Should you tell a guy that you like him as more than a friend? Three signs he's into you

[lolzabubbles]

Help!!!! My crush was very nice to me at the beggining of the term and then he drifted off to another girl. Now they are going out and I have to admit...I am pretty jealous. I try to be as nice as I can to this other girl but inside...I really hate her. Please Help!!!!!!!!!

[newbetomfan]

Hey i have the same thing except we've been friends for allot longer about 10-11 years now but i really like him now and , i think he may feel the same also he dose every thing positive to the 'he likes you' symptoms help?!

[McTofuwuerfel]

What if both think the same way...nothing happens and you gonna regret that you did not tell the other one about your feelings. True story.

[rozeautopet]

yeah what the guy below me said

[RIOTrhiannon]

im sorry but i dont agree, your generalising all guys as one type. not all guys act the same in this situation, depending on their own personalities and confidence.

[blueirishluck79]

Wow!! I messed up bad than!! Just a couple of weeks ago i told the guy that i liked him for more than a friend and told him what a great guy he was..i told him i did not want a answer cause o dont think he looked twice at me like that but just needed to get it off

My chest..he now has become distance with me and short but said this would not wreck are friendship..i told him cause he gave me so many signs he liked me..what do i do now?? Should i give it time and give him distances? ? Help :(

[beaanibee]

thank you so much, this just helped me a lot. i mean you just described the exact situation i'm in wow !!

[lawshorizon]

Great Video! ..... So - how to get someone to like you? ..... you can't - it's all a natural thing and "not" something that should be pushed (as the video mentions). The only problem is if there's a lack of time and opportunity for things to develope - sometimes there's no choice but to risk a push.

[Im18Years0ld]

Im a guy.

If I knew my "BFF" had a crush on me, I would wish for her not to tell me. Because i really really just want to stay friends. Lol she made up a yearly celebration called our "friendiversary" its our 3rd year already. I'm glad we're still friends.

[TheAnnaLurie]

just tell him.

if he knows you have confidence to tell him he will think about what you told him and maybe start feeling the same way. just tell him because you will regret it if you dont.

[mattshadow15]

okay,what happens if were walking past eachother and then he sees me,smiles,and gives me a hug and tries to talk to me?And what if were walking by eachother and he like tries to ecnore me but yet when he thinks im not looking hell look at me?..

[is0belle100]

my life right in this video right now :( i feel like she is really speaking to me and i understand now.

[goodyangie1]

when were together, he smiles; he will say my name constantly... when im lonely and i tell him, he says "well you have me" hes so cute!! when im working sitting down, he comes and just puts both his hands in my shoulder, and then we start to talk... does he like me? what should i do? please answer!!

[MsRadster123]

LOL thank you......this helped :P

[jenvan7]

Sorry for so many posts!!! Its just I cant work out what to do....I feel I've missed my chance. Or should I fess up and be honest? Maybe I can't blame him if I made a point of saying I'm not into him......anyway, any advice whatsoever would be appreciated. xx

[jenvan7]

Now the friendship is coasting along, but he has a lot of pressure from his friends to hook up with as many girls as possible now that he is single, which is what he is now trying to do. I think perhaps after being in a relationship so long he may have decided to have as much fun as possible for a while. Anyhow, I'm now crazy with jealousy when he's flirting with other girls and I'm so annoyed I lied and said I wasn't into him and am terrified I've wrecked everything!

[jenvan7]

Now the friendship is coasting along, but he has a lot of pressure from his friends to hook up with as many girls as possible now that he is single, which is what he is now trying to do. I think perhaps after being in a relationship so long he may have decided to have as much fun as possible for a while. Anyhow, I'm now crazy with jealousy when he's flirting with other girls and I'm so annoyed I lied and said I wasn't into him and am terrified I've wrecked everything!

[jenvan7]

worry that he has decided that the idea of anything happening is a bad idea and would be bad for our friendship. I confessed all this to my flatmate who unbeknownst to me asked his best friend about it, which made crazy with paranoia becuase I didnt want him to know I liked him for sure until I was sure of his feelings. So then I had a conversation with him in which I told him I definitely wasn't into him and only see him as a friend, even though this is definitley not the case!

