Coming Out

[clicheanonperson]

I came out to my mom about a month ago, and she had no clue! I was very surprised that she didn't even have an inkling of it. She had the best response ever too.

[n2bbuilding]

@clicheanonperson what was her response?

[clicheanonperson]

@n2bbuilding She said: "Honey that's so sweet. I'm proud of you for telling me. I'm proud to have a gay son." And she was so beyond supportive, we're like best friends, and now we're even closer. I asked her if she suspected, and she said no, but I was giving subtle signs, like not having a girlfriend or asking about how to get girls, and I like a lot of things most straight guys aren't generally into, but she just thought I had good taste! I love my mom. I'm glad yours was okay with it too! :)

[n2bbuilding]

@clicheanonperson hahaha (she thought it meant you had good taste). That is a terrific response from your mom!!

[clicheanonperson]

@n2bbuilding Thanks, I couldn't have asked for a better response :)

[joshlhulbert]

omg i fucking love your story <3

[n2bbuilding]

@joshlhulbert thanx!

[blainebill39]

@n2bbuilding

Ciao Bello!

Greg "Amico Mio! Werner Erhard, EST and later "Life Spring" I believe? I remember of them well, but was a boy myself in their "Hey Day"! I know "Uomo Bello" that your great upload here, detailing your "Coming Out" is getting on as it were! But Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, thinks it never too late to tell someone just how proud he , that is I am of you!!

Con L'Amore e Molti Baci! (With Love And Many Kisses)

Blaine

[n2bbuilding]

@blainebill39 thanx!

[ang0585]

He looks like an older version of David Archuleta. Cute

[asdfopera]

...you had to come out?

[n2bbuilding]

@asdfopera Yes. 

[tictack0]

your so cute :D come to sweden :) im 19

[n2bbuilding]

@tictack0

Thanx!

[mmagio]

u can find me at magio cristefero paulo madjerec

[mmagio]

If ever you are on FaceBook look me up! magio

[n2bbuilding]

@mmagio

how do I look you up on facebook?

[blainebill39]

@n2building

Wow, Werner Erhard and est, that makes me feel old at 46!

I can't help but being so proud of you my friend! The world you will be

"out" in is a far less hostile place than that which I came out in as a boy!

When I was not yet 18, I met and fell in love with a boy named Bobby

Griffith(Prayers for Bobby). His family at the time was dogmatically

religious, and the pain of the closet was unbearable for him. He took

his own life in 1983!

[n2bbuilding]

@blainebill39

Thanx!

I think I have heard of the 'prayers for Bobby'. Sorry for your loss. Religious dogma is a tough to overcome. I still have family and friends who think I am on the highway to hell. Which I believe is the one that goes to Orange County.

:-)

[blainebill39]

@n2bbuilding For all

of its "right wingery", it posesses a fairly sizeable, well organized queer(LGBT)

community! And your "married?" comment was charming! My partner and I

just made it before many illinformed Californians were cowed into voting

for Prop 8!

I would like to thank you for the kind words and do look forward to hearing from

you again!

Grazzie Mille y Molto Gentile!

Blaine

[blainebill39]

@n2bbuilding

Ciao Bello!

You had me in stitches with that Orange County crack! Though I've lived for

many years in Northern California, I grew up behind the "Orange Curtain",

land of "wingnuttery" and a plethora of megachurches! In fact my mother

and her husband live in Newport Beach, so I do return on occasion.

[blainebill39]

@n2building

Thankfully that was a long time ago and much has

changed. We're not quite there yet, but full inclusion is within sight!

It thrills me to know that you will be able to lead an authentic life as

a gay man, and will even likely be able to marry the person whom you

love, if you so choose!

Yeah!!!!

May G-D Bless You!

Blaine

[n2bbuilding]

@blainebill39

married? *sigh*

[mmagio]

U r so cute! I love ur story, My mom knew I was bi from 2yrs old. Mothers are good like that! Too bad ur in CA. Would have loved to meet u.

[n2bbuilding]

@mmagio

Thanx! I hear that way to often.

[mmagio]

OMG u r so cute! I would have kicked ur exes' ass! Typical hot guys live in CA while I freeze in MN. LOL

[ugboy1]

do you know how good looking you are? Whoever is with you right now is lucky!

[n2bbuilding]

@ugboy1

He is? I'll be sure to tell him that you said so when I go visit him in the asylum.

:-)

[littlebuggermate]

Great story!

Where's your accent from?

