I almost cried. It was so devastating to see your loss. I could tell you were in immediate shock. I would be too. I believe I had a miscarriage and it just tore my heart out. I cried for a long time. I now have a daughter (born 12/1/11) and I couldn't ask for more. Please know everything happens for a reason. Nobody said life would be easy, they just said it would be worth it.
Although it happened a few years ago, I'm very sorry for the loss you endured... The emotional pain really never goes away, does it? I'm going in for a D&C tomorrow... this has been the 3rd miscarriage we've had. My heart goes out to you and all who've experienced a loss like we all have. It's reasurring to know that we aren't alone though. =)
i am so sorry for your loss. i miscarried twin boys on my 22nd birthday. then i miscarried again. now i am 29w3d pregnant with a little baby girl. if you need someone to talk to i am hear for you and i'll cry with you.
I know this all too well. I went in to have my daughter checked at 32w2d and there was no heartbeat. It was horrible. She was my 2nd loss. Before losing her we lost our 4 month old daughter. Thankfully we have went on to have a healthy baby since and are currently pregnant (7 weeks) again and praying for the best.
@carlynicoleelliotte I will pray for you! I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. It's good to know that at least they had parents as strong as you. Life isn't easy but it is worth it. Please remember that. God bless! <3
thanks or posting this video. my husband and i had a similar experience back in September. i was pregnant with just one baby and our first ultra sound at 11weeks and 2days revealed no heart beat and that our baby had not survived past 6 weeks before i finally miscarried. i cannot imagine how hard it was for you to post this video but it helped me not to feel as alone as i first had when i had my miscarriage.
Thank you for sharing. When I had my miscarriages, it seemed like I was the only person who it had ever happened to. It's so good for people to know that they are not alone. So sorry for your loss.
Crying. My heart dropped to my stomach when there was no sound on the heartbeats. .I've only been pregnant once and miscarried the day before I was 8 weeks. I never got the chance to see my baby. I was hurt, but I can only imagine the pain when this happens beyond 8 weeks. I've never been able to get pregnant again because of the fear of having a miscarriage. I pray everything is okay for you guys.
this broke my heart, im soooo sorry you had to go through this...I went through the same exact thing, at 14 weeks I expected to see my little girl's heartbeat, only to be told they couldn't find one....i will never ever forget that day, or the feelings I had being told that. thanfully, God blessed me with a beautiful baby boy who I gave birth to 3 weeks ago...my miracle baby.
went today to check my 10 weeks baby and there was no heartbeat ..stop growing around the 8.2 week...it was my first pregnancy.. how can you love someone that you did not even met so much? why it hurts so bad?
Tonight is the first time I've actually watched this video. Those are my twins, my uterus, my heart breaking. It's been almost four years. I was astonished to see 230 comments here. 230 comments of commiseration and well-wishing. For those of you that have felt this pain, I am so, so sorry. I weep with you. For those of you who expressed your care and concern, thank you, thank you. I still have an aching hole in my heart, but time does dull the pain.
My daughter died last month. I was 24 weeks pregnant. We had had 3 perfect ultrasounds and I just came in for a normal apt. When they searched for the heartbeat there was no sound so they took us for an ultrasound. I couldn't see any heart beating just like you but it wasn't until they said "I don't think she's alive anymore" that I just started balling. I then had to go into labor for 11 hrs`to deliver my stillborn little Adelaide. Remember this, all your children ever knew was love.
God bless you dear couple.. I recently went through my first miscarriage, it was a checkup and no heartbeat..... i am so sorry for you and may God bless you for your courage and strength
I thank you for posting this horribly sad moment. We didn't record the day we found out our baby girl of 17 weeks had passed but I wish we had. I went to the hospital because I was feeling so sick and my water had broke oddly, they told us she had passed away 2 days before b/c of her measurements... no heartbeat and nothing but grief for us. We have cried and grieved. I wish I had these last moments of our Crimsyn Molli to hold to! We miss her so much. She would've been our 1st!
That happened to me. As soon as i saw it on the screen and saw the size wasnt as expected i knew. Ill never forget that day. I had a d&c last week and the pain is unbearable both emotionally and physically. Im so sorry for your loss
This happened to me at my 26 week appt with my first baby boy six years ago. Since then I have had two beautitul boys now 5 & 2. It still think about him every day. It was the worst experience of my life.
wow your babies are absolutly beautiful. Im so sorry your family had to endure this pain. Just wanted to say all of us who have lost understand that type of pain. much <3 to you and your babies
You are incredibly brave for posting this. God has a plan for everyone and everything. i am 17 weeks as of december 25th, and could not fathom going through what you and your boyfriend/ husband have gone through with this. i may not know you, but what i do know is that if you can survive this you can survive anything! hang on there love god has great plans for you.
I am so sorry for you loss. I had 2 miscarrages at 8 weeks and found out that I had a hormonal inbalance. The Dr. sent me to an endocrinologist and gave me some medicine and I was able to get pregnant again. Now I am 25 weeks pregnant and I thank God for my miracle. I pray that God will give you the desires of your heart and don't give up.
@ResistFutility This was our third consecutive miscarriage of 13+ weeks. I am sadly familiar with the terror you describe. Try to be brave and remember that nature is not something we can control much. Eat right, keep a healthy routine and hope for the best.
Take comfort in knowing that in spite of the risk and fear you feel, you faced it anyway, and should it all work out your child will be raised by a courageous mother who knows how immensely precious life is.
@ResistFutility I've had 3 miscarriages, I am now pregnant with my 4th child, I was so scared of losing this one as well. I pray everyday that this one will hold on, I started having medical problems in my 11th week, I am now in my 15th week and going great. Just hang in there.
I have had 3 miscarriages. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for having the strength to post this. I am currently 8 wks pregnant again and am suffering from a perigestational bleed. While baby is fine, I am currently bleeding/spotting and am very cautiously expecting. I hope that God blesses you with whatever your heart desires.
Thank you so much for having the courage to post this. I'm so incredibly sorry for your losses... I lost my baby at only 5 weeks last year. I can't imagine the pain of losing two at once so far along. I'm still grieving very much, and so many people tell me to "get over it" and even that my baby "wasn't even a baby yet". He was real to me and will always be my child. Sending you hugs and prayers!
so sorry for your loss i just had one at 11 weeks i had a missed miscarriage my baby has no heartbeat:( im trying to decide on to get the dnc or natural miscarriage :(
I am so sorry for your loss, I wish you all the best in the future and may the lovely little boy you have now continue to grow and flourish.
I am pregnant at 7 weeks and 4 days, my husband and I are travelling so we have not had a ultrasound yet. We will be home in B.C. in a few weeks and even though I am still feeling very pregnant I am hoping that all is going well with my baby. Again I am so sorry for your loss and I wish you all the best!
Sorry for your loss. This is what it was like for me & my husband, when our little one did not have a heart beart @ 13 weeks. Thank you for posting this.
I will say a prayer for you guys tonight. Pray, Believe and trust God for the Victory. My wife is 4 weeks now and everyday I have a roller coaster of emotions! It definitley is the best feeling in the world and the worst.
this is heartbreaking. My wife has had two miscarriages and now she's pregnant with twins at 8 weeks. Watching this video makes me realize I can't take anything for granted, and we can't get our hopes up.. Every day waiting for the next ultrasound is like torture hoping everything is ok. 13 weeks, that is especially brutal at that stage, when after 12 weeks everything is supposed to be ok and you have probably started telling friends/family. So sorry this happened to you guys.
@angelmom3950 - Thanks for your well-wishes. Prior to the miscarriages we had a perfect little boy who is growing fast. We were never able to have more, though.
