technology always fucks everything up! My sister found out about it when I still had myspace a few years ago and posted it for like 2 seconds. Now it's not really spoken about but I'm pretty sure my whole family knows.
Thank you so much for all the amazing advise! Im gay and I actually just came out to my 4 sisters... Now I just have to tell my parents. I feel so ready to just come out and tell them but my parents are the most homophobic parents. My mom wont watch anything with gay people about gay people you name it. Her brother is gay and she wont accept it and everytime I try to talk to her about him she will start fighting with me.I guess Im just trying to open her mind up but it doesnt seem to be working
my coming out wasnt good either , .. cuz my friend told me she was talking about my girlfriend & i to her brother , and their mom was listening , so she told my dad ( who she is VERY close to ) and the both of them are religious . so i wasnt able to tell him myself . , and my mom found out through my girlfriend's post on facebook that i forgot to delete , so it was a whole big mess .. crying & shit . she constantly bags on me tho , telling me its an abomination to God . its ridiculous .
You're the first person I've ever heard tell a coming out story that wasn't so understanding... I'm so scared to come out to my parents for that reason... I have a girlfriend and I feel like if I come out to them, they'll ban me from ever seeing her again... And she's my everything, so I can't lose her.. :/
i'm a straight woman but my cousin is gay and he came out to his mum and she threw him out but have now finally accepted his life and who he is. my mum has said and taught me that ur friends are the family u choose and ur family are the ones u can't choose but are stuck with
I'm glad there are people like you, who take your time to post videos like this, to talk about your stories to help others. I'm openly gay, and am happy with it. one of my friends is as well, but he totally regrets it, not because of his parents, but because of people at school and around in his community. We both live in small towns, and the reaction to each of us coming out is totally opposite. I wish there was some way to help him, he just needs to figure out what to do.
I wish the whole world was accepting and as loving as you seem to be. I'm a trans-guy, and I can't come out or transition yet because of my family. They are pretty homophobic, and put trans people in that group also (wouldn't help that their daughter is a gay man inside, I think that would be a double whammy for them).
@LizzieA03 I just figure that if I expect people to be accepting of me then I need to be accepting of everyone as well, otherwise that makes me an absolute hypocrite.
And I don't envy you. I think trans men and women have it harder than anyone. Most of my friends that are trans had to come out to their parents two times, and that I can't imagine because once was plenty for me. Just be strong and be the person you need to be. In the end, nothing can be more important than your own happiness. :)
Im 14 but iCame Out to my mom When i was 13. Im bisexual.. But When i Came out to her Things were never the same ! I pray every night that she will some day accept it.. .. Im not going to be someone im not !! When judgement day comes im the only one who can answer for what ive done !! If im happy I Think she should be too ! I Now Have a girlfrendd that ive been dating for a year and 2 months. and nobody will ever come between us. But I can totally connect to EVERYthing you said !
@bazfanv2 Do you really have to be negative and say such things? Does being a jerk bring you happiness? Really? Well, I'M A LESBIAN TOO. Come at me, bro.
I totally dont get the concept of a parent hating their child for being who they are. Also, I dont get the whole punishment for it like taking away a cell phone and driving privilege isn't going to make you "ungay". I'm glad my mother is so accepting its sad that every parent cant be.
I agree with what you said with homophobic parents. my dad isn't at all homophobic but one side of my family is. This goes with almost every situation for other people don't understand something you do. Like why you like white bread and someone else doesn't. Just listen to the view and that doesn't mean you have to change yours. And ur also right about coming out. dont force yourself to come out if its not the right time. Eventually you will have to, but when you feel ready and empowered to
Homophobic Parents?? WTF?? Nothing to do with shafting there retirement years with the Grandchildren they will never see then? Anyone would think they owed YOU somthing..... Self centred isnt the word..
@jessxxy who said she wont have grandchildren? I know same sex couples with children...And even if she was straight and said she never had/wanted children, that doesn't make it right for a parent to not love their own child.
