Situation: Single Moms, Bastard Children Be Damned!

[mocha71082]

Even though I'm a single mother I do agree because I've gone thru it! But I will say this...WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER, YOU DO BETTER!! I wish I had a father like this man

[MsWildtiger]

I waited 38 years for the right man, got married then got pregnant. I totally agree with what you say. I am an atheist and my cousins are all christians but most of them are single moms. I am soooo glad I waited for the right time to have my child. I have no pity for people saddled with children that they hap-azardly brought into this world. At the end of the day it's all about respecting and nurturing your kids, life is about what you produce for your descendance.

[mrkjsmooth16]

oh the black children don't have fathers, but they really should be glad their MAMA didn't abort them. To the tune of 2000 per day. see how the focus is so misdirected to make women look like the victim. Tell me which is worse, the aborter or the non-provider?

[mrkjsmooth16]

dumb negroes what else is new?

[willkev25]

The truth hurts, but it's still the truth! Some folks would prefer to be lied to I suppose!

[xTheHampster]

Amen.

[totaly52]

I am so happy to hear this message, b/c this is exactyly the way i feel. 

[lakechaney]

My brother, you are the man. That is what we need. Hopefully women get a clue.

[llatimer2]

Spot on Mr Tmot. How you gonna invke the Lord's name if you fornicating in the first place?God forbade fornication, audltery, homosex, ect for a reason.

[demaification]

aman to that my brother

[brownboi34]

TMOT and others, please tell me if my thinking is screwed up. I feel that there shouldn't be child support at all, just make sure you don't come in the childs life when they are 16,17 years old talkin' about"I wanna have a relationship with my son/daughter" when the hard work is finished. Maybe if the female knew she wasn't getting a check maybe they would think twice before sex. This doesn't include married then divorce women. I hate to see these scallywags get $ with no wedding ring.

[62469]

you are right bra the cycle starts with the hoe open your ears not your legs

[LUVJONZ99]

I would like to see you do a video on the shows 16 & Pregnant and Teen Mom/Teen Mom2.

We know what you think about OOW births, but would like to see your opinion on the media presentation on these shows.

[LUVJONZ99]

Exactly, :validating their foolishness", applies to more than this topic and why America is such a mess today.

[tHickman95]

Personally, I think sex before marriage is no big deal, so long as it's a stable relationship.

I mean, when you live together, eat together, watch TV together, and sleep together, what's marriage other than a bit of paper with your names on it?

I think the problem is (mostly) the men that use the women, then leave them with their child. Maybe they aren't entirely evil people, maybe the idea of commitment just scares them, but either way, they should plan ahead.

[tmotofga]

@tHickman95

That piece of paper has meaning, much like the constitution. It say's, my wife is heir to all I own. She's not just a piece of pussy I can walk away from when I decide I want a new piece. It says, "I'm committed to the death." Leaving is not an option (how it used to be). That's just for starters. But hey, Do you Pal.

[Kindostix]

@tmotofga

I have been in a committed relationship with my "wife" for 4 years. I have known her for 15. I love her and our life together. My question to you is, Will we ever be an acceptable union to you since neither of us want to get the government involved in our relationship?

[tmotofga]

@Kindostix

Committed means you do whatever is required to care for your family. If you die, guess who has final say? Your blood relatives if your kids are juveniles, not your supposed committed partner. I've seen enough Negroes act a fool over the dead to make me make sure, as did my Father, that my family is protected legally. Lastly, it ain't about you. It's about your family. If your situation is such where it's not a problem, do you. Peace.

[Kindostix]

@tmotofga

Thanks for the quick, honest, & open minded answer. We too, shared your concerns on that matter. We just went a different route in protecting our family. We both have a will. Albeit enforced by law, these means allow us to protect our family with minimal government interference.

I've been enjoying your videos, you have a great perspective on things. Looking forward to future ones

[tmotofga]

@Kindostix

The bible teaches that marriage is honorable in all. You don't need the paper for commitment, you need paper to protect it when no other means are available to succeed you in death.