[jenvan7]

Bu then we became self conscious with all our friends around, one of whom came up and started talking to us Strangely again we didnt mention it the next day. We've shared a bed on loads of occasions where we just spooned and nothing else has happened. The other interesting thing is that we have both always hooked up with other people, although for me at least I find myself comparing everyone to him. Recently things have become difficult as he started to distance himself from me and I

[jenvan7]

For the past year our friendship has got more intense, and we text each other all the time. There has also been occasions at parties/on nights out where he has drunkenly implied that he is into me but never acknowledged it when sober, and another occasion a couple of months ago where we were at a club dancing and he was complaining 'jen all I wanted to do was kiss a pretty girl tonight' to which I replied 'well maybe you arent trying hard enough' and he kissed me, be it very briefly on the lips.

[jenvan7]

Maybe you can help me, I've been so stressed over a situation like this these past few months. I guess I've always had a thing for my best guy friend since freshman year of college, but for 3 of the 4 years weve known each other he had a girlfriend. We were always close though, and I think we both felt quite a bit of chemistry there although obviously we never did anything about it, apart from very early on in our friendship where we drunkenly kissed but never ever spoke of it again.

[BritishDreamer12]

This makes me feel sooo much better.

[clarissa100260]

ugh...so hes not into me...

[G4FProduction]

I think in the 70's that was possible.

[lemonsauna98]

Thanks for making me more nervous than I was befroe I watched this Smh.

[pinkpolkadotz22]

umm i like my best guy friend. hes always real touchy and always smiles when im around but he doesnt txt me...wen he hasnt seen me for a day or too he gets real happy when i come back. were always tlking and we do everything together but he isnt protective of me. we always make each other laugh and were really competitive at each other in like drawing in stuff...we hav almost every single thing in common and he always acts mad at me or ignores me to get a reaction out of me but im still not sure

[darriendawn5]

woh bellaemma your question is exactly what is happening to me about a guy named keilin who likes this girl named sydney, but he also likes me and he knows sydney likes him but he doesn't know i like him so he wants to ask sydney out but i can tell he wants to ask me also but he doesnt think i like him so he thinks i will turn him down :(

[Bellalemma]

I have a question...

I really like someone, but he likes someone else,

and he knows I like him,

and....

I'm really upset about it,

but how do I get him to like me ?

They aren't going out or anything but they like each other the same.

Help Me ?

[patty99904]

@Bellalemma i know right,

SAME HERe :(

[Bellalemma]

@patty99904 IT SUCKS!

[Fakesmilexox]

So your basically saying don't show how you feel? Why would you say that!! Personally I would rather regret what I have don't insted of wondering what if. If you like someone tell them or you will regret it what's the worse that could happen?

[funnybunny3980]

if only i'd known this about 3 months ago

[chriss179]

How crazy i was about her. If she hadn't gone mad at least i could have given it a second thought. Is taking her abandoning happiness or is refusing her refusing happiness? Was it her pride that she destroyed our friendship?? She took an asshole, that must be pride or a pain killer.. Either way if she had used her brains and been a little tougher and didn't destroy the friendship she would have had me screaming of desire for her.

[chriss179]

I would not have been able to resist her charms, her beauty and her sweet character. But she gave herself to a guy who was only capable of abusing women. Being ungrateful for anything she was. Ofcourse that kind of threw a barrier in between her and me, because he knew very well she had just given her heart to me. So she lost not only me but her own dignity too. Really ladies, be a little tougher. self restraint. Expecting an immediate reaction of the same degree of infatuation is silly.

[chriss179]

One time a girlfriend came up to me telling me she had observed me for a long time and how her desire for me had grown so much she knew she didn't want anyone else. She asked me for a relationship and when i abstained giving her good reason why (i want kids. she had 2). She was so mad. She immediatly took some asshole as a friend. O how i desired to be with her and choose for her and forget having my own kids someday! If she had controlled that anger she would very probarbly have gotten me.

[chriss179]

Now i was not gay, but trying to cheer the ladies up never helped. Did i have to fake being gay and humiliate myself among all my friends who would hear the gossip of her mouth telling everyone i said i'd be gay and thats why i reject her? just to cheer her up? And then after a while when her feelings have died, tell her i'm hetero after all i just wanted to protect her from herself? it is so much more complex then it has to be. just see the truth. Infatuation dies, love never dies.

[chriss179]

I'm telling you ladies, i've had my share of girlfriends coming on to me. What do you do when your friend whom you desire tells you he is gay after you told him you love him? What if he tells you he wants to spend time with because he is sad that he made you sad because he cannot be your lover? What if he wants to cheer you up as a friend? Will you accept it? Why is it that much harder when a man is heterosexual?? Is it personal because that is by choice? Do we choose who we fall in love with??