Im not out yet and I don't have homophobic parents but don't get jealous of me yet, my parents aren't exactly liberal or pro gay, they just love me unconditionally, but i live in one of the most homophobic nations in the western world, Ireland! so although my parents would accept me for being gay , they would be ashamed of me and embarrassed if their colleagues found out i was gay. Im not scared to tell my parents, I just dont feel they need to know just yet, Im more scared to tell my friends :(
I'm so glad you made this video because all the coming out videos that I have seen they all had pretty good situations so I'm glad that there is someone that understands my situation I am a 17 year old girl and I came out in April it was awful the reaction but thank god for Ellen and good examples on t.v. To keep me going thanks so much
@ILUVELLEN53 That's a big part of why I wanted to make it. I just want everyone who had stories like mine to know that they aren't alone, and that you can be hopeful about it. :)
Throughout my life I have always had a struggled relationship with my dad and then when he found out I was a lesbian everything just went through the roof. I lost the small relationship I had with my dad, I lost my home (his wife kicked me out because they didn't want me around their baby that doesn't yet exist)
I have zero tolerance for "parents" who suddenly turn on their children like that. Zero.
Why the fuck should you (or anyone) have to become the mature one/the parent????
No. I say if you (meaning parents) are gonna act like pieces of shit mental cases then "bye fuckin bye" and call me when or if you decide to treat me with 100% respect and acceptance.
But I agree with not coming out if you're young and stuck living with demented parents.
@brama1969 I can't speak for everyone, but I choose to be the mature one and choose patience over anything else because I love my parents and am trying to be understanding of what they might be going through as well. I can't expect 100% acceptance from them, and what they need from me is time and understanding. How can I expect that from them if I can't give it?
Well I do admire your maturity. And your patience. Honestly I guess what I said was/is so easy for me to say because I never has a good relationship with my parents to begin with so it would have been no loss for me to just cut them the fuck off had they ever pulled anything like that with me.
Yes, I do understand that you love yours and I realize that it must be very painful for you. I'm sorry about that. I really do hope they come around in time.
I've known since the 4th grade but never act on my feeling towards girls. I've kind have to pretend all the time that I'm straight & it's hard. My family doesn't even know. But what I am to do?
@MissGuitarr It's definitely scary... One thing I am thankful for is that I don't have to tiptoe around wondering if/when my parents will find out anymore. It's done and over and out in the open. Whatever happens now happens.
hey devin or devyn you are my favorite lesbiancentral, I love your stories, I love the way u express when u r telling your stories..U have a friend and a fan here in south america and the caribbean. ♂+♀=♥ ♂+♂=♥ ♀+♀=♥
So you must be Devin "Bellezza"? I just wanted to thank you "Ragazza Molto Bella" (Very Beautiful Girl) , for sharing your story! When you fell out so to speak it was a great day for your extended family in the global, queer (lgbtq) community! And Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here is enormously proud of you! I adore "Cold Play" but, honey everyone here would likely much rather hear you!
@finallytheherbes Awesome suggestion, and I already suggested something fun for next week to the rest of the crew. Stay tuned to see what we come up with. :)
I have been out for almost 2 years and my dad is still homophobic and he hates that I am so open about being gay. He says he loves me and accepts me no matter what but he doesnt. Even tho he doesn't like who I am I still stand strong, and have no problem being open about who I am.
I'm seventeen and I'm still not out to most of my family. I am though, out to all of my friends. It's not that I don't want to be open about my sexuality, I just know it wouldn't go over well. My parents seem to make little jokes about me being a lesbian, my dad especially. Which makes me think they already know, but I'm not sure. It'd be so much easier if coming out to friends was like coming out to family. But, no. Life has to be so damn difficult, aha.
@eatyocornbread If they are making jokes about it guaranteed they probably have at least some clue. I have had a lot of friends with parents who did similar things and honestly, it might just be their way of letting you know that it isn't a big deal. But seriously, no need to rush. You will know when the time is right.
... either that or you can leave your phone out for your snoopy mom to read. But that one I don't recommend. Ha ha. ;)
technology always fucks everything up! My sister found out about it when I still had myspace a few years ago and posted it for like 2 seconds. Now it's not really spoken about but I'm pretty sure my whole family knows.
supahfreeak 3 days ago
can u message me about this video please
21bardock 3 days ago
how i wish i can send this video to your parents
so they see your point of view, your thoughts and opinions
maybe then they can open their eyes to see what beautiful daughter they have,
TheFlawlessMakeup 4 days ago
Your dad should have opened the gun case.
MrBarney524 4 days ago
Awesome video!
My friend and I are giving it a go - check out our new lesbain advice channel :)
We'll try our best to help you out :)
LezEnjoyLife 1 week ago
It's just,
The moment you tell your parents it all becomes about THEM.
"I" WILL HAVE NO REAL GRAND CHILDREN.
"I" HAVE THE EMBARRASSED OF DEALING WITH THIS AND TELLING PEOPLE.