[llatimer2]

@Kindostix What about making a vow before God and Man?

[Kindostix]

@llatimer2

Well, I'm an anti-theist. As far as proclaiming our love in front of friends and family, I'd wouldn't oppose. We just feel there are more important things to focus on than a "feel good" ceremony.

[llatimer2]

@Kindostix Whether you an anti-theist (atheist?) or not its is statisticaly proven that " sahckn" without some kind of formalized bond leads to failure at a greater rate. Its not juat  "feel good". Even athesit states like China and the former USSR have a sense of morality

[Kindostix]

@llatimer2

An atheist is someone who is a non believer; while an anti-theist is someone who is in direct opposition of a "north Korean style" god. I have heard many atheist say they wish they could believe, I not only am content not believing but would be disgusted and fights against any such deity. With that being said, what evidence do you have that I have no "sense of morality" because I choose not to have a ceremony (secular or not).

[llatimer2]

@Kindostix Morality based on the authorty and teachings of...?Ceremony is only the physical dispaly of abstract beliefs

[Kindostix]

@llatimer2

Nether of us feel compelled to have a ceremony. Period. To us it's silly. I respect people's decision to do so, it however is not right for us.

I need not a "daddy style" deity into which I gain a moral compass. I have compassion in my heart for fellow man and an understanding that in order to be free I have to allow others to be free as well. That's really all one needs.

[llatimer2]

@Kindostix Everybody does thigs ceremonial and ritualiscally. When we grt to understand all, experience all, and know all our comapssess will be lll over the place. Unfortuantely your simple expectation of needs as "all we need" is not enough for the complexity of real Human society

[llatimer2]

@Kindostix If you have cohabitated for 4 years the governments IS involved.

[Kindostix]

@llatimer2

No it's not. We act as a sovereigns in our home. As far as the government is concerned we are two separate households. 

[slave2christjesus]

@tHickman95  Look here brah, calm down..stop emabarassing yourself.. whata disaster of a video. Please get some peace in your heart and get rid of all of that abortionist hate brah!!

[richradtylr4]

@tHickman95 If i didn't mean anything, why do you think Gay people want gay marriage so much?

[tHickman95]

@richradtylr4 Out of policy.

[llatimer2]

@tHickman95 Stupidiest comment I have heard in a while

[sccampbell24]

why does he have to make these videos in his car?

[87cadillachearse]

Thumbs up if you want to car pool with Tmot.

[TiVo2Go]

And my atheist rant was what I experience with people who are also Christian and fornicate more than me who does not believe in God. Sorry that came out wrong.

[TiVo2Go]

???

I wasn't directing at you. And maybe I didn't explain myself. I was commenting on the latter part of your vid about people who are fornicating but at the same time claiming Christian values.

[TiVo2Go]

Focus on the fact that I am an atheist. Oh yeah when I said my one I meant my one girlfriend.

Lol

[tmotofga]

@TiVo2Go

Why do I need to focus on anything you said? What the hell has your comment to do with m y video? I don't owe you jack. I could care less what you think of "So-Christians" (that includes me) as you put it. You're in the wrong house to be directing your hubris towards me pal. Have a good day.

[TiVo2Go]

So-called religious people, gotta laugh at their ignorance. When you call them out on their bs. They resort to the cop-out answer "I'm only human" or "god ain't through working on me". That is what they use to continue sinning.

Most females that gotta say i am a Christian woman are the worst dinners out there.

My ex claims Christianity while I am an atheist. Since our breakup she has had.at least 5 boyfriends(sex partners) compared to my one. But let's not focus on that lets focus on the fa

[pdxeddie1111]

sheep are pretty stupid and the devil knows that also

[bgrim2008]

Welfare, Section 8 Housing, Food Stamps; I'm not saying ALL people do but many use those "social programs" as a safety net for illegitimate and destructive behavior. Man women (and men) KNOW that they will be bailed out in case they have offspring out-of-wedlock and offspring they can't afford in the first place. It's OK to tramp. It's OK to be a (deadbeat) bum. The Gubmint will have your back regardless.