[chriss179]

Why do women play all these silly games?? The only thing which is wrong is if you hurt yourself with stupid questions like: What if i tell him, will he create a distance?? Well for good reason you would probarbly create the distance yourself, if not by being physically more distant, at least by not letting those feelings of infatuation take over your life. So there is only one sollution which is to tell him and be tough so the only thing you'll lose is a desire not a friend.

[chriss179]

Why bother him with too many feelings unless he has expressed some of them himself?? It is enough if you let him know you desire more then just a friendship with him, and if you toughen up and tell him that this will die if he does not react, he can toughen up and be your friend or your lover. Either way you keep what you have or get lucky.

[chriss179]

And why should you be merely friends with a person if there is the possibility to get what you want? If good things like showing love break a friendship, then that friendship wasn't worth saving anyway. Moreover if you are scared that you will lose a friend over this then you are going to lose him. Yeah, fear is a bad guide. It often causes EXACTLY what you fear. Simply say :i've come to want more then just friendship but if you don't react on it, this infatuation will die, so act while you can.

[chriss179]

And why would it be degrading if a man takes his time to see if he wants to agree on the deal to start a passionate relationship with "you". Can't a man think over if living with you is going to make him happy for the rest of his life, before he promises you loyalty and tells you he totaly loves you back? Even if a man "loves" (romantically desires) you, he can still abstain. we can't choose who we fall in love with, but we can chose to listen to it, when the person being desired is right.

[chriss179]

I as a man can say?? A guy telling you he isn't interested at all in your sexuality is all that a clown needs in life. So be one of the people that smiles himself rather then one that only makes others happy. It is not a 50-50 chance. There is a 100% chance to be lucky because you confirm that you are interested in passion with him and if he doesn't react with feelings right away, this is very hard to walk along for any single man looking for passion when it's there already.

[Sammieeex3ifly]

my friend decided that they should tell my crush that i like him :/...and now he knows...how can you tell if a guy likes you if he doesn't have your number -vice versa, & he's shy. My friends asked if I he liked me in front of his friends and my friends told me a no, but one of his friends told me he said yes.I occasionally catch him taking a glimpse at me,and since i am also a shy person,i usually ignore him when i am around him, and he always seems to start the conversation when i am around.

[desiremyvids]

@Sammieeex3ifly your in the right track

[Sammieeex3ifly]

@desiremyvids haha, sure . He ended up asking another girl out, but then she rejected him. I dont like him anymore (x

[desiremyvids]

@Sammieeex3ifly awe well then it went half to plan

[MichelleSerenaXo]

what if he remembers statuses that you post on facebook and you posted them a while ago, and he mentions them in your conversation?

[babyitsfinktime]

Awesome advice only wish I watched this last year before I fucked up the most important friendship of my life and my longest (11 years). Anyone "crushing" or "inlove" with their male or female friends don't tell them just let it happen take her advice cause it's right on target.

[1amLinK]

But I only have a few days till school, or I'll never see him again... Wouldn't it be better to tell him?

[mariedubuque]

xoTaylor--Tell him, as long as you are ok if he doesn't give you the answer you want to hear..meaning, if he doesn't feel the same way, your friendship may be strained for a little while until the awkwardness goes away. But on the other hand, if you don't say something, you may never know. Also think about this: If he does like you, wouldn't he have said something by now? Maybe not if he is shy.

[xoTAYLORSWIFTLUVRxo]

i agree with what you're saying about losing the friendship etc, but i've loved him for almost a year now and he has shown all the signs you talked about. i just can't stand him not knowing any longer! i don't know what to do! most of my friends say tell him, but then there are some that leave the decision up to me. can you help me out? i have no idea what to do...

[troydeancarpenter]

She gives some pretty good advice but I have another angle on it. Being a guy, I might have a slightly different insight on this. There's always a chance that this guy could be shy but in general if a guy hasn't said anything in 3 years he's probably not interested. You can't really tell by actions because some guys play hard to get. I think this woman needs to have somebody else talk to him.

[momo112192]

well. i fucked up.

[xSasuNaruAmutox]

hmm thats to late for that then..XD but were still friends so its all good.

but i feel mad awkward now.

but he never rejected me either..he didnt really say anything about it much

[Jackosmack]

Usually if a guy is friends with a girl, it's because he wanted to be with her but ended up in the friend's zone for some reason. He's friends with you because it was safer to be friends than to get rejected. If you like this guy, tell him. Think of it logically, if you're friends, wouldn't being in a relationship be the ultimate form of expressing that friendship?Unless your friend already has a girlfriend, if he's single and friends with you, most likely he likes you as more than a friend.

