. I have come to the realization recently that I have BPD. Everything you've said is relevant to me and I'm grateful to finally figure out more about myself. It's nice to hear someone else talk about these same feelings I've had for years and have never understood. I don't feel quite so alone now. Thank you for your videos.
delicatebiscuit 1 year ago
My wife is borderline and this would send her into a rage.
bnagit 1 year ago 3
@bnagit
really? why?
hlywkar 1 year ago
@bnagit That's quite common if one isn't in treatment or yet able to accept that they emotionally react from a young wounded child place inside. I'm sure your wife doesn't understand, emotionally, the difference between her wants and her needs. She likely is overwhelmed by all she feels she needs and doesn't have the insight to understand why.
ajmahari 4 months ago
wow, so helpful to understand that not everyone thinks the way we do and the abandonment idea, wanting others to help me because I felt so helpless. My self care is lacking right now, I am just becoming aware of my borderline traits and how I project onto others. Thank you
yatesmsw 1 year ago 2
OMG! This really really helpful! I am BPD and I am currently going through a divorce because I was too needy and my BPD was untreated. I am going to get help today because I realize that BPD is getting in the way of a lot of things. I am in a lot of pain at this moment.... THANK U!!!! I needed to hear this.
materialrainbow 2 years ago 6
awesome.
Nicksblog 2 years ago
I am a borderline and have been thinking what i really want as a career but it's hard to choose my own career bcos first, i hope for a career that would not give me the emotional battle and that i would not feel such negative emotion for so long bcos then I would be facing the career for life and i dont want that battle to last that long..I'm a nusing student and i hate nursing. I dont like the heavy pressures i face every night b4 my duties/exams..it's an anxiety but dont know how not to be..
SamiD29 2 years ago
Thank you Ms Mahari. Your website has been a godsend in my non-BPD recovery. You are so right. Letting go, accepting no resolution, no closure, no understanding, no apologies, walking away from the ashes and ruins with no answers at all, is so difficult. I believe it left me with a mild case of PTSD. I've been trying just to change the record when I start obsessing in the downward spiral of "why?" It's the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life. Thank you for your insight and support!
KamaKinky 2 years ago 3
I need to love and respect myself!!
moneandleils 2 years ago 3