...and i have a residence on earth. and friends houses that are like home to me. my job feels homey. but even in all these places, home is just... where i am. it can't be my home without me. home is where my heart is. or something else cliche that maybe once oozed profundity.
the place i reside in most often is probably of a "third space" variety, as mentioned in tfios. (we've all read that by now, right? i'm not spoiling anything? not that "third space" is this massive spoiler. the specific verbiage surrounding the idea is original, whereas the idea itself is not.)
i don't know that i can define my third space too precisely. sometimes i'm staying in my head, other times it's how i refer to my life on the internet with friends. i also live in past and future...
I almost made this exact video like a month ago when I came back to college. But then you made it, and said it way better than I could have. Basically, I agree completely.
i like when videos make me think, so thank you for that. i feel that home, for me, is familiarity with my surroundings. i live almost slap bang in the middle of glasgow and edinburgh. in the sense that they are both easily accessible and approximately the same distance away from me. and i feel so lost when i'm away from both these cities. i think home is also, most importantly, where my bed is =)
I really like escibs' comment, which brings me to the idea that home is embodied in a series of moments, but the home-moments are the ones in which you feel things that you want to remember. A 'place' in which you want to be, but not in the sense of place like the grocery store or mcdonald's but more specific, like a setting, like Sunday, in the park, with George. OR backstage on a couch of questionable sanitation, with people you don't see anymore, eating cold and even more questionable foods.
Home are the places where I feel safe and at peace (most of the time). Places that I think that I can return to and always feel welcome. Which is why I have several homes:
- my parant's house in the town where I grew up
- my own apartment in the city where I live and study
- the house where our student corps is residing
- the house of my best friend's parents.
(And this is without even mentioning for example the Internet, Hogwarts and Green Gables)
home for me is the place where I've spent the last 19 years (my current home). I've been thinking about the concept of what home would be like if I wasn't here. It's hard to think about it because I've been here for so long. Things need to change and I want to make it happen soon.
I often struggle with this, I say 'home' is where my parents live and i grew up. but when im out in the city i live in now i say " lets go home" but i dont mean "home" as in my parents i mean "home" as in the home i made here :) and when I do go to my parents 'home' I cant wait to get back to my 'home" uhg, life
as i go threw living my life and learning who i really am down to my core hopefully i figure out what home is for me and what it means to me p.s. i hope i didn't waste your time with my comments also hope you had a good day
A home is a place where you feel comfortable; whether this be your actual home, dorm room, school, work, gym, art studio, etc. Any place in which you feel that you can be yourself could be considered home.
....two different periods of my life, but they aren't by any means the same home both times, simply because I was at different places in my life. So essentially, what I think I'm getting at is that every place you live and consider your home is your home, but only the place that you are currently in is your true home for that period of your life. I'm not sure if that makes sense or not, but it's my own little reasoning.
I think we can have many homes through out our lives, for instance I've had homes in Kentucky, Indiana, St Louis, England, and New Jersey but as of right now, New Jersey is my home because that's where I currently am at. All of the other places are still home to me; I still feel comfortable in those places, but they will have inevitably changed since I've last been there, so they won't really be the home that I remember. I've lived in the same house in StL at...
Super high quality :] This is the Kassie I subscribed to (though I love your silly videos too!) I think of home as Minneapolis, the city I grew up next to, and the city I went to college in. It's not just areas though, it's the people who go with those areas. The suburbs are where my family lives, North East is where my boyfriend lives. Cedar/Riverside is where I went to school. And I'm really enjoying watching those areas expand and connect.
I often feel confused about the word home. I lived on the couches of three different friends this summer and I would immediately feel at home wherever my couch was.
I'm from Pennsylvania, but I live in New York, and I refer to both as home interchangeably.
I hate to bring up this overused idiom "home is where the heart is" (ugh sorry!) but it's a little true, the catch being many people's hearts lie in many places. The song "home" says "home is wherever I'm with you". Similarly, I think a home doesn't necessarily have to be a place. i feel at home with certain people. i feel at home onstage. i feel at home on youtube. and its because these things all have a part of my heart (i tried to make this as not corny as possible!)
I completely agree, I've grown up having 4 'homes' :) It's a bit annoying cuz I'm almost always missing at least one of my homes! haha But it's nice as well. I was born in Switzerland and lived there for 8 years so naturally that's my first 'home'. Then moved to Iran for about 7 years, then lived in Austria (where my mum's side of the family are from) for 3 years and now live in England. I love all 4 countries and miss certain things about each of them now that I'm in England.
I'm in college as well, and I've often felt that I have a "home" I was born into (the town I've always lived in, my family, the friends I made because they were the kids always around to hang out with, etc.) and I also have a "home" that I created (my school and friends at school, etc. which/whom I chose for myself). I don't feel that either one is more of a home, but more that they have different dynamics and I like them for different reasons.
I've lived in the same place all of my life so you'd think that home would just be my house, but in a way my town is my home and my school is my home and my friends I have here is my home. Seems to be things you've had for so long it becomes normal and you almost start to take it for granted. I know some people that were born in a different country for example but moved as a baby or very young child yet they still call their birth place home which I don't really get :L
I just got back from a year overseas, six months of which I lived in Seattle as a study abroad student. While I was there, I could say that Seattle was home for me. But if moved back there tomorrow, it wouldn't be the same, because most of the people who made my Seattle experience what it was are gone (they were other exchange students). Sure, I'd settle in again and make new friends and feel at home, but it wouldn't be the same home, even though it's the same city. Make sense?
@escibs I feel exactly the same. I actually spent a year at UW a few years back, and went back to visit for the first time this past November and it was HORRIBLE. I stayed with my old roommates, but other than them, I saw maybe one other person. Sure, everyone was busy doing school work and I wasn't, but it wasn't just that. The other international students weren't there, I had no one to see, and so much had changed about the city, but at the same time nothing had. Going back is hard.
@ellafantile That's what I imagine returning would be like. But cities change, I guess. Even returning to Perth a couple of months ago was weird - I felt really out of the loop. And exactly the same as what you said - that so much had changed, but nothing had. I think maybe because I changed so much on the inside that I was seeing the city through new eyes, although there were no major differences.
Ok so my friend Hannah and I (I think you know her you both go to the same school!...) were talking about this a few weeks ago. I was saying how it's strange to be in college at first because it doesn't exactly have that home element right away. At least it didn't for me. And when I was there the past semester I referred to home as ct where I'm from -with an occasional slip of "I have to get back home to my dorm". But now being home, going back in two days all I can think is "I need to be back
A few years ago I came back from living overseas to the same house I had left. I had never really felt at home overseas, but I didn't feel at home here, either. It's strange an uncomfortable not having any home. But lately, I've developed a lot of homes. There's a lot of places where I can go and feel comfortable, whether in a curl up and relax way, or a have a good time with people I love way. Basically, a familiar place that feels like it's a part of me.
I thought when I was younger that I had two homes, m mums house and my dads house, but now I've moved away to study and live on my own, I realise that really, that's not what defines a home at all, you're totally right! love this video! I miss my home home, but now this is my home as well, I think the people you're with make a huge difference to where you want to be in the world.
I have been thinking about this a LOT recently. I am a year abroad for university. I spent the first semester missing home so much, missing the people, sounds etc. I came back for Christmas and hated being there. Everything had changed. It was lovely to spend time with the people again but I realised I had somewhat romanticised my experiences of "home". I am now back at university and learning to embrace it more as ANOTHER home. It's working. I'm remembering that "homes" aren't "perfect" either.
Ever since I moved to a different country I've realized that home is where you feel comfortable and can relax without fear of judgment or anything like that. Generally for me it's where I'm surrounded by friends and family I enjoy being with and that anchor me.
Also, serious question: Why are vloggers so into not wearing pants?
In general I think I am more certain of places that aren't home than those that are. I think home is probably a broader concept of you're someone who is quite comfortable with yourself. Or maybe because there are more places where people are comfortable with you. I think I probably need to sit and think about this, but sadly I have to go to work, a place that most certainly is not home. (I hope.)
I don't count my house as a home. I think that the library and certain trees and hugs from my mates Ben and Amy are more 'home' to me than everywhere else. The feelings of peace and calm and safety that come with these things is better than anything else. (not that I don't feel the same at my house, its just not as absolute)
I find myself saying I'm going home even though I'm really leaving my home and going back to school. I have two homes, neither of which I feel completely comfortable in. School is just going to be uncomfortable I know that, but home like you said I never expected to change and when it did I was left behind. Now I find I'm never truly home any where anymore. But i'm sick of feeling lonely so i'm adapting to this many homes approach as well. Its not saying goodbye, its only saying see you later.