I just want to tell you "thank you" for putting up this video and leaving it up. I know how incredibly hard it is for you but I wanted to just say thank you. I was pregnant with twins and we found no heartbeats at 14 weeks. My husband and I, like you and yours, were in shock. I have to hold on to knowing that I will oneday hold them again in Heaven and that their is such a special place for all of our Angel Babies there. Thank you so much again, this has helped me heal!
You are so brave to deal with the loss of your twin babies! I know your pain and it is something that never goes away! Thanks for sharing. So sorry for your loss!!
i am so sorry about your loss. i just miscarried twins at about 6 weeks. its the hardest thing to do, losing children. be happy you had the support of each other. the father of mine put us on a break the day before i miscarried, and wen all the information was found out all i got from him was an o, it wasnt your fault. and he quit talking to me
@PeterPaige427 - That's more grief than anyone should have to endure. I'm so sorry. Having his child would have legally tied you together for decades. At least you're not stuck with that heartless ass.
omg this has me in tears. i am 25 weeks pregnant rite now and i can only imagine how hurt this would make a mother. sorry for your loss! ur two little angels are watching over u
Thank you for keeping this video up. We have lost 3 babies to miscarriage. I remember being 17 weeks along, going to find out the sex of our little baby and I remember the look of the doctor, the sound of her voice, I knew....I knew the silence what it meant...there was no heartbeat....I delivered our son later that night. I have just had another miscarriage 2 days ago, it never gets easier. I know what pain you have and will always go thru. My prayers are with you and your family.
@awesomeshelly102 Don't give up. Very good friend of mine lost 7....she had all but given up. Then she got pregnant again and had a beautiful daughter....in fact...she was so used to not being able to easily get pregnant that she was a bit careless and when her daughter was 2 months old they found out she was pregnant again....she had another beautiful daughter less than a year after her first!! Her oldest daughter was born on Sept 27...the younger on Sept 20th.
Thank you for posting this. Many of us know that moment in that dark room when you hear the doctor say 'Im so sorry.' We lost our little one at 7.5 weeks in Sept of 2010. It really is a pain no one can ever know unless they have lost their own child. Love and Light with you and your wife. Im now 18 weeks along with our rainbow baby and already running into compilcations. Its all in Gods hands now.
So terribly sorry. I have recently been trying to think of a way in which to help people going through such a terrible experience. I am starting a sewing group project to provide bereavement gowns for these tiny babies. For the smallest or more fragile remains I am going to make little cloth pouches. This will allow the parents to be able to hold and honor their lost children if they so desire. Would this service have been helpful to you and your wife at the time?
@rubyjean65 - That is an unusually tender-hearted and giving idea. Yes, I would be helpful - one of the nurses knitted a tiny little hat for our first miscarriage, and I was deeply touched. More compassion like that can only make the world a better place. Best of luck to you.
Thanks for your support. I am sorry for your loss too! Bless you and I know that God a better plan for us. Thank you for sharing your pain with us..(me). God bless you.
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious babies. I am happy that you have these precious memories of them. I to had a miscarriage, though I did not see my baby because I miscaried so early on. One day I am confident you will see their beautiful faces in Heaven. Bless you both! Very sweet of you to share with us your joy and your loss for the sake of reaching out to others.
I applaud you for sharing your heartbreak. I'm sure there was shock and heartbreak and even anger when you tried to comprehend what was happening to you. I have 3 live children but 9 of my babies are with the angels. The last 2 were twins and I remember this same exact moment of finding out that there is no heartbeat. Beyond gut wrenching. Everyone always told me that I'm lucky to have the 3 living children... and believe me, I am:-) It's still devastating to lose even 1 though. God Bless.
Just the sound of the clicking & the monitor brings me back to when I found out about our baby at 13 weeks with no heartbeat. Thank you for posting this, I know it could not have been easy. My heart goes out to everyone who has experienced a loss like this. So so sorry :(
This is terrible. I would have hated to be that tech. I've had to be in the room while mothers are told the baby has no heartbeat, even show them myself. This is why there shouldn't be the second monitor until the tech at least knows everything is ok. I'm sorry this happened to you...
My Dr. told me not to listen to other people's "advice", don't google, and don't read things on the internet, you'll start worrying about things you didn't even know you had to worry about. Now I understand. I thought you were "safe" after the 1st trimester but reading all the comments, many were not. I'm so sorry for your loss and everyone else's losses and thank you for posting the video. It reminds us all how fragile and precious life is.
@PaulaPeachy1 - Each pregnant day is a day with better chances for success. Keep to hope. Your story isn't written yet. It might have the best ending ever.
I am so glad that you left this video up. I have had four miscarriages. People never understand unless they have been through it themselves. Everyone thinks that you can "get over it" or "pull yourself together", but that is not always possible right away. You need time to grieve, to process that your CHILDREN have DIED. Some people don't believe that babies who are not full term "really matter". Maybe this video will help them see that ALL life is LIFE, and that ALL life matters. Thank you.
Im so sorry that you had to go through this. I lost my baby boy 3 months ago at 19weeks gestation. We also found out by ultrasound. the words "there is no heart beat" have to be some of the hardest you will ever hear. I want to thank you for posting this vid. people are to silent when it comes to pregnancy loss. talking about it really does help.
@erindoe88 also, people have the tendacey to minimize the hurt because "it happens all the time". Its been over a month and it hurts more now than it did when we found out. I am supposed to be feeling our baby move and find out the sex, as I lay here in bed at 2am, crying with a flat tummy. Its real pain that unless you go through it yourself, you'll never understand. Its comforting to know we're not alone in our grieving. God bless you and heal you.
I am pregnant with twins..im 18 weeks today...buit there is a chance my boys are in the same sac which means either only one, or none can survive=( Im so scared..im only 17 and this could be my only pregnancy...Im so sorry for your little ones a mother should never have to see or hear that...
@CrazyTinkerbellFan - You must be terrified. I was very sad to read about your situation. Before you despair, first find out about the diagnosis. If your worst fears are confirmed, try to have courage. It will be a hard road. It might seem like the end of the world right now, but keep heart - time will pass and you will grow from this no matter what the outcome. This will make you stronger, braver and wiser than you ever thought possible. This hardship won't last forever. I promise!
@CrazyTinkerbellFan You know what? you have the heavenly father that is enough, my GOD will bless you, don´t give up be on your kneess, keep on praying and i will do it since here at church and everywhere.
I am so sorry for your loss. I experienced the same thing a few months ago at my 16 week ultrasound there was no heart beat and watching your video broughtback all the memories, because it happened EXACTLY like that. But it is a good thing to remember like you said the hardest part is most people just pretend it didn't happen I don't want to forget what happened.
My husband and I just went through this yesterday. I know the feeling of instantly not seeing a heartbeat and being devastated. There was no warning at all. No bleeding, cramping, and had just seen the hb a month ago. So many dreams, so many wishes, washed away in a single moment. I go in Tuesday to have the D&C, and it's absolutely heart wrenching. I know how hard it is to be strong and say we can try again, but it's THIS one we wanted.. why not THIS one?
@kandi61685 - How devastating to have this so fresh on your mind. The D&C is no picnic either. Don't worry about trying again, don't worry about "getting over it." Let yourself feel what you feel. It hurts and I don't know of another way to heal. It gets better with time. I wish you better days in the future.
@bjjolley Just got home from the D&C, and your right, it was no picnic. I appreciate the kind words, and I know that there is rhyme or reason for this, but I just know what it is yet. We decided to have a seperate cremation for the baby and I'm having the ashes put into a necklace with little baby feet on it. It's discrete to anyone that doesn't know, but I know my baby is near me always. I still think about you guys, and the heartbreak we share. I hope for future health babies for us all.