[lovangels55]

Why don't u sisters just wait until u find the right guy,get married have a house or home,a job, then when u have money saved up to have a child then go for it,that way u want be a burden on our government.

[snowcrash395]

@lovangels55 They don't wait or employ self-control because the consequences for bad behavior and poor judgment have been removed by the welfare state. Irresponsible women don't have to pay for they babies, they get free food, shelter, child care from their new daddy - The State. The State is now daddy to all it will pay up or strong arm a payer to pay up. Today's women can engage in any stupid, slutty behavior they want. The State has seduced them into becoming shameless sows.

[blackbette07]

I am a woman, TMOT, and you are right. We as women have the greater burden cause of our uterus and the court system. we have to be more circumspect

[stephenabm]

Again, you are correct with your thoughts and opinions on women having Illegitimate children. It is a problem and has been related to the moral and ethical breakdown in society.

[JoyceJeffersonTV]

GREAT VIDEO AS USUAL TMOT! I don't understand people sometimes. I am 25 and I get it. The women don't blame themselves for sleeping with these low life men. There should be more responsibility on their part. Contraception won't stop you from having a baby. When you have sex and you get pregnant, that's what is suppose to happen! Also - research the real reason why family courts were set up! It's a mess! Bottom line: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY - ESP! When it comes to sex! JUST DAMN!

[dispersingweight]

Real talk here. Glad i found ya

[italia9284]

TMOTT u need a TV show....u would be more popular than Doctor phil

[italia9284]

Women and men...if u dont want children just dont have sex...end of story!

when I was in school we were told to say no to drugs....they should have a program that teaches say no to sex!

In of world of contraception, condoms, pills, patches, iuds etc etc....why so many unwanted children? there should be none...it is foolishness.....if ur man is a drug dealer, has children he cant afford especially out of wedlock...dump him! and move on.....

[Tooyoungforwhat]

More videos please

[Tooyoungforwhat]

JUST DAMN!!!

[NikkiAlex76]

Well, I don't care what any1 says. Men & women bear = responsibility 4 what's wrong n our community. This "1st right of refusal" nonsense sounds like yet another excuse 4 black men to deny responsibility. If u don't want 2 pay 4 kids (whether u r a man or a women) then don't b constantly doin the thing that makes kids. & I don't like the term "bastard." My parents weren't married but I am STILL a legititmate human being. Any1 doesn't think so, u know what u can do & where u can go!

[italia9284]

@NikkiAlex76

But that is the real definition of a bastard...

Webster

Bastard- noun: a person born of parents not married to each other

[NikkiAlex76]

@italia9284 I understand the definition of the word bastard. I'm just saying it's a very ugly, very unnecessary, and very unfair label to put on a child who IS NOT AT FAULT for the circumstances of his/her birth. How does calling someone a "bastard" benefit anything or anyone? God's word teaches how we should live and we can be honest about sin. But how does calling children "bastard" help anyone? Will it save their soul?

[tmotofga]

@NikkiAlex76

Of it's ugly. It is supposed to discourage right minded people. The fact is, there is NO MORE SHAME in it and people like you try to "Politically Correct" it by burying the fact fact that it is UGGGGGLLLLYYYYY. A UGGGGGLLLLLYYYY TRUTH that must be exposed as UUUGGGGGLLLLLYYYY.

[NikkiAlex76]

@tmotofga Nobody's saying that fornication isn't wrong/shameful. But you don't have to despise innocent children in order 2 teach people that fornication is wrong. Sometimes I think people twist scripture to justify their insults because in their sinful hearts they LIKE to be cruel. And they convince themselves that God agrees with this behavior. But then what do you do with 2 Tim 4:2-5; 2 Tim 2:24-26 & Titus 3:1-8, which require meekness/gentleness in teaching/rebuking? Consider James 3:1, too!