I moved out 4 months ago and I am yet to be able to call the new place home. I move again next September so hopefully then I'll be able to call that home. To me, home is anywhere you feel comfortable, whether it's your actual house, or a place you just like to be. Somewhere you can fully relax and just be yourself. I hope I find that again soon. But then it's sort of impossible to feel home when your housemates are getting arrested every other week. xD
Home for me is drinking lots of tea and watching lord of the rings. Nothing is quite as homely as sitting next to the heater in my pjs with good company swooning over Pippin :p (:
"home" is a place where you tend to spend a lot of time, and usually feel safe and comfortable. whether it is the place you spend time with family, friend's houses, school, work, a box, the shire. anywhere really.
I haven't ever cried about leaving/ coming home from college yet, but it breaks my heart when my mom does. It was horrible this Christmas especially since my dad said "when are you going back home?" and my mom replied with tears in her eyes that this was my home. To me home is where you spend the most time. It's a place where you feel comfortable, a place where you feel safe.
Pretty much how I think every college student at some point thinks about... "home" but, this is the only video so far that I've come across talking about it.
a lot of people say like "home is when i'm with the people that love me" type of stuff, but i think that you can have like current and past homes (if that makes sense). for example, as a kid, your house or whatever was your home because that was a constant in your life and was prevalent to you growing up. but when we all grow up, we change places. you said we have many homes, but I view it as some homes are now, while others served their purpose in the past.
Home is with my family. Whenever I'm with my parents and brother, I feel like wherever we are at that time is homey. When I go to my physical house when I'm on break from school, I go to see my family and sleep in my bed and play with my animals. I don't go because it has things that where I go to school just doesn't offer or because it's a geographically superior place. I just like that I feel comfortable with my family and wherever they are, I'm home.
I nearly did a spit take when you said you were from St.Louis! xD I'm in the same boat as you, born and raised in the suburbs of St.Louis, and (for me) in two years time will be moving to college. I love St.Louis and all, but it's not a place I would like to live in forever. By the way, do you like Imo's? :D
I view home as a place of familiarity and comfort. I think of the actual region I live in as home more than the city I reside in. Growing up since I was forced to go outside of my home town, at times as far as Toronto and Buffalo, which have that home-y feeling for me. I also lived in Ottawa for a year so I also consider that home. And my dad's family all live in New Brunswick which is another place I consider home. In essential I think being "of many homes" is a great way to put it.
@L2Vkathleen I agree. For instance, I grew up in a large suburb, but for school I've moved into the city. When I go back into the suburbs where you're two minutes from a cornfeild, I'm more comfortable than at any point when I'm in the busy, cramped city. More 'country' regions are home to me.
I've only ever lived in one place, which I consider my home. I have visited other places to see family, which I could make a home. I spend five-ish hours a day at a pool, which I would definitely consider to be one of the places I feel most comfortable, love the most, can wear pajama pants to, etc. I have some friend's houses which I wish I could consider home, but I don't go there often enough. Lastly, as a wanna-be humanitarian I wish everywhere to be my home. MORE HOMES!
cool! this video is kinda sorta related to my comment on your last video. i want to thank you kassie for taking the time to read and reflect on what your viewers post :)
i have a personal definition of home, but I'm not sure whether or not it's acceptable to get personal in a youtube video's comment section.
I think the concept of your "true self" is incredibly interesting. I naturally change my personality and the way I behave according to the situations such as who I'm with or the mood I'm in. But its not like I'm making a concious effort to do these things so therefore I'm still being me. Thus couldn't it be that the true me is a transient ever changing entity? That I am not one fixed thing but all of the various things I change into? Its an incredibly interesting concept that I love to explore.
@basilcake I agree. Aren't humans cool? We think about how we act. We're self-reflecting animals. Ppppppggggssshhoooooow! (that's the sound of my brain exploding)
I grew up in Washington state, and still live there. I love my family and friends, but I don't feel like I fit in here at all. So, I don't know where my home is. But I picture it as a place that I feel like I belong.
My parents are split up, and so when I'm with my mum I feel like I'm at home, but when I'm with dad I don't. It could be the fact that I don't stay at my dad's often (every second weekend and a week every 6 months), or it could be the fact that I'm close with my mum and my step-dad and I'm not close with my dad and I hate his girlfriend. I've lived in 10+ houses over 3 states (I'm Australian, so I live in Australia) and the current town my dad lives in, doesn't feel like home. I don't know.
Ahhhh this is great! Of course my take on this (my lame, completely unoriginal thought) is that "home is where the heart is", which I mean, is everywhere and has almost been embedded into me, but, yeah I don't know where this is going. Also, your hair. Your hair is fantastic.
I guess I'm trying to say that I have many homes and each one is different and special to me. That I feel a sense of home while talking a trip in my mom's old are as much as I do in my bedroom or Grandma's house. I can't say that there's any one home for me because Home isn't really one place, but many different ones that serve different functions for me.
I mostly grew up in a small town in southern Texas, but over the years I've lived in North Carolina, Virginia, and now Florida. Each time I moved and became settled, I thought of that new place as Home, but I also still felt a sense of returning and belonging each time I went to visit in Texas. My set of internet friends and I also have this massive chat that is always kept open and is sort of a gathering place for everything from any big news to be shared, or even boredom.
I've never personally thought of "home" as a place. I'm sure you're familiar with the popular line of "making this house a home", though I don't know where it originates. In the line I mentioned, houses and buildings and even playgrounds could be considered "homes" so long as the proper care or surroundings are provided. I've always thought of home as the people I talk to and whatever consumes most of my activity. So I guess the internet is, in a way, my home. And what a wonderful place it is.
Home is definitely a fluid concept or idea. I have lived in the same city my whole life, moving for the first time a few months ago. I didn't have any problem moving since I grew up going to school in the area, my friends live in the area, and all other activities seem to revolve around this area of town for me. Our new home is much bigger, more comfortable, and the perfect match for the family. Home is certainly wherever I feel comfortable and at peace.
this is exactly how i felt when i moved away from "home" last fall. i remember i was on the phone with my mom and i told her i was almost "home" and she got way confused thinking i was talking about her address when really i was talking about my apartment. home is just as fluid to me as you were saying it is.
I am only 19 but I've moved over 22 times literally
all over America from NH to MT to HI, AR, WA, CA, VT and OR.
(my mom used to own her own company that she ran from the computer and we moved when ever we got bored with a specific town)
I never grew up in one town or one school my home was constently changing but that didn't make it seem less like a home. I don't have a permanent home and i never have, i only have a current home.
it was interesting to hear your point of view on this
For me, home isn't really a place. My home is being with my closest friends doing stuff we've always done or reading my favorite book. To me, all those things are my homes
I love this idea. Last year I moved to uni and I found it harder than I expected, and I hated people telling me that I'd moved out of home because I didn't want to lose my family home. But I think now I shall just have both :)
In the past nine months I have lived in four cities with four very different roomate situations and have calls each of them home in turn. I hadn't thought about it much until watching your video I realized my definition of home is a little more fluid than what others might be. Home is where you want to be. Not far off from the cheesy "home is where the heart is" unfortunately. Home is where my next contract takes me, because I love my work and home is where my family is because I love them.
I've lived in two places since my parents separated at 8 and though if I think about the buildings themselves my first house that I have never fully moved out of yet is definitely home, but if I think about the parent that I'm close to and that I've gradually been spending more time in, then the apartment where I half-moved at 8 is home. But, like you said, I totally think it's as fluid as you want. To me, sometimes reading a Harry Potter book on the bus is home. :) DFTBA
it's strange because for most of my childhood i lived in Anaheim, but now I've been living in a small town for years now and every time i go visit my friends from Anaheim, i feel that this small town is my home and Anaheim is just memory lane...
I've been thinking about this because of this: "My home is in my shoes. Everything (they know) is eternally in transit" -The Female Man by Joanna Russ
I think (or would like to) that I am my own home, wherever I am if I am comfortable with myself then I am home. Thing is I don't think the "self" as a static and definite thing, many things form and change us (people, experiences in places, books, etc.) and they become or feel part of our home: part of ourselves. We are not simple individuals...
between being born and being aged 16 i lived in about 11 different houses between my divorced parents so the idea of "home" is quite fluid with me. when talking to my dad and i say home i mean his house, if i talk to my mum it means her house. even when im out in the city where my closest friends live if im staying in their flat i say "shall we go home now?" not "shall we go back to your flat now?" i think, like you, im going to find many homes all over the place. im already pretty good at it :)
somewhat related, but I never feel like I have a country that I am "from". My parents are British and I was born and raised in Australia, so here I identify myself as British, because I am so much more British than anyone else. But, whenever I go to the UK, I am always Australian, and noticeably so. The cultures seem similar from the outside, but, I don't know, it just seems like I never have a real nationality.