@kandi61685 - "I know that there is rhyme or reason for this"
It might seem strange, but I took comfort in the idea that there was no reason for it. Bad things happen sometimes, and that's how life is. I felt free from the burden of trying to explain it.
I like the idea of the necklace. I hope it helps you find comfort from a difficult experience.
I can only say how amazed I am at your strength to show this video. I am so so sorry for your loss.
My previous pregnancy ended also and I found out at scan that baby had no heartbeat. It wasn't as awful as it was a surrogate pregnancy. This pregnancy is my own and I have seen the heartbeat at earlier scan and still terrified that the next scan will show a still heart. But if it happens it happens. Sadly there is nothing we can do.
@lumdeedums - Yeah. You're kinda faced with the choice to let it ruin you, or to carry on in spite of the sadness. I choose to carry on. Best wished for you and your family.
I am an ultrasound technologist and a mother and it is never an easy task to tell parents when their children have passed. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your spouse. I am so sorry for your loss. It is never an easy thing and I wont pretend that I know how you feel, I can only sympathize and cry for you.
My heart just broke watching that. I'm so sorry for your family's devistating loss. Miscarraige is no different than losing a child you've held in your arms.
Im so very sorry for your loss, how brave of you both to share this with us all. I lost my baby i was carrying in August this year, i know the intense pain and heartache this brings. I wish you and your partner well.
i'm so very sorry for your loss. thank you for being brave enough to share this, I'm sure there are a lot of families that appreciate knowing they are not alone.
i am so sorry you lost both twin babies. i found out two weeks ago one of my twin daughters died. its so hard to be happy yet sad. I only have one twin and the other is dead. i am broken in two pieces! i cried so hard my body ached and shaked all over. i thought if i cant get control over this i would lose the other one too. its only been two weeks i only cry now when someone i know hasnt heard yet and i have to tell them about it. i am angry and hurt. shelby wont have her sister to grow up with
@monicababy45 - I'm very saddened by your news. I don't blame you at all for crying. I hope you don't blame yourself no matter what happens as things like this are beyond your control. I know it hurts. Hang in there.
i was 10 weeks, going in for my first ultrasound when they discovered no heart beat. It broke my heart, but I realized it's life, it's what we have to go through. The fetus stopped growing at 8 weeks. I never miscarried so I had to have a D&C
Oh my..Im so sorry for your lost..No matter how far along they were, no parent can evr come to terms with losing a child, emagin 2 at the same time..They are safe now and dnt give up...
I am so sorry this happened to you and your husband. This absolutely broke my heart. I am currently 12 weeks, 4 days pregnant with twins, and this is my biggest fear to have happen. I cannot possibly imagine your pain. God bless you and your tiny little angels in Heaven.
@piscesrox71 - My wife gots so emotional when she was pregnant that even TV commercials made her cry. I can't imagine what a video like this would do to a woman expecting a child - what are you trying to do to yourself?! ;)
Steer clear of heartbreaking stuff like this at least til after your wonderful baby arrives - that's my advice to you. You could worry yourself sick about it, and that won't help anyone. Be happy, be optimistic. Great things are certainly to come.
@bjjolley : You are so right. I don't know why...I guess it's just that after 15 years of infertility, and 2 IVF cycles (the last using an egg donor) and finally having success with my current pregnancy of our twins, I am absolutely consumed with fear of a miscarriage. But I will heed your good advice, and focus on the positive from now on. Thanks for the wisdom. And God bless you.
im really sorry about what happened i know what its like to have a miscarriage but i cant imagine the pain loosing two. im still trying to deal with the loss of my baby and it was last year when i found out i had a miscarriage. i hope you didnt or dont give up on having more children.
@bulldogchic - Thanks. Sorry to hear you've been down that road. The loss of the twins was actually our third consecutive miscarriage in two years. We're taking an indefinite break. Happily, before the losses, we had a little boy who is the light of our universe. We know there are many wonderful, loving couples who don't even have one to love. I count myself very fortunate.
@bjjolley ur lil boy you had before the miscarriages must be a miracle baby. i can see why you are taking a break its so hard to have miscarriages. id be taking a break too probably. im really sorry still and my heart goes out to you two.
I just had a miscarriage sunday at the hospital...but the baby died a week or so before..I was supposed to be 11 weeks but there wasn't a heartbeat.. ): My baby..
I know it has been a few years I hope that you tried again,We lost my granddaughter at full term-Due to big medical problems,God tried to let her com as a misscarriage but it was always stoped. And now we are days away from having a boy
I am so very sorry! My heart breaks for you and your sweetie. What a hard time, right when you were letting yourself get excited because of the nearing of the 2nd trimester. Again, I am so very sorry. I pray you will feel these little angels watching over you when you most need it. -Laura
That is soooo sad but I am not sure I could share this sad moment with EVERYONE.. I am ver sorry to hear of your loss and wich you luck in having more babies in your future..
@drillsgtclark - Yeah, I have come close to pulling it down several times. I keep reminding myself that part of the pain comes from the fact that though it's an incredibly common experience, most people just pretend it never happened. By leaving this up, maybe a heartbroken mother out there won't feel so alone.
@bjjolley you're exactly right hun, dont take it down just rememeber everyday you are helping someone! you are amazing for sharing this i am so truly sorry for your loss i also miscarriage at 13 weeks but my baby stopped growing at 9
I am SO sorry for this loss. I hope you have since had a successful pregnancy! I went through this last Christmas and am now 6w 3d and waiting for our ultrasound next week. I am praying for a heartbeat this time. I wish you the best.
@Missgemini2010 - She was admitted to the hospital where they gave her a drug that causes the uterus to contract, and the babies get forced out. It's a dreadful and heart-breaking experience and anyone who'd been through it deserves compassion.
@bjjolley im really sorry im 15 weeks pregnant and i would be heartbroken :( i really feel for you and your family take care of yourself and her and i really hope things so right for you <3 sending my love, i dont know what else to say just a really sad and sensitive subject but im thinking about you both x x
I am so sorry for your loss. We went through a missed miscarriage a few weeks ago. This was our first pregnancy and I have been longing for a child for years. At our 10 week ultrasound we were informed that the baby passed at around 8w 2d. A heartbeat was detected at 7w 2d but I guess this was just not meant to be. It is heartbreaking but i hope you won't feel discouraged.
I am so sorry for your loss, we were in your shoes 2 weeks ago. I was supposed to be 11w 2d but I had a miss miscarriage at 8w 1d. I know how hard it is. I pray that you got the answers you needed. We are still waiting for ours, after 5yrs of trying this was our thrid loss. No one should ever go through this.
@LYDISANC21 - So sorry to hear you've been down this road. Unfortunately, the answers never came for us. And well put - no one should ever have to go through this. Life is cruelly unfair.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. How far long were you when you had this ultrasound? I miscarried and found out at my 8 week ultrasound. Devastating!
I am so sorry. This is a heartbreaking moment. I miscarried at 11 weeks and found out like you did through ultrasound that the baby's heart was not beating and that it hadn't grown in several weeks. All I can say is that I have some idea of what you went through and I am very, very sorry.
I am so sorry for your loss. We too went through a missed miscarriage a few weeks ago. This was our first pregnancy and I have been longing for a child for years. At our 10 week ultrasound we were informed that the baby passed at around 8w 2d. A heartbeat was detected at 7w 2d but I guess this was just not meant to be. It is heartbreaking but i hope you won't feel discouraged.
im pregnant 10 weeks 6 days today, the father is a twin. i want twins so bad. i never wanted kids then i found out i was pregnant, now i couldn't be happier, i havent had an ultrasound yet, but i cant wait. wen i saw this video i literally burst ino tears my heart broke the moment i heard the silence. im so sorry for your loss. i could never imagine myself hearing that silence. i wish you both well and i keep you in my prayers.