[NikkiAlex76]

@tmotofga And you know what else? My parents may have made mistakes, but I myself am NEITHER UGLY OR SHAMEFUL. I'm HUMAN and have just as much value before God as any "legitimately" person. My mom is NOT a "tramp" and my father is NOT a bum! If you don't think so, then (as I said before) you know what you can do! And one more thing: if you knew anything about my calling and ministry you would never say that I believe in political correctness.

[tmotofga]

@NikkiAlex76

Let me give you something I rarely give those who "refuse" as in your case, to "get it".

If you were born out of wedlock, the legal classification is an illegitimate birth. Meaning, if you father passed, you would have no legal right to his estate without probate action. The common term for this type of birth is "Bastard". The term is meant to be ugly so as to encourage us to avoid it and rightfully so.

[tmotofga]

It is more of the state of things as opposed to lessening the value of the child. We all know the child is innocent, but it does not change it's circumstance.

Next, if you were born OOW and your parents RAISED you, GREAT. Your father is not a bum, your mother is not a tramp (That's Redemption). When I use those terms, they apply to men who make bastard kids and DON'T raise them and women who make bastard kids with them and continue to make multiple kids by different men.

[tmotofga]

It is said that you can't grasp these subtitles. I had a child OOW. I realized that if I did not care for her as my Father cared for me, I would be a bum. Her mother was a liar and a manipulator, but I chose her and I was a fool who ignored the wise counsel of my father and mother. To try and make amends, I cared for my eldest daughter, I legitimized her through the courts. Sadly, it still wasn't enough with my greatest efforts. Nothing replaces a father waking in the same home with his child.

[tmotofga]

Most men seek a pat on the back when they say, "I take care of my kids." That ain't nothing extra. You're supposed to do that. I speak hard on bums and tramps. Sure, we make mistakes, rather, bad choices. When you screw, expect a pregnancy. That's what sex does.

[tmotofga]

I am sorry you can't get it. It is what it is. I speak hard so as to get those out there that have not done what I have, to not do it. Those who have, to accept what they've done and spend the rest of their lives repentant of it. That is the only way for us to over this acceptance that bastard children are OKAY. They're not. If you have one, fix it. Marry the woman. If you can't, legitimize your child. Spend time. If you're a woman, make no more. Stop having sex til marriage. So on and so on.

[NikkiAlex76]

@tmotofga it's very condescending of you to say "I'm sorry you don't get it." I get what you're saying. You gave the definition of the word bastard, acknowledged it's demeaning connotations, but still insisted that it's the right way to come at people (so that they will be shamed into doing the right thing). I DO get it. I just don't agree. You have a daughter BOOW who you later "legitimized." Have you imagined how she might feel being called "bastard" because of her parent's mistakes?

[NikkiAlex76]

@tmotofga I agree that parents should raise their children in the home...believe me, it does serious damage to a daughter when she doesn't get to have her father there for her in the home.. But I won't think of myself as a "bastard." I'm a legitimate human being just like anyone else. Such a word is just flat-out unnecessary in my opinion because it doesn't help anything. It doesn't stop people from fornicating. All it does is hurt the people being labeled and make them feel less than others.

[NikkiAlex76]

@tmotofga You say this word was made ugly to discourage people from fornicating? Well, it's worked like a charm, wouldn't you say? LOLOL! God doesn't like MEAN, Mr. TMOT. And I noticed you didn't respond about the scriptures I showed you. Who gives a crap what I say? But do you care what God says? 1 Peter 3:15-17; 2 Timothy 2:22-24; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; 2 Timothy 4:2-5; Titus 3:1-3; Proverbs 15:1; Proverbs 20:3; Proverbs 15:18; Proverbs 17:19; Proverbs 18:1-2.

