I didn't realize what was happening to my until I began to research what I was doing wrong...........well thanks to people like you, I know realized that I was working in a hostile work enviroment created by a bully boss.
@1245chester What is so bad about it is that most bullying is so insidous that it is very hard to prove. Some bullies are so good at being able to conceal their "dark sides". I've found that the worse types of bullying are not the In-your-face screamers, but the ones who do their dirty work under the radar. My 2nd bully was like that--everyone else loved her and thought she was great. Only a few saw her true nature. Good luck with your situaton & don't let it destroy your confidence.
I get so pissed about bullying 'cause the 1st 2 times I went through it, I had no idea what bullying was and thought it was my fault they were doing this to me. I thought if I was only a better, more competent worker they wouldn't do this not realizing that I was those things and that is why I was targeted. It has destroyed 1 career and affected my confidence even to this day.
I've also witnessed co-workers who were bullied go to HR to only be labeled as whiners and trouble-makers. Nothing was ever done and to add insult to injury, they were subsequently retaliated against for making a complaint. I worked with a male bully on 1 job who always had a target going at any given time. It was only when company security caught him on video in the act of placing nails in a co-workers tires that he was fired and charged. This co-worker already had 1 accident as a result.
Bullying is horrible!!!! I've experienced it at 3 seperate jobs. I wish people would take this more seriously. HR, IMO, is only there to serve the company. I've gone to them and they always spout off the same BS dribble telling you to sit down and "try to talk things out rationally" and "learn to be a team-player." That is a load of crap 'cause the bullies motive is not about a simple personality conflict but a need to dominate and psychologically destroy their target. Forget the teamwork!!!!
If you quit, you forfeit your ability to receive unemployment benefits. Bully back. If they fire you over that, tell the unemployment center you believe you were wrongly terminated. Your former employer will buckle and you will receive benefits. It costs them more to have a lawsuit on their hands.
Today after years of verbal abuse I reported my boss to human services. I am not sure what is going to happen but I am glad to know that she may soon realize her words and actions go a lot further than she thinks. She, and no other boss for that matter, has the power to belittle and abuse employees. We are all human, we all care. Much love!
I work for a Texas state agency. My boss is a sadistic bully who makes my life a living hell. I am 58 and dread finding a new position. When I went to HR the manager suggested I sit up straight, look him in the eye and tell him I want to be a team player. I feel so isolated.
My boss was a piece of shit and he pissed me off enough to get me to quit on the spot. I never left a job like that before but I couldn't work for his dumbass. Good luck finding a replacement asshole. Not many people will be willing to work 10 hour days with no lunch or breaks while having to deal with him as an added bonus. Even when he said good morning to you it was more like he was saying Fck You, the way he said it made me want to punch him in the face.
@prepster845 i can totally relate....my boss is up then she's down she's nice when she's nice and meaner than you could imagine when she's not....i most definitely think she needs some meds and that she is bipolar...the worst part is i work in a church and her behavior is allowed or should i say ignored by the pastor.
The founding fathers wrote the constitution with the idea that majority will prevailed only in public for political affairs and that it was LIMITED BY INALIENABLE, INDIVIDUAL RIGHTS. Therefore, I do not believe that the majority should vote a mans LIFE, PROPERTY, OR FREEDOM AWAY FROM HIM. And therefore I do not believe that if the majority votes on an issue, it does not make it RIGHT.
Right now I am wondering if I should quit tomorrow. Everyone says I should stay until I find another job. But sometimes I wish something could happen to me in which I'd end up in the hospital and I wouldn't have to go in.
@nthomas32 Hi I am glad that I contacted you, have you found any resolve to this matter yet? Please get counseling for you are not the problem the bully is, but you will need help and assistance with this behavior. I know it is not easy to look for and find a new job, especially if you have accumulated time, money etc. in this job, but you will eventually have to make a decision, or they will make one for me. Please contact me with responce. God bless.
The best coping tactic I've come up with is to make getting enough sleep your first priority. I also walk fast for about 30 minutes a day before work and that gives me a runner's high for about 6 to 8 hours. It also makes me smarter and much more invincible emotionally. She's still a real pain in the A_ _ though, and I wish she'd just go away..