@seximela91 - Oh, emotions are extra reactive when you're pregnant. Even TV commercials make many expecting mothers cry, so this must've been rather upsetting. I wish you success with your child/children and hope your pregnancy goes perfectly - life is a damn precious thing.
IM SO SORRY FOR YOU LOSS I RECENTLY LOST A SET OF TWINS TO BUT THE PASSED AT 5 WEEKS 3DAY AND I HAD CARRIED THEM UNTIL I WAS 12 WEEKS WENT TO WORK AND ALL BEFORE MY BODY STARTED THE MISSCARRIAGE WORSE PAIN IN MY WHOLE LIFE I JUST FOUND OU A WEEK AGO THAT I AM PREGNANT AGAIN SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS I KNOW EXACTLY HOW IT FEEL LOST TWINS JAN 30TH 2010 AT 4 AM.....
Me & my girlfriend were expecting a baby when she had a miscarriage at 5 weeks. She has not been the same since then, we have now broken up because she is now more into smoking weed daily & drinking Plus she turned extra angry & makes me the reason for her unhappiness
@tierren - That's a lot to handle. I highly recommend visiting a therapist. That's what we did after our first miscarriage, and I'm very glad we did. Your now ex should go (even if on her own), and I'm sure you'd benefit from talking to a professional, too. I wish you all the best going forward.
i so sorry for u both i am 16 weeks pregnant with my first and i couldnt imagine the feeling, life is so precious, thanks for putting this up i know it must of been hard to share, i wish u happiness u both deserve it xxxxx
I am so sorry. I have had 4 miscarriages- one- the first one was around the same time... It is truly devastating. I hope you have had success (since this was filmed) having more children. God bless you guys.
You know, I was very suprised after I did my research at how common this is. As horrible as it sounds, it happens more than anyone realizes. It just goes to show how fragile and intricate life really is. It takes a true miracle to creat life.
@CelestlDvnity You're exactly right - it is incredibly common. Horribly common. And people don't talk about it. That is the main reason I leave this video up. We shouldn't pretend this doesn't happen.
I lost my baby a year ago. And today I had to take my best friend to the hospital to go through the same thing. I have so many emotions just now it's unbelievable. I am devastated.
sorry bout ur loss' I just found out yesterday my 15-16 week old baby passed on n happened same way it was shown here. I couldn't be with my girl as i had work & this is the most difficult thing i've ever had to face.
I almost cried. It was so devastating to see your loss. I could tell you were in immediate shock. I would be too. I believe I had a miscarriage and it just tore my heart out. I cried for a long time. I now have a daughter (born 12/1/11) and I couldn't ask for more. Please know everything happens for a reason. Nobody said life would be easy, they just said it would be worth it.
SkittlesNTwix 1 week ago
wow, i'm sorry :( this is so sad! :(
rachelftwxo 1 week ago
Although it happened a few years ago, I'm very sorry for the loss you endured... The emotional pain really never goes away, does it? I'm going in for a D&C tomorrow... this has been the 3rd miscarriage we've had. My heart goes out to you and all who've experienced a loss like we all have. It's reasurring to know that we aren't alone though. =)
KareBear0310 1 week ago
i am so sorry for your loss. i miscarried twin boys on my 22nd birthday. then i miscarried again. now i am 29w3d pregnant with a little baby girl. if you need someone to talk to i am hear for you and i'll cry with you.
09BiggB 1 week ago
Im sorry. :( I know the feeling if heartbreak too. You are wonderfully strong to post this and leave this up.
zanaouk 1 week ago
I know this all too well. I went in to have my daughter checked at 32w2d and there was no heartbeat. It was horrible. She was my 2nd loss. Before losing her we lost our 4 month old daughter. Thankfully we have went on to have a healthy baby since and are currently pregnant (7 weeks) again and praying for the best.
carlynicoleelliotte 1 week ago
@carlynicoleelliotte I will pray for you! I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. It's good to know that at least they had parents as strong as you. Life isn't easy but it is worth it. Please remember that. God bless! <3
SkittlesNTwix 1 week ago
thanks or posting this video. my husband and i had a similar experience back in September. i was pregnant with just one baby and our first ultra sound at 11weeks and 2days revealed no heart beat and that our baby had not survived past 6 weeks before i finally miscarried. i cannot imagine how hard it was for you to post this video but it helped me not to feel as alone as i first had when i had my miscarriage.
TgtDuck89 2 weeks ago
Thank you for sharing. When I had my miscarriages, it seemed like I was the only person who it had ever happened to. It's so good for people to know that they are not alone. So sorry for your loss.
ikemiker 2 weeks ago
Crying. My heart dropped to my stomach when there was no sound on the heartbeats. .I've only been pregnant once and miscarried the day before I was 8 weeks. I never got the chance to see my baby. I was hurt, but I can only imagine the pain when this happens beyond 8 weeks. I've never been able to get pregnant again because of the fear of having a miscarriage. I pray everything is okay for you guys.
honeyflash1 3 weeks ago
this broke my heart, im soooo sorry you had to go through this...I went through the same exact thing, at 14 weeks I expected to see my little girl's heartbeat, only to be told they couldn't find one....i will never ever forget that day, or the feelings I had being told that. thanfully, God blessed me with a beautiful baby boy who I gave birth to 3 weeks ago...my miracle baby.
loserboi66 3 weeks ago
went today to check my 10 weeks baby and there was no heartbeat ..stop growing around the 8.2 week...it was my first pregnancy.. how can you love someone that you did not even met so much? why it hurts so bad?
kriattura 3 weeks ago
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TheCandidLadyVlog 4 weeks ago
Tonight is the first time I've actually watched this video. Those are my twins, my uterus, my heart breaking. It's been almost four years. I was astonished to see 230 comments here. 230 comments of commiseration and well-wishing. For those of you that have felt this pain, I am so, so sorry. I weep with you. For those of you who expressed your care and concern, thank you, thank you. I still have an aching hole in my heart, but time does dull the pain.
MomOfTheToot 1 month ago
My daughter died last month. I was 24 weeks pregnant. We had had 3 perfect ultrasounds and I just came in for a normal apt. When they searched for the heartbeat there was no sound so they took us for an ultrasound. I couldn't see any heart beating just like you but it wasn't until they said "I don't think she's alive anymore" that I just started balling. I then had to go into labor for 11 hrs`to deliver my stillborn little Adelaide. Remember this, all your children ever knew was love.
HeidiKMakeup 1 month ago
God bless you dear couple.. I recently went through my first miscarriage, it was a checkup and no heartbeat..... i am so sorry for you and may God bless you for your courage and strength
mcfarlingirl 1 month ago
I'm So sorry for your loss :(( This was heartbreaking.
Allisonirons 1 month ago
I'm so sorry for your loss... i had to mc's before this pregnancy ...
now i'm due in 4 weeks time :) i post you a video response where i talk a little about my mc's.
is not easy ... love and thank you for sharing this hard moment ..
xxx
Armanda
MyPregnancyVlog 1 month ago
I thank you for posting this horribly sad moment. We didn't record the day we found out our baby girl of 17 weeks had passed but I wish we had. I went to the hospital because I was feeling so sick and my water had broke oddly, they told us she had passed away 2 days before b/c of her measurements... no heartbeat and nothing but grief for us. We have cried and grieved. I wish I had these last moments of our Crimsyn Molli to hold to! We miss her so much. She would've been our 1st!