It's like? HELLO? I AM THE ONE WHO HAS BEEN HIDING AND DYING INSIDE.
Sliprez 1 week ago
I came out to my mom last night, she goes.
"You're full of shit."
Thanks mom.
wickedfersure 1 week ago
Thank you so much for all the amazing advise! Im gay and I actually just came out to my 4 sisters... Now I just have to tell my parents. I feel so ready to just come out and tell them but my parents are the most homophobic parents. My mom wont watch anything with gay people about gay people you name it. Her brother is gay and she wont accept it and everytime I try to talk to her about him she will start fighting with me.I guess Im just trying to open her mind up but it doesnt seem to be working
TheSteffanyO 1 week ago
my coming out wasnt good either , .. cuz my friend told me she was talking about my girlfriend & i to her brother , and their mom was listening , so she told my dad ( who she is VERY close to ) and the both of them are religious . so i wasnt able to tell him myself . , and my mom found out through my girlfriend's post on facebook that i forgot to delete , so it was a whole big mess .. crying & shit . she constantly bags on me tho , telling me its an abomination to God . its ridiculous .
cgeeezy21 2 weeks ago
i knoww how you feel. my mom is like overly religious and shes old. soooo now she just denies it. it sucks. but its whateverr.
LaKayKay310 3 weeks ago
My parents are like that... so would be better to get a car and tell them while i drive away and come back a week later?
Risleh13 3 weeks ago
thats the exact way my mom found out but she didnt tell me dad still has
espinosa96 3 weeks ago
your beautiful, just saying (:
iriyy12910 3 weeks ago
You're the first person I've ever heard tell a coming out story that wasn't so understanding... I'm so scared to come out to my parents for that reason... I have a girlfriend and I feel like if I come out to them, they'll ban me from ever seeing her again... And she's my everything, so I can't lose her.. :/
JamJon94 4 weeks ago
<3
cutelilbub 1 month ago
i'm a straight woman but my cousin is gay and he came out to his mum and she threw him out but have now finally accepted his life and who he is. my mum has said and taught me that ur friends are the family u choose and ur family are the ones u can't choose but are stuck with
scousechick87 1 month ago
when i saw this it made me cry sooo much
itzgiobitches 1 month ago
I'm glad there are people like you, who take your time to post videos like this, to talk about your stories to help others. I'm openly gay, and am happy with it. one of my friends is as well, but he totally regrets it, not because of his parents, but because of people at school and around in his community. We both live in small towns, and the reaction to each of us coming out is totally opposite. I wish there was some way to help him, he just needs to figure out what to do.
whitelawnick 1 month ago 6
@whitelawnick Thank you. :)
LesbianCentral 1 month ago
I wish the whole world was accepting and as loving as you seem to be. I'm a trans-guy, and I can't come out or transition yet because of my family. They are pretty homophobic, and put trans people in that group also (wouldn't help that their daughter is a gay man inside, I think that would be a double whammy for them).
LizzieA03 1 month ago
@LizzieA03 I just figure that if I expect people to be accepting of me then I need to be accepting of everyone as well, otherwise that makes me an absolute hypocrite.
And I don't envy you. I think trans men and women have it harder than anyone. Most of my friends that are trans had to come out to their parents two times, and that I can't imagine because once was plenty for me. Just be strong and be the person you need to be. In the end, nothing can be more important than your own happiness. :)
LesbianCentral 1 month ago
Im 14 but iCame Out to my mom When i was 13. Im bisexual.. But When i Came out to her Things were never the same ! I pray every night that she will some day accept it.. .. Im not going to be someone im not !! When judgement day comes im the only one who can answer for what ive done !! If im happy I Think she should be too ! I Now Have a girlfrendd that ive been dating for a year and 2 months. and nobody will ever come between us. But I can totally connect to EVERYthing you said !
Jassyfaeee 1 month ago
@bazfanv2 Do you really have to be negative and say such things? Does being a jerk bring you happiness? Really? Well, I'M A LESBIAN TOO. Come at me, bro.
animeartist6666 1 month ago
U were from boise? Im from idaho and i support you all the way :)
mizmiller2081 1 month ago
I totally dont get the concept of a parent hating their child for being who they are. Also, I dont get the whole punishment for it like taking away a cell phone and driving privilege isn't going to make you "ungay". I'm glad my mother is so accepting its sad that every parent cant be.
