What do you tell people?

[icognito01]

Are you that girl from The Guild series?

[Lillzbe]

you are so beautiful! just have to say

[FrigglesTheSapien]

um.. well the surgery is dangerous and doesn't often work. So you STILL need to make a total lifestyle change, even afterwards. Because a stomach can stretch, of course. But good luck to you. I hope it all goes well.

And if you wanted to keep this information private, it might not have been a good idea to tell the internet. The internet has a way of spreading secrets around.... :D

[pyronc]

I don't kow where your husband stands on all of it, but don't you think he could tell his mom nicely to back off on the subject?  It would be a loving and husbandly thing to do. Hope it works out.

You are looking great! Watching these videos and others has truly been inspirational. I am so ready to do this!

[pyronc]

I am not telling anyone except one friend. In my mind it is no one's decision or business but my own. I dont want to hear negative feedback. I figure, I'll tell everyone I'm on a medically supervised diet before the surgery(truth). If anyone asks me how much I've lost, I'll say 10-15 pounds...even a year from now when I've lost 100! My surgery won't be until before Xmas. I hope to recover over the holidays so no one will notice and I won't have to be out of work for 2 weeks.

[bratlee2u]

Good luck to you! I wish now I did not tell my mother in law. She is causing me so much grief right now it is not funny. I don't understand people sometimes.

[Lillzbe]

@pyronc lol, but.....you've just told everyone on youtube

[qmna]

Come on people! L fell sorry for you! You make me sad by doing bypass surgery((( Its so sad to see how you turn skinny after being fat and beautiful((( Hey! someone in the congress Please ban by pass surgery! Do not let people lose weight, save the real beauty of the world!!!

[hrzstarr]

Hi Bratlee- Just starting to watch your videos- Did you have the DS? I have mine schedules for Nov 3rd and I feel the same way about telling people. Only a few people know, plus my family and husband. I feel like it is no ones business but I am already lieing to some people I am close to.I am very busy with my kids school and will not be at certain events this year- I am lieing and saying I am going out of town but really I will be at home recouping. Thanks for the videos!

[bratlee2u]

I struggled with the lying, too. I told ppl I was going in to have my appendix and gall bladder removed. I was but that was not the whole truth. I think it is better to give as little information as possible. Why not say I am going to stay home and relax for two weeks? You WILL be home relaxing and recouping. I did have the DS. Where are you having your ds?

[mnsortiz]

Well I'm in the same situation, Who to tell or not to tell same as you I told close family members and co workers and wondered who they may tell and most of them did tell a person or two but you know what? What the hell let them all know if they ask I will tell them at least I did something to stop this rollercoster to hell that I have been on I need to do this for my health.  My lap band date is in 5 days whoo hoo. So you go girl and good luck to you.

Sheila

[KoolRosa99]

I am having the RNY Gastric Bypass Surgery on the 4/15/08. I have only told my famiy, friends, and co-workers. I have been very fortunate everyone is suportive. But, when people start to notice my weight loss I will simply tell them the same thing. I am watching my food intake. They don't need to know anymore. Although I am from a little town & everyone will know its not the truth. But let them talk it will give them something to do. They will never know the truth.

[slcinoz]

I'm on an emotional roller coaster too.I have been open about it with most at work and with friends. I know people are commenting because rumors have come back but I just don't care.What people think isn't a concern to me regarding this but I know it is to many.I do hear what you are saying though. I wouldn't announce cancer or yeast infection (LOL..cute) but I guess I've always been honest & open about my weight struggles so I'm pretty open with this.Their responses are across the board.

[bratlee2u]

It is funny - the closer I am to surgery, the more open I am. I guess it is KNOWING they can not talk me out of surgery now. I am excited. Good luck to you.

[meltingmamma]

Before sugery I only told people who I knew would 100% support me. After surgery when the weight melted off I told people, I was just so excited I cant help but tell. So far, no one (except my mother in law) has been negative. I'm so happy and positive about it that it dosn't give people a chance to be negative. I did what I needed to do and at the end of the day I'm very happy. If people do talk, they are just jealous of my wonderful wieght loss! Best Wishes!

[bratlee2u]

I think I will be the same way! Being preop, I have my own anxieties going on and I do not need people to feed those anxieties more with negative comments.

[meltingmamma]

You are right on with your thinking. Our minds can think some crazy things and we don't need anyone else putting negative thoughts in us.

[jazzed04]

Love the video and your honesty..You seem to be a very kind and sweet person. I have only told my family, and they are very supportive. I am Preop.

[nicoleweaver1122]

I go the Lap-Band one month ago. I personally will tell anyone about it! I want people to know and understand and try to break those misconceptions that people have about "taking the easy way out". By hiding it..it makes me personally feel that there is something to be ashamed of-but there isn't. This is something to celebrate! It's everyones own decision-but don't be afraid if you do decide to tell them! Good luck!

[bratlee2u]

Thank you for your reply, Nicole. I think I will feel more comfortable telling people once I have the procedure. Right now, I do not want to hear the horror stories. I am not ashamed of my choice. I am afraid of letting people down or feeling like people are waiting for me to fail. I guess it is normal but I worry that I will be the only person that will not lose weight with WLS. Weird, I know.

[EllieGant2008]

I have not told ANYONE..I mean, my hubby and sons know and that's it. I have a very negative family! My hubby and boys are my support and also this community is wonderful. My favorite is Nikki..3foldutopiandream... I love her to death. She has helped me soo much!

[3foldutopiandream]

aw sally! you're going to make me cry!

i wuvs you!

[bratlee2u]

I am glad you have your hubby, children and your online friends to support you during your journey. It is important to surround yourself with positive energy. I, too, love watching 3foldutopiandream.

[EllieGant2008]

Nikki is a sweetheart. If you have any questions, ask her!

[honeybee9695]

If there are people in your life who are not supportive- don't tell them - you don't need that negativity! When my mom had the surgery, she told people that she was having gall stones out (for the hospital stay), and when she started losing weight she told them weight watchers, if they asked. I mean, at the end of the day, it's none of their business. BTW, she only told her immediate family and i mean onlyme my grandmother and my uncle. Good luck, girl!

[bratlee2u]

Thank you!

[3foldutopiandream]

before surgery, i told my sister, parents in law, my boss, 2 friends at work, & 2 friends at school. those are the people that are closest to me right now and/or i see on a daily basis. the reason i didn't tell other people is because i didn't want to deal with the negativity. i was doing it for myself, it was stressful enough, and i didn't need to hear it.

now, i normally say i've been watching my diet and exercise. but, i'll tell a heavier person i had RNY because i want them to know.

[bratlee2u]

I think I will be the same way about wanting to tell everyone who is overweight about it. I can not wait to be a testimony like you. I love watching you and Amelia.