victims are more human, oppressors are more reptilian, think of yourself as a powerful surpasser, and when you are no longer a victim, you will no longer attract these people.
He says, "Bad relationships--however harrowing--constitute opportunities to learn lessons. And if you fail to do that, you have no one to blame, but yourself." I just needed to write that down, so I can get to it fast. I'm going to need it a lot now, because I keep asking "Why?" The lesson I am trying to learn (I'm already good at figuring them out, fast!) is why they are this way? What forms them?
I wish the pastor had said "Do you take this exploitative psychopathic predator to be your lawful husband" What a journey - mine is a doozy - acute chronic and pathological has been diagnosed from time to time as schizoid paranoid sociopathic and psychotically violent. Well Im done, my T Shirt no longer reads "Fly Paper for Freaks" out with the old 'nice' me and in with the Assertive Biatch" he's history.
Thank you for that vid. I am an empath, and/or HSP and I do often attract all sorts because of my outgoing, friendly, and all-to-helpful nature. But I realize now, that my N husband, out of sheer opportunity to secure his primary supply, used me to do just that (through an unsuspecting friend who was part of that supply). Before I can move on, one thing I HAVE to know is that I'm not going to continue to be this "magnet" as I see myself now. Your vid helps with this immensely.
Keep them coming Sam , I look forward to every video .just when I think I've got my head around one aspect you bring another to our attention.your book and your videos are a survival guide and that is not an igsaduration thanks again .
Once again... extremely helpful and relevant. It's so funny that I came to the conclusion just earlier this week that I generally attract all people with my attitude and caring demeanor, and that it just so happens that Narcissists have been in the mix. See? Just another example of how relevant and helpful Sam's work is! If you pay attention eventually you'll become your own teacher. This really is like having a free therapist. I am so grateful.
Sam ,What do you define as Human Love between Man and women is their really love from your prospective in any human beings.My quess is probabaly very rare where both partys want to give to the other and not get something.So what is real healthy love in your opinion.
Sure, it sounds right if the N is a spouse, or friend. However, if the N is you mother, and you had no idea as a child why you were the chosen or disgarded ; you suffer the consequences before learning about the abuse. My innate nature is to be empatic and I am in a profession that enables me to use that strength. However, to survive the "invisible child" role that my mother gave me, took inner strength. Now as an adult, I have learned why I never really liked my mom. I am a survivor.
The Narc level is rising in this world. I see it even in the little kids. Forewarned is forearmed.
MimiZ914 1 hour ago
victims are more human, oppressors are more reptilian, think of yourself as a powerful surpasser, and when you are no longer a victim, you will no longer attract these people.
SovereignBeing 2 weeks ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths
Sam....this could add to your own supply...but you are great!
LTizzle34 2 weeks ago
@Kathydrel
BettyBluBox 1 month ago
He says, "Bad relationships--however harrowing--constitute opportunities to learn lessons. And if you fail to do that, you have no one to blame, but yourself." I just needed to write that down, so I can get to it fast. I'm going to need it a lot now, because I keep asking "Why?" The lesson I am trying to learn (I'm already good at figuring them out, fast!) is why they are this way? What forms them?
Saraswati0183 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I wish the pastor had said "Do you take this exploitative psychopathic predator to be your lawful husband" What a journey - mine is a doozy - acute chronic and pathological has been diagnosed from time to time as schizoid paranoid sociopathic and psychotically violent. Well Im done, my T Shirt no longer reads "Fly Paper for Freaks" out with the old 'nice' me and in with the Assertive Biatch" he's history.
itsanottame 3 months ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths 4
omg...u r so right......am done too finally, all done, and IT feels sooooooooooooooooo good.
morghean 1 month ago
Thank you for that vid. I am an empath, and/or HSP and I do often attract all sorts because of my outgoing, friendly, and all-to-helpful nature. But I realize now, that my N husband, out of sheer opportunity to secure his primary supply, used me to do just that (through an unsuspecting friend who was part of that supply). Before I can move on, one thing I HAVE to know is that I'm not going to continue to be this "magnet" as I see myself now. Your vid helps with this immensely.
organysntracey1 3 months ago
Keep them coming Sam , I look forward to every video .just when I think I've got my head around one aspect you bring another to our attention.your book and your videos are a survival guide and that is not an igsaduration thanks again .
Kathydrel 3 months ago
Once again... extremely helpful and relevant. It's so funny that I came to the conclusion just earlier this week that I generally attract all people with my attitude and caring demeanor, and that it just so happens that Narcissists have been in the mix. See? Just another example of how relevant and helpful Sam's work is! If you pay attention eventually you'll become your own teacher. This really is like having a free therapist. I am so grateful.
AmandyPants 3 months ago
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AmandyPants 3 months ago
Sam ,What do you define as Human Love between Man and women is their really love from your prospective in any human beings.My quess is probabaly very rare where both partys want to give to the other and not get something.So what is real healthy love in your opinion.
59Disciple 3 months ago
Narcissistic people are clowns.
elbanis666 3 months ago 8
Sure, it sounds right if the N is a spouse, or friend. However, if the N is you mother, and you had no idea as a child why you were the chosen or disgarded ; you suffer the consequences before learning about the abuse. My innate nature is to be empatic and I am in a profession that enables me to use that strength. However, to survive the "invisible child" role that my mother gave me, took inner strength. Now as an adult, I have learned why I never really liked my mom. I am a survivor.
kellycat2552 3 months ago 2
@kellycat2552 Hi Kelly, have you ever been to the website called Daughters of Narcissictic Mothers? You might find it a helpful website. :)
changingmyself 3 months ago 2
@kellycat2552 Hey Kelly, be careful who you take advice from, she might just be the biggest narcissist on YouTube, y'know? Just cautionin' ;)
Innuendoh 3 months ago
If only I could spend a week In this man's office. Sam, you have gotten me through a very hard time in my life. Thank you for all your wisdom. Mark.
fortsmithow 3 months ago 29