I love this video! I've not once moved house, but I feel like I have several homes 'cause all my friends and family, and even my family of friends make me feel like their home is mine. I literally feel at home wherever I am, so this idea could definitely work for me.
Very, very good idea! Make as many homes as possible. I want to have plenty of places to be able to call "home" when I'm older, not just where I am living at the time, or my parents' house or whatever. Oh, and the internet definitely counts as another home! :)
I have moved six times in the past 5 years, plus my parents are divorced and remarried and on opposite sides of the country so its like I have two famillies. And with the frequency that I stay at my grandparents house, home is pretty much wherever I go to bed at that night.
what are the qualifications of a home? when does a house become a home? is there a certain period of time or specific events that should happen? i've only had one home in my 19 years of existence im curious.:)
I am home wherever I go, no single place nor sum of people can make somewhere home for me, I am comfortable in any setting, from the beaches, the mountains or the bush, to the city or the streets, I am always home.
Living on the streets and in the bush has changed how I see "home" it's not a place and it's not even people, home is an idea and ideas you can take with you and plant in others.
Home is everywhere.
This small blue planet is my home, and that's the way I like it.
I feel like the internet and its communities really define home for me. Whenever I'm in a different place--whether its a hotel room or new house--I can just open my laptop. It probably sounds terrible, but I likely spend much more time interacting with YouTube friends than with relatives and such. I think my niche on this website defines my "home" a lot more than the walls I'm currently surrounded by.
As a military brat, my family has to move every couple of years. I'm fifteen and have already lived in eight places, both in and out of country. My extended family is always far away, and my friends can be found scattered like dandelion seeds when wished upon. The thing is, each of my homes is dynamic and unique, but still entirely familiar and beloved. I would absolutely recommend collecting as many homes as possible, since it literally broadens your horizons. Homes. Holmes. Sherlock. Sherlock!
Definitely in the process of making my current apartment a home, putting up posters and making it pretty, but that all becomes really weird when I think of how in three months I'm not going to live here anymore. Also I live in the same city that I grew up in though my little brother took my old room in my parent's house. I don't really have much of a concrete home anywhere anymore.
I'm only 16 so at the moment i only have one home. However i feel 'at home' in many places around the world, including New York where I have spent a lot of time and when i go back there i very much feel as though i'm going home. Home is a strange concept.
My home is very similar to yours. I was born and raised in a tiny town north of Dallas, TX. Lived there for the first 20 years of my life until I transferred to the University of Minnesota, (AKA: the arctic. Brr!). I have since been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a house and a dog. So... while I will always call Denison, TX my home because it is where I my family is, home is now also here in MN with my dog and boyfriend. I believe we can have many homes and that's just fine. :)
Since I started uni 3,5 years ago I've moved 8 times. Mostly within same city or back to my parents' house (for like a month).. At some point I ended up in 2 awful cities (4 months in total) and I hated it, and unlike I did during the 2 previous years I started referring to my parents' house as 'home' again. Almost 3 weeks ago I moved to another country (UK) but everything around me already feels like home. Home is a strange concept that depends on many different factors. Mostly feelings though.
Home is where the heart is. [laughter at cheesy line here]. But I agree with you, I want to have a home wherever it is I go. Or at least the feeling. Traveling that way sounds amazing.
"Home" has changed a lot for me. When my parents got divorced, home became two places, and one was constantly changing when that parent would move. That was hard because I'm one to become easily emotionally attached to places, people, and things.
I don't have a definition for home yet, because I know I'm still looking. Maybe I could make YouTube a home for me. I loved hearing your views and can't wait until the next video! :)
I'm young, I haven't moved anywhere, and I have no definition of anything. But for me, home is where I can feel comfortable and not a place where I feel pressured.
I think of home as more of a figurative place because of the song Home by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros "Home is wherever I'm with you." - Edward Sharpe.
I was born in lower Alabama and I have lived in lower Alabama for my middle and high school career. But I spent my childhood years in Saudi Arabia. It doesn't matter how long I live in lower Alabama, it still feels like Saudi was home. But I think I confuse "where I was the most happy" with "where I call home". I feel like home is where you feel you belong and that can be many places. If you don't feel comfortable and like you have a corner of the world to yourself, it doesn't feel like home.
I completely agree and I'm going to take your plan in life to create many homes-I love it- hope you don't mind. I have personally lived in 6 different homes in different states, and I'm going to college next year so I can add that to my "home" list
For me my home is wherever I am completely comfortable. I moved around a lot when I was a kid so I never really felt like I had a 'home' but then as I got older I just realized it was wherever I was comfortable. Home to me is my school music wing, my house, my friends houses, my sisters car, and everywhere else that there are people I love. It's not really the place but the people for me. People is what makes a place a home.
I was thinking about this a lot a few months ago. I'm still a senior in high school, so currently living in my childhood "home" but during this past summer I lived at a camp a few hours away for 10 weeks, being a camp counselor. Every few weeks I came home for a day or two, and it really struck me each time that it felt a little less like "home". I think it had a lot to do with the fact that instead of telling me to put my stuff away, my mom would be all eager to make my favorite food... weird.
I'm 15, so I still live at 'home'. Something I find really interesting about the concept of home is tht some languages don't actually have a separate word for 'house' and 'home' (ie Spanish) but in English it is very important word...
For the longest time my local library was my home. I was there almost everyday for hours and hours. My mom once asked me if we moved what I would miss the most and I told her the library. It wasn't just the people that I had become friends with but also the books that I read. They became extensions of the library a piece I could bring home but one that would always take me back (If that makes any sense).
My siblings and I have all moved away from our parents' house and so my childhood home is becoming more of a memory than a physical place. When I was in Maryland last month and my siblings weren't there, it just wasn't home. It's always weird to have my sister leave family dinners to "go home" or to ask my brother if he's coming to dinner at "Mom and Dad's." I would say my "home" is in transition - Baltimore doesn't feel quite right anymore, England is still new but definitely becoming a home.
i call home the town i study in and live in at the moment, which is Cluj, Romania..but i was born in Satu Mare.strangely i never really considered the town i was born in my home..i actually thought of my grandparent's house( which is again in another completely different city) as my home because of all the happy childhood memories and the friends i had there..i still don't feel like i'm home though..for me it's a refuge, a place that you can identify with..so i guess i'm still searching.
I consider home to be the places I feel most comfortable. My house is my home, but the town I grew up in isn't. (I HATED that town. Still do.) Now, I consider college (and my dorm) to be my home because I am just the happiest of happies here and I feel very comfortable here. I was in London last semester, but that never really felt like home to me. I think it might have become a home if I'd been there longer, but 1 term wasn't enough to make me feel totally comfortable with the city.
I still class Cornwall, England as my home, even though I haven't lived there for 8 years. All my family are down there (excluding parents, and siblings) but whenever I go on holiday I refer to the timeshare/hotel as "home."
I moved to Wales from England when I was 7 and I see my house in Wales as my 'home', but when I go to uni, I've only ever wanted to go back to England... just because it feels 'right'. I suppose that England is my kind of home.
Do you enjoy/mind doing things alone in Boston? I've lived in the same house my whole life, and since I'm not in college yet, my home is my current one which houses my family and such. And I think home is wherever you're most comfortable-ATM it's definitely my house.
I grew up from birth to age 7 in The West, then moved to where I currently live in the Midwest, having lived here for almost 10 years. All my friends live here, I go to school here, my room is here. But whenever I go back to Colorado, I still feel as though I'm going home, and when I leave, I also feel like I'm going home, but at the same time leaving it. I also lived on the East Coast for a year, and that never felt like home at all. So I understand your plight; its hard to quantify "home"
These days, I call my college home. When I'm in the house that my immediate blood-related family lives in (that's another fluid concept - family), I usually have to edit my speech. I'll want to say, "I want to go back home," and I actually say, "I want to go back to college." For some reason, I feel like my family would be insulted if I didn't call the house home. Not sure if they actually would, though... :/
This is a really interesting question. I think that "home" lives in a series of tensions. Home must be somewhere you feel included, but not smothered. Wanted, yet not pivotal. Happy, yet not in a contrived way. Challenged, but yet capable. A place that you want to be, but not exclusively. When we let "home" fall out of balance, it can seem like our entire lives are out of balance. We can let a "home" become so intertwined with our knowledge of self that we loose ourselves in a bad way.