Simplekindofbeauty 1 month ago
im so sorry your parents did that to you.... i love u no matter what gurl!
voiceofanangel00 2 months ago
I agree with what you said with homophobic parents. my dad isn't at all homophobic but one side of my family is. This goes with almost every situation for other people don't understand something you do. Like why you like white bread and someone else doesn't. Just listen to the view and that doesn't mean you have to change yours. And ur also right about coming out. dont force yourself to come out if its not the right time. Eventually you will have to, but when you feel ready and empowered to
Adenzmomma90 2 months ago
Homophobic Parents?? WTF?? Nothing to do with shafting there retirement years with the Grandchildren they will never see then? Anyone would think they owed YOU somthing..... Self centred isnt the word..
jessxxy 2 months ago
@jessxxy who said she wont have grandchildren? I know same sex couples with children...And even if she was straight and said she never had/wanted children, that doesn't make it right for a parent to not love their own child.
EmilySuydam 2 months ago
Im not out yet and I don't have homophobic parents but don't get jealous of me yet, my parents aren't exactly liberal or pro gay, they just love me unconditionally, but i live in one of the most homophobic nations in the western world, Ireland! so although my parents would accept me for being gay , they would be ashamed of me and embarrassed if their colleagues found out i was gay. Im not scared to tell my parents, I just dont feel they need to know just yet, Im more scared to tell my friends :(
NiamhSoady93 2 months ago
Thats such amazing advice you gave, good on you XD
LIAMODEARME 2 months ago
my parents are sooo homophobic =( =( =( kill me!! =(
-Melissa (lesbianheart)
lesbianpowerforever 2 months ago
I'm so glad you made this video because all the coming out videos that I have seen they all had pretty good situations so I'm glad that there is someone that understands my situation I am a 17 year old girl and I came out in April it was awful the reaction but thank god for Ellen and good examples on t.v. To keep me going thanks so much
ILUVELLEN53 2 months ago 3
@ILUVELLEN53 That's a big part of why I wanted to make it. I just want everyone who had stories like mine to know that they aren't alone, and that you can be hopeful about it. :)
LesbianCentral 1 month ago
I know this sounds bad but I'm so glad I pay my own phone bill. Thank you Verizon Wireless.
1vanillaninja 2 months ago
Throughout my life I have always had a struggled relationship with my dad and then when he found out I was a lesbian everything just went through the roof. I lost the small relationship I had with my dad, I lost my home (his wife kicked me out because they didn't want me around their baby that doesn't yet exist)
sharkgirlseven 2 months ago
I have to disagree with you.
I have zero tolerance for "parents" who suddenly turn on their children like that. Zero.
Why the fuck should you (or anyone) have to become the mature one/the parent????
No. I say if you (meaning parents) are gonna act like pieces of shit mental cases then "bye fuckin bye" and call me when or if you decide to treat me with 100% respect and acceptance.
But I agree with not coming out if you're young and stuck living with demented parents.
brama1969 3 months ago 20
@brama1969 I can't speak for everyone, but I choose to be the mature one and choose patience over anything else because I love my parents and am trying to be understanding of what they might be going through as well. I can't expect 100% acceptance from them, and what they need from me is time and understanding. How can I expect that from them if I can't give it?
LesbianCentral 3 months ago 2
@LesbianCentral
Well I do admire your maturity. And your patience. Honestly I guess what I said was/is so easy for me to say because I never has a good relationship with my parents to begin with so it would have been no loss for me to just cut them the fuck off had they ever pulled anything like that with me.
Yes, I do understand that you love yours and I realize that it must be very painful for you. I'm sorry about that. I really do hope they come around in time.
brama1969 3 months ago
I've known since the 4th grade but never act on my feeling towards girls. I've kind have to pretend all the time that I'm straight & it's hard. My family doesn't even know. But what I am to do?
getiygirl 4 months ago
I remember when you were going through all this. Very happy for you Dev! :)
AndinoInDenial 4 months ago in playlist More videos from LesbianCentral
Thank u for sharing ur story..it scared me a bit cuz well im still in that lil box but maybe in time k..:)
Thanks so much for sharing :D
unknownyetnotalone2 4 months ago
Thanks for sharing your story. I have a feeling mine would go a lot like this if I come out right now. :(
MissGuitarr 4 months ago
@MissGuitarr It's definitely scary... One thing I am thankful for is that I don't have to tiptoe around wondering if/when my parents will find out anymore. It's done and over and out in the open. Whatever happens now happens.