[tmotofga]

@NikkiAlex76

God is all about truth. The only reason it has not worked is because apologists make it okay. As far as God goes, Christ violently threw the money changers out of the Temple. Don't ever preach to me about being mean. Conversation is over. I did what I usually don't do. Typed out about 6 full comments to explain this. You still don't get and may never. Peace and be well. I won't be responding again, ever!

[NikkiAlex76]

@tmotofga Christ is God and the temple was His house, Mr. TMOT. You are not God. Thank you for taking the time to engage me. May the Lord bless and increase you.

[tmotofga]

@NikkiAlex76

...and this house is mine. Peace.

[MishuTaste]

Americans don't seem to want to get married anymore. 50% of marriages end. Like you said, women can decide NOT to spread their legs for a guy that's jobless and irresponsible if they wanted to.

[grumpyjamaican]

agreed brother tmot, the DUMBING DOWN  of americans today is at a unprecedented level ,great video my friend thanks for sharing.

[sjsdirectny]

Great video. I learned all this when I was thirteen years old in 1987. Why can't people who are older than me and younger than me get this? The way I feel about it, a woman has the right to choose- To choose not to have sex. And a man needs to keep his johnson in his pants. Unless you are married and planning to have a baby , you shouldn't be having unprotected sex. PERIOD.

[vaurnj39]

Google search PATERNITY FRAUD and you will learn how many MEN become classified as DEADBEAT dads. Remember GENTS, state child-support enforcement agencies receive MATCHING FUNDS from the federal govt, which incentivises state govts to PREVENT mandatory DNA testing at the birth of a child. Clearly, MANDATORY DNA testing would reduce paternity fraud and severely cripple child-support enforcement (especially, when a man is not the father of the little bastard).

[vaurnj39]

Unfortunately TMOTofGA,

as you already know many of your fellow priests FAIL to address this issue with reference to the responsibility of the woman regarding first right of REFUSAL. The church is the ideal setting to address this issue, but it is rarely done due to FEAR of the collection plate becoming very light if, the good REVEREND speaks the truth. Illigitimacy within the AA community can be significantly curtailed within 30 minutes if, the ladies review these gents credentials, BUT DONT.

[mantleofvalor]

Illegitimate children have illegitimate parents.

[MountainMonkSage]

Clearly, the Minister of TRUTH!! I wish he was wrong about all this mess in the world, but tragically, TMOT is 100% on the mark. I shudder at how dumbed-down the average person is. Just go to ANY news site and read of the STUPIIDTY! God help US!

[classyyoungman]

Are system is screwed,I know this will not happen,But if your a man with no kids,Don't have any kids or prepare yourself with the consequences of(not the kids)dealing with your pockets and everything you worked hard for in your life.Sucked away from you.My opinion is dont marry or get into relationships with women with kids.You don't have to MAN UP for a woman who can get the bio father to do his job.

[momoneyindabank4]

Way I see it many people blame unwanted children on the opposite sex when its just their fault to begin with. What really terrifies people from marriage is the fact marriage has you by the balls like businesses with their contracts. We can say hey make sure you pck the right one well kind of like this. Many brag about taking upstanding positions and doing right when clearly forced upon them, obligation but what if it was a choice ? You never know anyone until the storm comes. Wait then marry.

[classyyoungman]

Conti-I understand that some birth control causes problems.But the birth control methods for women have a higher percentage than the condom.I know that wormen haven't used all of the 11 forms to make the statement that,"They're all bad!"So if men need to take responsibility I think women need too.When it comes to sex.

[classyyoungman]

I agree with this video..The vote for"The right to choose"was for women.Women have the right to have an abortion,Adoption and a man has to ask for permission to see his child with that woman.But when we're on the subject responsibility,Men need to wear condoms and women need to use birth control.I don't why women don't want to use the 11 forms of birth control that are available to them.

[nukeman444]

TMOT! You blew a gasket on this video. You blew a gasket for me too since I share your sentiments. The real damage comes when bastards make more bastards.