MysticMona 1 month ago
That happened to me. As soon as i saw it on the screen and saw the size wasnt as expected i knew. Ill never forget that day. I had a d&c last week and the pain is unbearable both emotionally and physically. Im so sorry for your loss
LaSirenita0407 1 month ago
this seriously broke my heart. id never wish this one anyone and hope id have a healthy child. thanku for sharing
Zoegurlhawt1 1 month ago
This happened to me at my 26 week appt with my first baby boy six years ago. Since then I have had two beautitul boys now 5 & 2. It still think about him every day. It was the worst experience of my life.
rimms 1 month ago
thank you for sharing this heartbreaking moment, and thank you for helping me feel not so alone. I wish you all the best your present and future.
unurse 1 month ago
Thanks for sharing such a private and heartbreaking moment. God bless your strengths.
hilaryarklow 1 month ago
wow your babies are absolutly beautiful. Im so sorry your family had to endure this pain. Just wanted to say all of us who have lost understand that type of pain. much <3 to you and your babies
TheTurnersJourney 2 months ago
You are incredibly brave for posting this. God has a plan for everyone and everything. i am 17 weeks as of december 25th, and could not fathom going through what you and your boyfriend/ husband have gone through with this. i may not know you, but what i do know is that if you can survive this you can survive anything! hang on there love god has great plans for you.
amfortier1222 2 months ago
OMG I am so sorry. God Bless xx
beckyuk2001 2 months ago
I am so sorry for you loss. I had 2 miscarrages at 8 weeks and found out that I had a hormonal inbalance. The Dr. sent me to an endocrinologist and gave me some medicine and I was able to get pregnant again. Now I am 25 weeks pregnant and I thank God for my miracle. I pray that God will give you the desires of your heart and don't give up.
lovernnr 2 months ago
I'm five weeks pregnant at the moment & I've had a miscarriage before at 13 weeks.
I'm terrified of it happening again.
I bawled my eyes out over this video. I'm so scared of this happening to me, again.
ResistFutility 2 months ago
@ResistFutility This was our third consecutive miscarriage of 13+ weeks. I am sadly familiar with the terror you describe. Try to be brave and remember that nature is not something we can control much. Eat right, keep a healthy routine and hope for the best.
Take comfort in knowing that in spite of the risk and fear you feel, you faced it anyway, and should it all work out your child will be raised by a courageous mother who knows how immensely precious life is.
bjjolley 2 months ago 3
@ResistFutility I've had 3 miscarriages, I am now pregnant with my 4th child, I was so scared of losing this one as well. I pray everyday that this one will hold on, I started having medical problems in my 11th week, I am now in my 15th week and going great. Just hang in there.
londonfan07 1 month ago
I have had 3 miscarriages. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for having the strength to post this. I am currently 8 wks pregnant again and am suffering from a perigestational bleed. While baby is fine, I am currently bleeding/spotting and am very cautiously expecting. I hope that God blesses you with whatever your heart desires.
nellyp0oh 2 months ago
Thank you for putting this up. We just had a miscarriage too. It's so wonderful to feel not alone.
msmary126 2 months ago
Thank you so much for having the courage to post this. I'm so incredibly sorry for your losses... I lost my baby at only 5 weeks last year. I can't imagine the pain of losing two at once so far along. I'm still grieving very much, and so many people tell me to "get over it" and even that my baby "wasn't even a baby yet". He was real to me and will always be my child. Sending you hugs and prayers!
CourtsCamJustin 3 months ago
thanks for posting, this is swept under the carpet too often. the pain is always there but it gets easier, good luck x
julezindahouse 3 months ago
so sorry for your loss i just had one at 11 weeks i had a missed miscarriage my baby has no heartbeat:( im trying to decide on to get the dnc or natural miscarriage :(
StephandAndrew4ever 3 months ago
I am so sorry for your loss, I wish you all the best in the future and may the lovely little boy you have now continue to grow and flourish.
I am pregnant at 7 weeks and 4 days, my husband and I are travelling so we have not had a ultrasound yet. We will be home in B.C. in a few weeks and even though I am still feeling very pregnant I am hoping that all is going well with my baby. Again I am so sorry for your loss and I wish you all the best!
Snow0dragon1 3 months ago
Sorry for your loss. This is what it was like for me & my husband, when our little one did not have a heart beart @ 13 weeks. Thank you for posting this.
natstrong 4 months ago
I will say a prayer for you guys tonight. Pray, Believe and trust God for the Victory. My wife is 4 weeks now and everyday I have a roller coaster of emotions! It definitley is the best feeling in the world and the worst.
dealwithit555 4 months ago
I am so sorry:[ i cried as soon as i seen the heart line not moving....
i wish you the best with your boy, however<3
nluvwithlayne07 4 months ago
this is heartbreaking. My wife has had two miscarriages and now she's pregnant with twins at 8 weeks. Watching this video makes me realize I can't take anything for granted, and we can't get our hopes up.. Every day waiting for the next ultrasound is like torture hoping everything is ok. 13 weeks, that is especially brutal at that stage, when after 12 weeks everything is supposed to be ok and you have probably started telling friends/family. So sorry this happened to you guys.
7gramrocks 4 months ago
Oh my goodness I am so sorry! :( my heart goes out to you -3
MissBonneNuit 4 months ago
I'm so sorry for your loss.
grapeexmagoo 4 months ago
@angelmom3950 - Thanks for your well-wishes. Prior to the miscarriages we had a perfect little boy who is growing fast. We were never able to have more, though.
bjjolley 5 months ago
Oh gosh I'm soooo sorry... I just watched the vid where u discovered u were having twins... So sad =(
MsLagringa 5 months ago
I just want to tell you "thank you" for putting up this video and leaving it up. I know how incredibly hard it is for you but I wanted to just say thank you. I was pregnant with twins and we found no heartbeats at 14 weeks. My husband and I, like you and yours, were in shock. I have to hold on to knowing that I will oneday hold them again in Heaven and that their is such a special place for all of our Angel Babies there. Thank you so much again, this has helped me heal!
Brook
brooknrich 5 months ago 3
@brooknrich - It brings me great satisfaction that this was able to help you in some small way. My sympathies to you and your husband.
bjjolley 5 months ago
You are so brave to deal with the loss of your twin babies! I know your pain and it is something that never goes away! Thanks for sharing. So sorry for your loss!!
itynotbity 6 months ago
i am so sorry about your loss. i just miscarried twins at about 6 weeks. its the hardest thing to do, losing children. be happy you had the support of each other. the father of mine put us on a break the day before i miscarried, and wen all the information was found out all i got from him was an o, it wasnt your fault. and he quit talking to me
PeterPaige427 6 months ago
@PeterPaige427 - That's more grief than anyone should have to endure. I'm so sorry. Having his child would have legally tied you together for decades. At least you're not stuck with that heartless ass.
bjjolley 6 months ago 3
Im sorry for your loss. I have lost two babies as well. Hugs~
1981meagan 6 months ago
omg this has me in tears. i am 25 weeks pregnant rite now and i can only imagine how hurt this would make a mother. sorry for your loss! ur two little angels are watching over u
Babyfullable 6 months ago
So sorry for your loss... I see it was posted over 3 years ago...I sure hope you have been blessed with a baby since.
EnchantedNM77 6 months ago
Thank you for keeping this video up. We have lost 3 babies to miscarriage. I remember being 17 weeks along, going to find out the sex of our little baby and I remember the look of the doctor, the sound of her voice, I knew....I knew the silence what it meant...there was no heartbeat....I delivered our son later that night. I have just had another miscarriage 2 days ago, it never gets easier. I know what pain you have and will always go thru. My prayers are with you and your family.
awesomeshelly102 7 months ago
@awesomeshelly102 Don't give up. Very good friend of mine lost 7....she had all but given up. Then she got pregnant again and had a beautiful daughter....in fact...she was so used to not being able to easily get pregnant that she was a bit careless and when her daughter was 2 months old they found out she was pregnant again....she had another beautiful daughter less than a year after her first!! Her oldest daughter was born on Sept 27...the younger on Sept 20th.