[n2bbuilding]

@littlebuggermate

California

Thanx!

[ryujihideki]

i have to come out one day

[n2bbuilding]

@ryujihideki

my reply, seven months later.

You should!

[MrStrav81]

@ryujihideki

You don't have to necessarily announce it to the world. I've only told the people that really matter to me (family and good friends).

[n2bbuilding]

@MrStrav81 I used to feel like that. My co-workers, employers were the last remaining 'frontier'. I was scared for them to know because of the potential for discrimination. It wasn't until I came out at work that I felt truly free to be all that I am and can be. There was nothing left to hide. I am not only out at work but at the grocery store, in the theater, at the restaraunt, everywhere. Because being gay isn't about the sex it is about accepting myself completely and being open

[MrStrav81]

@n2bbuilding

I work for a company that is very family oriented. People are constantly on maternity leave, or their wives.. They even did a survey for employee satisfaction in my department that asked at the end if you are gay/lesbian. I didn't respond to it, but later they published the results! All zeroes or no response. Clearly, if I had said yes it would've sparked a witchhunt!

[n2bbuilding]

@MrStrav81 it might have and it might not have. Why do you believe that people would respond negatively to who you are? Look, I am a firm believer in not telling anyone else what their own personal experience should be. So I will tell you mine. When I finally came out at work, it didn't matter what anybody else thought because that is what it means to be free for me. I no longer cared. All of my cards were on the table and there was nothing left to hide.

[n2bbuilding]

@n2bbuilding the truth was purely simple. I came out because some lesbian had been out in the department for years having come out of a marriage with a kid. I saw how everyone treated her. I figured since she wasn't reviled and pushed out then maybe it might be safe for me too. I came out. Then one of our attendings came out. Then we got a new director who was so out. Husband and all! What I found is that the drama was mostly in my head. People had their own lives and they didn't care

[ALVINPGTM84]

Haha, that is a sweet coming out story yout got there. =)

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@ALVINPGTM84

Thanx!

[smettiuss]

You're ht man haha

[n2bbuilding]

@smettiuss

Thanx!

[crossworlds1]

that was funny, my mom said she knew when i was 12, im like 19 now, nice story

[antoinemontreal]

Hello ! Thanks a lot for your interessant coming out story. ))

[n2bbuilding]

thank you

[a7812102003]

you're really cute and sweet <3

[n2bbuilding]

thanx!

[jss333br]

"well, then kick his ass!"

LOL

[lailaagrado]

congrats,i allready pass that ages ago :) you are cute :)

[n2bbuilding]

thanx. I thought you were 23, though?

[lailaagrado]

yeap,and my comming out was when i was 15-16 :)

[mruss4u]

I loved the story guy :) thanks!

[simandl1987]

Great story!

[viml7]

Thanks for sharing this ;)

[dtrez09]

thats a good story. my mum knows too. mums always seem to know

[unclenelvis]

it sounds like your mother handled it a lot more kindly than you did.

[heysalovesyah]

your cute :D

[eastwick1026]

wow!....thats a heck of a story.

[n2bbuilding]

thanx!

[eastwick1026]

ur welcome...it takes guts to do what you did.

[bazdog898]

What an awesome story!

[n2bbuilding]

hehehe

[shiningstars109]

"my gayness"...lol

[sosinyourgut]

haha thats a cute reaction :]

thanks for the post !!

xx

[n2bbuilding]

thanx!

[121willy121]

hey, love the video. your such an inspiration... well to me anyways. i havent come out, but i recon my mum knows, im just too shirt scared to do it. hope i get a reaction like that :)

[n2bbuilding]

thanx!

[revilolee]

Love the vid. I still haven't come out :(...

[n2bbuilding]

thanx! you will when you are ready.

[DouglasUrantia]

"Well, kick his ass..."......I love it.

Would she adopt me? I need a mom like that.

[n2bbuilding]

Thanx!

[wisenatts]

Aha, an older gay man on youtube - great! I was begining to feel prehistoric at 41. Thanks for sharing your story which, I may add, is very moving.

[n2bbuilding]

pphht! I'm not older.

Thanx!

[waterfunker]

I want to be you!!

You have a great mom.

[n2bbuilding]

thanx

[GyrinidaeRex]

Lol your mom's advice was amazing!

[n2bbuilding]

it was original

[adamthelover10]

lol thanks for sharing your story! lovely.

[n2bbuilding]

your welcome. thanx

[chpoof]

That was cute...and so are you! :-)

[n2bbuilding]

thanx