[InfoOnly2U]

Nice Video at the end you sounded like.. Gerald Levert

[thisiscommentary]

Good video, Bad title.

[thisiscommentary]

And I'm no "moron", you knew it was a bad title. Are you just trying to get more views?

[thisiscommentary]

Haven't seen the video yet but you come up with the worst titles for your videos. I'm serious, do you want to be offensive? You are so high on your high horse! No child chooses his mom, and you don't know why mothers are single, its not always her fault. Save your offensive titles for individuals like Sam Hurd or Sandusky. Quit tearing down mothers, children and the black community. There are good things to focus on too you know.

[eejohnson1990]

@thisiscommentary He just telling the truth.

[courtmars1]

Thank you for posting this! I am a 35-year old black woman, a college professor who has been married for 5 years. I mentor a young girl through Big Brothers Big Sisters. Her mother is always coming at me about how hard it is to be a single mother (she has 3 kids and an incarcerated man) and then tells me that I have it easy. She stays wanting to, as you say, "validate that foolishness." I didn't want any part of single motherhood, and I made sure it didn't happen to me! Do better, ladies!

[eejohnson1990]

@courtmars1 Ain't that the truth. I'm 39 and I've made the decision years ago to not be a single mother. If I didn't have children by a certain age, it just wasn't going to happen. I thought that as I would get older, I would regret it, but I actually thank God for it.

[mersk100]

Good lesson. I do wonder if it is a "dumbing down" of america thing or more of the entitlement and profesional victim mentality that many poeople have. "Nothing is ever my fault, and the world (government) owns me something because of -insert gender/race/class/location/wha­tever_bs_some_politicain_with_­an_agenda_is_promoting_this_we­ek-" Individual responsibility, freedom, liberty, self awareness and self control are in short supply.

[MatlasX]

I wonder what Ron Paul (or any of the other candidates) position is on the 14th Amendment (Equal Protection Clause) and how it is being violated in family courts where the women are given all of the extra privileges and benefits that you pointed out in this video regarding custody, abortion/birth control, etc.

[TruthorDieEdify]

GOOD VIDEO. WHY WOULD YOU SLEEP WITH SOMEONE YOU CANT SEE YOURSELF BUILDING WITH. IF YOU WANT TEMPORARY PLEASURE, GET A MASSAGE.

[Rolo555]

Amen! Preach!

[tmdpictures]

I agree, I was telling someone this the other day..they give us women too much leeway..if we are not worthy of having children, we should not be allowed to keep our children..women mainly do this to get a check from the government smh

[tmdpictures]

Check out my new video about Dark SKin Girls..I wanna know what you think :)

[maxjosephwheeler]

TMOT, when do you think our free society will decide who is fit to be parents?

Will the feminist get together and decide who is qualified?

Will it be based on what is the best interest of the child?

Maybe nature will be the winner, and we will be destroyed by these animals called (humans)?

[Unknown1Mentality]

Here is another thing my generation do, they love the Bible verse "Let Him Who is Without Sin Cast the First Stone". They don't want you to point out their errors. I judge the content of your character. They don't want you to say anything to them that they're doing wrong so like you said they use God but at the same time they serve Satan by their actions. Feel very sorry for my generation as we are very lost.

[justnikki2011]

Talk about "Doin --Work" Love your channel!

[Eddyisgreat]

I detect a hint of anger in this video.

[Preecey22]

@Eddyisgreat

so what if he was angry, he is still right

[TheReapersSon]

"YA SHOULDN'T'VE STUCK YA JOHNSON IN HER!"

"JUST DAMN!"

We need a Tmot quote book up in here!

[shakira33]

@TheReapersSon Tmot drops knowledge everytime.

[TheReapersSon]

Thumbs up for people who actually watch the video after reading the title, instead of just commenting ignorantly.

[italia9284]

@TheReapersSon thanks man......thumbs up back at ya