The psychological warfare gives me the creeps. The boss's sheer lack of logic impedes my work. Her latest tactic is denying me access to essential information.
We work with a Japanese company and she is new but she is the only Japanese person here in the U.S. office. She started sending e-mails to Japan cc'ing me - IN JAPANESE! The people in Japan are starting to see through her. They're e-mailing me now cc'ing her to ask me for information or thank me for my cooperative attitude.
I am going through this right now. I am at the point of walking out everytime she starts in on me about an email i sent out she didn't like or how she rolls her eyes at me when I answer her question.
you are not powerless. i told a bully(coward)boss to f off and looked him straight in his eyes and said "I won't be talked to like that". Chill.Bullies just lost the thing they worship($) over compassion for their fellow man.That thing is their precious money. DO not bail out s. market.
thank you for replying,now I feel like I'm not alone on this.I have the sense that in my case is a matter of racism,I'm the only latin in my area,as I said before I feel pretty good at what I do, but it dosn't matter to her(my boss)she always try to push me down and humillate me at any chance,and I feel most of the times insecure and powerless,I have a new coworker,he's African-american and I can see how the story is repeating on him,I feel bad for him,he's already having the same issues as me.
i have exactly the same problem at my work, and unfortunately it is affecting my health, I can't go to work evryday without feeling anxious and frustrted by the fact that I know that no matter how good i do my job, my boss will find the perfect excuse to target me,I do like my job actually, but now I don't know what to do i feel trapped.I need help and i don't know where to find it, any ideas?
I didn't realize what was happening to my until I began to research what I was doing wrong...........well thanks to people like you, I know realized that I was working in a hostile work enviroment created by a bully boss.
Eman436 9 months ago
My boss is giant turdy asshole and I wish that he'd fucking get ran over by huge truck!
youdonotknow1988 9 months ago
@1245chester What is so bad about it is that most bullying is so insidous that it is very hard to prove. Some bullies are so good at being able to conceal their "dark sides". I've found that the worse types of bullying are not the In-your-face screamers, but the ones who do their dirty work under the radar. My 2nd bully was like that--everyone else loved her and thought she was great. Only a few saw her true nature. Good luck with your situaton & don't let it destroy your confidence.
auntstacey123 10 months ago
I get so pissed about bullying 'cause the 1st 2 times I went through it, I had no idea what bullying was and thought it was my fault they were doing this to me. I thought if I was only a better, more competent worker they wouldn't do this not realizing that I was those things and that is why I was targeted. It has destroyed 1 career and affected my confidence even to this day.
auntstacey123 1 year ago
I've also witnessed co-workers who were bullied go to HR to only be labeled as whiners and trouble-makers. Nothing was ever done and to add insult to injury, they were subsequently retaliated against for making a complaint. I worked with a male bully on 1 job who always had a target going at any given time. It was only when company security caught him on video in the act of placing nails in a co-workers tires that he was fired and charged. This co-worker already had 1 accident as a result.
auntstacey123 1 year ago
Bullying is horrible!!!! I've experienced it at 3 seperate jobs. I wish people would take this more seriously. HR, IMO, is only there to serve the company. I've gone to them and they always spout off the same BS dribble telling you to sit down and "try to talk things out rationally" and "learn to be a team-player." That is a load of crap 'cause the bullies motive is not about a simple personality conflict but a need to dominate and psychologically destroy their target. Forget the teamwork!!!!
auntstacey123 1 year ago
If you quit, you forfeit your ability to receive unemployment benefits. Bully back. If they fire you over that, tell the unemployment center you believe you were wrongly terminated. Your former employer will buckle and you will receive benefits. It costs them more to have a lawsuit on their hands.
kucoru16 1 year ago
Today after years of verbal abuse I reported my boss to human services. I am not sure what is going to happen but I am glad to know that she may soon realize her words and actions go a lot further than she thinks. She, and no other boss for that matter, has the power to belittle and abuse employees. We are all human, we all care. Much love!
redpurpleorange 1 year ago
I work for a Texas state agency. My boss is a sadistic bully who makes my life a living hell. I am 58 and dread finding a new position. When I went to HR the manager suggested I sit up straight, look him in the eye and tell him I want to be a team player. I feel so isolated.
hanabbe 1 year ago
@hanabbe Typical spineless HR bullshit!!!
auntstacey123 1 year ago
Thank you so much! I need the validation!