...vital part of our lives. Like last week I can't remember how many time I said "Oh my, I really don't want to be homeless next year". But really I would not be homeless because I have so many other real "homes" else where in the world. After all that rant I think I kind of come to the conclusion I can't really define it, its just is. :) (that took way to many characters lol)
I just signed a lease for my first apartment it feels even less like home here because that place will be come my new home. There are also other places from my childhood (such as my grandparents house, or my brothers house) that I could also call home just as easly some times. The word is so vague, but so important I think that vagueness is what also it to be what it is to each person. It lets us stretch it out to mean so many place and things. It also it to became a ... (con't in next comment)
No pants no problem, I agree. But yeah I really get what you are saying. When I go 'home', to the house were my parents live, it feels so good and its a place where I can relive those part of my life (ie childhood, and highschool friends) . But when I come back to school, which I also now refer to as 'home' I find my self happy to be a place where i can be a new person and my life continues to go forward (not back into those other parts of my life). And now that... (con't in next comment)
"Home" for me is confusing. I was born in japan, grew up in Pennsylvania, the summer after my senior year of high school (last summer) my parents/family (i'm not sure if I should ever say "we moved" or "my parents moved") to Maryland, but I go to college in Pennsylvania. So I am always very confused when people ask me where I'm from.
However, I think "home" is wherever you feel the most comfortable and where you can be alone and not care? Or maybe wherever your legal permanent address is.
Having lived in three different states, I can say that I have struggled with this issue for quiet some time. I completely agree that "home" has a fluid meaning, because I can easily call three different places "home". Of course they are all completely different places, but calling them all "home" does not mean that I prefer one over the other. Home is where you feel comfortable and accepted.
I think home is place where you feel safe. Not only safe from physical harm but also safe from judgement, pressure, and the myriad other forces in the universe that try to erode our minds. For me "home" is a place I can return to, breath a sigh of relief, and let go of all the baggage I have to carry around on my shoulders all day. Of course sometimes you still have to deal with that baggage even while you are home but somehow it feels more surmountable.
I like referring to where I go to university (Liverpool, UK) as home because I was very "yay! change! different experience!" when I left my little rural village.
But I think a good life aim would be to have many places around the globe where I feel at home and have close friends. Being into travel and such, and wanting to meet as many different people as possible.
Because part of it is the feeling of belonging when you return.
I think you can have a lot of homes, and you can feel a new place is your new home even if you haven´t being there for a long time. I hated highschool, and I never felt confortable there, I don´t feel like home; but just a week after I started university, It felt like home. And also, I was a staff member in a camp, that was only for kids with parents that work in BBVA , and before that, I atended that camp for 7 years. I know it´s silly, but everytime I enter that cold bank, i feel like home :)
Thank you! Whenever you meet someone, I hate when they ask "where are you from"? I've moved three times since I was born and most of my family has never even lived in the same state as me! So home is not really a place...I think home for me is more the people I'm with. So, say, if I'm with my best friend and we're on top of the Sears Tower, then dammit, home is the top of the Sears Tower!
Even though I'm in college I still live with my parents in the suburban house I grew up in, so that's my home. I'm better at confusing people on what college I go to because I go to two colleges at the same time. Ones a community college like 13 minutes from my house and the others a state college in the city.
Regarding 'home': I still have dreams that take place at 'home', but it's the home I lived in 8 years ago, not the home I currently live in. So there's that funky tidbit of brain function
I feel like, as soon as you leave your heart with someone or something, you have created a home. Therefore, as long as someone or something you love is somewhere other than where you are currently residing, many homes will always be had. Ya know?
I'm glad you made this video; I've been thinking a lot about home lately. Up til I was 18, I lived with my parents, so that was home, end of story. Then I moved to another country for four months. That was most definitely not home. So I came back, and now it feels like I'm a temporary. It's still home but no longer concrete. In eight months I'll be going to university, so moving out again. Then who knows where I'll end up living. For me, home is no longer house, home is people I love. Yep.
...and i have a residence on earth. and friends houses that are like home to me. my job feels homey. but even in all these places, home is just... where i am. it can't be my home without me. home is where my heart is. or something else cliche that maybe once oozed profundity.
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the place i reside in most often is probably of a "third space" variety, as mentioned in tfios. (we've all read that by now, right? i'm not spoiling anything? not that "third space" is this massive spoiler. the specific verbiage surrounding the idea is original, whereas the idea itself is not.)
i don't know that i can define my third space too precisely. sometimes i'm staying in my head, other times it's how i refer to my life on the internet with friends. i also live in past and future...
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I almost made this exact video like a month ago when I came back to college. But then you made it, and said it way better than I could have. Basically, I agree completely.
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Home is anywhere I can walk in, say hello, and then take food from the fridge comfortably.
allhailskippy 3 weeks ago
i like when videos make me think, so thank you for that. i feel that home, for me, is familiarity with my surroundings. i live almost slap bang in the middle of glasgow and edinburgh. in the sense that they are both easily accessible and approximately the same distance away from me. and i feel so lost when i'm away from both these cities. i think home is also, most importantly, where my bed is =)
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I really like escibs' comment, which brings me to the idea that home is embodied in a series of moments, but the home-moments are the ones in which you feel things that you want to remember. A 'place' in which you want to be, but not in the sense of place like the grocery store or mcdonald's but more specific, like a setting, like Sunday, in the park, with George. OR backstage on a couch of questionable sanitation, with people you don't see anymore, eating cold and even more questionable foods.
alexsewsthings 1 month ago
Home are the places where I feel safe and at peace (most of the time). Places that I think that I can return to and always feel welcome. Which is why I have several homes:
- my parant's house in the town where I grew up
- my own apartment in the city where I live and study
- the house where our student corps is residing
- the house of my best friend's parents.
(And this is without even mentioning for example the Internet, Hogwarts and Green Gables)
Kiranja 1 month ago
home for me is the place where I've spent the last 19 years (my current home). I've been thinking about the concept of what home would be like if I wasn't here. It's hard to think about it because I've been here for so long. Things need to change and I want to make it happen soon.
Voldey 1 month ago
I often struggle with this, I say 'home' is where my parents live and i grew up. but when im out in the city i live in now i say " lets go home" but i dont mean "home" as in my parents i mean "home" as in the home i made here :) and when I do go to my parents 'home' I cant wait to get back to my 'home" uhg, life
MissPrincessSarah 1 month ago
as i go threw living my life and learning who i really am down to my core hopefully i figure out what home is for me and what it means to me p.s. i hope i didn't waste your time with my comments also hope you had a good day
brandonstevens37 1 month ago
i don't feel like i have a real home yet or really figured out what the true defenition of home is and what means to me yet
brandonstevens37 1 month ago
A home is a place where you feel comfortable; whether this be your actual home, dorm room, school, work, gym, art studio, etc. Any place in which you feel that you can be yourself could be considered home.
ADailyDoseOfJoy 1 month ago
When you said 'born there rasied there' I thought you were gonna start singing the Fresh Prince of Bel Air theme
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....two different periods of my life, but they aren't by any means the same home both times, simply because I was at different places in my life. So essentially, what I think I'm getting at is that every place you live and consider your home is your home, but only the place that you are currently in is your true home for that period of your life. I'm not sure if that makes sense or not, but it's my own little reasoning.
ewasre18 1 month ago
I think we can have many homes through out our lives, for instance I've had homes in Kentucky, Indiana, St Louis, England, and New Jersey but as of right now, New Jersey is my home because that's where I currently am at. All of the other places are still home to me; I still feel comfortable in those places, but they will have inevitably changed since I've last been there, so they won't really be the home that I remember. I've lived in the same house in StL at...
ewasre18 1 month ago
I think there may be a fine line between home and a place we personally feel comfortable.
kitkatthecool 1 month ago
Super high quality :] This is the Kassie I subscribed to (though I love your silly videos too!) I think of home as Minneapolis, the city I grew up next to, and the city I went to college in. It's not just areas though, it's the people who go with those areas. The suburbs are where my family lives, North East is where my boyfriend lives. Cedar/Riverside is where I went to school. And I'm really enjoying watching those areas expand and connect.
betsyismadeofawesome 1 month ago
I often feel confused about the word home. I lived on the couches of three different friends this summer and I would immediately feel at home wherever my couch was.
I'm from Pennsylvania, but I live in New York, and I refer to both as home interchangeably.