EnchantedNM77 6 months ago
Thank you for posting this. Many of us know that moment in that dark room when you hear the doctor say 'Im so sorry.' We lost our little one at 7.5 weeks in Sept of 2010. It really is a pain no one can ever know unless they have lost their own child. Love and Light with you and your wife. Im now 18 weeks along with our rainbow baby and already running into compilcations. Its all in Gods hands now.
uramoron2006 7 months ago
So terribly sorry. I have recently been trying to think of a way in which to help people going through such a terrible experience. I am starting a sewing group project to provide bereavement gowns for these tiny babies. For the smallest or more fragile remains I am going to make little cloth pouches. This will allow the parents to be able to hold and honor their lost children if they so desire. Would this service have been helpful to you and your wife at the time?
rubyjean65 7 months ago
@rubyjean65 - That is an unusually tender-hearted and giving idea. Yes, I would be helpful - one of the nurses knitted a tiny little hat for our first miscarriage, and I was deeply touched. More compassion like that can only make the world a better place. Best of luck to you.
bjjolley 7 months ago
Rip
Josey's baby today at 5 months
Miscarriages aren't fair. I hope that he/she is happy in heaven. Pave the way for Josey baby, but don't wait up your not getting her anytime soon.
Your adoptive aunt
<3
1235link 8 months ago
I'm so sorry.
addjewelry 8 months ago
This is so sad... I can´t even imagine how awful this must have been...
bruhjustaja 10 months ago
Thanks for your support. I am sorry for your loss too! Bless you and I know that God a better plan for us. Thank you for sharing your pain with us..(me). God bless you.
awaitingmyangel 10 months ago
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious babies. I am happy that you have these precious memories of them. I to had a miscarriage, though I did not see my baby because I miscaried so early on. One day I am confident you will see their beautiful faces in Heaven. Bless you both! Very sweet of you to share with us your joy and your loss for the sake of reaching out to others.
TheGwynnSmith 10 months ago
I am soo sorry that happen to your babies.
padussia 10 months ago
I just miscarried both twins 4 days ago....my heart broke the same way....my spirit is broken. God help me..
awaitingmyangel 11 months ago
@awaitingmyangel I am very sorry for your loss. I just wanted you to know that I and many others share your pain. Bless you!
TheGwynnSmith 10 months ago
I applaud you for sharing your heartbreak. I'm sure there was shock and heartbreak and even anger when you tried to comprehend what was happening to you. I have 3 live children but 9 of my babies are with the angels. The last 2 were twins and I remember this same exact moment of finding out that there is no heartbeat. Beyond gut wrenching. Everyone always told me that I'm lucky to have the 3 living children... and believe me, I am:-) It's still devastating to lose even 1 though. God Bless.
shellakers 11 months ago 2
:( so sorry
OrgasmoDivine 11 months ago
Just the sound of the clicking & the monitor brings me back to when I found out about our baby at 13 weeks with no heartbeat. Thank you for posting this, I know it could not have been easy. My heart goes out to everyone who has experienced a loss like this. So so sorry :(
nutz4bnutz 11 months ago
God bless you and your little angels in heaven.
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ProVoiceProject 11 months ago
This is terrible. I would have hated to be that tech. I've had to be in the room while mothers are told the baby has no heartbeat, even show them myself. This is why there shouldn't be the second monitor until the tech at least knows everything is ok. I'm sorry this happened to you...
OmniaVinatAmor00 11 months ago
My Dr. told me not to listen to other people's "advice", don't google, and don't read things on the internet, you'll start worrying about things you didn't even know you had to worry about. Now I understand. I thought you were "safe" after the 1st trimester but reading all the comments, many were not. I'm so sorry for your loss and everyone else's losses and thank you for posting the video. It reminds us all how fragile and precious life is.
PaulaPeachy1 1 year ago
@PaulaPeachy1 - Each pregnant day is a day with better chances for success. Keep to hope. Your story isn't written yet. It might have the best ending ever.
bjjolley 1 year ago 12
I am so glad that you left this video up. I have had four miscarriages. People never understand unless they have been through it themselves. Everyone thinks that you can "get over it" or "pull yourself together", but that is not always possible right away. You need time to grieve, to process that your CHILDREN have DIED. Some people don't believe that babies who are not full term "really matter". Maybe this video will help them see that ALL life is LIFE, and that ALL life matters. Thank you.
kristina5747 1 year ago 19
@kristina5747 I agree. I've had a few myself...worst thing in the world :(
Kaedemoon267 3 months ago
Im so sorry that you had to go through this. I lost my baby boy 3 months ago at 19weeks gestation. We also found out by ultrasound. the words "there is no heart beat" have to be some of the hardest you will ever hear. I want to thank you for posting this vid. people are to silent when it comes to pregnancy loss. talking about it really does help.
erindoe88 1 year ago
@erindoe88 also, people have the tendacey to minimize the hurt because "it happens all the time". Its been over a month and it hurts more now than it did when we found out. I am supposed to be feeling our baby move and find out the sex, as I lay here in bed at 2am, crying with a flat tummy. Its real pain that unless you go through it yourself, you'll never understand. Its comforting to know we're not alone in our grieving. God bless you and heal you.
kandi61685 1 year ago
I am pregnant with twins..im 18 weeks today...buit there is a chance my boys are in the same sac which means either only one, or none can survive=( Im so scared..im only 17 and this could be my only pregnancy...Im so sorry for your little ones a mother should never have to see or hear that...
and on top the father left me...at 17 weeks=(
CrazyTinkerbellFan 1 year ago 3
@CrazyTinkerbellFan - You must be terrified. I was very sad to read about your situation. Before you despair, first find out about the diagnosis. If your worst fears are confirmed, try to have courage. It will be a hard road. It might seem like the end of the world right now, but keep heart - time will pass and you will grow from this no matter what the outcome. This will make you stronger, braver and wiser than you ever thought possible. This hardship won't last forever. I promise!
bjjolley 1 year ago 2
@CrazyTinkerbellFan You know what? you have the heavenly father that is enough, my GOD will bless you, don´t give up be on your kneess, keep on praying and i will do it since here at church and everywhere.
quecosfriday 10 months ago
I am so sorry for your loss. I experienced the same thing a few months ago at my 16 week ultrasound there was no heart beat and watching your video broughtback all the memories, because it happened EXACTLY like that. But it is a good thing to remember like you said the hardest part is most people just pretend it didn't happen I don't want to forget what happened.
BernTru 1 year ago
My husband and I just went through this yesterday. I know the feeling of instantly not seeing a heartbeat and being devastated. There was no warning at all. No bleeding, cramping, and had just seen the hb a month ago. So many dreams, so many wishes, washed away in a single moment. I go in Tuesday to have the D&C, and it's absolutely heart wrenching. I know how hard it is to be strong and say we can try again, but it's THIS one we wanted.. why not THIS one?
kandi61685 1 year ago
@kandi61685 - How devastating to have this so fresh on your mind. The D&C is no picnic either. Don't worry about trying again, don't worry about "getting over it." Let yourself feel what you feel. It hurts and I don't know of another way to heal. It gets better with time. I wish you better days in the future.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley Just got home from the D&C, and your right, it was no picnic. I appreciate the kind words, and I know that there is rhyme or reason for this, but I just know what it is yet. We decided to have a seperate cremation for the baby and I'm having the ashes put into a necklace with little baby feet on it. It's discrete to anyone that doesn't know, but I know my baby is near me always. I still think about you guys, and the heartbreak we share. I hope for future health babies for us all.
kandi61685 1 year ago
@kandi61685 - "I know that there is rhyme or reason for this"
It might seem strange, but I took comfort in the idea that there was no reason for it. Bad things happen sometimes, and that's how life is. I felt free from the burden of trying to explain it.