[TheLychee13]

Right on target. Your right. I'll be patient. Things are going great here. :)

[allisonmusic1]

i dident wanna tell my crush that i liked him BUT MY FRIEND TOLD HIM!! now i am really depressed and iv been enbaresed to talk to him lately

[mariedubuque]

Chelsea--keep talking to him, but don't listen to your friends. Ultimately it is up to him. I think he likes you, but you can't push it (which it sounds like you're not.)

[Chelsea123687]

Heyya, I thought that you might be able to help me out with this one. I have this friend but i know like him more than a friend but i try not to show it. . My friends have asked me out for him but he said no. He goes out of his way in class to bump into me to mess around with me. I have told my friends that i like him and know another friend of mine likes him. People have been saying that he really likes me. People say that he likes me but i dont know what to believe. What can I do?

[mariedubuque]

He is probably better at communicating in writing. It is easier for a lot of people, because you can think about what you want to say. Try talking to him more one-on-one and see how he responds.

[mariedubuque]

Badside--I think five years is long enough. It would have developed into a relationship by now. Consider this a friendship, only. Maybe someone else has a different take on this situation?

[Badside2000]

Can anyone that comments help me please? I'm begging

[Badside2000]

But I've been waiting 5 years!!! and nothing has happened then what?!?!?

[USAProud1000]

listen 2 her, i told a guy 1 time, never do it again

[rigormortis241]

ok thx 

[mariedubuque]

rigormortis--I think he might like you, but doesn't want to admit it. That's why when he found out you like him, he was distant for a week. So keep it friends until he feels comfortable with you being his "girlfriend." If you just go with the flow, you two will be a couple and he won't really know it!

[rigormortis241]

what if u tell your frend that u really like someone in your class or just someone she knows to? Like ive done that before and she told zack. then Zack just ignored me for like the whole week.I felt really sad but now we talk more often and i tell him 2 sit with me at the end of class and he will. But either me or him scoot over to where we r hand in hand. IDK IF HYE LIKES ME BAK THO OR IF HES JUST BEING FRENDLY

[mariedubuque]

GiveMeLife--Start talking to him! He likes you! Otherwise he wouldn't have been so embarrassed when you caught him eyeing you.

[GiveMeLifeAgain]

can you tell me if he likes me or not.. ok so i was walkin to class and i see him standin nxt to the door in da hallway and i was late so i was the only one in da hall.. so i knew i was da only one he culd be lookin at wen i saw him in my peripheral vision.. but wen i looked up at him for a quick second he quickly turned his head

[Hyperalle]

I agree with u, love takes time...falling in love is just so unique when that person is not yours yet

[mariedubuque]

Poojaram--You can tell better when you talk to him more. You say he is the first one chatting with you. Well then, use that as an opportunity to get to know him better. Then you will find out for sure.

[poojaramnoruth]

i really need help to know if he really likes me or not. He is almost always the first one chatting with me but i really cant understand him.... please help me knowing what to do to know he likes me

[mariedubuque]

edcheerleader--I think it's fine to text him first. He might actually be flattered! I think it also depends on what you say in the text. If you are really casual and keep it brief, then I think that's fine.

[edcheerleader]

Could you do a video about if girls should text a guy first or have the guy text you first because I would really like to know! And there's some guys I like that i want to text but i don't want to text them first what should I do!? :/

[kevinc1001]

women are shallow bitches

[TheScooterWolf]

I have a guy friend but hes just my friend and he sorta knows the guy that i like.....sigh.....im love struck

[JustmeKasie]

common sense! lols

[retroguitargirl]

This bulshit if they like you then tell en duh

[animefangurl01]

My best friend since my freshman year in high school , now my boyfriend just asked me out, like a 2 weeks ago but somehow i feel like i was just asked out so he can get over is ex that he just had 2 months ago. i mean sure, they only been together for like two weeks but i like him too much just to be his rebound girl...

[xoDBSKox]

For a while my friends kept insisting I should tell him and I almost did but never did cuz I was scared and looking for the rite time but then I'm like no I rather have him tell me first .. I like being old school more romantic lol

[mariedubuque]

@NonchalantLorelei--I wouldn't tell him, because that could make for a really awkward situation, especially if he is unsure about how he feels about you.  And whatever you do, don't make it a competition between you and your friend. In fact, if you back off a little, and be a little distant with him, he will wonder what's happened to you and be that much more intrigued. He'll probably go for you over the friend.