KaiGuent 1 month ago
I hate to bring up this overused idiom "home is where the heart is" (ugh sorry!) but it's a little true, the catch being many people's hearts lie in many places. The song "home" says "home is wherever I'm with you". Similarly, I think a home doesn't necessarily have to be a place. i feel at home with certain people. i feel at home onstage. i feel at home on youtube. and its because these things all have a part of my heart (i tried to make this as not corny as possible!)
kaysyconundrum 1 month ago
I completely agree, I've grown up having 4 'homes' :) It's a bit annoying cuz I'm almost always missing at least one of my homes! haha But it's nice as well. I was born in Switzerland and lived there for 8 years so naturally that's my first 'home'. Then moved to Iran for about 7 years, then lived in Austria (where my mum's side of the family are from) for 3 years and now live in England. I love all 4 countries and miss certain things about each of them now that I'm in England.
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I'm in college as well, and I've often felt that I have a "home" I was born into (the town I've always lived in, my family, the friends I made because they were the kids always around to hang out with, etc.) and I also have a "home" that I created (my school and friends at school, etc. which/whom I chose for myself). I don't feel that either one is more of a home, but more that they have different dynamics and I like them for different reasons.
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shrubfriend 1 month ago
So much truth.
WelllWhatCanISay 1 month ago
I've lived in the same place all of my life so you'd think that home would just be my house, but in a way my town is my home and my school is my home and my friends I have here is my home. Seems to be things you've had for so long it becomes normal and you almost start to take it for granted. I know some people that were born in a different country for example but moved as a baby or very young child yet they still call their birth place home which I don't really get :L
heyaitsemma 1 month ago
I just got back from a year overseas, six months of which I lived in Seattle as a study abroad student. While I was there, I could say that Seattle was home for me. But if moved back there tomorrow, it wouldn't be the same, because most of the people who made my Seattle experience what it was are gone (they were other exchange students). Sure, I'd settle in again and make new friends and feel at home, but it wouldn't be the same home, even though it's the same city. Make sense?
escibs 1 month ago 4
@escibs That is a beautiful and perfect explanation. I wish I had delved into that. Awesomely phrased. xD
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@escibs I feel exactly the same. I actually spent a year at UW a few years back, and went back to visit for the first time this past November and it was HORRIBLE. I stayed with my old roommates, but other than them, I saw maybe one other person. Sure, everyone was busy doing school work and I wasn't, but it wasn't just that. The other international students weren't there, I had no one to see, and so much had changed about the city, but at the same time nothing had. Going back is hard.
ellafantile 1 month ago
@ellafantile That's what I imagine returning would be like. But cities change, I guess. Even returning to Perth a couple of months ago was weird - I felt really out of the loop. And exactly the same as what you said - that so much had changed, but nothing had. I think maybe because I changed so much on the inside that I was seeing the city through new eyes, although there were no major differences.
escibs 1 month ago
i don't have an innate purpose to toast bread?! you've just invalidated my existence
SharkeyeJones 1 month ago
Some travelers are gone for such a long time that they don't feel like they're home anywhere.
TorinoAndGriffith 1 month ago
Ok so my friend Hannah and I (I think you know her you both go to the same school!...) were talking about this a few weeks ago. I was saying how it's strange to be in college at first because it doesn't exactly have that home element right away. At least it didn't for me. And when I was there the past semester I referred to home as ct where I'm from -with an occasional slip of "I have to get back home to my dorm". But now being home, going back in two days all I can think is "I need to be back
creativebean 1 month ago
My home is st louis area, too... Until I go to college which I hope I can make a home, too, like you said.
mmxmmee 1 month ago
You always make so much sense.
themusicalnomad 1 month ago
Sometimes I feel more "at home" when I not even home, and I have lived in the same house all my life. It's more a feeling than a place.
CloveForay 1 month ago
A few years ago I came back from living overseas to the same house I had left. I had never really felt at home overseas, but I didn't feel at home here, either. It's strange an uncomfortable not having any home. But lately, I've developed a lot of homes. There's a lot of places where I can go and feel comfortable, whether in a curl up and relax way, or a have a good time with people I love way. Basically, a familiar place that feels like it's a part of me.
TheElevatorMusician 1 month ago 2
@TheElevatorMusician I can so relate to this.
themusicalnomad 1 month ago
I thought when I was younger that I had two homes, m mums house and my dads house, but now I've moved away to study and live on my own, I realise that really, that's not what defines a home at all, you're totally right! love this video! I miss my home home, but now this is my home as well, I think the people you're with make a huge difference to where you want to be in the world.
ConnieeCoo 1 month ago
Home is a feeling, one that can be had with a familiar face at an unfamiliar place.
sarahjaneysgotagun 1 month ago
kassie's plan: be the doctor.
PhoebeLee24 1 month ago 2
"i'm not going home... not really."
PhoebeLee24 1 month ago
I have been thinking about this a LOT recently. I am a year abroad for university. I spent the first semester missing home so much, missing the people, sounds etc. I came back for Christmas and hated being there. Everything had changed. It was lovely to spend time with the people again but I realised I had somewhat romanticised my experiences of "home". I am now back at university and learning to embrace it more as ANOTHER home. It's working. I'm remembering that "homes" aren't "perfect" either.
lynzeebee 1 month ago
yes yes i loved this!
MissFenderr 1 month ago
Ever since I moved to a different country I've realized that home is where you feel comfortable and can relax without fear of judgment or anything like that. Generally for me it's where I'm surrounded by friends and family I enjoy being with and that anchor me.
Also, serious question: Why are vloggers so into not wearing pants?
dftbageff 1 month ago
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Oh, hommme, let me come hommme. Home is wherever I'm with youuu. Oh, hommme, let me come ho-o-ommme. Home is whenever I'm with youuu. ♪
thewinekone 1 month ago
Home is wherever my dearest friends are.
LinneaEllenor 1 month ago
HOME IS WHERE THE FUCKIN HEART IS, MUTHAFUCKA!
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lamoose121 1 month ago
In general I think I am more certain of places that aren't home than those that are. I think home is probably a broader concept of you're someone who is quite comfortable with yourself. Or maybe because there are more places where people are comfortable with you. I think I probably need to sit and think about this, but sadly I have to go to work, a place that most certainly is not home. (I hope.)
iliveinmyhead 1 month ago
I don't count my house as a home. I think that the library and certain trees and hugs from my mates Ben and Amy are more 'home' to me than everywhere else. The feelings of peace and calm and safety that come with these things is better than anything else. (not that I don't feel the same at my house, its just not as absolute)
bridgetisadreamer 1 month ago
I find myself saying I'm going home even though I'm really leaving my home and going back to school. I have two homes, neither of which I feel completely comfortable in. School is just going to be uncomfortable I know that, but home like you said I never expected to change and when it did I was left behind. Now I find I'm never truly home any where anymore. But i'm sick of feeling lonely so i'm adapting to this many homes approach as well. Its not saying goodbye, its only saying see you later.
TheJsemp 1 month ago
I moved out 4 months ago and I am yet to be able to call the new place home. I move again next September so hopefully then I'll be able to call that home. To me, home is anywhere you feel comfortable, whether it's your actual house, or a place you just like to be. Somewhere you can fully relax and just be yourself. I hope I find that again soon. But then it's sort of impossible to feel home when your housemates are getting arrested every other week. xD
Laurenbaggy 1 month ago
"Home: A place where you don't have to wear pants." LMAO
melxryan 1 month ago 17
Home for me is drinking lots of tea and watching lord of the rings. Nothing is quite as homely as sitting next to the heater in my pjs with good company swooning over Pippin :p (:
timelordsandwizards 1 month ago
"home" is a place where you tend to spend a lot of time, and usually feel safe and comfortable. whether it is the place you spend time with family, friend's houses, school, work, a box, the shire. anywhere really.
LeahMakesNoSense 1 month ago
I haven't ever cried about leaving/ coming home from college yet, but it breaks my heart when my mom does. It was horrible this Christmas especially since my dad said "when are you going back home?" and my mom replied with tears in her eyes that this was my home. To me home is where you spend the most time. It's a place where you feel comfortable, a place where you feel safe.
iggle07 1 month ago
Pretty much how I think every college student at some point thinks about... "home" but, this is the only video so far that I've come across talking about it.
strengthofwill 1 month ago
a lot of people say like "home is when i'm with the people that love me" type of stuff, but i think that you can have like current and past homes (if that makes sense). for example, as a kid, your house or whatever was your home because that was a constant in your life and was prevalent to you growing up. but when we all grow up, we change places. you said we have many homes, but I view it as some homes are now, while others served their purpose in the past.
cfloster 1 month ago
Home is where the cats are.
ellabooray 1 month ago
@ellabooray Amen.
rosegarden54 1 month ago
My heater broke so I think that until the end of the season, my home should require pants
quirkfulquagmire 1 month ago
Home is with my family. Whenever I'm with my parents and brother, I feel like wherever we are at that time is homey. When I go to my physical house when I'm on break from school, I go to see my family and sleep in my bed and play with my animals. I don't go because it has things that where I go to school just doesn't offer or because it's a geographically superior place. I just like that I feel comfortable with my family and wherever they are, I'm home.