I like the idea of the necklace. I hope it helps you find comfort from a difficult experience.
bjjolley 1 year ago
This is so sad. I'm sorry for your loss.
Chriscom28 1 year ago
its alright now, we have plenty of time to try again, and thank u so much.
seximela91 1 year ago
thanks for wishing me luck with my pregnany, but unfortunately i miscarried at 12 weeks...but i appreciate your good wishes
seximela91 1 year ago
@seximela91 - Deeply sorry to hear this. I am astonished at how unfair life can be. My sincere sympathy to you and your family.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I can only say how amazed I am at your strength to show this video. I am so so sorry for your loss.
My previous pregnancy ended also and I found out at scan that baby had no heartbeat. It wasn't as awful as it was a surrogate pregnancy. This pregnancy is my own and I have seen the heartbeat at earlier scan and still terrified that the next scan will show a still heart. But if it happens it happens. Sadly there is nothing we can do.
lumdeedums 1 year ago
@lumdeedums - Yeah. You're kinda faced with the choice to let it ruin you, or to carry on in spite of the sadness. I choose to carry on. Best wished for you and your family.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I've been through this. Looking at this video made me feel less alone. So, thank you.
pipsersmom 1 year ago
I am an ultrasound technologist and a mother and it is never an easy task to tell parents when their children have passed. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your spouse. I am so sorry for your loss. It is never an easy thing and I wont pretend that I know how you feel, I can only sympathize and cry for you.
bnrmommy 1 year ago
My heart just broke watching that. I'm so sorry for your family's devistating loss. Miscarraige is no different than losing a child you've held in your arms.
sunmaidliz 1 year ago
@sunmaidliz - Thank you for your thoughts.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I'm so sorry, i just lost my 6 1/2 week old baby friday of a miscarriage. my prayers go out to you.
EricsTrueLove22 1 year ago
Im so very sorry for your loss, how brave of you both to share this with us all. I lost my baby i was carrying in August this year, i know the intense pain and heartache this brings. I wish you and your partner well.
VeryStevePerry 1 year ago
@VeryStevePerry - Thank you. All the best to you, too.
bjjolley 1 year ago
i'm so very sorry for your loss. thank you for being brave enough to share this, I'm sure there are a lot of families that appreciate knowing they are not alone.
mykethedrumma 1 year ago 2
@mykethedrumma - Much appreciated.
bjjolley 1 year ago
Sorry for your loss.
ShellyReinhardt 1 year ago
that is very sad im srry for ur lost....
deadlygirl009 1 year ago
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i am so sorry you lost both twin babies. i found out two weeks ago one of my twin daughters died. its so hard to be happy yet sad. I only have one twin and the other is dead. i am broken in two pieces! i cried so hard my body ached and shaked all over. i thought if i cant get control over this i would lose the other one too. its only been two weeks i only cry now when someone i know hasnt heard yet and i have to tell them about it. i am angry and hurt. shelby wont have her sister to grow up with
monicababy45 1 year ago
@monicababy45 - I'm very saddened by your news. I don't blame you at all for crying. I hope you don't blame yourself no matter what happens as things like this are beyond your control. I know it hurts. Hang in there.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I just went through the same experience last week. I never knew such pain existed. Hopefully one day, i'll get to walk the road to recovery.
Goldrozen 1 year ago
@Goldrozen - Very sorry to hear the news. Time seems to be the only "antidote". Hang in there.
bjjolley 1 year ago
i am so sorry about your loss (
heyNataly 1 year ago
i was 10 weeks, going in for my first ultrasound when they discovered no heart beat. It broke my heart, but I realized it's life, it's what we have to go through. The fetus stopped growing at 8 weeks. I never miscarried so I had to have a D&C
l00king4da1 1 year ago
@l00king4da1 - Ugh. D&Cs suck. Just... horrible. So sorry to hear all the sad news. I hope you will recover in due time.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley I have recovered. It's been about 2 years now.
l00king4da1 1 year ago
Oh my..Im so sorry for your lost..No matter how far along they were, no parent can evr come to terms with losing a child, emagin 2 at the same time..They are safe now and dnt give up...
triniusmcwife 1 year ago
I am so sorry this happened to you and your husband. This absolutely broke my heart. I am currently 12 weeks, 4 days pregnant with twins, and this is my biggest fear to have happen. I cannot possibly imagine your pain. God bless you and your tiny little angels in Heaven.
piscesrox71 1 year ago
@piscesrox71 - My wife gots so emotional when she was pregnant that even TV commercials made her cry. I can't imagine what a video like this would do to a woman expecting a child - what are you trying to do to yourself?! ;)
Steer clear of heartbreaking stuff like this at least til after your wonderful baby arrives - that's my advice to you. You could worry yourself sick about it, and that won't help anyone. Be happy, be optimistic. Great things are certainly to come.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley : You are so right. I don't know why...I guess it's just that after 15 years of infertility, and 2 IVF cycles (the last using an egg donor) and finally having success with my current pregnancy of our twins, I am absolutely consumed with fear of a miscarriage. But I will heed your good advice, and focus on the positive from now on. Thanks for the wisdom. And God bless you.
piscesrox71 1 year ago
im really sorry about what happened i know what its like to have a miscarriage but i cant imagine the pain loosing two. im still trying to deal with the loss of my baby and it was last year when i found out i had a miscarriage. i hope you didnt or dont give up on having more children.
bulldogchic 1 year ago
@bulldogchic - Thanks. Sorry to hear you've been down that road. The loss of the twins was actually our third consecutive miscarriage in two years. We're taking an indefinite break. Happily, before the losses, we had a little boy who is the light of our universe. We know there are many wonderful, loving couples who don't even have one to love. I count myself very fortunate.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley ur lil boy you had before the miscarriages must be a miracle baby. i can see why you are taking a break its so hard to have miscarriages. id be taking a break too probably. im really sorry still and my heart goes out to you two.
bulldogchic 1 year ago
@bulldogchic - Thank you. All the best to you.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley your welcome all the best to you too.
bulldogchic 1 year ago
im so sorry I really am...
carolyoutu 1 year ago
@carolyoutu - Thank you.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I just had a miscarriage sunday at the hospital...but the baby died a week or so before..I was supposed to be 11 weeks but there wasn't a heartbeat.. ): My baby..
Sandrak1395 1 year ago
@Sandrak1395 - Don't you just want to punch the people that say, "these things happen for a reason?"
I'm very sorry for your loss. Nothing but time has managed to ease the sadness, and even years later, it lingers.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley Yeah I do.. Thank you, I'm sorry for yours too..