[NonchalantLorelei]

So I've liked my friend for five years now. We've been in the same we've constantly been in the same class and he moved away 2 years ago. I've never told him I like him but I think I made it fairly obvious that I do with eye contact and more body language.. Now my not-so-close friend likes him and he said if they weren't so far apart he would date her but I recently found out that he DID like me at one point and didn't want to ruin our friendship. WHAT DO I DO? I WANNA TELL HIM.

[mariedubuque]

@bowzerbaby09--I think he does like you. The fact that his best friend tells you he does, is a clear indication. There's no reason for him to lie. Also, he wouldn't look at you for no reason either. I'm pretty certain on this one!

[bowzerbaby09]

Ok- I'm in Middle School and I really like this guy. Whenever I see him I usually notice he's looking at me or seems to be talking to his friends about me. His best buds always tell me he's likes me. We talk on the phone alot but idk if he does actually like me sometimes. Any idea about if he likes me or not?

[mariedubuque]

jessbritt121--Yes, those are good signs!

[jessbritt121]

So there is this guy, he is my best guy friend but we dont go to the same shool. he always makes eye contact at me and holds it for 7 seconds but someimes shorter.

he always wants to hang around me and he says he likes me more hen a friend but as a sister.

does it always start out that way?

[Ladyofdeath777]

This is amazing advice!!!

[07cutegal]

Thanks!!! U helped me!! :)

[Sammyangel11]

my BEST GUY friend text each other alllllllllllll the tie we talk on the phoe but to him im like a sister

[mariedubuque]

Sassygurlz469--It could be that he really does like you but doesn't want to admit it. Or, he might be telling the truth. It's really hard to tell because you can't get inside his head. I would just carry on like normal. Consider him a really good guy friend. And then see what happens down the road.

[Sassygurlz469]

I have a guy friend and he claims that he likes someone else. But other people in my class says that he likes me. How do I know if he is telling the truth? How do I know if he really is telling the truth, because the girl he says he likes is a really good friend and I don't want him to cheat on her.

[enigma887]

yea...a good guy friend just confessed he likes me..its totally screwed right now.

[FASTMOVINGBROOK]

string him up and tell him hey i like you. is there anything i can do to myself that will make me look hot to you?  exersize cut my hair maybe change my personality? because i want to be somthing hot.

[yukihai]

True - if he does like you and you get all the clues. One night/day - stuff will happen. Trust me.  Don't go confessing anything - it always makes girls look pathetic LOL

[suka381]

I have known my guy friend for almost 4 years and I want to tell him so badly:/ My sister says that he says he likes me but i dont know if its true because he tells me who he likes and he always talks about girls and we have gone out in the past but it didnt last long but that was before we became close friends...

[missysweetpea234]

I left the friendship for almost nine years and he said no!

[JuLeSs25xoxo]

the guy i like does all of those things exept the text hee like never answers me and if i go over his house i always say i txted u and he saysi didnt have my phone with me. is he lieing?

[rose10100]

I'm confused.. Okay, so i was on FaceBook, and this guy i've kinda liked just randomly said "hey" to me when hes never even talked to me on there before. So we started talking, and before i knew it we have been talking for like two hours! And then a cupple days later i said "hey" to him and he wouldn't talk to me all that much. I would say like "hows it going?" and then 10 minutes later he would say something -.-.... Before he would say it right away...He didn't even say bye when i left... -.-

[mariedubuque]

I would just send him a text that doesn't require him to respond. For instance, "Just wanted to say hi." Or "Just wanted to see how you're doing." And since it's not an open-ended question he doesn't feel obligated to respond. But you're showing him you want to communicate, and now the ball is in his court. See if he texts back..

[yukihai]

@mariedubuque true!!

[chanelle144]

but what if he is just a regular guy and u dont hang with him or anything and u like him then what??

[iluvtheocean10109]

eye contact:yep

talking:yah!

walking by:yah

texting YAH!

ur not much help! FREAK! just ask him if he doesnt maybe he will come around

do it do it i tell u!

[spookyboo22]

sage advice x

[mariedubuque]

Thank you! I feel the same applies for a guy who likes a girl...no difference.

[MOVIE5T4R]

@mariedubuque Yeah like me. :-)

[krocko089]

Thats a wonderful video as usual thank You Mrs Dubuque Meerrrcciiii~~

[WarElephant2121]

what about the other way around for a guy liking a girl?