XxXTaylorLaineXxX 1 month ago
I nearly did a spit take when you said you were from St.Louis! xD I'm in the same boat as you, born and raised in the suburbs of St.Louis, and (for me) in two years time will be moving to college. I love St.Louis and all, but it's not a place I would like to live in forever. By the way, do you like Imo's? :D
Himewna 1 month ago
Home is where you can poop.
WayhoRachel 1 month ago
@WayhoRachel Then that is where I grew up, my best friends residence, and Target bathrooms. There's just something about Target...
rosegarden54 1 month ago
I view home as a place of familiarity and comfort. I think of the actual region I live in as home more than the city I reside in. Growing up since I was forced to go outside of my home town, at times as far as Toronto and Buffalo, which have that home-y feeling for me. I also lived in Ottawa for a year so I also consider that home. And my dad's family all live in New Brunswick which is another place I consider home. In essential I think being "of many homes" is a great way to put it.
L2Vkathleen 1 month ago
@L2Vkathleen I agree. For instance, I grew up in a large suburb, but for school I've moved into the city. When I go back into the suburbs where you're two minutes from a cornfeild, I'm more comfortable than at any point when I'm in the busy, cramped city. More 'country' regions are home to me.
rosegarden54 1 month ago
I've only ever lived in one place, which I consider my home. I have visited other places to see family, which I could make a home. I spend five-ish hours a day at a pool, which I would definitely consider to be one of the places I feel most comfortable, love the most, can wear pajama pants to, etc. I have some friend's houses which I wish I could consider home, but I don't go there often enough. Lastly, as a wanna-be humanitarian I wish everywhere to be my home. MORE HOMES!
btw <3 your hair!
lidiluvu 1 month ago
cool! this video is kinda sorta related to my comment on your last video. i want to thank you kassie for taking the time to read and reflect on what your viewers post :)
i have a personal definition of home, but I'm not sure whether or not it's acceptable to get personal in a youtube video's comment section.
mdsq36 1 month ago
I think the concept of your "true self" is incredibly interesting. I naturally change my personality and the way I behave according to the situations such as who I'm with or the mood I'm in. But its not like I'm making a concious effort to do these things so therefore I'm still being me. Thus couldn't it be that the true me is a transient ever changing entity? That I am not one fixed thing but all of the various things I change into? Its an incredibly interesting concept that I love to explore.
basilcake 1 month ago
@basilcake I agree. Aren't humans cool? We think about how we act. We're self-reflecting animals. Ppppppggggssshhoooooow! (that's the sound of my brain exploding)
rosegarden54 1 month ago
I grew up in Washington state, and still live there. I love my family and friends, but I don't feel like I fit in here at all. So, I don't know where my home is. But I picture it as a place that I feel like I belong.
KelseyMerrie 1 month ago
My parents are split up, and so when I'm with my mum I feel like I'm at home, but when I'm with dad I don't. It could be the fact that I don't stay at my dad's often (every second weekend and a week every 6 months), or it could be the fact that I'm close with my mum and my step-dad and I'm not close with my dad and I hate his girlfriend. I've lived in 10+ houses over 3 states (I'm Australian, so I live in Australia) and the current town my dad lives in, doesn't feel like home. I don't know.
momolove69 1 month ago
Ahhhh this is great! Of course my take on this (my lame, completely unoriginal thought) is that "home is where the heart is", which I mean, is everywhere and has almost been embedded into me, but, yeah I don't know where this is going. Also, your hair. Your hair is fantastic.
asleepyocean 1 month ago
I guess I'm trying to say that I have many homes and each one is different and special to me. That I feel a sense of home while talking a trip in my mom's old are as much as I do in my bedroom or Grandma's house. I can't say that there's any one home for me because Home isn't really one place, but many different ones that serve different functions for me.
iamlordkimmiemort 1 month ago
I mostly grew up in a small town in southern Texas, but over the years I've lived in North Carolina, Virginia, and now Florida. Each time I moved and became settled, I thought of that new place as Home, but I also still felt a sense of returning and belonging each time I went to visit in Texas. My set of internet friends and I also have this massive chat that is always kept open and is sort of a gathering place for everything from any big news to be shared, or even boredom.
iamlordkimmiemort 1 month ago
I've never personally thought of "home" as a place. I'm sure you're familiar with the popular line of "making this house a home", though I don't know where it originates. In the line I mentioned, houses and buildings and even playgrounds could be considered "homes" so long as the proper care or surroundings are provided. I've always thought of home as the people I talk to and whatever consumes most of my activity. So I guess the internet is, in a way, my home. And what a wonderful place it is.
torchick163 1 month ago
So why does "Home" have to be a specific place anyway?
astr0al3x 1 month ago
Home is definitely a fluid concept or idea. I have lived in the same city my whole life, moving for the first time a few months ago. I didn't have any problem moving since I grew up going to school in the area, my friends live in the area, and all other activities seem to revolve around this area of town for me. Our new home is much bigger, more comfortable, and the perfect match for the family. Home is certainly wherever I feel comfortable and at peace.
shaylaluna 1 month ago
can i literally steal everything that you just said and use it as an audition monologue? its so interesting and humorous!
ninaninanina5 1 month ago
Home is where you feel safe and comfortable and happy. c:
luv2sing245 1 month ago
this is exactly how i felt when i moved away from "home" last fall. i remember i was on the phone with my mom and i told her i was almost "home" and she got way confused thinking i was talking about her address when really i was talking about my apartment. home is just as fluid to me as you were saying it is.
thecolormaria 1 month ago
I am only 19 but I've moved over 22 times literally
all over America from NH to MT to HI, AR, WA, CA, VT and OR.
(my mom used to own her own company that she ran from the computer and we moved when ever we got bored with a specific town)
I never grew up in one town or one school my home was constently changing but that didn't make it seem less like a home. I don't have a permanent home and i never have, i only have a current home.
it was interesting to hear your point of view on this
thanks
Giascreen 1 month ago
For me, home isn't really a place. My home is being with my closest friends doing stuff we've always done or reading my favorite book. To me, all those things are my homes
owchihurtmyself 1 month ago
I love this idea. Last year I moved to uni and I found it harder than I expected, and I hated people telling me that I'd moved out of home because I didn't want to lose my family home. But I think now I shall just have both :)
6impossiblethings 1 month ago
In the past nine months I have lived in four cities with four very different roomate situations and have calls each of them home in turn. I hadn't thought about it much until watching your video I realized my definition of home is a little more fluid than what others might be. Home is where you want to be. Not far off from the cheesy "home is where the heart is" unfortunately. Home is where my next contract takes me, because I love my work and home is where my family is because I love them.
curatoriallycurious 1 month ago
So many sirens....
42mada 1 month ago
"home is where your rump rests"
kailinahistory8 1 month ago
I've lived in two places since my parents separated at 8 and though if I think about the buildings themselves my first house that I have never fully moved out of yet is definitely home, but if I think about the parent that I'm close to and that I've gradually been spending more time in, then the apartment where I half-moved at 8 is home. But, like you said, I totally think it's as fluid as you want. To me, sometimes reading a Harry Potter book on the bus is home. :) DFTBA
ntcssj 1 month ago
it's strange because for most of my childhood i lived in Anaheim, but now I've been living in a small town for years now and every time i go visit my friends from Anaheim, i feel that this small town is my home and Anaheim is just memory lane...
dandelionsarecool 1 month ago
Home is anywhere in Canada.
cherrycheekss 1 month ago 2
Home is best defined by watching In the Heights. :)
Thestralsxxx 1 month ago
@Thestralsxxx post script: deism! I'm excited
Thestralsxxx 1 month ago
Home is where you feel safe.