I am working very hard to recover from my workplace bully.
AFFIRMATIONS1 1 year ago
My boss was a piece of shit and he pissed me off enough to get me to quit on the spot. I never left a job like that before but I couldn't work for his dumbass. Good luck finding a replacement asshole. Not many people will be willing to work 10 hour days with no lunch or breaks while having to deal with him as an added bonus. Even when he said good morning to you it was more like he was saying Fck You, the way he said it made me want to punch him in the face.
Bisquack 1 year ago
my boss bullies me =*( and then other times he is so high with me.... I think he is Bipolar
prepster845 2 years ago
@prepster845 i can totally relate....my boss is up then she's down she's nice when she's nice and meaner than you could imagine when she's not....i most definitely think she needs some meds and that she is bipolar...the worst part is i work in a church and her behavior is allowed or should i say ignored by the pastor.
bornblond9gb 1 year ago
The founding fathers wrote the constitution with the idea that majority will prevailed only in public for political affairs and that it was LIMITED BY INALIENABLE, INDIVIDUAL RIGHTS. Therefore, I do not believe that the majority should vote a mans LIFE, PROPERTY, OR FREEDOM AWAY FROM HIM. And therefore I do not believe that if the majority votes on an issue, it does not make it RIGHT.
evramos70 2 years ago
For more information about workplace bullying check out OvercomeBullying(dot)org
OvercomeBullying 2 years ago
Right now I am wondering if I should quit tomorrow. Everyone says I should stay until I find another job. But sometimes I wish something could happen to me in which I'd end up in the hospital and I wouldn't have to go in.
nthomas32 3 years ago
@nthomas32 Hi I am glad that I contacted you, have you found any resolve to this matter yet? Please get counseling for you are not the problem the bully is, but you will need help and assistance with this behavior. I know it is not easy to look for and find a new job, especially if you have accumulated time, money etc. in this job, but you will eventually have to make a decision, or they will make one for me. Please contact me with responce. God bless.
mygodisable2 1 year ago
The best coping tactic I've come up with is to make getting enough sleep your first priority. I also walk fast for about 30 minutes a day before work and that gives me a runner's high for about 6 to 8 hours. It also makes me smarter and much more invincible emotionally. She's still a real pain in the A_ _ though, and I wish she'd just go away..
LindaDooWop 3 years ago
The psychological warfare gives me the creeps. The boss's sheer lack of logic impedes my work. Her latest tactic is denying me access to essential information.
We work with a Japanese company and she is new but she is the only Japanese person here in the U.S. office. She started sending e-mails to Japan cc'ing me - IN JAPANESE! The people in Japan are starting to see through her. They're e-mailing me now cc'ing her to ask me for information or thank me for my cooperative attitude.
LindaDooWop 3 years ago
I am going through this right now. I am at the point of walking out everytime she starts in on me about an email i sent out she didn't like or how she rolls her eyes at me when I answer her question.
nthomas32 3 years ago
you are not powerless. i told a bully(coward)boss to f off and looked him straight in his eyes and said "I won't be talked to like that". Chill.Bullies just lost the thing they worship($) over compassion for their fellow man.That thing is their precious money. DO not bail out s. market.
lucinda2005 3 years ago
thank you for replying,now I feel like I'm not alone on this.I have the sense that in my case is a matter of racism,I'm the only latin in my area,as I said before I feel pretty good at what I do, but it dosn't matter to her(my boss)she always try to push me down and humillate me at any chance,and I feel most of the times insecure and powerless,I have a new coworker,he's African-american and I can see how the story is repeating on him,I feel bad for him,he's already having the same issues as me.
aptpupil77 3 years ago
i have exactly the same problem at my work, and unfortunately it is affecting my health, I can't go to work evryday without feeling anxious and frustrted by the fact that I know that no matter how good i do my job, my boss will find the perfect excuse to target me,I do like my job actually, but now I don't know what to do i feel trapped.I need help and i don't know where to find it, any ideas?
aptpupil77 3 years ago