Sandrak1395 1 year ago
I know it has been a few years I hope that you tried again,We lost my granddaughter at full term-Due to big medical problems,God tried to let her com as a misscarriage but it was always stoped. And now we are days away from having a boy
mrtransgal 1 year ago
@mrtransgal - So sorry to hear about your granddaughter. I hope your grandson arrives without complication.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I'm so sorry ((hugs)) I had a miscarriage the day after christmas last year :(
sarahthediva 1 year ago
I am so very sorry! My heart breaks for you and your sweetie. What a hard time, right when you were letting yourself get excited because of the nearing of the 2nd trimester. Again, I am so very sorry. I pray you will feel these little angels watching over you when you most need it. -Laura
blueyedgirlaura 1 year ago
That is soooo sad but I am not sure I could share this sad moment with EVERYONE.. I am ver sorry to hear of your loss and wich you luck in having more babies in your future..
drillsgtclark 1 year ago
@drillsgtclark - Yeah, I have come close to pulling it down several times. I keep reminding myself that part of the pain comes from the fact that though it's an incredibly common experience, most people just pretend it never happened. By leaving this up, maybe a heartbroken mother out there won't feel so alone.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley you're exactly right hun, dont take it down just rememeber everyday you are helping someone! you are amazing for sharing this i am so truly sorry for your loss i also miscarriage at 13 weeks but my baby stopped growing at 9
babyphatgurlee 1 year ago
I am SO sorry for this loss. I hope you have since had a successful pregnancy! I went through this last Christmas and am now 6w 3d and waiting for our ultrasound next week. I am praying for a heartbeat this time. I wish you the best.
AdRoFe 1 year ago
@AdRoFe - Thank you. I'm so sorry to hear you've also been through this.
bjjolley 1 year ago
aww :( what did they have to do after this? really sorry :( xXx
Missgemini2010 1 year ago
@Missgemini2010 - She was admitted to the hospital where they gave her a drug that causes the uterus to contract, and the babies get forced out. It's a dreadful and heart-breaking experience and anyone who'd been through it deserves compassion.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley im really sorry im 15 weeks pregnant and i would be heartbroken :( i really feel for you and your family take care of yourself and her and i really hope things so right for you <3 sending my love, i dont know what else to say just a really sad and sensitive subject but im thinking about you both x x
Missgemini2010 1 year ago
@Missgemini2010 - That's incredibly sweet of you. I wish you all the best!
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley :) you 2 take care x
Missgemini2010 1 year ago
I am so sorry for your loss. We went through a missed miscarriage a few weeks ago. This was our first pregnancy and I have been longing for a child for years. At our 10 week ultrasound we were informed that the baby passed at around 8w 2d. A heartbeat was detected at 7w 2d but I guess this was just not meant to be. It is heartbreaking but i hope you won't feel discouraged.
SoyabeanHK 1 year ago
@SoyabeanHK - Thank you. Sorry you've been through it yourself.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I am so sorry for your loss, we were in your shoes 2 weeks ago. I was supposed to be 11w 2d but I had a miss miscarriage at 8w 1d. I know how hard it is. I pray that you got the answers you needed. We are still waiting for ours, after 5yrs of trying this was our thrid loss. No one should ever go through this.
LYDISANC21 1 year ago
@LYDISANC21 - So sorry to hear you've been down this road. Unfortunately, the answers never came for us. And well put - no one should ever have to go through this. Life is cruelly unfair.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. How far long were you when you had this ultrasound? I miscarried and found out at my 8 week ultrasound. Devastating!
ldematt 1 year ago
@ldematt - We were at the 13-week mark. (I've added that to the description now). Sorry to hear you've been through this, too.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I am so sorry. This is a heartbreaking moment. I miscarried at 11 weeks and found out like you did through ultrasound that the baby's heart was not beating and that it hadn't grown in several weeks. All I can say is that I have some idea of what you went through and I am very, very sorry.
actingpilot1984 1 year ago
@actingpilot1984 - Thanks for your sympathy. Sorry to hear you've been down that road.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@actingpilot1984
I am so sorry for your loss. We too went through a missed miscarriage a few weeks ago. This was our first pregnancy and I have been longing for a child for years. At our 10 week ultrasound we were informed that the baby passed at around 8w 2d. A heartbeat was detected at 7w 2d but I guess this was just not meant to be. It is heartbreaking but i hope you won't feel discouraged.
SoyabeanHK 1 year ago
im pregnant 10 weeks 6 days today, the father is a twin. i want twins so bad. i never wanted kids then i found out i was pregnant, now i couldn't be happier, i havent had an ultrasound yet, but i cant wait. wen i saw this video i literally burst ino tears my heart broke the moment i heard the silence. im so sorry for your loss. i could never imagine myself hearing that silence. i wish you both well and i keep you in my prayers.
seximela91 1 year ago
@seximela91 - Oh, emotions are extra reactive when you're pregnant. Even TV commercials make many expecting mothers cry, so this must've been rather upsetting. I wish you success with your child/children and hope your pregnancy goes perfectly - life is a damn precious thing.
bjjolley 1 year ago
IM SO SORRY FOR YOU LOSS I RECENTLY LOST A SET OF TWINS TO BUT THE PASSED AT 5 WEEKS 3DAY AND I HAD CARRIED THEM UNTIL I WAS 12 WEEKS WENT TO WORK AND ALL BEFORE MY BODY STARTED THE MISSCARRIAGE WORSE PAIN IN MY WHOLE LIFE I JUST FOUND OU A WEEK AGO THAT I AM PREGNANT AGAIN SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS I KNOW EXACTLY HOW IT FEEL LOST TWINS JAN 30TH 2010 AT 4 AM.....
mickeyforu26 1 year ago
Me & my girlfriend were expecting a baby when she had a miscarriage at 5 weeks. She has not been the same since then, we have now broken up because she is now more into smoking weed daily & drinking Plus she turned extra angry & makes me the reason for her unhappiness
tierren 1 year ago
@tierren - That's a lot to handle. I highly recommend visiting a therapist. That's what we did after our first miscarriage, and I'm very glad we did. Your now ex should go (even if on her own), and I'm sure you'd benefit from talking to a professional, too. I wish you all the best going forward.
bjjolley 1 year ago
i so sorry for u both i am 16 weeks pregnant with my first and i couldnt imagine the feeling, life is so precious, thanks for putting this up i know it must of been hard to share, i wish u happiness u both deserve it xxxxx
winifredbonita 1 year ago
WOW..... Didnt expect to burst into tears... Im so sorry to you both... WOW.. Life can be so hard.. Can I ask how far along you were?
melissajgordon 1 year ago
@melissajgordon No problem - we were just into the second trimester and it was our third time going through this. Thank you for your empathy.
bjjolley 1 year ago
....im so sorry....this happend to me not to long ago....nothing is louder than that silence.
bethy3poo 1 year ago
I am so sorry. I have had 4 miscarriages- one- the first one was around the same time... It is truly devastating. I hope you have had success (since this was filmed) having more children. God bless you guys.
jcurbot 1 year ago
You know, I was very suprised after I did my research at how common this is. As horrible as it sounds, it happens more than anyone realizes. It just goes to show how fragile and intricate life really is. It takes a true miracle to creat life.
CelestlDvnity 1 year ago
@CelestlDvnity You're exactly right - it is incredibly common. Horribly common. And people don't talk about it. That is the main reason I leave this video up. We shouldn't pretend this doesn't happen.
bjjolley 1 year ago
I lost my baby a year ago. And today I had to take my best friend to the hospital to go through the same thing. I have so many emotions just now it's unbelievable. I am devastated.
19jj80 1 year ago
@19jj80 Sorry, 19jj80. Time seems to be the only thing that helps. Hang in there.
bjjolley 1 year ago
@bjjolley Thanks :) I am so sorry for your loss too. I should have said that before. It's just good to find people who understand.
19jj80 1 year ago
im so sorry! my heart breaks for yall. may they fly high and rest in peace
jjac31456287 1 year ago
sorry bout ur loss' I just found out yesterday my 15-16 week old baby passed on n happened same way it was shown here. I couldn't be with my girl as i had work & this is the most difficult thing i've ever had to face.
BeZerker3000 1 year ago
@BeZerker3000 - I'm so sorry BZ. It's really a devastating thing to face and it hurts for a long time. My sympathies to you and your girl.
bjjolley 1 year ago
How far along were you?
bebespider 1 year ago