LiverpoolLights 1 month ago
I've been thinking about this because of this: "My home is in my shoes. Everything (they know) is eternally in transit" -The Female Man by Joanna Russ
I think (or would like to) that I am my own home, wherever I am if I am comfortable with myself then I am home. Thing is I don't think the "self" as a static and definite thing, many things form and change us (people, experiences in places, books, etc.) and they become or feel part of our home: part of ourselves. We are not simple individuals...
niminonono 1 month ago
between being born and being aged 16 i lived in about 11 different houses between my divorced parents so the idea of "home" is quite fluid with me. when talking to my dad and i say home i mean his house, if i talk to my mum it means her house. even when im out in the city where my closest friends live if im staying in their flat i say "shall we go home now?" not "shall we go back to your flat now?" i think, like you, im going to find many homes all over the place. im already pretty good at it :)
jessyHEARTLESS 1 month ago
somewhat related, but I never feel like I have a country that I am "from". My parents are British and I was born and raised in Australia, so here I identify myself as British, because I am so much more British than anyone else. But, whenever I go to the UK, I am always Australian, and noticeably so. The cultures seem similar from the outside, but, I don't know, it just seems like I never have a real nationality.
zoeatrics 1 month ago
I love this video! I've not once moved house, but I feel like I have several homes 'cause all my friends and family, and even my family of friends make me feel like their home is mine. I literally feel at home wherever I am, so this idea could definitely work for me.
MeganSmithOfficial 1 month ago
Very, very good idea! Make as many homes as possible. I want to have plenty of places to be able to call "home" when I'm older, not just where I am living at the time, or my parents' house or whatever. Oh, and the internet definitely counts as another home! :)
amyevekeegan 1 month ago
I have moved six times in the past 5 years, plus my parents are divorced and remarried and on opposite sides of the country so its like I have two famillies. And with the frequency that I stay at my grandparents house, home is pretty much wherever I go to bed at that night.
TheParadoxSocks 1 month ago
what are the qualifications of a home? when does a house become a home? is there a certain period of time or specific events that should happen? i've only had one home in my 19 years of existence im curious.:)
PURPLEmonsterSAM 1 month ago
I am home wherever I go, no single place nor sum of people can make somewhere home for me, I am comfortable in any setting, from the beaches, the mountains or the bush, to the city or the streets, I am always home.
Living on the streets and in the bush has changed how I see "home" it's not a place and it's not even people, home is an idea and ideas you can take with you and plant in others.
Home is everywhere.
This small blue planet is my home, and that's the way I like it.
centreofdauniverse 1 month ago
I feel like the internet and its communities really define home for me. Whenever I'm in a different place--whether its a hotel room or new house--I can just open my laptop. It probably sounds terrible, but I likely spend much more time interacting with YouTube friends than with relatives and such. I think my niche on this website defines my "home" a lot more than the walls I'm currently surrounded by.
CallForgotten 1 month ago
As a military brat, my family has to move every couple of years. I'm fifteen and have already lived in eight places, both in and out of country. My extended family is always far away, and my friends can be found scattered like dandelion seeds when wished upon. The thing is, each of my homes is dynamic and unique, but still entirely familiar and beloved. I would absolutely recommend collecting as many homes as possible, since it literally broadens your horizons. Homes. Holmes. Sherlock. Sherlock!
RancidAppleProducts 1 month ago
Definitely in the process of making my current apartment a home, putting up posters and making it pretty, but that all becomes really weird when I think of how in three months I'm not going to live here anymore. Also I live in the same city that I grew up in though my little brother took my old room in my parent's house. I don't really have much of a concrete home anywhere anymore.
Buckminsterblk 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I want to travel when I'm older so I have many homes.
Sondosiala 1 month ago
I'm only 16 so at the moment i only have one home. However i feel 'at home' in many places around the world, including New York where I have spent a lot of time and when i go back there i very much feel as though i'm going home. Home is a strange concept.
daisymayboo 1 month ago
My home is very similar to yours. I was born and raised in a tiny town north of Dallas, TX. Lived there for the first 20 years of my life until I transferred to the University of Minnesota, (AKA: the arctic. Brr!). I have since been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a house and a dog. So... while I will always call Denison, TX my home because it is where I my family is, home is now also here in MN with my dog and boyfriend. I believe we can have many homes and that's just fine. :)
KacieGalyon 1 month ago
Since I started uni 3,5 years ago I've moved 8 times. Mostly within same city or back to my parents' house (for like a month).. At some point I ended up in 2 awful cities (4 months in total) and I hated it, and unlike I did during the 2 previous years I started referring to my parents' house as 'home' again. Almost 3 weeks ago I moved to another country (UK) but everything around me already feels like home. Home is a strange concept that depends on many different factors. Mostly feelings though.
Daph909 1 month ago
Home is where the heart is. [laughter at cheesy line here]. But I agree with you, I want to have a home wherever it is I go. Or at least the feeling. Traveling that way sounds amazing.
itsapearproductions 1 month ago
0:58 to 1:18 is the greatest analogy ever.
"Home" has changed a lot for me. When my parents got divorced, home became two places, and one was constantly changing when that parent would move. That was hard because I'm one to become easily emotionally attached to places, people, and things.
I don't have a definition for home yet, because I know I'm still looking. Maybe I could make YouTube a home for me. I loved hearing your views and can't wait until the next video! :)
togetherinthisworld 1 month ago
I'm young, I haven't moved anywhere, and I have no definition of anything. But for me, home is where I can feel comfortable and not a place where I feel pressured.
completeidiot19 1 month ago
I think of home as more of a figurative place because of the song Home by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros "Home is wherever I'm with you." - Edward Sharpe.
jcali96 1 month ago
It's wherever I'm sleeping or keeping my computer.
ammiella 1 month ago
I was born in lower Alabama and I have lived in lower Alabama for my middle and high school career. But I spent my childhood years in Saudi Arabia. It doesn't matter how long I live in lower Alabama, it still feels like Saudi was home. But I think I confuse "where I was the most happy" with "where I call home". I feel like home is where you feel you belong and that can be many places. If you don't feel comfortable and like you have a corner of the world to yourself, it doesn't feel like home.
Brodie1238 1 month ago 2
I completely agree and I'm going to take your plan in life to create many homes-I love it- hope you don't mind. I have personally lived in 6 different homes in different states, and I'm going to college next year so I can add that to my "home" list
iloveyou58121 1 month ago
Tell me which home to u is best, cuz here sucks, so im gonna move there
TheCraZedPeeps 1 month ago
As a traveler, home is where I am. Whether there is a bed or a floor or an airplane seat. Home is where I am able to function at that moment in time.
lajecel31 1 month ago
Ooooh! I'm excited to hear about Deism.
RinaProjektRev 1 month ago
For me my home is wherever I am completely comfortable. I moved around a lot when I was a kid so I never really felt like I had a 'home' but then as I got older I just realized it was wherever I was comfortable. Home to me is my school music wing, my house, my friends houses, my sisters car, and everywhere else that there are people I love. It's not really the place but the people for me. People is what makes a place a home.
KiKianaKi 1 month ago
I was thinking about this a lot a few months ago. I'm still a senior in high school, so currently living in my childhood "home" but during this past summer I lived at a camp a few hours away for 10 weeks, being a camp counselor. Every few weeks I came home for a day or two, and it really struck me each time that it felt a little less like "home". I think it had a lot to do with the fact that instead of telling me to put my stuff away, my mom would be all eager to make my favorite food... weird.
NightWhinnys 1 month ago
I'm 15, so I still live at 'home'. Something I find really interesting about the concept of home is tht some languages don't actually have a separate word for 'house' and 'home' (ie Spanish) but in English it is very important word...
Pawyaaa 1 month ago
For the longest time my local library was my home. I was there almost everyday for hours and hours. My mom once asked me if we moved what I would miss the most and I told her the library. It wasn't just the people that I had become friends with but also the books that I read. They became extensions of the library a piece I could bring home but one that would always take me back (If that makes any sense).
BluesVlog 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
That said I refer to "home" right now as my house in Oxford. I "went home" for Christmas...but I stayed at my parents' house. It's all very odd.
missrosepip 1 month ago
I think I know what you mean.
It's kind of like any place that's significant to me is like a home.
My old house is home. My house in San Antonio is home. My dorm room is home. All my relatives' houses and my friend's houses and schools are homes.
Even my car sort of is home.
It's just any place you spend a lot of time in/at, I guess. You get attached.
silentdreamer597 1 month ago
My siblings and I have all moved away from our parents' house and so my childhood home is becoming more of a memory than a physical place. When I was in Maryland last month and my siblings weren't there, it just wasn't home. It's always weird to have my sister leave family dinners to "go home" or to ask my brother if he's coming to dinner at "Mom and Dad's." I would say my "home" is in transition - Baltimore doesn't feel quite right anymore, England is still new but definitely becoming a home.
missrosepip 1 month ago
i call home the town i study in and live in at the moment, which is Cluj, Romania..but i was born in Satu Mare.strangely i never really considered the town i was born in my home..i actually thought of my grandparent's house( which is again in another completely different city) as my home because of all the happy childhood memories and the friends i had there..i still don't feel like i'm home though..for me it's a refuge, a place that you can identify with..so i guess i'm still searching.
raindropscallme 1 month ago
I consider home to be the places I feel most comfortable. My house is my home, but the town I grew up in isn't. (I HATED that town. Still do.) Now, I consider college (and my dorm) to be my home because I am just the happiest of happies here and I feel very comfortable here. I was in London last semester, but that never really felt like home to me. I think it might have become a home if I'd been there longer, but 1 term wasn't enough to make me feel totally comfortable with the city.
tallatstarbucks 1 month ago
"Home is where your heart is."