LesbianCentral 4 months ago in playlist Devin
@MissGuitarr ya me too..i will never come out.. ihope they never know..
surayaiit 3 months ago in playlist More videos from LesbianCentral
thank you for sharing your story. it sucks that many of us have to deal with this but i think it's wonderful that we don't have to deal with it alone
loversarelunatics 4 months ago
Aww...I just want to give you a hug now....
I guess the best way of dealing with homophobic parents is to show them we haven't really changed. We are still the same person. =)
timbifane 5 months ago 2
@timbifane That's what I am hoping to prove to my parents over time... Still my same goofy self. :)
LesbianCentral 4 months ago in playlist Devin
sending you hugs Devon!!! xoxo
FluteStar09 5 months ago
even better i get to see devon sooner.
FluteStar09 5 months ago
hey devin or devyn you are my favorite lesbiancentral, I love your stories, I love the way u express when u r telling your stories..U have a friend and a fan here in south america and the caribbean. ♂+♀=♥ ♂+♂=♥ ♀+♀=♥
zuryhis 5 months ago
@zuryhis @zuryhis Thank you, darling! :)
P.S. ...Devin. ;)
LesbianCentral 5 months ago
I love you and I understand you...my story is just like yours!!! xoxo
btw...turn down a little the music!!
McCutcheonKmila 5 months ago
@McCutcheonKmila I know I know... :/ I didn't realize it was so loud until it was uploaded and too late to fix it.
LesbianCentral 5 months ago
@LesbianCentral
Ciao Bella!
So you must be Devin "Bellezza"? I just wanted to thank you "Ragazza Molto Bella" (Very Beautiful Girl) , for sharing your story! When you fell out so to speak it was a great day for your extended family in the global, queer (lgbtq) community! And Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here is enormously proud of you! I adore "Cold Play" but, honey everyone here would likely much rather hear you!
Ti Amo Molto Ragazza Bella"!
Molti Baci!xxx
blainebill39 5 months ago
well said. i think you kicked ass this week :)
peasfan10 5 months ago
@peasfan10 Thank you so much! :)
LesbianCentral 5 months ago
I love every one of all of your videos, can you guys PLEASE do like a fun topic next week like which of the other girls on the channel you would:
-take on a date
-do the amazing race with
-hangout with for a day
-be roommates with
-which of the girls is most your type?
something like that, something fun, I think you ladies need a fun week!
finallytheherbes 5 months ago 8
@finallytheherbes Awesome suggestion, and I already suggested something fun for next week to the rest of the crew. Stay tuned to see what we come up with. :)
LesbianCentral 5 months ago
you need to clean your room
25maroney 5 months ago
@25maroney Shush. :p They are clean clothes I just need to put them away!
Appreciate that I spend my time making a nice video for you guys rather than cleaning. ;)
LesbianCentral 5 months ago
Wanna know how I know you're gay? You listen to Coldplay. :D haha, it's okay I like them too.
MaddieGoLucky 5 months ago
@MaddieGoLucky It should have been a sign early on I guess, because I have always loved them. :p
LesbianCentral 5 months ago
I can relate to you my parents was like that ... Plus im the only girl so yea haha that made it worse
JMIME45 5 months ago
@JMIME45 I'm the oldest. Only girl, oldest... why can't we just be nice, unassuming middle children or something? :p
LesbianCentral 5 months ago
I have been out for almost 2 years and my dad is still homophobic and he hates that I am so open about being gay. He says he loves me and accepts me no matter what but he doesnt. Even tho he doesn't like who I am I still stand strong, and have no problem being open about who I am.
DUBBZProductions 5 months ago
I'm seventeen and I'm still not out to most of my family. I am though, out to all of my friends. It's not that I don't want to be open about my sexuality, I just know it wouldn't go over well. My parents seem to make little jokes about me being a lesbian, my dad especially. Which makes me think they already know, but I'm not sure. It'd be so much easier if coming out to friends was like coming out to family. But, no. Life has to be so damn difficult, aha.
eatyocornbread 5 months ago
@eatyocornbread If they are making jokes about it guaranteed they probably have at least some clue. I have had a lot of friends with parents who did similar things and honestly, it might just be their way of letting you know that it isn't a big deal. But seriously, no need to rush. You will know when the time is right.
... either that or you can leave your phone out for your snoopy mom to read. But that one I don't recommend. Ha ha. ;)
LesbianCentral 5 months ago
first view :)
xohdangmeredithx 5 months ago