...When I was younger, I thought that the phrase was "Home is where the hat is."
I don't wear hats...
Pixiestix123321 1 month ago
I still class Cornwall, England as my home, even though I haven't lived there for 8 years. All my family are down there (excluding parents, and siblings) but whenever I go on holiday I refer to the timeshare/hotel as "home."
Hidefromthetimes 1 month ago
heh heh ... toaster.
JoeyFifty2 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I moved to Wales from England when I was 7 and I see my house in Wales as my 'home', but when I go to uni, I've only ever wanted to go back to England... just because it feels 'right'. I suppose that England is my kind of home.
MannequinToes 1 month ago
Do you enjoy/mind doing things alone in Boston? I've lived in the same house my whole life, and since I'm not in college yet, my home is my current one which houses my family and such. And I think home is wherever you're most comfortable-ATM it's definitely my house.
sambernste 1 month ago
I grew up from birth to age 7 in The West, then moved to where I currently live in the Midwest, having lived here for almost 10 years. All my friends live here, I go to school here, my room is here. But whenever I go back to Colorado, I still feel as though I'm going home, and when I leave, I also feel like I'm going home, but at the same time leaving it. I also lived on the East Coast for a year, and that never felt like home at all. So I understand your plight; its hard to quantify "home"
spazmtasticly 1 month ago
Home is wherever I'm happy.
TheWannabeagoodyoutu 1 month ago
These days, I call my college home. When I'm in the house that my immediate blood-related family lives in (that's another fluid concept - family), I usually have to edit my speech. I'll want to say, "I want to go back home," and I actually say, "I want to go back to college." For some reason, I feel like my family would be insulted if I didn't call the house home. Not sure if they actually would, though... :/
PolesitterPictures 1 month ago
This is a really interesting question. I think that "home" lives in a series of tensions. Home must be somewhere you feel included, but not smothered. Wanted, yet not pivotal. Happy, yet not in a contrived way. Challenged, but yet capable. A place that you want to be, but not exclusively. When we let "home" fall out of balance, it can seem like our entire lives are out of balance. We can let a "home" become so intertwined with our knowledge of self that we loose ourselves in a bad way.
bwink239 1 month ago
Take away lesson from this video: Kassie cries a lot.
If you don't wear pants in Boston, I'm sure you would make more friends. Though not necessarily the type you are seeking. Or maybe you are.
My home is where my wife is. We just bought an apartment building last year. We live on the 2nd floor and her mom lives on the 1st. This is my home.
tetsubo57 1 month ago
...vital part of our lives. Like last week I can't remember how many time I said "Oh my, I really don't want to be homeless next year". But really I would not be homeless because I have so many other real "homes" else where in the world. After all that rant I think I kind of come to the conclusion I can't really define it, its just is. :) (that took way to many characters lol)
scaredofvelvet 1 month ago
I just signed a lease for my first apartment it feels even less like home here because that place will be come my new home. There are also other places from my childhood (such as my grandparents house, or my brothers house) that I could also call home just as easly some times. The word is so vague, but so important I think that vagueness is what also it to be what it is to each person. It lets us stretch it out to mean so many place and things. It also it to became a ... (con't in next comment)
scaredofvelvet 1 month ago
No pants no problem, I agree. But yeah I really get what you are saying. When I go 'home', to the house were my parents live, it feels so good and its a place where I can relive those part of my life (ie childhood, and highschool friends) . But when I come back to school, which I also now refer to as 'home' I find my self happy to be a place where i can be a new person and my life continues to go forward (not back into those other parts of my life). And now that... (con't in next comment)
scaredofvelvet 1 month ago
"Home" for me is confusing. I was born in japan, grew up in Pennsylvania, the summer after my senior year of high school (last summer) my parents/family (i'm not sure if I should ever say "we moved" or "my parents moved") to Maryland, but I go to college in Pennsylvania. So I am always very confused when people ask me where I'm from.
However, I think "home" is wherever you feel the most comfortable and where you can be alone and not care? Or maybe wherever your legal permanent address is.
citygurl14 1 month ago
I wonder if the "toaster vs human" thing was also a reference to Battlestar Galactica :D
Brala42 1 month ago
when I moved away from home (I was still in the same town) It took me about a year to stop calling my parents place "home".
But as long as you like/know a place enough it could be your home. I think. :-)
anneliworld 1 month ago
Having lived in three different states, I can say that I have struggled with this issue for quiet some time. I completely agree that "home" has a fluid meaning, because I can easily call three different places "home". Of course they are all completely different places, but calling them all "home" does not mean that I prefer one over the other. Home is where you feel comfortable and accepted.
BriiianMcManus 1 month ago
To me, home is any place that offers a stable source of comfort from the rest of the world - usually due to other people who reside there too.
queenofredlions 1 month ago
I think home is place where you feel safe. Not only safe from physical harm but also safe from judgement, pressure, and the myriad other forces in the universe that try to erode our minds. For me "home" is a place I can return to, breath a sigh of relief, and let go of all the baggage I have to carry around on my shoulders all day. Of course sometimes you still have to deal with that baggage even while you are home but somehow it feels more surmountable.
teatime114 1 month ago
I have that sweatshirt. Crazy.
herrorindseyy 1 month ago
@herrorindseyy From Delia's like... 5 years ago?! Awesome. xD
kassiehp0593 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I think about this a lot!
I like referring to where I go to university (Liverpool, UK) as home because I was very "yay! change! different experience!" when I left my little rural village.
But I think a good life aim would be to have many places around the globe where I feel at home and have close friends. Being into travel and such, and wanting to meet as many different people as possible.
Because part of it is the feeling of belonging when you return.
johiley 1 month ago
You are so...philosophical.
februaryboy91 1 month ago
@februaryboy91 I like it. I just finished If Minds Had Toes by Lucy Eyre. :D
februaryboy91 1 month ago
I think you can have a lot of homes, and you can feel a new place is your new home even if you haven´t being there for a long time. I hated highschool, and I never felt confortable there, I don´t feel like home; but just a week after I started university, It felt like home. And also, I was a staff member in a camp, that was only for kids with parents that work in BBVA , and before that, I atended that camp for 7 years. I know it´s silly, but everytime I enter that cold bank, i feel like home :)
spacetimebomb 1 month ago
Having said that, home is where you find love. Cheesy but, y'know, true.
chrissyandkjabridged 1 month ago
Starbucks on every corner? PUHLEASE. This is New England, we drink Dunkin Donuts here.
chrissyandkjabridged 1 month ago
I like toast.
firefoxrainbow 1 month ago
Thank you! Whenever you meet someone, I hate when they ask "where are you from"? I've moved three times since I was born and most of my family has never even lived in the same state as me! So home is not really a place...I think home for me is more the people I'm with. So, say, if I'm with my best friend and we're on top of the Sears Tower, then dammit, home is the top of the Sears Tower!
allystandsforawesome 1 month ago 5
Even though I'm in college I still live with my parents in the suburban house I grew up in, so that's my home. I'm better at confusing people on what college I go to because I go to two colleges at the same time. Ones a community college like 13 minutes from my house and the others a state college in the city.
NessaR12 1 month ago
Regarding 'home': I still have dreams that take place at 'home', but it's the home I lived in 8 years ago, not the home I currently live in. So there's that funky tidbit of brain function
pkConda 1 month ago
I feel like, as soon as you leave your heart with someone or something, you have created a home. Therefore, as long as someone or something you love is somewhere other than where you are currently residing, many homes will always be had. Ya know?
parsamend 1 month ago
"I sound like an asshole"
Haha I think the same thing when I make a thought-inspired youtube video too.
pkConda 1 month ago
@pkConda that sentence I wrote just made absolutely no sense :)
see? asshole
pkConda 1 month ago
I'm glad you made this video; I've been thinking a lot about home lately. Up til I was 18, I lived with my parents, so that was home, end of story. Then I moved to another country for four months. That was most definitely not home. So I came back, and now it feels like I'm a temporary. It's still home but no longer concrete. In eight months I'll be going to university, so moving out again. Then who knows where I'll end up living. For me, home is no longer house, home is people I love. Yep.